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Everything gets easier with practice
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:36 PM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:36 PM
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Incorrect, its that women have high standards. Or more accurately, women have standards that are extremely complex and if a guy fails at one of these "standards (there are multiple of them), she rejects him. Mens standard is usually more tied to 80% appearance and 20% Not A Bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:35 PM
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Sounds like a false explanation because he's failing to be attractive to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:33 PM
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Sounds like if he was a woman he would be just fine. But because the bar is higher for men in the sexual market place, he failed. Many stories like this. I have a handsome brother who also struggles because he has a few flaws that wouldn't hold back a woman at all. A woman can always count on some man coming to save her as long as shes not butt ugly and even then.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:30 PM
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How does that explain why some women orgasm with some men in PiV and not with others?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:28 PM
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Re-read my post, I just described how its harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:26 PM
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I disagree, oral is still pleasuring her. But its also true that: If one man makes a woman cum with his dick, and the other can only make her cum with his mouth, then the second man does in fact lack in "manlihood". Hes lesser.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:22 PM
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Then how do women orgasm from PiV?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:18 PM
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looks like it's psychological for you and you don't want to admit it Huh? Now its your turn to explain. Lets try an explanation instead of innuendo... surprise me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:15 PM
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Ah so you wouldn't care at all if you had no gay/straight male friends? You'd be perfectly satisfied to only ever interact with women besides your bf. Because male friendships aren't any better than female ones, in fact they are "less strong" in your words. Did I get that right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:14 PM
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for one
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:10 PM
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That hasn't been my experience. Unfortunately a males ability to cum from a blowjob is very context dependent, if they are very mentally turned on, they will come easily. Its true for me as well. I've cum from oral in like a few seconds because I got too excited and I have been receiving for quite a while and not able to have full erection or cum. And its only about 20% related to "skill" of the giver. Its mostly just my mental state and how closely they match my fantasies. If they are giving me…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:07 PM
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Its a more natural motion and function for the mouth for one. We literally are brought into this world knowing how to "suck"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:06 PM
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most of the time Ya sure. Men are NEVER known for hiding their feelings from a woman they are trying to sexually impress.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:06 PM
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What do I need to explain
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:03 PM
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Men have to vet women very thoroughly to ever share their gender views because most women are very fragile and easily offended. An honest man quickly becomes a pariah among women (and their white knights who attack other men to curry favor amongst women)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:03 PM
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Explained what
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:01 PM
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Are you serious?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:01 PM
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what do i do if there is something my partner doesn't want to do in sex He does want to cum. Hes just idiotically believing that he is pleasing you more by "saving his sexual energy". He is obsessed with his performance. Which based on how you talk about sex I can see why you would meet a lot of insecure men who obsessed with lasting forever trying to please you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:00 PM
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You have yourself twisted. I said why I wanted woman friends over being satisfied with only male friendships. It sounds like you value men and women friendships differently and get different things from them. So what are you using male friendships for? Or do you see them the same as woman friendships? Which is it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:59 PM
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I often times cum because I start to feel she is bored and wants me to finish. And I have spoken directly with women who enjoy the build up to sex but once it gets started they don't want to get fucked for 30 minutes regardless of positions. They want him to cum and get it over with. You think this is the wrong mindset? What happens when you tell one of these "tantric" lovers that you want him to cum? Or is that not part of your love language.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:39 PM
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Just admit that women are about just as picky about their male friends as they are about their male lovers and we can be done with this. Where as men are much more egalitarian and even biased towards wanting to be around women and placate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:36 PM
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the thing is sucking dick is harder than eating someone out. I've done both and I disagree. Its much easier to suck a dick than eat a vagina out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:35 PM
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So you were not attractive to women broadly. But rather were relegated to a specific niche. If you tried to venture outside that niche you would have failed and been alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:34 PM
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Given we are adults I thought you would understand higher level motivation vs base motivation. Don't you think its kind of dumb to assume someone doesn't care about mutual interests, chemistry, fun between friends? WHy does that need to be stated? Are we autistic here?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:25 PM
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And what if they did not? You are saying I should only invite women to stuff that attracts a lot of other women? Kind of like how one man attracts many women but another attracts zero?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:22 PM
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You are dodging my question. I exposed your "just socialize have party" statement for the type of priviledged stuff that comes out of womens mouths because they are CONSTANTLY in mixed gender groups because men hound them and invite them to stuff and allowing women to be the gatekeeprs of all mixed gender activities
