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I never said I dislike western men. I think they are great for the most part, same with non-western men. all people, men and women, western and non-western, fall short on ideal perfect behavior. I do not discriminate between groups. I find it weird that you are so fixated on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:41 PM
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in my comment you replied to, I already clarified that hatred is not bound by geography, nationality, or culture. I never said that western men were better or worse than non-western men. to be honest, I am not an expert on the cultural differences, but I would assume that some non-western men are better than western men, and that some are worse. I think that the group of men that western men should behave like is "good men."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:19 AM
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I understand what you are saying, but "women hate men" is a meaningless statement unless contrasted with how much men hate women. for example, if men and women hate each other equally, it would suggest that humans are hateful in general, or that some external factor is provoking people to treat each other badly. if one gender has more hatred for the other, then it would suggest that this is a gendered issue. I looked at the study he sent, and I already left a comment about it. I was not especial…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:47 AM
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I have seen that article before, but I find it confusing. it says 35% of women feel positively about men, but it does not say anything about the other 65%. does the remaining 65% feel negative? completely neutral? and how do men feel about women? there is no meaningful conclusion, just a random statistic with no connection to anything. also, this was linked in the same article lol https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/womens-rights-boys-andrew-tate-adolescence-manosphere-b2855109.html
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:16 AM
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same reason western men are so hateful towards women. some people are just hateful
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 05:25 AM
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what even is this post?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 03:36 AM
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oh well that's fair enough lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 02:44 AM
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I agree with this except the part about trying to outwit your partner. I would want my husband to be the leader, not because he is inherently smarter or better at making decisions, but as an act of love to show that I do trust him, and that I believe he will make the best decisions he can out of love for me and our children. besides that though, this is so accurate. no matter how sweet or timid a woman is naturally, submission is her own personal choice, and a domineering man will never gain eno…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:53 AM
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you are not a rape victim. please go to literal therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 08:06 PM
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I don't think you quite understood my reply. I'm not arguing against what you said. what I'm arguing is: how can you understand a human being without observing their behaviors and reactions? even the most advanced medical technology cannot tell you who that person is fundamentally, even in a biological sense. however, it is possible to infer something about them by observing their actions (even if the actions are a result of who they are and not the other way around). however, it seems like your…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:06 AM
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well I am very glad you recognize that people are more than their outward appearance. a lot of people say "body" but are only referring to the physical appeal (shape and color) while excluding instincts and brain functions. however I do think actions, reputation, and skills are an outcome of the inherent identity of the person and necessary for understanding who that person is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:31 AM
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body includes the brain, not just ass and tits
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:02 AM
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some women love the vacations, expensive restaurants etc but it's definitely not something I've ever prioritized. in my previous relationships we often went to the library, the park, or a coffee shop. I like relaxing activities and I'm not an "adventurous" person, so I personally think it has more to do with personality with gender. for the specific questions you asked, yes ofc life milestones, knowledge of each other, and formative years are important to women. for example my best friend is sti…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:22 PM
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what is the point of this post?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 01:37 AM
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thank you : )
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 10:09 PM
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I haven't really met any women who watch love island or euphoria, so I can't say for sure on those ones. I certainly enjoy other romantic media though. I would guess that women enjoy a blend of romance and sex in media, and that men enjoy non-romantic sexual media. for example, women might watch a show that's simultaneously romantic and sexual (like love island), whereas men might just look at pornography instead of getting invested in fictional characters. I think men tend to compartmentalize s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 02:57 AM
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I don't really mind being approached tbh. like, someone is interested in me, yay! if I'm not interested, I can just reject them politely, it's not a big deal. a real problem is men who act in dangerous ways, try to stalk you, etc., but the majority of men approaching are not like this, and I don't understand why people conflate them. also, men are expected to make the first move, which is much more difficult when a negative reaction is almost guaranteed. this is obviously very discouraging, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 07:42 PM
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it's extremely attractive, considering that the majority of men do the opposite. however, if he holds the view that women's bodies are inherently evil, then no thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/26 04:16 AM
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that is a good point. I probably would not be fine with my partner going hiking in that situation, but I don't really see it as cheating by itself. however, if I had made it clear that I see it as cheating, and he then continued to do it, I would end the relationship. also, there could be other factors that make the situation more complicated. for example, what if all his best friends are also members of the hiking group and it's one of the only times where they all get to see each other, plus t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 03:21 AM
