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I feel like I am never going to have anyone else, all I’ve wanted is a husband and kids. Now I’m in my late 20s and single. I don’t think it will ever happen for me.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 05:10 PM
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Funny thing is he keeps telling me that I’m gaslighting him, and that I’m not a good potential wife because I don’t listen. He says I’m immature but I feel like I’m always being talked to and treated like a child. He doesn’t understand that. I think I am coming to the realization that none of this is okay, now that I’ve had time to reflect during this break. I was just hoping he could change and we could make it work out. I am the issue anytime I express what I think and I just want to make sure…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 04:42 PM
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I’m sorry if it’s irritating. This has been years of him telling me I’m a problem, things are my fault, and that I’m not doing enough. I feel like I’ve been programmed to believe that I’m the issue or have at least played a part in it. And I may have, like I said I’m not perfect. I don’t know. 😞 I feel crazy and he makes me feel crazy.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 04:29 PM
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A question to top this one as well, how do you set the boundaries clear and effectively while still being feminine/kind?
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 01:51 AM
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So he says I shouldn’t tell people he watches these “red pill” videos bc he doesn’t believe in everything they say. He says he only takes parts from it that he considers important… But I do know for a fact he watches them in his free time sometimes. Specifically fresh n fit is one
/r/RedPillWives19/02/24 03:37 PM
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Thank you for the insight. I will look into it. I had a few conversations with him since this post. I told him I’ve never felt good enough for him and he said he can work on that and I felt like he was listening. He said he will work on giving me whatever I want but that I need to give him what he wants. But then a conversation later he proceeded to say how I’m disrespecting him since I haven’t been to the gym and he really wants me to. Then talked about the lack of sex, cooking, etc again and s…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/24 09:46 PM
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How does your husband treat you? And what do you do for him? I would like that know what things are just taking it too far and what crosses the line of what he should expect out of me. Thank you for all the advice.
/r/RedPillWives14/02/24 11:37 PM
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I have already been wearing skirts and dresses pretty much 24/7 around him. The only time I don’t is when I go to work, if he’s around I need to be in a skirt. He wouldn’t be okay with just on the weekends. I cook when I can, not every single day but I try. But he puts that role on me, which I’ve been okay with. It just hasn’t happened as often as he wants. And I am the only one who cooks, he does not. I am not even sure if he’s a better cook than me or not, because he doesn’t cook. I get consis…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 01:50 PM
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I also have thought those things were the bare minimum from him. He says that girls back in the day used to have the bare minimum of wearing dresses all the time, cooking, cleaning and sex. All these thoughts have come to my mind, but he always has something to say back that justifies his demands… There are things I appreciate from him, and I’m sure things he does from me. However, the consistent lectures and making me feel less valued is starting to creep up and weighing on my heart heavy.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/24 10:46 PM
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He said he’s always accommodating me bc with me around he has to smoke less, listen to my stories that he doesn’t actually care about but will act like it, give me cuddles, rubs, buy groceries, paying the bills, “being willing to die” for me if we get married Thats how he justified doing so much for me. How he thought he was doing more for me than I was for him. And because of this I should be head over heels to do all this for him.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/24 09:57 PM
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It hurts because I trusted him, that he was doing this all out of helping our relationship. But as a result I feel like I have been left out in the dust. He says in return he offers cuddles, rubs, listens to my stories that he does “care” about, buys groceries/food. So I should be grateful and do these things for him
/r/RedPillWives13/02/24 09:47 PM
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He just makes me incredibly guilty when I try to stand up for myself and say no. Makes it sound like any other girl would be happy to change into a skirt on command. I don’t really mind doing it most of the time. I just don’t like the mindset behind if I don’t do it, then he doesn’t want to be with me. In his words, a lot of girls would be happy to put on a skirt and make meals in return of being taken care of.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/24 09:42 PM
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That is the best way I’ve seen it put. We want to be loved and men want to be respected. In my mind, there are men who provide that stay at home lifestyle out there who wouldn’t make all these demands. Such as his dad does for his mom. But to what extent? Im not sure if my boyfriend understands that. I rather be loved and has less financially than more financially and less love. But is it my job to try to make him realize this? Im not sure if it’s possible for me to.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 09:17 PM
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I’ve never heard of it but I will look into it. I think what is hard for me to understand is I never saw any of this as malicious before. I truly believed him when he said he was asking for all these things to make our relationship better. So for some reason when I hear these things I keep wanting to go to his defense.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/24 08:08 PM
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So it’s a low cost living area, 3 bedroom and he brought it few years ago. Half of the mortgage is only $500. He pays the other half of the mortgage plus all the bills. Most of the groceries. Do you think this equates to what he’s asking of me? Honestly what I’ve been trying to figure out bc he believes it does.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 07:09 PM
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He despises modern women because they “have nothing to offer”. I have to pay half the mortgage because I went to school and “chose to work” But I will still do house chores in my free time as much as I can
/r/RedPillWives13/02/24 06:49 PM
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He will choose what I wear for the majority of the time. Sometimes he will let me pick what to wear, but it has to be a skirt that I choose. When I come back home from work, I have to change immediately. He doesn’t like touching me without a skirt on.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/24 06:46 PM
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When his family, people tried to tell me or him that this stuff was not okay, he said I should be different from them. Said that I shouldn’t listen to people who say those things/be easily influenced by others outside our relationship.
