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Death grip. Takes ages to finish and will either finish himself off or jackhammer. You're "boring" for not wanting anal or facials or to be degraded. Non-sexual touch like a cuddle or back rub becomes sexual. He expects you to get on your knees and give him a blowjob at the mere sight of his dick and be turned on by it. Sex is like a performance to him. Takes his phone/tablet to the toilet with him and takes aaaaaagges in there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 11:25 PM
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LVM/NVM are miserable and want everyone around them to be just as miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 09:08 AM
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Between October 2020 and November 2021 I was single. I deliberately took a year off men and dating and I thoroughly enjoyed it. I've known my SO since 2018, we are in the same acting group. Last autumn we were cast in a play as the 2 main characters who were kids and best friends. I started to develop feelings for him but kept it to myself as I thought it was a phase or just "period horny". In the run up to the show he would come to mine to learn lines and we would get on so well. The night afte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 12:20 PM
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Years ago in my OLD days I had a guy message me who had written in his profile that he was unemployed. I told him I wanted a man with a job. He called me shallow 🤷🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 09:24 AM
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The amount of comments I've seen on social media saying that Jada is pulling the strings and how she is toxic and abusive. Comments such as "Jada should be defending him" and "Will is a broken man". As if he doesn't have the money to access the best doctors and therapists. But no, it's all Jada's fault of course!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 09:55 PM
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Love this. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months and I didn't know such a peace and contentment existed in relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 01:25 PM
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It never works out. I know someone whose husband became the stay at home dad. He didn't realise that being a house husband meant taking care of the HOUSE too. She once had to badger him to get out of bed and get their youngest up and take him to school. He wouldn't. She had to go to work so she called her mum. As soon as mum turned up it was "why did you do that? I was going to take him." You just can't win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 01:20 PM
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Guys will go straight to pushing your legs up as close to your shoulders and just jackhammering. And then asking if that feels good. No, it hurts! Also, if you push any harder on my stomach I'm going to fart! They seem to think that we can bend into any position without any sort of warm up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 08:49 AM
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I know someone who has been with her boyfriend for 9 years. They finally got engaged in 2018 but still no signs of a wedding. I genuinely think he doesn't want to get married and I feel so bad for her when she talks of dresses and venues. If he wanted to propose he would have done it sooner, right? If he wanted to get married they'd be married or nearly married by now, right? But there's no telling her. She then talks about my own boyfriend and how he's so in love with me he'll propose by Christ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 08:49 AM
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Don't date depressed men who aren't doing anything about it. They will bring you down. I have spoken about this guy on here multiple times. Very depressed/suicidal and would weaponise that against me to make me feel sorry for him or get my attention. He was aware of his mental health but refused to do anything about it. Like straight up said no when I asked him if he ever thought he should do something. I think he expected me to wave some magic wand and sprinkle him with my positive feminine ene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 08:01 AM
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I can't remember what sub I was browsing but someone commented on a post, in kindness, that the OP should visit this sub. I checked it out and BAM! Women who thought the same way I did. Especially when it came to porn and degrading sex acts. Suddenly I wasn't boring or a prude, I was just a sad little pickme who deserved better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 12:11 PM
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I was the rebound girl. Even when he would discard me and go back to her, he would eventually come back to me and pre-FDS me thought that was good. At least I pretended it was good. It became a cycle. They would break up/she would kick him out He'd decide to unblock me and start talking to me. He'd mention how "abusive" she was to him. He'd weed his way back into my life because I had no boundaries or self-esteem back then. We would be "good" for about 5 weeks Then she'd either message him or he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:44 AM
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Pathological liar and would get angry at me when I called him out on his lies. Definitely victim mentality. Used to say how abusive his ex was, both physically and mentally, but would regularly drop me to go back to her. It was like he thrived off the arguments and drama because he wanted to be the victim soooooo bad. Completely unable to see things from others' perspective/put himself in others' shoes. He seemed to think his actions had no consequences. Regularly threatening suicide when he kne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:27 AM
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The whole neck of his guitar broke. That takes a lot of force. This guy broke his guitar and then took it out on his gf 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 11:43 PM
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I had one of those friends a few years ago. If we went out together and a guy started chatting to me (not even flirting, just chatting) she would say or do something to make the guy pay attention to her instead. A couple of times we have been out and I have bumped into someone I had been texting/dating and she would say stupid things to him like "I can sit on your lap and we can talk about the first thing that pops up" and "I have no gag reflex." She would put me down in front of people, trying …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 01:00 PM
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I used to hate blocking because I didn't want to come across as a "bitch". Now I've blocked all my exes and all their shitty enabler friends. By not blocking, you are giving them access to you. They think they can still message you whenever they want and steal your time and attention. Surely the majority of us have had that notification pop up, sighed, and thought "why is he still messaging me? What does he want now?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 07:45 AM
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"So you're not talking to me now?" This was on whatsapp where he could see when I was last online and could see that I hadn't read his last message yet. This was back when I thought I had to be friends with exes. Don't do it. Even though they don't want to be with you they still feel entitled to your time and attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 07:55 AM
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I had an ex who would call me "his little weirdo". He said it so often I eventually hit back with "you say that like it's a bad thing?" And he never had a response because it was a bad thing (to him). To be fair I've been called weird for the stupidest of reasons. Such as wearing sequinned shoes or using a Hello Kitty shopping bag to do shopping or spending time with my Mum (?)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 12:53 PM
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He did it again 🤦🏼‍♀️🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 08:12 AM
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Had an ex like this. Got sulky because his team were playing on the TV on the same day I was doing a play. He was annoyed because he had to leave the pub early to watch me perform. He turned up in his football shirt and then after told me to go home instead of stay at his because he was "too tired".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 07:22 AM
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I was actually told to "stay out of his business" when I found out he had slept with another woman behind my back only days earlier. When I found out he was begging an ex to take him back? "Stay out of my business". He would drag me into and involve me in every single drama in his life and then tell me to stay out of it once I spoke up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:24 AM
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I had that too with an ex. It was like "look at this, what are YOU going to do about it" even if I was totally not in the mood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 07:20 AM
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I used to get this in my OLD days. I also have a unique name. I'd get guys send me a message on the apps and then when I didn't reply they'd message me on Facebook like that was going to change my mind or something 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 06:55 AM
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Has anyone watched the documentary "Tina"? In it she describes how he would drag her by the hair to another room, close the door and beat her. He was jealous and insecure of the attention she would get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 07:28 AM
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It goes to show that you weren't the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 07:36 AM
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If you don't like him, you don't have to give him a chance just because your friends think he is a nice guy. Porn has completely warped the way boys and men see women and girls. As teenagers they are expected to be virgins with absolutely no experience but also do every single degrading act going and enjoy/like it. But God forbid they actually have sex because then they're "easy". That much older guy isn't in to you because he thinks you're better or more mature than girls your age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 07:40 AM
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Your body is great at warning you when someone is bad for you, listen closely to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 06:18 AM
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I used to do burlesque and the amount of "do you do private shows?" messages I would get on OLD 🙄. I've thrown all my outfits out now and a pickme friend was shocked and asked what if I wanted to keep them for a man? I wasn't doing burlesque for male attention. I was doing it because I like to be on stage and it was keeping me fit. I was single the entire time because, surprise surprise, men don't like it that you flash your boobs on stage for other men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 08:21 AM
