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How often are you shelling out these favors for the men in your life who have rejected or dumped you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 06:38 AM
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Classic nice-guy fallacy where people think doing more favors for a woman will get her to like you more. Men with options never feel the need to do this. They let women try to impress them, not the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 06:59 PM
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Or that they divorce in hopes of finding someone more "financially stable" and fail in doing so
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/24 08:00 PM
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Don't really think playing the field for an extended period of time is ideal for anyone, but this is especially true for women. There's simply more risk. Imagine having uncommitted sex with multiple dudes and then you get pregnant. You don't even know who it was, let alone whether or not he'll stick around.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/24 02:14 AM
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All the more reason to let your intentions be known from the beginning. Saves both parties a lot of time. If you feel the need to befriend women for months just for them to begin to like you, you probably don't think very highly of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 10:36 PM
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If a woman only wants to be with you on the condition that you entertain her in some way, she's not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 01:48 AM
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High income men are getting snatched pretty quickly by women. Married men significantly outearn married women. Those who remain interestingly enough are higher income women and lower income men, generally speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 08:35 PM
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Not so easy when divorce means potentially losing half your shit and custody of your children.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 06:19 AM
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Intimacy includes all of the above, including sex. It's not just about what one person values in the relationship. Your partner may value intimacy in different ways than you do. I'd feel the same way if a man neglected intimacy with his wife for years due to hardships in his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 04:29 PM
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Agreed. I think another scenario is that the woman was attracted to the man in the beginning, but maybe he got a little too comfortable and stopped taking care of himself. Of course both men and women do this. I do wonder how many dead bedroom relationships are due to one or both parties letting themselves go.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 03:39 PM
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Sure, but at what point does it go from your described scenario to "I'm withholding intimacy from my husband"? Where is the line?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 03:21 PM
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Pregnancy and serious health issues aside, if you are withholding intimacy from your partner then you're being a bad partner. Goes for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 02:54 PM
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Men seem to do an ok job considering how much better people tend to do in life when they grow up with a father in the home.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 02:38 PM
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Why do so many women act like intimacy with their husband is a chore? Shouldn't it be a fun/relaxing way to alleviate the stressors in life?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 02:33 PM
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Oneitis
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:25 PM
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Perfectly explains my experiences and thoughts on dating women as well. You are not alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:00 AM
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Its simple, past actions are the best indicator of future behavior. Can people change? Sure Do they? Oftentimes not
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 07:55 PM
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Not chasing is literally the best way to stand out with attractive women. It signals that you have options, are not swayed by her beauty, and are on your own path. All extremely attractive qualities in men that are actually pretty rare. Of course, as a man you need to initiate the interaction, but leaving enough space for her to pursue you a little will make a world of a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 05:36 PM
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He can pull some of the hottest women but needs good game and confidence to do so. The difference is that Chads often experience women literally falling into their laps. Above average men don't experience this. They need to put in more work beforehand.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 09:43 PM
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The answer's somewhere in the middle. Women want a man who's screening her just as much as she's screening him. It signals he has options and isn't won over easily, but is still attainable. Every man who's ever dated knows acting over eager is a huge turn off for women. But at the same time you don't want to leave her feeling rejected either. Play it cool, take it slow, and don't be afraid to let her do some of the pursuing as well. When she invests in you, reward her with more of your time and …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:27 PM
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For sex. Men with options screen out a girl with a bad personality from his commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:09 PM
