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Bluddy-9/r/TheRedPill12/09/23 11:51 PM
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Bluddy-9/r/askMRP16/12/23 10:30 PM
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I agree. Thanks for the response.
/r/TheRedPill20/06/26 09:20 PM
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I agree with that and it aligns with TRP. My question is, is it biblical to not romance your wife when she wants you to but you don’t want to? Edit: the typical church answer is yes, because that’s part of the sacrifice we’re called to.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/26 06:56 PM
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I see you post in the RPchristians sub. I’m a Christian as well. I’d be interested to get your take on something from the Christian perspective. I agree with what you said about love being about action. Love in the Bible is primarily about sacrifice. It’s rarely if ever referred to as romantic love. Just as with secular society, the church teaches men that they need to romance their wife and romance is often conflated with love. I see them as two distinct things. When I tell my Christian friends…
/r/TheRedPill19/06/26 06:36 PM
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I agree with you here. It seemed to me that in your original post you are referring to love as positive emotions or passion.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/26 06:07 PM
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We do lose something when we grow. TRP helps us find it again, though it’s not framed in the same way. Men are driven by a quest for truth and growth. That’s exactly what TRP is about. We love, or become passionate about, things that help us on that quest. We (except for a few lucky ones) won’t find a woman that we really love without following our quest for truth and growth because before doing that we don’t know what we want. There could be a lot of reasons you were glad to pick up your girl a…
/r/TheRedPill19/06/26 05:46 PM
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Good point. Lifting will require you to develop discipline which is essential. It’s all on you. It’s comparatively easy to attend a martial arts class at regularly scheduled times.
/r/askMRP30/04/26 08:48 PM
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I primarily do bodyweight and kettlebells (i work out at home so both of these are good options for me). The only thing I’m doing with free weights right now is squats and I primarily do that for mobility.
/r/askMRP30/04/26 08:45 PM
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My above comment is my opinion btw, not necessarily what is taught by RP. You gotta do what you can. I’ve only been going to MA class once a week lately. I’m lifting consistently but it’s not a rigorous program. I consider body weight exercise to be resistance training (I do a lot of dips and pull-ups) but it depends what you’re doing.
/r/askMRP30/04/26 07:54 PM
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It makes you look and feel more masculine. Body weight exercise falls under “lifting”. You could only run or only practice martial arts and improve but not to as great an effect imo. I lift and practice martial arts btw. Lifting will boost your confidence (and attractiveness) with women. Fighting will boost your confidence with men. Both are great.
/r/askMRP30/04/26 07:18 PM
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If you’re of the mindset that wives should get whatever they want then you’re in the wrong sub.
/r/RPChristians26/04/26 06:22 AM
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I don’t know the details of your situation, I only have my perspective I what you wrote. I could very well be wrong. You write that you might be a weak leader but you’re not sure how to change that. That is now part of your mission. God calls all men to be leaders. In my opinion the first step in becoming a great leader is being able to lead yourself well. You need to understand yourself and work on fixing your issues. Leadership isn’t only about persuading. You have to make things happen and so…
/r/RPChristians15/04/26 05:01 PM
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Your title is right on the money and your mission exemplifies what I see as your main issue. Your family should not be your main mission. Your main mission is to serve God, even if it’s at the “expense” of your family. Abraham was willing to sacrifice his son to serve God. Sounds like you’ve been sacrificing your service to God for your family. You need to get your identity straight. Your family should not be your identity. Your mission should be what’s is true and right. It should be something …
/r/RPChristians14/04/26 05:38 PM
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Good response. I’ll add that OP brought “resentment” up to her. Bad idea. It may be that she never would have considered that if OP hadn’t brought it up. OP brought it up and it gave her an opportunity to identify and latch on to a negative emotion. Don’t bring up things you discuss in therapy. Your focus should be fixing yourself not your relationship.
/r/askMRP11/04/26 01:29 PM
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I found a creator who goes by The Family Captain awhile ago. I believe he is a Christian redpill content creator but I haven’t followed him or looked into his stuff in awhile. Might be worth checking out.
/r/RPChristians02/02/26 07:13 PM
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Your kids are more important than your wife and they are your responsibility. I pretty much always punish my kids in the way I think is best and ignore my wife if she is being disrespectful. My kids know that no matter what my wife says, if they don’t obey me they will get in trouble. If I tell them to not watch tv and their mother says they can they know they will get in trouble if they watch. I just cut her out of the equation. We often get compliments on our kids being well behaved. My wife d…
/r/askMRP05/01/26 02:20 AM
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The comment you responded to is the typical blue pill sentiment. Yes, men will be happier with a virgin than a non-virgin. Third-base is still virgin territory. Men prefer virgins because of the experience they get to introduce you to. It’s not about your body being sullied or something.
/r/RPChristians25/12/25 03:23 AM
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That’s unattractive.
/r/RPChristians25/11/25 07:12 PM
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If women are telling you on dates that you shouldn’t be the way you are then it sounds like you’re telling them who you are? If that’s true then stop. Very few women will say they want a dominant man.
/r/RPChristians25/11/25 04:15 PM
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3 months is not long term. It doesn’t sound like you know much about RP. Why did you ask her to be your girlfriend if she doesn’t turn you on? Why did you already decide that she will make a good wife and mother? Why do you want to tell her about your past?
/r/RPChristians10/11/25 07:36 PM
