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ConversationBo0mh3adsh0t/r/seduction09/03/20 08:07 PM
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Generally speaking extreme fitness like abs impresses other men not women. You don't need abs to be attractive its just men that have abs convince themselves its made them more attractive and its that confidence that really gets the job done.
/r/seduction06/06/26 02:33 PM
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Its just layering to add to the arousal. Its like a naked pic. If she sends a nude its hot, if she poses or touches herself its hotter. If she adds a line like "I'm so...for you right now" it elevates it even further.
/r/seduction27/05/26 09:35 AM
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I think you made an important distinction though that your both looking for casual. For casual dates the requirements for entry (pun intended) from an emotional point of view is lower so if you can't get them to sleep with you date 1 they likely never want to. This advice would be better suited for long term relationships were the physical is normally worked up to over the course of 3-5 dates. Providing the socially acceptable excuse for her to say yes without pressure is usually what seals the …
/r/seduction20/05/26 12:35 PM
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I don't think I have ever seen some use a Vampire Diaries reference for flirting with your eyes but when your right your right. He really was the master of the sexual frame using both body and verbal language.
/r/seduction01/09/24 04:27 PM
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Girls don't even know they are doing it and you don't have to be a potential boyfriend to get them sometimes. I think they just want to see if you are genuine or safe to let into their lives. Was talking to a colleague on my lunch break who implied my engineering job was boring (in a banter way more than a mean way). I just reframed the conversation and very sarcastically said "I am very sorry that you find my job boring, let me just go back to Uni to get another degree for a job that girls name…
/r/seduction23/04/24 03:46 PM
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I think pay in general is less in the UK because the big money is hoarded at the top. The only way to ever really see 6 figure salaries is to go into the business/management side of a company. Not enough to sell expensive cars you need to manage the showroom or be regional manager of 10 showrooms.
/r/seduction31/08/22 08:01 AM
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Yeah move to somewhere like Silicon Valley and all of a sudden you earn in a year what others earn in 3-5 years for the same job.
/r/seduction31/08/22 07:57 AM
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If you are sexually attracted to someone it doesn't matter if they are a 2 or a 10 it's all going to work in the bedroom. The great things in a real relationship comes when you leave the bedroom. The girl who cares for you when your sick. The one who makes you laugh. Who you can talk with you for hours without noticing. The physical 10's usually suck at this stuff because they hop from hot guy to hot guy for validation and never develop a personality. Drop a down to a 7 or an 8 and they are stil…
/r/seduction30/08/22 10:19 PM
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That's because what they don't teach you is these prestigious jobs require a degree but you know jack shit about your actual job when you start. Doctors have residences and Engineers have *Chartership. I haven't gotten chartered yet as an engineer and I still get about a 1k rise every year for the last 3 years. Once I'm chartered I get a bonus and typically another 5k salary bump or more if I start job hopping. I know a guy in his early 40's on 70k who does this. *chartership is a professional a…
/r/seduction30/08/22 10:09 PM
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Simple the amount of "Game" you need greatly diminishes after every interaction. Girls are mostly risk averse for biological reasons and the new hot guy is higher risk than the old ok guy. Women simply don't want to risk losing their known for an unknown benefit.
/r/seduction19/05/22 07:05 AM
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Before you turn 30 sure. I think for most they learn most about relationship and what they want in their 20's. Once you both start hitting your 30's everyone sort of converges onto the same stage of life and issues don't really come up again until your 50's.
/r/seduction01/04/22 06:29 PM
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In this case its healthier because you waited for sex and built a relationship. My friend didn't wait because 16 was legal but the guy always gave me the creeps. I am not completely objective because I did have a thing for her at the time that went nowhere. I just think that unless your relationship is more than physical attraction you should not be trying to sleep with people who have considerably less relationship experience as yourself.
/r/seduction31/03/22 10:52 PM
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I am not saying that older guys are always manipulative I was just building on the previous response. From my experience the older person holds more of the power, again not all the time but most. When the age gap gets too big so does the power imbalance all it takes is for that older person to be a shitty human being and now you have a toxic relationship. Think about how many people use arguments like "I have more experience in this so I know I'm right" Even in a professional environment this is…
/r/seduction31/03/22 10:34 PM
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I always think the older person should always half their age and add 7 then round up. If they are younger than that then chances are you are both in very different stages of life. Also means the age gap means less when your older but while your young and still learning a lot it matters more. Personal experience was my friend back in College. I always though it was weird when a third year university student 21M wanted to date my 16F friend. UK so 16 is legal age and she was almost 17. Still it di…
/r/seduction31/03/22 08:32 PM
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Ask her what she is after then. Casual/FWB relationship: you can meet up and try to escalate at least you can work on that aspect of your game while you find someone more serious which you will find easier because your not desperate for sex. Platonic: This gives you an in to make more female friends which you can use to make other women think you are higher value. On this kind of date make it clear that you either split the bill or pay for your own food, no freeloading. Both options could potent…
/r/seduction15/05/21 06:41 PM
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Maybe you just need to be more empathetic to how you received the number. If you ask for her number at the right point in the interaction then she should be smiling if not outright laughing with you when she gives her number. If she has a neutral expression or the smile doesn’t reach her eyes then giving your number instead of getting hers was not the deciding factor in why she flaked on you
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:19 PM
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It’s a power move but you only have the power back if she reaches out to you. If she chooses not to call you there is nothing you can do about it and meeting her again will probably not change the outcome. If you get her number the odds of attraction massively increases considering how easy it is just to give your number with a few digits changed a walk away. It is usually something that happens between interactions that may change that, try calling or face timing her during the follow up intera…
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:13 PM
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It just means you messed up somewhere between number and date. Women are looking to have fun and on a first date the odds of having fun is incredibly low when compared with doing almost anything else. It means you are competing with other men and her friends and family for her time. Your fun-ness goes up with each date but getting her on the first and seconds ones are hard.
/r/seduction28/04/21 09:05 PM
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There are two problems with giving your number instead of getting hers. First, you surrender all control or power in the interaction and now have to wait for her to message you instead of initiating on your terms. The majority of women, but not all women, actually prefer you to make the decisions so they don’t have to. Second, there is no way to know if she likes you with this approach. She might take your number just to get rid of you whereas if you get her number(assuming it is her real number…
/r/seduction28/04/21 08:56 PM
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Pretty sure the majority of people using Instagram are losing brain cells the more they use it. You have celebrities posting a new story everyday about their amazing adventures while telling their followers to stay at home. Then you have everyone else who is so invested in making themselves look interesting and fun but usually just come off as cringe.
/r/seduction27/04/21 09:54 AM
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I'm glad the title was a provocative metaphor. I thought you were smoking something. I was about to ask how many people you have genuinely seen fist bump a mirror at the gym.
