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It was an interesting social experiment! It's crazy how men think they just deserve whatever space they want to take up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:45 PM
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"50 bucks. That's when the price-performance radio is correct." "That's how much I'm willing to spend for what I want without the hassle of caring what she might want. "Twice I fell in love with a woman at the brothel. You get this good samaritan effect and and want to help get her out of there." "I can't be the white knight for women in the real world, so I pretend to do so with the women I exploit." "The Columbian last week was really horny. But suddenly she disappeared. Too bad." "I really en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:42 PM
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I've purposely sat next to the leg spreaders when I take public transit. I'm a heavyset woman and make sure I take up space. They don't like their space invaded and will try to gently push my leg, and I will readjust my whole body with my knees more directly toward his. They usually move after this, but it's been a fun thing to watch. If they freak out on me, then they look crazy and like an asshole, freaking out for no apparent reason. I haven't needed to take public transit in a few years now,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 04:03 AM
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When my mom died, our neighbors and some of my coworkers got me flowers. A nice gesture after a huge loss. It was really nice to feel thought of and cared about. My then bf? "I almost feel bad for not getting any flowers for you. I know you don't like them." Bitch, I said I don't like flowers being used as a generic replacement for a thoughtful gift, not that I don't like them. Yes I want flowers given to me, any day and especially on my birthday, but for celebrations and holidays, I don't want …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 02:28 AM
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the Nordic model (decriminalize being a prostitute, but keep pimping or buying sex a criminal offense) This is smart. It gives the sex worker the option to do it for whatever reason, but still finds ways to protect them. I would be interested to see how we could fuck it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 09:59 PM
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I made a comment the other day saying OF was shitting on the people that made the company money and now turning their backs on the hard working women that show explicit material. When I said something, I got hit with "So your problem isn't with sex work, it's how society treats it." OML give me a break. And to be fair, if someone WANTS to do it, great, fine, whatever, I really do try not to judge. I've been in the financial position where I've wondered if that was something I could need, or be w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 09:54 PM
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I dated a guy for 7 weeks last year. Besides a bunch of insecurities he had, I was completely grossed out by how he kept his place. It was DISGUSTING. And then I was insulted, because he was a clean freak when he was at my place. Excuse you?! How he keeps his house is how he'll keep your shared house. Be warned!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:40 PM
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The ones that stayed probably wanted this to happen and are rubbing their hands in glee at the prospect at being able to own and rape nine year old girls. My daughter is 9. I was nearly in tears this morning as I gave her chores to do, thinking about how she'd be married off and raped if she lived under Taliban rule. She goes back to school on Wednesday, but under the Taliban, girls won't be able to get an education. I don't know how to help in real ways. I don't have the money to help, and as m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 05:41 PM
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Ugh all these ugly thoughts and realizations. I'm privileged that I can look away from this when it gets too much. These women LIVE IT. My heart breaks for them, and I just feel helpless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:46 PM
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I honestly wish we could barter for the women. Buy them from the Taliban and bring them to safety. It's the best idea I have currently. Money talks. But no politician in the US would think it worth it, buying women's freedom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:31 PM
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I don't necessarily want us to stay there, either. But we literally made this mess, and we've done nothing but make things worse and worse. This is our responsibility. Honestly, at this point I don't know if anything we do - or don't do - would solve the problems there. We've really created a no-win situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:29 PM
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The Taliban aren't fighting right now. As troops left, the Taliban went into villages and hamlets and said we're in charge now. They made it to the big cities in days and have taken over without a fight, because the US military was the force keeping them at bay. I don't know all the details, but I don't think the military our troops were paying for and training up were getting paid by their own government. It's such a sad fucking affair. Worthless men not willing to fight to keep the crazies out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:10 PM
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It very much reminds me of the Vietnam War. This is just shameful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:04 PM
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It's funny. I have no expectations.... because then I'm not nearly as invested and it's easier to throw the trash out when I'm done with it. Hard to throw a shitty souvenir if you've emotionally invested in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 03:04 AM
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I had a male friend who would ask me for dating advice. I'd give him solid advice.... That wouldn't work because he's up to his eyeballs in bar bangs and OF COURSE they don't want to date him. I finally said maybe he's made himself too much of a reputation for being a slut to be a serious dating option. He didn't like the tables being turned. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 09:17 PM
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My god brother is dumb as a box of rocks, heavier than said box of rocks, and just as worthless. I wasn't surprised he couldn't figure it out himself. Serves him right going through a lady's purse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:52 AM
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The JustNo subs always advocate for getting cameras set up anywhere possible. While you can't set them up outside, you CAN set them up inside your home. If you're on the ground floor apartment, you really should get one for every room that has a door or window to the outside. Make sure your windows and patio/balcony door are locked and secured. If your balcony is easy to climb onto, time to booby trap it with plants in breakable pots. If you like having your windows open, you can go to Home Depo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:35 PM
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My god brother went through a friend of ours' purse at school one morning, and for some reason did it again at lunch. She didn't care, but I'm not sure why he did it. Anyway, at lunch, while he's looking through her purse, he says "hey! Where'd it go?" Without missing a beat, another friend randomly responds "it's in her pants". My god brother's realization that the tampon that was missing from her purse was, indeed, in her pants, was priceless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 06:30 PM