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It often does but I don’t think that is what is meant in the context of a “she’s not much to look at but she has a great personality” type statement.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/25 10:35 PM
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When people contrast having a good personality and having good looks I think they generally mean that the personality is fun or interesting. That type of good personality is not a high priority. If by good personality you mean well behaved, kind, having a positive attitude, then i would agree that that is a fairly high priority. I just don’t think that’s what people are typically referring to in this type of situation. Do you disagree with any of that?
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/25 04:14 PM
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Yes.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/25 02:33 PM
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What you’re saying may be true from a woman’s perspective but it is not true from a mans perspective. If a man is not attracted to you the. You are better off finding someone who is.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/25 06:31 AM
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The problem is if he says he likes you for your personality then you can’t trust him, because in genera personality is not a high priority for men. Edit: is this place turning blue pill?
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/25 06:29 AM
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A dog doesn’t understand the word “no”. It takes time and a lot of repetition for it to pick it up the meaning.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 01:56 AM
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Just think of how good your life can be without her. It can be much better as long as you put in the work.
/r/askMRP02/10/25 07:16 PM
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Yes. Discernment is required in deciding how to behave. It’s easy to say “love your wife”. There are many ideas on how that could be done and plenty of those ideas conflict.
/r/RPChristians29/09/25 05:20 PM
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No, that’s wrong. We seek understanding from external sources all the time and on many biblical and spiritual matters. The Bible isn’t always clear.
/r/RPChristians29/09/25 03:54 PM
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Being BP or RP is not based on how our wife responds. Asking the subject question is the same as asking our wife how we should lead them. They won’t know the answer and they will perceive you asking a weak leadership. It will drive them away. It is 100% BP.
/r/RPChristians28/09/25 03:41 AM
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People who agree with RP would believe BP is a less successful strategy. You’re welcome to believe the opposite but this sub is for RP. People here aren’t looking to debate which is better. They’ve already decided, so BP is a “lesser” strategy to them. My point about Erika is that she may know that Charlie was a good husband but she may not understand why, therefore, if she implies that Charlie’s habit of asking her how he can serve her better showed that he was a good husband she may be wrong. …
/r/RPChristians28/09/25 03:39 AM
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Yes it is BP. Charlie may have been a great husband but his wife doesn’t necessarily know what made him that way. Asking your wife that question would be considered a good thing by your typical Christian but it’s counterproductive.
/r/RPChristians28/09/25 01:32 AM
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I think you made the right decision to end it. Even if you didn’t there is no going back now. Stop talking to her.
/r/askMRP21/09/25 03:53 AM
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Agreed. This garbage doesn’t belong here.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/25 09:30 PM
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My opinion is don’t be concerned with working out, and I don’t see any reason to not try a few more times to challenge him to armwresting but it depends on his reaction. Just don’t make a big deal out of it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/25 08:59 PM
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Yes. Unless OP is on steroids or a trained arm-wrestler, her guy is very likely to win.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/25 08:53 PM
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How so?
/r/RPChristians15/08/25 09:08 PM
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The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle.
/r/RPChristians13/08/25 04:06 AM
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If you don’t have time to indicate your interest, give him your phone number. Then it’s still up to him to do the pursuing.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/25 06:19 PM
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Agreed. The things I don’t like about being in a relationship are magnified when I’m at my in-laws. One of the main reasons, if not the primary reason, men agree to being in a relationship is for the sex. My wife is anxious about having sex at her parents house. Inadequate frequency of sex prevents me from wanting to spend more than a couple days at my in-laws. I also don’t like not being able to get away whenever I want when we don’t have a car with us.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/25 08:26 PM
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Is the anger phase a part of TRP path? I think of the anger phase coming before the discovery of TRP, when one is frustrated due to their ignorance of the truth. I personally was elated not angry when I found the TRP. I also never see people post on RP subs about being angry about what they learn. Saying RPers are angry or have an angry phase feeds into TRP detractors’ claims that TRP is toxic.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/25 11:47 PM
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Nothing wrong with people being new to RP. I’m glad you’re figuring things out. I just don’t agree with the way you phrased several of the things you wrote.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/25 11:42 PM
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Congratulations on understanding a basic concept of RP. People who say RP is just toxic, angry, bitter men have never spent a moment considering RP or RP communities. People who say that have allowed themselves to be influenced by feminists and betas. Blaming women for your problems is antithetical to RP concepts. People who make comments on “RP” videos on YouTube are not redpillers. Go to a RP community, like this sub, and you will not see people talking about being angry at women.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/25 02:29 PM
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The man in question doesn’t want to change, that doesn’t mean he believes the way he is is “good and right.” It’s likely causing him to have no self-respect, which is often what drives men to RP. He is making bad choices because he is lazy and weak. How is that related to ego?
