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| 2 | Has anyone successfully avoided signing a marriage contract?I went through and read some of the book you reference. The section on patens patriae is a wildly inaccurate characterization of both the law and of the movie Braveheart. Whether someone chooses to have their marriage recognized by the state through a marriage license is their choice. But from a legal standpoint, it will be much more difficult in emergencies and probate if you elect to have a common law marriage. If you're going to have a common law marriage at least register an acknowledgement … | /r/RPChristians | 20/08/25 07:01 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/04/25)Delayed response. Newborns take a lot of time. Which you will re-learn when yours is born. By the way - CONGRATULATIONS! 1) yes, I am opposing the sacrament of the eucharist and it's interpretation of John 6 by the Catholic Church. I think the orthodox also interpret it that way. 2) I am a calvinist as well until I can see a more clear interpretation of the entire bible that doesn't end up with nonsensical verses. 3) I agree with you, it appears that John 6 is not about the eucharist. However, I… | /r/RPChristians | 20/08/25 04:10 PM |
| 5 | Has anyone successfully avoided signing a marriage contract?Be forewarned, if you form a common law marriage (also known as an "informal marriage") you don't have the same legal rights and privileges as those afforded with state recognition. The state places the spouse first allowing: decision making where there is incapacity/emergency, visitation/access in hospitals, presumption of paternity, special inheritance laws, decision making authority after death, tax benefits, and other benefits. If you are common law you won't have those benefits and you will… | /r/RPChristians | 20/08/25 03:06 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/04/25)Makes the argument in favor of the eucharist difficult to maintain. Destroys might be a little too hyperbolic. 54 states "Whoever feeds on my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life, and I will raise him up on the last day." (ESV) The argument in favor of the eucharist rests in large part on John 6, namely on v55 where Christ states that his "flesh is true food and [his] blood is true drink." The fact that Christ states in v54 that "whoever feeds... and drinks... has eternal life" gives two p… | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/25 07:34 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/04/25)I agree on v 44 and 65 giving clear evidence of election and preservation of the saints. I think that v54 both destroys the eucharist and affirms preservation of the saints. | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/25 04:37 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/04/25)Spiritual · Assurance of Salvation 8/10 (Mt 7:21-23 scares the heck out of me; but think that I pass 1Jn tests) · Quiet Time/Devotional 4/10 · Bible Study 2/10 · Scripture Memory 0/10 · Prayer 3/10 · Evangelism 3/10 · Fellowship 5/10 No current discipler. Not sure who I would trust/want in this role. Former pastor is solid spiritually. But is blue pill and complmentarian. Working at evangelizing wife's unbelieving family and then discipling them. Working hard at understanding John 6 and eucharis… | /r/RPChristians | 04/08/25 03:04 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/04/25)#30 Basic Info: 36y/o; married 8 years; two kids (4y/o and a under 3 mo) Stopped posting during pregnancy. Posting again after birth. Mission: Glorify God in actions, lead others to Glorify Him too. Physical Stats: 5’ 9”, 165lbs, 15-18% BFP, Lifts: Have only lifted once workout since baby born. Doing rowing machine, abs, cyclingz, and running. Need to make the time to go to the gym. Previously BP 117.5lbs, DL 220, Squat 185, OHP 77.5, BB Row 122.5, chin up 1 w/o machine, program Phraks Greyskull… | /r/RPChristians | 04/08/25 03:04 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (08/05/24)OYS #26 7/29/2024 Background: 35M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Same as previous Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Same as previous Reading: Completed: BPP Podcast Series, NMMNG x2, TRM, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Courage to by Disliked x3, WOTSM Currently: MAP (63%), Courage to by happy (75%), RPC Sidebar (84%), Rian Stone Sidebar Series (22/75),… | /r/RPChristians | 06/08/24 09:37 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/24)How do you think your wife would reply to "go do X" to something that you are wanting done? Her response would likely be context dependent. She plays the illness card a lot (she has a chronic illness). She usually responds to direct requests for aid where there is a clear need. If it was just something I desired and she didn't see a need or was "not feeling well" then she's probably push back on it. I could have a more planned out vision casting. I've shared visions before, but haven't planned o… | /r/RPChristians | 01/08/24 02:58 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/22/24)Can you give me 2 or 3 examples? I disagree with the doctrine of pedo-baptism. I believe that baptism is an outward response from a person who has saving faith. However, I do not believe that baptising infants or believing that it is right to baptize infants is going to impact salvation so long as "you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead" (Rom. 10:9). I disagree with the eucarist. Unlike most of the church prior to the reformatio… | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/24 06:59 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/22/24)Now, you have to decide, what do you think about the Christians in A.D. 150? I have a theologically educated friend who says, "The gospel was lost almost immediately after the Bible was written. They all started believing weird stuff, and then in the Reformation we recovered the truth." This is a good point. Throughout Acts and the epistles the apostles are clearly is trying to correct bad theology that had been infesting the church from all sides. And the history of the church constantly has he… | /r/RPChristians | 30/07/24 04:12 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/22/24)Chuck, thank you for the thorough reply. As a lifelong protestant and Calvanist, I appreciate many of your arguments. I have noticed that protestantism (and especially calvinism) sometimes feels too intellectually focused with not enough focus on the spirit and faith. This is something I have begun to explore. How can I get my heart to engage with the theology and arguments that my mind loves in the Bible and the church? I firmly believe that the vast majority of people in the church (all denomi… | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/24 05:37 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/29/24)OYS #25 7/29/2024 Background: 35M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Same as