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I never said sex wasn't complicated, it definitely is. It's primal, essential feeling that's hard to socialize because it runs counter to so much of our civilized behavior, and motivates people to act in ways that destroys social capital. That's why it requires very complex and sophisticated socialization. I'm not really sure what you mean about point 2. I think people do want intimacy. I think maybe you're referring to people telling sweet nothings and then bailing as soon as they get sex? Well…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:12 PM
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Sex is a normal, healthy, natural part of life. Intimacy is an incredibly important aspect of psychological well being, and has long lasting physiological and psychological benefits. Our current generation's biggest problem is alienation and isolation, mostly driven by social media amplifying some of our worst social tendencies, creating a baseline paranoia and anxiety that seems to be the background noise of the culture at large. People are 'weird' about sex because the cultural language and pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:44 AM
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I think that whenever a group becomes a majority in any sector, there's a runaway effect where the norms begin to serve and protect them and the narratives begin to quell dissent for arguing against those norms (humans are REALLY good at defending norms when they become entrenched, and we defend them as though we are defending reality itself). Just as men used to be the majority in the office, and the norms protected and served them. I think this viewpoint is what we're seeing now: we redressed …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 09:11 AM
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Not true, they still prefer someone who makes more than them, because women understand they can always do better.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 10:06 PM
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This isn't true actually. As egalitarian norms rise, mate selection preference becomes more pronounced. Women on average have an innate preference for higher SES men with greater resources, personal connections, and prestige. In countries where gender egalitarianism is highest (Norway, Sweden, etc), that preference is at its highest. It turns out the more autonomy you grant to women, the less their biology is constrained, which means the preference amplifies. Women select the MOST provider quali…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 10:03 PM
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I can agree with that, and we definitely need norms to protect the vulnerable
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:36 PM
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No, that's what i'm saying. Since men preferring post pubescent youth is universal across cultures, it points to a biological basis. There's deeper evidence like facial-metrics showing a universal preference for a mixture of neo-natal characteristics mixed with signs of sexual maturity -- think disney princesses: big baby-like eyes, but mature cheekbones, infantalized foreheads but big pouting lips. So, since this is culturally inadmissable due to recent trends in the sexual discourse, it become…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:25 PM
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Conditioning of course plays some role, but given the fact that youth, signs of fertility, and health are universally valued factors, that points to a biological basis, likely the larger reproductive window during the mateship, as well as the asymmetrical submission dominance dynamic (which also seems to be a relational default in heterosexual dynamics, as our pleasure circuits are set up for clear relational roles, with amygdaloidal activation occuring during mirrored posturing, versus security…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:04 PM
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Actual pedophilia (pre-pubescence) is exceedingly rare, 1-3% pedophilic interest in men, less than 1% in women, largely due to structural differences in areas of the brain that handle moral reasoning, consequence calculation, and impulse control. Men on average have less impulse control (due to differential rates in serotenurgic availability (it replenishes slower in men), and higher baseline dopamine and different processing of potential rewards. In short, men are more risk taking in general be…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:51 PM
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Yeah but you can't extend the principle if they aren't similarly applicable, that becomes a facile rhetorical tactic rather than a cogent explanation or point. If you want to really have a conversation, I think you need to have a good faith examination for why sex and sexual access is historically and culturally treated like a resource -- parse out the cases in which it's treated like a resource and when it isn't, and also if there's a precedent and purpose for other times when we treat "doings"…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:58 PM
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You're really onto nothing here. This is a false analogy you've attempted to extend to something that has far deeper personal and social meaning, so you can't extend the aspects of one by virtue of that analogy, since those aspects are completely different and require different treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:35 PM
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To be able to attract top tier prime pussy, everything has to go right, actually
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:17 PM
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Well, being toxic is less correlated with status than it used to ne
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 07:24 PM
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Bro you are projecting your fears to try and justify your fear of intimacy Yes, attraction is more organic in person, and you can get past the superficial filters
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 06:36 AM
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Because it becomes something they want to do if the normative social narratives declare it to be so. Social reality is consensus reality, so what we're really talking about here is which consensus resolves the most social problems with causing the least -- we're choosing which suite of solutions and problems to inherit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 09:05 PM
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Well, pressure is probably only one part of the equation. People will value what those around them value. It contains the negative incentive of social judgment for falling outside the norm, but also the positive invebtive of pursuing what those around you pursue, with an intact culture set up to facilitate that pursuit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 08:22 PM
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But most people have found relationships through most of our history, because culture modulated that nature
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 08:09 PM
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Man this is grimdark I guess maybe we can find the non authroitarian version where we say we want society to incentivize prosocial actions towards society, and fostering relations is part of that. Doesn't mean we assign breeding or anything weird like that. It just means we encourage romantic love in the culture, and make life easier to start families.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 06:40 PM
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It's still alive and well, unfortunately. No matter what women do to gain attention and signal approach, the men are still villified. Sexlessness abounds, birth rates are collapsing. You have to abuse mammals quite a bit to get them to stop mating, and we've created a culture that essentially automatically handles the job. And it will only get worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 04:44 PM
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If anyone wants to get laid, they have to ignore all of this. Just the risk you have to accept nowadays, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 04:40 PM
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No, I don't think men are that conservative, I think it's just that many of the current progressive projects and positions don't line up with the interests and wellbeing of men, and that both the left and the right have become more polarized, leaving men in the middle.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/06/26 07:08 PM
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I think all it means is that we as a culture are not currently in a cancellation hysteria. We can enter into that culture moment again with enough momentum, but I think it was a historical moment where the crowd realized they could realize their will with enough pressure en-masse, but the negative consequences built up until we as a culture stopped making it the new normal. Revolutions and mobs lose their energy as they leave destruction in their wake, and new things grow. It's not progress, it'…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/06/26 10:35 PM
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That seems pretty sexist
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 04:28 PM
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I dunno, a lot of these ladies are the same ones upset they can't find a good man
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 04:19 PM
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Yeah, I think you're onto something. It protects our pride to say we're doing something out of nobility, when in reality we're just scared.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:09 AM
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I understand, and i think people have the ethical right to end their life if they choose. But i also understand that the mind is endlessly malleable, and people on the outside feel an obligation to uncover the beauty and potential within that mind by changing the associations and patterns that make a person perceive the experience of life as misery.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/06/26 03:10 AM
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I guess it's about a fundamental belief in the inherent dignity and potential of life. I was suicidal through most of my 20's, I lost my father to suicide when he was in his 40s. I spent a lot of time thinking about this question, and I was even on a crisis intervention team (where the women often laughed at the men for being suicidal despite their "privilege.") I think it's because the beauty of life is worth its suffering. I have a steadfast belief in the idea that people can transcend their p…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/06/26 07:12 AM
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oh I didn't read the "you need to convince me part" first
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 12:41 AM
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Did you mean to say "cant be a high status person"?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 12:37 AM
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This is real talk So it will be ignored
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 09:56 PM
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Which is why mandatory monthly orgies at the town square will fix our country. When I am president, I will preside over a program that will turn our culture of disconnection into one of sweaty entangled limbs as we merge into a unity of ecstatic intensity where there is no border or boundary where any you or I begins or ends. Write BlessdRTheFreaks in this election season, vote for connection, vote for love, vote for amorphous fleshblob that understands your pain and forgives you unconditionally…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 09:21 PM
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I should respond with curiosity first if I expect it to be reciprocated in the future What in your opinions are the best books/thinkers/essays in that field you think someone should read to see the value of the field? I recently learned of Jeffrey Weeks and Julia Kristeva, whose ideas I find very interesting, and both are queer theory adjacent. Grats on graduation, and I wish you luck in your future (as long as you don't spread along any boy-hatin which is way too common in Progressive spaces an…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:53 PM
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Are you a gender studies major? Also I will concede I need to learn more about the replication crisis before i begin using it as evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:45 PM
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*empathically counsel on OP
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:31 PM
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Besides it will just make people just shrink further and further into their defenses. This a good strategy to make all our social problems worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:31 PM
