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/r/ExRedPill08/07/26 04:19 AM
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It’s time to decenter men. Men will never center you, so why spend every moment of your precious life centering them? Figure out who you are and what you want to do in this life. And then do it. If you meet a man along the way, great. If not, you will be okay. Your entire life is about men. The truth is that is only attractive to abusive men who want to control women. If you want a real man, you need to be more of a whole person.
/r/ExRedPill20/06/26 09:31 PM
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I have two answers: one is misogyny. The public perception of men coming into age as calm cool and collected while women come into middle age “damaged” is simply a misogynist view point. My second answer is that in general, women tend to center the men in their life either by choice or because they have to as the stay at home parent. Many women make men the center of their worlds whereas most men do not center the women in their lives. Men are much likely to do whatever they want whenever they w…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/26 01:00 AM
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Kindness, the ability to truly connect to another human being, and do be working on their mental health. It’s not possible to “work through every single insecurity and trauma”.
/r/ExRedPill27/05/26 06:17 PM
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I’m sorry but you live in an alternate reality. None of those examples are true for women. Or for men either.
/r/MensRights20/03/26 09:28 PM
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I don’t know what planet you are observing this from. It’s so far from the truth it’s laughable.
/r/MensRights20/03/26 08:41 AM
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That’s what I mean when I say you make a commitment to yourself, and stick to it no matter what. You need to reach deep inside yourself and talk to the part of you that knows your behavior is hurting you. And you need to commit to that part of yourself. Make a promise. No matter how much it hurts, you don’t do it. Therapy would really help you with this. Talking to trusted friends can help. But ultimately, it comes down to you recognizing that this is not how you want to live your life, that you…
/r/ExRedPill19/03/26 05:28 AM
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You are trapped in an algothrim and you need to get yourself out. Delete all social media from your phone. Read books instead, with women authors that are about women. You need to make a commitment to yourself to not look at social media for one month. It’s not for forever, just one month. Clear your brain of the poison you’re ingesting.
/r/ExRedPill18/03/26 11:51 PM
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That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. Anyone who believes this without questioning the source needs to do some serious work on themselves. For reals.
/r/ExRedPill02/03/26 03:06 AM
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He sounds like a horrible, exhausting person. What is there to be in love with? But really ask yourself how many more years of your precious life you want to waste on him. Can you see yourself marrying such a man, who would surely pass these values onto your children? How do you think it will feel to spend the rest of your life with a man who hates women? And wants to argue angrily about politics all the time?
/r/ExRedPill24/02/26 03:02 AM
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In case you’re wondering why women aren’t into you, it’s because they can smell this type of behavior a mile away. No woman wants to be committed for life to a man who posts pics of women for men to rate. No woman wants to commit to a man who uses a rating system for women. The type of man a woman looking for committal with is a man who has the ability to genuinely connect to them, care for them, and who they can trust. Wanting to build a life with someone isn’t about money or looks. Those thing…
/r/ExRedPill20/02/26 02:48 AM
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Men constantly talk about how they want women with specific body features. Idk why it’s okay for a man to do but not a woman
/r/ExRedPill14/02/26 02:33 AM
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It sounds like you’re blaming women for a lot of your own feelings. If you want to get over the red pill narrative, I think that’s a good place to start. Every time you have a thought where you’re blaming a woman for something, stop and ask yourself: is it really a woman’s fault? Or is this something I can fix within myself? Be curious about the thoughts that come up, and go deeper into it. Also, therapy is a great way for you to process these things. Online spaces can only offer so much. Therap…
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 10:57 PM
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Why do you assume that a girlfriend who has had past boyfriends would still love her exs? And that could be true even if she hasn’t had sex with them. But why would she still love them but be with you?
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 10:35 PM
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What? This response doesn’t make any sense
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 10:31 PM
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Well, I’m asking you to think for yourself versus what we say or red pills say. What do YOU think? What are your thoughts? Not is it important yes or no, but WHY would it be important?
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 10:27 PM
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Why would it be different for a man versus a woman?
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 10:25 PM
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What do you think might be important about it?
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 10:24 PM
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Why are you taking one comment someone left on a post and giving it any legitimacy at all? That’s the biggest problem I see here. But no, there isn’t one thing that ALL women want. All women want different things is the only thing you can say about “all women”. Blanket statements don’t work.
/r/ExRedPill10/02/26 12:20 AM
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A woman can’t heal a traumatized man. If a man is traumatized, it’s his responsibility to process it and work through it. Not once has a healthy relationship ever been born from one partner “fixing” the other. Nor should you expect someone else to do the work for you. It sucks that those who have been abused get the added burden of dealing with their trauma, but that’s the way it’s always been.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/26 01:23 AM
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Okay, that’s very normal. What did you learn from that relationship moving forward?
/r/ExRedPill22/01/26 11:27 PM
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Why did you continue in a relationship that was so toxic and unhealthy for you?
/r/ExRedPill22/01/26 10:04 PM
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🙄 good job ignoring everything I said and resorting to personal attacks.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/25 02:04 PM
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No, that’s not what I meant. I meant it’s extremely weird that you get off so strongly to fantasies you make up about other people being triggered. Even if I was triggered, it’s super weird to be so happy about it. Seems like you could find something else better to do with your time.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 04:06 AM
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I’m sure you get off to weird stuff all the time.
/r/ExRedPill19/12/25 01:22 AM
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Miss me with this over dramatic, absurd point of view.
