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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | Are women becoming more openly contemptuous and hostile towards unattractive men in dating and social situations?It’s not a matter of them becoming MORE hostile—it’s the fact that there’s more of a social acceptance to speak your mind instead of just “being polite” to save face. They were probably always thinking it, but never had the platform to actually say it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 01:44 PM |
| 3 | What n count makes someone promiscuous, in your mind? Open to all genders.I’ll come out to say this—I have never given anyone a count. And the people who ask, are focused on the wrong things. Everyone has a past, and in the end if you’re responsible and testing yourself and are safe, does it matter? Speaking from the position of strictly monogamous relationships, I guess if I’m fully in one and they need to know I’d share, but the question would always be, “why do you want to know?” We’re together here and now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/22 01:38 PM |
| 40 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?I’m a fucking expert at these dusty ass lvm cheaters now…. LOW SELF ESTEEM* Big ego Reluctance to share/post with you on IG Gets off the phone when you walk up/turn your attention to him Suddenly had an interest in the gym, but continues shitty habits like eating candy/trash Condescending when asked direct questions That’s just a few I can think of off of the top of my head…could go on for awhile though haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 03:58 AM |
| 9 | What are the most ridiculous pick-me opinions you had before reaching the age of reason?“Beating and cheating” are the deal breakers-everything else can be worked out. Lord have mercy on my precious pick-me soul. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:19 PM |
| 3 | How long to wait for men to reply? (Busy career-oriented men)Three days? They sit on the toilet at least once a day and browse the internet, you don’t think they have a single moment to send a check in text? Byeee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 01:41 PM |
| 4 | Red flags and alarm bells are sounding when I saw this. What in the pickmeverse is this?!Honestly I don’t even have kids but at this point I’m done being captain save a ho—analogy I’m trying to make is that if your kid is learning to ride a bike or skateboard, you have to let them eat shit until they figure out how not no. I approach this after voicing my opinions/giving advice. They’re just going to keep doing what they’re doing and maybe will eventually learn they need to change something. Cant teach self love and respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 01:39 PM |
| 1 | "Tinder will soon let you run a background check on a potential date" - Is this seen as good or bad from a dating perspective?Why aren’t you doing this in the first place....? I would say if anything, tinder should be running it themselves and banning accounts that have reports of abuse and/or harassment of any kind... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/21 08:02 AM |
| 2 | Scrote’s advice to his male fellasIs this not a thing..? Ladies, pull out that vibrator I hope you’ve invested in before any date/interaction. Trust me on this—is unclouds your mind prior to the meet up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 08:17 AM |
| 14 | Only high effort men can keep up with high maintenance women.Can I say this? I don’t think this is accurate or beneficial for this sub...no woman is “undeserving” or “ low maintenance”, some women are just tolerating the low maintenance attention they receive because they A. Haven’t seen this sub B. Going through a shitty breakup or C. Recovering/current pickmeisha(see A). Any man worthy of your time won’t see high maintenance, just high standards. Don’t settle, stand your ground. You’re worth it, and if no one can step up to the plate, you’re fine on you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 07:33 AM |
| 36 | Cell Phone Tango part 6!SIIIKE. Edit to explain If you find yourself having to do this for a dude, he should’ve already been blocked and deleted ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 06:25 AM |
| 43 | Cell Phone Tango part 6!Excuse me while I go log on to my Instagram on my laptop | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 06:25 AM |
| 64 | Valentine's Day Postmortem Discussion Thread: Did your man disappoint you on Valentine's Day? Comment your story below!This will be difficult to write, because I’m still unsure of how to process... We’re “dating”, it’s technically a long distance thing but he’ll be moving back to our city in a couple of months—spend most weekends together, but no exclusivity talk just a, “I really like you let’s go with the flow”. Waited over three months to sleep together. He’s stated he’s not used to not dating casually, after at the very beginning I was clear I have no desire to casually date someone...this was the first week… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 07:46 AM |