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I've had bad experiences with blowjobs so I don't like to give them. I've always felt it was something I HAD to do rather than wanted to do. If I met someone who I REALLY wanted to give a blowjob to then I'd do it but there's no way he's finishing in my mouth 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 04:45 PM
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We've been conditioned to "give them a chance". Because he might be such a NiCe GuY that our feelings for him will grow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 04:51 PM
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And refuse handcuffs 🙄 As if someone intent on doing what he did is going to be like "oh okay, sorry."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 10:41 AM
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Ugh yes! I hate the whole "do you spit or swallow?" Like those are the only two options and you HAVE to pick one and it HAS to be swallow if you want to be a good sexual partner 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:49 AM
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Right? Not only with the dating side of things but its helped me recognise and deal with the internal misogyny and all the social/thought conditioning I've had since I was a teen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 12:30 PM
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Funny this topic popped up. Today's it's been a year since I called the police on my suicidal ex. He was angry that I had found out about his cheating and was angry that his ex before me wouldn't take him back. He was angry at me because she messaged me with screenshots of his sad begging. He kept taking everything out on me. Everything was my fault but couldn't give me a specific explanation as to why. He kept blaming me saying I had blood on my hands. He told me where he was and what he was pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:34 AM
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I took a break from dating, its been a year now and those close to me have noticed that this is the happiest and most content I've been in a long time. I'm not questioning myself all the time, feeling like I'm not good enough. I'm not folding myself into a pretzel just to keep someone else happy and present anymore. It's so peaceful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 07:57 PM
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If he wanted to, he would. It's okay to hate porn. It's not normal and you're not insecure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:34 PM
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Yep. They seem to forget that being a house husband also means taking care of the house 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 08:29 AM
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I had an ex try at the beginning of year, completely forgetting everything he put me through or maybe he thought I would forgive and forget. He never committed to making me his girlfriend and kept dropping me to go back to another ex (among other things I ended up in therapy for). I told him if he really wanted a relationship with me the first time around we would already be in one or at least had been in one. His mind was blown because he never replied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 07:08 AM
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The Weeknd has a new song out called Take My Breath. I quite like it but can't help but think it's about choking, especially reading the lyrics. Am I looking too much into it? If it is then I HATE how normalised and even glamourised choking has become. I don't know about you but I like to NOT die during sex 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 04:42 PM
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Same. "I'm having fun! I'm happy!" Was I? Nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:13 PM
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I'm sorry you had to go through that. I would also get the sulking and he would literally bang his fists on the mattress. When I gave in he would complain I was cold and robotic. Hmm, wonder why??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 09:15 AM
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I have never moved in with a man and at this rate I really don't want to. Watching women I am close to in horrible situations is tough. Forever girlfriend, forced him to propose, now a forever fiancee. He earns way more than her but they split rent and bills 50/50. Over winter their electric bill was higher than expected and she couldn't afford her half. He paid it for her and she had to PAY HIM BACK! He also can't drive so if they want to travel somewhere she has to drive him. Pretty sure she d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:24 AM
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I won't go into detail as it exhausts me but let's just say I never questioned my abilities in the bedroom until I met him. He eventually told me I needed to watch porn so I knew what I was doing. Before finding FDS I thought that maybe I was boring for not wanting to do certain acts. My boundaries are mine and no one can tell me they are wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 05:49 PM
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Coming up to a year for me. A few people have mentioned that this is the happiest and most content they've seen me in a long time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:24 PM
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All from the same man: You should want to do things to make your partner happy, even if you hate it. (Funny how this only applied to me and not him) Sometimes I just want a blowjob after a long day at work. I got my cock out and you didn't react. You should go and watch porn so you know what you're doing. No man is going to stick around if you can't satisfy him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:41 PM
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None of those guys look... happy? They all have that pornsick dead behind the eyes look 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 04:31 PM
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Write a list of all the negative thoughts you have about yourself, things people have said to you etc. Then take that list and write the exact opposite of each negative thought. Keep that positive list for whenever you are doubting yourself (throw away or burn the negative list). It's a small self-esteem building exercise I had to do in therapy last year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:54 PM
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It's a reference to step-brother/step-sister porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:08 AM
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It's a porn reference
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 06:07 AM
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I was having dinner out last Thursday and there was a family on the next table. The boy, who couldn't be no older than 13, loudly shouted "step-bro, I'm stuck again!" And the whole family just laughed along with him. Very sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:49 PM
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He has probably told the other that she is just crazy and jealous and wanting to cause trouble. I've been there, been accused of making things up to make him look bad. He did a pretty good job of that himself he didn't need me to do that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 03:25 PM
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Oh God not Spoons! I realised the only reason why my NVX would ask to go there for breakfast before shopping is because they served alcohol earlier than other places. He would literally have half a bacon sandwich and 2-3 beers for breakfast 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:27 PM
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I have heard this story elsewhere but heard he preferred it doggy style while wearing ear buds listening to music, therefore he doesn't even have to face the poor woman. He makes them sign an NDA but I bet he's not disclosing about the herpes 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:23 PM
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"Never forgotten and is still in love with me" I bet she's never forgotten the time her Dad died in an accident and he wasn't there for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 08:42 PM
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Under His Eye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 10:21 PM
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"Boundaries are meant to be pushed" Same guy when I told him that porn was different to sex in real life, "that's just feminist bullshit"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:01 PM
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I saw a post on Facebook about who pays on dates and so many women were saying "I always offer to pay or split the bill as I don't like feeling that I owe him" And there it is. They're not paying because they want to, they're not paying to show that they have money, they are paying because they don't want to be in some sort of "debt" with a man they barely know. Men like to talk about the "good old days" of life in the 50s but forget that the man always paid, didn't try anything on and made sure…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 06:41 AM
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It took me stumbling across this sub and going to therapy last year that gave me a lightbulb moment - I don't have to be nice to those who hurt me. Why am I worrying about their feelings when they clearly didn't/don't give a shit about mine? The fact that exes want to keep in touch, despite moving on to other women and telling you she is "cool" with you two talking, despite commenting on your new boyfriend and how you've "obviously downgraded". The fact that they want to keep you around shows th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 06:52 AM
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I have never known a person to turn over in bed so aggressively like my last ex. It would cause the whole mattress to bounce, waking me up. I have also had the loud snoring and the elbow to the head by another guy but, now I look back, I genuinely think he was doing it on purpose so I would get up and go home despite him asking me to stay over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 06:14 AM
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It's embarrassing to read this as that used to be me. I have told partners that I didn't need to have an orgasm every time or one was enough. I've realised why now: • I wasn't enjoying myself in the first place. Just wanted him to finish so I could sleep/carry on with whatever I was doing. Especially if he had death grip syndrome and would take ages. • My orgasms were just an ego boost to them. There have been times where guys have said "I'm gonna make you cum" and then suddenly I'm under pressu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 08:33 AM
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Have you ever witnessed a man take a covid test? That's why. It's only romantic if the woman is gagging, choking and crying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:02 PM