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people go to the club because they enjoy music, dancing, and alcohol. meeting and flirting with new romantic partners is a part of the experience if you are single and looking for a date. otherwise it's not. you can compare it to other social places/events. you could meet your partner at a cafe, but still enjoy getting coffee just for fun. or you could meet your partner at a hiking event, but still love to go hiking either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 08:58 PM
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if the man only goes to the club with the sole motivation of dancing and flirting with random women, yes he should change his behavior. same with the woman. however, if either partner enjoys going to the club for the experience itself, then they do not necessarily have to change their behavior. most of clubbing is just drinking and dancing as part of a crowd, often with friends. also, if both partners enjoy clubbing, they could go to the club together.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 01:22 AM
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I know women don't approach. and the equivalent of a man approaching a woman is a woman accepting the approach. that's why I gave the example of giving out her phone number (presumably after someone had asked her for it). a man is still advertising himself to be looked at, which DOES get attention from women, even if they don't make a move. men admiring women is equivalent to women admiring men. men's admiration of women compels them to make a first move, and women's admiration of men compels th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:18 AM
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if it was in complete agreement from the beginning, then yes, what you're saying is completely reasonable. the approaching man does have a way to know for sure. if the woman rejects him, he knows she was not interested. if she is in a relationship, it's her responsibility to reject him, and his responsibility to accept rejection. and if he doesn't put himself in the position to be accepted or rejected in the first place, then nothing happens, there is no opportunity for anyone to cheat, and ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:17 AM
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hmm, I see what you're saying, but I disagree. I've been approached by men for relationships 4-5 times in person. I don't wear makeup, and my fashion style is very modest (usually sweater with a long skirt or baggy pants). men approach me because I am female and good looking due to genetics, not because of my clothes. if someone approaches me while I'm in a relationship, that is not my fault as I did nothing to cause it. I cannot control anyone's actions but my own. I do disapprove of anyone who…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 02:25 AM
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I am glad we agree, but I don't exactly understand how other women are involved in this. what do you mean by making connections with other women? like, going up and flirting with them? or just happening to be attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 01:39 AM
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first of all, if she knows he hits up women while in a relationship, she should not get into a relationship with him in the first place. if she didn't know and it came as a surprise, she should not stay with him. second of all, the female equivalent of hitting on 5 women every night would probably be giving your number out to 5 men every night, or going up to guys and seducing them. being attractive is NOT cheating. the male equivalent of "advertising" is literally the same as what women do - we…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 01:31 AM
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it's not reasonable. I feel like the male equivalent would be a man going to the gym, wearing a suit all the time, having an excellently trimmed beard and haircut, and loves going out to drink with his friends. maybe he wears jewelry and perfume as well. it would be ridiculous to date this man and then expect him to change every aspect about how he presents himself because you think he's too attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 01:19 AM
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why do they say women are too much work?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 01:06 AM
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male k-pop idols are extremely popular with women
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 12:56 AM
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in my opinion, this is a bit hypocritical. if you get into a relationship with a woman who wears revealing clothes, loves going to the club, and is active on social media, why would you expect her to change her entire lifestyle just because she's dating you? you're the one who chose to date her knowing that information. don't be in a relationship with someone if their lifestyle is going to make you jealous. if you want a woman who dresses modestly and stays away from the club, find someone who i…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 11:10 PM
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so he was misinformed when he was in his 20s, so therefore he's literally delusional and incapable of being in a relationship? everyone has been misinformed about one thing or another at some point in their lives, and have worldviews based on misinformation. your tone is extremely accusatory for no reason. sure, plenty of women would love to work towards their goals with their partners. but there is also something undeniably attractive about a man who has achieved some of his goals and already h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 02:17 AM
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I think having that confidence could help him with dating. having a stable job, a decent place to live, and time for hobbies are all positive traits that women are attracted to, and it's not bad to be proud of that. he mostly needs to realize that everyone isn't judging him for staying single. also, I did not get the impression that he thinks all women are gold diggers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 04:20 PM
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I did not expect to see enneagram stuff on here, I'm type 4 lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 04:15 AM
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I just prefer a real man over a picture of a man lol. yeah the pictures of hypermasculine shirtless guys on the internet do nothing for me, but I am extremely sexually attracted to guys I date. I do experience "male-like" sexuality when I see sexualized pictures of women, but I would not actually want to have sex with them. it would be interesting if this was some sort of evolutionary feature, either a vestige of male sexuality or a way to evaluate the preferences of the opposite sex
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 06:27 AM