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Notice he put her on speaker to show she's crazy, but when she started calling him out, he immediately took her off speaker so his twitch followers couldn't hear he was the problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 05:24 PM
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Aww thank you!! 🥰 I really am impressed with myself. I've come a long way, and am glad I'm not repeating history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:46 AM
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That is true. I was his secretary! Too bad he didn't utilize any of the resources I made
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:44 AM
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They don't mind being an inconvenience to the people in their personal lives, but not any relationship where they're not the superior to everyone else. It'd be a completely different story if they were the landlord instead of the tenant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:55 PM
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My ex didn't even know the babysitter's name. He had no clue what our daughter's schedule was, or if she would be watched by a friend, or in the nanny share, or even why (I was in college in my last year, and doing practicals). Nevermind the fact I'm an avid whiteboard calendar fanatic and had everything down to what days bills were due posted on our whiteboard calendar that he would walk by a dozen times a day. Dude had no clue he could just look there and be informed. He could have had all the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:17 PM
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I think I'm the only person here whose first thought was being mad about the mess 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 09:22 AM
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I've had food poisoning for a few days now. My kitty had been right by my side this whole time. Although I know she just really likes my bed, and my presence is likely just a bonus for her haha I'll give it to my ex, he did go get me a few things from the store when he came to pick our daughter up, and is keeping her a couple extra days so I can recover. This is more than he did through most of our almost 10 year relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:01 PM
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Ugh, so much this! My daughter's dad has done nothing to be a good MALE role model in her life. He won't even discuss the concept of her being interested in boys, let alone dating or having sex. He doesn't want to know about her going through puberty or the prospect of her (likely sooner than later) having a period. All of this has been left to me. Which, honestly I'm fine with, except for the fact that he's being so fucking childish about it, and not being the role model she deserves to have. B…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 07:58 PM
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I dated a man last year for 7 weeks. I couldn't BELIEVE how insecure he was. We had different preferences on how lean we liked our ground beef. He literally asked me if I was breaking up with him over it. That was probably the stupidest thing to ask if we were going to break up over, but it wasn't the only time he was worried about it. The last 2 weeks was me delaying the inevitable. At that point, I deserved to suffer, because I just wasn't taking the trash out. I had no remorse or guilt when I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 01:10 AM
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Aww thank you ☺️ Life isn't easy, but it's mine, and I fully appreciate everything I've worked for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 11:08 PM
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About $4,000. His credit was horrible and he owed the IRS a few thousand dollars, and when we moved to Chicago together, we maxed out my 2 credit cards, and then would make minimum payments. He insisted we needed cable tv, but then would never watch it. He insisted on higher end internet for the computer, but then hardly ever let me use it. He didn't care that my credit got ruined in 2008 when the market was crashing. He didn't care that I signed a 2 year contract with our cellular company, whic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:18 PM
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Happy birthday! I wouldn't have moved in with my then boyfriend, and I would have been honest with myself that the relationship wasn't working, and that it's okay to give up things that don't fit in my life. I wouldn't have allowed my father to continue to try to control my life and "change" me for the "better". I wouldn't have made his opinion of me so important to me. 2 years later I wouldn't have moved halfway across the country (leaving my friends, family and support network) to be with my n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:58 PM
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I drove for Uber for awhile, but quit in January last year, before covid hit. I can't tell you how many times I had riders ask for my number, or invited me to join them in whatever they were going to. Right, like I want to date a guy who doesn't have a car and lives 2 hours away, or go out with you without knowing even the slightest about what you're doing. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 06:34 AM
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Honestly, I think the engagement ring and wedding rings are supposed to be kept by the woman, as historically the man was the breadwinner, and should he die or they get divorced, the wife has something for financial security. Not only are they meant as a promise to fulfill an obligation, but also as a financial safety net. Don't give that shit up. This is honestly the first time I've considered this. I'm not a big jewelry person, so an engagement ring for me was never something I thought of in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:29 AM
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I went to the thread and thank GOODNESS all the comments I read were saying OP's brother deserved what he got. I can't imagine anyone not supporting OP's actions, but no one - that I saw - tried to excuse the brother's cheating or entitled behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:14 AM
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That's good your daughter has learned more and is making a decision for herself! I hope my daughter becomes open to the idea, so she can also make an informed decision. She's only 9, so obviously she has time and a lot of education between now and "then".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 11:24 PM
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My daughter is only 9, but someone at after school care told her about giving birth and how painful it is when she was 6 and since then has said she'll never have babies. Makes me sad that someone ruined this for her, and of course I'd love to eventually have some grandkids, but I've made it clear to her that it's her choice, and not to have kids to make someone else happy, even me! But to know that it's okay to stick to her decision, or to change it later, because it's her body and she can chan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:48 PM
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Actually there is a surgery men can have to make their penis longer or thicker. It makes me giggle knowing this kind of shit really does exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:19 PM
