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Will I get a merit increase if I only do one good project a year?
/r/askMRP25/06/18 07:13 AM
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I'm slowly gaining. I can tell I'm gaining, not just from the scale but seeing more muscle. One person has mentioned they could see progress, in the pecs particularly. I agree I need to work on approaching and social game. I'm using Meetup as a crutch or cushion to putting myself out there with out really putting myself out there.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/18 11:29 PM
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Current stats: 44 6' 164.4 lbs 16.9 %BF Not Good Stuff I've slipped up and smoked some. I'm already back off them. I need to own my failure here though. Lifting/health: Stong Lifts 5 x 5 Squat 190x5x5 (10#) Bench 135x5x5 (+5#) Barbell Row 120x5x5 (+5#) DL 200x5X5 (+10) OHP 80x5x5 (-5#) Goal by May 1st : Squat 225 x5x5 Bench 175x5x5 Barbell Row 140x5x5 DL 250x1X5 OHP 110x5x5 Interesting week in the lifting department. I failed on squat for the first time @ 185 on the 5th rep of the 4th set. It wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/18 12:25 AM
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What you won't see here is guys giving you much sypathy or the answer you want to hear. Here's why. It sounds harsh, but it is not worth it. No, you and your snowflake aren't different. Twenty some years ago I met the one. She accepted me even though I was a bit wild. Fine ass young chick. True count 1 before me. I was smitten. Yet I was young and wild didn't want to commit. Actually moved away so I could keep on being wild. She followed, thought to myself well if she is following I must be ever…
/r/askMRP22/03/18 01:35 AM
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Current stats: 44 6' 162.9 lbs 16.2 %BF Lifting/health: Stong Lifts 5 x 5 Squat 180x5x5 (15#) Bench 130x5x5 (+5#) Barbell Row 115x5x5 (+5#) DL 190x5X5 (+20) OHP 85x5x5 (+5#) Original Goal by May 1st: Squat 235 x5x5 Bench 175x5x5 Barbell Row 140x5x5 DL 175x1X5 OHP 100x5x5 New Goal by May 1st (I think realistic): Squat 225 x5x5 Bench 175x5x5 Barbell Row 140x5x5 DL 250x1X5 OHP 110x5x5 (I think this may be the hardest one to hit.) I added curls as an accessory. Workouts have gone from 60 minutes to …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 11:28 AM
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Current stats: 44 6' 162.1 lbs 16.0 %BF Lifting/health: DL 170x5X5 (+10) Bench 125x5x5 (+10#) OHP 80x5x5 (+5#) Squat 165x5x5 (+15#)Barbell Row 110x5x5 (+10#) Continuing to video myself to keep my form in check. Weight/eating supplements used: multi Vitamin Fish oil: 3600 mg / 1080mg Omega 3 D3: 3000iu ZMA: 2500mg Creatine: 3-5 grams Mass Gainer: 1250 calories Macros AVG: Goal: 24% (197g) P 25% (225g) P 22% (80g) F 25% (100g) F 54% (437g) C 50% (450g) C Calories Daily Average: 3273 Goal: 3600 Wei…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 01:31 AM
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I wonder if you are in Utah, because Mormon mom's are almost on par with price in the Midwest, but I agree with the enthusiasm!