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Sorry I'm on his side here. Gender studies is the sewer of scholasticism, and I say this as a magna cum laude social sciences graduate (psych, which has its own problems with replication and activism research trying to pass itself off as science). I love Foucault as much as the next guy, but Gender Studies is to science what The National Enquirer is to respectable Journalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 08:22 PM
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Peterson lost his marbles because of Benzos and mold and being a public figure constantly in the limelight while those things were going on, not because he debated others reasonably for a while (before said problems turned him crazy). I'm sorry but your perspective is incredibly childish and toddler-like. We should be elevating the discourse across the board, trying to lift each other up to be more empathetic towards one another through all of each other's life challenges. We can win the war by …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 07:56 PM
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The answer is ladies can smell it on a man when all the other ladies want his woodpecker, so if you start to want his woodpecker, it starts a feedback loop of woodpecker wanting
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 03:36 PM
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well, "gets attention" is something that's a lot more nuanced for men than it is women. Women: If you got features that say you make good babies, we will climb mount everast if it gives us a 1% chance of schmanging. Man: So much of what is attractive in a man is how he carries himself, a lot of unconscious cues we immediately pick up on: expansiveness of posture, level of anxiety, poise, the human mind can register dominant or submissive postures in 4 milliseconds and women prefer men who exhibi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 08:17 AM
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The tide will turn People are just now starting to listen What has been a decade long cultural monologue is becoming, finally, a cultural dialogue Add your voice!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/05/26 05:17 AM
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On my psych degree my Philosophy classes were some of my favorites (we had to take a "focus" class series, like a minor but not). Mine were Formal Logic (got 100% on the midterm!), Early Modern Philosophy (like Bacon, Descartes, Hume, Leibniz, Spinoza), Existentialism, and Philosophy of Work and Leisure (which was a super boring class because I thought it was going to be about the good life, and not a bunch of dry marxist readings). People have a blind faith in Science these days, and often time…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/05/26 03:46 AM
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I'm graduating magna cum laude next month from one of the most progressive universities in America on a BSc in Psych. My god it was a struggle at times. But many of the teachers found my deep knowledge of subjects and freedom from orthodoxy refreshing, except when it undermined their teaching authority in class lol. Also check out Quine's paper on the 2 dogmas of empericism. Seems up your alley.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/05/26 11:25 PM
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And yet we understood this with reason
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/05/26 11:20 PM
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This is the single best take i have read on this issue. What is your education background? Seriously well done.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/05/26 08:30 PM
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Hot Everyone needs to stop their puritan whining and learn how to be openly horny again
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 04:27 AM
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Nah not true we need to have a full appreciation of the whole human experience, and sexual humiliation is a large part of that, which we understood in the 90s and early 2000s.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/05/26 11:49 PM
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It should be played for laughs BOTH WAYS
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/05/26 05:37 AM
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Translation: "i am a shallow judgey bitch"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 05:35 AM
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Scoop my sex back up honey and put it back in the box Oh lordy there it goes springing out again You should know better, baby, a man has needs
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 01:46 AM
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Numbers lie all the time, numbers are a reflection of the categorical concepts we create to manage the way we think about the world, and the world exists in stark contrast to the bean counting we do to solidify those categories
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:14 PM
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No, I have deep emotional conversations with them where we navigate the complexities of life with a sense of openness, ease, grace, and empathy for the forces we are all dragged up in and trying to manage in every day life I do think that we need to be more modest about what we call abuse and harassment, and we are in another historical cycle of hysteria (sex is often the subject of hysteria). Women tell me of all the deep dark contradictions they are caught up in too, without falling into moral…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 08:04 PM
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Yes, I talk to women probably every day, love them, and am quite popular with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 07:53 PM
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yeah but nowadays that means "a boy sat too close to me on the bus and now I need to talk to my therapist." We used to have resiliency, of learning how to deal with the more complicated and primal parts of life, now we escalate every conflict and treat it like an existential threat, and wonder why everyone is riddled with paranoia and anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 07:35 PM
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There is no rape culture There is a "see rape literally everywhere even in innocuous interactions" culture
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 06:48 PM
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Totally agree, male sexuality seems to be need to be totally controlled these days, and if it spills out it gets labelled things like harassment or predation.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 06:47 PM
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/thread
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 06:55 AM
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Both are hot af
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 07:39 PM
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But these hoes do
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 03:39 PM
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Feminism is the new institution
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/05/26 07:47 AM
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There are scouts and cub scouts, i'm sure in some areas there are overlap.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 09:19 PM
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Scouts are ages 11-17, hardwired genetic behavior patterns will activate in continued close proximity (showing off, jealousy, gossiping, mate competition, etc) and we don't have mature responses to this as a culture. It is important for people to have structured interaction to see the humanity of others, but it's also important to have spaces where we don't have to deal with the anxiety and tension of these innate dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 09:16 PM
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No, and i hate how there's been a push to eliminate male only spaces under the perspective that they exclude women. It's ok for some things to be separate! The boy scouts don't need to just be scouts. There genuinely are dynamics that play out between men and women that make coexistence hard sometimes, and anxiety, tension, and conflict inevitable. While we need to learn how to deal with these things, we need to also have spaces where girls can just be girls without having to worry about guys, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 06:02 PM
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Venting?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 07:10 AM
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Hitting on everyone is not the death sentence y'all are making it out to be It's about how you feel about yourself Like straight up: be a bit of a creep The dudes getting laid are the ones who don't give a fuck and their self belief is so complete they just constantly swing until something connects. Pushing boundaries until they find a response that let's them through.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 04:20 AM
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Probably earlier
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/26 01:27 AM
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Bout time
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/04/26 09:47 PM
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You know what you won me over a little
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 08:30 AM
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I went through a terrible phase post metoo for like 5 years where if i felt attracted to a woman i felt physically nauseous and like i needed to apologize to her, like my sexual desires were something to her like the smell of rotting garbage Now i dont give af. Im sick of pandering to perpetually offended cunts. I openly look and give a smile whe ln caught. I read a lot of classics in sexual psychology and some freaky french books. Now i embrace my animal side more readily than the part of me pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 07:13 AM
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Can someone explain the methodology for selecting study participants? I feel like there's some heavy selection bias here.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/04/26 08:23 PM
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They are atleast interested in their sexual validation and the prestige of being considered sexually desirable
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 07:34 PM
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The answer is to get lost in the woods
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/04/26 05:08 PM
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Frans de Waal's book "different: gender through the eyes of a primatologist" is a good book on the nature side
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/04/26 07:26 PM
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We only evaluate certain things as beautiful due to evolved preferences. Our capacity to experience beauty only exists because certain things are more valuable to our survival.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:11 PM
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No, people died in their 60s and 70s, with lots of mortality in infancy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 02:11 AM
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But it's what made our ancestors at peak stability which women are actually most attracted to. Men in their 20s are most physically fit, but 30s and 40s aren't far off (plenty of pro mma fighters still active through their 40s). In our hunter gatherer past, the most successful hunters were those with both knowledge and ability. It's where both capacities concerged that matters. The highest contributors had the most knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 11:33 PM
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Yes, i am
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 11:31 PM
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An opinion that is formed and detemined by the substrate of my biology
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 09:34 PM
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I'll do it when im not on mobile back in front of desktop
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 09:34 PM
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Hey if you want i can suggest a cursory reading list for you so you can begin to participate in these conversations not from a place of ignorance.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 09:29 PM
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Ok, go like, wag your finger at a strand of DNA or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 09:28 PM
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But it's overextension into this broad boogyman explanation that handwaves away all these innate observed aspects that make us feel icky is
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 09:25 PM
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The "patriarchy" discourse is largely a confusion peddled by bad scholasticism. We're talking about science here, not speculative unprovable sociological sophistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 09:22 PM
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Right, but we're talking about evolved attraction preferences between the sexes due to cues of reproductive success