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I swear my ex and his God-awful road rage contributed to my driving phobia/anxiety. It took me a loooong time and some CBT to realise that not every driver is an angry maniac like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:32 PM
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That poor woman seems terrified of him and is walking on eggshells wondering what she is doing wrong. And they've only been together 2 months. Just throw the whole man away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 06:02 PM
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My ex slept with someone else behind my back with obviously no intention of telling me. I found out 3 days later through other means. When I confronted him he had a huge go at ME for "getting in his business" and then went and told her that I was "making things up to make him look bad". Like... what? He couldn't own up to what he had done. Just twisted it so me finding out was worse than the actual cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 07:38 AM
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Equality for LVM is "we get to hit women now"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:11 PM
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Must OWN a fridge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:01 PM
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No untreated depression. Get help or stay single. It's exhausting trying to be there for someone who refuses to look after themselves. I once asked my often depressed/suicidal ex if he ever once thought "okay, this is not normal, I don't want to feel this way anymore, maybe I should do something?" His answer? "No, never" And that was when I realised he kind of enjoyed being depressed because then people would feel sorry for him and give him attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:58 PM
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I now associate Lynx Africa with teenage boys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:55 AM
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I had a work colleague give me a lift to work one morning. We were first there so we were just sitting in his car talking. I said something and he laughed but as he exhaled that laugh I was hit by a smell that I can only describe as the stuff that comes out after you floss. I didn't have the heart to say anything and just sat there holding my breath 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:49 AM
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Women are conditioned to believe that when a man treats us badly it is always our fault and there must be something wrong with us for him to have done that. Especially when it happens regularly. We internalise it and blame ourselves. It's embarrassing to admit to friends/family that YET another man has gone. Especially if they still have a pickme mindset and start wondering why you can't "keep" a man. So we just pretend everything is fine and hope the next man will be better. Or we find FDS and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 07:07 AM
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It took me way too long to figure out that just because a man has sex with you it doesn't mean he wants a relationship with you. "If I sleep with this guy he might start to like me?" No NO this is stupid and never works. Ask me how I know. Men don't want to be friends, they just want the benefits you are willing to dish out whenever they snap their fingers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:13 PM
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Wow this slapped me right in the face! I have had threats of blood on my hands. I wish I had come across this song last September.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 09:18 AM
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It also doesn't help that when we were growing up we were taught that our first sexual experience will hurt and we will bleed. Who wants to hear that as a teenager?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:21 AM
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"I'm sorry, but you..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:25 PM
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Ugh this reminds me of an ex who, when we broke up, told me that texting me every day felt like he was being smothered 🤷🏼‍♀️. God knows what he's told his 13 years younger girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:50 AM
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If I say I'm doing nothing on Sunday it doesn't me I'm free. It means I'm doing NOTHING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 12:12 PM
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If he regularly sends you cartoons/memes depicting certain acts you have said no to. I had this from an ex, constant pics and jokes about anal/facials and swallowing. It was like he was trying to normalise it "see, people talk about it all the time, its fine" If he takes a long time to finish, even when by himself. Same ex admitted that masturbating sometimes took over an hour. He always needed a ton of lube and loved having his balls pulled. I won't go into the picture of the McDonalds sauce po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:02 AM
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I wish I could explain this to my friend but she won't listen. If you've got to the point where you are going through his phone, the relationship is already doomed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:27 PM
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Card shops and supermarkets are plastered with Mother's Day posters. TV and online adverts are all about cards and gifts and flowers. He knows, he just doesn't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 07:23 AM
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What are the chances he thinks the shower water running over him is his way of washing? No shower gel, shampoo, deodorant, nothing 🤢.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:32 PM
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Even if he does come back clean, there are certain things that aren't in the standard screening such as HPV and HSV. I was "gifted" the latter with symptoms and my first outbreak was HELL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:55 AM
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❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:40 PM
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I was dating this guy and I was at his and he wanted me to stay over. So I left his front door on the latch and went home to get a few bits for staying over (undies, make up wipes, hairbrush, toothbrush etc). When I got back I went upstairs and I could hear him in his bedroom on the phone. I stayed on the landing and listened. He was talking to another woman saying he couldn't wait to see her on Sunday and he was going to put his arms around her and give her a big hug and kiss. I burst in the ro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 07:40 AM
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Stayed with men who obviously didn't give a shit about me (probably hated me) because I was too embarrassed to tell my friends and family that yet another relationship had failed. I used to imagine the pickmes at work gossiping about me and how I couldn't "keep a man". We're conditioned to think that if a woman has a lot of failed relationships then there must be something wrong with her. Nothing to do with the cesspool of porn addicted, drug using, cheating man children we're trying to wade thr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 07:34 AM
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"You have no time for me anymore" Correct. I'm not a therapist. Go and find a professional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:12 AM
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Being close to my parents. I go food shopping with my dad, I go to lunch with my mum, we all go for days out together. Apparently this is weird and childish? Also, choosing to stay single and being able to stand up for myself and my boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 06:19 AM
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I had to stop reading as I started gagging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:26 PM
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Love Me, I'm A Gamer Therapy Is Gay (ft Dr. Pickme) Doin' It Wrong On Purpose I'm A Dom Mantrum Anthem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 10:33 AM
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I had a friend like this. Would always put me down in front of people and it was embarrassing. I invited her out with my friends one night and she proceeded to tell all the men that she had no gag reflex and kept using the same cheesy line "I can sit on your lap and talk about the first thing that pops up". She wasn't invited again. She once wanted a 1960's themed birthday so I went to the fancy dress shop with her and as I was trying on a dress, I mentioned I wanted something that showed off my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 09:27 AM
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Work has been pretty high pressure/stressful recently. I can't wait to go home and have an angry cry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:42 PM
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I've only had individual therapy and I'm a huge advocate for it. I was very lucky in that I found someone who I connected with straight away. I went to therapy because of men who refuse to go to therapy. And it helped me SO MUCH in building my self esteem, creating healthy boundaries, being able to say no and processing the reasons why I stayed with such terrible men. I didn't want to be a pickme anymore and she really helped with that. After my first session I was able to stand up to my NVX and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 10:01 PM
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DoN't KiNkShAmE!!! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:05 PM
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Just a couple of days ago a work colleague was saying that she lives with an actual man child and I blurted out "just throw the whole man away". Felt bad when she started defending him and their "shared sense of humour". I really don't like her boyfriend but she genuinely believes she can't find anyone better, typical "at least I'm in a relationship" mode. I wish I could help her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:17 AM
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The nest, butt crumbs, the guy who asked if he was the AH for making a woman have a baby she didn't want and then calling her a deadbeat, and most recently... the slugs in the food story 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:20 AM
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Thank you for checking in. I am okay. The current ex has got to give a police interview today. He had deleted all footage of me and 2 other women but not of her. She also has text messages from him admitting to recording us. I am so relieved that this is being taken seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:30 AM
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Hi, thank you for asking. I have since found out he had deleted all footage of me and of two other women but kept footage of his current ex which is how the police were able to charge him. Still feel a bit dirty but I'm hoping that will pass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:38 PM
11