/r/seduction27/04/21 09:18 AM
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It works in principal if you do it to every girl because of the women that are attracted to you some women will value your confidence and straightforwardness highly and agreed to give out their number. For the other women who find you attractive they will need more from you to gauge whether you are socially calibrated enough to "deserve" their number. Therefore the method works but you will have to approach more women to have the same success compared to going through the normal 'game' steps. Th…
/r/seduction26/04/21 05:30 PM
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I did for many years but I leveled up to something with a lot more freedom. Spent most of my quarantine with Chris Evan's Infinity War hairstyle but recently had it shortened.
/r/seduction22/04/21 07:51 PM
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The post has some good points but is very close minded and flys in the face of what a true man actually is, someone who owns their own style. Having short back and sides is not the only manly haircut in the world.
/r/seduction22/04/21 06:43 PM
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Your not going to get much sympathy from the Americans who are not using lockdowns but why not try something like an online date. Maybe a cook off or gaming or some kind of shared interest that can be done online.
/r/seduction15/04/21 05:58 PM
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Which country? You one of the European countries suffering from a 3rd wave?
/r/seduction15/04/21 10:53 AM
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Get off the phone and into the real world. Next time you are in a long conversation at a high point in the conversation ask her out. If you get a yes this will solve a lot of your problem, if she says no move on.
/r/seduction15/04/21 09:37 AM
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Must be a language thing probably means "engaging with" not "engaged to". If he did mean the latter he is in the wrong sub
/r/seduction15/04/21 09:34 AM
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Attraction is incredibly subjective and varies from country to country and person to person. There is actually studies out there where modeling agencies from around the world given the same picture to air brush created very different final products from Tatoos to skin tone. Assigning numbers doesn't work either. Just look at celebrities while male celebrities tend to date up female celebrities can often date down despite being the one of "higher value". You can only do general things to improve …
/r/seduction14/04/21 11:20 AM
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Yeah people post selfies and other similar photos on social media for validation so not only do you just become one of them but she also gets something from you without giving anything in return. Just look at any celebrity's instagram and look at the number of "simps" telling her she is some word for attractive. Like her photos fine but make sure you are getting something back when you are putting effort into your validation and face to face is the best way to do this but not the only way.
/r/seduction09/04/21 12:38 PM
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First off just checking that you are in fact female as well as you never confirmed, otherwise the fact that she is gay or you make her gay doesn't really work in your favour. As for validation don't do it. Use her posts to set up a date. "You look fun at parties maybe next time we could go to one together" will be much more effective than giving her validation and securing the friendzone position. Also DM them rather than posting publically, you are more likely going to get weaker responses if y…
/r/seduction09/04/21 10:39 AM
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A women worth is massively tied to her self-esteem and words like chubby and fat even as a compliment massively destroys a women self-esteem and therefore she feels worthless. Why would she want to be with a guy that makes her feel that way. Also using an insult as a compliment is negging and women for the most part are starting to wise up to it and men that do it are instant red flags. The only time you have an in to insult a girl is when your inflating her insult back at her for comedic effect…
/r/seduction22/03/21 12:02 AM
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Who texts who is only one of the way to gain power or control(if that is how you want to phrase it) over someone in a conversation. If you want to maintain this power you can implement frame control or dictate the topic of conversation, pace of the interaction etc. There are so many ways one person can gain power of someone else in an interaction both romantic or platonic that it is really not worth stressing over who texts first. As a side note what if he is thinking the exact same thing and is…
/r/seduction17/03/21 11:44 AM
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I would say height is actually one of the biggest barriers women can put in place when choosing a potential partner. You would be amazed how often I hear women talk about not dating anyone smaller than them or shorter than 6ft etc.
/r/seduction06/03/21 09:29 PM
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I look away because my mind goes "fuck she thinks I'm staring and being pervy" even when I am genuinely scanning my environment (I like to people watch when I am waiting for something/someone in crowded spaces) I do wish I had the confidence to do this though. I have the looks of an 8(their words not mine) but the confidence of a 4. Felt better when I was going to the gym but mines been closed since March.
/r/seduction23/02/21 01:36 PM
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In a dinner date scenario across from each other is harder but better if you can pull it off it can be a lot more powerful as you can exude a confidence through resting your hand on hers or eye contact. The flip side is if you lose momentum such as an awkward silence(not the same as a pause to increase sexual tension) then you end up in a weird staring contest which is were sitting at 90 degrees to each other can help.
/r/seduction18/02/21 10:38 AM
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It's a difficult one because to get someone to agree to a date with you need to be the highest value option they have. If they would prefer to sit at home and watch Netflix then you have shown very little value in your exchanges. With lockdown most people's alternatives are very low value so actually it can be a great time to start dating as you don't have to create as a high of a value compared to outside of lockdown/pandemic. You naturally gain value as you date as well so if you date 3 or 4 t…
/r/seduction11/02/21 06:06 PM
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No
/r/seduction11/02/21 05:24 PM
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How is that helpful advise. I am not asking is it appropriate for me to talk about her tits as an opener I am asking how you convince a women she is safe to meet you in person. If you text just to setup a date you will probably send less than 10 messages to her and as most of those will show very little about you. The less she knows about you the less invested she will be and that means she has to go on blind faith and this will increase the chance she rejects your date proposal or flakes on you…
/r/seduction11/02/21 05:15 PM
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Well I have already lost my Grandfather to COVID and could not even see him before he died so I have a personal interest in doing my part to ensure I don’t kill someone else’s Grandfather or whoever by not taking precautions and spreading a virus to someone else. The virus has a negligible risk to me but is lethal to others so I wear a mask and I only leave for food or exercise.
/r/seduction11/02/21 05:06 PM
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It’s currently highs of 2 degrees Celsius for me a Beach date would have us both running just to keep warm
/r/seduction11/02/21 04:58 PM
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Surely if the FaceTime or video chatting is getting awkward then the dates is going to be really awkward as well, unless all your dates have an outside stimulus, and at least FaceTime is free. In terms of video chatting it might help if you try and get another activity to do while you talk. If she’s a gamer for example you could play something coop and get to know her in a really relaxed environment.
/r/seduction11/02/21 04:34 PM
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For a man dating holds little risk to our personal safety outside of stalkers while women have to be conscious that the man could pose a threat to them through violence, rape etc. How do you make the women feel safe to date you after a just few texts. Do you say anything while texting or is it the where and when of the date the puts her at ease?
/r/seduction11/02/21 04:27 PM
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I think the best advice is always you need to get a life before you share your life with others. Fill your time with hobbies and improving yourself. Then when you find the girl you fit her around your life/schedule. This will stop you coming off as too available i.e that guy who when she calls will go anywhere instantly because they have nothing on. You can still do this while your dating just fill up your time so you are doing something with them or for yourself at least 6/7 days a week(I under…
/r/seduction08/02/21 09:48 PM
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The traffic light system is a great idea but don't forget your brain does need to do low energy tasks whether thats going for a walk, watching netflix/YouTube or sleeping. Watching YouTube for 30mins is not something you should feel guilty about unless you now you should have spent that time doing work. Sleeping is a Red Activity but I don't need to tell anyone that if you are not getting between 7-9hours of sleep a night you won't be as productive the following day so your green activities will…
/r/seduction04/02/21 03:24 PM
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I would say due to insecurities there are 3 scales; 0 - would not date 1 - would date and 2 - out of my league. The trick is to improve yourself and your confidence so that you start to see the 2’s as 1’s and then go out there a find all the 1’s who think your a 1 or better yet a 2.