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 09:21 PM
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Sorry, it's not a decision, it's mountains of evidence from various disciplines converging on the same conclusions. Trust me i have a psychology degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 09:19 PM
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No, sorry, there are mountains of evidence showing this to be untrue. Semen quality doesn't begin declining until much later in life. The factors women value (which have been validated millions of times across countless converging lines of evidence) tend to peak at a later age: competence, status, resources, relational networks. Also "socialized by evolution" is a conflation in comcepts. Environment surely can alter how genes are expressed, but we're talking about innate hardwired preferences wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 09:17 PM
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No way, male attraction to women is highly tied to fertility and health of offspring. Women's chance at producing healthy offspring begins rapidly declining in their 30s (to single digits by the end of their 30s) and men are acutely fine tuned to pick up on those cues. If you graph women's chance of successful reproduction versus an aggregate of ratings given to women distributed across those ages, you will find those graphs near perfectly line up. A steady highly peaked line from late teens to …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 08:58 PM
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It's not physical condition strictly that women care about: it's emotional maturity, competence, status, and resource/relational networks. That's why women prefer older men across cultures. We value different factors, this is when men tend to peak in those factors that women value.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 08:57 PM
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Depends on what we're talking about. Athletic capacity? yes, both in 20's. Factors related to sexual attractiveness? Men in their 30s and 40s, women in their teens and 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 08:33 PM
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100%. They peak in their late teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 08:26 PM
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They want the Don Drapers The men receiving peak volume of messages and likes on dating apps are 48, the women receiving peak likes and messages are 18
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 07:51 PM
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I may have misremembered, but I'm looking now and it seems that it's replicated to be around the low to mid-sixties. I'm not saying that sex is only about these darker, animal undercurrents -- it is also about gentleness, tenderness, companionship, and empathy -- but these aren't the facets of sex we have any motivation to deny. We don't want to admit or talk about the fact that these primal, monkey-like parts of sexual motivation are still at work in our sexual psychology and courtship. Anytime…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 05:50 PM
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I still mean the former for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 02:52 AM
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I'm just saying these lines in real life are much blurrier than when we come together to talk about it. That all these ladies fawning to their friends about affirmative consent also want the dominant guy to grab her around the waist without asking and pull her to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 02:19 AM
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? Mine is the opposite. Tabula Rasa means blank slate, that all patterns are socially learned. I'm saying that many of our behavior patterns are innate and biological, being sculpted or activated based on different environmental interactions. Edit: Oh I read this wrong you meant to say that we are doing the Tabula Rasa again culturally
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 01:37 AM
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But mammalian mating patterns are dominance and submission, whether we want to admit it or not. It's not that "there are a handful of kinky folks out there." It's, "We are the kind of animals whose arousal is tightly coupled with dominance, restraint, surrender, and capitulation" and culture used to form and facilitate that. Now we just pretend we're not like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 01:25 AM
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It means that you have to learn how to navigate the innate hypocrisy between erotic life and polite life. People are ALWAYS going to side with the polite side publicly, because their reputation tanks if they don't. But I think there's a middle way, of some degree of plausible deniability and play where both know it's dangerous but not teetering into genuine harm. It's risky, it's dangerous, and that's why it's hot. Unpopular to say, but we as a culture understood this, which is why it looks to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 12:00 AM
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Most truths about human sexuality are fairly unsavory, and the decorum we make when we talk about it publicly isn't to accurately describe how sexuality works, but a ritual to comfort us by pretending we are more civilized creatures than we are. In many ways, the sexual discourse is the exact opposite of sexual reality. We used to know this -- Freud, Foucault, Bataille all wrote extensively on this subject. How the animal and man exist simultaneously, and we have ways of reconciling how these pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 11:40 PM
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Citing the manosphere doc Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 06:51 PM
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I wouldn't be so accusatory I would say that our society's inability to speak openly about underlying sexual tensions and conflicts creates resentment and frustration, and that requires an outlet to understand and voice those things. I do agree a part of that is a sexual asymmetry that decorum protects/makes impossible to really speak openly about.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 06:49 PM
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More complicated than all that. We do AND we don't, we make examples so the unbanishable primal aspects get to continue operating underneath the surface, since it's an inextricable part of what we are, and the inmate behavior patterns hard wired into mammallian behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 03:22 AM
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Society is contained carnage and nothing else
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 03:16 AM
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No matter how much the novel modern context abstracts us from our true natures, we will always be primarily motivated by a primal psychology that determins all that we do
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 03:08 AM
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Not SA
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 03:00 AM
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There is no problem. Only people terrified of nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:59 AM
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I cant keep them away from me!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:33 AM
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Get out of the bed then
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:29 AM
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Naaah Got dominated a little bit, but thats how its supposed to be
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:28 AM
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Nah, use your birg girl boundaries. You weren't attacked or coerced, dude was being persistent and trying again because that's wgat actually gets you laid in the real world. You were lying with a horny naked dude in bed who was trying to get laid. Wouldn't get in front of any sane or sober jury, and rightfully so.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 02:06 AM
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In the words David Buss, "Men are a breeding experiment ran by women"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 01:02 AM
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It's a concept from social psychology. (Read Elliot Aronson) When we feel like something disrupts our sense of who we are, or of the standard consensus of the tribe we belong to, we become hostile and engage in rationalization or attacking the source of information.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/04/26 06:33 AM
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I think with this reaction you need to think deeply about what I actually said and take it to heart homeslice.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/04/26 06:28 PM
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Well, maybe some of that at least comes from triggering your own sense of identity threat The same psychological mechanisms operating in her are also operating in you.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/04/26 06:14 PM
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I watched her age gap video and she does a lot of self examination in that one, trying to parse out what society has told her versus what the data shows
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/04/26 06:04 PM
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Honestly she's usually pretty fair, all things considered. I think her algorithms are probably putting her into a bit of a feminist bubble (I also really like OliSUNVia who has become more feminist over the years, and I unfortunately had to totally give up on Sexplanations because of how tribally dogmatic she's gotten), but Ana really examines the data and examines her biases (to the extent ANY of us can examine our own biases). I think she would be open to it. I don't agree with everything she …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/04/26 05:45 AM
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I think it's because in recent years we've symbolically condemned men in order to historically break away to a "post patriarchy" state of society. There's this really interesting section in "Behave" by Robert Sapolsky about how essential the symbols of identity become to social conflict -- how people will sacrifice their lives to plant a flag on a hill, how revolutions usually involve a period of desecration of the previous society's sacred symbols and rituals (tearing down statues, christians d…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/04/26 05:24 AM
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I bet she has a reddit account. She should do an AMA here to try and open up respectful dialogue!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/04/26 03:55 AM
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Conflict over sexual access has shaped the modern world. Women are largely the gate-keepers of who gets to belong in a group, beginning the machinations of exclusion in their girl-politik
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 08:05 PM
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Ask Cleopatra
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 08:04 PM
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That is what I mean, and it is the predominant mood of the culture today. People are hungry for new targets. We love it when others fail because it gives us an opportunity to pretend we are innocent of everything for a little while.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/03/26 06:40 PM
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It seems like either viewpoint is preoccupied with punitively finding fault We need to culturally shift this conversation. Accountability now means socially sanctioning cruelty and aggression. We need to quell our appetite for punishment and find a way to nurture empathy, deep listening, and understanding, instead of fomenting vitriol and enmity.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/03/26 04:15 AM
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No i think being coy is actually an innate part of the courtship process. We signal covertly because sexual messaging has to be discrete and deniable until it reaches a certain threshold (language of desire is a good book on this). Many inherent aspects of human sexuality are impolite and unsavory, so the way they are subsumed by the social apparatus makes it topsy turvy and contradictory on appearance. Sorry to tell you this but saying the opposite of what you mean isn't a cultural thing to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:50 PM
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Thats why you learn how to skillfully escalate, figure out how to ask w/o asking, etc, without buying totally into the cultural hysteria surrounding "unambiguous consent" (as though there is ANY human dimension of activiy without ambiguity)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 09:33 PM
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Because i have social intelligence and understand that only robots and autists say exactly literally what they mean all the time? And games constitute all social interactions in the Wittgensteinien sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 08:10 PM
