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My thoughts exactly. He won't propose, she'll bluff a breakup, he'll call her bluff and wind up marrying the woman he uses during the break.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:12 PM
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Holy shit that's bad. I'm so embarrassed for her 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:05 PM
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It never fails to amaze me how much praise men want for doing the bare fucking minimum. Like, I cleaned the bathroom (one time out of thirty) or I loaded the dishwasher (one time out of sixty) or I vacuumed/did laundry/changed the sheets. Fucking good for you, you want praise when we do it multiple times a week and we never even acknowledge it? Fuck ALL the way off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:33 PM
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LOL right?! I can sleep on my very nice and expensive pillow the wrong damn way for one night and not be able to check my blind spot for a week. I can't imagine sleeping in a van. In my younger days we didn't call it van life, we called it following Phish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:38 AM
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The thing that gets me about it is the undetermined time frame on it. Like, I'm 40 and way too damn old to be van lifing for more than a long weekend max (and tbh I doubt I could manage even that long) but I get why 20-somethings would be into it. But at least have a time frame - three months, six months, a year, whatever. Anyone over the age of 30 wanting to do it without a time frame is just wanting to run away from something in their life imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:24 AM
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Right?? I had to repost bc I was so mad I used MF in the title and it got my post removed. But this is dehumanizing on a whole new level
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:44 PM
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I would love to read a post about that. I've never thought about men posing as youth advocates to lure young girls. A post would be awesome, especially for those of us teaching daughters FDS standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:16 PM
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Oh god, same. I've been a widow for ten years and the number of men who have tried to use that to their advantage is appalling. It's like it turns some men on, it's sick. I am no longer upfront about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:01 PM
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Thank you for the clarification at the very end. I've seen YMMV a few times and always wondered what it meant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:57 PM
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a "playmate" for his ... long term 17/18 year old girlfriend
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:49 PM
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Omg! I've always seen people refer to the thirteenth step on reddit and I never knew what it meant! Thanks for explaining!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:28 PM
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Omg seriously! I'd have been all over that shit, talking about I've met the man of my dreams, gonna let him wife me up back in the day. And now I would've swiped left so fast I'd break a nail lol. This is why I really do think it's so important to teach newcomers how to spot these subtle red flags. Like, my pickmeisha self wouldn't have thought twice about this dude saying cats were too judgey. And now I know that manyen don't like cats bc they have to put forth the effort to earn cats' affectio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 09:27 AM
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I didn't read this comment until after I made my comment above about the twitter account I follow. Should I remove the name? I don't want to break any rules. Edit: I went ahead and removed it just in case. Idk if this woman has her name in her bio but she does have her pics on there so I assume her name probably is as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:57 PM
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I second this. This would really help women who are brand new here and trying to learn how to vet on dating apps. *Honestly, six months ago I couldn't have told you one thing wrong with this dude's profile. ** Edit: I only saw the very first pic when I wrote this sentence, I didn't see there was more than one page at first so this point is now incorrect lol. Edit 2: the part about cats judging you is such a fucking red flag ugh. Sidenote: your comment reminds me of the ___________ *Edit 3: remov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:39 PM
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Girl, welcome home. We will help you learn to be automatically repulsed by this type of LVM/NVM behavior. And you'll look back on this comment in a few months and not even recognize the woman who wrote it. We are so happy you found us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:40 PM
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This is on the level with that one a few months back where the woman posted a pic of her man's cess pool of a shower, along with a photo of it after she cleaned it - and then on top of it all she laid the entire blame for his filth on his ex, the woman who had left his nasty ass two years prior. Nothing bothers me quite like women gaslighting other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:27 PM
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This is the sub-basement of the bowels of pickmehell where the worst of the cool girls hang out and talk about how porn is healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:18 PM
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Oh man, I feel so bad for these girls. The poor girl with the lavender off the shoulder top goes from looking trendy and cute to looking like one of those Little House on the Prairie dressing sister wives who isn't allowed to wear pants or cut her hair. Also, it's kinda bullshit that they're only giving refunds for the yearbooks to be returned in perfect condition. Like does that mean that if these kids have already had theirs signed they don't get reimbursed for having their portraits ruined? T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:35 PM
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Lol right?! Thank you my fellow cult members for validating me so hard today. I will gladly continue to worship at the right hand of FDS. It treats me far better than any man ever has and only asks that I respect myself and my sisters in return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:06 PM
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Omg I needed this post. I feel so fucking validated right now. So, I've talked about my broken engagement quite a bit on here lately but there's one big thing that I've never mentioned bc I've been experiencing extreme guilt about it. First, let me say, I have never in my entire life snooped on anyone's phone. Not in any relationship ever. But several months ago my now-ex fiance was acting incredibly shady. I didn't snoop on his current phone. But his old phone (we'd just replaced ours about thr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:56 PM
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The sad thing is, oftentimes the worst of these types of messages come from pickme women. My mind is blown at the awful messages I get from women who are SO PISSED OFF when we "disrespect" men. Like wtf? Even in my most shameful pickme days, I never would've messaged another woman on a site like reddit (or literally anyfuckingwhere) to advocate for men. It feels almost like a double betrayal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:45 AM