/r/askMRP09/03/18 02:28 AM
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Current stats: 44 6' 159.4 lbs 15.1 %BF Lifting/health: DL 160x3X5 (+10# I was only able to do 3 sets today) Bench 115x5x5 (+5#) broke through, probably from /u/wildnight98 advising me to try "Y" "T" "W" "L"s OHP 75x5x5 (+5#) Failed on the 4th set at 180. Squat 150x5x5 (+15#) Row 100x5x5 (+5#) I'm not sure if I was just tired/ low energy today but I couldnt do the 4th set on OHP or deadlifts. I knew eventually I wouldnt be able to 5X5 on the deadlifts. I was suprised at the overhead press though…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 04:24 AM
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Several people already mentioned looking it up on the internet. I totally agree with this. I was raised and taught by a mechanic, and used to know and be able to do a lot of mechanical, electrical, fabrication type stuff. I've switched fields and don't remember details I had learned and done. Often I do a quick refresh before I tackle something I haven't done in a while, or even tips for something I've never done. Not too long ago I didn't look up any tips and struggled removing an axle. Had I s…
/r/askMRP05/03/18 01:15 AM
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Health care cost will probably be what keeps me working at least part time as well. One idea I have, is teaching at a tech/skilled labor school. I've worked and have degrees in a couple skilled labor areas. I do have to come up with a few more solutions though.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 09:34 PM
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I think I'm actually gaining hair. Probably just a mental thing for me. I've been meaning to look into if an increase in testosterone can cause increased hair growth. I have read day bang and I will probably reread it because there is some good cold approach stuff in there. I know I have started the Dale Carnegie book but I've never finished it. Lately I struggle to get much reading in but I'll keep these in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/18 12:47 AM
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Current stats: 44 6' 160.7lbs 15.4 %BF Lifting/health: DL 140x5X5 (+10#) Bench 110x5x5 (+0#) OHP 70x5x5 (+5#) Squat 135x5x5 (+15#) Row 95x5x5 (+15#) Didn't make progress on the bench. I was able to bump up the OHP 5 lbs. I setup a camera and checked out my form, I could make some improvements on both my squats and bench press. I managed to find some links to some Mark Ripptoe's videos I saved in the past (I must figure out a way to organize the stuff I save here on reddit.) I'm still using my kn…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 12:13 AM
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I'm going along with everyone else, get the hormones checked first before getting on AD. From my experience (and mental medicines can affect everyone differently.) If the anxiety and panic attacks are bad I would probably take the AA as needed. Panic and anxiety attacks can be debilitating. At the same time numbing yourself on AA meds can be debilitating as well so take the lowest amount to get by. AD meds can be helpful. The problem with them, it generally takes up to 6 weeks for the full effec…
/r/askMRP24/02/18 05:29 PM
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Thanks, that ShouldeRok is pretty wild. I'd definitely have to make my own.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 01:49 AM
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Thanks for your suggestions. I can see the ytwl's being helpful. I already do face pulls, but I'll check out the pull-aparts and dislocates.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 01:41 AM
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Current stats: 44 6' 160.2 lbs. 15.8%BF Lifting/health: DL 130x5X5 (+20#) Bench 110x5x5 (+10#) Ohp 65x5x5 (+5#) Squat 120x5x5 (+20#) Row 80x5x5 (+10#) I failed on my 2nd set of 115 on the bench, first failure. I also couldnt do OHP the last workout beacause of a shoulder issue. I think I may be going back to far on cable crossovers. I've pretty much stuck to the exact excersizes each workout. I've read a little about muscle memory and changing up the routine. I'm going to look at some different …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 12:26 PM
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Shit I'm Owning in this post 44 y/o 159.3 lbs. 15% bf Lifting/health: DL 110x5X5 Bench 100x5x5 0hp 60x5x5 Squat 100x5x5 Row 70x5x5 Goal by: 5/1/2018 : DL 175x1x5 Bench 175x5x5 Ohp 100x5x5 Squat 235x5x5 Row 100x5x5 I'm doing better than I expected, but I'm still trying to be cautious with my back. If I find I'm easily achieving these I'll adjust. Weight/eating Original 157 lbs Current 159.3 lbs average Goal 175 lbs Work Still Sucks Reading Rereading the prerequisites: Nmmng - Did it again, got ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 03:32 AM
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Yeah doing SL 5x5 I forgot to add my goals Goal by: 5/1/2018: DL 175x1 bench 175x5 ohp 100x5 Squat 235x5 Row 100x5
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 04:55 PM