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There are 76 different varieties of "no" a man must learn and classify "No!" (I actually mean no) "Noooooo" (playful no that actually means keep going) "No" (recalibrate and soften) "NOoOo" (she's really getting into this keep going)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 06:05 PM
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On the contrary, the courtship dance between men and women is a push-pull tango until the woman willingly gives up her propriety. She can't give it up too fast without being ashamed, she can't give it up too slow or the man moves on. If no decorum is broached, then nothing sexy at all ever happens. It's an ancient and savage dance. Learn how to love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 06:02 PM
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Not what i mean lol I mean which one brings more glory to their ancestors by burning brightly
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:39 PM
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Safety doesnt tell you who lived the most tho
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:06 PM
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Idk bro you sound kinda fuckin nuts
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/03/26 05:36 PM
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Funfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:45 PM
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Weird and proud
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:41 PM
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Not all of them, and their submission to me further excites me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:41 PM
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Cuz they hot as fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:35 PM
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Cuz they dont have the opportunity to
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 11:07 PM
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Status and appearance gets your foot in the door. Warmth and tending to connection is what actually deepens relationship quality, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 02:22 AM
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Also, if you don't mind me asking: how do you make sense of the current cultural climate? Your tag says you're a feminist guest. I think a lot of people here (and in the culture at large) sympathize with the overall project of feminism (liberating women from patriarchal control and granting them equal rights and access to opportunity), but see the current strains of feminism within the culture as being needlessly destructive. I personally feel like the entire cultural artifice that held everythi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/03/26 06:54 PM
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Thanks!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/03/26 07:27 AM
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I find forgiveness by seeing people as animated by psychological forces not belonging to themselves. I'm reading "Purity and Danger" by Mary Douglas and i can't recommend it enough. It puts the purification seeking impulse and mechanism into a mich broader context.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/03/26 06:59 AM
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Do what other anarchists did before you and move into a hut in the woods Except live as an example of unmitigated goodwill and inner freedom rather than any other unsavory stuff That's my plan.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/03/26 05:33 AM
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The left is hemorrhaging members for this very reason. I think it's not your job to hyper police yourself into uber-diplomacy only to be shown the door anyway. I think your job is to be true to yourself and say what you think in the clearest terms possible. Speak with love, if they respond with hate its on them.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/03/26 04:53 AM
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Why do we have norms? They are the structure of interactions that guide individuals towards the social motives of society. When they work well, they generate social capital, form cohesion, and protect social stability. But norms are incredibly complicated and context sensitive. Sometimes lipservice must be paid to a norm so the illusion of social order when actually a different set of rules of engagement are being called for. It is not an accident that we often say the opposite of what we mean, …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 10:57 PM
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Because they get less attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:46 PM
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A lot of truth in there, but I think one area of nuance is that confidence isn't about bulldozing through norms, it's learning how to play with norms. Norms are incredibly complicated -- they aren't binary black and white. They include in their structure the conditions for their necessary subversion and violation. They are "porous", meant to keep conduct at bay but other conduct through. Confidence is learning how to dance the right dance to be let through, not just ignore norms. It's about find…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:34 PM
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Nobody says "only", it's said that it's a primary attraction. I mean Freud basically said that mommy-complex is a major unconscious psychological force.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 07:30 PM
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Im challenging the emotional tenor of his post which is part of his view
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/26 03:10 AM
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Maybe they need help finding it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 10:01 PM
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You have to find a way to interface with the world, otherwise you're the one keeping your bitterness alive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 09:11 PM
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That's a destructive belief to have about yourself. We all have difficulties connecting, especially these days. Existential alienation, the idea that we are fundamentally isolated within our exoeriences, is an age old concept. Luckily you come equipt with empathetic architecture. You have the hardware, now you just have to learn how to use the software.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:33 PM
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I've been there dude! You don't deserve to feel that way. Feed the part of you that knows how awesome you really are by reminding yourself every day. Shame is veil you can make yourself see through. You should start "Song of myself" by Walt Whitman today and read a page every morning. No inch or particle of you is vile.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:28 PM
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I don't mean to callously say your defense mechanisms are your fault. Everyone has good reasons to be bitter. What i do mean to say is that once you discover the ability to sit down and systematically unentangle all the ways those defense mechanisms are keeping you from the life you want, you can start making progress towards living life more joyfully, which naturally attracts people. We can sense when people are dying and when they are thriving, both are self-reinforcing cycles. You just gotta …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:25 PM
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Gotta fix your bitterness before you can do anything, but when you do, it's like life just magically starts happening for you, all those roadblocks you placed in your own way start falling one by one.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 08:22 PM
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It really is all about the vibe you carry. Most the bitterness you see is a self reinforcing narrative people have built which would be dismantled with direct experience
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 07:45 PM
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Lol yes they do
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 03:21 AM
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My hero
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 03:21 AM
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Hey, let's strike common ground, I think maybe you're rushing an interpretation of what I'm saying. Discretion evolves in every group as a mode of speech to talk about sensitive subjects. It's not a "choice" (if there is such a thing as free will, which I do not believe there is), it's a structural result due to areas of life being sequestered off and symbolically contained within prohibitions and taboo. This can manifest as insinuation language or acceptable memes to speak about things otherwis…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 09:49 PM
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But sex is something we communicate discretely because of the tensions innate to it and the threat it poses to group harmony
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 06:18 PM
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Skill issue
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 01:25 AM
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Use meet up! There are hundreds and hundreds of activities for you to meet people every day. And all of those spaces you listed (yes, even work) are okay to meet women if you possess the skills to navigate it gracefully. Some people can make anything work, some people can make nothing work. Learning those skills is up to you. A good carpenter doesn't blame his tools, he understands he needs to possess the requisite skills to make them work. You have your whole life (or at least until you get old…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 10:50 PM
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It's so funny you say that. I got a haircut and started lifting recently, looking at people in the face and smiling warmly, and it has radically changed how I move in the world. I totally get why you feel icky, but in the end, it's a skill. Some guys make the most innocuous things feel icky, some guys can pick up girls anywhere. It's like they have this field of warmth around them that makes everyone feel at ease and loved. And some guys make girls feel violated when they eye fuck them, but when…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 02:24 AM
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Good advice! Think of it this way: If 90% of people are scared nowadays, you have this brief window of opportunity! Write an escalating list of the risks you'd like to take in your life (talking to that girl, telling a random girl you think she's beautiful, asking a girl on a date) to build your comfort level in navigating the challenges of courtship! Fear is the enemy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 01:23 AM
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Projection galore
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 01:37 AM
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For sure, reading my comment back I can see how much malicious intent I'm ascribing, which ironically is probably how it looks from the other side too. I don't think our comments are mutually exclusive either -- when we are under threat we give ourselves permission to aggress in order to defend ourselves, and it feels good to aggress, as well as it feels good to have an enemy and perceive ourselves as the ones victimized, even when we are the aggressors. There's a really good book called "The So…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/02/26 01:21 AM
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Whenever we flatten the humanity of others with labels, we are alienating ourselves and them. We should strive to see the whole humanity of everyone, even if they are behaving destructively and anti-socially. Or "creepily" as dumb and over-done as those words are.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/02/26 11:27 PM
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It's also a way to exercise your desire to be aggressive and cruel against a sanctioned target. If we can say someone deserves something, we give ourselves the greenlight to aggress. It feels good to exclude and target others with hostility because during the time of commissioning those acts we feel free from the anxiety that something similar can happen to us. It's a kind of confirmation bias that everyone has to jump on board with -- any man's actions can be called "creepy" and everyone has to…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/02/26 11:26 PM
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I'm going to break this to you What people find attractive isn't what they publicly say
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 09:54 AM
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All jokes aside, I had to work with a group of radfems summer before last and it was absolutely nauseating. I actually had to change the tire on the work truck, let her spin off literally one bolt, then she goes off and tells her friends, "OMG YOU GUYS YOU WON'T BELIEVE IT I CHANGED A TIRE TODAY."