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:20 PM
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Ah, so you don't think the men you are friends feel socially validated by having female friends? You think people have wildly different motivations for friends? You think that I don't value mutual affection, interests and connection. Ok then.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:16 PM
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Why is that a requirement? Are you saying I need to have a mixed gender party for a woman to want to come, to grace us with her presence?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:13 PM
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It’s not mutual shared respect is it though I agree that you do not have mutual shared respect for individuals. You judge them based on immutable characteristics before knowing their character. You however cannot be speak for how I treat individuals. That is why I said your way of thinking is gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:12 PM
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Given that a man would definitely go to a dinner party with 80% women, it shows that women have it easier. Because of our hypergamic, apex driven society
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:10 PM
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So why should I want friendships with women? What are the virtuous reasons?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:07 PM
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Where did I say insult?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:06 PM
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I think the audience who is reading this exchange, will make the final judgement as to whether they want to live in a world where everyone thinks like you do or live in a world with mutual shared respect between individuals. I think they will choose my world.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:04 PM
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Cause my dick gets soft at the thought that it inside her is not doing hardly much for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:53 PM
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Why don't you share your own thoughts and then we can discuss them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:51 PM
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Ah so according to you, I don't deserve to be friends with women... but I do with men. Share that logic please? What is it, I deserve to have zero friends, or male friendships are so worthless that it makes sense that I would have those?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:49 PM
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How do I convince women to enjoy going to parties that is mostly men?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:43 PM
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So only be positive and never say anything negative or it can be construed as you attacking a user by associating them with something negative. Great debate/discussion philosophy.... totally not screwed up in anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:39 PM
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Why do you want friendships with women? Social status. What about a friendship with a woman are you not getting from your friendships with men? Social status, social validation. Do you understand how amazing it feels as a man to be a part of a mixed gender social group like in "Friends"? Probably you've never been without that, because you can pick and choose and trash men whenever you want and there will always be more lined up trying to be apart of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:37 PM
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And if she did pick him, you would have her back and NEVER DARE criticize her. You would hug her, share tears and say "you did NOTHING wrong, don't blame yourself!". Do you see my point? Who is helping her more, me or you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:34 PM
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Every way you explain it comes down to you wanting access to women not for friendship but for a specific sort of access. No. I specifically am complaining about the difficulty men have with creating friendships with women and how its women who are gatekeeping these relationships just like how they are gatekeeping sex (despite the fact that friendships SHOULD have a lower barrier of entry than sex). You are making assumptions that I am talking about sexual access to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:29 PM
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Another gross philosophical mindset. Someone like you will judge me before even meeting me based on my skin color, perceived class, general appearance. You want to put people into group identity boxes so that you have a target for malice and negative feelings while still feeling like a good person. gross
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:26 PM
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You claim that men nor women invite you to events No, I said men invite each other but value inviting women, where as women only invite other women unless you an exceptional man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:18 PM
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So I will get banned or warned on the basis of saying "unfortunately some people" vs "unfortunately you". Really?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:17 PM
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Why is there an online narrative that women are obsessed with oral. Where you have massive threads about women saying they only cum from oral, that they demand oral, that its the only thing that matters, that some guy is better than another guy in bed simply because of his oral actions, despite being deficient in other ways (usually dick size) It reads like gaslighting. Like women trying to convince themselves. If the only way my girl could cum was through oral, I would feel unfullfilled in such…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:15 PM
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punching up is better than punching down Thats such a lazy moral philosophy. It absolves you of all responsibility, and allows you to feel virtuous when you lash out with cruelty. Gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:09 PM
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I get results. So for me it makes sense. Maybe not for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:08 PM
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Because I value friendships with women. A successful social life requires friendships with men and women. Its also required for a functional society. If women don't want to be "yolked" by the patriarchy and tell men "treat us like people, I only date my friends, I only like men who like women who are comfortable around women" and then exclude men from their social lives. You will have a lot of dysfunctional men left over with a much lower quality of life than they would have had otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:05 PM
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Preserving time is worthless if you never enjoy your time because your failing to accomplish what you want
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 05:00 PM
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Nah. It’s mainly because women enjoy their friendships and enjoy how considerate women are in interpersonal bonds. I disagree. That is one piece of a pie, but doesn't explain the disparity. Maybe that is 30. You aren't even curious about the other 70% because it doesn't suit your narrative
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:58 PM
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What about wanting a woman to be attracted to you as much as she was to her best lover who was more hung than you and had better moves and dirty talk in sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:50 PM