previous Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Same as previous Reading: Completed: BPP Podcast Series, NMMNG x2, TRM, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Courage to by Disliked x3, WOTSM Currently: MAP (63%), Courage to by happy (75%), RPC Sidebar (84%), Rian Stone Sidebar Series (22/75),… | /r/RPChristians | 29/07/24 05:28 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/22/24)I don't know how anyone can transition from a Baptist church to an Orthodox one, unless you really don't know the Bible at all. While the Orthodox have many good spiritual practices, they are not born again. This is an interesting statement. I have been looking into the orthodox church as I think they have done a better job keeping the spiritual traditions of christianity than other sects. I am curious what you mean by the statement that they are not born again and where you find that in their t… | /r/RPChristians | 26/07/24 06:56 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/22/24)OYS #24 7/22/2024 Background: 35M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Same as previous Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Same as previous Reading: Completed: BPP Podcast Series, NMMNG x2, TRM, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Courage to by Disliked x3, WOTSM Currently: MAP (63%), Courage to by happy (75%), RPC Sidebar (84%), Rian Stone Sidebar Series (22/75),… | /r/RPChristians | 22/07/24 05:00 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/15/24)OYS #23 7/17/2024 Background: 35M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Same as previous Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Same as previous Reading: Completed: BPP Podcast Series, NMMNG x2, TRM, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Courage to by Disliked x3, WOTSM Currently: MAP (63%), Courage to by happy (75%), RPC Sidebar (84%), Rian Stone Sidebar Series (22/75),… | /r/RPChristians | 17/07/24 07:12 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/08/24)OYS #22 7/8/2024 Background: 35M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Same as previous Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Same as previous Reading: Completed: BPP Podcast Series, NMMNG x2, TRM, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Courage to by Disliked x3, WOTSM Currently: MAP (50%), Courage to by happy (75%), RPC Sidebar (84%), Rian Stone Sidebar Series (22/75), … | /r/RPChristians | 08/07/24 03:02 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (07/01/24)OYS #21 7/2/2024 Background: 35M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Same as previous Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Same as previous Reading: Completed: BPP Podcast Series, NMMNG x2, TRM, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Courage to by Disliked x3, WOTSM Currently: MAP (43%), Courage to by happy (75%), RPC Sidebar (84%), Rian Stone Sidebar Series (22/75), … | /r/RPChristians | 02/07/24 02:42 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/24/24)"found time" would not be an accurate description. I chose porn rather than prayer or reading the bible. When I chose the bible and prayer I didn't make time for porn. It's straight forward. And yes, I've done porn quitting programs and books before. Have one now that I am re-working through. Last time I had a few months of victory after completing the program/book. | /r/RPChristians | 24/06/24 06:56 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/24/24)OYS #20 6/24/2024 Background: 35M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Hear “well done good and faithful servant” Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Expand joy in the Lord, continue being radically changed to be like Christ; Stop being an indecisive and weak man who forces/allows my wife to take control, be a strong leader in the home; Stop cov… | /r/RPChristians | 24/06/24 02:23 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/17/24)OYS #19 6/17/2024 Background: 35M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Hear “well done good and faithful servant” Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Expand joy in the Lord, continue being radically changed to be like Christ; Stop being an indecisive and weak man who forces/allows my wife to take control, be a strong leader in the home; Stop cov… | /r/RPChristians | 17/06/24 09:14 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/10/24)OYS #18 6/10/2024 Background: 35M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Hear “well done good and faithful servant” Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Expand joy in the Lord, continue being radically changed to be like Christ; Stop being an indecisive and weak man who forces/allows my wife to take control, be a strong leader in the home; Stop cov… | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/24 03:21 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/03/24)The reason I list less than 10/10 is that I have been unwilling/unable to kill lust for all of my adult life. I’ve put it in comas for periods, but it has come back. It’s reemergence leads me to question whether there is a genuine pattern of decreasing sin in my life as 1 John 3:6 states that “No one who abides in him keeps on sinning; no one who keeps on sinning has either seen him or known him.” | /r/RPChristians | 10/06/24 04:07 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/24)Thanks for the reply. You’re probably right, there probably is an element of validation seeking still left. It’s difficult to kill. Thanks for the resource. | /r/RPChristians | 03/06/24 09:13 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (06/03/24)OYS #17 6/3/2024 Background: 34M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Hear “well done good and faithful servants” Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Expand joy in the Lord, continue being radically changed to be like Christ; Stop being an indecisive and weak man who forces/allows my wife to take control, be a strong leader in the home; Stop cov… | /r/RPChristians | 03/06/24 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 28, 2024Pretty sure that I’ve already stated that the model of relying on myself does not work to achieve my goals. This is pretty basic 12 step stuff. I think I’m around step 7. Not sure whether I’d be willing to do a step 9 as telling the wife about porn would only serve to lighten my conscience and would damage the marriage. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/06/24 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 28, 2024So then your question is "why have you been unable to live/walk by the spirit in the past" not "why has walking/living by the spirit failed." I misunderstood the question. It is the primary reason that I have doubts regarding salvation. It is something I am analyzing. I'm going to spend some time digging into the puritans and Romans to see if there are any insights. What has changed? Well, I am more diligent and disciplined in the spiritual disciplines. I am changing behavior and attitudes on th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/05/24 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 28, 2024What would make you think that I have actually been "by the Spirit you put[ting] to death the deeds of the body"? Obviously the deeds of the body are not dead. Why would you think that I had actually been doing anything other than solely relying on my own strength and will in the past? | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/05/24 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 28, 2024Thank you, and yes, I can. "I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me." Philipians 4:11b-13 "No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide th… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/05/24 04:23 PM |
