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Escalation & CalibrationBetyouwonthehehaha/r/seduction09/04/25 04:18 PM
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You need to find out what kind of comedy makes you genuinely laugh, then find out how to start being humorous in socially appropriate ways. Unfortunately, if you’re a very serious guy, you may have a relatively dry or dark sense of humor. This still works but you need to be tactful about when and where you use it, and understand how to appear calibrated when using it. At the end of the day, trying to assume a humor profile that doesn’t actually amuse YOU will undermine your attempts to be more i…
/r/seduction25/12/25 02:37 PM
2

🤦🏽‍♂️$🤦🏽‍♂️$
/r/seduction27/11/25 04:18 AM
2

Napoleon complex is definitely real but the health flip side is short men may be incentivized to authentically develop their social skills and assertiveness more because of their shortfall
/r/seduction24/11/25 03:43 PM
1

If your face card and bodyfat are dialed then it’s true. If your face is mid and body is dialed it’s maybe true. If your face card is dialed and body is mid it’s maybe true. If you’re fat short and chopped that’s tuff
/r/seduction24/11/25 03:42 PM
1

Sometimes you’ll have off weeks and months if you’re really pushing yourself. The silver lining is typically that this reveals who’s really down for you through thick and thin, and who’s just a fair weather friend
/r/seduction09/11/25 04:35 PM
6

LMFAO
/r/seduction07/11/25 05:41 AM
1

The one significant caveat is that women are the choosers but rarely the initiators. So the seduction stuff is relevant to giving her the opportunity to choose
/r/seduction24/10/25 07:23 PM
1

This would be a hit
/r/seduction22/10/25 12:35 PM
2

Agreed, of course you’ll get steamrolled dropping the F word anywhere on this sub but it really isn’t incongruent with seduction at all
/r/seduction22/10/25 05:17 AM
3

No, depending on what she’s saying he’s doing it’s a shit test and an opportunity for you to tease and escalate, and if she’s not receptive, immediately disengage and appear very disinterested. Obvious exception if she’s trauma dumping about some legitimate abuse, in which case be a decent person
/r/seduction21/10/25 03:47 AM
4

Your desire to control their response to your opener is a manifestation of neediness which women can sense and find unattractive. Your boldness to say something that might not be received well is what will be far more important than the actual words you say
/r/seduction18/10/25 07:08 PM
9

Where did I say we shouldn’t? He’s looking for a serious committed relationship. What’s he’s doing isn’t inherently wrong, it’s just out of alignment with his desires
/r/seduction17/10/25 07:41 PM
4

From a serial monogamist: that connection is already over bro. You started this not even serious relationship with a foundation of deceit and a lack of commitment. If you’re serious about having a serious relationship, cut off all your hoes including this one, and make yourself available for when the one comes along. Prioritize self development and healing over validation for a season. This will reward you and your future girl.
/r/seduction17/10/25 06:08 PM
3

Good job, maybe make conversation first next time but you won by taking the risk and stepping out outside your comfort zone
/r/seduction15/10/25 09:55 PM
3

It still increases the quality of leads
/r/seduction07/10/25 09:21 PM
7

Real g move
/r/seduction07/10/25 02:55 AM
47

Don’t ask for the number unless they verbally agree to a concrete future activity with you. “I could see us having a great time bowling, do you use the gutter guards? If you’re down I’ll take your number” some shit like that. If they don’t express interest in it or respond kind of noncommittal just don’t even ask for the number imo
/r/seduction07/10/25 02:17 AM
1

If you’re attractive then women will be endeared by your awkwardness and shyness…if you take initiative despite these limitations. Take advantage of this!
/r/seduction05/10/25 03:43 PM
5

Go there and just dance and sing like no one’s watching, occasionally briefly try and connect with others and refer to the shared experiences you’re witnessing/having, and if their reception is cold, keep your playful energy rolling and go back to enjoying yourself. You’re there to have fun
/r/seduction30/09/25 01:07 PM
9

I suspect you may come across as overly chipper and invested by text. You’re a nice polite person…but you should tone it down via text. she like your energy in person, so try and only message what you need to set up the logistics for an in person date
/r/seduction29/09/25 02:46 PM
9