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wdym? what is the utility that women would want to maximize in this situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 01:37 AM
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I never said it was insignificant, just that it seems insignificant to most women as we've never experienced a lack of sexual attention. it's literally background noise for us and not something we generally have to work for, which is why it feels surprising when men put such a heavy emphasis on it. I'm basically pointing out a bias that many women have. as for femboys, I don't think femboys are any real competition for women if that's what you mean. attractive women will probably always have mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 08:34 PM
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sex and dating are definitely easier for women due to more options, men's lower physical standards, and the cultural expectation for guys to make the first move. however, actually finding someone who genuinely cares about you and loves you is similarly difficult for both men and women. I have never been to clubs etc so I don't know about that, but yes makeup and dressing "sexy" are easy ways to get noticed. women's fashion is way more decorative and flashy, and they can use perfume, jewelry, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 03:27 AM
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it's true that people's standards don't magically go away once you talk to them in real life. however, I am far more attracted to an actual man than pictures of a man. if a guy approaches me in person, I will almost always reciprocate interest. meanwhile, I have a "dating app" (it is not actually a dating app, but many people use it that way) and I ignore basically everyone on there regardless of their appearance, because interacting with photos and text on a screen is just nothing like being wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 03:31 AM
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well that would be a rude thing to say to someone out of nowhere, but I don't think it's inherently bad. I've been on dating apps and they're designed to make you see others as a commodity. I am obviously more attracted to some cute guy who asked me out in real life than the same guy next to hundreds of other guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 07:49 AM
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not much to explain, pretty much just the same as what OP was saying, but basically compare your height to the average height of your sex, then add or subtract the same number of inches/centimeters from the average height of the opposite sex. then find your bmi using a calculator and calculate the weight of your "match" using their height and your bmi. my male version would be 5'9" and 115 pounds. but there is a lot more to attraction than general body proportions
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/26 10:38 PM
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sure, I'd probably be attracted to a guy who matched me in relative height & weight
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 06:13 AM
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Honestly this sounds more like a social phenomenon rather than a romantic one. Women feel the most comfortable around other women because that is their default. Men tend to stay closer to each other as well. Personally, my vicinity to a man hardly correlates with my attraction to him. In fact, I often stay farther away from guys I find attractive, as I get more nervous around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 08:06 PM
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I've seen this with some girls who think wearing a long floral dress makes them better than girls who wear pants. I don't think that eyecatching or form-fitting clothing is necessarily immodest, but some women on social media wear these high-quality delicate flowy dresses while showing off their husbands' expensive farms, but act like they're morally superior than some girl who wears jeans and a shirt. It's the double standard that gets me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 10:26 PM
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Technically, I didn't say that - the original commenter did. You are quoting her, not me, so it is an incredibly weak rebuttal. Neither I nor the original commenter brought up sex. Here's a timeline: -> OP brought up sex, saying lonely men crave sex. -> Original commenter expressed annoyance at loneliness being used univocally with sexlessness, and suggested that lonely men need more than just sex. -> You replied with a strawman, saying she just wants to brainwash young men. -> She replied sayin…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:58 AM
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What about "eat food so you don't die"? That's clearly just useless advice because it doesn't make women fuck you. And "wear a coat when it's cold out," how will that make women fuck you? Are you a hormonal 13-year-old boy? Why is being fucked by a woman your life goal? Your perspective is childish. Everyone wants to be happy, by whatever means - food, sex, friendship, religion, art, whatever. You value sex because you believe it can make you happy. And this may be very true. So go ahead, improv…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 12:47 AM
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honestly, just don't use strawman fallacies. If suggesting men can keep each other company is brainwashing, then what's your alternative? Many men on here want women to go out of their way to fulfill their emotional and sexual needs, is that not brainwashing by your own definition? I won't say men don't need intimacy with women, but are you blind to the fact that many men don't even have friends? I see it all the time on the internet. Men go to work, they have dinner, they go to sleep. That's th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 12:31 AM
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I never said it wasn't based at all on physical appearance. Yes, being hot obviously helps. But actions are what really turn me on. If I feel safe with a guy and like he'll take care of me, if I see him being sweet to little kids, if he makes his typical stupid jokes, things like that - the things that show who he is, the things that make me love him. That's the sort of guy I'd want to spend my life with, and that's the sort of guy I would want to share myself, including my body, with. And I can…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:17 PM
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as I said it differs from person to person. There are definitely women out there who instantly know whether they have sexual chemistry with someone, but on average it seems like men are the ones who experience this more. I just think it's silly to make a broad statement like "don't trust a woman unless she experiences passionate lust upon seeing you." Especially for guys who want a woman with a low body-count.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 07:06 PM