/r/RPChristians30/07/25 09:22 PM
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I gave 2 reasons. He wants sex and he doesn’t want to grow up.
/r/RPChristians30/07/25 07:14 PM
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It mostly comes down to sexual strategy. He thinks being deferential to her and putting up with her crap is the route that is most likely lead to sex. Most men are taught that (at least in the US). Not wanting to grow up and take responsibility may also be a contributing factor. Maybe his wife takes care of him and he knows standing up to her will necessitate taking more responsibility and leadership.
/r/RPChristians30/07/25 03:03 PM
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Doesn’t sound like ego, sounds like he is trying to avoid conflict with his wife. He’s taking the easy way out by not changing anything. Also, I think ego is good to some extent. It must be related to confidence. Arrogance is what gets you in trouble.
/r/RPChristians29/07/25 05:12 AM
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It’s a typical feminist response to differences in male sexual strategy or inclination. The age gap issue is the perfect example. Women often take the stance that a man dating a younger woman is immoral, gross, etc. It isn’t. They dislike because it goes against their own self interest. It’s fine to dislike it but don’t try to pretend it’s untrue or immoral. It’s just the way it is. When women say “it’s fine for him to seek more partners as long as he doesn’t have a problem with you doing the sa…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/25 08:12 PM
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Why is that relevant?
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/25 05:05 AM
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OP didn’t mention cheating.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/25 05:04 AM
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The old “men and women need to have the same standards whenever a difference in standards results in something I dont like.” Men have a stronger desire for variety and also can have sexual relations without any emotional attachment. Men are naturally less inclined to monogamy (I’m not arguing that’s good, I personally believe in monogamy). You can’t ever escape this mindset (of the commenter you’re responding too), even here where feminism is at its weakest (at least in the internet realm).
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/25 05:03 AM
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Churches don’t teach men how to be men. Probably a big reason why so few men go. Everyone here is here to learn. God made us to continue to change. We’re not fulfilled if we’re not changing imo. Good luck to you as well.
/r/RPChristians24/07/25 09:06 PM
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Maybe biblical love is enough in itself but men aren’t finding the right path based on the way love is taught in churches. That is why men are turning to RP.
/r/RPChristians24/07/25 05:36 PM
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I mentioned (biblical) love. It is essential as a Christian. My point was that the church typically only teaches biblical love which results in men not knowing how to have masculine frame or be able to illicit feelings of romance in their wife. Those things are actually very important when it comes to earning respect from your wife. The way we are taught by the church to love our wives does not earn respect from wives.
/r/RPChristians24/07/25 05:30 PM
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Game is not biblical love. Both are important. Without frame and game your wife will not respect you. If she doesn’t respect you she will not be attracted to you. If she doesn’t respect you and is not attracted to you then she will not want to follow you and you will have little influence over her eternity. The majority of issues in Christian marriages comes down to a lack of respect and attraction from wives to their husbands. Why is that? Because the church only teaches biblical love. It doesn…
/r/RPChristians22/07/25 05:44 AM
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You haven’t explained how game = biblical love. You also have explained how RP is at odds with Christianity.
/r/RPChristians22/07/25 02:00 AM
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Well said and I like what you wrote about sanctification. I think of RP as being about becoming a man and finding one’s purpose and that’s the same underlying path at Christianity just with different context. RP is helping me become a better man and a better Christian. I do think of it as part of my ongoing sanctification.
/r/RPChristians21/07/25 08:50 PM
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Game is basically “how to be attractive”. You’re referencing bible verses that are about biblical love. Loving your wife in the biblical sense is what the church and society has been teaching for decades. It’s helped millions of men turn their wife off because theyre taught that all is needed. It’s not. Men have to be taught how to be attractive. That’s largely what RP is about. Game is “manipulative.” Covert contracts are also “manipulative.” If you buy your wife flowers there is a 99.9% chance…
/r/RPChristians21/07/25 08:39 PM
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100%. There are plenty of men who are influenced by RP and still want a traditional relationship. RP is much better for society than BP and it’s unfortunate to see people here lambasting RP men in the same way BPers do. I think playing the field is (or should be) part of the maturation process for men. It’s understandable if you’re not interested in them at that phase (there is a reason women are attracted to older men) but consider that it may be an important phase and that the movement shouldn…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/25 04:17 PM
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That makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 09:55 PM
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What I’m wondering is whether asking a man to commit when he doesn’t know whether he will receive those privileges is a successful strategy. I understand you’re trying to protect yourself and I’m not arguing that you shouldn’t but the man needs to protect himself too so he may decide marriage is too big a sacrifice for what he is getting. Like Wife_and_Mama wrote, it is a balance. Each individual has to decide for themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 07:33 PM
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I’m not trying to be contradictory and I’m not disagreeing. I am trying to understand. I have daughters to raise and that’s what I was considering when I asked. Thanks for the response. I’ll have to think about it some more.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 07:29 PM