Talented writer
/r/seduction25/09/25 04:00 AM
8

Say “Yes, enjoy!” And then display lower interest in her during subsequent interactions unless/until she does something to merit your prior level of demonstrated investment
/r/seduction24/09/25 01:42 AM
1

I just reconnected with one that I ran into at a bar. I’d say only do it if it’s in person and you feel a spark
/r/seduction23/09/25 10:24 PM
5

Lowkey this is one method 😂 works better with older women
/r/seduction09/09/25 03:00 AM
5

The her not ordering a drink part is a little strange. Do you feel insecure about your reliance on alcohol during a date, or do you think that women will be less receptive to you without alcohol in their system? If not, I can’t imagine why this would be important. If anything, it would be more off-putting if you were getting dinner and she declined to order or eat anything.
/r/seduction04/09/25 04:41 PM
1

Hug 100%, compliment something as you draw away. Whether that’s smell, hair, outfit. Could even do something as cheesy as “wow if I’d known you were pulling up like this I would’ve stepped my game up,” very clearly joking.
/r/seduction04/09/25 04:39 PM
1

You can listen to her vent a bit but make sure you steer the conversation to the two of you. If she sees you’ll let her vent about her ex nonstop, she’ll perceive you as nothing more than a friend
/r/seduction03/09/25 06:55 PM
1

Don’t let her vent much, say “it sounds like this is something we should talk about in person. How’s day at time at location”
/r/seduction03/09/25 06:54 PM
1

Also 5’6” and also started later in life with women. Yeah it’s harder but it’s only an excuse if you decide to let it be. Here’s a hack no one else here has mentioned: many bisexual women care significantly less about a man’s height than heterosexual women. Not sure why this is but I’ve always had more success with bi women. Your mileage may vary
/r/seduction01/09/25 11:44 PM
2

Can vouch that it really doesn’t happen here. I’m going to start
/r/seduction31/08/25 09:20 PM
20

Lol good writing but can you do this somewhere else
/r/seduction27/08/25 10:31 PM
1

That’s good you’d identified that and you’re not alone. However, it’s better to say hi and have her see you’re nervous than to avoid her and live in regret!
/r/seduction27/08/25 01:53 PM
2

Yep!
/r/seduction27/08/25 12:14 AM
-5

This is actually untrue, women receive a lot of stigma and blowback for doing this sometimes. That shouldn’t stop them but we should acknowledge that it is a thing.
/r/seduction26/08/25 11:51 PM
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Stare at men and smile, repeatedly make prolonged eye contact and put yourself in positions where they’d be comfortable talking to you. Or (and I know this is a groundbreaking suggestion), approach them and strike up a conversation
/r/seduction26/08/25 11:50 PM
1

Not at all just a miscommunication
/r/seduction19/08/25 01:45 AM
4

I was asking you, and it sounds like you have the right answer
/r/seduction18/08/25 11:25 PM
563

Time energy and focus? There’s a reason why women often report getting the best dick from bums. It’s because these niggas can specialize their focus and talents on one domain. You can be a jack of all trades and a master of none, or you can sit and jack off all day and be a master of buns. Only YOU can decide.
/r/seduction18/08/25 12:44 PM
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So what’s the next step? This is the equivalent of someone filling their e-cart with your finest wares and then never checking out. Where do you seal the deal
/r/seduction18/08/25 04:16 AM
1

If there’s truly nothing to go off then you need to create your own prompt. Could be something random that sparks curiosity like “I don’t know why but this photo reminds me of something crazy that happened yesterday”
/r/seduction13/08/25 02:53 AM
5

Terrible for several reasons
/r/seduction12/08/25 03:33 AM
-1

First step: stop commodifying and objectifying relationships and their dynamics
/r/seduction08/08/25 01:47 PM
3

Great, great, great comment
/r/seduction06/08/25 02:43 AM
1

Love it, thanks for sharing. I’m in a period of my life where I’m trying to shift into that state after a prolonged lonely period of developing a great physique and having a horrible social life
/r/seduction05/08/25 04:06 AM
3