/r/RedPillWives13/02/24 05:59 PM
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I just don’t understand what’s wrong with me that he doesn’t want want me be with me if I want to wear leggings occasionally. Am I as a person not enough in itself? I am a decent girl, I don’t get it :(
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 05:53 PM
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What kind of boundaries should I set? I have a feeling if I set him, he won’t be happy with them or think it’s worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 05:28 PM
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He’s always said that I am/girls are easily replaceable. I got upset by this and he told be to “be different then”. It hurts not being loved for me. Also question: when I try to tell him I feel like his love is conditional, he comes back with saying that girls/my love would be conditional if he didn’t make a certain amount of money or is successful. He said that girls will leave in a heartbeat if a guy doesn’t have money or is successful. How do I respond to this?
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 05:27 PM
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He makes me feel like I don’t respect him if I don’t do these things/want to for him. I’ve been trying to show that I’m worthy of being his wife. But keeps saying I need to continue showing it
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 05:25 PM
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He keeps saying that he is ready to marry me, but that I need to “keep it together” and continue to show that I’m marriage worthy. Says I need to master the main things that all guys want: sex, cooking, cleaning, dressing, etc No one else in his family thinks like this. He just consistently watches YouTube videos about how girls are from rp perspective and wants me to be interested in the content too.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 02:21 PM
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The thing is I know he truly doesn’t like my breast size, but then at times he will be sweet and says he still loves them but just wishes they were bigger. But that he’s come to term with the size. Bc of this he will look at other girls online to get that satisfaction of the bigger ones. At the beginning he wanted to make sure I’d be open to enlargement after marriage if they stay small after kids. He twisted it in a way that I should want to do this to make him happy. At times he will make me f…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 02:14 PM
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He started buying in his mid 20s. Started saving up early. Plus his dad owns properties too so he had that support
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 12:49 AM
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He has a job but it only pays like $500 a week. The real estate money he gets from rent just goes back into the mortgage for those properties.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 12:31 AM
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So he has discussed marriage with me, but always seemed super hesitant. We talked about me working up until we actually have kids and then I can stop or slow down working. But yes marriage was in the talks but we just never got there.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 11:51 PM
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We rarely go on dates because he doesn’t have money and always says he’s running low. All his money is in his properties. He only buys me clothes that he likes, which are skirts, dresses and only soft skirts. When we take trips I have to pay for some of it. And the reason I have to pay now is because he will be “paying for everything” in the future
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 11:22 PM
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Ya know, that makes a lot of sense. I am one of the most submissive people I know, I grew up in a very traditional, Indian household. Funny thing is, his family is not traditional at all, and none of the women in his family are like me. I always raised questions about this. Thank you for this suggestion. I will definitely take a listen.
/r/RedPillWives12/02/24 10:29 PM
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I was just trying to find the best place to get holistic points of view. Thank you for your kind words ❤️
/r/RedPillWives12/02/24 05:58 PM
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It just breaks my heart that he doesn’t want to be with me if I don’t do this or that. I still love him so much. And I’ve never asked anyone for opinions on this before because he always told me I shouldn’t listen to what other people say, which makes sense I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 05:52 PM
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My name is not on the mortgage. It’s fully his property. But to be fair paying half the mortgage with him is still cheaper than paying rent for an apartment
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 05:45 PM
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I actually do not mind wearing the skirts and dresses most of the time if it makes him happy. However, sometimes I would like to wear something else occasionally, and I don’t want to feel less loved and not wanted because of it. He genuinely does just like the feel of skirts and dresses, that’s why he wants someone who will wear them all the time. Emotionally I have not felt like enough for him, there’s always something he tells me I need to do or work on. Even materially I still work full time …
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 04:41 PM
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He says that eventually he will be paying for everything and providing mostly everything for the family in the future. But not right now.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 04:22 PM
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