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Is there a post somewhere that explains why a woman shouldn’t give “husband privileges” to a non-husband? I don’t understand the logic. Are you suggesting that in OPs case, giving those privileges drove her fiancé away? Or is the problem that she over invested and is suffering greater consequences because of it? It seems to me that 1) providing those privileges would make securing the man more likely and 2) if the man takes advantage of a women providing those privileges it is better to find tha…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 04:58 PM
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I’ll add that- imo youre correct to state that feminism is about women having the right to do what makes them happy. RP is not about that because it comes from the understanding that what makes us feel happy is often bad for us and counterproductive to our goals. That is true for men and women. Feminism is very short sighted. RP is all about what needs to be done now but to benefit the long term outlook.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/25 12:55 AM
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Society also pressures men to accept women doing things they often shouldn’t be doing like being alone with other men while they’re in a committed relationship (it’s my personal opinion at least that that isn’t a good practice). Men can feel guilty setting an expectation not to do those things. They go along with it but then, too late, realize it wasn’t the right decision for them.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/25 12:26 AM
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No need to play games (lying). If they ask about marriage or kids tell them you’re not interested. They will- Say ok and leave you be. Be fine with that and keep seeing you for fun. See you as a challenge and keep seeing you because they want to change your mind. All 3 are good outcomes, right? In the case of #3 they may be getting their hopes up but that’s on them. You told them the truth, you can’t try to control the outcome for them. TRP begins with being honest with yourself and leads to be …
/r/TheRedPill01/07/25 03:58 AM
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F&F is a bit extreme. Maybe try PsycHacks.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/25 11:54 PM
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Either everything you wrote is true and you’re an idiot for staying with your girl or not everything is true and you’re an idiot for letting yourself believe you should be good enough as you are.
/r/askMRP23/06/25 11:48 PM
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I should clarify. What you and Jack Napier are referring to as “RP Women” are not what the women at r/ redpillwomen are like at all. I probably agree with Jack that women who advocate for RP men don’t exist. The users at /redpillwomen typically warn against getting involved with RP men. The author of the linked article is saying that RP women exist but that they’re different from RP men. RP basically means “believing reality and acting on it”. The reality and goals of sexual relationships for me…
/r/TheRedPill11/06/25 07:24 PM
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“Red Pill Women” doesn’t refer to women that support red pill men, or men in general. Are you sure you read the article?
/r/TheRedPill11/06/25 07:02 PM
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You’re stuck in the feminist mindset that women should do and have all the things men do. This is a subreddit for women who don’t think that way. There are plenty of other ones where the users do think like that. Go to pretty much any other female subreddit and all the women in them are in their angry phase. They’re allowed to have that phase but it won’t get them any attention from high value men. Those men avoid that type of woman like the plague. The key difference between RP and other philos…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/25 03:17 AM
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I wasnt assuming anything about you or trying to come off as accusatory. I was just trying to prompt thought and discussion on the matter. As far as those romance stories go, I tend to believe they reveal some truths. I do believe that women want to “win over” a high value man that isn’t 100% into them on day one. That is exactly what hypergamy is.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/25 02:32 AM
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TRP is like a mental reset for men. It’s gets them out of the beta mindset that society (feminism?) has pushed on them. It’s more about “becoming a man” than it is about just getting women. Of course plenty of men get into TRP in order to sleep with women but is that a bad thing? What happens to men that are very successful with women? Do they become worse or better men (distinctly different than becoming worse or better partners for women). Are women more attracted to men looking for a committe…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/25 02:00 AM
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What’s does men’s past counting or not have anything to do with the topic? That’s a blue pill talking point.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/25 02:47 PM
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Of course you can overcome it but you won’t overcome it by coming up with excuses as to why it doesn’t “count”. You’re talking about how a woman’s sexual past affects herself. The question is how should the sexual past be communicated to the SO.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/25 06:20 PM
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Go ahead, try to change the biology/psychology of men. Good luck. You have no idea what this sub is about, do you? And those universities are obviously redditors.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/25 01:16 AM
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Let me guess, you’re blue pilled and commenting on a red pill sub.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/25 01:14 AM
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My implication is the opposite of what you assumed. If we make a bad decision we’re responsible for it. If we get drunk and make a bad decision we’re responsible for it. Plenty of us do things when we’re drunk that we wouldn’t do when we aren’t. Being drunk doesn’t release us from responsibility. Yes, some women are raped when they’re drunk. What’s way more common is women having sex with someone when they’re drunk that they otherwise wouldn’t have, regretting it and then coming up with an excus…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/25 12:17 AM
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It’s only a gray area for people on Reddit.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/25 10:30 PM
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None of us know what the future holds for our relationships. Every relationship has risks. Keep reading RPW sources to learn what it means to be a high value woman (and conform to that) so you have a better chance of retaining the man you want. I’m not sure you can do anymore than that.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/25 09:23 PM
