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I feel like I'm in the same boat as you. I went to a club tonight approached 20 different women... not a single one of them was interested in me. Not one. I didn't have a single conversation that lasted longer than two minutes. After I introduce myself, they just kind of look at me, introduce herself, then goes back to talking to the girl she came with like I wasn't even there. And I'm told over and over on this sub, "Women go to bars to meet guys." No they don't. Not in my experience. I'd say l…
/r/seduction19/12/15 08:00 AM
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I said it'd be easier to have a conversation in person (this is after we were exchanging looong messages). I deleted the conversation, I can't remember how it went. Though the current girl I'm talking to on Tinder gave her number without being asked (and I hadn't asked her out, either). I'm not sure it's because I handled it better or if she was just more willing to meet in the first place.
/r/seduction30/09/15 01:35 AM
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I feel like this is a hard one for me, because I'm a server and I work evenings, and my schedule changes from week to week. It's hard to invite someone to do something with you when what you can do and what they can do are totally different. In fact, this happened recently. I asked a girl out on Tinder, she said "Sure! What do you have in mind?" I told her it would depend on our schedules, and I asked for her number to plan. Did not get her number.
/r/seduction29/09/15 11:55 PM
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It's not quite that simple. When I got started, I would just say "I think you're cute, would you like to go out sometime?" which is a terrible approach and 95% of the time my response was "I have a boyfriend" (which I doubt they all did). I was being way too forward and creeping these women out, and when I realized that, I retracted and it took me a bit to regain that courage. However, I'll always remember that one girl who was completely stunned by the fact that I had the balls to do that, appl…
/r/seduction29/09/15 10:19 PM
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I'm not arguing with you, I just feel frustrated. Last night I decided to go downtown because there was a band playing and I thought "Eh, maybe I'll like them, who knows?" I go to the bar, and there are four women there, every one of them with their boyfriends. Every other customer there was a guy. I wound up chatting with some of the guys, but I wasn't feeling the music so I left after just half an hour of being there. And honestly, I'm actually pretty social. I picked up a book at the store to…
/r/seduction16/09/15 08:30 PM
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It's a problem if you go out and do activities that women don't enjoy. There's a dodgeball league where I went to that I enjoyed... there were like 25 guys and five women. Four of which were taken, and the last one was really overweight. Let's say you really like board games! So you go out to board game night... two women there. One married, the other really overweight. Well, that won't work. Video games! Hey, there's a video game convention in town! Oh, it's 90% men... Barhopping meetups? Mostl…
/r/seduction15/09/15 05:40 PM
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I've found that if I'm trying to impress a girl with jokes and humor and interesting stories, it falls flat. I'm so focused on trying to be cool and funny that I fail to actually engage with her. When I stop worrying about trying to impress them and actually talk to them, the jokes and stories start to flow.
/r/seduction06/09/15 06:29 AM
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Sit next to her, not across.
/r/seduction09/08/15 07:13 PM
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Small talk is something I've had an issue with lately. Some women get curious about me just because I've started talking with them, and from there it's easy to hold a conversation. Others just answer my questions but don't show any interest back. It's not that they're giving me short answers - there's plenty to build upon, but after a while I get tired of being the only one asking questions and lose interest. It's real difficult to tell if they're interested or not; on one hand, they have stoppe…
/r/seduction09/08/15 07:10 PM
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Really, when I can tell the girl is telling the truth about having a boyfriend, it doesn't bother me at all. I mean, it's disappointing, but if it's clear she really does like me as a person and is encouraging me to keep trying, then it's great. Of course, introducing them to some of your single friends may be even better...
/r/seduction28/07/15 01:04 PM
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Sadly, the people able to give you the best feedback (the women you approach) are also the least likely to actually give you honest feedback if you creeped them out. Though I will say this - I've asked the girls who've actually responded positively to me what they liked about my approach, and it's helped to narrow down what it is I'm good at. I've found that honesty really is the best.
/r/seduction16/07/15 04:21 PM
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Maybe in the first instance it would have been the same - I was going up to a total stranger who was there with her friends, so I can see why you'd argue that. But in the second, I actually wasn't expecting a conversation to start. I just thought "She's cute, I want to tell her that," and approached her without intent to start a conversation. The fact that she stopped what she was doing to talk to me for a bit made it clear that she was interested. And here's the thing: some people are just soci…
/r/seduction15/07/15 06:29 PM
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Actually, this is really counter to my experiences. Last Friday I went up to a girl at a bar and said "My name's Bob, I think you're really cute." She told me guys are never that direct, that it was really refreshing to hear. A few days later I'm at a different bar, and I stop one of the waitresses. "I know you have a million things to do, but I just wanted to say I think you're cute and I'd flirt with you all night if I could." What did she do? SHE STOPPED WHAT SHE WAS DOING TO HAVE A CONVERSAT…
/r/seduction15/07/15 05:23 PM
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I'm not saying they avoid all eye contact, period. I'm saying they avoid eye contact with strangers unless there's a reason for it. When I walk through the mall, the only reason a woman will make eye contact with me is if we're crossing paths and want to avoid bumping into each other. And even in social settings, if they're with their friends, they're going to be focusing on their friends. They might take a look around the room every now and then, but really, you have to be lucky to catch them l…
/r/seduction13/07/15 04:27 PM
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Uh, I'd say easily 99% of girls avoid eye contact, until it's at work or something. Hell, they don't even make eye contact when I KNOW they're checking me out. One time when I walked into my gym I saw a girl standing in line, and noticed her eyes going up and down my body checking me out. I stood there for a moment ready to give her a "I saw what you just did there" face, but her eyes went straight from my body to the receptionist. By your logic, I must be acting like some total creep if I can't…
/r/seduction13/07/15 05:33 AM
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She pretended to be a lesbian. I thought she was serious and thus ignored her advances the rest of the night, which frustrated her to no end. She kept telling me that the girls I was looking at weren't my type, which really annoyed me, because how would she know? In the end, she didn't tell me the truth - she made out with a male friend of hers in front of me, trying to get my attention. Worst attempt at seduction ever.