Actually he is on the cusp of Gemini and Cancer. But only Gemini women are crazy, not the men 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 09:08 AM
19

I have a flesh-coloured mole on my upper lip. One ex used to point it out or keep touching it. I have since found out that it is common to have a mole there. Guys pointing out my large boobs like its supposed to be a compliment. Because I am obviously completely unaware of what my body looks like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:13 AM
27

That he had a daughter who was born really premature and only lived for a few hours. Why he felt the need to tell me that on the first date I don't know! He was telling me everything from her birth to her funeral. Stupid me thought "well it's good that he's comfortable enough with me to talk about something like that". This guy had a whole list of issues he would bring up but never get therapy for of course! • His dad used to beat him and his Mum, spent his childhood watching his Mum get treated…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:31 AM
7

Thank you for the love. I have amazing parents and a good support network of friends and colleagues. I have a therapist too who has an open door policy. I'll go to her if I find I'm really struggling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:00 AM
62

I'm in the UK so would need to look up the laws. He has already been charged with voyeurism for recording audio and videos of his most recent ex without her consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 09:38 PM
99

After I posted I had a long angry cry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:36 PM
137

Exactly! He had been recording every time we had sex! I am so angry and yet also deflated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 08:08 PM
198

Why is this violence and degradation always towards women and girls? Why are people not promoting slapping a guy around the face, or punching him in the balls, or spitting on him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:13 PM
4