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I agree with this. When I start dating a guy I definitely see him as cute, but there is little to no sexual attraction. As I form more and more of an emotional bond, I physically desire him more and more as well. I think for guys it is the opposite, which is why a lot of them don't understand this. Also, it's not just a sex drive thing, as I do feel aroused whenever I see erotic content, but I only would feel that way towards an actual person if there was a deep connection. I'm sure it differs f…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 07:24 PM
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oh yes, absolutely! don't lower your standards for anyone. I am mainly thinking of those who ridicule others for not meeting their standards. of course no one is obligated to date someone they are not satisfied with, for any reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 12:30 AM
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long comment incoming, very sorry! this is my perspective as someone who kind of agrees. ok so I actually do agree that society teaches women they are better than men, but I feel like you are not using the best examples. guys can't do sexy dances because it's not socially acceptable. the same way it's not socially acceptable for guys to wear dresses or do makeup. if a guy is praised for doing these things, it is almost always exclusively by women. I've seen ones where guys on insta do something …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 08:44 PM
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I love this point of view. femininity and masculinity are separate concepts, not two ends of the same stick. more of one doesn't necessarily mean less of the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:36 AM
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Every woman has a right to her body until she is raped. Every woman has a right to her life until she is killed. Every woman has a say until her voice is silenced. Even in societies where it is legal to oppress women, women are born with their bodies, their lives, their voices. All humans have rights. They cannot be "given" to anyone. If a man takes a woman's life or uses her body, has he not taken something away from her that she naturally, inherently possesses? Men are born with bodies, lives,…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:05 AM
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Did you just downvote me for answering your question? That's strange. First of all, the obligation still exists whether or not people abide by it, as we all have natural rights. Second of all, and most importantly, it doesn't matter whether they abide by it because there is still a fundamental difference. Let's use theft as an example. Let's say you have a society with no laws regarding theft. In this society, everyone steals the property of those who are disadvantaged. And yet, there is still a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 11:12 PM
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I'm not saying these two things are equal, what I am pointing out is if equality and the use of natural advantages are amoral, why should men care if the two aren't equal? If the use of natural advantages is justified, then it is. If it's not, then it's not. Your premise is flawed. The use of natural advantages is amoral, but the morality regarding what you use them for ABSOLUTELY matters. There's a huge difference between utilizing your own advantages and exploiting the disadvantaged. Men are f…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 10:45 PM
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I hate the way you guys talk about the "quality" of women. I understand what it means but we're not commodities.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 04:41 AM
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this is y'alls go-to response for literally everything and it's such a blatant strawman.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/25 01:03 AM
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this made me laugh because if I met a guy who thought my love can be measured in sex I would just dump him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 09:17 AM
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that's totally fair, but this post is basically demonizing women for expressing their own sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:13 PM
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I do not support abortion, but this is the way I understand it: Women get pregnant and sacrifice their bodies to have a child. Abortion is an option because women have a right to bodily autonomy. It's not about the money or the parenthood, it's about the right to one's body and whether there will be a baby in it. If the child is not born, there will be no parents. If the child is born, there will be two parents. Parents have a duty to their child for the sake of the child and for the sake of soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:33 AM
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this is great advice except that it's pretty much just slut-shaming. if men just have to not spread their legs so should women. I understand there may be other reasons why women alone should have abortion rights, but just say them instead of imposing double standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 01:07 AM
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Personally, yes. I dress up every day because it makes me feel better. My confidence, mood, and productivity all rise significantly if I've got a cute fit, my makeup done, and my favorite perfume on. That being said, its not always for myself. I definitely take care to look nice for a date, for a party, or etc.! But in general, external validation is not the sole motivator.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 06:38 PM
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It depends how extreme he is about it, and if he seems bitter. If I feel he thinks less of me for being a woman, I will not be comfortable with him as I have already had a lot of that in my life. No point in getting hurt. If he is pretty chill about it then I'll have a discussion with him as to why he thinks those things, and try to find common ground. I like hearing people's perspectives. Also it gives me a chance to share my point of view as well, and the reasons why some of these ideas bother…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 07:52 PM
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I wouldn't actually want to go back, but I'd love for casual sex to be less normalized. I think it is damaging to society.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 12:36 AM
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yeah, I'm just pointing out that it doesn't cancel out. when people point out the other side's flaws it's usually to excuse themselves from the same flaws.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 12:25 AM
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which does not cancel out the fact that men do too
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:41 PM
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I never said that women do not also indulge in terrible sources of pleasure. simply that human nature is corrupted, and that it is foolish to idealize any group of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:00 AM