| 8 | Wife has been diagnosed with a hormone problem."With all of you men out there who think that having a thousand different ladies is pretty cool, I have learned in my life I've found out that having one woman a thousand different times is much more satisfying." - Wilt Chamberlain, man who slept with approximately 20,000 women. | /r/askMRP | 29/05/24 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 28, 2024I believe that "if you live according to the flesh you will die, but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live." Romans 8:13. I believe that lust is among the many "deeds of the body" which must be put to death. While sheer will-power might be able to cause the sin to go underground and give victory over looking at porn and "jacking it" in the near term (as it has for me for stretches in the past), without living by the spirit you cannot completely "put to death the … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/05/24 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 28, 2024HAHAHA (reaches for thesaurus) The sex was: enjoyable, pleasing, good, pleasurable, very welcome, gratifying, almost - but not quite - delectable, near rapturous, satisfying, blissful, less than completely euphoric, somewhat exhilarating... Does that satisfy your autisic need for more colorful adjectives? It was vanilla, I've had better. Vanilla is "nice." It's still good sex, not bad sex. It's just not great sex. I'm saying no to bad sex. At the moment I'm fine with good sex the majority of the… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/05/24 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - May 28, 2024OYS #16 5/28/2024 Background: 34M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: See RPC post Mission: See RPC post. Objectives: Stop being an indecisive and weak man who forces/allows my wife to take control, be a strong leader in the home; Stop covert contracts and validation seeking (the fear of man) and instead only fear God; Be a strong example for children to guide them in the way they should go. Reading: Completed: BPP Podcast Series, NMMNG x2, TRM, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Courag… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/05/24 05:40 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/27/24)OYS #16 5/28/2024 Background: 34M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Hear “well done good and faithful servants” Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Expand joy in the Lord, continue being radically changed to be like Christ; Stop being an indecisive and weak man who forces/allows my wife to take control, be a strong leader in the home; Stop co… | /r/RPChristians | 28/05/24 05:28 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/20/24)I've been misusing terms I did not understand. I thought "hard no" meant "no" and "soft no" meant LMR fit-testing. I don't know that I've got many hard noes. | /r/RPChristians | 27/05/24 03:40 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/20/24)notice you copy and paste a lot of the same OYS from the previous week. Mostly pertaining to goals. For myself, when I do that I start to become blind to the content. That’s my own personal problem, but I figured I’d share the thought anyway. Yes, I copy and paste the whole thing then re-write the sections where changes have occurred. It is one giant (password protected) word doc on my computer. I'll have to keep an eye out to make sure I don't stop reading/reviewing each section. | /r/RPChristians | 23/05/24 02:07 PM |
| 0 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/20/24)What happens when you initiate and she complains about her health? Are you sure you are not just failing a sht test or is it a hard no? It could be a s-test. I don't 100% know. She is frequently complaining about health. Usually the complaints are well before the bedroom. This week she has been complaining that she's having stomach issues and has had to come home early from work twice because she wasn't feeling well. Hard to argue that she should be fine for sex when she wasn't able to get throu… | /r/RPChristians | 23/05/24 02:03 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/20/24)OYS #15 5/20/2024 Background: 34M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Hear “well done good and faithful servants” Mission: DRAFT: Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Expand joy in the Lord, continue being radically changed to be like Christ; Stop being an indecisive and weak man who forces/allows my wife to take control, be a strong leader in t… | /r/RPChristians | 20/05/24 03:50 PM |
| – | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/24)Thanks for the reply. I do have issues with pride and I am ignorant of somethings. Have a great weekend. I'll post again Monday. | /r/RPChristians | 17/05/24 03:21 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/24)that is needy Yes, I have needs. I am not ashamed of that. My needs are important and I will not pretend that I don't have needs just to please other people. That would be classic nice guy behavior. You have needs too. It's okay to have needs. Going deep with my wife involves her legs over my shoulders So you don't have a companion, only warm hole to share your life with? You don't have conversations that matter? No discussions of life, theology, salvation, plans for the future, anything of sign… | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/24 09:25 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/24)You have to keep loving her with your actions, including your sexuality. Withdrawing to the internet to complain about her abusing you is NOT forgiveness, NOT OI, NOT loving, and NOT helpful. Fair point. I just am tired. I know the captain doesn't get a break, you have to keep running the race regardless of anything else. But I got tired and didn't want to wade through the excrement for a few days. IT WAS WEAK. SOMETIMES I AM WEAK. | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/24 07:46 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/24)Fix that fast, because a 200lb deadlift is unacceptable. I agree. Thanks for the resource. I also notice you have