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Yeah, they did have to put in effort. Let’s not kid ourselves, in order to have sex with someone you have to be vulnerable with them in a way you’ve never been before. Even the act of sex itself is an incredibly vulnerable position that’s rife with risk. If you’re not willing to make yourself and your intentions known to women you like, they won’t know you. It’s as simple as that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:06 PM
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If you keep using others as your measure of success, you will feel inadequate for the rest of your life because you won’t ever be someone besides yourself. Yeah, he has advantages that you don’t. But what do you do better than he does? Is your entire definition of success based on your sexual marketplace value? It might be easier for him with women, but that isn’t the whole picture. When success is handed to people like that, they have a tendency to expect success wherever they go and avoid doin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:04 PM
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I was considering dropping this thread, but I think you really do need to hear this There must be loyal, monogamous people like us out there, right? This sounds like a belief that is limiting your ability to connect with people greatly. I can tell you’ve had some especially painful experiences with love early on in your life and I’m sorry for that. You deserved better than that. For me, my dad was the only thing keeping my mother from abusing me and my sisters. That changed after his transplant …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 02:17 AM
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messaging 80 times per day Is arguably anxiously attached behavior. It’s not normal for either gender. To put it into perspective, my issue right now is I personally struggle to text women I like more than once a week. And it’s not like I have options lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 08:17 PM
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That first paragraph is almost the exact definition of avoidant behavior to cover up fear of vulnerability and you spun it as a positive. Vulnerability is a requirement for a good relationship I realized in writing my first response that I’m projecting a lot of hurt I felt in a past relationship onto this conversation so that’s really all I have
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 06:27 PM
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It sounds to me like we have the exact same issue with avoidance masking fear of vulnerability 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:02 PM
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What’s your ideal strategy for showing your limitations? I’ve tried it a few different ways and it seems I’m either sharing way too much too soon or not sharing enough. Haven’t found the in between yet Same for capabilities but to a lesser degree. It’s easier to demonstrate those through actions and my presentation, but even still it’s hard to not feel like I’m bragging if I’m using my words (which is sometimes necessary). This is good advice, but I think there’s a missing part of awareness of w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 02:11 PM
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It’s not pointless. The point is that you’re developing the skill of cold approach and opening yourself up to the possibility of success. You don’t have to hate yourself to try something you’ll likely fail at, you just have to believe you’ll forgive yourself for your mistakes
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 01:19 PM
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So at least you’re now aware your obstacle to approaching is fear and not imperfection. You can get braver, but you can’t be perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 01:10 PM
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The fear never goes away, you just start getting braver in the face of it Social intelligence is acquired through socializing and observing how socially adept people operate. There is no shortcut to victory there, you’ve really just gotta train yourself by doing it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 12:27 PM
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Then be creepy for a bit and listen to a no. It’s not a crime, after all
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 11:53 AM
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Does the potential for rejection need to be at 0 for you to consider approaching? Just because they aren’t 100% open doesn’t mean you shouldn’t shoot your shot
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 11:51 AM
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Certain men definitely can sit back and wait to be approached, this is true. I’d argue it’s only an effective strategy if you’re famous or a 9 or 10 in natural attractiveness. He is neither of these things and his body language is pretty terrible so the women who do find him attractive aren’t so sure they’d get a good response from him. Waiting is an option, it’s just not one that’s going to net results in the next decade without making changes. There are many things that go into that, a few of …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 06:28 PM
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That’s the thing, good things have happened to him he just hasn’t let them or put himself in a position to actually receive them. Also… he hasn’t earned it. Female sexuality is desire based, so earning it literally means going out and expressing that desire. Without a hint of exaggeration, he hasn’t done that once in his life. Even when the waters are warm
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 09:57 AM
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Just World Fallacy strikes again. You should stop doing that. No idea how that’s just world. I’m saying “how you see yourself and react to your circumstances has an impact on how you handle failure” and that you can change how you view yourself and react. The reason it was worded that way is because I was stepping into your frame for a moment and using your wording. In my view, there are no good and bad people, just some gross mixture of the two determined by values. So pick some better values m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 09:06 PM
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This mindset doesn't just arise from nowhere. Usually it arises from repeated failures while seeing people who appear to be worse than you in every way fail upwards. People who are worse than you in every way fail upward because they have a positive view of themselves. Chances are, they probably fail a lot more than you do because their failure doesn’t define who they are as much as their willingness to keep going. Not perfectionism. They know that who they are is not good enough, and they do no…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 07:18 PM
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Where the hell did I say it was applicable to all men? I even implied in my first paragraph that it’s not all men or even close to all men. It’s a subset of men that hold such deeply negative beliefs about themselves that they see perfectionism as the only way out. So then perfection becomes a prerequisite to interacting with the world, which is impossible to achieve and especially so when you hold very few positive beliefs about yourself. And thus, he is frozen at the starting line. Like I’d gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 06:38 PM
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There is a very large number of bitter men on this forum who have given up and have no interest in anything other than whining I’ve both been this person and met a lot of these men, and oh my fucking god it’s straight up infuriating. They absolutely refuse to be honest with themselves and admit they have near complete control over their loneliness both in the short term and long term. I have a few of these men in my life and some of the conversations I have with them make me want to punch a fuck…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:35 PM
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What??? Your self fulfilling prophecy got fulfilled??? What the fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:10 PM
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No doubts. I’m working on becoming more secure and I’m not there yet. But I’m miles ahead of myself from a year ago and continents ahead of myself from 2 years ago. I’ll get there one day 🤞 Just to be clear, they didn’t make fun of me. I genuinely enjoy teasing and I’m really good at it since the majority of my friends are male. I only really ever discard people who talk about me behind my back and conspire against me. There are only a few behaviors I will never, ever put up with in anybody and …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 01:19 AM
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I’m not sure how I can prove this without compromising my identity Feel free to not believe me 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 07:17 PM
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Maybe if your view of an attractive man is tied to being perfect all of the time, sure. But that’s not who I am, I have serious vulnerability issues with women and I’ve struggled to keep stable relationships my entire life. To clarify, I converted on none of them. I enjoyed the conversation for what it was and moved on. I actually beat myself up for not making a move after the fact to be honest. 2 years ago ago, before I started working out again and taking care of myself, I got zero female atte…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:55 PM
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Alright, I’ll add onto this with personal anecdote. I’ve been approached by 3 women this year. First was someone I knew before a decade ago and she hit on me pretty hard. Second was a girl who asked for directions around the place I live who practically eye fucked me the entire convo. Third was a girl from my salsa class who was making it clear she’s into me before then with body language and social signaling. In the past, I most commonly got it through the grapevine. Like, “she told me she thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:20 PM
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I can tell your own view of yourself is fragile just based on your arguments. Not even just your masculinity When man does have masculinity, said masculinity is status which is vauable. And masculinity is easy to lose, because as quote says... "If a man builds a thousand bridges and sucks one dick, they don't call him a bridge-builder... they call him a cocksucker." You can spend decades building up a status, and one fuckup is enough to destroy that status. The circumstances under which this is …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 03:38 PM
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I have experienced exactly this, holy shit. So to put it into perspective, I’ve had some pretty terrible relationships with women all of my life. I’m honestly sexually repressed as hell and really trying to break out of that. My biggest issue is I just don’t talk to chicks I find attractive, when I have no problem flirting with everyone else. So I joined a salsa class. There’s been this one girl there who has given it away that she wants me without saying it outright. I thought she was hot too, …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 01:40 PM
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