BhaaluNecessities Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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2	Q4ALL: Do unattractive and feminine men have a chance? What do you mean by unattractive? What do you mean by feminine? These two words are extremely nuanced, and subjective. If by unattractive you mean bad-looking, I would say that it is more likely for a bad-looking person to be incel or forever alone. If you're good looking, people treat you better and you're more likely to have positive experiences with the people you're attracted to early in life, which becomes a feedback loop. The complement is true for ugly people: early life rejection and sec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/17 12:56 AM
2	Feminism and The Red Pill have far more in common with each other than either party cares to admit I agree with /u/VoidInvincible that there is a substantial overlap between feminism and the manosphere in general, which includes TRP. One thing to keep in mind is that these communities aren't at all unified. There are so many different ways to be feminist, ways to be a seducer/PUA, ways to be red-pill. As someone active in feminist circles, I can tell you that there is not any semblance of a single, unified feminist platform. There are many feminists who hate each other. Likewise, there are pe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/17 12:40 AM
1	If you had your way, what solutions would you implement to repair gender relations? I believe very strongly that practically all problems between men and women ultimately arise from patriarchy--the social system that devalues women, girls, and femininity relative to men, boys, and masculinity, and enforces gender roles with the threat of violence. Feminism is ultimately the solution, but feminists are doing a lot wrong these days and shoot themselves in the foot all the time by engaging in reactionary and adversarial behavior. Feminism will see more success if feminists focus o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/17 12:20 AM
2	Discussion: Swinging. I should preface this with the disclaimer that I think /u/buartha's answer is great and I'm not suggesting any change in their behavior or opinions about swinging or polyamory. If you're not naturally jealous and you don't bond emotionally through sex then it may be for you. I just thought I'd comment on this since I'm both naturally jealous and I emotionally bond through sex, yet I've had fulfilling and healthy polyamorous relationships. For me, success was about understanding the root cause of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/11/17 12:04 AM
1	As a man, the biggest thing I envy about women is the 'sisterhood' and female solidarity that doesn't seem to have a male equivalent Why shouldn't women play a part in male bonding patterns? Men and women are all part of the same families and communities, after all. If the bonding patterns truly are generally damaging, it is in everyone's best interest for women to be involved. it would be the same as me making judgments about how women should or shouldn't interact with each other. If you're judging how women are interacting with each other, and you can see some truth that they don't, it's in their best interest to make them …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/17 11:53 PM
1	I went from a player to getting whipped What are you afraid of, and why?	/r/seduction	28/11/17 07:17 PM
1	Are my standards too high? I'm going to guess that you're either more attracted to women than you are to men, or that the men on tinder put a lot less work into looking good in their tinder profiles than the women do. I don't think it's likely that you're more harsh to men than you are to women. There's another study from the okcupid blog (the same place the study you mentioned is published) that discusses how attractive people are rated based on the type of camera used to take the photo. Presentation matters. And in the …	/r/seduction	28/11/17 12:22 AM
2	Should I go there? Need advice I think you should move on from this one particular woman--stop focusing on getting with her. After a bad sex experience between the two of you, she probably won't want to try having sex with you ever again. Even so, things don't have to be awkward when you're interacting in a social situation with other people. If she wasn't going to be at the event (prome?) would you go? If you would go even if she wasn't going to be there, you should go. Just have a good time and don't have any expectations f…	/r/seduction	27/11/17 05:14 PM
1	What are your thoughts and opinions about the current Hollywood revelations of sexual abuse? It's about time people started caring about sexual exploitation in the entertainment industry. Everyone has known about industry-wide abuse for so long, yet none of the abusers have faced any consequences. Weinstein should do time. We also need to do better as a society about listening to women who have been exploited by superordinates in the workplace, and I think these revelations will help push things in that direction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/17 10:30 PM