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And you might be right. It’s not a position I would seriously defend.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/25 08:48 PM
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It’s a good point. I think men got the worse end of the deal. Most of us are raised to be an emasculated shell of a man.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/25 07:55 PM
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Just because Hemsworth is married that doesnt mean he is monogamous.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/25 05:44 PM
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It can be in a man’s self interest for several reasons. In average married men have more sex than unmarried men, having a stable environment for a family, and having a woman around to take care of them and their home. Most men don’t have high enough value to maintain multiple long term relationships and plenty of men don’t want to just date for the the rest of their lives. Sounds like you’re referring to men becoming emotionally attached, not emotionally dependent. Sure, becoming emotionally att…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/25 05:43 PM
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You are right but what gets men laid works whether the man wants that with one woman or many women. In my opinion TRP theory makes for healthy relationships, you as women just have to make sure you’re finding a man that is looking for monogamy. There is always risk though. A man who is following TRP is improving his value and once he improves it may decide he has more options and wants to exercise them.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/25 04:46 PM
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Many men are emotionally dependent on their woman but it’s a very beta trait and it is not a good thing. Emotional dependency is no necessary for commitment. Well adjusted men are rational and will commit to a single woman when it’s in their own best interest.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/25 04:34 PM
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A man isnt responsible for making his wife feel confident in the relationship. The opposite is true. We gain confidence through the knowledge that we have done our best. Through trying our best we learn the truth of our relationship and then we can determine whether it’s good or bad. Then we can choose to maintain it, change it or leave it. This applies to men and women. If a woman is feeling dread she is wondering if she is doing enough. We all have those feelings and those feelings push us to …
/r/askMRP24/04/25 06:30 PM
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It seems like he is asking about enforcing boundaries. How does one deal with a boundary being crossed when it’s not serious. I’m not sure there is a good general answer. For the example given, “no girls nights out”, one would have to decide for themselves how important it is. It would also be dependent on the specific circumstances. Did she text you to let you know that she was going to dinner with a friend or did she go clubbing without letting you know and stayed out until 3am?
/r/askMRP15/04/25 05:13 PM
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Women are attracted to men who DGAF. Men who have high income/status tend to not GAF. It’s the not GAF that matters but the outsiders see the income/status.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/25 12:35 AM
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Sure. I’m not trying to make an excuse for someone to not take care of themselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/25 01:23 AM
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Very interesting. Can’t the intrinsic motivation be attraction in general, not only physical attraction?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/25 11:46 PM
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Under traditional gender roles, with typical gender issues, men and women have different responsibilities and deal with different issues. If you take an objective look, perhaps you would conclude that men deal with more difficult things but men are designed to take on those challenges and women are designed for their own challenges. Just because men’s challenges may be objectively more difficult doesn’t mean their burden is heavier. The most difficult challenges women face may stress them just a…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/25 12:05 AM
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Their belief system is to respect women to get sex. It’s the same thing. That’s fine if women want to abstain from sex, for whatever reason, but the timing shows it’s all about drama, not to advocate for a real cause.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 05:41 PM
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Do you realize that Trump is pro-choice, has said that he won’t support a nationwide abortion ban, and that the Supreme Court already implied that a nationwide ban would be unconstitutional? States that are putting restrictions on abortion were already doing it regardless of whether trump got elected. The lack of consideration of the facts and the timing of it shows it is just a dramatic over-reaction to Trump being elected. Also, the movement has no teeth, as has been pointed out by others in t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 03:34 PM
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All men prioritize fertility initially. RPW is largely about retaining a relationship (aka a man’s commitment) when fertility wanes. I think we’re getting off topic a bit. My point isn’t that maturity doesn’t matter. My point is that generally it matters very little initially. A man isn’t going to be turned off because a woman is young. He may date her and eventually realize she is too immature and end the relationship. Are you against men being attracted to young women?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 04:04 PM
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Yes, I don’t disagree with the generalization. I was pointing out their hypocrisy in talking down to me for generalizing men and then turning around and generalizing women (or people in general). The point is that masculine men who want a feminine woman aren’t going to be very concerned with maturity. The maturity concept is just a way older women have come up with to cope with their loss of physical attractiveness and to shame men for being attracted to young women.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 04:27 AM
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Men are attracted to fertility. Maturity is pretty low on the list of priorities.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 04:23 AM
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No problem. Also I agree that giving him your number is a good idea. You’re only around him when you’re at work so you don’t have a lot of time to make your interest clear. You may need to be a little more forthright than usual.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 12:25 AM
1