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I'm sorry I was so crazy while you were treating me like shit just went on my bedroom bulletin board. I fucking love this post. P.S. Thank you, OP! I was in dire need of some new podcasts and I had no idea Reductress even existed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:08 AM
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Oh man, I listened last night before bed and honestly I was in tears over Lilith. THAT, my friends, is a woman who has learned from her past. She was incredibly brave to share that aspect of her life with us and I commend the hell out of her for that. The thing is, when one of us shares a traumatic experience and gets vulnerable with it, it helps to heal us ALL. Because you never know who is currently going through something you've been through and who can benefit from your vulnerability. I've b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:47 AM
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So, I got angry today. In the 10+ years I've been on Reddit, nothing has ever truly made me angry the way one post did today. There was a post on a relationship sub from a woman whose best friend gave her ex-husband her address and set her up to meet with him (it was the top post, I'm certain many of you saw it). Now, I'm extremely non-confrontational. I've never ONCE argued with a single person on reddit. But oh my god, did i lose my shit today. The men on there defending the situation, fucking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:08 AM
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I would sign up for this in a mf heartbeat. Imma be real honest here, if FDS was an actual cult, the way our critics assume us to be, I would be the first in line to be a disciple. No religion, relationship, or political affiliation has EVER put me first as a WOMAN the way FDS does. I went from being an independent, happy, healthy 37 year-old single mom who survived a near fatal head-on collision from a drunk driving scrote on my way home from nursing school AND a woman who buried her childhood …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:54 AM
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Hey listen, I know it's a month later but I had to come back and thank you for recommending this podcast. It's been crazy helpful (and hilarious) during my recent breakup 🤍🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:40 AM
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Then they give up sex bc they're not happy with their wives' baby weight gain. They harp on them to lose the weight "as fast as Joe's wife did". Then they come on reddit to the relationships advice subs and say, "I love my wife but I'm not sexually attracted to her anymore because of her weight gain" and get ridiculous amounts of supportive comments from like-minded assholes and pickme's. Are you fucking kidding me? I remember those days. It took me six years to lose all of my baby weight and on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:28 PM
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My mamaw was widowed at 45 and never dated again, never married again. I used to think she must be lonely and sad. I was widowed at 30. After turning 40 this year and canceling my wedding two months before the date, I now understand that mamaw was just fucking done with men and had the right idea. I wish she were still here so I could tell her. OP, your aunt sounds bomb af and is a for real HVW. Let's all pool our vast intellectual skills and figure out how to permanently phase men out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:18 PM
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When I think of the literal thousands I spent in therapy trying to figure out what was wrong with ME......
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:07 PM
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Omg I'm dying at this. So fucking accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:03 PM
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Or in the case of my shitty ex, "You're turning 40, I didn't think you COULD get pregnant. I think you're lying about having a miscarriage." Tell that to my motherfucking checkbook. Oh wait, you can't bc on that very day you were busy texting some dirty fat footed pickmeisha while I was having my insides scraped out and my dignity shredded. Oh my god, ya'll, I cannot even with these assholes today. I'm exhausted. I'm so fucking done with this dating bullshit. I've given it four decades, I'm gonn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:01 PM
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Fkn MOOD FOR LIFE I wouldn't trade the knowledge I've learned here at FDS for all the good dick on the planet (which we all knows translates to approximately twelve)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:42 PM
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Omg, I had a friend a couple of years ago whose husband finally moved here after two years in a metro city, saving money for the two of them. When he finally moved here to be with his wife, the "love of his life", she - after being close friends with me for two years - invited me over for cocktails. Thirty minutes into the visit she follows me into the bathroom and drunkenly whisper-shouts, "Tony wants to know if you'd be into a threesome". After two solid years of her telling me how amazing he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:39 PM
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Then why the fuck would she ever even consider dating a man who subscribes to Only Fans accounts? This is some pickmeisha hall of shame shit right here. Imagine your man saying, "No, baby, we can't eat at that fancy restaurant this month because my extra dough went to pay for my Only Fans subscription." What the actual fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:27 PM
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THIS. This right here is what gets me through what are honestly the shittiest days of my entire life (and I buried a husband ten years ago, so I'm not fucking joking when I say this shit is hard). Thank you, OP. Every single fucking post I read like this reinforces that I did the right thing in not marrying my NVMX. I stg if you ladies had any idea how much i rely on you all to keep me strong and to keep me from letting that son-of-a-bitch come home, no matter how many nights he's all up in his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:49 PM
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Oh my gosh, I'm so glad I could help. I've been having the absolute worst possible day today and this was so sweet, it really did make my day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 06:34 AM
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I will say, the angriest my NVX got at me were the times when I intuitively knew he was up to something and didn't give in to his bullshit gaslighting. That pit in my stomach when I just KNEW something - even though he was an incredibly skilled liar and there were no outward signs or evidence - saved me from a lifetime of abuse. It infuriated him and liberated me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:42 PM
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I just saw a comment by a woman in another sub that explained her feelings on this so eloquently. She was explaining to the men there that as a woman in her 40s, it's irritating to see men the same age dating women in their 20s not because we are jealous that they're younger, hotter, etc, but because we know that these men are the types of predators who prey on less experienced women who are statistically less likely to enforce firm boundaries. Of course the angry scrotes in the comments were do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:16 PM
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Thank you. It's incredibly disheartening to see women bashing other women this way.