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The same is true for a lot of women on dating apps. Back in the day you used to have like 4 channels on TV. You'd find something to watch and stick with it. Nowadays you have a fuck ton of shows to watch but are forever flipping through them instead of just picking something. Women are like this with men on dating apps. If she isn't immediately blown away by you, on to the next. You hear stories of women going on dozens of first dates only to drop the dude for "no spark". That's overstumulation …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 06:46 PM
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There is a difference between being introverted and being shy. Most women LOVE a man who projects quiet confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 02:10 AM
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If you want to be more valued by other people, then bring more value to their lives. It's simple. Don't expect to be valued just for existing
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 03:07 AM
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It's 100% this. Men who are more of a challenge provide the thrill of the chase and will more likely give women a rollercoaster of emotions. Attractive women get offers for sex constantly shoved in their faces so the man who is more of a mystery will immediately stand out. It's a big reason why most male dating coaches advocate for men being more of a challenge when dating. BTW, this works on both men and women. People in general value things that are more difficult to obtain, it's normal psycho…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 09:08 PM
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You can immediately stand out if you make a confident approach. Girls know deep down how much courage it takes to put yourself out there and face rejection in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 02:19 AM
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Oh right. Well if it's been the 2nd date or later and she rejects your kiss it's most likely a sign she's not into you. But most girls aren't going to slobber your mouth off before you've even had sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:23 PM
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Some women have rules where they don't kiss the guy on the first date. They could be totally into him but reject his kiss because they feel its too early.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:50 PM
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Girls like to chase and you provided none of that experience for them. They knew from the start that they had you and got bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:43 PM
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Isn't that the whole point? To meet new women and gauge their interest towards you? There's no point in trying to convince a woman who doesn't like you to like you. If she isn't reciprocating, just quickly make your exit and find someone who's interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 12:16 PM
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r/marriedredpill
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 10:37 PM
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"Can give her everything" So, she's the one being manipulated because she wants his money and possessions? Lol You can easily spin it around and say he's the one being manipulated since she could be using sex as a bargaining chip to buy her things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 03:24 AM
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The very fact that you are comfortable implies competence, that you've been there before and don't need to sweat anything. There are also men out there who are extremely skilled and confident in certain areas of their life only to suck with women. People have different confidence levels for different things. My best advice would be to fake it till you make it. Act like you're the prize, even if you don't believe it internally quite yet, and women will believe it. That positive reinforcement will…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 05:01 AM
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Confidence isn't walking into a room and thinking you're better than everyone. Confidence is walking into a room and not comparing yourself to anyone at all. Really it's just showing a calm, laid back demeaner in what some people might see as a nerve wracking situation (a first date for instance). Pair this with asserting your boundaries and you're golden.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 04:00 AM
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Agree and disagree. Yes, attraction is correlated with anxiety and uncertainty. But that can be built over time, which is why women explain that they have to get to know a guy first. A girl can see a guy as a 6, but after spending time around him and seeing his confident behavior she can see him as a 9. Lots of male dating coaches preach how women are most attracted to men who's feelings are unclear. That alone can stoke anxiety. Girls can go from somewhat interested to blowing up your phone ove…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 10:21 PM
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If you want the scientific term, it's called the Coolidge effect. It's been studied and observed for males all across the animal kingdom.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 05:00 AM
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Why can't it be both?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 05:07 PM
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The point I was making is that all these examples are recommended because they increase your dating options. A man who's fit is going to have more dating options than a man who's not. Same goes for redpill. Will you know the attraction triggers for 100% of woman all of the time? Of course not, but you'll have a much better time than you did before.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:31 AM
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Few things: Confidence, strength, and self respect are more important values to a woman's attraction than niceness. Some people see niceness as being a pushover which runs in direct contradiction to 1. Men who are overly nice right off the bat can be seen as untrustworthy. Oftentimes the woman subconsciously thinks to herself "why is he so nice when he doesn't even know me yet?" and puts her guard up. On the contrary, men who aren't nice (but aren't assholes either) actually come off as more gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:25 AM