/r/seduction27/01/21 12:26 PM
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Good idea that way when they say what do you rate her you can respond I'd give her 1.
/r/seduction17/01/21 05:36 PM
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Teasing is just the beginners push-pull when performed right and by being in a jokey mood you can be fun and it also makes it easier to escalate from one level to the next in a relationship. You escalate and she rejects it’s very easy to backtrack. In a serious setting most people struggle to brush it off and the pause after the escalation can destroy all your hard work.
/r/seduction15/01/21 01:14 PM
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In my experience most Asian people speak more of a hybrid accent especially if they still speak their parent’s language while at home or for religious reasons but you might also be one of the small few Asian people I have met in my life I would assume is white English over the phone. The comment I was making though is more the idea of the Indian call centre stereotype voice trying to speak like royalty in order to sleep with an American because they read that Americans find the British accent ve…
/r/seduction14/01/21 06:14 PM
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I would argue in terms of ethnicity while skin colour does play a factor for some people the biggest turn off or on is the accent that is associated with your ethnicity which you can't change. I could only imagine how exhausting it would be for an Indian person to fake a British accent to try and sleep with American women.
/r/seduction14/01/21 02:41 PM
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Not really true in the world of internet dating women have all the power. If a man and a women both paid for the premium membership for tinder or similar, the women would see that they are getting many times as many matches compared to the guy of similar attractiveness and they can also put less effort into their photos and bio.
/r/seduction07/01/21 06:14 PM
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I think the big negative conatation with the "nice guy" is often its a facade and when the girl rejects them they act like a dick thinking that being nice was the requirement for the women to agree to dating them or sleeping with them. These "nice guys" are what ruined being "a gentleman" because women are always looking for your hidden motive. Nice guy = Pushover is not always the case either but being a people pleaser is for your professional life not personal life.
/r/seduction07/01/21 04:35 PM
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Its not foolproof because Google maps now exists but its at least not as cringe as what the time being used when 99% of people have a working phone. Even commenting on the weather is better than asking the time.
/r/seduction19/12/20 08:27 PM
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Ask for directions to somewhere. Pretend your a tourist and ask for directions to somewhere within 5minutes of your location. Most will take the time to point the way and some might even offer to show you which might be a good indication to go for it and ask them out.
/r/seduction19/12/20 05:44 PM
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Non-needy is more something you do and alpha or confident is something you are. On the Venn diagram they have areas of intersection but there is no direct comparison between the 3 things. I think the big problem is the world alpha constantly gets a bad wrap usually because there are 2 types of alphas the charismatic kind and the physical kind. The physical kind is the one people try to avoid because they bully everyone around them to keep their control and are often incredibly needy but this is …
/r/seduction11/12/20 10:33 PM
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Taking risk is not a masculine trait in human beings. Attraction is a basic instinct but we are higher lifeforms relative to other animals. Ignoring the fact that their are plenty of species where the female will initiate the only reason we don't do it is because of toxic masculinity and femininity where we shame people to act certain ways. Men have to be brave, women have to wear dresses and look pretty. You need to evolve with the times and stop putting people in categories because it doesn't …
/r/seduction04/12/20 12:08 AM
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Thats called toxic masculinity. Men are not scared of taking the initiative they are scared of the consequences. Being creepy, being rejected, being ridiculed. I experienced all 3 during adolescents and it leaves a psychological mark on anyone who has experienced it. Taking the initiative should also not be seen as a male only thing. When you are in an LTR the expectation is much closer to 50/50 in a healthy relationship so why does it needs to start 90/10 or 100/0. To take the initiative is to …
/r/seduction02/12/20 08:47 AM
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The most powerful pic you can take after your profile shot is the activity pic. Like Rock Climbing, post a pic of you half way up the cliff/wall. It demonstrates you have your own life and if it is a shared hobby she is more likely to swipe right on you. This is harder in these lockdown times but it will increase your matches vs 6 profile pics and a couple blurry group photos from your lads night out.
/r/seduction01/12/20 06:30 PM
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Less about a threshold and more about a ranking order if you take 10 photos and you get 3 8's 4 6's and 3 4's then you know to use the 8's decide for yourself on the 6's and bin the 4's. Then over time maybe get more photos rated, keep your highest one as the main pic and slowly fill out 6-8 photos on your profile with scores higher than your average. If your average is 8 don't posts the 6's if your average is 6 then you can post the 6's until you start to increase your average. Don't be dishear…
/r/seduction15/11/20 11:47 AM
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Just ask her. Just say you have been getting mixed signals and you were wondering if that was because she wanted to take your relationship to the next level. If she says no tell her to pump the brakes a little on the flirting. It will either make her confront her feelings and decide whether she does actually like you or she will just want to remain friends but it will be easier on you because your brain won’t be in overdrive reading into signals that are not there.
/r/seduction26/10/20 05:44 PM
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It is pathetic and absolutely true which only makes it more pathetic. Are there guys out there that want more than sex sure but unlike women, men do not need any form of emotional connection to have good sex. Also options is also a thing. The world has evolved to do online dating and as a result this has had the unintended side effect of increasing the options for women but not men increasing the value men place on sex and decreasing it for women.
/r/seduction16/10/20 03:32 PM
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I agree I think it’s the difference between lust and love. Lust is passionate and exciting whereas Love is more fulfilling like they give you a piece of yourself that you did not know you were missing. It’s only after they show you that piece you were missing that you want it. Many people, especially young people, will spend a lot of time on lust because it gives you instant gratification or through fear of losing love. We have all seen the movies when one or both become a blubbering mess after …
/r/seduction14/10/20 11:50 AM
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I think the way you can look at it is you can have an easy but less fulfilling life or you can have a hard life which can give you everything you want if you put the work in(companion, emotional support, kids etc.) One of my favourite things I took from a Jordan Peterson lecture is a very simple mantra type saying, “you get to pick your sacrifice but you don’t get to not make one” If all you want in life is to have sex then the sacrifice you’re making is that you will never be able to reliably m…
/r/seduction14/10/20 08:36 AM
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I am an engineer so I would say I sit pretty in the middle of ESTJ and INTJ. I love my downtime as an introvert but will constantly throw myself in leadership positions at work because incompetence annoys me more than taking charge. (Harsh but true) As for the observation vs intuition you need both to be an engineer. You can't just rely on hard facts to get the job done and often need to use knowledge about what is going on elsewhere or what might happen to make the best decisions and that logic…
/r/seduction09/10/20 10:04 PM
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It is hard though, because no matter what you say someone will find fault. I have always been a live in the moment kind of guy so I take almost no photos of myself or others and feel weird stopping an organic conversation with friends to say "oh let's take a photo to put on social media" However saying "I prefer to live in the moment and go with the flow of life" or words to that effect is hella cheesy even for me, let alone this women who doesn't even know me.