This was over 20 years ago so I don't really remember 😄. I don't think responding to "if you loved me you'd do it" with "if you loved me you'd wait" would work nowadays
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:50 AM
92

Men want anal or period sex so bad but then get pissed at you for daring to get poo/blood on them. Like, sorry my vagina and anus are functioning normally 💁🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 06:26 AM
14

In the UK we used to have a magazine called Shout and I read it when I was at school and there was a lot of advice in there about what to do or say if you were being pressured into having sex or doing things you were not ready to do. This helped me a lot as a young teenager but I didn't realise this behaviour would carry on waaaaaay into adulthood!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 05:15 PM
40

I just had a horrible memory pop up from about 11 years ago. My boyfriend at the time suffered with psoriasis and one of the places he got it was between his bum cheeks. I still lived at home at this point and he was staying over. Just before he got into bed he reached into his boxers, scratched and then pulled his hand out and inspected his nails before FLICKING whatever was there onto my bedroom carpet 🤮. No, we did not have sex that night. He was also incredibly hairy and once peed MY bed. Wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:32 PM
175

When he says you need to work on your gag reflex 🚩🚩🚩🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 07:32 AM
16

Yep. Having terrible sex I didn't actually want because the alternative was worse. He would sulk so much and get angry and start banging his fists on the mattress. All because I wanted to sleep instead. Then he started complaining that I was cold and robotic but couldn't figure out why. Watching tv? He'd stand up and get his semi-erection out and expect me to instantly put it in my mouth. A nice back or leg rub after work (physical job)? Nope, always ended up with a hand on my boobs or between m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 10:43 PM
20

Put "fish and rice cakes" into YouTube
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 08:41 AM
13

Oh no, not Thomas Middleditch 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:10 PM
82

Got my smear test results back. I'm HPV negative 😊. As someone who has had to have two cervical biopsies in the past, this news is a big relief!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:45 PM
9

I've been thinking of small moments where I've felt uncomfortable around men. I was 10 and at a holiday camp with my family, me and my cousin were in a corridor outside the main entertainment hall. I was wearing a union Jack dress as I was a huge Spice Girls fan and underneath I wore a pair of knickers that had Esmeralda from Disney's Hunchback of Notre Dame on, child's knickers. My cousin was giving me a piggy back and as she set me down my dress rode up and showed my knickers. At that moment, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 10:43 PM
62

I used to be a hardcore pickme. A Cool Girl, not-like-other-girls, mostly male friends because "women are too much drama" etc. And men still treated me terribly. I had a lot of short term relationships and situationships and started wondering what was wrong with me and why couldn't I "keep" a man. I always thought that if I just showed him how much I cared, if I loved him a little bit harder, if I did that thing in the bedroom he keeps pestering me about, if I cleaned and cooked for him then may…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:47 AM
15

I remember one ex falling ill with a chest infection. He developed a high temperature and fever. I was there for him nursing and checking up on him. He lived alone and I was worried he'd get worse if left on his own. He turned to me and said "you're so kind to me" and I replied "I know you'd do the same for me." As soon as those words fell out of my mouth I knew it wasn't true. He would have dropped me off back at my mum's for her to deal with spouting how he can't afford to be ill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:14 PM
8

Dominique at Vice messaged me on here asking what I thought of FDS and how it had helped me. I thought she was fake so I didn't reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:48 AM
126

Ugh the boner in the back! I just had flashbacks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:28 PM
41

I used to do burlesque. I no longer tell partners this because most of them immediately think I'm going to dress up and perform for them privately. Despite explaining to them that that is just an act, a persona, my alter ego. It was like they didn't want sex with "me" anymore. We bathe, we lotion, we remove all body hair, we make sure we smell good and look good all for a guy who whips out his semi hard penis and expects us to be instantly turned on and almost orgasming at the mere sight of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:40 AM
6

I had a message from someone pretending to be from Vice and they wanted to do an article on FDS. Barely any activity and not a member of this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:35 AM
6

One told me today that her fiance hinted to her that he was running out of clean boxers... I didn't know how to respond.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:52 PM
57

I'm noticing how awful my colleagues' boyfriends are. I can't say anything to them as they are in so deep I'll just be accused of being 'jealous' because I am the only single woman at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:19 PM
69

A LVM was like this with me the day I met his daughters. I've mentioned him before doing cocaine whilst they were asleep upstairs. They were 9 and 4 at the time and in town was an annual "Invasion" where loads of people get to dress up as TV and movie characters. A bit like a mini convention but outside. The place was rammed. He started walking ahead of his own daughters, leaving me to walk behind them to keep an eye on them. He told his next girlfriend that the reason he did that was so people …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:31 AM
106

I've been cheated on and I have to remind myself that he cheated because he's a cheat, not because of things I did (or didn't do).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:30 PM
18

I know this is from a different time but Take A Chance On Me by ABBA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:28 PM
32

"I was going to break up with her but then she told me she was pregnant so I stayed" "She trapped me" "I don't like condoms"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 08:32 AM
12

Damned if we do, damned if we don't 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:16 PM
30

My friend tried to set me up with a guy who she didn't want anymore. "But he's such a sweet guy!" Why the hell would I want a man who has slept with my friend and probably still has feelings for her? I'm not second best!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:36 AM
88

MiSaNdRy!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:26 AM
44

He has already been married. The reason written on the divorce papers was that he would get drunk and physically abuse his wife in front of their children. Never again will I date a man who is only "separated".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 11:55 AM
75

Used to be me and I'm a little bit ashamed. When he cheated and eventually developed a relationship with her, I blamed her and said she was controlling him and that he wasn't allowed to do anything anymore. He triangulated hard. Criticised everything about me to make him and her look good. I bumped into him in the supermarket once and he went and told her I was all over him and wouldn't let him leave. She believed it and sent me abusive messages on FB. They broke up for a bit and we got talking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 10:33 AM
59

