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Field ReportBetterLivingThruRP/r/TheRedPill10/01/16 10:55 PM
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BetterLivingThruRP/r/askTRP08/01/16 05:09 PM
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There is less structure to things in adult life. You are responsible for yourself. That means people who make things happen stand out more. So make things happen and make sure you are seen as the leader or center of attention of these things. Doing it with a big warm smile and getting people want to work with you will make you stand out as a cool and popular guy.
/r/askTRP02/02/17 01:11 AM
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Cheers SinisterSwindler. Will do.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/16 09:57 PM
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Agreed. Agreed. Agreed. This is a big reason why I spend a time in this forum regularly. I will take what benefit I can from it.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/16 09:56 PM
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Agreed. Having a calm confidence in your capability is big for your frame as is being in control of yourself physically and emotionally. I had one confrontational moment not long ago that comes to mind where I was just coming back from a run and had been doing calesthenics for a while so I had built up some shoulder muscles. A couple of younger, larger guys were idling near my place and my route to my door was right through them. I kept my head up, maintained eye contact, the larger of the two g…
/r/TheRedPill13/01/16 09:54 PM
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Yep, I had only just read it the day before and it's great. I really needed these concepts and to realise about my needs. Better late than never I guess. I hadn't had much time to digest and integrate it before the date but I will be revisiting it soonish after I get through The Rational Male and the 48 Laws of Power.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/16 09:19 PM
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I hear you nsareadsmyemails. It's taken a long time but eventually it started to sink in that forward action is the remedy. Easier said than done but I find its true.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/16 09:16 PM
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Thanks juchanaut. I'm taking it as a learning experience. It's so much better having gone through this is a short period of time. Before I might have been getting emotionally invested over weeks or months with pure oneitis. Horrible. This was so much better. I believe good grooming and style is what counts when it comes to hair so I'm not getting worked up about it. I've never felt better about my body actually and I'm going to keep going. By Summer I hope to have a physique that I can take some…
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 11:00 PM
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Thanks for your comment Purecorrupt. There's between 100-150K people in the city I am in. I know lots of places would really only consider that a town as opposed to proper city. I know what you're saying and thought about moving a lot in the past but I knew I'd just have the same problems but amped up as I'd be an unfamiliar place where I knew no one and wouldn't have much hope of getting better. The future might be different now though as I am doing much better with a firmer handle on life and …
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 10:14 PM
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Cheers mountaintrp. While I'm not happy that it's thinning it's not been that big of an issue for me. I was proud of my full head of hair as I think I look much better with it but all hope is not lost yet and if the drugs don't do it I'm pretty sure I can pull off the tight buzz cut well enough and I'm doing all the other things you listed plus I will make it my business to get a tan this year. Good grooming is more important than what is there to be groomed imo.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 10:00 PM
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Cheers Awesomedrifter. I'll keep at it. I hope I can get to that stage, make a better contribution and maybe even pay it forward if I can.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 09:52 PM
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Yeah. I gotta make this happen. God-damn I have to get over myself and stop thinking and just make it happen. I've thought I should just give myself a rule to recognise opportunites and just pull the trigger regardless of the outcome Outcome indifference I guess but I've been weak and chickened out. After my councelling session I was much more openly pissed off about having to force the issue of my sexuality and my needs. It felt good to speak about it openly. I usually get groceries afterwards …
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 09:50 PM
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This is the model my counsellor uses the most in our sessions. I've had success with it, to a greater or lesser extent, in other aspects of my life. It's certainly better than not doing anything so I will continue but I'm also trying other things too that sound a bit like CBT techniques. Basically I'm trying to get out of my comfort zone and trying to do the thing that scares me a bit at a time. That's mostly what this date was actually. Seeing how far I could take it. And now too taking part in…
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 09:38 PM
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I see what you mean about the confronting piece. I haven't been good with handling conflict (nice guy placating behaviours) but I am working on developing better boundaries. I've been amogged more times than I want to admit to in my time. Between that and the feeling from rejection I had no frame and I got to the stage where I just started avoiding it where possible. This is part of the reason I have prefered situations where either the group is one I know and can feel relaxed around or I try to…