What changed in your mindset
/r/seduction05/08/25 12:09 AM
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Idk why you’re being downvoted you’re like the only good regular poster here
/r/seduction01/08/25 06:36 PM
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Way too black and white across the board. Refusal to embrace nuance and acknowledge grey areas is performative and needy. This sounds like you feel you need the mental stability of polar extremes to feel comfortable in your frame and identity. Black and white thinking is an indication of emotional immaturity, something women often find unattractive
/r/seduction30/07/25 05:47 PM
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From my experience as a man dick pics are rarely if ever a good idea in isolation. The best is in underwear at most. Just find a dude’s insta account who posts thirst traps that receive positive reception from women and share that with him
/r/seduction27/07/25 01:57 PM
1

Do you benefit much from solo practice?
/r/seduction13/07/25 07:59 PM
1

What style of dance? I just started salsa and bachata classes
/r/seduction13/07/25 05:04 PM
0

I’m a serial monogamist type at heart (grew up religious and still have a bit of an aversion to casual sex) but it’s been fulfilling. One thing I’ll note that I’ve found amusing is bisexual women tend to be more receptive to shorter men. I’ve had a couple threesomes this way. All of that to say, yes my height has probably affected my dating life, but I’ve also had success I never would have had if I used height as an excuse not to try
/r/seduction10/07/25 11:50 AM
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As someone 5’6”, if you let your height at 5’8” affect your dating life that’s on you. You’re solidly average or above in most of the world. Even for someone my height, solidly below average, it would be a weak excuse to blame a lack of success on height alone. Is it a factor? Yes, but as others have said you likely don’t want to be with partner who write you off for one shallow characteristic.
/r/seduction10/07/25 11:41 AM
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Diddly dee dum diddly doo, more oil for me, baby oil for you
/r/seduction10/07/25 04:21 AM
5

Great post
/r/seduction30/06/25 02:58 AM
1

Crack sum is straight comedy
/r/seduction23/06/25 09:02 PM
5

This is male BPD
/r/seduction17/06/25 10:06 PM
3

You talked to two girls in some way shape or form. That’s the first baby step. So congratulate yourself, and go do more
/r/seduction14/06/25 08:04 PM
1

Exactly
/r/seduction08/06/25 02:18 PM
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Are there people who will reject and overlook you because of your visible disability? Yes. When someone does accept you, which they will if you don’t give up and keep focusing on improving yourself, then you’ll know it’s likely real because they look past the superficial and like the real you. It will make things harder but there’s a sliding scale of difficulty. An underdeveloped hand shouldn’t be a major limitation
/r/seduction07/06/25 01:46 PM
-1

Sounds like a narcissist’s wet dream but no, this isn’t true. A woman whose has been psychologically and emotionally broken down by her partner may tolerate anything, but that’s not a sign of value on the man’s part, it’s a sign of lacking self esteem on the woman’s part. The same dynamic can exist with the roles reversed, you just tend to see it more with women doing the tolerating because that’s how we are socialized, and because men are naturally more prone to domineering behavior
/r/seduction04/06/25 10:15 PM
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This is a MAN
/r/seduction03/06/25 10:31 PM
5

Get offline and interact with them irl. Talk to them like humans instead of like women. I don’t date women I don’t respect, at least not for very long after they reveal those traits
/r/seduction27/05/25 11:06 PM
2

Fair enough
/r/seduction26/05/25 10:52 PM
2

Isn’t painting a picture a super reliable device to keep the conversation emotionally charged and filled with fantasy/anticipation?
/r/seduction26/05/25 10:06 PM
13

Sweeping generalizations but what bearing does this have on you and your personal development? Improving yourself so that regardless of her upbringing or attraction level, you can confidently meet, attract, and have healthy relationships with the women you prefer?
/r/seduction26/05/25 10:01 PM
2

😂😂😂
/r/seduction25/05/25 07:35 PM
2

LMFAO
/r/seduction25/05/25 07:35 PM
1

I’m kidding bro she probably thought you were a trick
/r/seduction24/05/25 09:50 PM
3

Bro you could’ve been pimping but instead you decided to be a racist incel smh
/r/seduction24/05/25 01:00 PM
3