/r/seduction09/10/20 09:05 AM
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I actually read an article recently that supports this. Basically they asked a bunch of Gen Z (23 years and younger but up to 18 for the sake of the article) and found they actually value money over relationship a lot. More men and women are trying to get a good education so they can get the job they want before worrying about getting a LTR or any relationship for that matter. Also a common ideal was to have numerous flings until they reach their late twenties or early thirties before thinking a…
/r/seduction08/10/20 09:22 PM
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Its more of a prospective shift. Desperate Men only end up with desperate Women as well as vice versa. However as Men usually do the approaching this means that men get rejected more and most women get to chose their partners and just accept the first decent offer before they get to the desperate stage. This naturally lends itself to their being more desperate men vs desperate women so it looks like it is harder on men at least if you are looking for a relationship. The only time that either can…
/r/seduction05/10/20 02:52 PM
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Yeah its a British thing basically the Junior and Senior Years of American High-school and honestly it is a much better system gets rid of all the dead weights at 16 so the people who want to learn can enjoy their lessons. Rough childhood was a massive downplay but for obvious reason I don't like going down the realms of abuse especially when it's sexual in nature. Glad to hear you are at least somewhat through the other side though
/r/seduction05/10/20 10:28 AM
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I get you I am massively into the psychology of people and behaviours which is why I like shows like that. I even took it for my A levels but dropped it after 1 year because they focused too much on the clinical side of psychology which did not interest me as much and needed to focus on my engineering career. What I have learned though is the sad truth behind most "mind rapists" as you call it don't have the greatest childhoods. That said I don't want to sound like I am throwing out wild assumpt…
/r/seduction05/10/20 09:53 AM
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Try watching more crime shows during lockdown. Even as a man I sit there a go well that guy is clearly a nutter and you got in his car because you wanted to give him a chance and now you are victim no. 4. Honestly crime shows and seduction don't mix, they make me way too cynical of the world.
/r/seduction05/10/20 09:19 AM
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Rule 1 of seduction don't be a simp
/r/seduction01/10/20 09:11 AM
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You posted this in the wrong sub reddit the roast me sub reddit is more up your street. Seriously the mods will remove this because it is pointless
/r/seduction01/10/20 09:11 AM
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If its just flirting I don't think it crosses the legal line until you start dating the student. Either way its incredibly messed up even if you are just practicing your cold approaches.
/r/seduction01/10/20 08:19 AM
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Its frowned upon in my country for teachers to cold approach their students even if they are only practising
/r/seduction30/09/20 05:44 PM
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That is true that they do it because they feel good but they also think that guys think they look good as well and it just isn't true. It is also a double edges sword because you should dress and look in a way that makes you feel comfortable but even girls just like guys should be thinking how do the people I want to attract see me.
/r/seduction29/09/20 03:26 PM
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I always find it funny that girls put so much effort into stuff that guys could not give zero fucks about. Eyelashes, eyebrows, nails, orange fake tan are all massive red flags for me because they often look so stupid and yet they spent over an hour to look like that. I challenge anyone to show me a guy that wants to marry/fuck the daughter of Edward scissor hands and an umpa lumpa. I bet this guy sleeps with anything with a pulse.
/r/seduction29/09/20 10:46 AM
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160 sound quite light unless you are under 6ft and then you run into the height problem. Biceps/Shoulders are the universal lady boner but proportions are important having weedy legs wont do you any favours either. You also have hygiene. Its not just about showering and brushing your teeth but also controlling facial hair(clean shaven or even stubble on your beard), use of fragrances (noticable when she gets close but not half way down the street). Then there is your image you want to be seen as…
/r/seduction29/09/20 10:14 AM
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I would just assume as shit test but pass it in a way that makes her have to qualify herself to you. For example you could say "I never asked, what makes you think that you are even my type?" This put you in a win win situation here in terms of maintaining control instead of devolving into some begging for her attention. "You would be lucky to be with a girl like me" is a very confrontational response and I would assume from this that she is not interested or in the long run would be too much ef…
/r/seduction24/09/20 11:17 AM
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What made me laugh at this wasn't just the implication but that there are actually posts on this sub-reddit on how to do that. Friendzone be damned.
/r/seduction21/09/20 08:52 AM
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You started making a good point about there being a higher quantity of potential partners in clubs and pubs vs a book store. Then you devolved your whole response with a shallow BS response about the more extroverted she is the less issues she has as a generalisation. If the worst thing you could find in a bookstore is a reserved person I would much rather find that than the worst case clubber who is doing cocaine and ecstasy and has no semblance of a personality.
/r/seduction20/09/20 09:43 AM
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Firstly it is mostly men because men are still the ones mostly responsible for leading an interaction. There isn’t a long line of single women going up to hot/cute guys for their numbers instead they dress up and expect to be seduced by the man. The block women ones seems odd most of the advise I see is about how to get the girl to respond and matching her pace and not freaking out when you get no response. The ones to block are the ones throwing up massive red flags like trawling for ig followe…
/r/seduction19/09/20 08:40 PM
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You can do that but that is for people who are very comfortable around strangers and having their photo taken. You also only get 1 shot with a stranger unless the pic is blurry but with a friend or a tripod you can be there for 30 minutes taking photos until you don't look like someone stuck a stick up your arse and your smile looks more real.
/r/seduction05/09/20 02:37 PM
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Saying that men only want sex and validation and women want fun and attention is a basic generalisation but by using it you can understand how you fit into any relationship sexual or platonic a judge whether the relationship works and if you are equal or not in the relationship. Basic example with a platonic relationship if someone asks a guy "you saw Jack last night how is he doing The general male response is he is doing alright. You ask a women the exact same question and you will get an enti…
/r/seduction05/09/20 02:30 PM
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You are jumping way too many steps there you are trying to get more matches not sleep with more women. The process is; Fun profile>Text Conversation>Dating>Sex. You should not be making a profile thinking; Fun profile>Match>Sex. That would be like you feel entitled to her body because she likes you. If you want to make them want to hook up then work on your dating game not your Tinder profile. If you want more Dates then learn how to text. If you are not texting a lot of girls improve your Tinde…
/r/seduction05/09/20 02:09 PM
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You don't want your entire array of single photos to be like that maybe 2 or 3 out of 9. Also if you don't have a friend with a similar interest to take photos with then buy the fake friend (tripod and a photo timer) and if you have the money buy an SLR but most phones can take really good photos now just take your photos in the Tinder ratio so you don't have to crop the photo which lowers the quality. I think it is 4:3 but you can always check before you take them.