Isn't it the man's DNA that determines the baby's sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:02 PM
104

I've done anal once and hated it. Never again. Feeling like I've got a poo coming does not turn me on! Cue a later partner saying "you did it for him but you won't do it for me?" Completely ignoring the fact I hated it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:25 AM
48

I'll be going to see my parents in the morning and we are having full English breakfasts delivered - my treat. Every year my mum buys me chocolates and I used to feel so embarrassed, like she was picking out my obvious singledom. But now I look forward to it because she obviously loves me and values me more than any ex ever did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:03 AM
32

They just dump it all on us and expect us to either put up with it or fix/heal them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 08:41 AM
77

I actually wish more women would come forward when they find out their partners have been cheating on their wives/girlfriends with them. I wish exes of my past partners would have messaged me warning me of any shitty behaviours or real reasons why their relationship ended. I wish I had the guts to message current girlfriends of exes. But no doubt I'd be labelled crazy and jealous so what's the point? This isn't AITA. You did the right thing. You didn't ruin his life, he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:20 PM
29

Used to be me. How embarrassing 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 12:55 PM
150

Do not put your name on your profile. I have an unusual first name and the LVM logic to that was "she didn't reply to my message, I know, I'll look her up on Facebook and message her on there as well! She's bound to want me now!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:49 PM
89

Didn't even get to a date. Met him on Plenty of Fish (don't). We had a date planned for the end of the week but during that week he started saying some really uncomfortable things. Things such as "your mum is going to love me" and he requested I French kiss him when I first meet him, as in first greeting he wanted a full on tongues kiss. I kept reminding him that I wanted to go slow but he wasn't listening. I cancelled as it was making me anxious and I didn't feel safe. He replied with he though…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 10:51 AM
84

I hate it because it's expected. It's something I feel like I HAVE to do which takes all the fun out of it. I have a sensitive gag reflex so me gagging and sniffling and my eyes watering do not make me feel sexy. Things NVM have said: "Next time you have to put it in your mouth. I need your BJ" "Are you gonna put it in your mouth then?" "Are you gonna give it a little kiss?" Like, I was going to but now I don't want to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:49 PM
152

I lost my virginity at 16 to a 19 year old. My best friend at the time lost hers at 15 on holiday to the 25 year old coach driver. When I was 17 I was groomed by a 28 year old. He was a teacher (not mine) One guy I was casually seeing broke it off with me and started dating a 16 year old when he was 27. Another ex took the virginity of a barely 18 year old when he was 32. They are not men, they are predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 02:33 PM
25

Raised his voice and called me stupid because I didn't get my phone out of my bag fast enough to take a photo of a car crash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:27 PM
22

I called the police (UK) when my ex threatened suicide. He told me roughly where he was (which was over 20 miles away) and that "the rope is set". The police were extremely helpful, I even apologised as I felt I was wasting their time and they reassured me I was doing the right thing. He got angry at me for calling them of course but as far as I know he hasn't pulled that stunt again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 09:53 AM
163

And buys an engagement ring from dodgy websites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:29 PM
258

I've just read that he is 43 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 09:16 PM
48

I had an ex do this too. He got angry at me because I found out he has slept with someone else behind my back. Then got angry at me because his ex messaged me with screenshots of him begging her to take him back. Then threatened suicide and got angry at me because I called the police on him. This boy literally could not comprehend that the reason he was in that situation was because of his actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:11 PM
78

Started talking about the financial aspect of moving in together. Calculating both our monthly wages and expenses etc. This was the first time a man had ever even mentioned getting a place with me. Then broke up with me ON VALENTINES DAY because he wasn't sure he wanted to be in a relationship. One month later he (31) was in a relationship with an 18 year old. When that didn't last he started seeing a girl who had just turned 18 which means they met when she was 17 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:12 PM
27

She needs to gift him with divorce papers before he leaves. Or just mention that she may sleep with other men as she doesn't want to miss out on the "my husband is out of town" experience. Assuming this friend is male, what are the chances that the husband actually wants to sleep with HIM?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:56 AM
100

Absolutely! I know for a fact my Mum wouldn't: Fall asleep because she's having "such a tired and stressful day". Take a selfie with me in the background mid-contraction. Or take any photos of me in pain for SM like I am some sort of circus attraction. Bring a gaming console into the delivery room (or in Ziggy's case prefer to stay away and play games). Tell me to be quiet. Feel free to add more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 05:15 PM
13

I used to work in jewellery. Oh, the Christmas Eve flashbacks...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 10:31 PM
71

"I am a dom" 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 08:47 AM
33

I've only dated two single dads. One barely even saw his son so he was just "Mum's friend" and resented paying for him. He said he was tricked but always refused to wear a condom. Another had two daughters who were the sweetest girls. He had them one night every weekend, it alternated between Friday one week and Saturday the next. He was living with his Dad at the time so one night when they were asleep he went on a night out and got drunk. The breaking point for me was when he was looking after…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 07:27 AM
18

I'm in that gang too. Porn addict, curved dick, always wanted penetration to be hard/rough and then wondered why I ended up with almost constant UTIs. His curved dick was literally irritating my urethra/bladder during penetration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 08:07 AM
91

I also received that message. When a man says he is a dom I automatically hear "I will treat you like shit both inside and outside the bedroom"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 01:13 PM
16

Oh noooo why?? I once dated a Hungarian guy and when I went to visit his place, he decided to spit on the doormat between the hallway and living room and the rub it in with his slipper? Just why??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 11:02 PM
27

He says it was a one time thing... because he got caught. He planned for her to come over, he knew full well what he was doing. What are the chances the girl had no idea he was even married?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:37 PM
15