a bench goal but no squat/deadlift goal. Are you sure you aren't sandbagging your training? It's unusual to squat that much more than you deadlift as a beginner. Make sure you are squatting to depth. I don't have specific goals on squat/deadlift. Just a general 1,000 club goal for two years. Maybe I need to add specific goals. It appears highly likely that I won't meet my benchpress … | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/24 06:47 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/24)When you say “you must walk in the spirit”, how exactly do you do that? That is an excellent question! I am working this out now. It is obivous that I must fully saturate my life, my mind, and my heart with Christ and the scriptures. Ezekiel 36:26-27 says we will receive a "new heart" and "new spirit" that will move us to follow God's decrees. Titus 3:5 says that believers are saved by "by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit" (having been justified by grace). I am working … | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/24 02:55 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/24)replace sinful ideas with Holy ones I agree. I have worked on this on and off for 15 years. have you sat her down and told her where she can provide value in the relationship and where you see her with where your mission and life is heading? I have not. She is probably quite lost. I told her months ago that changes may be coming in my behavior (I thought I was supposed to follow the tell her guide in NMMNG, thankfully I realized not too before I got to the exercises). I have not talked to her ab… | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/24 02:13 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/13/24)OYS #14 5/13/2024 Background: 34M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Hear “well done good and faithful servants” Mission: DRAFT: Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Expand joy in the Lord, continue being radically changed to be like Christ; Stop being an indecisive and weak man who forces/allows my wife to take control, be a strong leader in t… | /r/RPChristians | 14/05/24 03:47 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/06/24)"How can you be so obtuse?... is it deliberate?" - Andy Dufresne, Shawshank Redemption At this point I do not believe that you misunderstand me, you're just being argumentative to yank my chain. So I will say "thank you" for the advice. I appreciate hearing others thoughts and always take them like the Bereans for review. I encourage you to do the same. Also, you may need to study a little bit about eunuchs. You might be surprised regarding the castrato. | /r/RPChristians | 11/05/24 04:02 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/06/24)Was he "sexually satisfied"? "there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven." Do eunics have a sex drive? If eunics have a sex drive do they fulfill/satisfy their sexual urges? Did Jesus have sex? I think you can answer your question pretty easily. | /r/RPChristians | 10/05/24 05:32 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/06/24)How often do you leave the house without the wife knowing where you are going? I would guess close to never. We align schedules in for child care. As part of that we typically mention where we're going. But I agree, there is no specific reason she needs to be told what I'm doing. And yes, she can undoubtedly feel that I'm angry. You have combated me before about being OI is sin, but you keep actually sinning by looking at porn. There is a covert contract somewhere, I recommend you find it. To be… | /r/RPChristians | 10/05/24 04:23 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/06/24)She is on board. When I told her what I'm planning to do she appected it and said that it was a good idea and she'd work to free up my time by taking responsibilities at home. I do not consider this as asking her, I am telling her what I believe my plan/path is and then she is letting me know that she will support it. Which I believe is required given that someone has to be able to care for the child at home when I'm off doing the mission. I've led men before and I've led boys before. But from w… | /r/RPChristians | 07/05/24 04:29 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/06/24)Your men's group does sound kind of sucky, but you are part of the group too, so the responsibility is yours. Groups are supposed to produce deepening relationships, which in turn facilitates personal and spiritual growth, but you cannot get out what you don't put in. Vitrael is right. I've lead a number of mens groups over the years. In college I used the following questions as a simple way to get good structure. You'd go around as ask each guy each of the five questions. It typically took arou… | /r/RPChristians | 07/05/24 03:09 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (05/06/24)OYS #13 5/6/2024 Background: 34M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Mission: DRAFT: Mission: Glorify God by helping boys develop into men of God and by helping provide for the physical and spiritual needs of the poor in my community. Objectives: Expand joy in the Lord, continue being radically changed to be like Christ; Stop being an indecisive and weak man who forces/allows my wife to take control, be a strong leader in the home; Stop covert contracts and validation… | /r/RPChristians | 06/05/24 06:09 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24)Or do we embrace that shallow copies are still the real thing, even if a weak expression? Fair point. Perhaps this is why I keep using those "fluff" words that you don't like to qualify everything discussed as coming from God through Christ. I do agree that the bible does use the same words for believers and unbelievers. So focusing on attributes of believers that come from God without clarifying would create confusion. Never get hung up on the idyllic mentality. That's what the mainstream churc… | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/24 08:55 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24)I was in the car nearly 4 hours today and thought about you quite a lot. That is kind to do for a near total stranger on the internet. Thank you for taking the time. I have been working on remembering that everyone who comments is taking time to try to help someone without even knowing them. It is sobering to think on. As I thought about the way this was worded and the way you generally write on the subject of porn, it struck me as a deeply pathological mode of thinking. You may be right. But ju… | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/24 03:12 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24)For example, a non-Christian can spread joy. The joy they spread is a shallow copy of what Christ offers If it's a shallow copy then it's not actual joy, right? It's an imperfect imitation of joy. So what they would be spreading wouldn't be joy, it'd be a facsimile of joy. After all, are not most -if