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Thank you! The break up was a blessing in disguise. I'm healed from the loss, and the break up. We have a daughter together, so I still have to see him, but I've been able to put boundaries in place, and after some discussions he's learned why I had some boundaries that he didn't like. We're not 50/50 with co-parenting, but we've settled into a (mostly) healthy routine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:38 AM
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This is something important women need to know, and be able to recognize. When my brother was murdered 6 years ago, I obviously struggled with the unexpected loss. My ex had already been emotionally distant for awhile, and wasn't available for me to lean on. I ended up talking to a male friend, who gave me an open invitation to talk to him as he had lost his bother (a suicide, but a lot of similar feelings of loss). My ex confronted me about this and accused me of emotionally cheating on him. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:18 PM
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Can confirm. I was miserable when I was with my ex. Him cheating on and leaving me tore my world apart and I had to rebuild everything. Best thing he's ever done for me! He is the weekend parent. I get to sleep in and do what I want for nearly 48 hours straight every weekend. I don't have to worry about his wants or needs, I don't have to live in a cheap, messy apartment or never have spare money for things I want and need. I earn less than half of his salary, but I'm the more financially stable…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 06:59 PM
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I've always found the hairless vag creepy. Men deny it vehemently that it's not about making "down there" look child-like, it's about not wanting it getting between their teeth! Okay, I get not wanting pubic floss, but if you're eating my pubic hair, then you're doing it wrong anyway! Whenever this topic has come up in conversation, I am extremely vocal about this and it makes everyone uncomfortable. It should!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 07:03 AM
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I believe this is what happens when boys aren't taught the same things as girls. Boys need to be learning how to cook, do dishes, wash their laundry, vacuum, dust, etc. And yet so many young and adult men I know don't know how to do these basic things. And as adults, they don't attempt to learn them, either. They expect women to take care of the household tasks. This is why every step we as women take to change gender roles/gender chores/etc, the better. HVMs know how to do their laundry and can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:18 AM
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This is what I heard, too! LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:37 PM
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I tried couples counseling with my ex. He went twice before quitting. Said he felt ganged up on. He got it stuck in his head we were seeing the counselor I saw for myself. Even though I told him multiple times before and after that it was a different person. I want to reiterate.... We went TWICE. We barely made it through introductions before he quit. He said he wasn't working. Of course it wasn't, you didn't even give it a chance or try. I stayed, stupidly. Two years later he left me for a marr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:13 PM
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I wish I had people to help me with setting and maintaining boundaries, so I'm glad my experience will help you! I saw you say your managers have your back, and I also saw some suggestions about pre-made "auto" responses. I think those will really help with setting the expectation with customers that you're not there to chat. Couple that with having a "work discord" separate from your "personal discord" will really set you up for success. Feel free to PM me if you need to vent ;) Good luck to yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:10 AM
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I worked at a cellular provider a long time ago. We were given work phones and encouraged to use it to be accessible to customers. Many male customers thought I was giving them my personal number, even though I made it clear "This is my work phone, you can text me if you have questions about your phone or billing, and I'll respond during my next shift." If they texted me trying to chat, I would give a vague response and redirect. "Oh, I'm good, thanks for asking! Did you have a question about yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:11 AM
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Oh I remember this post. The dude was fucking tarred and feathered in the comments. When he tried to defend himself, he only made it worse for himself. He literally said he had expected her to change her mind and decide to stay and take care of the baby. People really raked him over the coals for it. It was beautiful. I really hope he does better for his child than he did for himself, or tried to do to that woman. But my expectations are pretty low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:56 PM
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I've been a single mom for 5 years as of last month. My ex and I co-parent with few issues, but we have both had to learn our own boundaries and each other's. ANYWAY.... My other mom friends have romanticized us getting back together. During our daughter's birthday party last year (in February, so before lockdown and such), they saw my ex and I gasp interacting and being cordial together, and him helping with the party. You know, like the birthday girl's patent? Since then, it's been little comm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 08:09 PM
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I've had guys try to convince me my feelings for them were more than they really were. Like "We'd be amazing together, and I know you see it, too!" kinda stuff. Like... no? Not really. Guys love telling women how they (the women) feel, and it's never an informed opinion or declaration. It's just pure projection. Laugh and walk away. Don't even tell them they're wrong, cuz they won't even admit it to themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:43 AM
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My daughter is 9. I picked her up from her dad's today, and this was our conversation on the drive home. "Who is responsible for your wants, needs and happiness? YOU ARE. Don't ever think someone else is. Who is your number one priority? YOU ARE, and don't ever let some one else make you think you should be anywhere else on that list." She knows not to allow people who aren't good people to her to be in her life, but I also make sure she knows "just because you like some one and want to be their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 01:05 AM
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Thank GOD she has this in writing. She can show that to the judge and they won't like how the daughter is being treated. That's some mental abuse and victim blaming of inspiring degree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 07:55 AM
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You have full autonomy here, remember that first and foremost. They can't make you meet these men, or go on a date with them, or marry them. What they want is only important to them, and it isn't your responsibility to make them happy. The best way to detach yourself from the whole thing is to stop engaging with it. When they bring it up during a phone call, tell them this isn't up for discussion and you'll talk to them in a few days. When you go visit them, or go out with them, and they bring i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 09:59 PM