I've been tempted to message exes before asking things like "did he do this to you?" Or "did he make you feel like this?" But I'm not sure if that's the right thing to do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:36 AM
69

Yep, been there. Every time we'd go out for dinner or lunch he'd hate it and be negative the whole time. Once we went to a funk and soul night for new years eve and he hated it so much we went home before midnight. It was like he just couldn't enjoy himself, or deliberately chose not to. Any suggestions for date nights were met with "no that's stupid" or "Eew no not there". Of course it backfired on him when he moaned that he never saw me dressed up anymore, just saw me in casual wear or lounge …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:10 AM
11

Oh definitely! I used to pretend I liked having my hair pulled. As I've gotten older and tried it, turns out I don't like it after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:20 PM
57

I visited that post and oh my God the comments... "Don't worry, some of us actually like it" "I've been with girls who actually like that" "I actually like that sort of thing" They are the only comments men will read and think "well if 1 woman likes it then I can carry on doing it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:15 AM
1

I think it was his way of hinting how much he wanted me to swallow his cum. I had never even heard of porn sickness or porn addiction until I met this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 07:02 AM
32

Because they know you could find better so they grind you down to nothing so you end up staying. They feel lucky to have found a woman who will put up with their BS 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 07:57 PM
11

I am so glad that he is an ex. Live your best life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 07:49 PM
97

Pre FDS new years eve 2019: sat in the pub crying with my ex who had broken up with me a few days earlier (why I met up with him I don't know!). I was in the throes of my second ever herpes outbreak, wondering what man would want me now. I felt lost and worthless. Didn't even see the new year in with him, I went home early, saw it in with my parents and went to bed. I stupidly took him back twice this year but... that's a lesson not a failure. Now I've found FDS: happily single, my health is ove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 07:48 PM
19

Just like mummy used to do 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:46 PM
7

Sign me up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:56 PM
4

Because they can't stand it when a woman is actually happy in her own skin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:42 PM
4

I used to love taking part in the Secret Santa and I really put thought and effort into gifts. Until last year when the person I gifted to was very vague in his interests and then complained on the public thank you gallery about the gifts I sent him. I have had some pretty cool gifts though, I won't lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:35 PM
29

She gets to watch him play his games. She should be grateful for the quality time together. /s just in case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 12:16 PM
98

Or they compare you to exes. They'll tell you how badly their ex treated them or how their ex wouldn't let them do x or made them do y and you think to yourself that you won't act like that. Until you start acting like that and realise that maybe the ex wasn't the problem in their relationship after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 11:04 PM
17

If being with a man gives you symptoms of anxiety, he ain't the one, sis. I've been there, I ended up with full on chest pains and tightness. My whole body was screaming at me to cut loose but my stupid pickme brain was like "I'll just keep showing him how much I care about him, then he'll see..." 🤡🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 06:58 PM
12

This was me a couple of years ago. My ex was OBSESSED with anal, facials and having his cum in my mouth. All of which I said no to and stuck by it. He would regularly send me memes or cartoons about these sex acts even though HE KNEW I didn't like it. One picture that still kinda triggers me is one of a girl dipping a chicken nugget into a little pot of semen. He asked me if I would do that then got angry when I was disgusted by it. DUDE LISTEN TO ME, I DON'T WANT YOUR CUM IN OR ANYWHERE NEAR MY…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 12:16 PM
8

You can guarantee that it'd be our fault if the date went wrong. "Well you picked her"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:25 AM
20

I used to regularly travel with a company that catered to solo travellers. You would meet with a group of other solo travellers and have a tour guide etc. I'm from the UK and the places and I have seen in the US and the things I've done and experienced have been amazing. And I did it all on my own. I met some great people, some I still stay in touch with. Not once was I thinking about hooking up. I swear men don't like us having freedom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:54 AM
30

Some men want validation from watching a woman swallow their cum? Definitely written by a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:19 AM
16

FDS has shown me that I am actually an amazing woman who has achieved so much without a man by her side. I would go for guys that needed mothering/saving/fixing and I would do all of that and STILL get treated badly. FDS has shown me that is not my job to fix or save a man. The majority of men shouldn't even be dating with the amount of issues they have. I want a a partner, an equal. Not a son or therapy client.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 04:59 PM
5

How can someone shower/bath and then put dirty underwear back on? Unless he's also not showering... 🤔🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 08:02 AM
15

Can we add "Steak & Blowjob Day"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 10:43 PM
52

Ugh I got "you just keep thinking of the bad things, you gotta remember the good things too" As if the good times automatically cancelled out every bad thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:08 PM
3

I'm only just finding out what triangulation is and this is definitely it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 12:31 PM
19

Not a lie to me but a lie about me. Bumped into an ex at the supermarket. We made the smallest of small talk and then he HUGGED me goodbye and we went our separate ways. I thought nothing of it until that evening I receive a very angry message on FB from his girlfriend. I didn't want to argue so I blocked her. Turns out he'd gone and told her I was following him around the supermarket and was all over him and wouldn't let him leave. What was he trying to achieve? They're engaged now. Good luck l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 12:45 AM
44

I have HSV2 which is primarily genital. Not one of my partners disclosed. I understand that herpes can be asymptomatic so maybe he didn't realise he had it himself who knows? It's been almost a year since my first outbreak and I rarely get them now. If I do they're very mild. It was a case of looking after my health and body once I was diagnosed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 09:17 AM
75

In the UK you can order an at-home testing kit online for free. You get a prepaid envelope to post your samples and they give you your results by text. There is literally no excuse to not get tested. Sadly, herpes is not routinely screened for. Not one of my partners mentioned having herpes but guess which former "cool girl" ended up with herpes? 🙋🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 07:52 AM
21

She was badass. I live in Colchester and in the cellar in one of the hotels there is a small window and inside you can see layers of earth. One of those layers is supposedly ashes from when she burned the town down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 01:37 PM
43