/r/ExRedPill18/12/25 10:39 PM
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You need to learn more about how many women are killed, raped, and assaulted by men.
/r/ExRedPill11/12/25 11:28 PM
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It sounds like you have major communication issues and need to get into couples counseling immediately. If you’re not willing to work on it it’s time to break up.
/r/ExRedPill15/09/25 03:47 AM
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He raped you. This is sexual assault, textbook. I’m really sorry you had to go through this. Please get yourself some help to process this.
/r/ExRedPill14/09/25 07:03 AM
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It sounds like you’re coming from a perspective of the women you like can only do what you want them to do, otherwise you will be unhappy. That sounds pretty unhealthy, for both you and the women. They are allowed to be in a relationship if they want. If that personally affects you this much, it’s time to get outside help to get to the bottom of why you feel this way. You can feel a pang of heartache for this kind of thing, and move on. Anything more is you thinking you should be able to make th…
/r/ExRedPill12/09/25 04:10 AM
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Unfortunately, being aware, especially of the women on their lives, seems to he very difficult for a lot of men. And communication even harder.
/r/ExRedPill11/09/25 10:51 PM
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You really think women will suffer without men, huh? I don’t. If you use that energy to build up your friend groups you won’t be lonely. And I would argue that being married to a man can be the most lonely feeling in the world.
/r/ExRedPill11/09/25 07:26 PM
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There is nothing wrong with that but there is something wrong with making that your entire identity.
/r/ExRedPill11/09/25 02:47 AM
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Do women over 35 still have hope? For what, a man? Your post makes it clear that men are the center of your world, and you expect them to be the center of your daughter’s world too. Women can get along just fine in this world without men. Men are not the end all, be all, final goal in life. Women over 35 have plenty of hope, to live a peaceful life full of people who respect them, with freedom to do as they please. And if they want a man, they can get one. But they don’t NEED one.
/r/ExRedPill10/09/25 06:20 AM
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Yes I’m curious too, OP. What work are you doing to dismantle the harm that consuming red pill has caused you? Genuinely curious. Thank you for wanting to get out of it.
/r/ExRedPill23/08/25 07:41 AM
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I disagree about the porn addiction part. I don’t see how you can be a true porn addict and not hate women when you’re constantly consuming material that is all about disrespecting and humiliating women. In order to understand what I mean, you need to understand that porn addicts have to escalate their behavior and material they seek out. Regular porn doesn’t do it for them. More and more as they go, they seek the disturbing content. And their behavior escalates to IRL encounters. There is nothi…
/r/ExRedPill23/08/25 07:39 AM
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More and more, women are fucking done with men’s bullshit, and are happily decentering men. Of course men don’t like that.
/r/ExRedPill27/06/25 08:01 AM
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Women live in fear of men. Women are killed in huge numbers by not only men but men who manipulated them into trusting them enough to live with them, marry them, and having their children. Women who are of color or who are pregnant or post partum are at higher risk of being killed by a man, especially their partner. Do you live in fear of women? Do you have to think about your own personal safety due to women multiple times throughout your day? Do you ever wonder if your wife or girlfriend could…
/r/ExRedPill27/06/25 08:00 AM
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You have your warning signs. I would get very clear with myself about what I’m willing to take and draw lines in the sand that once they are crossed, I’m out. How long are you willing to spend watching him descend into women hating madness? Months? Years? At what age do you think you will be when if you break up, you will regret how much time you wasted?
/r/ExRedPill05/05/25 09:23 AM
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Whatever you do, don’t sit around and wait for him to change. If he isn’t acknowledging there is a problem, he is not going to work to change it. You are so young, you have your whole life ahead of you. At least ask yourself this question: How many years of my life am I willing to waste on him? How many years am I willing to spend with someone who disrespects rape victims without him trying to change?
/r/ExRedPill25/03/25 01:17 AM
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Gosh that was all so gross to read. These are the types of men in power now.
/r/ExRedPill10/02/25 07:39 AM
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I think one thing that can help is doing some work around acceptance that being in a relationship means that eventually that person will hurt or disappoint you, and that’s normal, and what to do when it happens. No relationship is ever going to be perfect. If a relationship is what you want, you have to be prepared for bad parts as well as good parts. And also have good boundaries about what you will or will not accept in the way you are treated.
/r/ExRedPill12/11/24 10:45 AM
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Wanting to truly connect to another human being is a drive built into our DNA. Can you handle it though? Can you be with a woman and see her as a human being worthy of respect at all times and your partner with which to build a life with?
/r/ExRedPill14/10/24 05:56 AM
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Jesus Christ… the judgement you see women with. My god. I hope you can find a way to rid yourself of it or you will be miserable for the rest of your life and I feel so bad for any woman who gets caught in your web.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/24 03:17 AM
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Gross.
/r/ExRedPill05/07/24 05:01 PM
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I'm sorry you are in that situation. It sounds like it isn't safe for you, at least emotionally. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get some therapy to address the things you have gone through. And if I were you I would reconsider my relationship.
/r/ExRedPill16/04/24 07:11 PM
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Yeah, why would these be things to aspire to? OP is talking about women like they aren't human beings
/r/ExRedPill11/04/24 04:39 PM
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Absolutely not. It's not okay to body shame anyone.
/r/ExRedPill13/03/24 11:18 PM
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What makes you think he hadn't already cheated on you?
/r/RedPillWives03/11/17 05:52 AM
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