Sounds gay
/r/seduction23/05/25 08:49 PM
2

Mind going into detail about this a bit? How noticeable a difference and what volume/style of exercises do you practice
/r/seduction19/05/25 03:12 PM
4

Bros treating dating like a special ops recon patrol
/r/seduction17/05/25 01:37 PM
1

You sound entitled and egotistical
/r/seduction08/05/25 12:43 AM
2

Try and fuck the unattractive friend
/r/seduction07/05/25 06:45 PM
1

It’s about progressive overload. So as a beginner yes they will but you’ll need to progress to weighted exercises to keep challenging your muscles and inducing a state of what’s called hypertrophy
/r/seduction07/05/25 04:12 AM
4

If you’re most attracted to the hottest friend then this not frame or authenticity, and it’ll likely pan out poorly if either friend picks up on the fact that you’re more attracted to friend 1. You’re subconsciously disqualifying yourself from the one you’re actually attracted to because you feel you aren’t good enough
/r/seduction03/05/25 11:36 PM
1

Acknowledge their generosity, then make up some far more costly looming expense that you didn’t know about until just now, and that’s making you panic before your operation. Say, “the last thing on my mind is treating myself, I’m worried about affording (fake thing).” Now they will send you much more than whatever they were going to initially. You’re welcome!
/r/seduction03/05/25 02:18 PM
5

I agree
/r/seduction02/05/25 04:18 PM
1

Nah if delivered with a sarcastic tone it conveys that he’s self aware, has a sense of humor, and leads naturally into conversation
/r/seduction30/04/25 05:56 PM
1

Walk up to a girl and say “Seeing you is like finding a stream in the desert.” Then when she reacts shocked/amused, jokingly explain how your program is a sausage fest/full of dorks and you needed to talk to a cool girl like her to stay sane. Briefly ask her about her program/studies to establish common ground then maneuver the convo to actual interesting topics and ask for her number at the end
/r/seduction30/04/25 02:01 PM
3

Go up to her at school and talk about something you have both observed in school. Do you share a class period, lunch? Were you both at the game? Start with something innocuous like that but try and make the conversation interesting by inserting jokes, making statements about how you feel about things, and trying to maintain strong eye contact, at least until she breaks it.
/r/seduction30/04/25 01:43 PM
1

I’m 25, 5’6”, black, and also do a quaint tequila doubleshot before getting down to business. Respect
/r/seduction29/04/25 08:19 PM
2

Exactly and self amusement and being willing to polarize them is frame
/r/seduction29/04/25 07:37 PM
10

Humor and absurdity
/r/seduction29/04/25 01:42 AM
4

This isn’t your creative writing forum
/r/seduction21/04/25 04:13 PM
1

Deep-seated fear of abandonment
/r/seduction11/04/25 12:43 PM
3

Deep-seated fear of abandonment
/r/seduction11/04/25 12:43 PM
1

Sell it period, I’m not anymore interested in this girl intrinsically than others, she’s just been more available than others at this stage
/r/seduction11/04/25 05:49 AM
1

Yeah I like this and I agree. I’m certainly not waiting, my question is like a car salesman with a customer who bluffs and leaves the dealership saying they’re not interested, should I leave the door open for that prospective buyer to make a decision while I continue to show the vehicle to other more serious buyers
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:31 PM
1

The first date we had she was actually physically escalating with me in public (sitting in my lap, making out, dancing intimately) so I don’t think she meets that profile. Somewhere along the way I did something to cool her off but then last night she appeared to warm up and cool off again. I was maintaining the same demeanor and approach throughout the evening
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:56 AM
1

I’ll review that again. Your posts have been by far the most helpful, I was trying to use some of your kino techniques and other general strategies last night and I think that’s partially attributable to why she came back in the first place, so thanks for that.
/r/seduction10/04/25 02:51 AM
1

I get what you’re saying, there was some of that but the energy wasn’t there. I’ll try to better calibrate in the future
/r/seduction10/04/25 01:55 AM
1

Love it thank you
/r/seduction10/04/25 01:22 AM
1

Disengaging from making out, subtly breaking contact as I began touching her more intimately
/r/seduction09/04/25 08:55 PM
1