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You are correct that my reply is top level. Its forcing you to consider your own actions and perspectives and the consequences they have more mens social lives. While you would prefer to blame one gender as if it exists in a silo and has all the solutions to its problems within that gender. And fail to realize that same hypergamic effects that are damaging dating outcomes for men are also damaging their social lives and social potential. And women liking being around other women so much OVER bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:47 PM
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I would invite both genders, and in fact I would be more eager to invite women than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:44 PM
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edit: I don't "require" anything. I am making observations and judgements.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:44 PM
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Sure, you can always be nihilistic. But thats kind of pointless
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:43 PM
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The dinner party next month? A woman is hosting. The running club? A bunch of bishes getting up at 6 AM to run together. WOMEN DO NOT GO TO ACTIVITIES HOSTED BY MEN UNLESS THERE ARE A BUNCH OF OTHER WOMEN THERE. WHY DID THOSE WOMEN NOT INVITE ANY MEN TO THOSE ACTIVITIES??? HUH?? WHY IS IT THAT MEN INVITE WOMEN TO THEIR ACTIVITIES BUT WOMEN DO NOT INVITE MEN TO THEIR ACTIVITIES, HUH? DO YOU NOT SEE HOW THIS CAN CREATE AN ASYMMETRY IN HOW WOMEN AND MENS SOCIAL LIVES DEVELOP? WOMEN DO NOT PUT SOCIA…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:22 PM
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I've forgotten my friends birthdays but I do view it as a personal failing. Its immature to not be considerate of people in your life that you supposedly care about. Men give each other slack, but its best not to abuse that, it will just lead to a thinner, less significant relationship. Even if he still remains your boy in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:18 PM
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And if a single man invited you to a dinner and it was mostly all men (many single) there, how do would you feel? Just as validated as going to a dinner with some gals and one of their bfs? I think we both know how you'd react.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:15 PM
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I agree theres no real way to tell. But if certain things are immutable, its logical to focus on the ones that aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:13 PM
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Because some men will stop to say hi to you on your hike, give you something else to talk about that day (Hey Cass, what did you think of those guys and what they said?? Lame, cool, blah blah blah). Maybe they will even extend an invitation for you to join their hiking club or whatebver the fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:11 PM
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emale friendships do not exist at da club for the express entertainment of men. So when you go to the club with your female friends, men don't come up to your group and attempt to entertain, flirt, talk, display? You don't think a man came up to that table to say hi to those ladies? The waiter/server doesn't try to land a few jokes, make yall laugh? Youre acting like I haven't had many conversations with women about their nights out with their friends, and been out in mixed groups and seen how t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:06 PM
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I also make sure I show up to people’s events. Their birthday parties. Their marathon. Their baby showers. Their choir recital. Their “hey I just wanna host a dinner at the house in April” invites. People appreciate that. And then they show up to your shit. Single men often do not get invited to those things like single women do. Unless they already have a deep long lasting friendship, which requires less effort to maintain anyway given the underlying strong foundation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 04:02 PM
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They have everything to do with it. Hen groups still sit around waiting for men to create the drama. Men drive the social scene. A woman group can go out to a club and wait for a bunch of men to come and stir stuff up, and entertain them. A guy group who goes out will have no one approach them, men or women. They will sit by themselves and drink. Woman find other women valuable to be around because it potentially brings in the (interesting) men. And because men and woman have decided that basic …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 03:58 PM
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You should read my edited comment. Women are arm candy, their very presence adds to group status. Women and men both want to be around even "basic" women, they add to their/the groups social status. Basic men are basically worthless. You have to be stand-out as a man to add social status to the group. Or you have to display your status through bringing a woman along (thats why its so much easier to make friends with other couples when you have a woman on your arm compared to when you are a singl…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 03:51 PM
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It is hard and very important. I could enjoy a day, by say working out, drinking coffee, posting on reddit, watching youtube, reading, drinking whiskey and playing a video game. But there is a social hole in such a day. A day like that is not growth. When I spend days like that, I superficially can enjoy the day, but in the end I know that in the big picture that day was more of a failure because it was not spent strengthening my relationships with friends and family. What you, as a woman, seem …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 03:41 PM
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You don't need any womans advice. Its very easy to see what women are attracted to. Unfortunately you just don't have the skills and ability to display these qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 03:31 PM
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I mean I would question a womans "picker" if she picks men who rape her. I think most non-rapist men would.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 03:28 PM
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And do you push back when your women friends reduce men to objects, slice and dice them based on their sexual value and what they are providing you? I found most of men's issues stems from the lack of social intimacy Why can't you just listen to struggling men. THey will state it plainly that they are lacking sexual intimacy, and that is what they need, sexual intimacy. Why exactly do you believe that general social intimacy can compensate for lack of sexual intimacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 03:24 PM
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1) Low status men (men who can't easily obtain sex from a range of women for one reason or another) do not have many opportunities to display their "goodness" or "badness" in the context of women. 2) Online commentary on a subject is not representative of how that individual acts in his face to face interactions and life. When some kid tells me to kill myself because I camped him in Battlefield, I am intelligent enough to say that while its a mark against his character, its a small one, and its …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 03:20 PM
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