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they literally should be concerned about that though, I never said those issues are unimportant. you are using the worst examples to defend this. some people are focused on bullying, some are focused on plastic surgery, and some are focused on housewives. I am the person focused on housewives. I intend to be a stay at home mother in the future but that is a planned decision. I am also going to be educated and have a way to support myself if needed. the idea of 18-year-old sugar babies moving in …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 04:09 AM
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oh, I get what you're asking. I'm basing it on the fact that men have much lower standards for women than vice versa, and are more desperate. this is pretty much common knowledge, considering the ratio of men versus women on dating apps. women get flooded with hundreds of matches, while men are lucky to get a few. like you said, "most men know they'll die virgins if they do not compromise on physical attractiveness." the difference that I was trying to point out is that women don't care about dy…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 03:32 AM
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I never said women make good choices, I just said they are not as desperate for sex. Also, women experiencing physical and sexual violence and getting murdered seems like the men should stop doing that to them. I really don't know what to say about that. So, I guess you believe that women are compromising and don't really have a choice who they are dating, because otherwise they would choose not abusive people? What exactly are you asserting?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 01:16 AM
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well in that case, programmers should definitely be talking about the risks! I'm mostly just saying that people need to be educated before committing to any lifestyle. I'm not anti-stay-at-home-mom or anti-programmer or anti-anything, it's just generally good advice that you should know what you're getting yourself into. and you can still argue, well, people need to do research themselves. sure this is true, but the impressionable teens are likely to make impulsive decisions without really think…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 01:06 AM
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Oh, that's interesting. I've never seen it used that way before, so yeah I don't really know.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:54 AM
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I think this is the big difference between men and women. I'm a woman and dying a virgin doesn't really sound that bad? maybe that's why women have options and men don't. men and women both want sex, but women don't want sex enough to compromise on its quality. that doesn't mean all men are suddenly ugly though. a 5'9 guy with a handsome face, a decent job, and a good smile is still able to attract women, just not on dating apps. it's not realistic to want the 666 package, so most women who actu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:51 AM
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indeed. dating apps are a huge part of the problem imo, as there are too many options for women. if you have options - hundreds and hundreds of options - of course you will choose the best, most "ideal" men. whereas in real life, your options are limited to the people you actually talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 12:39 AM
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this is true
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 08:53 PM
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well, the most desirable woman that guys picture in their head is going to be slim with big tits and big ass and silky smooth hair and an extremely feminine personality. but most guys don't expect their partner to have all those requirements. likewise, just because the tall, rich, conventionally attractive sort of guy is the most desirable doesn't mean all other men in the world have zero chance whatsoever. most women would like someone like that but that doesn't mean it's every woman's base req…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 08:45 PM
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When I was young, I thought men were these chivalrous heroes who would sweep you off your feet and protect you for the rest of your life. Strong, brave, and deeply loving. A man who would die for his family. I had my first boyfriend when I was 15. I loved him with all my heart. My parents sat me down to warn me he probably only wants sex, like most boys, and I was shocked. I then found out that boys and men are just shamelessly horny. I was certain that it could not be true, but everything I fou…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 06:30 PM
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I've only really seen that phrase in reference to certain situations. Mostly videos on YouTube and Instagram where people in the comments praise guys who aren't deadbeat parents, don't domestically abuse, don't rape anyone, etc. And people will reply with "the bar is on the ground for men." That's the extent to which I've seen this phrase. I don't think it's exactly about standards, or even about men as a whole. It seems more like a criticism of people who are willing to praise men for just not …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:46 PM
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yep, but certain lifestyles have more serious drawbacks. the risks of becoming a programmer do not generally include having no way to provide for yourself, being oppressed in your own home, or having to put up with abuse for the sake of your children. (not that those things always happen, but they will happen if you do not choose your person carefully.) also, who's to say people of those other professions shouldn't go over those things? if you have time to go on social media encouraging people t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:41 AM
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yes - but the point isn't that they should "work harder" or forfeit the opportunity to have an easier life. the point is that becoming dependent on someone is never a reliable plan A. I am all for women staying at home, letting hubby making financial decisions, et cetera, but it cannot just be because of a trend. you need to have absolute trust in your partner, and if social media is influencing your decision that isn't a good sign. young women/teens are impressionable and aren't always aware of…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:05 AM
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I think shy guys are hella cute. the main issue is that I am also shy so we would probably never actually interact lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 06:24 PM
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yeah like if you don't want to answer the question that's fine. just skip over the post instead of tediously explaining why you don't understand. there are plenty of others who are capable of pointing out traits in certain women they appreciate, even if those traits are not exclusively female.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:25 PM