/r/seduction05/09/20 01:32 PM
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The 2 things women want more than anything from a relationship is fun and attention and almost all things you do will influence one of these 2 things. For guys it is often Sex and Validation they want from their relationships. If you want Sex and Validation you have to give her Fun and Attention. If you give her fun or attention without getting sex or validation back then the relationship doesn’t work and you need to move on. If you give your fun and attention to someone who gives you sex and va…
/r/seduction05/09/20 11:49 AM
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Women will often imagine what if I was there when this photo was taken. Taking a selfie or worse yet a gym/topless selfie is saying I bring nothing to this except my looks which is subjective to every person. Having someone take a photo of you eating an ice cream at the beach says swipe right and we can go here on a date. The rock climbing says I am active and I have something we could do together. It’s all about taking photos that say we could be doing this together instead of look at how good …
/r/seduction05/09/20 11:20 AM
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I do hate the double standard but for guys having great photos is essential if you want to get matches. If you fill all 9 slots and have up to 3 good group pics and 6 pics of just you doing something you will get loads more matches. I know you can get away with less but if you attach your instagram you essentially giving them far more. The trick is usually good quality photos of you doing something from eating an ice cream at the beach to a hobby like rock climbing or skateboarding even if they …
/r/seduction05/09/20 09:42 AM
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If you are trying to change the dynamic of the relationship sexual texts is the last thing you want to do. You need to go on dates and build the tension there. If you try to do it over text it won't have the same effect and because you cannot ensure they understand the meaning or tone over a text you can make it harder to establish a sexual relationship with this person. Always start the process in person and only ever continue with a text unless it is the day of a sex date(not including the fir…
/r/seduction31/08/20 01:59 PM
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I would save that for a continuation text. If you are texting a girl for the first time make your texts fun but keep the sexual nature out of it until you get to meet face to face. You should only really sexualise a text if you know them well enough i.e. you have already slept with them or they initiate it. You don't really get anything from being sexual in a text message anyway unless you have a date later that day that has a high probability of leading to sex. This is also the case if you are …
/r/seduction26/08/20 12:54 PM
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My experience is the upper back is as safe as I have taken plenty of photos with my hand there and the girl didn't show any signs of discomfort but its all about the relationship you have and the confidence you have when you do it. I have comforted a friend with my hand resting above her knee because we were sat opposite each other at the time and she showed no outward signs of discomfort even though I knew she had a BF at the time and I was no looking to have that kind of relationship with her.…
/r/seduction20/08/20 10:47 AM
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I disagree with what you are saying because you keep talking about irrelevant things. The advice is based on established interest. Saying this advice doesn't work if she is not interested is a mute point. The advice is for the very specific situation of you have been talking to a girl for 5+ mins and then the other guys comes in to try his luck.That means you are already at Stage 3 and well past "Is she interested in me" Most guys will fumble this situation, ruin the impression the girl has of t…
/r/seduction15/08/20 04:12 PM
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You seem to be taking an incredibly dark view on a lot of these words and they are really not nearly as menacing as you are making them out to be. I can only infer you have just had bad experiences with people using these words incorrectly. And the women is at the forefront of all of this you can't control(this is usually called framing) an interaction without at least 2 people communicating. CONTROL: this is in reference to controlling an interaction to be able to show yourself in a more positi…
/r/seduction15/08/20 10:53 AM
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You cringe and then describe that the only way to effectively use the “is this your friend” line is to use it in the means it was intended as describe in the post. Men who try and muscle in are rude and often times incredibly narcissistic but if you react incorrectly when they come over then they can end up ruining your chances with the girl as well. That is where the friend line comes in and then when the girls says no you can retake control from there.
/r/seduction14/08/20 05:53 PM
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Depends they might see it as she is the best girl in the place and some are narcissistic enough that they will try and talk to them even when you are standing right there in order to take control. The “is this your friend” is just one way you can regain the control without sabotaging it for yourself by reacting to the situation poorly.
/r/seduction14/08/20 05:44 PM
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It’s a play when another alpha male tries to muscle in on your game. You say “is this your friend” to the girl. Either it is a friend then you come off confident instead of insecure. If he is trying to muscle in on your game then it is a really good way to make him look creepy without you coming across as a nervous beta.
/r/seduction13/08/20 07:40 PM
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Honestly I think it is the biggest con out there that paying more for a haircut will somehow give you a better cut. I go to a slightly rundown £10 barber and he has always given me a great haircut and even done my beard before the pandemic hit. Have a look at your face shape and then combined with your hair type just look at recent movies. When you find an actor who has a similar shape try and get your barber to emulate it. The Captain America, Starlord or Superman styles are all quite simple an…
/r/seduction07/08/20 10:24 PM
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I agree was always self conscious about the fact that my hair recedes quite far back on both sides ever since I was a kid but has never moved but people told me my hairline was badly receding and I listened to them. This year I went full superman/Bruce Wayne(Christian Bale) with the haircut and I feel great. It is now long enough I don’t even need product just wet my hands and it just sits there perfect. As I am working from home so going through the effort of styling my hair daily just seemed p…
/r/seduction07/08/20 08:42 PM
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The handshake breaks the touch barrier in a really weak way though because there is no sexual tension when you do it, too professional. The only reason a hand shake will work is if you combine it with other elements like lingering on the shake before pulling away or making the eyes at them while you do it.
/r/seduction23/07/20 07:54 AM
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You think just because men don’t have a menstrual cycle that they are horny all the time. If that were the case men would be humping anything that moved 24/7 and rape would be normal because men would literally go insane if they were constantly at a heightened form of arousal all the time(imagine a primate in heat but all the time!) Sexual desire fluctuates up and down all the time even with someone you have been with for years. You might find your partner really attractive some times and other …
/r/seduction22/07/20 07:14 PM
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Just break it yourself when the situation presents itself and you won't be seen as a creep. The safest ones I have found in my experience is upper arm and their back. They both work in opposite directions so they more you know someone the higher up the arm you can go or lower down the back. If you want to create the opportunity just walk in a line that means you have to walk through them to get somewhere and then touch one of those two areas as appropriate and go round them. Other option is the …
/r/seduction22/07/20 03:56 PM
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Penis Size is just like a Girls Breast Size, everyone has a preference. When you look at average size breasts they can look great and if she is fit and has a great personality then you would date that girl in a heart beat. Now there are some guys out there that like small breasts and guys out there that are looking for tits that look like they inflate them weakly with a bicycle pump. This principle is exactly the same for men and their penis size. The trick is to focus on things you can change o…
/r/seduction11/05/20 10:15 AM
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I don't know why this is funny but I am glad you are amused
/r/seduction06/05/20 05:19 PM
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You don’t know the history that she had with the other guy you can’t judge someone based on something as small as this unless she is still seeing him behind your back. A lot of people tell small lies like this early on in a relationship to hide their insecurities or things they are ashamed of. A guy wouldn’t tell a potential ONS he is a virgin he would just make a mess of it and then try and leave ASAP. All you can do is show that you are none judgemental and this will make the other person feel…
/r/seduction06/05/20 10:23 AM
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Maybe try a date with more external stimulus that you enjoy doing, preferably a hobby you can invite the other person into. If you like going bowling for example then why not take them there on your first date that way if there is silence you just bowl a couple more frames until either of you think of something to say. Also sounds like you are asking too many questions try listening to the response to a question and then expand on the point. The easiest way to do this is usually statements and b…
/r/seduction04/05/20 10:57 AM
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That is a completely different situation as he is at a completely different level of wealth and I am talking about spending an extra £30-40 on a date not buying her a new car. The difference is you can add a bit of fun to an otherwise formulaic date, if you have the money to and increase the chance she wants to see you for the second date because you stand out more compared to all the other dates she has had.