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I don't even feel bad for the woman dating my ex. They cheated with each other on their SOs (she was married, he and I were engaged with a 4 year old). He has issues with money that bled into my funanci security. We 5 years post breakup and I'm financially stable, and he's telling me he has outstanding debt and keeps landing dead end jobs. You go girl, enjoy your spoils. He'll drain you of everything you have to offer, and then leave you, too. ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 09:21 PM
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I don't blame CF people for choosing that life at all. I wanted kids, got one from my lvm ex, and wish I'd had more, but ultimately I'm so glad we only ended up with one. She's an amazing kid and I can put all my extra time and energy into her, instead of feeling split between multiple children. But even wanting kids I feel the burden of being the primary parent and my ex being selfish. I don't understand how people have children all willy-nilly. You have 6 kids and get kure exhausted, but still…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:39 AM
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I love how I always see posts like this where its like "he's such a lists generic positive traits, man." "Oh, you mean the very basic things he should already be, at minimum?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:03 AM
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I doubt they've ever considered that women might not like something that they haven't seen a million times in porn. To them, they always see it, so it must be a normal thing. I wouldn't be surprised if they were subconsciously doing it. Although most likely it's because it looked hot in porn and they'd like to recreate it, but I doubt they've wasted the effort to consider we have personal preferences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 10:53 PM
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People call these lifestyle differences. They make perfect sense to use to determine if you're compatible together or not. Similar lifestyles, similar life goals, dreams, etc are important to share or have similar to each other. You aren't going to have a fun time if you and your partner don't agree on these types of things, and aren't willing to work together on mutual goals. Don't live with or marry a slob if you don't want to be his maid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:45 PM
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I'm sorry, maybe I'm misreading what you're saying.... What I got from your comment was "Everyone in this sub is over-reacting. Yes, you were harassed, but deal with it until you find another job, as no one at the company should or will care about you or your safety, and no one will receive any discipline for their poor behavior except you." Did I get your message correct?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:05 PM
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I agree with your enthusiasm and advice to get as much evidence as possible, but there are legalities at work with recording conversations with people without their knowledge. Please, in the future, refrain from giving this advice without ALSO stating to the person to know the laws surrounding it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:55 PM
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I dated a guy for a couple months last year that had this issue, too. He was the newest hire, and was first to go when covid hit and all the work dried up. When he filed for unemployment, he was denied because the company said they'd terminated him for poor work performance. He'd been locked out before officially being terminated, so he couldn't get the emails they'd sent him that showed they'd had no issues with his work performance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:53 PM
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File a police report, and make sure to take this above your manager's head. You may also want to speak to a lawyer and ask about getting a restraining order against the client, as this is clear sexual harassment. Make sure when you file the police report you state that your place of employment is doing nothing to make sure you are safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 04:47 PM
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infertility used to be solely blamed on the woman. There was no blame on the men. I feel like that mentality has lasted hundreds of years, just morphed into it being the woman's responsibility to manage everyone's fertility. It's completely fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 02:59 AM
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Oh I definitely agree. But I think everyone should be. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 02:53 AM
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I've heard if this before, but never knew anyone that was actually told they needed their husband's permission to get a procedure done. That is INSANE. Can you go to another state to get it done?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:41 PM
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I know that there have been times women have regretting getting their tubes tied a few years later. I get that, and feel bad for them. BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN TOU WILL. For fucks sake you're in control of your health. If you decide later you want kids, you'll adopt or get a surrogate. I've heard a lot of women - many with kids, even!! - that have been refused by doctors to do the procedure. It's crazy! "You might regret your informed decision later, and I won't be part of that, so I'm deciding for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:34 PM
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My ex does. Willingly. We don't even have a court order for him to do so. He's still an asshole and borderki abusive, but he does care about his kid and want her to have a better life than either of us had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:25 PM
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Well, I will say that it's his body, and he has a right to say he doesn't want it done. I won't say he doesn't get to, because I do believe in fair play. But, for myself, I won't have sex with another man unless he's done it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:24 PM
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Oh of course not. There are tons of people to blame. The women he impregnated, the women's parents for not teaching them proper sex education, schools for not teaching any sex education, the entertainment industry for making sex casual, the list goes on. But the man is not THAT much out of the norm. Maybe an extreme due to the number of children, but many men would love to have this man's sex life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:55 PM
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I can't imagine having kids after 35. I just turned 36 and I don't have the energy for that shit anymore. My daughter is 9 and can handle her own breakfast and lunch by herself (remote learning right now). I don't think my sanity would survive having a baby now. As much as I want one, jeez I'd probably have a mental breakdown from the sheer weight of the responsibility. Of course.... Men don't feel the same sense of responsibility women do. They're fucking oblivious no matter how old they are. M…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:40 PM
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Okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:36 PM
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One of my friends and her husband are trying to adopt 3 siblings. They're great kids! But the shit my friend has said about the kids'parents is UNREAL. Birth mom has 11 kids (3 sets of twins!). Their father has 6-7 kids with their mom, but IN TOTAL HAS OVER 20 CHILDREN with multiple women!!!! AND is in jail. He has never be able to pay child support for now of the children he's sired. It's fucking disgusting. And I'm sure he's proud of his fertility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:35 PM