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Why do we tell people to get in better shape when there are women out there who will date fat men? Why do we tell men to improve their finances when there are plenty of women who don't mind broke men? Why do we tell men to be more confident when there are women who are fine with insecure men? These also seem like black and white ways of looking at things, yet nobody contends with this advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 04:38 AM
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They hate being the only soft and vulnerable one in the relationship. It makes them insecure. So they try to encourage the man to be soft to ease their insecurity. When he finally opens up, her insecurity is resolved, but she realizes she's lost all attraction for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 06:44 AM
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Do you really think men would still be approaching if it never worked? What is this logic? Cold approaching never working on you doesn't mean it's never worked. Of course it's worked before. And what is this huge inconvenience that men have caused you by cold approaching? It literally takes 2 seconds out of your day to tell someone you're not interested. Meanwhile this dude has built up the courage to put himself out there to a complete stranger. The lack of empathy is astounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 07:10 AM
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Girls with lower bodycount have a better track record of keeping their man sexually satisfied for YEARS. Girl with 50+ hookups have probably been hit and quit dozens of times. If the sex is so good with these high N count women, why aren't these men sticking around?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:41 PM
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You lost frame, simple as that. At some point she realized that you liked her more than she liked you, and lost interest. Frame is EVERYTHING with women. Act like you're the prize and she has to work to win you over. Be more aloof, stop giving a fuck and stop putting so much effort into these dates. She'll assume when you're not even trying that hard, and don't care, that it's because you're probably getting pussy elsewhere. Instantly satiates her hypergamy and signals preselection. Less is more…
/r/TheRedPill11/05/23 05:25 AM
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No point in telling a girl you had fun after a date. You want a girl wondering whether or not you even enjoyed yourself. Girls are most attracted to guys who's feelings are unclear. This is why TRP advocates for men being aloof on dates. Aloof men are hard as fuck to read.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/23 04:28 AM
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Same with when women prefer a man who makes more money, is stronger, is more confident, etc. It leads to a feeling of security and safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 05:59 PM
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"Game" really only comes down to two things. Projecting confidence Suppressing needy behaviors Guys write out this list of things they need to do to impress a women on a date when really all you need is a bit of an IDGAF attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 08:24 AM
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A girl using sex as a bargaining chip to gain commitment is also manipulative. Just because a girl lets him have sex with her doesn't mean she's entitled to his commitment. People are allowed to change their mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:03 PM
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While I don't doubt this is true. Another situation is that the man was considering her for a long-term partner and lost interest. Men can get icks too especially when considering commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:01 PM
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Men and women experience struggles in different ways. Not sure if one is necessarily harder than the other. I will say that men seem to have more of a "high risk high reward" situation. Top men live better lives than women, but bottom tier men have it worse than women. Women tend to be more near the average.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 06:06 PM
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Too much comparison can be unhealthy but at the same time I think it's important for both men and women to recognize signs that they are being settled for. A partner doing more to make their ex happy, then doing less to make you happy, is a good sign you're being settled for. It gives people the ability to find partners who have genuine burning desires for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 12:36 AM
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He took his ex to Paris after only a few months of dating her when all you've been getting are cheap dinner dates for the last year.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:58 PM
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I don't think they hide it, but they're unaware of it. Oftentimes they confuse it with a "spark" or "connection". They don't know what it is exactly about a man's behavior that makes him attractive, just that they're attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 06:05 AM
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TRP agrees with most of those points, but frames them differently. Looks + personality is just looks + game for red pill. Redpill is huge on self improvement in all areas. Not just with women. Warm approaches are the best 100%. Problem is most men don't get signs of interest, or confuse them with just being friendly. There's definitely luck involved in dating. Sometimes it just comes down to "right place right time". A girl could like you but not be in a place in her life to start dating someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 07:42 AM
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Is it not obvious? Older guys generally are more confident, more mature, more ambitious, have more money, more life experience, and more experience in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 08:10 PM
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Some women don't mind if a guy strikes up a conversation with them in a coffee shop or on the street. Women are not monoliths. If a girl is single and finds you attractive it literally won't matter where or how you met her.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 06:42 PM