/r/seduction08/04/20 05:31 PM
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I think the festival idea is more when you invite them to join not buy them a ticket. Same as a bar date you might buy them a couple drinks but its not going to cost you more than £20-30(location dependent) the concert is a hobby purchase you invite if you were going anyway. Honestly though dates are relative to yours and their income. If you earning £100k a year a £20 date is probably cheap but at the same time spending £100+ for first dates is probably a bit extreme for those who are not well …
/r/seduction08/04/20 10:18 AM
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Yep the double standard because girls have loads of guys on the hook while most men are lucky to have more than one girl to talk to at once. You leave them on read they don't notice, guy gets left on read and he is in this subreddit trying to have other guys figure out why when it is always the same reason.
/r/seduction03/04/20 01:55 PM
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You can have coffee/tea during the day if you can’t drink alcohol. If neither can legally drink it adds to the credibility of the comment being a joke if she is not serious about the sexy comments which is a bonus.
/r/seduction02/04/20 01:04 PM
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Reply "Slow down tiger you should at least buy me a drink first, I am free on Friday" Obviously not during lockdown but her response will tell you how to proceed. Its noncommittal enough that you can pass it off as a joke or if she reacts positively then you can escalate from there.
/r/seduction02/04/20 12:10 PM
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Well you only have 3 options: 1) Break up and be with someone who likes to sext if this is a dealbreaker for you 2) Learn to live with her shyness and keep the sex talk for face to face so she can feel more comfortable 3) Be patient, maybe she is not yet comfortable in the relationship enough to try sexting. There is a large trust element in sexting because you can keep the texts and pictures afterwards and share it with other people(if your a dick!)
/r/seduction30/03/20 08:40 AM
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That's better response than I would have given. I would have said that my time is just as important as yours and the last time we arranged to meet you completely ghosted me wasting my time. At least I am offering you the courtesy of an explanation. A lot more petty than a "yup" but at least she would know that she can't mess me around. Would set a good precedent for any future if she tries to hit you up again in the future.
/r/seduction26/03/20 09:30 AM
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Well what makes a person mysterious instead of secretive is that you let them peak behind the curtain. You give them enough time to fill in the blanks and then you reveal something else so that you are constantly changing how they see you. Of course your hope is that you reveal that you are smarter, more fun or more charismatic that her assumptions and this drives them crazy in a good way. Secretive people never let people peep behind the curtain so the assumptions are never challenged and over …
/r/seduction16/03/20 12:23 PM
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I suppose you could be clever and try and respond in a way that answers the question but also a potentially more suggestive undertone of ya like jizz. Something like "I have a messy history with jazz we could talk about it over drinks while we listen to (insert jazz musician)" Escalates in a recoverable way and could answer both questions in a light hearted manner.
/r/seduction16/03/20 11:47 AM
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They have zero value though. Basically screams my personality is not sufficient to be dating someone but if you buy me a drink you can play with my tits so I can brag to my friends about my 5 minute boyfriend. Not into the ONS and would much rather wait for a girl with substance than to sleep with 10 with none but other people can sleep with whoever, they are not effecting my life
/r/seduction10/03/20 10:13 PM
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All UK pubs are basically dive bars but with a restaurant section that is often frequented by families who are to lazy to cook but don’t want to have fast food. I have seen a couple of bars in the UK I have a local weatherspoons with bouncers and a dance floor but the music is club level loud and the quality of girls is not much better than clubs either. Spent the whole evening wondering if boobs would pop out if they turned around too quickly
/r/seduction10/03/20 09:46 PM
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There is usually 10-15 minutes before the train arrives when we are sat waiting for the train. I have usually taken this time to read but I have been trying to think of a way to put down the book and say something casual like we have known each for months. There are rare occasions when her much older colleague doesn't show up and times when he arrives first meaning the "will he show up today?" scenario plays in my head every morning while I read my book stopping me from saying anything.
/r/seduction10/03/20 05:30 AM
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How would you suggest I style this silence out. I try to think of ways to style it out while I am reading but the more my Engineering brain works on the problem the more I find myself going round the same problem only making the long delay longer or giving time for her older colleague to show up.
/r/seduction10/03/20 05:25 AM
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My heart wants to say this girl is choosing to stand/sit near you she is probably interested but my head is saying that this is the area she waits with her colleagues when waiting for the train and it is just routine and means nothing. Now her colleague(55M) doesn't always show up on the morning commute based on his train connections so sometimes it is just me and her sitting on the 3 seat and a table area with a bag in the middle for a whole 10-15 minutes. I have historically taken this time to…
/r/seduction10/03/20 05:21 AM
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If I had introduced myself initially then we would have known each other for several months so unless I continue to game or asked her out before I was ready the relationship would have been firmly platonic and potentially boring due to a lot of small talk exchanges. My biggest problem now is getting over the mental block of introducing myself to a girl that has sat with 1 empty seat between us most mornings for months without the awkwardness of I am just now introducing myself to this person and…
/r/seduction10/03/20 04:57 AM
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Sounds very particular to Americans. Don't really have any bars in the uk round where I live but the pub equivalent is usually frequented more by 35+ year old people. As for clubs in you are not interested in low value girls for a ONS then the loud music is about all you can expect from going clubbing in the UK.