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I read that they tried it, and men had similar hormonal side effects and couldn't hack it. Aww, poor babies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:30 PM
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I have a daughter who will be 9 next month. I have health problems that would make another pregnancy quite risky for me. I wish I had had another baby years ago, but at this point in my life, it would be adoption. Any man that is interested in being serious with me will know kids won't happen. I decided, when I saw this image, that any man I decide to be with will have to have a vasectomy before we have sex, because as much as I'd love to have another baby, it would physically cripple me, and I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:29 PM
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I can't tell you how many males have tried to come in and save me. I don't know what vibe I put off to make them think I want this. I don't. I've made it clear to anyone that will listen that I am not one to ask for help. I learned as a child that that was a sign of weakness, that someone that helped you had strings to control you. There are less people than I can count on one hand that I would trust to ask for help from. Every guy whose help I've denied has been utterly perplexed by my insisten…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:16 AM
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Likely brother ran across it in his searches. I shudder at the idea of how much of it he watched.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:35 PM
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I think it was more the fact that cousin was talking down about their mom's new job, and the OP equated it to cousin's job. I don't think OP thinks the child (fetal) endangerment is less problematic, or at least, didn't give that impression. Cousin was talking about OP's mom's job, so OP struck back about cousin's job history.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:32 PM
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That's pretty hopeful of you. I highly doubt he'll realize he did anything wrong, and will in fact be both flummoxed and pissed off when his daughter holds a grudge against him for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:44 PM
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More like he's scared his gf will see and ask who that is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 01:30 PM
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There are a few things about FDS I am undecided on, but financial independence is absolutely NOT one of them. I think this is literally the best advice a woman can receive. Be financially independent from anyone else, so you never have to need or rely on someone and be betrayed, let down, used, or abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:13 AM
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Well at least he doesn't let her phone get cut off. Sad that that's the highest that bar can go, but... here we are! Hopefully your daughter sees what he does and knows to avoid that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:14 AM
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This would mean changing companies, but I've been with republic wireless for 6 years now and absolutely love them. They have phones in multiple pay levels (cheap, mid range, ridiculous), and the service is really well priced unless you don't have internet at home and use a bunch of data. If a new phone is what she wants and you can afford it, I highly suggest looking into it. That is, unless it's her dad's responsibility to be paying for her phone, then let him continue his bs and you help your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 12:58 AM
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Thank you <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 02:58 AM
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I'm with this woman. At least now the dirty dishes in the sink are mine, or my daughter's - who IS my responsibility. At least the clothes are washing are mine and hers. When her dad broke up with me, we still lived together for a couple months (boy was that confusing), and he still expected me to cook for him and clean up after him and do his laundry. My place is currently a bit disorganized (just moved a month ago, and mental health taking a toll), but at least it's all MY disorganization. I'l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:32 PM
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I will actually say that that wasn't his goal. He was just extremely needy and had very low self-esteem. He needed constant reassurance I wasn't going to break up with him. If we didn't like the same food, he'd get anxious. It was so nerve-wracking. He was completely insecure in who he was, and unable to feel comfortable or settle into the relationship. He had shown that he was.... well, I thought he was coming off as humble before we started dating, but I realized pretty quickly is wasn't being…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:39 AM
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I dated a guy earlier this year, for less than 2 months. I directly told him he needed someone that had similar needs to him, and that I was not and could not ignore my own needs to meet his, and that we were just incompatible. He begged me not to break up with him. He literally said "whatever you need me to be, I'll be." Doesn't work like that, bud. BYE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:45 PM
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I've made multiple comments with female friends that, if their marriages fall apart and they find themselves single again, I'd love to be their partner.... not sexually, they can do whatever they please in that regard. But like, a life partner, where we share bills and household chores and living responsibilities. They think I'm joking and have no idea why I wouldn't want a husband instead. Girl, I see what your life is like, I know what my life was like with my ex. That shit ain't worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 05:19 PM
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Honestly, he's legally married to her, but that's it. This man doesn't care about her as a person, just her resources. This isn't a marriage, this is a legal binding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:10 PM
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Yes. The first time I made a comment in r/FDS their automod banned me. I hadn't posted in a year and was confused about the whole thing. I was pretty pissed, too. I wasn't being banned for something I did wrong, I was banned for basically "associating with the 'wrong' people".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:38 PM
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If he wants her to look like that he can fuck off. What he wants doesn't fucking matter. If he finds her unattractive, he can fucking leave and let her be who she is and not be weighed down by his negativity. The fuck we talking about 'he wants he can pay for it'? It's her goddamn body! He gets no say!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:10 AM
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In the post he made in r/relationships he admits he was expecting her motherly instincts to kick in and decide to stay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:25 PM
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I remember reading this. He got roasted HARD by every commenter. I think he had originally posted in r/relationships, where he explained that he had thought she would come around and want to be a mother and they could be together. It was pretty fucking deluded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 02:21 PM