/r/seduction12/05/21 07:33 PM
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I'm so sorry. It sucks when you realize even the ones you thought were worth your time are just jerks in disguise. I feel the same way. I saw something on IG not long ago that said men drink and shag randos after a breakup while women get degrees, glow up, and move on to better looking dudes in a very small timespan. The best advice I can give you is to stay true to yourself. The women here have saved my soul so many times over it's not even funny. If it weren't for FDS, I'd have already broken …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:09 AM
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I just need to vent for a sec. My fucking ex-fiancé was logged into my fb messenger and has been reading messages from every guy on there. How did I find out? I changed my password today bc I noticed that some messages I haven't read had been marked read. It gave me the option to see what other devices were logged in and lo and fucking behold my ex logged in at noon today and read them. I'm so ANGRY. My therapist and I have been working on anger for the past few sessions and she has helped me re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:37 AM
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So, over the weekend my teenager had some friends over. While I was setting out some snacks for them, I was half-listening as they told me the latest high school gossip. Since my fiancé and I broke up three months ago, there have been a few single dads attempting to slide into my DMs. I'm not at all interested in mixing dating with my child's social life so I politely turned down all invitations. And boy am I glad that I did. It turns out two of the men who asked me out are big ol pieces of shit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 10:00 PM
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Ugh, this reads like a rejected scene from the early seasons of The Big Bang Theory. Ladies, if you are EVER on a date where the other person is rude to the server, walk the fuck out. Don't explain, don't worry about seeming rude. The other person has already broken the social contract by being rude. By sitting there and continuing to tolerate the behavior, you are rewarding their unacceptable behavior with your presence. Value your time and don't ever waste it on people who still need to be sco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:37 PM
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Lol someone told me I was in a "cult". Okay, then I have found the BEST FUCKING CULT EVER and I have zero desire to be deprogrammed by the same flavor of fucked up scrote I was trying to escape when I stumbled into this amazing, life-changing community. So even though it was meant as an insult, I embraced the word and now my printed FDS handbook has glittery pink letters on it that say "Welcome to the Cult".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:53 PM
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"Why do you always overanalyze everything?" Because you don't communicate clearly, that's fucking why!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 05:37 PM
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"Stop taking everything so personally!" and my personal favorite: "I don't know what you want me to say!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:19 AM
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This! Tell a woman on a dating sub that it's okay to not want your man having a female bff and the scrotes will chase you with torches and burn you at the Stake of Insecurity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:13 AM
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Y'all I don't know what to think about our top post on here today! Quick, someone find a penis to tell me if it's funny or not! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:08 AM
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That fucking edit 🤯 Well, at least she has the intro written for her book - "The Definitive Guide on How to Properly Raise a Pickmeisha in Modern Times"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:24 PM
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I could have written your entire comment word for word. My Kindle had an embarrassing number of these types of books on it and I don't even know how many workshops, seminars, and group therapy sessions I did to "improve myself" for my relationship. My results were also identical to yours. I'm so fucking happy to have had this - for lack of a better term - awakening. I can't imagine reverting to my former pickmeisha behavior. I NEVER want to be that woman again. I'm intelligent, educated, loyal, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 05:15 PM
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You simply need to wake up every day and choose self-respect. Thank you for this, OP. I just copied it down on a sticky note and put it on my nightstand so I'll see it first thing. I needed to read this post today, it's been a tough one. I've been watching The Gloaming on Starz (really great detective mystery btw) and heard this: You cannot know what endurance means without suffering. It resonated with me because I'm trying very hard to separate the lesson from the mistake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:13 AM
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I'm so interested in hiking! I've never done more than a day hike but recently I've been lurking some of the hiking subs and a longer trip sounds like so much fun! I'd be interested in hearing some of your safety measures for a solo hike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:54 PM
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There's a Part One to this too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:31 PM
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Thank you. Truly. I needed that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:15 AM
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I did it!! You were right! It was even more satisfying than I'd imagined lol. And thanks to your advice, I learned that he was also using my HBOMax account - and kicked him right tf off of there too 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 05:06 AM