not all- sins preversions of what God made/gives? With God are "pleasures forevermore" (Psalm 16) but sin says its great to be a hedonist and find pleasures on earth. In God alone is fulness of joy … | /r/RPChristians | 01/05/24 02:12 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24)The Courage to Be Disliked Thank you for the recommendation. I found it on spotify and will listen to it while working out or commuting. Also, thanks for taking time to engage. I know that you and I do not agree on whether to include "fluff" or attributes of Christians as essential parts of the descriptors in statements. I believe that mostly stems from views on the importance of details and minutia which is ingrained in our personalities and practiced consistently in our professions. Joy and sa… | /r/RPChristians | 30/04/24 08:06 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24)Revised mission statement exercise. Initial thoughts: I believe that God is glorified when people value God and are satisfied in Him. Therefore, I believe that my mission is to spread the joy of the Lord, satisfaction in Christ. Further, I believe that those who love God are called to generously care for the people in their community and to send people to spread the good news of Christ. Therefore, I believe that I am further called to care for the people geographically near me, both spiritual ne… | /r/RPChristians | 29/04/24 08:28 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24)Do you have a target BW you're aiming for? Good question. I don't have a BW goal, but a BFP goal. I want to be around 13-15% BFP. When I look in the mirror I still see a lot of fat. I've been maintaining .85-1g protein per lbs lean body mass for a couple of months. Thanks to having been a lazy bum for a decade before I'm still getting newbie gains and building muscle while cutting. But I am aware that I'm going to have to level out in a couple to a few weeks. It's amazing what kind of real sexua… | /r/RPChristians | 29/04/24 06:56 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/29/24)OYS #12 4/29/2024 Background: 34M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Implementing the commands of Christ laid out in the four gospels and described in my mission by: reading the word of God daily; meeting regularly with men of God; having at least 20 minutes a day dedicated specifically and solely to prayer; being an example in word and in deed; sharing my faith with others; discipling younger men of faith; leading my family after Christ; and serving in my community … | /r/RPChristians | 29/04/24 02:37 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/22/24)Why are you lying to yourself? You’ve been posting about struggles with porn for 2 months (and I’m sure you watched it for years before that), yet you can’t beat it. You WANT to watch it and you WANT to feel bad about it because it means you don’t have to do the work to develop a hatred of it and fight. I agree, I want to watch it. That's why people sin, they want to sin. The desire for sin is stronger in that moment than the desire for Christ.(James 1:14-15) I am willingly in bondage to my sin.… | /r/RPChristians | 23/04/24 07:29 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/22/24)Your mission needs work, my man. It’s not tied to any action. Okay. I edited it from an action based one to a commands of Jesus based one. But I guess I need an action too. Life's goal has long been to reflect and magnify the glory of God and highlight the supremacy of God in all things. But that doesn't really tie with an action either I guess. What kind of porn do you watch? Have you thought about why you watch that kind? That's a good question. I'll have to think about it. I find porn disgust… | /r/RPChristians | 23/04/24 02:15 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/15/24)Just saw this. I would say that I suck at initating. And at game and KINO. Initiating pretty much always starts with kissing then moving into hold or hug or carress her body along with kissing. She usually pushes me away. I am probably doing things wrong. I guess I never was told better ways. I'm trying to figure out where in the reading list are resources on game and initiation. Because whatever I'm doing isn't working. | /r/RPChristians | 23/04/24 02:53 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/22/24)OYS #11 4/22/2024 Background: 34M 32F, married 7 years. Together 9. One daughter under 5. Vision: Implementing the commands of Christ laid out in the four gospels and described in my mission by: reading the word of God daily; meeting regularly with men of God; having at least 20 minutes a day dedicated specifically and solely to prayer; being an example in word and in deed; sharing my faith with others; discipling younger men of faith; leading my family after Christ; and serving in my community … | /r/RPChristians | 23/04/24 02:41 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/15/24)I wasted time arguing theology to random people on the internet when I could've just ignored or fogged. It was a poor decision on my part. I'm upset that my wasted time. Whether someone else is right or I'm right doesn't really matter as much as (1) I spent time that I could have used productively and (2) I was closed minded and insisted on the interpretation of the scripture that matches my reading of the texts instead of accepting that other readings could be acceptable. you come off like a ch… | /r/RPChristians | 19/04/24 12:19 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/15/24)Thanks for taking the time to reply. I've had comments removed for accidental profanity too. Apparently some of the names for penis and vagina are not allowed. Best to just use clinical terms to avoid removal. Your wife currently lacks sexual attraction to you. Yes, it's currently a desire issue with my wife. She used to desire me, though sex has always been complicated by medical issues. I probably have a covert contract right now that says if I turn my life around and get fit and lead the hous… | /r/RPChristians | 18/04/24 08:41 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/15/24)No disagreement at all on the first part. I agree that I am the perpetrator. I choose to sin. I go back and forth between hating myself for sinning and being numb. The numbness terrifies me more than anything else I have ever felt or seen. There are no innocent victim of sin, we all choose. Everyone jumps into their sin (James 1:13-15; Desiring God Parable on lust) no one is dragged kicking and screaming into committing sins. And there is always a way of escape from sin (1 Cor 10:13) but the foo… | /r/RPChristians | 18/04/24 03:22 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/15/24)And so you say you’re focusing your desires on your wife, but really what you’re doing is using her as an emotional crutch for your lack of confidence. I don't understand what point you're trying to make. It reads like you're claiming that lust and sexual immorality are a result of lack of confidence