| 4 | I am FUMING. This dude will not take "no" for an answer, & he sent me this today. I NEVER agreed to hang out with him (I double checked everything) let alone on valentine's day. This is the most blatant example of gaslighting I've ever encountered, no nuance, 0/5 stars.Piggy backing on this comment— my NV ex was very much the same way—would be kind and send a bunch of sappy lovey apology texts, then when he didn’t get a response he flipped the switch and would spew the most vile hateful things—but I STILL didn’t respond. I also didn’t block for that very reason—he texted me to say he was on his way over. He stood at my door, banging on it and ringing the doorbell for TWO HOURS. I recorded this in case....I cannot stress this enough, doesn’t matter what they sa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 07:13 PM |
| 92 | Nothing drives a man crazier than...“I’ll just ask someone else” “So, you’re gonna call tech support?” ‘Cause I’m petty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 06:55 PM |
| 20 | Bridgerton was a hot mess but I still binge watched it!Had a super Pride and Prejudice vibe to it, like a shittier version of Mr. Darcy. I kept screaming PICKMEEEE at the screen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:50 AM |
| 10 | What’s the worst gift you’ve been given by a LVM? Here’s mine. Story in comments.He was really into riding track bikes—I like to ride, but in the insanely busy city we live in with narrow streets and a lot of out of town drivers, I was always really nervous on them and didn’t have a great time. Still decided to “gift” me a bike that he used old parts of his others to build. We’ve long since broken up, but wanna guess where that bike it? He has it. It was never truly MY bike. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 02:59 AM |
| 6 | Yesterday morning I closed on a house. Yesterday evening I was dumped via text. This is not a coincidence.Make sure you get a big enough bookcase for all them crowns, queen. 👑👑👑 Proud of you, congratulations!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 06:35 PM |
| 2 | I'm curious if anyone else feels like this is a block and move on situationBoy bye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 11:30 AM |
| 3 | Step right up for LVM Bingo!AMAZING. Bravo! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else bad at reading off PDFsThis was part of Representative Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’ response to Yolo trying to save face an apologize for calling her a “fucking bitch” “... And I am also grateful to Yoho, grateful not just for the conversation about the cultural mechanics of misogyny and patriarchy, but grateful for a very simple reminder: When they call you “a fcking btch,” it usually just means they’re afraid of you. Sticks and stones may break my bones, and words can certainly hurt me because that, ultimately, is the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 05:24 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else bad at reading off PDFsHaha! I feel differently, I guess. A bitch is a female dog, first and foremost. Yes it was at one point used as a derogatory term, but given the current climate and shift of culture and diversity(as well as the metoo movement etc etc) its a way to almost...take back that word. Most of the time, the reason I am called a “bitch” as a form of insult is simply because I’m standing up for myself, making my voice heard, or setting a boundary. So when I hear “bitch” with malicious undertones, I’m proud… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 09:10 PM |
| 18 | Anyone else bad at reading off PDFsCan we maybe all contribute to a real life “little black book” pocket planner that incorporates the FDS handbook as well as interactive pages (after a first date, promotion, basic glow up goals) Edit to add:: title: The Bad Bitch Book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 08:06 PM |
| 2 | Hey queens. Make some suggestions for me to be more productive in a fun way on my down time. Keep me busy.I just bought a 35mm camera and some film. Currently watching every video I can find to learn! Also try to journal in the evenings and plan out my following day, with a few goals that I can hit before the next entry. It keeps me on track and organized—and I get a good nights rest without stressing about “tomorrow” Xo Edit to add:: download chess with friends, I LOVE to play and we can play against one another! (And you can play with other friends/random users) it’s pretty cool! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 04:30 AM |
| 1 | Men who ride motorcyclesI have to say, I’ve always thought motorcycles were cool. I enjoyed riding so much, as soon as I turned 16 I got my drivers license AND my motorcycle license. It’s not a means of transportation—it’s a stress reliever. Driving out to empty roads and just enjoying the scenery....there’s definitely another side to it, so motorcycles are not a deal breaker for me—someone being a complete idiot on one, now that’s a deal breaker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 07:32 PM |