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 09:20 PM
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Thanks monetmanet. This advice feels solid. But your report doesn't really exude confidence and I can imagine that the girl may have felt the awkwardness a bit. This is how it has gone for me up to now but having read No More Mr. Nice Guy I've come to realise I have a big ball of guilt and shame around sexuality and I choke everytime when it comes to pulling the trigger. I forced the subject with my counsellor earlier this evening. While she said before that she thinks men and women are differen…
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 09:13 PM
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Can you give any kind of examples or suggestions of what kind of thing to whisper? I know it will depend on the circumstances and myself a lot but I wonder if there are some ones that are clear enough without being offensive. e.g. Smile if you want to have some fun together later. I also witnessed, then read about a somewhat subtle introduction move before. When making your introduction and shaking a woman's hand, lock eye contact and hold on to her hand for a while longer than 'normal' and givi…
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 08:55 PM
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Thanks for your response RedPillDad. I must use the whisper with the hug. That's a great idea. I thought the hand rejection might have been as you said but it happened so often that I reckon it was an IOD. I got the multi-venue experience suggestion from my advice request and I like that idea too. I agree about the ending. I need to have this ready to roll off no matter which way it goes so I am not in doubt.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 08:53 AM
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Hi GrandmasterHurricane, Thanks for your response. I know this was overly long. This was part Field Report, part bio/introduction. I felt the need to get some feedback with context factored in as I'm probably a bit older than the majority of RedPillers and it's a slightly different culture/options where I am. It's also kind of theraputic to get it all out there as pretty much all of my friends are scattered across the world and settled down now. I'll be shorter in future not needing to give my f…
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 08:47 AM
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Thanks massimoliani, I spent a chunk of last night trying to make put some shape to it and getting some formatting on it. I will try out the hairloss prevention drugs and see how that goes or buzz it.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 08:41 AM
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Thanks Awesomedrifter. I will see if the drugs help and if not I will buzz it. I am not skinny and have been getting in better shape so having options really helps in not getting too hung up about it.
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 08:39 AM
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Thanks for your response monetmanet. By kook do you mean I made a fool of myself? It was the best I could come up with and my handling could have been much better but I probably did make a bit of a fool of myself. I am disappointed but I know intellectually that I shouldn't beat myself up about it as I know going in it's about progress, not perfection. I agree about her keeness. I wasn't feeling enthusiastic about things at the end and I'm not sure if I should or want to bother chasing her up wi…
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 08:37 AM
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Thanks bleh321. My goal is to make what progress I can and keep pushing my comfort zone. I want to do these activities myself anyway and if I do them with a variety of women of take one to a few then all the better. If I could get to the stage of having plates I think that would be best. I am very aware that I could end up being a sucker and going overboard with the next woman that accepts my advances (scarcity). Ultimately I would like to raise children of my own some day but I need to do a lot…
/r/TheRedPill11/01/16 08:28 AM
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Hey alveoli1, I did like you said and wrote up a field report about it. It didn't change my life but I learned something from trying to get the kino going and having better options planned in advance. Thanks for your comment.
/r/askTRP11/01/16 12:22 AM
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Thanks for the encouragement GunnarX. I appreciate it.
/r/TheRedPill10/01/16 11:58 PM
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Honestly I have so many hang ups that I don't really expect to get very far with women and that's been the way of it so far. I wasn't worried about upsetting anyone becasue I am so 'nice'. I've been taking steps to get out of my shell though and I'm trying to use these experiences to grow and learn from but I hear what you're saying. I have scoped out a bunch of activities in my area (dancing, yoga, kayaking, martial arts, hiking, etc) that I will try out to expand my social and dating potential…
/r/TheRedPill10/01/16 11:57 PM
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I will plan this out a bit better and get some options. I focused a lot on making my place comfortable but I need to be out hustling to get anyone back there. I also want to do and share these activities for fun myself so win-win. Thanks for your advice.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 09:59 AM
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Thanks. I sent the time and location and what to bring. Not sure how I'll get her back to my place but I guess I'll try and feel it out on the day. Progress, not perfection.
/r/askTRP09/01/16 09:59 AM
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