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 09:03 AM
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But women are like helpless little babies without men. Can't change tires, open pickle jars, use a screwdriver or swing a hammer.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 08:56 AM
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Prolly because we don't have anyone who just listens, loves us, and understands us So we have to try and understand ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 07:31 AM
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There actually have been studies done, it is observed that women in general are less attracted to bisexual men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 08:04 PM
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It actually has been shown though that bisexual men are a major turn off for women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 08:03 PM
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Maybe lol. It's a strange game of hypocrisy and denial maybe we're not ever meant to get our heads around. What makes it dirty is what makes it so fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:40 AM
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Persistence has been shown to actually work as a strategy, that's why men do it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:30 AM
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A big part of that comes from the hysteria surrounding innate primal sexual dynamics which we increasingly condemn and control with the discourse we use to talk about it. We've reframed practically everything through the lens of needing sexuality to be perfectly safe and sanitized all of the time, when that just isn't how human seuxality works. There is a dominance/submission dynamic between men and women in courtship, men are hunting and pursuing women -- it's fucking hot. We need to socialize …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 11:39 PM
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I think a lot of this starts when you're young. You hear about how much of a problem you are, how you're unworthy of trust, if anyone hears anything bad about you everyone will assume it's true, that you need to be hard self reliant and keep everyone out, how you need to be beaten into the straight and narrow otherwise you'll become a criminal or a bum. You end up assuming the hateful identity your society gives you. We need to learn how to gently correct boys while making them feel assured as a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/02/26 12:09 AM
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No, humiliating people is just part of my fetish
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 08:25 AM
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Well, when a feminist walks out door, is there anything they're not gonna hate?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/09/25 11:29 PM
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There are a few main reasons I think The first is that culture rewards fidelity in women because of paternity uncertainty. Promiscuity in women is de-incentivized because we want to be certain about parentage so men don't squander their resources. The second is that sexuality is a primary resource for women, one of their main assets they can leverage for both social and economic capital. This is why the main people who hate sluts are actually women, and in fact most slut shaming does in fact com…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/25 07:47 PM
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This is part of it for sure, but we have had functional cultures in the past that positively harnessed masculine energy, and had forms of brotherhood and meaningful forms of male belonging and social contact.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/25 07:58 AM
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Bro it's mad confusing and endlessly heart breaking, I have nothing to offer except that I share in that confusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 06:33 AM
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I think that's definitely part of the cultural component, but I also think it is primarily determined by nature, of hundreds and thousands of years of procreation occurring through force, of a nature that links our pleasure circuits to expressions of dominance and submission. I was reading a book called "Life" (I think that's what it was), and there was an anthropologist living with a tribe who was preparing for war. The anthropologist asks, "Why do you prepare for war?" And the tribesmen burst …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 06:29 AM
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I think our natures just aren't as neat or clean as this. I think it's good that we want to responsibly engage with our primal instincts, to satisfy our sexual urges without actually denigrating someone, but the intermixture of animal desire and the need to be a caring, moral human in a humane society leads to a lot of irresolvable contradictions, skillful concealment of what we really want, and rationalizations of our worst behaviors. Like, men can totally love their partner, empathize with the…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 06:12 AM
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Ravishment is a polite word I used for rape. In the literature, it is specifically rape that 60%+ women report fantasizing about: of being coerced into sex against your will. I'm not sure exactly the universality of the circumstances or content of those fantasies though, but I'd encourage you to learn more if you're interested. I actually think passion and violence are deeply linked, as well as eroticism and death. They call the orgasm "the little death" after all. Many of our cultural archetype…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 05:41 AM
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That's actually not true -- it's been replicated numerous times that around 2/3 women have persistent ravishment fantasies, and around 1/2 men have persistent ravishment fantasies. It's a fairly consistent finding: 60+% of women do actually often fantasize about being raped. One example: doi: 10.1080/00224490802624406. I think it is more nature than nurture -- that human sexuality is inherently bound to power dynamics. Every primate we've discovered so far engages in dominance and submission beh…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 04:47 AM
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How about we just stop calling literally everything creepy and try to be more understanding of each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:55 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 07:10 PM
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And that's fair Modern society has turned everyone into desire-less robots
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:09 PM
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Lmao you are such a pansy
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 05:07 PM
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And you took more delight in pointing that out so you could be right than actually getting your dick rode on? Your priorities are all out of whack, son. Your ancestors frown upon you on this day.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 09:09 AM
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so you didn't get laid and made a point about how your affections aren't accepted by women, and you're bragging about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 09:01 AM
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Only the easy ones, but never you, you're too smart for that
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 03:28 AM
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You like torturing me, don't you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/25 01:59 AM
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I go to a hyper progressive College and this is very much the only accepted narrative allowed. I also worked at a mental health clinic here and they would regularly joke about the suicidal men they saw afterwards, saying "You're privileged, you'll get over it." Men have been systematically silenced, as well as dishonestly claimed the benefactors of a system that openly works against them. People say "oh this gender war stuff is only online, go live in the real world" but my real world is built o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/09/25 11:27 PM
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Speak for yourself i look like handsome squidward. Im just poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 10:42 PM
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Women love sexual attention, we just cant say it
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 06:52 PM
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This is the way right here First you must convincingly lie to yourself so you believe you have nothing to hide I'm right there with you
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:35 AM
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I think subconsciously I'm turned off by signs of their advanced age, part of me knows they can't carry an infant to term
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:39 AM
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Once they hit 40 or so I just stop being attracted to them with rare exceptions. Like my brain just knows my baby batter would do no good there.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 12:16 AM
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The objectification discourse isn't even coherent. All of us appear as perceptual objects to each other, we all become objects of thought to each other. Sexual ideation has to be objectification because ideas are objects.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/25 06:19 PM
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Fuck ladies you trust, and let ladies fuck you who trust you and communicate openly with Communicate openly beforehand about what to do if she starts to not be into it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 10:48 PM
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I think sex workers should be treated like a kind of therapist, something that has the kind of oversight as an LPC or LCSW would have -- people who go to school to become trained in the intimate arts -- not just physical, but also emotional -- someone who teaches others how to have a more open and fulfilling life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:12 PM
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Spoken like someone who's never fucked a sex worker. They definiitely can be a restorative and intimate experience that makes you feel attractive and valued. The need for intimacy is something that need both long and short term interventions. Yes, a deeply connected social network with deep loving relationships is the ultimate solution, but your body pressed against someone elses, a beautiful girl lavishing attention to you as she lets you do whatever you want with her (within reason), is a wond…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:01 PM
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Absolutely And law should require all women 135 pounds and below to wear short skirts in the summer
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 05:30 PM
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Nothing more icky than a guy who doesn't even try and is overly considerate. The guys who skillfully hurdle over roadblocks are the ones getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 09:55 PM
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I think the self is the source of our unease. I don't think amplifying its stories by giving them energy in the therapy office makes us happier or better adjusted. I think ritual is how we've kept our spirits up and deeply connected in the past -- bonfires, drum-circles, stories around the fire, wrestling and ecstatic dance.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 08:17 PM
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Hey, I don't wish to fight you. I hope you get all the things you want and need in life, I think men should respect boundaries but boundaries really aren't hard-fast and there is nothing more complex and contradictory than the human heart and it's difficult to judge that, I think we should listen to and respect each other, but understand that deep primal undercurrents are operating under the surface and those can and should not be totally constrained by an increasingly anti-human culture Wish yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 07:18 PM