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Ladies, please. This is SUPER IMPORTANT!!! My ex hated going to my OB appointments. The place we went to was super slow and we basically spent the day there waiting to be seen (for a scheduled appointment). All he did was complain. He never came prepared for the wait, or found ways to support me. He went because it was his kid, sure, but he didn't care that what he said or did had a negative effect on me. By the 34 week appt, he'd stopped coming. I begged him to come to my 40 week appt, but he d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:11 PM
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Honestly retaliation never occurred to me! That's definitely a fair point. Even the one time I actually hurt the guy that tried to force me to choke on him, he was definitely mad, but I made it clear it was his fault and if he couldn't respect me, then he could fuck off. And then I kicked him out lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:57 AM
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Send his bestie a "thank you" card for taking on the extra baggage. (If you've got a HVM, I'm sorry! I'm just joking! If he's LV, well... I'm not actually saying do it, but....)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:42 AM
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I just literally do this with every new partner. I warn them before we get to that point, too. They laugh it off like I'm joking. Not only does it make sure they know I have all the power, but they also learn to take me seriously. I haven't experienced too many guys that try to treat me like a girl in a porn video, but this has definitely stopped it in it's tracks. I also think most guys like the thrill of the danger, once they know I'm serious. Like, I don't aim to hurt them, just.... set the r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 12:40 AM
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He probably just wants something to blame his bad behavior on. "I'm sorry I raped you, but we were both drunk."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:31 PM
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I don't know.... The first thing I do when I get a dick in my mouth is bite it just hard enough to scare them. Then I let them know that they're very trusting to let me have control over something so sensitive and important to them. I then explain that I'm the one in charge, and if he doesn behave, he doesn't get anything. I had a guy not take me seriously once. He tried to shove me down to make me choke. Instead he ended up screaming and begging me to get off because I literally sunk my teeth i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:22 PM
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I haven't seen the live action version. What did Disney do to screw it up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 08:54 AM
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I shared a bank account with my ex. He just used that card to pay. It made him feel like a man, and I let him. He ruled the bank account, used all my money, and left me with nothing of my own for my own expenses. He'd spend $300 on a Friday night out with the boys, gone for hours on end ignoring my texts (even just a basic where are you guys at now, or hey when are you aiming to be home). But if I went out, I was given a budget and if I was gone more than 2 hours, I got constant harassment and s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:11 AM
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I could have used this 5 years ago. My ex had completely shut me out. Ignored me when I was struggling after my brother was murdered. Accused me of emotionally cheating with a male friend who was helping me through the trauma, but still refused to be emotionally available to me. I told him I WANTED him to help me through this, but he wasn't. He didn't admit it, just continued ignoring me. But didn't throw the "emotional cheating" accusation again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:13 PM
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Growing up in Kansas in the 90s, I got a good sex education. Science, anatomy based. Discussed ALL options to prevent pregnancy, and said there were options to end an unwanted one, although didn't go into detail. My Health Ed. teacher in 8th grade actually said she wasn't allowed to discuss it, but she definitely told us there were ways to research it, and to talk to our doctors if we wanted to know more. I moved to Arizona and due to a difference in graduation requirements, I had to take a seme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:52 PM
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Nah, it has nothing to do with the kid. He's doing this purely to spite his wife. He doesn't care about his kid. Obviously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:11 AM
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I had to teach my ex how to wash dishes. Mind you, we were 23 and he had grown up hand washing dishes, while I had a dishwasher most of my childhood. He literally didn't wash the bottom/underside of plates and bowls. We had a whole fight about it. His argument was that we didn't eat off the bottom. I then yelled "yeah, but when we put them away, we stack the dishes, and then you have dirty, unclean bottom of dishes on top of the clean tops, and now they're not clean anymore!" He was dumbfounded.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:53 PM
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It's not actually a safe space, though. Those women are preoccupied with their misery and only want other miserable people there with them. And when your misery is different from theirs, you're dismissed without even commiseration. The whole point of the sub originally was to have a place to go without having to filter yourself or worry about judgement. It was separated from other parenting groups for that reason. Instead, it's become an insular playground of misery for women who want to complai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:29 AM
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Yup. When I messaged them about it, they were definitely salty! They didn't like my response and reported me and I had a 3 day suspension. People are so fucking sensitive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:40 AM
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I was recently banned from there. They autoban anyone who comments in r/fds , just so everyone is aware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:33 AM
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God I can't imagine. I'm sorry you had a lot of instability with your mom's relationships and however they effected you. Hopefully you learned from watching your mom and are doing better than she did. hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 08:12 AM
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Your flair in this sub is perfect for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:53 AM
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When I was younger and before we all moved away, I promised myself I'd never be that lonely person that goes out to eat or to a movie my themselves. Now I'm in my 30s and it gives me anxiety. I'd love to go out more, but it's easy to find excuses to avoid it.... It's dangerous, I can't afford it, I don't have time (I really do)....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:47 AM
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Hi, single mom here. It's definitely terrifying. I never let a date meet my daughter until I seem them safe. That's no quick and easy check list, and I am very clear that her health and safety are my first priority and they will not survive threatening either. No one I've dated has met her before I've known them at least 6 months, usually longer. I also do this because I don't want her seeing a revolving door of men. I haven't dated much since her father and I split up, so it's not a big concern…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:40 AM