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oops yeah it was
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:23 PM
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I am not twisting anyone's words, go to r/niceguys and you will see plenty of examples of people who say or imply just that. I am talking about those people, not people who are genuinely disappointed and looking for help with their dating life. That's why, if you look at my comment, I gave two examples of "nice guys", one of which I literally stated is not bad or worthy of shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 05:21 PM
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yeah there's nothing wrong with teens being interested in discussions about social issues, it's crazy how people try to gatekeep these topics. I mean if it messes with your mental health then get off social media but in general it is fine
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:57 AM
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the women in your life - to quote the post, "your mother, aunts, sisters, female cousins, female friends, your current partner/wife"... the reason I said it doesn't have to be exclusive is because there are almost no traits exclusive to one sex or the other, besides biological traits of course. but it is to highlight what about the women, as women, you appreciate. if you were talking about your sister, there would have to be more than just "she's my sister" because you could have a good sister o…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:46 AM
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the question is what do you like about the women in your life specifically, and it doesn't have to be exclusively female traits
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 12:14 AM
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anyone can fake anything; it's not exclusive to relationships. so what do you suggest instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 08:23 PM
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I am confused, what do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:42 PM
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I think some people may want to dodge the topic, but also it's not that simple. There's a big difference between "I am very lonely and I do not think anyone will date me, help?" and "I am such a good person and I deserve a girlfriend." The latter is extremely off-putting to women as it gives off entitlement and desperation. Many "nice guys" also stop being so nice the moment they get rejected, revealing their true selves. An actual nice (kind) person would certainly be disappointed but would not…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:27 PM
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I think personality traits and character traits are sometimes used interchangeably. it is a little shallow to just want someone who is "mysterious" or a "jokester" or any of those things, but imo it is not shallow to want someone who is kind, chill, interesting, or other such traits. OP is basically saying that you'll attract people with similar values. if you value looks and are hot, you will attract hot people who also value looks. if you value being punk rock, you will attract other people wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 07:09 PM
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the "adult topic" we are discussing is porn which I do in fact have experience of I may not legally be a woman but I go through the same experiences as any woman does. I am attending university and I literally have a job, meaning I am treated as an adult by everyone I encounter. biologically no one is finished developing until ~25 years anyway, so the legal definition only applies to legal matters, such as consent, voting, signing forms, smoking, etc. am I doing any of those things? no I am not.…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 06:32 PM
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i don't think it's shallowness that is necessary, but more acceptance of a person for who they are. it is great to have things in common with someone but if that's the foundation of the relationship it just becomes "i want a skater gf" or "i want a punk gf". you have a type and know what you want which is great, but i would argue that that is actually more shallow than loving someone for who they are. my dad loves legos and my mom loves gardening. they don't share those interests in common but t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 06:21 PM
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oh, i am too young to have opinions about things that apply to me? am i not a woman all of a sudden? do the topics in this sub not affect me despite that certain extreme "red pill" ideologies made me depressed and suicidal? i have plenty to say here. and also like im turning 18 tho lmao im just saying im not gonna beg for sex from some rando.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 06:14 PM
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i am a minor so most likely not, but anyway the reason is because porn is inherently addictive and a lot of people who watch it want to stop but can't. i also don't know everyone's situation so i can't judge them as a person. also cause the Bible says not to so yeah. same way with most things i disagree with tbh like im just like "well ok that's wrong" but i don't let it change my perspective of the person unless they clearly have malicious intentions. i understand that you probably think im jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 09:42 AM
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i am a virgin so it does not matter how "abundant" sex is for me. i have never participated in it, ever. the vegan and the meat-eater are both starving in this situation. and i have a high sex drive for a girl, too. i've watched porn and masturbated quite a few times and i have done the latter since i was very young. i am also incredibly lonely. i have terrible social anxiety, i don't get asked out or looked at by guys, and i hardly even have friends. i don't judge anyone for watching porn becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 09:07 AM
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the porn industry is extremely messed up and exploitative. it also messes up the way you see the world, its just bodies and ass and tits instead of people. yeah i don't want anything to do with people who are addicted to watching naked people fucking. i don't care if it's 1% or 99%. i'm not judging people who watch porn, i simply don't want to be in a relationship with that sort of person. porn is repulsive and i say this as someone who has been addicted to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 08:04 AM
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i mostly get the ick from guys who chew really loudly. i am sure what you're saying is true but im just mentioning that its not always a super sexual thing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 07:53 AM
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they like it as a kink, not as their entire existence. its fun when you can choose it, less fun when its forced upon you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 12:41 AM