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Why describe things in such black and white terms that leaves no room for humanity? Why not understand that power is a part of the interplay of sexual relations, of people establishing a balance of power between each other through play? Women ARE turned on by dominant men, women do respond to confident men that are assured of their sexuality and know how to skillfully get into her pants (which is different than a blundering dude that can't take a hint). Women are tired because the social narrati…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 06:44 PM
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No it isn't, it's the anti-sex cultural narrative being espoused by radical feminists that have made women overly afraid of acting on their desires or learning the skills to navigate sexual interactions and set boundaries. We've regressed from a sexually liberated culture to pre 1950's. Before the brainwashing occurred, women didn't need men to be desireless and neutered, and even liked the brave and bold ones. We have a lot of work to do to undo the damage done by the new puritan movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 06:22 PM
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Pushing boundaries is ordinary and natural behavior that we've grotesquely fixed a social label onto so that everyone is vibrating with sexual frustration because they can't even begin to act on their needs
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 06:08 PM
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One thing I like about King of the Hill is that it's a very realistic moral show. It deals with very uncomfortable realities of life but always in an empathetic way and never too heavy handed.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/07/25 08:19 PM
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with the * caveat, respect people's autonomy and dignity But if we're talking about what the root feeling is really about, I think that's it. Knowing you're responsible for breaking her in
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 07:22 AM
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Virginity has a common value because there are anxieties over paternity. Virginal women are more highly valued because you feel sure the child is yours. But I think the feeling and meaning of taking virginity is more akin to the destruction of something valuable, a kind of carnal sacrifice, like how ancient kings would squander fortunes for the pleasure of it. I think it's moreso the perverse ownership of it, to be the one that ruined her chastity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:38 AM
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I think it's actually from the carnal height of descrating innocence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:30 AM
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Yeah it sucks how hard Black Mirror fell off. I was such a fan of the earlier seasons, but it definitely become a mouthpiece for the new message.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/25 07:51 AM
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Pseudo-religious is a great description, the new puritanism that people prove their loyalty to by scorning intimacy
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/07/25 07:38 AM
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Basically Thank you for your sympathy. Need it today
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:36 PM
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Nothing works
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:27 PM
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Why don't we just agree that "sexualize" is a bizarre made up concept and instead accept that sexuality as an ordinary part of the human experience and is a part of our thoughts, interactions, and culture?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 04:40 AM
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I worked in a mental health clinic for just under a year as a crisis peer in a very progressive city, and it was very common to hear completely un-examined misandry on the team. The girls would laugh to each other sometimes after seeing a white man, saying "he'll be fine, he's privileged." I brought up to my super gay coworker that the vast majority of suicides are older white men and he said it was because they're so privileged they don't know how to handle crisis. I think people grossly undere…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/07/25 06:12 AM
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Sex is a need tho Like, in the purely semantic sense of the word
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:45 PM
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Yall just need to get off your high horses and let people pursue their joy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/25 10:08 PM
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Humans are prone to many psychological pitfalls and distortions that come evolving in small bands of people. It means groups need to cohere over a common narrative that's hemmed in by a simplified account of in-group/out-group conflict. This narrative tends to appeal symbolically to disgust eliciting imagery, activating our insular cortex which is responsible for the subjective experience of disgust, and is connected to our associative network. The underlying reason for this is that evolution is…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/06/25 08:25 PM
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I overall support the project of feminism, of equal access to opportunities between men and women, as well as a culture that encourages respect between men and women. I don't deny that historically our institutions have been patriarchal, barring women from equal participation society. I think that most people who dislike the modern feminist movement probably don't dispute this (though I don't speak for them). The problem is how antagonistic the discourse has gotten, and how an oppressor-victim n…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/06/25 08:22 PM
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We are a pearl clutching people Without a common culture only monthly hysteria can bring us together Soon we'll be mad about something else. As long as we have something to be mad about, we can stop from being mad at ourselves. Doesn't matter how ultimately harmless the thing is. We will invent an entire culture wide conspiracy to buttress ourselves against. It does get sad looking out at all you French and Belgium and Italian people just going about your lives, taking joy in small pleasures, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/25 09:29 AM
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I'm a little confused by the wording of this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 09:44 PM
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Nah not true. Kindness, humor, emotional intelligence -- all these things matter too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:36 AM
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It's relational aggression, signaling to everyone we get to enjoy schadenfreude at the person's expense No way to stop it. It's the human condition bb.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:09 AM
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Dass black an white tho They're attracted by lots of things, including wealth and status, and the bond they forge over time becomes loving
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 01:40 AM
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Women can be looking for love and be attracted by those things, among other qualities
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 01:37 AM
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I think that's naive and idealistic to the point of setting yourself up for disappointment Better to acknowledge that status and wealth play a role in attraction, and it isn't so black and white that these drivers make connection superficial
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 12:47 AM
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Lolwat Having a generation of under educated men that can't ascend the ladder will have far reaching negative consequences. Most of those men aren't going to have spouses at all due to their economic unatractivenss
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 07:47 PM
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Mmmmmmm did someone say torture?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:15 PM
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Masculine impulse Bring power Rghhh Ravenous and hungry eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 02:09 AM
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Incels don't give attention because they believe the women don't want it from them
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:31 AM
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People say they don't want attention but direct experience proves the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 01:19 AM
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People say that but in my experience most girls worth looking at that pass by a construction site start strutting like they're on project runway
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 11:41 PM
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It's that women are the guiding star that without out compasses spin around wildly and we would be lost
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:33 PM
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To answer your question though it's some caveman part of your brain that goes "unngb, ooga booga. FEMALE. URRRNGH. MUST INTENSELY FIXATE. CONSTERNATE. ATTENTION." When I worked on an ultra male, only male, concrete tilt-up building a water reservoir, whenever a woman walked on site we'd drop all our tools and walk to the edge, stare at her, and then look at each other. All of it was unspoken unconscious ooga boogas as we were marionetted by ancient impulses.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:29 PM
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When you're 40 it'll be like you're not even there, or spoiled milk has walked into the room Try to learn to enjoy the attention before it runs dry
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:22 PM
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Why do people look at beautiful paintings
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:16 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 09:07 AM
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The discourse on objectification has gotten out of hand for sure We experience each other as objects of perception under most circumstances, and don't really operate with the inner life of others in mind except when more deeply connecting
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 07:47 AM
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We are still running on caveman instincts. Caveman instincts shaped by an evolving culture. "Job" is kind of a loaded phrasing on my part. While our contemporary environment has changed, the core drives that took millions of years to take shape through natural selection have not. Evolution isn't running on logic. It's not like minds decide that some optimal strategy results in the most offspring surviving in the long term. It's the change in frequency of genes which regulate the proteins/systems…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:13 AM
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Because I think that's an oversimplication of human social dynamics. That all of us contain sadism, violence, deception, and benevolence to different degrees. I think collapsing any dynamic to "perpatrator/victim" is usually an oversimplification of relationship dynamics, and most people need therapy rather than condemnation. Yes, people hit each other, yes people berate and humiliate each other -- it's because I don't think a label ever totally contains a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:42 AM
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Women didn't find male sexuality disgusting until a media brainwashing campaign turned us all against each other. Women still be out there thirsting over Fabio and vampires. We've just narrowed the decorum so that we're all in a mexican stand-off, and our first instinct is to judge anyone who tries to fulfill their needs. We've created a wasteland and called it peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:35 AM
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Or you could just ignore jugmental, hateful people and live your best life. Someone who gets out of bed in the morning and looks at a laundry list of everything people aren't supposed to do must have a sphincter so tight they shit angel hair pasta noodles.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:33 AM
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Where did this entitlement discourse come from? How did this become our framing? Why is this the best way to discuss people realizing their social drive to connect, form relationships, and seek love? It seems unnecessarily hostile and cynical and not conducive to a healthy culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:31 AM