/r/seduction12/07/15 09:48 PM
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Eh, that's an extreme case though. Most of the time girls won't even make eye contact, so you're going to have to make the first step and be forward. A few nights ago I went up to a girl and just said "My name's Bob, I think you're really cute." She loved it. ...Of course, she turned out to be a real bitch, but eh.
/r/seduction12/07/15 06:06 PM
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A lot of it was just looking at my upbringing and finding the threads that turned me so introverted and anxious. Really, a lot of it came down to my dad. When you grow up in a household where your family doesn't laugh at your jokes and doesn't understand (or really make an effort to understand) your hobbies, you find yourself very cautious about opening up to people. Really, I think a lot of advice on this forum has the completely wrong mindset. A lot of it is "do this", rather than "you should …
/r/seduction08/07/15 04:43 PM
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What I've realized is this: if you meet a baseline of attractiveness, you're fine. As long as you're the yes when they think "Is he cute? Yes/No" then you'll be okay. They just don't show interest because they have no reason to be interested in you. They don't know if you have a sense of humor, they don't know what your hobbies are, what your plans for the future are, all the stuff that makes you interesting. And because women are socialized to be more shy than men, they aren't going to pursue t…
/r/seduction07/07/15 06:28 PM
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I don't always have friends with me, but I go out anyway. It's surprising how many conversations you can get started just by saying "Excuse me, you're really cute, you know that?"
/r/seduction07/07/15 06:25 PM
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Honestly, a lot of my improvement with women these last few months has been recognizing the bad traits I picked up growing up and working to change them. It's turned me a lot more social, and not just when it comes to women.
/r/seduction07/07/15 06:24 PM
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Really, this has to be emphasized more. There's a lot of talk on this sub about how important confidence in yourself is, but really, you have to be able to look at yourself and say "Yeah, I kinda fucked that one up". But then it's important to say "Well now I know what not to do"
/r/seduction02/07/15 10:54 PM
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Watching videos like this is frustrating because this is NOTHING like what I experience. When I go up to girls in public, most of them want nothing to do with me. "Excuse me, I think you're really cute." "Thanks. walks away, avoids eye contact" Hell, even finding a cute girl not wearing a wedding ring is a pain in the ass.
/r/seduction24/06/15 07:34 PM
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It's not not getting her number that gets me. It's getting her number and then not getting a response that puts me in a sour mood (especially if she gave me her number enthusiastically).
/r/seduction23/06/15 04:48 AM
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I've been feeling this, too. Some days I just don't have much to do in terms of shopping/going out, and the feeling sucks. At the least, I've been making an effort to have one day a week where I can go out and talk to a LOT of women.
/r/seduction23/06/15 04:45 AM
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I'm talking about being externally shamed, though. Friends who I'm comfortable with have been impressed with how bold I am, but that's because they know me. Compare that to the baristas at the coffee shop. I don't know if they're thinking "Wow, that guy has balls" or "Dammit, I wish that asshole would leave our customers alone." If it's the latter, then I'm only digging myself in a hole.
/r/seduction04/06/15 07:21 PM
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Um, I'd say EASILY 90% of the women I've asked out have said they had a boyfriend. And what the hell are you doing asking out girls you aren't attracted to?
/r/seduction02/06/15 10:35 PM
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Actually, this is the opposite for me. It takes the same amount of effort to approach an average girl versus a hot girl, but with the hot girl, there is more to gain, so the approach feels that much easier.
/r/seduction20/05/15 05:20 AM
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I've found that 90% of the girls I ask out already say they have boyfriends. It leads to this mentality of "well no shit she wasn't looking, she wasn't interested". It's rather hard for me to break that mentality.
/r/seduction18/05/15 01:40 PM
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I understand this. I have a much easier time approaching in a loud coffee shop than a quiet one where everyone can hear my conversation. At work I don't flirt unless my coworkers are absent... but that may have more to do with the fact that I don't want a reputation.
/r/seduction13/05/15 05:50 AM
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Man, what the hell? Whenever I go to a bar it's 75% guys, and the few girls there are with their boyfriends. On any given night there MIGHT be one or two girls who look approachable. Even then, that doesn't mean I won't lose interest 30 seconds into a conversation with them.
/r/seduction09/05/15 07:25 PM
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I would be thrilled. Though just like guys can be creepy coming on to girls, girls can be creepy coming on to guys. Hell, that's probably why it took so long to accept a lot of the advice on this subreddit; because most of my experiences with girls approaching me have been less than stellar. Invading my personal space, excessive compliments when I literally haven't said a word to you, handing me a religious pamphlet when you approach (okay, that girl probably wasn't flirting with me, but regardl…
/r/seduction04/05/15 03:03 AM
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...I'm gonna have to try that one.
/r/seduction22/10/13 10:56 PM
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