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The common RP advice is to have fun with them but never take them seriously. Men are a lot more picky about who they commit to
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 06:57 AM
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You're happy providing for a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 07:49 PM
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The obsession has more to do with variable payout, uncertainty. If you knew the man was going to always text you back instantly you wouldn't be obsessed nearly as much. As humans we tend to fixate on the things we are uncertain on and can't control. It's normal psychology.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 10:22 PM
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Yes but theres a period of time where you date, then marry, THEN have children. At this point she's likely 35+ by the time they start trying. Throw in the possibility of multiple children and she could be pregnant at 40. Not ideal
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:27 AM
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It's just kind of off-putting for guys. In a similar way to how girls find needy men off-putting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 07:05 AM
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Unlikely considering this seems to be a very common attraction killer for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 04:03 AM
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People here seem to think that game is exclusively for the beginning of the interaction. To me game has always been exhibiting behaviors that keep a girl around. It is still extremely important and limits the amount of times a girl will lose interest. Of course physical attraction is most important on the front end, but using game correctly you can really raise a girls interest from "yeah he's OK I guess" to being all over you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 08:27 PM
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Yup. Seems like a lot of people in this thread don't fully understand confidence. If done right, it doesn't come off creepy at all no matter what your attractiveness is. If anything it takes all pressure off the girl since it's the ultimate form of non neediness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 07:02 PM
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I agree with you in that you should fill that time working on your passions, career, hobbies etc instead of just sitting on your Xbox thinking "okay gotta reply in 3 hours now". In terms of the "this only works on insecure women" ehhhhh maybe I've only dated insecure women in my life. Wouldn't more confident women not care if you haven't reached out to them in a while, knowing that their passions and goals keep them busy as well? And that you are just a phone call away if they need you? Just a t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 08:27 PM
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Alright fair enough. I agree with you, there is some nuance here. There is a certain aspect where if you go too far into redpill you'll get a "women are evil" vibe which I don't agree with. At the same time the bluepill advice of "treat her like a princess and she will love you" certainly doesn't work. The truth usually lies somewhere in the middle, I just personally believe it's closer to the RP side than BP.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 08:15 PM
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The best evidence I have is my own experience. Throughout maybe a dozen different women I've dated in my lifetime, I've had much more success using redpill concepts compared to blue pill. Whenever I'm nice/romantic, go out of my way to do something for the girl. Text her almost everyday (behaviors women say they like) they always inevitably pull back and lose interest. Whereas when I'm oftentimes unavailable, put my ambition over her, am indifferent to her, they stick around and oftentimes chase…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 07:28 PM
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I've noticed this of reddit in general. They will always downvote harsh truths in favor of feelgood answers. Oftentimes, these harsh truths are necessary
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 06:59 PM
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At the end of the day you need to take a risk. You'll never 100% know someone else's feelings without asking them. Men are not mind readers. However much women feel uncomfortable for being asked out, men feel 10x more negative emotion by being rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 11:44 PM
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It doesn't have to be other women, you can have an abundant social life, an engaging career, fun hobbies that take up your life. The abundance can come from other places. It's the ability to walk away if a girl is being difficult, or if she isnt 100% of what you want. Think to yourself "ehh I'd rather do X than deal with these games or drama." That's how I've always viewed abundance mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 04:18 AM
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So women are generally more happy building a career than building a family?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:41 AM
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So, women are holding out for a lifestyle/status upgrade. Kind of depressing to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:38 AM
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There is heavy value to being disagreeable. Disagreeable people are not walked over, earn significantly more, etc. But yeah thats makes sense. There needs to be both, which is why i think when one person is more agreeable while one person is less agreeable the relationship works best. Usually it is the woman who is more agreeable but not 100% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 04:30 PM
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Why do you think women tend to prefer men who earn more than them? Burglars, robbers, creepy men, you name it. Most women expect their man to protect them from these dangers. These are biological attraction triggers that women have developed through evolution. They don't just fade away within the one hundred years since they invented air conditioned office buildings.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 03:41 PM