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Isn't this fairly black-or-white? Can't you also have conversations about the trade-offs of the rules, and the fluidity of their application. I don't think anyone really thinks there should be a 1:1 correspondence between norms and actions at all times. Life happens in the ambiguous space inbetween. If the rules are repressive, people have every right to resist those rules and live outside of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:29 AM
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The difference isn't that big but it is an understood fact that men are hornier because our job is to continuously inseminate.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:27 AM
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Learning how to live your life in spite of social stigma is how you become free
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:14 AM
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But there is no one Like god didn't make one soul and separate it into two pieces to be reunited later There's just a scale of compatibility
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:24 PM
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Which is unreasonable and fantastical There is no "one" There are people you like more that you make it work with
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:18 PM
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what i was going to say in far less words
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:50 AM
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I think you're actually a man, McDonaldsCrewBoi
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:50 AM
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But it's the particular progressive narrative that tries to inhibit assertive male sexuality that OP is talking about here. Patriarchy gave it reign carte blanche (which is damaging too) but the complete repression of the male biological drive is a part of progressive reform, not patriarchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 05:39 AM
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There is a really big idea here I've been struggling to figure out. I devote most of my reading to it. I'm reading eroticism by Bataille, History of Sexuality by Foucault, Durkheim, and a bunch of modern studies and relevant takes on the subject (Eros and Civilization, Sexual Personae, Society and its Discontents). What universals are there in regulating sexual expression across societies? Why is it that every society evolves discretion? What are the varieties of attitudes and taboos, and what a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 05:16 AM
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The equivalent concept is "girl boss" or "boss babe" But might I suggest, "Clit Queen."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 12:54 AM
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I think we'd all be happier if we didn't model our world on what anti social cretins on the internet say
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:45 PM
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This is a specific reaction to the state of sex work as it is and not as it could be if it were a regulated, revered, and respected institution. That kind of view of degradation and trading of dignity is not contingent on the act of sex itself or the associated psycho-drama, but of an idea of what the transaction is like. I think sex workers should be trained like therapists and become sexual healers and connectors, which would be possible with legalization and control.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:49 PM
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Nothing is so black and white
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 01:13 AM
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This isn't true Sex work can be very therapeutic and the women performing the service are people, with their own feelings and preferences. I think the work can be very meaningful for both parties. I've used escorts and in the right circumstance it can be very human and healing. As a man, what I really want is intimacy. Someone to act like my sexuality is something beautiful to be celebrated, not a shameful danger to be suppressed. The modern dynamic has little space for assertive male sexuality,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 01:12 AM
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This is so not true. Being kind a very valuable trait in a partner. And being kind =/= being a pushover
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:03 PM
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Why are they useless?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:21 PM
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Sure thing: Meta-analysis: https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1992-38948-001 "As predicted, women accorded more weight than men to socioeconomic status (SES), ambitiousness, character, and intelligence, and the largest gender differences were observed for cues to resource acquisition (status, ambitiousness)." Modern conext and differences across lifespan: https://psycnet.apa.org/buy/2016-52943-001 Again, SES plays a major role in women's attraction but not men's https://link.springer.com/article/10.…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:20 PM
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It's well studied that one of the main factors that women are attracted to is resource acquisition. Even moreso in egalitarian countries where the woman doesn't even need the resources. I can show you the studies when I'm on my PC or you can just Google them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:41 PM
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I think shaming the game is part of the game Being able to make romantic moves, knowing that it will cause sexual conflict and tension, and successfully navigating that, has to be part of the social structure since we see it across cultures. I also think it's a little off base to say "women are indirect beings" I think it's better to say, "We've evolved discretion because we are in competition for mates and that competition drives conflict and disarray."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 02:15 AM
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I recently saw a study where men asked out women in public and over 50% said yes. We think it's against the rules, but our stories about the rules have little bearing on the way the social situation actually works out!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 10:55 PM
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I learned about this in social psych! There's a phenomenon called "group polarization" Where the most extreme voices in the group cause convergence towards those extremes. People concede out of survival instinct and to identify themselves in contrast against those they highlight. Meeting and engaging in discourse as a group has the tendency to radicalize regardless about what the groups identity or function is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 10:52 PM
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so you're telling me you're a monster
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:56 AM
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Which is why there's a rightful pendulum swing against social "progress"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 08:16 PM
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See, this is the simplistic reduction that frustrates people. It forces you into this preemptive dilemma which doesn't need to be one. You can understand all the factors and forces at work without resorting to this kind of unproductive "don't want to be guilty then have nothing to be guilty about" confirmation. Besides, with the expansion of the definition of harassment, it now practically encompasses all aspects of male sexuality, and has become functionally meaningless. Oh, you noticed the hal…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:38 PM
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Because workplace dynamics have been turned into pits of sexual resentment and frustration by activist overcorrection, and what once could have been handled with an even temper, now has to be interpreted as the worst case and given all the power to the tempter. This person is riling people up and getting off on knowing they can't do anything about, likely for the sole purpose of the gratifying ego boost. It's another example of our narratives about power having nothing to do with the actual real…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:29 PM
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It is a strain to repress your sexual impulses, and some women know this and get off on torturing you, knowing that if they break you they can get you disgraced. I have worked with one such office harpy. This black-and-white "men are sexual aggressors and women can wear whatever they want" is completely out of touch with the underlying sexual power dynamics between men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:22 PM
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It would be hot at first, but it would get old if doesn't develop into something more where we both can see each other as full people
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 03:06 AM
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There'll always be enough
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:56 PM
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It's almost like men desire young, prime age women regardless of what age they are
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:03 PM
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Yeah that's a better way of phrasing it. I wouldn't want to be with someone as a life partner who will never think of me romantically or be attracted to me. Definitely fine with being a lay on standby though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 07:42 PM
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Yeah it's on a spectrum for sure. Marrying a 90 year old geezer you have to let lie on top of you for allowance isn't the same as spending time with someone you're genuinely attracted to. But I think even the most loving minds have thoughts that wander, no person ever completely fills your cup
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 07:27 PM
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I think that's just the reality of mate-ship You're never going to totally satisfy anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 07:06 PM
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Only cowards are offended by nature Why call people acting on natural attraction predatory? So what you were hot piece of ass when you were 18? Should have gotten the most out of it then.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 03:02 AM
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Power differentials are the underlying basis of human sexual dynamics, but we're in a weird historical moment where we have to deny the real inner-workings of sexuality (though, I guess we've always concealed the inner workings of sexual attraction). The hyper-puritanical revulsion toward the levers of human sexuality are exaggerated online, but Gen-Z was definitely raised during the height of the moral panics brought about by social media. There's a weird double knowledge regarding it though (I…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 03:00 AM
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Nobody's talking about that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:09 PM
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I'm here to accept you when you're ready to stop bullshitting College age girls are in their prime and it's silly to not just openly admit that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:08 PM
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I don't have to, they already do
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:07 PM
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Can't get caught if you're not ashamed Or if you don't believe it's a thing that needs excusing
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:40 AM
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You do you, but I think the universal male desire for young pussy is gene deep
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:30 AM
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Tarely beagle Leens
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:08 AM
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Go onto B-L-T sub and tell me you don't feel it move
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 06:04 AM