Thank you will do!
/r/seduction09/04/25 07:00 PM
0

Interesting, this could be
/r/seduction09/04/25 06:59 PM
3

The cat thing is no joke you can use their cats as proxies to them sometimes I swear 💀
/r/seduction09/04/25 05:18 PM
6

Yeah I was escalating but she was engaging then disengaging each time when I’d progress further
/r/seduction09/04/25 05:10 PM
1

Fair
/r/seduction09/04/25 05:05 PM
2

Keep making eye contact and smiling at them and they’ll probably get the hint
/r/seduction08/04/25 11:43 PM
12

Now that’s the homie! Winggirl unlocked
/r/seduction08/04/25 05:32 PM
1

How do you approach background and posing for dating app photos compared with professional headshots? Just more relaxed attire and posing? Any particular backdrops you use?
/r/seduction02/04/25 11:44 PM
10

Just approach indirectly and start a conversation in a friendly manner but indicate your interest with your body language
/r/seduction22/03/25 05:38 PM
-6

Yeah I’m just leaving that footnote for younger viewers
/r/seduction15/03/25 06:33 AM
-11

This is way too much unless you’re mid 30’s or older. If we’re talking 20’s just send her an event or a place and say “I’m going to this you should come with.”
/r/seduction15/03/25 06:00 AM
16

LMFAO
/r/seduction09/03/25 03:20 AM
1

Make a statement that reveals something about yourself indicating vulnerability. Something concise but personal, don’t trauma dump or freak her out but something you’d tell a close friend.
/r/seduction08/03/25 12:04 AM
39

Wholesome
/r/seduction05/03/25 07:54 AM
57

“Tell him I said he’s a lucky guy! Have a great day.”
/r/seduction04/03/25 02:14 PM
2

Unconvincing copy, back to the drawing board
/r/seduction03/03/25 10:29 PM
1

Of course, of course. It’s a personal decision at the end of the day
/r/seduction03/03/25 07:36 PM
1

The issue is this is my default approach to life and what that can result in is everything else falling out of maintenance and into recovery mode. So you’re always playing catch up instead of sustainably progressing more slowly in all areas. But think you’re right I need a period of accelerated growth here
/r/seduction03/03/25 07:12 PM
6

How do you balance the career/business and saying yes constantly if you don’t mind me asking
/r/seduction03/03/25 12:51 AM
15

AI
/r/seduction02/03/25 03:59 AM
3

Go to one with an activity like karaoke or pool that you can occupy yourself with in between conversations
/r/seduction01/03/25 05:21 AM
4

Now that’s what I call networking
/r/seduction28/02/25 05:34 PM
1

Will fall apart whenever you try and progress the intimacy of relationships
/r/seduction28/02/25 05:11 PM
3

That’s not an objection that’s a disqualification 😂
/r/seduction28/02/25 02:35 AM
3

Ohhh I didn’t read the last part closely enough, this is a nurse in the UK? Hell yeah hit on her flagrantly 😂 US nurses too for that matter
/r/seduction24/02/25 05:07 PM
8

Her decade plus of costly schooling and residency and her medical licensure aren’t things she’ll risk to reciprocate patient #2573883’s flirtation
/r/seduction24/02/25 05:03 PM
12

Probably mad you aren’t adoring her like everyone else and will lose all interest in you the second you reciprocate
/r/seduction23/02/25 10:41 PM
7

Insane but unfortunately increasingly true username
/r/seduction22/02/25 10:10 PM
1

Therapy, therapy, therapy. Did I mention more therapy? Maybe I’m biased because I work in mental health care and I also grew up with Christian brainwashing but that shit does a number on your self image and engrains sexual shame in your psyche. It’s not easy but it’s worth doing the work to deprogram.
/r/seduction09/02/25 04:04 AM
2

It sounds like you’re doing great tbh
/r/seduction08/02/25 11:14 PM
1

Neither do many of the patients wearing them (they’re in psychosis)
/r/seduction30/01/25 06:56 PM
26

This man is GAY
/r/seduction30/01/25 08:19 AM
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