/r/seduction10/03/20 04:49 AM
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I would play it up in a jokey way. Just say something like I am not working on my back today been a bit sore past couple of days but that happens when you get to my age. Obviously say it in a way that she knows you are joking. You can obviously play it the other way on a day you work your back and say how it is important that you keep it strong because in a couple years when you are my age it might really slow you down. Just being able to tease her about something she says shows you are confiden…
/r/seduction05/03/20 09:10 AM
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Tell that to Chris Hemsworth who is the only on screen avenger to have won sexiest man alive
/r/seduction23/02/20 08:38 AM
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The fact that blonde is equally more attractive to both genders is why the gene continues on
/r/seduction22/02/20 08:15 PM
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Yes, unfortunately genes don’t discriminate you need 2 blonde people to guarantee a blonde child 50% if you have a blonde and a brunette with a blonde gene and 25% if both have both genes. Based on those statistics the number of blonde people should have faded into rarity by now but we still see them all the time especially plastered all over magazine and social media. Even a lunatic like Hitler saw the power in his “Arian Race”
/r/seduction22/02/20 08:02 PM
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This is not to say this might be the only reason but blonde hair and blue eyes are statistically more attractive which scientist attribute to why the recessive genes have prolonged despite the fact that brown eyes and brunette hair are the more dominant gene. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist therefore to realise why you are more likely to be rejected by blonde women when they are approached statistically more often by men which will mean they carry with them the mindset that they are more desi…
/r/seduction22/02/20 07:09 PM
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Depends how you know the person and how long you have known each other. If you have just met it is almost impossible to gauge whether she likes you or she is just being nice so all you can do is talk to her and see what signals she throws out. Single word answers to OPEN questions is a red flag for her interest levels. If you see her frequently but rarely speaks try and see how often she looks at you, stands near/next you or where her feet are pointing. In some subconscious situations people wil…
/r/seduction21/02/20 09:26 AM
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Just get someone of the sex you want to attract to pick out 5-7 pictures of you and that’s it. All dating apps are the same. 80% of the effort should be in getting some really good photos and 20% into getting a good bio. This gets you the matches then you just have to learn how to keep them or at least start a conversation
/r/seduction25/01/20 01:05 PM
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Most of the free apps just give you more options like seeing who swiped you first and more overall right swipes and neither help that much. Seeing who swiped you if you don't match with her in your pile why should knowing she swiped right on you change your mind. Having more swipes you should swipe right on 30-50% of girls at most so why would having more than 300 swipes a day help you faster?!! Better for Hinge but having a subscription to most of the free ones does not increase your match rate…
/r/seduction22/01/20 07:14 AM
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If you want to do it in your own pace just follow the usual touch escalation tips you normally see. Give her a proper hug when you first meet and then talk about things that give you a reason to touch her e.g. I love that necklace then process to touch the necklace. If you want to do it in the first 20minutes it requires you to time a queue she may or may not give you. If she says this is really weird your next response should be to move closer while saying something like "I thought you might fe…
/r/seduction20/01/20 01:40 PM
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I agree he needs to escalate to the point of a kiss at some point in the date and ideally not leave it to last. The longer he leaves it the more tension will build up around it. If he can structure a conversation that naturally leads to them kissing within the first 20 minutes that would answer the question of whether it will work or not.
/r/seduction20/01/20 01:04 PM
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A big mental difference between men and women that is really beneficial when thinking about your engagement. For men we engage in risk because we see the benefit in taking bigger risks for bigger reward otherwise we would just date anyone who will say yes. Women on the other hand are physically weaker so they usually opt for the lowest risk option so you can find gorgeous women dating meh guys because they feel safe and secure in the relationship. Goes a long way to explain your situation. Early…
/r/seduction15/01/20 09:10 PM
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How long your friends been with these girls. If they are changing every 3 months then they must be doing something else which counteracts the neediness making them appealing enough to date. Maybe they have great text game and can actually keep the energy high in a conversation or simply more attractive than you are. If these are LTR's then being this kind of needy can be a positive because the girls will feel more comfortable that they don't need to constantly earn approval or validation. Your f…
/r/seduction15/01/20 07:20 PM
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Think of it this way if a Doctor treating patients was treating 95% of people who were perfectly healthy, 5% were genuinely sick and he passed on all the really sick patients how would they ever improve. You need to stop thinking of successful gaming as validation, its just gives you a purpose in life. If you game for casual sex you want to attract hotter and hotter girls so they give you the purpose of improving yourself. Improving fitness, dressing better, being more sociable etc allows you to…
/r/seduction15/01/20 11:31 AM
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Based on the glances he might be interested I know I try to steal glances but I am also quite meerkatty by nature so spend a lot of time looking around my environment and catch plenty of people's eye and it means nothing. Also don't fall into the trap of thinking people have a league they have to bat in. With small changes in grooming and social habits a 4 can become an 8 and be asking people out that 6 months would have rejected them. We can't all look like Chris Hemsworth or Scarlett Johansson…
/r/seduction14/01/20 06:52 PM
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I would base it on the interaction. Formal interaction I would go for the handshake, friendly interaction would stand, smile and nod and if it was the first time meeting for a date( if you meet online) go for the peck on the cheek but that is what I consider normal. I would need to know them a bit better before I went for the hug maybe for the goodbye greeting because I feel its a little intimate for someone you just met. Cultural difference probably decide that though for most people.
/r/seduction10/01/20 05:37 PM
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Sounds like you need to get your head straight before you go on a date like that. The problem with being on subreddits like this one is it makes you think you should be going out constantly and picking up every beautiful women you see. The most important part of dating is that you are enjoying the whole process if you aren't then you need to ask yourself why and address those issues before you pursue more dates. That being said sometimes jumping back into the deep end can also help with your anx…
/r/seduction10/01/20 05:31 PM
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Are you talking about love or are you actually talking about lust/infatuation. Love is usually a connection thing when you both decide that you have accepted each others flaws and want to stay together. In this instance you can be needy but not clingy because she will probably feel very similar. If you are infatuated with a girl the only thing you can do is to force yourself to act aloof and reward her investment in you rather than giving it freely. It is a far more powerful form of seduction be…
/r/seduction10/01/20 09:43 AM
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Most men will enter starvation mode on anything less than 1800 calories the trick is to just eat the right stuff and do enough exercise each day. At 95kg your Basic Metabolic Rate(Calories burnt for basic bodily functions) will be quite large. Mine is 1650 and I am only 67kg. Getting enough protein is important but not getting enough carbs to restore your glycogen stores or fats for hormone production will mess you body up more than the weight loss will help.
/r/seduction08/01/20 04:59 PM
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In the interest of balance in this conversation: Type B is not always the ideal goal for you personality and you are much better being a type A and take the best bits from type b than the alternative. Type B people are the naive ones because they grow up in this little bubble and don't ever see the underbelly of the real world or how to handle it (Trump is a classic example here) They also struggle to read emotional queues and lack empathy because they only surround themselves with positivity be…
/r/seduction07/01/20 09:38 AM
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My assumption was that you were talking to be at least achieving an LTR with this person. If you are only interested in the physical side of a relationship then language is even less of an issue because you can learn to escalate without words or at least fewer words. A transferable skill for future relationships. If you plan on going for an LTR then it will either be beneficial to learn her language or if the relationship does not last long you have started bettering yourself already in 2020 by …
/r/seduction03/01/20 01:36 PM
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Trick is to not see it as a barrier but a learning opportunity that requires more effort from the 2 of you. Long term you would both just learn each others language and then you would share more things in common and being bilingual never hurt anyone. If the idea of learning her language is off-putting then you have placed the barrier there yourself because you are now reliant on her understanding enough english for you to have any meaningful conversations. Plenty of apps out there than can have …
/r/seduction03/01/20 11:49 AM
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Could just be that she wants someone to validate her. Your best of saying that you thought she wasn't interested because she was taking way too long to reply and that you have been talking to girls who respond more urgently. Worst case she tells you to **** off and you got your answer or best case she starts chasing you. Both seem like decent outcomes to me
/r/seduction01/01/20 10:01 PM
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I have no issue with girls having guy friends just like I think it should be acceptable for me to have female friends(quite often isn't). It is more about understanding the boundaries and history between the two people. A lot of guys have female friends because they want to sleep with them(know this from experience) and will often use their position to intentionally undermine the boyfriend out of jealousy. Some girls have guy friends that they do everything except have sex and some even have sex…
/r/seduction28/12/19 05:44 PM
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You could always reply I look forward to hearing from you again then or something like that. It is much more explicit and forces her to chase you. Other option is you wait until after Christmas then hit her up like nothing happened and say you have a couple days free during the Christmas break and you would love to know if you calendars line up. Not the best at this but what I learned here and online seems like your only options if you don't want to come across desperate.
