BobBobCan Archive

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1	The biggest reason people have dating issues is because they don't know these 2 major things: What they want, What they're worth. Family, friends, holidays, you name it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/21 10:33 PM
0	The biggest reason people have dating issues is because they don't know these 2 major things: What they want, What they're worth. It boggles my mind that people don't get that the dating scene is a market. When someone says they cannot find someone, then the market response is that they're trying to match out of their league - In other words: Their own self assessment of their value isn't calibrated well with their actual value in the market. There are also some modern aspects that surprises me. It seems to me that many women today tend to highlight traits that they think are in high regard among men: Being financially sta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/21 04:06 PM
23	It seems like so many guys' frustrations, insecurities, problems would've been addressed if they locked in a relationship early. What stopped you from achieving this and what would you do differently if you were younger? I hear you, but I can assure you they are not such a minority(1% that you seem to imply). I’d say the majority of men don’t have any relationship experience before 20, and the more hopeless ones won’t have before 25. Maybe most women do have experience before 20, and this narrows their vision inte thinking the same about men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/12/20 11:44 PM
1	[Q4All]Do you think the dating advice industry is a scam? It is partly scam and partly not. My dispute with PUA/Seduction/Dating experts and etc. are: 1) Plenty of "Guru's" that organize lectures, books etc. don't consider that their success in the 'game' is purely a skillset. And this skillset is very "domain-specific", in that it applies to the specific scenario it was developed. You don't sit at a 4h conference, or watch Youtube-videos and simply "absorb" the skill. 2) What is the objective really? To become a good PUA? Get laid? Have a relationsh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/12/20 04:30 AM
1	Women who live a promiscuous lifestyle before settling down are doing nothing wrong – except for adamantly believing that their promiscuity doesn't matter. I couldn’t agree more, and I have observed the same thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/20 02:39 PM
3	Single mum is looking for someone to take her on dates, do her fake tan, buy her kfc and put shelves up! Will you be that lucky guy? Is this a troll? I have a really hard time believing that this is a genuine profile.	/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen	15/08/19 06:51 AM
2	Woman decides at 50 years old that she is at a point in life to settle into a LTR and thinks posting trashy pics on a hookup app is the best way to find her man. Looks like she has learned nothing from her 30 years on the CC. Why the hell does she have a pic of her feet?	/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen	11/07/19 04:56 PM
17	Double book your dates: Be the man that flakes No, don't do that. This has nothing to do with scarcity mentality, but only selfishness and rudeness. What if none of them flakes? Are you willing to plan to waste someone´s time? Someone who actually took their time and were willing to date you. The same standard holds for your dates - feel free to drop them if they flake. And besides: If they are dropping you on a regular basis, it is a good sign that you need to overlook how you communicate with girls. Because it´s not my personal experience,…	/r/TheRedPill	04/05/17 08:39 PM
2	How do you stop being so nervous around girls? You go up to a girl, probably nervously, and look them in the eye. And then you do that again. And again. Until you don't do it nervously. You'll probably fail the first and second time, but then, what is the price you pay if you avoid? Nervous around girls forever? I think that is a small price to pay in the grand scheme of things.	/r/seduction	12/04/17 04:36 PM
2	4 Conversations to have a on a first date that build massive rapport I find all these zillions of workshops and how-to-do-it-manuals annoying because in the end it confuses people even more. As if you need knowledge about how to strike up a conversation before striking up a conversation. Talking with other people is not quantum physics; You don't need years of prerequisite studies to grasp it. You need to be able to talk! And you need other people. Can you talk? Do you know anyone language? If yes, you have all that´s needed to learn the skill - talking with othe…	/r/seduction	12/04/17 12:52 PM
0	6 Common Objections And How To Handle Them Oh, manipulation..you mean something like "turning it around and painting a negative picture of younger guys"? Or "[...] but what you’re really looking for are some nonphysical character traits." What I´m against is blatant dishonesty and lies - for example that the way to overcome the objections is through genuine honesty. Nothing is further from the truth. And then turn it around to "You'll think that women are bad" and "Misogyny is just a small step away from there" is just pathetic.	/r/seduction	21/02/17 08:08 PM
0	6 Common Objections And How To Handle Them Being direct is a strategy. 'No game'-game is a strategy. Both are games. So what are you actually saying? No $conscious$ strategy? What if I declare that I game and that it consist of directness and genuine honesty, would you be fine with that? Long term companionships requires as much, if not more, strategy as short term companionships. Among long term relations my experience is that more harm is done through incompetence and stupidity than outright evil. So I'm sure being direct and 'honest' …	/r/seduction	21/02/17 06:41 PM
2	6 Common Objections And How To Handle Them I completely disagree. For you it seems that honesty is the strategy for solving any resistance, for establishing trust. I maintain that it is in fact the appearance of honesty. You seem to think that dating is two people coming together with each other best intentions at heart with likeminded goals and thus it just requires 'honest' communication to arrive there without resorting to deception. That is absolutely not the case.	/r/seduction	21/02/17 04:21 PM
0	Did medication turn anyone's game around? You don't need a pill - You need daily healthy dose of interactions with others. Do you think that humans have evolved for 2.5 billions years to need a pill to socialize with each other? No. Any change comes with a price tag, and that price most often comes in banal things as depression, exhaustion, boredom, discomfort.	/r/seduction	21/02/17 04:09 PM