| 1 | Flashback Friday to the time I heard...Haha not much else to tell, basically he came down to meet me and I acted like nothing happened...on the walk to the restaurant, I started asking him really specific questions and responding word for word what he said to his roommate...eventually he caught on(kind of) and asked what was going on. I laughed and told him, “your window was open, so I waited to text you that I was downstairs and I heard everything you and your roommate discussed regarding me” Cue surprised pikachu face and backpedal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 07:31 AM |
| 34 | He’s upset I had some good advice and then turns it on me, claiming *I* have some deep seeded issue...? LMAO “But you guys TALKED about giving it a go, so it should be 50/50” *bro five* going full Becky right now when I say I just can’t even with these MFers anymoreUpdate::: totally redeemed himself and agreed he was projecting. Is this a win for us? Haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 07:25 AM |
| 36 | He’s upset I had some good advice and then turns it on me, claiming *I* have some deep seeded issue...? LMAO “But you guys TALKED about giving it a go, so it should be 50/50” *bro five* going full Becky right now when I say I just can’t even with these MFers anymoreExactly. Here was my last response: Way to project there, dude. Simply stating that this is a new relationship, and maybe she was looking for a bit more assertiveness instead of some texts “hit me up if you want to hang”. “I’d really like to see you, what do you have going on tonight?” Shows intent and taking the dating seriously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 05:56 AM |
| 1 | I.....WHAT? The things some women will put up with. FDS is so necessary it’s not even funny.THREE. YEARS. What. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 06:49 AM |
| 1 | This is why its key to vet and follow FDS. this is why you run at the first red flag. Imagine being in labor and your man plays video games. So many pickmes were saying lol and I dont mind, hes bored and waiting on the baby. Pickmes are defending this. Dont have kids with LVMGood thing we’re in a hospital cause I’d fuck you up. In all seriousness. I will never condone putting hands on a partner. That’s an immediate deal breaker. But I’d have some choice words and I’m sure there’s a psych ward... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 05:13 AM |
| 132 | My opinion was most men are trash oopsie daisyThe real r/unpopularopinion, especially for men who are, indeed, trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 05:00 AM |
| 20 | Hes doing fineLol this just makes me envision those men’s warehouse commercials, but I replace the “you’re gonna like the way you look” bit with my own script-“He still hates the way he feels, I guarantee it” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 04:58 AM |
| 9 | Mixed feelings about call her daddy?“If you don’t care, nothing can hurt you”. They’re attempting to place themselves in full control of the situation, and establish themselves as the “cool girl”. They like/want/need the male attention for validation but will almost...disassociate to distance themselves from the pain of rejection or mediocrity....and thus fueling the males ego of, “but WHY isn’t she falling all over herself to impress me?” It’s an unfortunate side effect of availability and almost a narcissistic fascination on val… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 03:49 AM |
| 13 | How to be the HVW on a vacation with a boyfriend?If the moment seems appropriate, I’ll do a playful “bed check” before starting it up—if it squeaks it makes a ton of noise, I’ll playfully make a joke about it and gage the reaction—either, “ah no one is home now/I think we’ll be ok” or “this may get a bit weird and uncomfortable if anyone hears us”. Opens up the conversation and relives the pressure a bit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Okay... I’ll stay singleBunch of masochists and pickmes intentionally putting themselves in harms way...no thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 03:38 AM |
| 49 | What is your advice on dealing with insecurity about your looks? What is your opinion on the concept of "looksmaxxing"? I am relatively attractive, but not being "good enough" for a partner is a big fear of mine. I feel it's my responsibility to be perfect looking or else it's my fault if he strays.I feel any woman that loves herself will in turn take care of herself and whatever that looks like for her own personal journey that’s what should be accepted by a loving and supportive partner...if they don’t, well, that has nothing to do with you not doing “enough”. Boy bye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 03:36 AM |
| 2 | I write a new quote on my mirror every week that I’ll have to look at multiple times a day..”you are absolutely gorgeous, and that’s the least interesting thing about you”I took a tube of black acrylic paint since my dry erase dried up a bit too much ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 07:08 PM |