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I think this is the issue -- and to ignore the history is ignorant. Women have been materially tied to men's resources for all of history. They couldn't leave an abusive situation because they depended on it. I think you should take each situation on its own terms and not assume that because there's an age gap it's inherently exploitative, but it has higher risk to be
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:55 AM
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Which is secretly all of them
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:52 AM
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The brain never stops developing. The prefrontal cortex stabilizes pruning and myelination in mid 20s but it's not a discrete stage -- it means that we can regulate slightly better until reaching stability in mid 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:52 AM
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I've met my peers and they're judgey assholes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 07:30 AM
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I would because I think our society has really mixed up, contradictory sexual attitudes that lead to confused people making confused sexual decisions. I don't think a label defines a person, and would listen openly and see for myself what the connection feels like I'm also a staunch advocate for Restorative justice and would like most of America's penal system to be rebuilt from the ground up
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 07:15 AM
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Seek self acceptance and healthy exploration of your entire self
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 10:59 AM
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Because of falling testosterone rates in both sexes. Testosterone is positively correlated with aggression and risk taking, which has lead to higher rates of death, especially earlier in 20th century with 2 mass world conflicts that culled the male population of higher levels of testosterone. The next is that the modern world is based on playing it safe. The bear hunters and woman ravagers of yore wouldn't last a day in a modern office where if you so much as look at a pair of titties you get ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:55 PM
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1950s for sure because i have more relational leverage which benefits my self-interest. Modern times put me at a competitive disadvantage so it would be irrational for me to select that as a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 08:00 PM
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I think most people want a kind of love that transcends superficial social signifiers Which is actually out there
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 07:59 PM
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I think you're on the money, but I'd also like to add that culture informs how we process social information.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 03:59 AM
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Because it's fucking hot
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 09:19 PM
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That just isn't true in my experience. I've had so many awesome experiences and deep talks with people I've just said hello to. So what if someone is momentarily annoyed by me? Basing your entire life off of people's temporary discomfort is how you become an architect of your own loneliness. I honestly don't really care that much about other people's feelings unless if I'm acquainted with them and I don't see it as my responsibility to overly accomadate people. We develop social skills for a rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:22 AM
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"Ulterior motives" has become such a loaded term that makes people judge their perfectly healthy feelings in such a crippling way. No wonder everyone is so lonely and self-loathing if this is our culture's terminology! Being attracted to someone and trying to act on it is the reason all of us are here. It would be nice if we could walk up to someone and be like, "Hi, I'm approaching you with the direct and stated intention of fostering a romantic connection. My purposes are above board" but that…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:04 AM
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Just strike up conversations and respect it if they give you fuck off vibes. School, waitresses, librarians, receptionists, someone in line, girls in stores, girls at the social outlets I frequent (spiritual centers, athletics, makers guilds), coworkers, etc. People WANT to experience life, those narratives of people needing to be comfortable all the time are just an outer layer of defense that goes away once you build rapport with someone. And if someone does have an aneurysm because you tried …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:38 AM
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Seems like an unnecessarily negative framing of the natural drive to connect Conversing doesn't have to be understood in the context of entitlement, and seems like an unnecessary hostile valuation of people fulfilling their core social needs, and only a possible narrative in a pathological alienated society. I talk to girls all the time out of the blue because they're people, and once I started ignoring judgmental people who are imprisoned in their own shame, found the world is still full of peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:34 AM
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On the table, on the floor, against the wall I'm up for anywhere really
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 08:14 PM
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It's perfectly biologically normal and universally the case to be attracted to women who have passed their menarche and show signs of biological maturity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:24 PM
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The meta analyses I've seen do show a negative correlation between health/wellbeing factors and age gap relationships, but it's really small and there are many confounds (underprivileged women getting into abusive situations with more powerful men in cultures where they're dependent on the men). It definitely doesn't warrant the sudden shift in societal attitudes. What's definitely the case is that the severity of the modern taboo on age gaps is not supported by anything concrete; not neuroscien…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:21 PM
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What about seeing it as a valuable service, discussing degrading them beforehand as a part of the play/service, and paying appropriately for that service
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:00 PM
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Metoo is over, man. I was scared for a while too. I get it. Seeing otherwise cool people get swept up in a wave of fear and paranoia damaged your trust in people. Me too, man. Now I know that social contagion can reach a crescendo and reinforce until people start tearing each other apart. But the clouds have cleared, the worst have been made an example of, people carry on as they always have. The vast majority of sexual harrassment claims at work result in no aversive action taken except mild di…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 03:42 AM
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I think deceiving is the wrong way to think about it, because you're phrasing it too intentionally. I think all of us are driven by degrees of self-deception and dissonance, and regulating our negative feelings of self-worth by judging others to feel better about our own negative traits. All of us are driven by less than savory motives and we have ways of gilding it even to ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 03:27 AM
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You had me until the last paragraph. Nobody's trying to make older women jealous. I know it's sad to become less desirable to the world, but that's just reaching into the fantastical realm to cope with those feelings. I think becoming less attractive as you lose the glow of youth can be a good thing however.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 04:00 AM
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I'm in a social science at one of the most progressive universities in the united states. I used to just keep my head down. Now I have one term left and i'm enjoying openly dissenting every chance I get. I think it's been nice seeing that a lot of them are blind to gaps in the narratives we use to simplify each other. On the same note, it's also been a challenge to me to expand my understanding and see where their resentment comes from, that some of them have been treated as less than, and that …
/r/MensRights17/01/25 03:37 AM
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I love how succinctly you put that. I think this is where a lot of the frustration comes from -- how our culture says one thing, but means another. You have no way to anchor your perception, and no way to protect yourself when you fall on the wrong side of the world of appearances.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 03:18 AM
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Not to mention that mental health is filled with primarily women that have been pipelined through institutions that teach the world in terms of toxic masculinity, privilege, ect. I worked at a crisis center and the young women would laugh at the older white men that they saw after their meetings with them, dismissing their pain as "I have no sympathy... they'll be fine." Our problem is that we live in a world that thinks about us this way in the first place. Why go to mental health counseling if…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 08:25 PM
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For sure, if he hasn't used his years to grow his juevos
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:33 AM
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And, also, since we are a hierarchical social species, our needs to express dominance and submission undergirds all our social and therefore sexual interactions
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 01:25 AM
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Urge to be Genghis Must understand
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 07:57 PM
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They're just trying to look cool to their friends I think nothing really changes except what people pretend they're like public
/r/MensRights11/04/24 03:58 PM
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Honestly though, it's an amazing thing that this conversation is even happening. I think we're seeing a cultural rebound where the overreaches of the last decade are being corrected. People are sick of the one sided fantastical narrative that has little to do with reality, and conversations about misandry as well as misogyny are becoming more commonplace.
/r/MensRights08/04/24 03:48 PM
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It sucks we're in an antagonistic relationship with the police on this country. "Land of the free" my ass. Cops only add problems
/r/MensRights08/04/24 03:31 PM
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Reality cures most of our misunderstandings. Go outside and see that most people are smiling at each other, enjoying positively in each other's company. Bad things happen, and many people have a defensive reaction to the world, but you'll find in general that people are much better than we think them to be. People with bitter, hateful worldviews are the problem, male or female. Thank you for being a cool person!
/r/MensRights07/04/24 10:40 PM
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The thing is I don't think a lot of men want to be radicalized I think most of us just want people to stop laughing at our pain, or to be called privileged when we are the punching bag for all of society. There's nothing for man to be anymore. The only choice is alienation. I just wish all of us tried to understand each other with compassion, male and female. Civilization was a mistake. We're not supposed to live this way and there's no way to make it not hurt.
/r/MensRights16/09/23 05:07 AM
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It's deeply sad. Men and women are now both terrified of each other. Unfortunately, we respond to fear and outrage more easily than anything else, so the news cycle propagates itself by feeding that. I think that's why for all of us the first task should be maintaining your humanity. Surround yourself with love and understanding so that this stuff, for the most part, falls away.
/r/MensRights02/07/23 12:58 AM
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