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Shit I'm Owning in this post Current stats: 44 6' 157lbs 15%BF Lifting/health: DL 90x5 bench 85x5 ohp 50x5 Squat 80x5 Row 65x5 Weight/eating No change here. I would say I gained two pounds, but I'll probably shit that out after my coffee. Work Still Sucks Reading Rereading the prerequisites Nmmng Smoking Last one on Sunday. Its been less then 2 days but feeling ok for now. Stocked up on mints, gum, and some nicotine lozenges to help. Hobbies/Friends/ social Did another Meetup hike. Socialized so…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 12:00 PM
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I agree the MAP will help me a lot, I actually still have my old categorized list. They will obviously need to be updated. I agree with the 5x5 as well. I jacked up my back before so I was thinking this other program would be good to avoid that. However, I also tried to jump the gun before and started off too heavy. Thank you for your input.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/18 06:30 PM
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Yeah while I thought I was being funny with the age, I see your point. I'll be lucky to look/live like I'm 44 while smoking.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/18 06:16 PM
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Shit I'm Owning in this post Resetting to 0 Current stats: 44y/o, 6' 1571bs. bf according to scale 15% Goal: 34y/o 6'1" 175 bf 12% I don't have high hopes for the age or hieght, but I'm gunning for the weight and bf %. Lifting/health: I really started slacking here. I decided to set up a home gym. Started 5/3/1 for size program - I like that it is not boring. I'm feeling it. DL 55 BP 80 OHP 45 SQ 65 Weight/eating Still logging my food on MyFitnessPal. Not quite hitting 3600 calories but close Wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 11:13 AM
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I didn't read all the other comments, but I think you are listening to what she says and not watching her actions. She says you never gave her tingles, but she is fucking and sucking you, even taking it in the ass. She is jealous of other women. I think she says stuff to try to make you feel devalued so you won't leave her. Don't listen to what she says.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/18 11:05 PM
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You are lucky you don't have kids together. However, there lies the problem; she is ready to have kids. With or without you. If you don't act soon you can be the following unwillingly: Father of the children,yet someone else provides. Provider of the the children, yet someone else is the father. Be father and provider. Get sniped fuck her like you want children and go on with your life. Hypergamy.
/r/askMRP07/12/17 06:13 AM
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Ugh I hate being honest to dude's but if it will help others...when I started this it was obviously to fix my relationship. I won't lie, part of me still wants that to work. However, I realized I need to make changes in myself. I've heard different things about body improvement for some one my size. When I found this place I was 5'11 and down to 145 lbs. I was stressed the fuck out, still smoking quit drinking. I started lifting and got on buproprion partially for depression, partially to quit s…
/r/askMRP13/10/17 03:48 AM
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Anxiety definitely. Used to be controlled by drinking, then I discovered drinking actually made it worse ( I didn't realize this until I tried to stop. After a couple days of not drinking and then having a drinking episode, anxiety would be through the roof the next day. Medicine has helped but I don't want to be dependent on them. I go through phases. Sadly the thing that has helped most... I've been a smoker the most of life. Found out I had a mild case of COPD. Doctor said lay off the Xanax a…
/r/askMRP13/10/17 02:49 AM
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< Perfect is the enemy of good. I also learned it is a sign of insecurity. I've seen a lot of post about codependency lately so I looked up characteristics of codependency. I matched slot of the examples. Maybe 50 %. When I talked to a therapist about it ( I am seeing a therapist because even if this relationship doesn't work out I would like the next one to. I am responsible, one way or another.) He said he actually saw more low self esteem than codependency. Although, he could see codependency…
/r/askMRP13/10/17 02:17 AM
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We are married, but living separate. I was a drunk captain when she moved out, so I wanted to try taking another shot at this while improving myself. I realize I may be rooting through the garbage, or maybe she is with me. But in setting a boundary there is a caveat. She will always choose those kids over you. Know this and the battle is half won. She must fear losing her king, not losing her doormat. I think this is what kills me, I know it to be true, and yet I get angry about it and relate an…
/r/askMRP03/10/17 12:18 AM
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I am married to her. Yes we live in separate houses and yes I read the rational male after I found the red pill. Hindsight is 20/20. However you are correct, I chose a single mom. Thank you for linking the articles.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 12:06 AM
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What if I don't pay all the mortgage and bills? Does that mean I have less of a say? What If we both make the rules?