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Ugh this is crazy. I had a woman tell me I was a horrible mother for not allowing my father to build a relationship with my daughter (he's toxic and treated me like shit). Her specific example was that she kept her ex in her life and they coparent well despite the fact he beat her and did "terrible horrible things" to her (her quote). I told her she must be a horrible mother for allowing a known abuser around her and her daughter. She had no self respect and expected me to get down to her level …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:03 PM
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It's to have a reaction emoji. Not that she reacted, but it's the "button" to push to react.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:52 PM
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It may be illegal to out anything in a mailbox without it being mailed. I seem to remember hearing this a long time ago, but I have no proof of this. Double check. But I do say so fliers on light posts and trees to get the word out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:43 PM
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I also want women to be able to vent here, which is again why I couldn't provide any specific examples. Just some of the catchphrases here feel too much sometimes. But I also maintain that if we want to be high value ourselves, then demeaning and dehumanizing men is not the answer. We can vent and rant and describe our experiences and go through our healing process without taking our feelings of being unvalued and inhuman and putting them on men. I don't want to take away the safe space this is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 06:40 PM
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Thank you for hearing me out. And I agree with you, it is a balance. Women come here to vent and be angry, and in the moment how they say things isn't as important as what they're saying. That's why I didn't give any specific examples, because to do so would be trying to split hairs. I just don't want to see this sub become the female version of a toxic wasteland. I've found a lot of valuable information here and want to be able to point other women here for support and change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:50 PM
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I mean, I'm not gonna be wearing high heels or expensive clothing, but I'll make sure I'm freshly bathed, have on some foundation and look presentable. He still better think I'm better than his favorite movie of all time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 09:34 AM
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I've only been frequenting this sub for a week or two. It's easily one of my favorite subs. There is such a female positive message here, and I love the support we give each other. I have read things that make me uncomfortable, though. It borderlines on sexism or bullying. The underlying message is correct and I agree with it, but when we shit talk and devalue men - no matter their value - we actually dehumanize them. I worry that this sort of behavior could become the female version of what wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 09:11 AM
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A man that wants to please will learn what gets you off. I've had plenty of LVM be eager in bed and willing to work the right buttons. But that's likely because the LVM I tend to attract are excited to get ANY action and like a positive response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 09:01 AM
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Time to redecorate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:59 AM
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Well I for one hope you're doing better than me. I'mma send you some hugs and a whole lot of love. Because you know you deserve it. We're gonna get through it all. We're already through the worst. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:46 AM
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Jesus you just described the last 14 years of my life and I'm now crying. I don't even know why I'm crying. I've been free of him for 4 years now. But you're right. You're completely right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 06:32 PM
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That's exhausting!!! Another thing my ex used to do... When I'd complain he wasn't helping with cleaning, he'd freak out and start saying "I'll just do everything then!" Went on for years! I'd start backpedaling and trying to explain that's not what I want. One day this started, but as soon as he started his victimization "Fine! I'll just do everything!" I replied with "Cool. You do that. Let's see how long that lasts before you ask me to pull my weight." I never got that line of shit again, but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:59 AM
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Early flag I noticed with my ex is that he didn't let go of things. He'd hold onto them until it was too late to do anything about it except be surprised it was bothering him. He did it with his family, he talked about his ex and his friends. He'd complain about things, but not work with them to address it. Or he would do so in a way that put them on the defensive. Another early flag is how they treat their family. This is super difficult because sometimes there really is toxicity from the famil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:17 PM
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I moved across the country to be with my now ex. I got my kick ass daughter out of it, but I definitely regret giving up so much for him. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 06:04 PM
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You were so nice about it all, too. I would have been polite until he started blaming me. "I asked you yesterday for definitive plans. You didn't give me any. I'm not sitting here lining for you. If you had wanted to get together, you would have responded. I gotta go get ready to hang out with someone who could nail down plans."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:59 PM
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I didn't know he had as racist when we started dating, or for the first 2 years. Then it became the sunk cost fallacy, especially after we had our daughter. I was always vocal against him when he said his racist crap, and we did have fights about it. But of course he said these things around others, so I was a minority voice. It was definitely a point of contention in the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 05:22 PM
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He probably would have tried to have sex with her in her mother's bed, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 08:41 PM
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Thank goodness his new gf had her tubes tied after her 4th kid. I don't think he'd want another kid anyway (we already have a daughter), but I don't think I could handle it lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 05:05 PM
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My ex is a racist. Would drop all the most colorful slurs. Didn't matter what I said or how uncomfortable it made me. Funny thing, his next (and current) gf is half black half mexican, and he thought it was still okay to use slurs. Apparently she has since corrected him of his mistake. But when he comes to pick up or drop off our daughter, he's had some choice words to describe the woman he left me for. It's still there, he's just pretending it's not. I have yet to understand the how and why, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 06:55 AM