and that sex in marriage is an emotional crutch for said lack of confidence. This is a confusing stance to me. When I read my bible I see that God ordained sex (Gen 1:28) and commanded husbands and … | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/24 09:39 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/15/24)(b) more likely because she's not getting aroused by you throughout the day and she thinks giving you a hand job might be enough sexual contact for her to start thinking about it so she can work herself up to actually wanting to have sex with you later. I would agree that (b) is usually the issue [(a) has been an issue in the past, but recently it's (b) as she is giving the handjob to later get to having sex]. So then the problem is I'm not doing things to generate arrousal throughout the day. W… | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/24 09:17 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/15/24)What does LMR look like in these situations? I think technically it is when the panties are about to come off. Is that when these are happening? No, its early at the initiation stage that she's giving noes and resistence. I didn't think it should be considered LMR, but people kept calling it LMR so I figured they knew better. I would describe it as a "don't try to initiate I'm not in the mood for X reason." Then if initiation persists additional reasons might be added and anger levels increase. … | /r/RPChristians | 17/04/24 02:48 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/15/24)OYS #10 4/15/2024 Background: 34M 32F, married 6 years. Together 8. One daughter under 5. Vision: Be filled with joy and hope, abounding in steadfast love. Generous to all and a solid rock of good theology and truth in my family, church, and community. Be financially secure, but not wasteful, give generously to those in need around me. Encouraging good morals and uprightness in the people around me, an example for the community. Mission: DRAFT: Use my joy and analytical skills to be a man who st… | /r/RPChristians | 15/04/24 03:56 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/08/24)You want more sex, and yet your goal is to initiate once per week? One pre-workout. Around 5-7 total through the week. Still too low for my current horniness. I set a pre-workout goal so that I could have some OI and just STFU out the door to the gym when I get rejected. If you are that horny, wake her up. She will complain, but she is yours. I'll work shifting my clock so I wake up before her and start initiating. I know that it's going to be hard noes for a while in the morning. It has always … | /r/RPChristians | 15/04/24 03:48 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/08/24)This not a thing. You cannot go down and up at the same time. Yeah, I don't really know what I'm doing. I'll switch back to aggressive cuting then. It's your last opportunity for sex with your wife this month and you "accept" a handjob? This is poverty thinking and nice guy BS. Why didn't you push for sex? What are you so afraid of? Why not go for a blowjob? I accepted it because it was the last time to get off without sinning through self-gratification or porn. Blowjobs have been off the table … | /r/RPChristians | 11/04/24 03:42 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/08/24)You were 190lbs a month ago and 188lbs today. At >20% BF you need to be more consistent with the diet, or you're just spinning your wheels, wasting time. You're probably right. I had felt decent with dropping 3% body fat and a couple of pounds in a month, but I guess I should still be in the major cut range rather than the focus on bulking range. At what point do I level out the diet? I had moved my calorie goals from 2100 to 2400 as I was no longer focusing on major cut, but moderate cutting wi… | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/24 08:57 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/08/24)OYS #9 4/8/2024 Background: 34M 32F, married 6 years. Together 8. One daughter under 5. Vision: Be filled with joy and hope, abounding in steadfast love. Generous to all and a solid rock of good theology and truth in my family, church, and community. Be financially secure, but not wasteful, give generously to those in need around me. Encouraging good morals and uprightness in the people around me, an example for the community. Mission: DRAFT: Use my joy and analytical skills to be a man who stan… | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/24 12:41 AM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/01/24)Tests are normal human interaction. Fair enough. I'll have to start analyzing conversations more. Search LMR. There are different approaches for dealing with it and you need to calibrate for you. Just remember LMR is always a fitness test and she wants you to pass. So you believe that the biological funcation of a cool-down period after orgasm is a form of LMR? Or are you saying that the insistence of ending the interaction due to the cooldown period is the LMR? Because the cooldown cycle is bio… | /r/RPChristians | 02/04/24 05:50 PM |
| – | Own Your Shit Weekly - April 02, 2024OYS #8 Background: 34M 32F, married 6 years. Together 8. One daughter under 5. Vision: Be filled with joy and hope, abounding in steadfast love. Generous to all and a solid rock of good theology and truth in my family, church, and community. Be financially secure, but not wasteful, give generously to those in need around me. Encouraging good morals and uprightness in the people around me, an example for the community. Mission: DRAFT: Use my joy and analytical skills to be a man who stands for tr… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 02/04/24 05:01 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/01/24)You are still afraid to initiate, but your ego won't let you admit that. This is probably true in part. Porn was different dates and times than the non-initiations, but I'm probably still afraid to initiate, even if being tired was the primary cause over the weekend. I probably would have accepted the sex had she initiated, so I likely wasn't too tired to have sex, just tired enough that I didn't want to endure the effort of initiating sex. I probably also didn't want the frustration of being gi… | /r/RPChristians | 01/04/24 08:10 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (04/01/24)OYS #8 Background: 34M 32F, married 7 years. Together 8. One daughter under 5. Vision: Be filled with joy and hope, abounding in steadfast love. Generous to all and a solid rock of good theology and truth in my family, church, and community. Be financially secure, but not wasteful, give generously to those in need around me. Encouraging good morals and uprightness in the people around me, an example for the community. Mission: DRAFT: Use my joy and analytical skills to be a man who stands for tr… | /r/RPChristians | 01/04/24 04:27 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/25/24)If everything was working in your life except BJ's, would