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if you cannot respond without making fallacies, consider taking a logic class. also, I am happy to respond to any arguments! just not from you, as you have demonstrated your lack of understanding. I've actually had lovely conversations with men who were much more anti-feminist than you are. I disagreed with them, yes, but I was not afraid to tell them what I thought, and we ended the conversation with no conflict. I simply choose not to engage in conversations that I know will not be productive.…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 11:09 PM
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you are making a lot of fallacies and you really should not be arguing if you actually want your view to be considered.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:50 PM
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It is only hypocritical if you believe only sexual organs can be sexually assaulted. I personally see the difference between assault and sexual assault being not which body part it is targeted towards, but whether the assault was performed in a sexual manner. If someone went and fondled a man's breast and squeezed his nipples without consent, that would seem like sexual assault to me. Such an action is way different than punching or stabbing a man's breast, even though the body part is the same.…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:24 PM
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and thank you for expressing your inability to understand nuance, I guess. seriously, we're all just brainwashed by feminist propaganda? I might as well say that you men are just brainwashed by the patriarchy. I put effort into understanding the other side and other perspectives, no matter what they are. to be honest your response doesn't seem well thought-out or constructive, and I will not be replying.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 10:11 PM
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those premises are not mutually exclusive. there are plenty of non-sexual parts of the body that can be taken into account for assault. are thighs a sexual organ? no. can touching someone's thighs be considered assault? yes. is midriff a sexual organ? no. will staring at someone's exposed midriff make them uncomfortable? yes. the reason women don't want people staring at or touching their breasts isn't because breasts are inherently sexual. it's because they know breasts are sexualized. they kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 06:39 PM
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yes, thank you as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:19 AM
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I understand what you are saying. imo it's not about free time. having a career you get paid for and which contributes to society can be a wonderful way to self-actualize, whereas staying at home doing pottery and yoga while your kids are in school is fun, but not fulfilling. of course, an argument can be made that stay-at-home parents should spend more time doing things like volunteering or contributing to causes. I think there are definitely ways to counteract the negative effects staying at h…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:03 AM
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perhaps because of the feeling of losing your identity. your entire life becomes centered around parenting, your only friends are other parents, your permanent title is "mom" or "dad", and your partner is tired from work which reduces the amount of quality time you can have with them. ofc, not all stay-at-home parents will have this experience! but I've heard lots of people say this. so the main part is not the difficulty, I think, but the impact it can have on your life and how you view your li…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:25 AM
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i personally disagree. assertiveness is just knowing what you want and being confident about it, which i don't see as exclusively masculine
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 03:19 AM
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I love how simple and logical this response is
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 02:49 AM
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only your husband - he is entrusted to love and care for you and has vowed to do so. that is why you should submit, not just because he is male. therefore, you do not owe submission to any other male. hope this can help <3
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/24 03:50 AM
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i feel like y'all are gaslighting me, since when do men not care about masculinity??😭 guys want to look masculine for their friends right? cause legit a lot of women find feminine men attractive, that's why kpop idols are soo popular like ive seen so many books about masculinity and theres guys whose dads forced them to be masculine (I have met a few) and stuff but its all just for women??? im like legitimately confused, cause if guys don't care about masculinity they're reallly good at keeping …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 02:53 AM
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so?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 10:55 PM
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I guess this is true, it makes sense. Also, it made me think of something. Being a housewife/husband isn't inherently oppressive, and that's why the men commenting here are not opposed to it at all. However, women tend to have an aversion to housewife-ing because they associate it so strongly with being seen as inferior. In my personal experience I was very excited to get married and have children eventually. But I got stuck into a conservative school with a bunch of extremists, and all appeal f…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:22 PM
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ty. I didn't know🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:01 PM
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You can call me delusional but it's simply my observation. I've heard a lot of men say they need to be the head of their family, and very few men say they wish their wives would take the lead.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 09:59 PM
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this is a good question for you also, would you actually respect a woman who did all this for you? or would you see it as her "staying in her place"?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 08:28 PM
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I think a lot of people are misunderstanding this post. OP doesn't actually want a man like this, she wants men to understand how it feels to hear this. For a lot of desperate guys, being a dominant woman's sex toy sounds like a dream, but if they were actually in that situation I don't know if they would feel the same way. If you say "most men would love this," I don't think you've met most men. Men don't want a woman who bosses them around, makes them do all the chores, and expects them to loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 08:27 PM
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well I know they're starving for women but I thought it was just cause they're horny, is this not true??