/r/askMRP02/10/17 01:31 AM
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I know the times I cheated in relationships, it was because I was insecure. Had to validate to myself. I haven't cheated this time ( although close) because I need to show myself I don't need to.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/17 03:43 AM
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Lifting no change. Aiming to get back to 3 full body workout days instead of 2. Weight/Diet 6' 163 lbs 15% bf by scale. 12% by pictures. Goal is 175 10 % bf. I'm going to give creatine a try Work Getting settled in with the new position. Already started studying for certifications in this area. Hobbies/Friends/ social I haven't managed to spend anytime in this area. Scoping out some events on Meetup. Fixing Shit/House Maintenance Vehicle Maintenance project. It is sucking, found extra problems w…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 12:33 PM
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I found this post interesting as well. I've wondered why I'm never able to find anything on bi polar disorder here, but type borderline personality disorder in the search and you will see plenty of posts.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/17 04:10 AM
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Stop Outside Sexual Sources (FAP) I managed to lay off for about a month. She started working and being exhausted all the time. Tried to take it easy on her (Back off sexual expectations) because she truly was overwhelmed with work and I caved. Goal Lay off it again, focus my energy elsewhere. Find out what they like I did add a couple things here. but not nearly enough considering how long its been since my last post. Goal Try to discover at least 1 thing new that they like from her and her son…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 03:12 AM
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Shit I'm Owning in this post Lifting Still hitting the gym. I cut back two twice a week. I'm not recovering if I go 3 times week. Weight/eating I stopped logging my calorie intake, mostly because I eat the same stuff everyday so I know approximately what I'm taking in. I started using a different mass gainer, after getting to the 3500 calories a day, I finally started putting on some pounds. Its been a year since I started this I've gone from 145 to 165. My bf% has gone up around 3 percent. At t…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 02:59 AM
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I'm guessing she is upset that you 'told' her you were taking over the finances, she may feel threatened if she does well at keeping the finances in order and you are just taking them over because "you want to." Then, less likely but a possibility, she is hiding something with the finances. Maybe she is growing her cushion in case you bail, maybe she doesn't want you to know how much she spends at the nail salon. I'd probably lay off any other power grabs for awhile.
/r/askMRP11/05/17 01:09 PM
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Day 2, Did my 100. Facing those things I try not to face. I'm not an out going person socially. I was good at faking it while drinking. I'm not a good leader, I have little patience. It's worse when trying to lead adults. I still seek validation. I've improved since I found this place, but still have a long way to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 10:58 PM
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Late to comment but I started Day 1 on the 1st. Did the 100 push-ups. Made six goals and roadmaps to them. Started reading "Man's Search for Meaning." Following the rest of the rules.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/17 10:43 PM
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Working off of my last OYS Shit I’m wanting to own on my MAP (Yellows) Since I’ve knocked out some of those Reds, I want to focus more on my yellows. Find New places and friends. USE it or LOSE it. Decide what I want Recognize, and point out the double binds. Find out what they like Make More Money Shit I’m not owning on my MAP Stop Outside Sexual Sources (Fap) Looking at the legal end, of ending things- Because of our situation, there shouldn’t be much to worry about. However, I do have some qu…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 02:49 AM
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Hiking, motorcycles, I'm not much into sports. I'm going to give disc golf a shot. Thinking about stepping out of my comfort zone and trying some beginners dance classes.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/17 03:52 AM
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Shit Im Owning This week I’m going to do my format a little different, When I first found Reddit, and this Sub. I started reading the Sidebar and recommended materials. I read the MAP, and made a list of Reds, Yellows, and Greens. I haven’t included all of those in my OYS threads. I’ve mostly knocked out my reds: Stopped smoking Stopped ignoring broken Items/ incomplete projects/task, (Got that bedroom painted from my last OYS) I’ve stopped nagging and complaining about work to my wife, I used t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/17 07:55 PM
