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I don’t know why you aren’t upset, but just be good to yourself now and in the future. Just know feelings can change and iiiiif you ever do get upset, just know it is reasonable and you are still worth the care and love. You may not need it now, but if you ever do, stay strong man 💪
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/26 06:28 AM
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Exactly. I am going through this myself. Married ten years. In that time I have constantly made 5x what my stbxw. Like she was making 35k and me making like 185k+ for years with 1.5yrs of her totally out of work. Now somehow she expects me to pay mortgage, child support (daycare and more), and spousal support even though she now makes 80k (last two years). She lives with her parents and has no expenses other than what we are currently splitting during divorce finalization. All of that would lite…
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/26 06:46 PM
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That’s what I did. Started dating immediately because I was done and wanted to. Everyone is different and have different preferences but I moved on immediately
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 05:31 AM
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You did the right thing by just saying no. Don’t give her any ammo. She is just projecting. Keep your head up man, stay strong for your daughter 💪
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/26 12:01 AM
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There really isn’t much to do against it because it is all on them. The only thing you can do is try to not give them the attention they are seeking. It is ultimately attention seeking behavior, they want a response.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 05:29 AM
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Great to read man. Thanks a ton for sharing. Definitely helped me today when I needed it. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 02:26 AM
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Some cool ideas I plan to do by myself because I am in a similar situation: Go to a boxing gym and beat the shit out of a punching bag. Build a bonfire. Catch a fish. Roast fish on fire. Caveman.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 05:28 AM
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I don’t ultimately have answers to all your questions. One thing though, document dates and times you saw your daughter, tried to reach out to her, etc… A court shouldn’t punish you if they see you made true effort to stay in her life. Your daughter is probably close to being considered an adult so I don’t think there is realistically much in the way of “custody”, but I understand wanting to stay in her life. I am not sure on the question about harassment, but it probably depends on where you li…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 06:37 PM
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I feel similarly. Basically feel like a failure to myself, but ultimately it takes two. It is a good thing in my case that I am completely resolute in my divorce. I never want to go through the lack of care from someone ever again.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 04:39 PM
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Realizing she didn’t give a shit about me. Always put herself first. Sounds bad but I met someone that showed me more kindness in the first hour of meeting them than I had experienced in 15yrs.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/26 07:05 PM
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That sounds really tough. I might be one of the lucky ones that feels closure even though she never admits to any fault. Throughout our 15yrs together she never actually apologized or owned up to any mistakes. Never cared for me. Hope it gets better for you man, keep your head up and stay strong 💪
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/26 05:53 PM
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You are on the right track man, stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/26 05:29 PM
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I would recommend not putting too much hope in getting back together. It hurts, but ripping that band aid off will be better for you. Can it happen? Yes. Will it happen? Who knows. Ultimately, just be cordial and friendly, especially around the kids. Try not to reopen old wounds by saying or doing things like you are still in a relationship. I made that mistake and it just ends up hurting worse when the ex gives nothing in return.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/26 03:48 PM
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Brother I have been there. The world is better with you in it. You have a future. It might not seem like that right now but you do. Things will get better. You gotta get rid of any guns temporarily until you get through this. lock it up and give someone else the key.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 02:16 AM
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That is some bullshit. Glad my wife didn’t get a protective order like yours, but I was tossed in a mental facility for 15days
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 02:09 AM
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I am not entirely sure. I feel like if she put in the effort too then maybe it would have worked out.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 05:18 PM
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I don’t have much advice. Just know you aren’t alone. My marriage of nine years and together 15 is ending and I can see why she wants it to. I don’t think I did enough in the end when I should have been doing everything possible. She might have forgiven my mistakes if I had put in the real effort but I didn’t change my ways. Nobody is perfect, and we both had problems, but I feel like I was the ultimate one that ruined it by not trying to fix my problems before she had enough.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 02:07 AM