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 07:52 PM
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as a girl this actually makes me feel kinda relieved. I would love to see more guys having wholesome friendships, but at the same time im glad we're not completely obsolete
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 01:21 AM
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i totally relate to this. if a relationship doesn't add anything to your life, why get into one? not because men are bad or evil or something, but just to not have to worry about another person in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 12:00 AM
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both are true at the same time. women and men say the shittiest things about each other, some are true, some not. everyone's mutually done with each other and i honestly think that's a good thing. society needs a break from the drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 11:57 PM
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i do have a sex drive but im demi sexual so im not attracted to specific people unless i really love them. also, virginity is highly valued in women and non-virgins are seen as sluts. i don't want to be seen that way so i gotta wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:37 AM
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but why is it such a goal? why is it something you need to lose?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:25 AM
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prioritizing career, haven't found the right person, waiting until marriage, life is too busy, just wasnt in a sexy mood, introverted so dont meet a lot of people if i wanted i can lose my virginity when legal but why would i? just to not be a virgin anymore? i don't get why there's this notion that you gotta have sex asap
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:19 AM
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choosing not to participate in casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:03 AM
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agree
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 07:40 AM
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you know there are attractive women who choose to be virgins
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:56 AM
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Maybe, but I've seen hundreds, maybe thousands, of men online saying they need a woman who "cooks and cleans." You can't say that it's only women imposing it upon themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 10:29 PM
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you edited your comment after I replied
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 10:23 PM
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Oh, reading it again it does seem less chill. I can still understand the sentiment especially when it comes to entitled guys who won't take no for an answer. And there are so many guys on Reddit that insist women should do everything for their sake. But most women wouldn't be offended if a man just approached them, at least where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 10:11 PM
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most women I know are pretty chill about men. I think most would agree with the first comment, but not the second.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 09:48 PM
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I pretty much agree with this. The premise of red pill is good from what I know, but the problem is the sort of mindset that often goes with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 06:32 AM
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imo both men and women lower standards for sex and raise them for romance. if you're horny you're horny, no matter who you are. but most people want to be very compatible with the person they're in a relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 05:59 AM
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i honestly agree
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:46 AM
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I don't personally have problems with criticism of women, but it's simply a fact that many red-pillers take it too far. I've seen posts about how women are inherently evil and incapable of doing good, as well as how they are stupid and subhuman. If there was not so much of that circulating, then I think many women would be more tolerant of redpill ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 05:31 AM
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i do not understand why it would be okay in any circumstance
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 01:41 AM
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it's wrong to pressure intimacy by proximity. what if the guy has red flags? you would not want to pressure another man to date a woman he deems manipulative or toxic, because he might get attached to her. and it's way easier to set a boundary before going on a date than after. even if it is not a toxic guy, women are still worse than men at saying no. so all that would happen in your scenario is that women would get stuck in relationships they feel too guilty to leave, and the men will end up g…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 01:40 AM
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when women go on dinner dates with men they are not attracted to, men accuse them of being gold diggers who want a free meal. which is understandable. so why would you encourage that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:45 PM
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i do not think virgin shaming is good
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 11:25 PM
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