BiteAdventurous3110 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
91	Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women?	Question For Women	BiteAdventurous3110	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 03:01 AM
29	There is a lack of empathy and understanding that generally comes from attractive men and women when it comes to men’s frustration with dating.	Debate	BiteAdventurous3110	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/24 08:16 PM

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2	Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women? A realistic standard is what you expect from your partner relative to what you can realistically get. It highly depends on the type of person. A very attractive man or woman can have standards for very attractive people and be realistic since those people can actually attract each other for relationships. For average men, expecting the women you’ll attract to be supermodels is obviously unrealistic as more likely than not, you won’t be attractive enough for them. For average women, expecting the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 01:03 PM
6	Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women? Except that’s changing a lot now no? Wouldn’t you also argue that men being those things puts more societal pressure on them? For example being providers? I guarantee there are probably a lot of men who would be okay with having the woman be the breadwinner yet a lot of women don’t really like that at all. Hence why women want men who make more money than them, to fulfill that provider role. Also same thing said for leaders and people of importance. It puts a lot of pressure on men to be extreme…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 04:41 AM
17	Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women? Are men not told the same? A lot of men are told to suck it up as well. Hence why I believe there is less stigma to telling a man to lower his standards compared to women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 03:45 AM
4	Why are there such different responses from telling men to have realistic standards vs women? Most women already have realistic standards. Men are the unrealistic ones. Didn’t the same OKCupid studies show that most women rated most men as unattractive? I’m not saying one sex has more unrealistic standards than the other but I think that statement is a little disingenuous.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 03:26 AM
10	Everything I've learned from my online dating experience. Maybe this can help you too: No I mean the idea of people having to leave their parents or else they’re losers originated as a boomer thing. It just ended up being passed down throughout the generations.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 02:22 AM
11	Everything I've learned from my online dating experience. Maybe this can help you too: Well tbh most guys on dating apps don’t really get that many matches so I see where they’re coming from. In my personal experience I’ve maybe gotten about 5 matches that never really went anywhere and that’s it. Half the time the women on dating apps aren’t even using it seriously, i.e using it to promote their social media.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 02:00 AM
15	Everything I've learned from my online dating experience. Maybe this can help you too: Point 2 is such a Western boomer thing. It’s sad since throughout most of history people lived with their extended families and this is how life is like for most non-western cultures. This whole idea of living with your parents being unattractive also doesn’t help when we’re dealing with one of the worst housing crises in history right now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/24 01:53 AM
–	There is a lack of empathy and understanding that generally comes from attractive men and women when it comes to men’s frustration with dating. Just more understanding and less ridicule? It’s more along the fact that struggling men tend to get made fun of a lot as they are essentially at the bottom of the societal totem pole.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/24 09:22 PM
–	There is a lack of empathy and understanding that generally comes from attractive men and women when it comes to men’s frustration with dating. Like the other person said people complain about their life difficulties all the time. Why is it that men’s difficulties in dating are somehow too taboo and cannot be complained about one bit?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/24 09:15 PM
–	There is a lack of empathy and understanding that generally comes from attractive men and women when it comes to men’s frustration with dating. Except some of the dating advice given ends up being vague or dismissive. For example, telling a man to “be confident” is vague as half the time they never really describe what being confident really is. What exactly separates a man from being confident and being delusional? And if something goes wrong, like they close the app accidentally, they get fed up immediately and go “this is too hard, you just do it.” Well if you have been trying so hard with dating wouldn’t you not feel this way? You c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/24 09:10 PM
–	There is a lack of empathy and understanding that generally comes from attractive men and women when it comes to men’s frustration with dating. I mean, what are you even complaining about? Women having standards? If you feel that some of these standards are too high or unrealistic wouldn’t you feel upset about it? I mean women felt upset about men’s standards for them and it seems to have paid off, no? Women didn’t like men having “unrealistic standards” for them and that’s where we got the whole “body positivity” spiel. So obviously complaining worked to some degree no? That being said obviously I don’t believe we should force people i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/24 08:59 PM