Yes, the fabled “maturity gap”. Every man is an individual but every man is a man and men have many things in common. Sure, maybe there are a couple men out there that actually care about a maturity gap but that number is way less than the number of men attest to caring about it. Maybe you have one of the few sincere ones. Edit: also, every woman is an individual so why are you generalizing all women under 25 as being immature?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 12:22 AM
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Men are bullied into believing that dating a young woman is bad but it’s not an inherent attitude. Don’t make him feel weird about the age gap and he will be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/24 03:25 PM
7

Your pressuring yourself to make a decision with your self-imposed deadline. What about reconsidering your deadline? Your gf is young and you still have a longtime until you reach your “mid 30s” criteria. If you find another woman and have kids with her she could end up witch stretch marks.
/r/askMRP12/02/24 08:07 PM
1

I asked you all if she is shit testing and I asked for advice moving forward, while acknowledging that I screwed up. I know I made a mistake and I think I made that clear in the OP. You all telling me I made a mistake over and over again isnt actually helping me move forward. You guys aren’t very helpful are you?
/r/askMRP18/12/23 04:51 AM
1

I understand and am already doing that. Any advice on my actual current situation?
/r/askMRP18/12/23 04:48 AM
1

How do you suggest I stop acting like an idiot who wants to break up? Should I initiate communication 3 times a day? Or do I just stick with the 2/3 rule and wait patiently for things to correct? Or do I tell her i fucked up? I know I screwed up. No one is giving me advice on how to move forward and that is what I’m asking for.
/r/askMRP18/12/23 04:47 AM
1