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4th OYS, last post is here! Shit I'm Owning Lifting Own it. Hit my benchmark of bp 1 x body weight. Drinking Still not drinking. Smoking I’ve quit smoking. Thanks to u/2gunsgetsome, u/PurpleVeteran, and all the others on here that have giving me shit for stalling on this. Reading Started reading How to win friends and influence people. Home Got the supplies to get a room painted. This has been on the list for nearly a year, and was always pushed aside for one reason or another. Got the room tape…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 12:30 PM
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Thank you for the idea on the face pulls. Makes sense to strengthen up the whole area. I'm going to add those to the work out, and a couple others. I know 2500, doesn't sound like much but some days it's difficult for me to get it down and eat clean. That's why I gave in, and started using shakes. Your right again. I don't need to wait till the New Year to quit. I'm going to bump that up to this Monday.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/16 02:59 PM
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3rd OYS, 2nd post is here! Shit I'm Owning in this post Lifting Still hitting the gym and making gains. I had to lay off for a couple weeks to heal from a vasectomy. I cut back to about 70% on the weights but am already back up to where I left off. I've hit one benchmark, squats 1x body weight, and getting very close to bp 1 x body weight. I'm a bit worried about some discomfort I'm getting in my shoulder. Its hard to explain the feeling, but maybe a bone spur. Starting to wonder if it could be …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 03:05 AM
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Sorry, you and your family are experiencing this. My daughter also suffers from anxiety. With them being teenagers it only makes it worse with all the social pressures. From your last edit it sounds like the situation is improving and you are handling it well. The only suggestion I can offer, is that if you find there is not any progress don't hesitate to find a new therapist/ counselor. We had to go through a couple before we found the right one and saw major improvements.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/16 03:17 AM
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I have used vaping in the past (it helped till I had alcohol in me, them wouldn't cut it,) but no that I'm not drinking I may do as you suggested and use it as a stepping stone. I do freeze rice already, but yes thanks for the suggestion on the ground turkey. I also just remembered about cottage cheese and peanut butter, I was snacking on that before bed in the beginning of my journey, Need to get back into the habit of that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/16 03:57 AM
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Thank you for linking the three scenarios. I need that read tonight.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 03:41 AM
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Thank you for mentioning the 3 scenarios. I came across them once before, but had forgotten about them. Im certainly 2.
/r/askMRP21/09/16 03:40 AM
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2nd OYS, first post is here! Shit I'm Owning in this post Lifting Still going. However, I have been sick since my last OYS post and have missed 3 days, its kicked my ass on the days I've gone. Thankfully, it seems like its finally going away. Weight/eating Still logging my food on MyFitnessPal. Met with the Nutritionist/ Health Coach, he suggested drinking protein shakes everyday (not just work out days.) I also set goals with him on trying a couple other breakfast foods. I primarily have been e…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/16 01:46 AM
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Technically, yes. There had been little communication till about 3 weeks ago. Now suddenly after she had a falling out with an ex, that she continued to latch onto, she wants to know what the future entails with "her husband, the man of her dreams."
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/16 03:41 PM
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Yeah I probably won't make you blush. It's more of insubordination than crazy. I think, hell I'm not even sure anymore. A little background she always wanted a farm. I didn't need a farm but always was interested in retiring on a property with a few acres. I have a residency requirement for my job. I told her that I could not move, but possibly closer to my retirement (10 years to go) we could get a place, I would stay in the city during the week, and go to the farm on the weekends. This was all…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/16 02:48 AM
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Brief Intro: My first post. Been lurking on here since early June under another handle. I found my way here while looking up information on divorce (only married 9 months at that time,) and "Is my wife crazy?" I'm undecided on "Is she crazy?" Regardless, I realized I was being a fuckup and decided to Act not Talk. I've always said actions speak louder than words. I need to live by that. Shit I'm Owning Lifting I started lifting in early July. I made a goal of lifting 4 days a week, and I have st…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/16 03:40 AM
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