you be happy? I think so. I guess I'm focused on it for three reasons that I see (maybe more that I'm not seeing): for validation, because she used to do it and I feel like it would help show that I'm back to a better level of attraction, and because I read on here that BJs are a good measure of success with RP. Maybe all of those boil down to validation? They all are about me having her show the desire and submission that I want/expect h… | /r/RPChristians | 01/04/24 02:51 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/25/24)OYS #7 Background: 34M 32F, married 6 years. Together 8. One daughter under 5. Vision: Be filled with joy and hope, abounding in steadfast love. Generous to all and a solid rock of good theology and truth in my family, church, and community. Be financially secure, but not wasteful, give generously to those in need around me. Encouraging good morals and uprightness in the people around me, an example for the community. Mission: DRAFT: Use my joy and analytical skills to be a man who stands for tr… | /r/RPChristians | 25/03/24 05:32 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/18/24)When in doubt use STFU. This is a big one I need to work on. I get chatty and don't stop to analyze if I should be talking or STFU. It's either I'm highly verbose or silent. I need to add a filter to analyze if what I'm saying should even be said. Better to keep the mouth closed and be thought wise than open it and confirm I'm a fool It might be helpful to think about this as "taking the lead" as opposed to "being in control." Good point, I think that is a better word here. It's a little bit of … | /r/RPChristians | 18/03/24 09:24 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/18/24)Do you want control, or do you want sex? Right now I want sex. A sexless marriage was how I found the red pill. I agree, right now I just want to get regular sex. With the fire hose of information I thought I had to be taking control in sex to start getting more sex. I'd like for it to be good sex, which letting her control is resulting in more ruined or bad sex and not much good sex. This week was the first good sex in a while. And the first time in a while that it felt like she was jumping on … | /r/RPChristians | 18/03/24 06:03 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/18/24)OYS #6 Background: 34M 32F, married 6 years. Together 8. One daughter under 6. Vision: Be filled with joy and hope, abounding in steadfast love. Generous to all and a solid rock of good theology and truth in my family, church, and community. Be financially secure, but not wasteful, give generously to those in need around me. Encouraging good morals and uprightness in the people around me, an example for the community. Mission: DRAFT: Use my joy and analytical skills to be a man who: stands for t… | /r/RPChristians | 18/03/24 03:58 PM |
| 1 | 201 - Healthy Sexual Desire v. Lust/CovetingThis was a well written analysis on lust v. desire. Thank you. I am struck by your statement: The better option is simply to eliminate this guilt and negativity from your life altogether. After all, you're already forgiven - why bother feeling guilty when God has already declared you "not guilty"? It seems to me that brokenness over sin that (1) has already been committed, and is either (2a) is recently discovered or (2b) is proving difficult to defeat - is a good and biblical thing. (Note: not … | /r/RPChristians | 14/03/24 08:04 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/11/24)bordering-on-tears-thinking-about-all-the-awful-things-I've-done I have been there many times. I don't believe there is anything wrong with being broken over your sin. It is not weakness to be broken over sin. David, a man after God's own heart and a great warrior king, has multiple psalms (Ps. 51 & 32) where he is broken and crying out to God over the sin that he committed. A Christian should be broken over sin. If you felt no brokenness over sin I would question whether you are saved at all. B… | /r/RPChristians | 14/03/24 03:16 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/11/24)Thanks. I think my scale at home is off by about 2 pounds. The one at the doctor's and the one at her parents both had me as about 2-3 pounds lower than my scale at home. The 4 pounds is in part due to that. But I'm happy with the progress. Should be breaking PRs this month for lifts. Which is exciting. I didn't realize telling her that she ruined it by commanding was DEERing. I agree. It's a long road, but health progress is going great. Need to spot DEERing and unattractive behavior better. Al… | /r/RPChristians | 12/03/24 02:53 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/11/24)Thanks. It's a long road, but I feel like I'm making good progress. | /r/RPChristians | 12/03/24 02:52 PM |
| 2 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/11/24)OYS #5 Background: 34M 32F, married 6 years. Together 8. One daughter under 6. Mission: In development: current draft: To use my talents, knowledge, and skill to build the kingdom of God by being full of joy, generous to those in need, disciplining younger men with grace and sound theology to be strong men of God, and being a leader in my community. NOTE: Is there a post or website on what makes for good life missions or how to craft a good life mission? I want it to center on God and be as spec… | /r/RPChristians | 11/03/24 06:08 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/04/24)Thanks for taking the time to reply. No, her hands do have pain issues. To the point where she occasionally has to use the artritis hand creams for the pain. It's diagnosed by multiple doctors and has been an issue for around a decade. If she didn't have known and ongoing joint problems in her hands you would've probably been right. She probably could've powered through the pain if I had pressed her, but I decided that I didn't want a duty handjob that was litterally hurting her. As pointed out … | /r/RPChristians | 07/03/24 08:58 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/04/24)Fair point. She had always been so adament about no sex during her period that I just took her at her word about not wanting intercourse. I need to be better at seeing and pushing past LMR and then in the future ASD. I had always been told to accept what people tell you, not to just push past it. It's something I'll have to work to understand better. | /r/RPChristians | 07/03/24 08:47 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/04/24)Thanks for taking the time to reply. 1) I agree, which is why I am working on things. Down over seven pounds in four weeks. It took decades to get heavy, it'll take a few months to get thin. 2) It seems to me that there are two primary reasons behind the deering: (a) defending my pride and (b) a fear of man that causes me to seek the approval of others. I am working on killing pride and the fear of man. NMMNG seems to be helping with the latter more than many of the Christian books on the topic.… | /r/RPChristians | 07/03/24 08:37 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/04/24)Thanks for taking the time to reply. I've read your comments and will evaluate their application and what changes may need to be implemented. | /r/RPChristians | 07/03/24 08:22 PM |