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Thank you. I really appreciate the love. I've done some dating, but obviously I'm not mentally there yet. I'm focusing on my daughter and myself for now. I like a lot of the messages in this sub. Not all, but really just the promotion of self love and self advocacy and strong boundaries is just amazing. It definitely helps seeing other women putting themselves first, and sending good vibes to each other. I hope your life lessons to take into your next relationship land you with the HVM you deser…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 08:59 AM
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I learned a lot from that relationship. I'm healing, but I have no idea if I could ever fully commit myself to another man again. I'd like to think it's possible for the right man... But I left that relationship broken inside. I'm glad I'm not with him anymore. I'm glad I've put in the work to heal and improve my life. I am happier now. But that spark is definitely gone. I'm still a work in progress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 08:49 AM
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I would say no to the thoughtless ring. I'm not worried about price. I'm not a fan of yellow gold or diamonds. Any man who wants to marry me would know that. If he out effort into finding a ring he knew I'd like, I'd accept it. Riches aren't what I'm after. I'm looking for dedication, stability, purpose. Money helps, sure, but only if they're responsible with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 08:40 AM
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I shared a bank account with my ex, where he spent all the money and then would ask me to use my credit cards to pay the cable that I didn't want, or buy cigarettes for him. When the great recession hit, my credit tanked because we both lost our jobs. I didn't leave him. After having our daughter, I went back to school while being the stay at home mom. He did nothing to help with cooking, cleaning, caretaking or scheduling. But because I wasn't working, he would call me a mooch. I didn't leave h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 08:11 AM
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I'm at a loss for words here. I'm so sorry about your experience. Is it too much to want to hug you? Lol your ex should be ashamed of himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:51 AM
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That is exactly what I was thinking, but I couldn't put it into words. That low self-esteem, give up mentality. I would be so fucking disappointed if I ever had that. Your next MAN will be way better, because you know better now than to pick someone that isn't up to the challenge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 12:55 AM
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Wow, I have never experienced that. I've always had the eager-to-please-her types and didn't know guys could be so lazy and have such low morale about something they are so desperate to have. I'm sorry you've experienced this and hope you never do again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 12:43 AM
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Aannnnddd this is exactly why I will never be bound. I like a little kink and have some specific pain kinks, but no way would I allow ANYONE unfettered access to my body without the ability to stop them. Nope. Not gonna happen. I don't care if you lack the imagination to think my hands having to stay where we agreed they'd stay isn't bondage enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 12:32 AM
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"Thanks, I left you for me." Good for you, though! I'm sorry I oh lose someone you cared about, but dropping dead weight is so freeing, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:05 PM
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I pretend to be a crotchety old lady and won't use apps like WhatsApp. So there's that. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:37 AM
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I am not used to being called a queen 👀 haha but ty, I'm much happier now, and I get the whole bed to myself when my kiddo doesn't come her way in lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 10:20 PM
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I really am surprised I haven't either. But I know I've seen in OkCupid somewhere that they'll get banned if they send them. Plus their chat doesn't allow you to upload pictures directly anymore, so you have to send a link. So they could be banned on multiple platforms. I'm sure for some this isn't a deterrent at all. But it sounds like a lot of work just to sleeve out a woman. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 10:19 PM
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So far I actually haven't! I actually have a group of friends (women and straight men) who have critiqued dick pics sent to me before, and they're sorely disappointed lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 07:03 PM
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I have a section in my profile that says that I'm looking for a man that can take care of himself, and that I'm not looking to be his mommy, maid, social secretary or sugar mama. I also have a disclaimer that I will share any dick pics with others for the laughs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 06:13 PM
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Oh of course! And by no means am I advocating to be a SAH partner. But I am willing to admit it can work. I'll never be the SAH partner again, and all financial discussions are abso-fucking-lutely on the table and need to be discussed before moving in/marrying/getting serious. My ex messed me up in a million ways and it took me years to get steady. I am not about to give power to another man, and that includes finances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 06:08 PM
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I've seen couples where one stays home and it works. It takes a lot of trust and discussion. But those couples that it worked also had been together for a long time before one became the SAH partner. One of my friends became the SAHM when they started fostering children they're trying to adopt. She misses working, but they have their balance. So, I'm not against it if it's done right. The problem is that it's rarely the case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:39 PM
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My ex taught me a lot of life lessons. One if the hardest was to never be financially trusting, and never depend on someone else to pay the bills. I barely survived the first year after I moved out. Now I've got a car and looking at possibly buying a house, and my credit is in great shape. He's driving his gf's car, they rent from her parents, and both of their credit is in the drain. Doing better without you 😘✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:23 PM
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I literally put on my dating profile that dick pics get shared and mercilessly critiqued by anyone looking for a good laugh. I wasn't sure if it would be a deterrent, but I haven't received any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:12 PM
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I had a boyfriend for about 2 months earlier this year. I said a similar sentiment, and he was very emotionally hurt that I didn't need him. Turned out he was emotionally fragile and was faking his stability to be with me. When we were having our breakup discussion, he literally said to me "anything you need me to be, I'll be". I need you to not be my boyfriend, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:15 AM
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