I understand that and that is what my question is based on. Am I being that unclear? I think you’re misunderstanding me more than I’m misunderstanding my approach. I withdrew too much (beyond the 2/3 rule). What is the best approach to fix it? Did my OP not communicate that clearly? Responders are pointing out issues that I didn’t address. Some are pointing out the issue I did address. No one seems to be advising me how to correct, specific to my circumstances.
/r/askMRP18/12/23 02:47 AM
1

I understand what you’re saying but isn’t there a balance? Should I not communicate with her for her sake even if I have nothing I want to say? She’s not just a girlfriend. She’s the mother of my 4 children and she needs me. I am still tempted to seek validation and that is part of my drive but I’m also concerned with her fulfillment. Is that wrong? As her leader I should consider her level of fulfillment shouldnt I? I shouldn’t just be conserved with my own fulfillment, right? I’m responsible f…
/r/askMRP18/12/23 02:42 AM
1

I see what you’re saying. My family is a high priority and I’m not committing to things I’m interested in either away or at home because I feel I’m not at either location consistently enough to make it worthwhile financially. I do spend quite a bit of time with acquaintances when I’m traveling. Thanks for your feedback.
/r/askMRP18/12/23 02:37 AM
1

I’m not acting confused. I identified what I believe the issue is and I’m asking for advice on how to fix it.
/r/askMRP17/12/23 05:29 PM
0

No, that was not the intent. I was trying to communicate through my post that I think I screwed up and I would like some advice on how to correct.
/r/askMRP17/12/23 05:26 PM
0

As I wrote, I just found this sub yesterday. I had been cobbling together my own mrp philosophy. That’s why I put it in quotes. I agree with your last sentence and that’s kind of what my post is about. I’m asking how I should correct things after failing to validate the right things.
/r/askMRP17/12/23 05:25 PM
1

I don’t disagree but isn’t there an aspect of “fake it till you make it”? I am trying not to care but I don’t have all the right answers. I believed I was initiating communication too much in order to seek validation. I cut back, was that incorrect? Me evaluating her response doesn’t necessarily mean I’m doing it for a specific response. And in the end we are doing this largely to create a different response in women we interact with. I don’t want to push my wife away because we have a pretty go…
/r/askMRP17/12/23 05:22 PM
0

Do you have a suggestion on what to do? I guess I personally feel that she is trying to copy me, which makes me thing it’s a shit test. But I am concerned that I’m wrong and that’s why I’m seeking counsel. I think that me beginning to initiate contact more is not a good idea. I’d be entering her frame, right?
/r/askMRP17/12/23 12:15 AM
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Thank you. It’s a good point. My wife has some awareness that I’m not very busy when I’m away and not at work. I have considered before that this is a problem. I try to keep the conversations playful but I’m not good at doing that for long. I’m ok with more communications but I’m trying not to be the initiator too often and I’m concerned about her pulling back on initiating also. Earlier on I was trying to keep conversations shorter and be the one to end them. Now she is trying to be the one to …
/r/askMRP17/12/23 12:13 AM
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I received a little feedback. I think the person was trying to communicate that I’m a bitch and the fact that I posted this means I care too much. I take that to mean “ride it out.”
/r/askMRP16/12/23 10:39 PM
2

I’m curious about the nicer underwater tip. Did that make a difference for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/23 09:49 PM
2

IMO it is the reasons you gave in the paragraph after the numbered list of questions. She is trying to figure out how to cope with the change. I’m not sure if confronting her will be productive. I’m still torn. There’s also the dynamic of her putting my kids at risk by inviting a man we barely know into the house without anyone else around. I’m thinking I might just say “I saw, it’s unacceptable, don’t do it again or there will be consequences”. Leave it at that. I’ll think more on what you wrot…
/r/TheRedPill13/09/23 11:59 AM
1

I never claimed that I didn’t have an emotional reaction.
/r/TheRedPill13/09/23 03:43 AM
1

Thank you for the response. I tried to be clear without being too lengthy but OP always has some preconceived notions that the commenters don't get (OPs fault of course). ​ So no, it isn't a boundary that I remember clearly defining. We are both christian and were raised as such. It is common practice in our communities that you don't be alone with someone of the opposite sex. The point is that she did it because she wanted to upset me. I am not sure its that big of a deal beyond the motive. My …
/r/TheRedPill13/09/23 12:45 AM
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