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That is all a hard pill to swallow my friend. I can’t say if it is right or wrong for you, but will ask if that helps give you peace? This shit is hard. Peace is hard to come by. If throwing some money on something to get any level of peace, I am all for it. Just know you aren’t alone. My situation isn’t the exact same because it has happened much faster, but it is what it is. You deserve your peace too.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/26 01:31 AM
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I feel pretty similarly and it sucks ass. Been with my wife for 15yrs, married nearly 10. I got my degree in 3.5yrs and busted my ass to bring home the bacon. She got to go to more school and just cruise. After she finished the phd she was out of work for over a year and finally found a job that still pays less than half of what I make. I wouldn’t mind, but she just never gave a shit to put more into the relationship even though I was putting everything I could.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 09:09 PM
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I don’t know if you are a Star Trek fan but I listen to this sometimes https://youtu.be/1TCX90yALsI?si=mqEoqkl1TG9dLgBA
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 03:38 AM
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I don’t intend to remarry again. Ever.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 02:46 AM
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Some responses here are critically agreeing with you but I honestly don’t. Here is how I think about Alimony: No kids and you pay? Fuck no Kids: you make more and she gets more custody, you should pay for the extra time she has them. I know it is fucked up but one parent normally “gets them” Kids: you make more and you have the kids more, fuck no Kids: she makes more. Fuck no. So I actually agree for most situations 🤣 I am just seeing my future and gonna land in 2. Pisses me off still because I …
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 04:46 AM
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Insert *smart men don’t get married* meme here. Seriously. I fucked up. We fucked up guys. Same shit for me.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 02:32 AM
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If it doesn’t work, that is ok. I know it is hard in the moment, but life goes on and you have more life to live. You don’t have to seek out another partner immediately, or you can! From someone who is also going through this, I am trying to figure out how and what I want to do personally. Whatever you end up doing, you can’t feel bad if you treat your current partner with respect and dignity. Edit: your kid won’t forget you if you show up for them. I learned that the somewhat hard way. Thought …
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/26 12:10 PM
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Other folks have had short comments about this. This is nuanced as all things divorce related. I am no pro, take what I have with a grain of salt. What do you want out of this? If you want to tell her your truth in hopes of getting back together, ask yourself if it is worth going through the same thing again. People can change, but holding onto something that won’t work out is a fools errand. I am not gonna say it is as easy as “cut your loss and move on champ” but it doesn’t help to hold on if …
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 11:31 AM
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It is interesting to see but I don’t know why women are more educated. I think everyone should invest more in education. I have thoughts that could fit the trend but no idea if they are correct. I have thought a few things like: Men are more likely to go into trades. Men are more likely to go into the military. Men in general are supposed to be the “provider” in US culture and choose that over education at a young age. Those are all just thoughts but still seem plausible to me. I know that is si…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 08:36 AM
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I really appreciate it. Things have been really hard but doing the best for my son. I will get through it but shit sucks. Nice to know there are people on the other side of it
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 08:29 AM
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That is a really poignant line for me. “I loved the woman I married and despise the stranger I divorced” I am in the thick of divorce now and really feel that
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 07:53 AM
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No, I would not do it again. Reasons: - expectations have always been a moving goal post - I sacrificed other family because I thought I loved her, which I regret - related to point one, but I can’t make her happy and I am not happy either Overall we aren’t a good match and I was naive in thinking I could fix it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 07:52 AM
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I am not there yet but appreciate the things I am learning about the state of things. I honestly want a relationship to feel good about but not thinking about that right now for me. Good to know what to expect if and when I decide to date again
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 07:32 AM
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That is brutal. I have suspected my wife is cheating on me but I don’t know for sure yet. I am sorry that has happened to you. Just remember nobody ever deserves to be cheated on. You can get through this
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 06:35 AM
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Really good inspiration. Helps to remember that quality time doesn’t have to be some big thing. Quality time can be simple and relaxed. Love that you listened to them, they will remember that. I have a 10month old and not there yet but going through divorce. Helps to have these important messages to see what life can be like
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/26 06:30 AM
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