2	What are your thoughts and opinions about the current Hollywood revelations of sexual abuse? This totally ignores the amount of investment actors have in their career--thousands and thousands of hours of practicing and rehearsing. You can't just tell someone to go throw away their life's work and go work at starbucks (where they might already work a second job to compensate for the difficulty of making money as an artist) because the industry is messed up. Fix the industry!	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/17 10:13 PM
2	indian incels, can you just admit that you consider yourself celibate because you cant date 5'8" blonde white shiksa hb9 goddesses, not because you couldnt get an indian girl that you just dont want Most Indian men I know of prefer Indian women--I haven't met many who would rather be with a white woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/17 09:55 PM
1	Q4RP: Quote a Shit Test doesn't date brown guys Wow, just straight up racist, not even a shit test if you ask me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/17 09:33 PM
1	Let's face it, there is no perfect formula for success in sex/love/relationships Of course there's no perfect formula. But there are imperfect formulas that work enough of the time that you can eliminate reliance on the "luck of the draw." Each individual woman you might try to interact with has a certain probability of becoming your lover or girlfriend, given your confidence, looks, and other physical/behavioral traits. You can change the probability of a woman becoming your lover or girlfriend by changing your looks and behavior, but there will always be a probability of r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/17 08:52 PM
1	There are no high or low value women. There are just women. Women...have one primary goal...getting a man she and her social group finds valuable to commit and offer marriage to her. Except for the women who don't want to get married, don't believe in marriage, care more about their career than their family life, women who want to marry a woman instead of a man, and many other women who don't want to get married for perfectly valid reasons I didn't mention. And you can't really conclude that there is anything much beyond her ability to make a man love he…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/17 06:45 PM
1	TRP mimics the syptoms of being attractive, not the cause. There's no such thing as a man being "more attractive than he really is." If there's attraction, than the man is attractive by definition. The popular advice on how to be attractive is wrong because people don't think critically about their emotions, and recognize the way attraction really works. TRP is more tuned into the way attraction really works, although it relies mostly on pseudo-science and personal experience that is colored by personal bias to support its theories. TRP's way of copying…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/17 05:53 PM
1	Understanding TRP mindset for confused LTR guy? TRP is an ideology not unlike a religion. Religions teach a combination of truth and fantasy. By applying critical thinking, we can figure out what's true and what's not true. /u/pymarathon, you have done a good job of figuring out what parts of TRP are true and which ones are part of a quasi-religious fantasy. The things you "don't understand" are part of the fantasy. The fantasy comes from men's shame--the feeling of inadequacy, of not being man enough, of feeling weak and impotent, drives a r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/17 05:14 PM
1	Q4Women: How do you feel about male and female Anti-Feminists? I identify as feminist. What I think about anti-feminists is that they have a different way of interpreting reality and defining their values than I do. The first thing I notice when I'm talking about feminism with anti-feminists is that they think feminism is something other than what I think it is. So really they're against something different than what I'm for. To me feminism is about understanding patriarchy and criticizing it. Patriarchy is a men's issue in addition to being a women's issue…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/17 04:38 PM
1	To normies/chads/stacies: What would be the best advice you would give to incels? My insecurity about my body has a greater negative impact on my success with women than what women think of my body, even though there are women who will reject me based on my body. It really is shocking how many times I didn't make a move on a woman where (in hindsight) there was definitely mutual attraction, but I just wrote off the possibility of her being attracted. If you are anything at all like me, I can guarantee that you and a woman have, at some time in your life, felt mutual attractio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/17 01:27 AM
3	To normies/chads/stacies: What would be the best advice you would give to incels? Nobody else here gave a useful answer so far, so I'm going to do my best to give a real, substantial answer. I'm what you'd call a normie man, closer to the incel side than I am to the Chad side. I'm 26 at the time of writing. Lost my virginity at the age of 23, and had several dry spells since then lasting over a year each. That being said, I've had sex with a handful of women, including some really beautiful ones, and have been in love with a beautiful woman who loved me just as much as I love…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/10/17 01:26 AM