BlackFanDiamond Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	What are some tips or quick fixes that actually had a big impact on your life? 2/3 rule has been helpful. I will catch myself helping too often with this. Giving my partner the space to fail also helpful, it helps you stop co-dependent behaviors of always fixing their mistakes. Giving cuddles and my emotional energy after my sexual needs are met. Advanced fogging technique from Jack10, pretty much it's negative assertion + fogging	/r/askMRP	18/09/24 09:47 AM
4	Gf(23f) called me(25m) lame for not wanting to drink for one night at a bar. This angered me but she thinks this is completely fine to be rude. Am I overreacting I should rephrase. You can’t be upset about a boundary crossed when you haven’t established that boundary in the first place. Doing so just comes across as butt hurt	/r/askMRP	24/07/23 07:15 PM
3	Gf(23f) called me(25m) lame for not wanting to drink for one night at a bar. This angered me but she thinks this is completely fine to be rude. Am I overreacting You can’t institute new boundaries after they’ve already been crossed	/r/askMRP	24/07/23 06:20 PM
17	Gf(23f) called me(25m) lame for not wanting to drink for one night at a bar. This angered me but she thinks this is completely fine to be rude. Am I overreacting Learn the difference between open and closed communication. Your emotional intelligence is lacking. The girls were shit testing you in the bar when they commented on you not drinking (closed). You responded honestly (open) instead of with techniques like fogging, agreeing and amplifying and amused mastery (closed). You will not have a fulfilling relationship with women if you don’t figure this out	/r/askMRP	24/07/23 06:15 PM
3	Boundary Repercussions I don’t see any boundary. You say you establish boundaries but you didn’t enforce anything. Saying “it’s not okay to speak to me like that” while taking no action is not a boundary	/r/askMRP	04/11/22 01:01 PM
10	First Mate Wanted Me To Hire A Bailing Expert You DEERed (defend, excuse, explain, rationalize) instead of DAREing (deflect, agree and amplify, repeat, exit). In this situation, A&A would have worked well. You did this because you have no underlying frame. The techniques above don’t work without frame.	/r/askMRP	20/09/22 11:55 AM
22	Own Your Shit Weekly - July 12, 2022 I’m reading the part about your wife comparatively increasing her social interactions and gym time. It does seem as though you’re in her frame. You are improving but constantly looking behind your back to see what she’s up to. Truth is women don’t get the same feeling of success when achieving life milestones compared to men. She is displaying masculine traits of goal-setting and constant improvement likely because of the chronic dynamic of your relationship. This is normal as you start to rebal…	/r/MarriedRedPill	12/07/22 10:33 AM
2	Entering a new organization, community, or being part of a new group. Here are my basic 5 golden tips for you. (Respect, likability, and receiving extras) This is a fantastic post. Does anyone else have any other words of wisdom for such an important topic	/r/TheRedPill	07/09/20 11:03 PM
1	You Can't Force Someone to Like You How does this apply to people who don’t like you but that you see often? Men that treat you like you don’t exist despite you treating them as a person. Is there a way I should adapt or would that be lowering myself to his level?	/r/TheRedPill	31/05/20 02:30 PM