/r/seduction20/12/19 06:50 AM
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You could always just say well let me know if you want to go out again and if she does not get back to you move on and if she does, bonus points because she has made the effort. Just obviously don't drop any plans you have if she gives you her schedule
/r/seduction19/12/19 07:59 PM
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Two options is invite her to something instead of making it sound like a meet up so if she says no it’s no big deal but you won’t know if she is interested or not. Alternatively you can ask what her schedule is like this weekend, if she then turns your date down at least you know where you stand.
/r/seduction12/12/19 06:59 PM
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Pretend she never said or acknowledge it and ignore the statement completely and just continue with your conversation as if she said something else. Will drive her nuts because it’s a power move and she just wants to see how you will react.
/r/seduction12/12/19 06:56 PM
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Initiate contact as soon as you greet. The more you can make contact without being creepy the closer you can get to each other and then the distance doesn’t seem so big. Also if this is working and you don’t want to wait until the end of a date you can lean in and either look her in the eye or whisper in her ear “This thing between us is driving me crazy and all I want to do right now is kiss you” Good way to bring the pressure to a tipping point and also get permission without giving away too m…
/r/seduction12/12/19 06:51 PM
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How do you avoid or turn the questions around on her without seeming like you are hiding something? If I am on my way to work and she asks what I do for a living how do you answer this without giving too much while also turning the conversation around to start asking her stuff?
/r/seduction12/12/19 03:04 PM
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How would you feel if a women approached you? Flattered as men are basically trained from birth that they have to be the one to initiate everything to have a girl do it would be a massive relief for introverts and it would probably be a huge turn on for extroverts. Would you consider it unladylike? Depends on your approach but if the girl was confident and mildly assertive it the situation I think it would be fine. It’s when you get mad aggressive it would be unladylike. What assumptions would y…
/r/seduction09/12/19 06:33 PM
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If it was true it would explain why erectile dysfunction increases with age. All the 70 year old men that can’t stop playing with themselves lol
/r/seduction06/12/19 10:33 AM
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Qualifying statements are huge. I thought your “pick item/feature” was really cool and I just wanted to see if you were as cool as your item/feature suggested to me. The girl will either turn you down or begin to qualify herself to you which subconsciously means she is trying to sell herself to you, increasing your chances to close further down the interaction. Next step is to tease these are inconsequential things about her specifically. Then up to flirting by including the word we in conversat…
/r/seduction05/12/19 11:18 PM
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The other move would have been to misunderstand on purpose and tease her saying something like “is this how you get guys numbers by making them add their numbers to the sign in sheet. You must get your pick of all the guys?” At least this way you establish the man woman relationship, you imply that she is actually the one instigating the flirtation so she then starts justifying herself to you and her response would make it very clear how to direct the conversation
/r/seduction05/12/19 11:07 PM
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The typical rule of thumb is to match their pace but I find that some girls don’t like that so you wait an hour to respond then they wait 2 hours and the whole process gets dragged on. I’m pretty busy during the week and have about an hour in the morning and a few at night when I get home from work. I hate playing the waiting game for this exact reason. I send a message, she responds 15mins later so I match and we send a couple messages. I then go offline for 8 hours and now when I respond she m…
/r/seduction05/12/19 10:27 PM
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If you are going to shake someone hand there is actually a lot of psychology behind how someone positions there hand when they go to shake. Palm down is a dominance move and the response should be to either recenter their wrist to equalise yourself or grab them somewhere with your free hand to reclaim power(option 2 is better for weaker/smaller people but is not as good as option 1 because they can use their free hand to reassert dominance) In this instance having your palm up is putting yoursel…
/r/seduction05/12/19 10:05 PM
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I hope you replied: so what time can I expect you at my place then? That was a golden escalation text I just hope you jumped on it if you want to try and date or sleep with this girl. If you are yet to reply you tell her something like you are disappointed with her that you waited all night and she never showed.
/r/seduction04/12/19 07:36 AM
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There are plenty of less manipulative ways to seduce or at least engage with women such as answer questions in an open form such that it invites discussion or open questions to encourage girls to talk more taking the pressure off you for a bit when carrying the conversation. Also there are a lot of techniques that only work in the early stages of a relationship like push-pull(negging). Some women are catching onto these forms of seduction anyway so if you don’t want to use it or are interested i…
/r/seduction03/12/19 07:33 AM
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I could never say with absolute certainty that your silliness is a coping mechanism but statistically it will be. I would say the only real test would be if you purposefully stopped trying to draw the attention towards yourself with loud displays and reflect on how it makes you feel in that moment. It usually but not always gives you a negative emotion and that would be your sign that it is a coping mechanism and the type of emotion would give you an indication as to what you feel insecure about…
/r/seduction28/11/19 08:37 PM
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Not strictly describing extrovert tendencies there. A lot of people use humour as a defence mechanism to hide their insecurities, guilty of this myself but I would say I am strictly in the middle of the spectrum. The trick you might be missing here is it is not all about the confidence to do something because it is funny but to be confident in who you are and to be able to carry that confidence in a 1 to 1 interaction especially when there are multiple people around. Also comedy in group setting…
/r/seduction28/11/19 08:13 PM
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Can still be a bit forward to immediately call someone after they give you there number whether it be online or street game unless you make her aware of the call before hand. Also if you text first and get conversation flowing they will feel like they have to answer the phone because they know that you know they are available, so will be less flakey in their response. Close is the same as setting up the date, the point of the interaction is to hopefully date this person so closing and setting up…
/r/seduction25/11/19 09:21 AM
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The trick is to close with a phone call, it does increase your chances. Once you are getting to the close and you can see them talking back and fourth with you make it so the close is a phone call. 9/10 they will pick up which sets you apart from previous guys and makes a yes the more likely outcome.
/r/seduction25/11/19 08:07 AM
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Trust and Honesty its a cliche but they really are the pillar to any relationship regardless of type or duration. If you genuinely want a relationship then tell her that just not too directly. If the spark fades tell her that the spark just isn’t there anymore. Just know if you say you want a relationship and then break up in 2 weeks you probably need to come up with a kind but genuine reason or she will tell all her friends that you are a fuckboy even if you meant it at the time because your ac…
/r/seduction24/11/19 03:08 PM
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Make sure you are upfront about what you want and that they feel the same way. If you tell them you want to see where it goes when you are looking for a fling then you are the douche in that situation. Own it, the opinions of others don’t effect you and while people may disapprove they will at least respect honestly and might even admire your confidence. Everything is proportional. A guy who lives in a small town can probably have a fling with 10-20 girls before he gets a fuckboy label but the s…
/r/seduction24/11/19 03:00 PM
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