Have we all dated the same guy? I thought maybe I had a low libido. He would say it was my BC/hormones. Not the fact he treated me HORRIBLY outside the bedroom and still expected me to be instantly turned on the minute he whipped out his dick. I actually joined the Low Libido sub for some support. I realised it wasn't my libido after all once we broke up. Anyone else's ex sulk like a child when you weren't in the mood?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 10:17 AM
33

Its always those guys who promise these elaborate plans and then a day or two before the planned date start an argument and give you the silent treatment so you end up not going. Rinse and repeat... every 2-3 weeks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 11:41 PM
79

"She trapped me by getting pregnant!" Says the man who refuses to wear a condom 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:14 PM
55

This is something I am learning the hard way. There is no point telling a man how worthless and unhappy he makes you feel. He doesn't care and will probably reply with "well you did this and that made me feel unhappy". My ex is blocked and can say whatever he wants about me. His mask will slip and the truth always comes out eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 06:49 PM
4

Someone tell me why his tattoo looks like an infected wound?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:28 AM
32

They lie to us and then get angry at us for finding out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:25 AM
27

We are supposed to be pure virgins who know how to do every single sex act 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 07:18 AM
58

"And it"s okay to go to therapy if you can't stop feeling sad about it." As if these guys are going to therapy 🤣🤣.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 07:22 AM
50

Tried to explain this to someone a few weeks ago. I was met with "well relationships are not supposed to be easy either" I blocked them not long after this for different reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 09:17 PM
18

We've all slipped up, it's why we're here on this sub ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 09:07 PM
5

I can't believe I put up with "I don't do Valentines Day" or "Don't get me a Christmas present" from so many guys! I thought I was being the "cool girlfriend" for not following tradition. Cringe! One of those guys even broke up with me on Valentines Day 🙄.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:21 AM
18

After a huge sigh "you're hard work, you are". Have we all dated the same man??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 05:55 AM
11

Without FDS I would have been so upset and blamed myself, asking what I did wrong. I still haven't cried over him. I've been laughing because it's backfired horribly for him. He's lost her AND me. He's only sorry because she's not interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:06 AM
13

Oh this is brilliant 🤣. I don't think he even remembers where this other girls lives so that would really mess him up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 09:01 AM
60

This spoke to me. I've just cried at realising there are a TONNE of women who don't like giving BJs. I thought I was the only one! I thought I was boring or a prude or had some sort of mental block I needed to get over! If I've initiated then I don't mind but if I'm getting "are you gonna put it in your mouth then?" or I feel like I have to do it then I suddenly don't want to. Apparently I'm boring because I won't let a guy finish in my mouth. Apparently I'm bad at it because I gag easily and ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:09 PM
54

I remember receiving a message last year on OLD from a guy. His bio clearly read that he was currently unemployed due to health issues. I told him I was not interested as I wanted a man with a job. He called me shallow! Why even bother looking for a partner if you have health issues so severe that you can't work? The entitlement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:55 PM
27

I used to love sites like Literotica and more recently SoloTouch. But I've noticed the majority of stories now involve: Force Violence Incest Awful descriptions of women When describing a man it's usually just cock size. It's very off-putting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:06 PM
19

Ugh! I have an ex (one of many, that's why I'm here) who after breaking up with me (on valentines day) started dating an 18 year old when he was 31. That only lasted a few months and then when he turned 32 started dating another barely 18 year old. They are still together a year later. I swear the reason he doesn't want a woman his own age is because then he'd have to put effort in. Seriously, if my 18 year old daughter brought home a 32 year old man I would ask what's wrong with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 06:49 AM
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I know someone whose husband became a house husband as she had her own business. She had a kid from a previous relationship and they also had a kid together. He thought he'd just be looking after them. He didn't realise being a house husband meant looking after the HOUSE as well 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:31 AM
11

Thank you. I've blocked him everywhere and put all my social media profiles to private.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 05:15 PM
7

Sorry, but you annoyed me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 09:52 PM
11

Yep. I had a massive argument with my ex and he said some nasty personal things to me that I still think about 1.5 years later. Told my mum and dad who then banned him from the house. And that was MY fault for telling them why I was coming home in the middle of the night in tears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 08:14 PM
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"It's your fault your parents hate me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 09:57 AM
3

I'm 34 and really enjoying being single. I've really focused on my physical and mental health which is something that was always pushed aside once I met someone. I used to be an awful pickmeisha. I am embarrassed at what I was willing to put up with to keep a man. Also, I was diagnosed with genital herpes in December last year. At first I thought I was disgusting and was going to be judged and called a slut. I haven't had to disclose to any potential partners yet but it'll help me weed out who i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:35 PM
2

I found an old diary and wrote about one boyfriend doing that. Then I remembered he was one of THREE that have done that. I'm a bit embarrassed at what I was willing to put up with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:52 PM
4

I have an ex who at 31 started dating a girl who had just turned 18. They have been together a year now. If my 18 year old daughter brought home a 31 year old man I'd wonder what was wrong with him and why he can't get women his own age. I've realised that it's because he is still 18 mentally. Lives with parents, no real job, keeps taking courses that hinder him getting a real job. No real ambition in life. I dodged a serious bullet there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 08:29 AM
2

After LVM 1 I started seeing LVM 2 and around that time I found out I had chlamydia. It was from LVM 2 in the end but that relationship is a whole other story! I did the right thing and let LVM 1 know and he seemed quite mature "thank you for letting me know, I think a lot of you for telling me". As soon as his test came back negative suddenly I was a slut. I found out later that he was sleeping with 3 other women behind my back. He had 4 women on the go in the space of 3 months yet I was a slut…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 06:13 PM
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