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Outside dangers. Whether it be physical or financial Its why women have been more attracted to tall, muscular, men with more resources throughout all of human history
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 02:20 PM
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Yet only 40% of men throughout all of human history have ever reproduced . Odd how those numbers line up. Disagreeable men and women both earn significantly higher salaries than their agreeable counterparts. Successful men are more likely to be happily married while successful women are less likely. Why do you think that is? Why do you think nice guy behavior turns off so many women? Submissive men with submissive women don't work. There needs to be a yin and yang. A balance between submission a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 02:12 PM
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Yes an agreeable man works with an disagreeable woman. It's called masculine women with feminine men, lot of people call it being pussywhipped. It exists, but is not the norm. According to basic psychology, women generally are more agreeable than men. Do you think a submissive agreeable man is more or less capable at protecting his family than a dominant one?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:56 PM
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I have no clue what the relationship dynamic is between your parents but I will say that in the vast majority of relationships: - The man approaches the woman, initiates the interaction, and is the first to reveal romantic interest, the woman reciprocates if she's interested. - The man asks the woman on dates, plans them, and courts her through these dates (for the most part), the woman agrees to these dates. - The man is the first to escalate physically in the bedroom in the beginning stages, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 03:26 AM
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Because in a healthy relationship dynamic men lead the relationship and women follow. If a man disagrees, he is going his own way. She can choose to follow him or not, totally up to her. If a woman disagrees while he is leading, she is 2nd guessing his decisions, which can be an annoyance to the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 02:56 AM
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Yup. It's why most women date up. They want someone they can look up to
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 02:38 AM
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Masculine energy is not being confrontational. It's more of a "I'll take your viewpoint into consideration, but I make the final decision, and if you don't want to follow it you can find someone else who is more compatible". Generally speaking the more attracted a woman is to a man, the more submissive she is. Say your partner is extremely physically attractive, intelligent, affluent, capable, independent etc. Suddenly you'll start to take his word on things he says and become a lot more agreeab…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 02:19 AM
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Men don't want headaches. Disagreeable women = headaches. Let me be the first to tell you that the last thing a man wants in a relationship is drama. He doesn't want to come home from work to a bitchy wife who is on him over everything. For women it's different. They actually like when a man stands up to them every once in a while because it proves that he'll be able to stand up for her when the time comes. Women want a man who can protect them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 02:04 AM
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This implies that there are way more shitty men than shitty women. There are equally shitty people of both genders. Lot of men don't have the luxury of filtering out bad options.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:46 AM
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It's like complaining to the famine victim how hard it is to pick between different loaves of bread
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:17 AM
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It's because they gained weight. As long as you stay in shape, your face will naturally lean out as you age. Look at Tom brady over the years.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 11:57 AM
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This is not only great for dating but also a great strategy for making new friends. You'll make much more friends being interested in other people rather than being an interesting person.
/r/seduction14/10/22 04:20 AM
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Yup. I was all about LTRs until I was dating multiple women. Now it's a lot less appealing
/r/seduction29/09/22 08:35 AM
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Watched a video on a guy who got one of these texts. He replied with "oh I know, I'll never stumble upon another blonde chick named shelbie again. Very unique and rare" Thought it was perfect lol. Exaggerate her claim in a joking manner.
/r/seduction17/06/22 02:52 AM
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Watched a video on a guy who got one of these texts. He replied with "oh I know, I'll never stumble upon another blonde chick named shelbie again. Very unique and rare" Thought it was perfect lol. Exaggerate her claim in a joking manner.
/r/seduction17/06/22 02:52 AM
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Yeah there's no exact rule but somewhere around there.
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:30 AM
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If it's been more than 4-5 messages on both sides and shes showing interest, ask for her number. Then once you get the number ask her out. Keep it minimal. Some girls just message on these apps for entertainment/attention. You don't want to waste time being her pen pal if she was never going to go out with you in the first place. But yeah. All of the date ideas others have mentioned are good.
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:13 AM
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