| 2 | I write a new quote on my mirror every week that I’ll have to look at multiple times a day..”you are absolutely gorgeous, and that’s the least interesting thing about you”❤️ thank you. My room is also rather small, but having the mirrors/a big giant decorative curtain really opened it up!! Xo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 04:58 PM |
| 13 | I write a new quote on my mirror every week that I’ll have to look at multiple times a day..”you are absolutely gorgeous, and that’s the least interesting thing about you”I’ve gotten much better at recognizing the distance between my mascara wand and my eyelashes. Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 09:39 AM |
| 26 | I write a new quote on my mirror every week that I’ll have to look at multiple times a day..”you are absolutely gorgeous, and that’s the least interesting thing about you”All I have to say to that is...bring it on. Lol. In all seriousness, face isn’t exposed and no identifying markers. But thank you for the heads up ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 09:36 AM |
| 12 | I write a new quote on my mirror every week that I’ll have to look at multiple times a day..”you are absolutely gorgeous, and that’s the least interesting thing about you”I didn’t realize this was an actual practice for folks going through that, was just something I started doing in high school with dry erase markers on my mirror. It has helped! Haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 07:52 AM |
| 18 | The bile!That’s why I always say, “I’m not interested”. The next thing out of their mouth..wanna guess? “Oh, so you got a man?” “I’m just not interested” The look on their face is so satisfying. Shut that shit down, ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 04:08 AM |
| 32 | Remember this feeling and never look back.I meant to screenshot the one I obviously upvoted, sorry about the cringe-worthy addition to the initial post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 04:58 AM |
| 37 | To be fair he looks like a catchDid you mean “he looks like a catch” because he really does look like a fish without any teeth?! 😂 I’m dyin | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 04:09 AM |
| 5 | Let’s go give this man some karma!All of his past posts mysteriously disappeared🧐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 10:06 AM |
| 3 | Let’s go give this man some karma!Now I’m definitely commenting on it....😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 10:03 AM |
| 3 | Let’s go give this man some karma!Ohhh booooooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 10:01 AM |
| 0 | Let’s go give this man some karma!I just came across this post! Wish I could give him more than one upvote! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 09:55 AM |
| 24 | HVM and the TP shortageThank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 06:55 AM |
| 19 | HVM and the TP shortageI guess past experiences haven’t been as sweet and genuine—usually just paper towels in the bathroom or if an attempt to get some was executed it was an unhappy rushed stressed fueled excursion. So yeah I guess you could say it’s a low bar, but I’ll say he stepped so far over it with such grace I thought I’d share with y’all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 06:07 AM |
| 2 | An early casualty of the current crisis. Please join me in saying goodnight to a fallen comrade... #gonebutnotforgottenI’ll say it loud and proud. If dude has an issue of inviting one of these into the bedroom he can step off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 09:27 AM |
| 2 | This is horrible!!! let's try to help her!How do we report this!? My heart breaks for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 09:05 AM |
| 30 | FDS is now considered a controversial subreddit via WikipediaAaannnd it’s a semi protected page. Give me four days and 10 edits, I’ll fix it up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 12:44 AM |
| 28 | FDS is now considered a controversial subreddit via WikipediaExcuse me while I go change it. BRB | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 12:40 AM |
| 2 | How should I answer this question? If you tell them you want something serious they will morph themselves into boyfriend mode to make you comfortable enough to put out eventually. I don’t even know how to respond anymore. ***Overthinking***You don’t. RUN girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Oh shut up.I think he is a kid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:57 AM |
| 3 | Oh shut up.That’s completely different.He was wanting to hurt this woman for cheating on him(of course who knows the real story) abuse? I would expect nothing less than to want to hurt them the way they hurt you. I’m sorry you went through that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 08:26 PM |
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