| 3 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (03/04/24)OYS #4 Background: 34M 32F, married 6 years. Together 8. One daughter under 6. Mission: None yet Objectives: Find joy in the Lord and be radically changed to be like Christ; stop being an indecisive and weak man who forces/allows my wife to take control of aspects of our lives/marriage, be a strong leader in the home; stop covert contracts and validation seeking; find sexual fulfillment in and focus sexual desires on my wife; build strong relationship with child to create joy/fulfillment and to … | /r/RPChristians | 04/03/24 05:36 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 27, 2024Thanks! I stole it! | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/02/24 10:46 PM |
| 5 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 27, 2024OYS #3 Background: 34M 32F, married 6 years. Together 8. One daughter under 6. Objectives: Find joy in the Lord and be radically changed to be like Christ; stop being an indecisive and weak man who forces/allows my wife to take control of aspects of our lives/marriage, be a strong leader in the home; stop covert contracts and validation seeking; find sexual fulfillment in and focus sexual desires on my wife; build strong relationship with child to create joy/fulfillment and to guide her in the w… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 27/02/24 05:23 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/26/24)Start with initiating at a different time every once in a while. Thanks. I'll try some initiating before I head to the gym after the kid's in bed. That'll line up nicely with having a viabale exit without looking butthurt. Not sure if I'll start that this week or try a couple more weeks of working out and RP path before I initiate again. You could also try reverse psychology on her I like this idea. I'll start implementing it. is she a SAHM No. She has a fulltime job that brings in more income a… | /r/RPChristians | 26/02/24 07:55 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/26/24)I take it blowjobs are off the table right now? Definitely off the table. I made the mistake of telling her a few years back that the blowjob alone was not as good for me as intercourse (she's not very good at blowjobs, we were both virgins when we married and have little experience) so she used that as an excuse to not bother doing them anymore. Plus she said that she finds them a bit gross (probably because I was/am a fatty, hopefully will change once I get my life and health in line). (most… | /r/RPChristians | 26/02/24 06:59 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/26/24)OYS #3 Background: 34M 32F, married 6 years. Together 8. One daughter under 5. Mission: None yet Current Objectives: (1) Find joy in the Lord and be radically changed to be like Christ; stop being an indecisive and weak man who forces/allows my wife to take control of aspects of our lives/marriage, be a strong leader in the home; (2) stop covert contracts and validation seeking; (3) find sexual fulfillment in and focus sexual desires on my wife; (4) build strong relationship with child to create… | /r/RPChristians | 26/02/24 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 20, 2024OYS 2 Background: 34M 32F, married 6 years, one toddler daughter . Mission: None yet. Objective: Stop being an indecisive and weak person who forces/allows my wife to take control of aspects of our lives/marriage. Be a strong man who has control of his life. Kill validation seeking and covert contracts. Completed reading: N/A Currently reading: NMMNG (50% - slow as I am doing the breakthrough exercises concurrently) MMSLP (77% - stopped reading as I have been told to focus on NMMNG and WISNIFG) … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 21/02/24 09:32 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/19/24)Thank you for the response and the resources. Yes, I am doing the break free exercises and have a good friend who has agreed to be my safe person. Thanks, for the comment on MMSLP v. WISNIFG. I'll go directly to WISNIFG and circle back to MMSLP. I may reread NMMNG before that though. Can you look at your life and see evidence of growing in holiness, even if it’s an up and down kinda progress? I believe so. But I don't trust my judgment. I believe that when I look at myself for anything my judgme… | /r/RPChristians | 19/02/24 09:41 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (02/19/24)OYS 2 Stats: 5'9" 199 lbs 27% BF (BIA) 34yo, married 6 years, one young daughter Lifts: bench 85 3x5; squat 125 3x5; deadlift 165 1x5. Short Term Objective: Stop being an indecisive and weak person who forces/allows my wife to take control of aspects of our lives/marriage. Currently reading: NMMNG Up next: MMSLP Physical fitness: Finished second week of Phraks Greyskull last week. My weight hasn’t changed, but I feel more energetic and stronger. I think I’ve been eating a bit better, but I need … | /r/RPChristians | 19/02/24 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 13, 2024I agree that per 1 Cor. 7 spouses are required to give sex as often as is required to avoid temptation. Paul gives the reason to get married as avoiding sexual sin and then states that spouses must provide sex to help eachother avoid sexual sin. I have ancedotally noticed a substantial decrease in temptation when sex is plentiful. Pornography and masturbation are poor substitutes for sex between spouses. But I have often taken substitutes when what I desire is unavailable. I may have lacked spec… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/02/24 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 13, 2024Good question. I have blockers and activity trackers on our devices, but I still struggle with lust around 1-4 times a week. I am working through a program to defeat the issue. I had quit porn in college for a while using this program, but fellback into it later and I have struggled with lust since. It is sadly true that marriage and sex will not cure the sin of lust and pornography. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 16/02/24 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 13, 2024OYS 1 Background: 34, married 6 years, one young daughter 5'9" 197 lbs 25% BF (BIA) bench 85 3x5 squat 120 3x5 deadlift 185 1x5 overhead press 60 3x5. Training for 100k bike ride Mission: in development Objective: Stop being an indecisive bitch. Become a strong and decisive man who is grounded in God and overflowing with joy. Completed reading: N/A Currently reading: NMMNG Up next: MMSLP Physical: Started lifting last week. Had been doing body weight resistance prior six months. Did max lifts fi… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/02/24 10:54 PM |
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