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I know it was hard to write this post. I know because I am going through almost the exact same thing. My wedding was supposed to be this weekend. My ex also had a lot of HV qualities and, like you, I kept finding things out that I didn't want to believe. Then I would spiral into overanalyzing every word, every phone call, every interaction. I found myself doing things I never imagined I would stoop to in a desperate attempt to disprove what I already knew deep down. It's scary as hell. I just tu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:08 AM
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Because how else was this wHoLeSoMe HuBbY supposed to get credit for being such a wonderfully wHoLeSoMe man that he courageously and willfully loves his wife DESPITE her non-porn grade "outie coochie"? And that lucky lady now gets to WAX and even - gasp! - send pics to this savior of all scrotes! WOW!! Idk about you ladies but I am just DYING of envy right now. When oh when will the good lord send me such a selfless man? I MUST try waxing and referring to my anatomy as a "coochie" now! That must…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 09:43 PM
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Just tonight I was scrolling through Netflix looking for something to watch and the preview scene for this movie played. It was this exact scene and I was about to turn it on until I looked closely at the pic and realized the man was the main character. I was so irritated! I thought it was going to be about this pickmeisha's reformation and leveling up after this rock bottom proposal moment, not this LVM's predictable rebound. Sidenote: the rejected girl's post-proposal monologue was really good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 07:55 AM
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Oh wow! Thank you!! This absolutely made my day! 🤍🤍🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:46 PM
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Years ago I was seeing a man who invited his entire family over to his house for dinner. It was the first time I was meeting some of them and I fucked up right off the bat by agreeing to cook. I love to cook and entertain - when I have time - and this was at the height of my pickmeisha days so I didn't think anything of it when he asked. I went to the grocery store, spent hours making everything from scratch, and created a really amazing dinner for 12. His mother and his sister (who both showed …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 09:58 PM
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Fuck yes. The only purpose rating a woman serves is to erode her confidence so that she doesn't realize she's way out of his league.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:51 PM
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I actually just learned this on this sub today! It's like when a woman in the frugal as f post earlier said her bf not taking her out to dinner made her feel like she wasn't even worth a meal and she ended the sentence with a very awkward haha. Another member of FDS explained it as being what women do to soften the impact of their words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:03 AM
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Very nice! Thank you!! I was wondering how to kick him off my Amazon account! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:44 PM
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I love the part about generosity - especially benefit of the doubt. This resonates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:36 PM
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Even a Good dog will develop bad habits if you let it. This is so fucking true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:30 PM
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Ya ladies The new milady
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:06 PM
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Right?? I want to know everything about how to check this bc I've had some suspicions of my own about my ex logging into my account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:48 PM
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The mental gymnastics of both sets of parents blaming YOU for this dude's shitty behavior 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:42 PM
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When I was 17 I went on a date with a boy who was considered to be one of the cutest guys at a neighboring hs. I was so excited and felt so lucky bc every girl I knew had a crush on him and I couldn't believe he'd "picked me". So the date: he took me to Taco Bell, waited until I'd already ordered to say he didn't want anything, then sat and watched me eat, before rounding out the night taking me to our hs football game After halftime so we'd get in free. At the end of the night he got pissed whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 07:34 PM
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And then 9 times out of 10 we're the "bitch" for rejecting them 🙄 Even when it's something as simple as saying "thank you" to our checkout baggers. Too often they take that display of common manners as an invitation to approach. I hate that I have this indoctrinated feeling of guilt that I have to actively suppress when shit like this happens. Especially considering men don't feel guilty about jack shit. They can do the worst fucking things to us and never feel an ounce of guilt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 12:41 AM
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So last year I worked for a man who sexually assaulted me. I'm one of those always gracious, really friendly, never badmouths others, types of women and I mostly shy away from confrontation. So I was pretty surprised at how my inner fury instantly leapt to 'I'm going to to burn down his house, with him inside'. After unpacking it in therapy I learned that arson fantasies are actually a really common response in survivors of assault. I hope someone got their much deserved revenge on this shit sta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 11:47 PM
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