2	Can we get some success stories from people who shouldn't be successful with women by conventional standards? I have made my introverted and withdrawing personality work in my favor very successfully. I used to believe that it is necessary to impose yourself aggressively, be overt and overwhelming. And for some it certainly work. But then I used to be far too appeasing and kind, a gentlemen with too much gentleness. Aggressiveness come off awkward, yet comfortable chit-chat gets you nowhere. Over the years I´ve learned to use my introversion to evoke a certain anxiety, that tension and uncertainty that …	/r/seduction	21/02/17 03:47 PM
1	Is it better to approach love in a cold and rational way? Or in a passionate and instinctive way? What do you mean by approaching love? Are you talking about another person? If you are too cold and calculating you will unavoidably give off a mismatch in your behavior. They will most certainly feel it. You will need some blood, some animation to your actions. But that is not an insulation against playing your counterpart like a piano; you can still study your prey from a distance, using their individual weaknesses against them, strategizing your way forward by using your own individual streng…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/17 03:29 AM
8	ALPHA MALE IN SIX SIMPLE WORDS This sub has really let it self go. What kind of irrational 'red pill' post is this: 'Submissive energy','Penetrating the environment', conflicting alpha/beta attitudes with masculine/feminine identities that are supposed to satisfy an imaginary continuity equation. Where is this even coming from? Who is spitting out these ideas? I am all for an open community where every member contributes to the best of their abilities with new ideas, sharing their red pill-related experiences, criticizing(or …	/r/TheRedPill	10/02/17 03:16 AM
2	What exactly is Rationalization? Essentially rationalization is the search for good reason. One of the prominent inner needs of man is to feel that he is right. This can take several forms: right in his own eyes, in the eyes of others(family, co-workers, friends,..), and finally to belong to a group which he considers right and which he can proclaim as noble, just and good. But that righteousness is not absolute righteousness, true and authentic justice. In fact, what matters is not to be right, to act right or that the group i…	/r/TheRedPill	08/09/16 03:19 PM
2	[X-post] Wife doesnt even feel the need to hide the AF/BB relationship to her husband What the hell is this obsession with couples therapy for solving problems?	/r/TheRedPill	03/08/16 08:14 PM
1	Guys aren't your friends either! Right, but I would say the issue is that many men seek male friendships in venues(in particularly at work) where your so called friend is your competitor, thus making him a not a friend per se, but an enemy in secret. Now, I´m not advocating that you see enemies in every man(or woman) but to be more aware, to have a transparent vision of who is your friend and who is not.	/r/TheRedPill	03/07/16 07:39 PM
2	You all make it seem so easy, but what if the girl made you truly feel happy? It's simple in words, but hard in practice: Either you solve your problems the hard way, or you fall in love with another idea, another person, another group, another religion. When you know yourself you're ready to engage in a relationship in which she becomes a complementary partner.	/r/TheRedPill	13/06/16 01:02 PM
3	On learning to live with less I agree. On and on I come to reflect upon Nietzsche´s famous quote: " The value of a thing sometimes does not lie in that which one attains by it, but in what one pays for it — what it costs us. " What I´ve come to realize in the last few years is that what really has value in life is things that rests upon a solid foundation. And that foundation in nature grows slowly, gradually, organically. I remember that Rollo very rightfully said that PUA-strategies is like giving dynamite to children. The…	/r/TheRedPill	25/05/16 09:44 PM
3	Always maintain the appearance of being busy--even if you aren't I don't believe that simply being late to texts or always seeming busy is necessarily the only takeaway here. It´s more about not concerning yourself with consuming thoughts and concerns that steals your time and mental space. I admit, I used to be heavy into texting, checking social media, listening endlessly to people about their issues and on and on. Constantly distracted. But at some point you have to stop and just reassess what you´re doing with your time. Where the hell those 16-18h end up…	/r/TheRedPill	24/05/16 06:29 PM
1	How do I approach a girl if she always is with her friends? Don't approach her, approach her friends. Get to know her friends and use one of them to create a triangle.	/r/seduction	19/05/16 09:05 PM
-1	Should I rather get "How To Win Friends [...]" by Dale Carnegie or "Models" by Mark Manson first? Neither in my opinion. Art of Seduction is where its at.	/r/seduction	14/04/16 08:01 PM
1	How do you circumvent this Going halfway with half a heart digs the deeper grave. Be bold. And then, be even bolder. Any mistake you commit through audacity are easily corrected with even more audacity.	/r/seduction	13/04/16 01:29 AM
1	As a woman, I'd like to know... What are some of the top seduction frustrations you have with women? A coquette - women who turn on and turn off, turn hot, turn cold. Seductive but annoying.	/r/seduction	24/03/16 09:19 PM
2	Reduce your misogyny by being manly Come on! See it for what it is. When someone calls you out for being misogynist, psychopath or whatever, or when they try to present themselves as more justified than you are, and therefore more moral, you must see this move for what it most often is: not a reflection of morality, of right and wrong, but a clever strategy, a maneuver. An effective ploy to tighten your corner so that you'll submit. Don't get angry, don't get defensive and certainly don't take it personally. It´s not your fault th…	/r/TheRedPill	24/03/16 02:25 AM
5	The Price of Nice Whenever I read stories like these I´m reminded of Baltasar Gracian's famous quote: "Man's life is a warfare against the malice of men".	/r/TheRedPill	21/03/16 02:13 AM
6	Using violence as a means to an end. Good answer. There is a clear dichotomy between West and East though: In the eyes of Sun Tzu, warfare is certainly a last resort. Much reason to that was because of ancient China used to be composed of states in continual flux of weak and powerful. So it was more effective to create allies and stability for long-term success. If we inspect the military values of the West the ideal seems to indicate a more Clausewitzian form of overpowering the enemy with swiftness, encirclement etc. to gain powe…	/r/TheRedPill	20/03/16 05:28 PM
1	Using violence as a means to an end. I see your point, but it is not really what I am talking about. You´re referring to a form of deterrence - you have essentially created the impression that you are powerful and that has given you a intimidating presence. It is a kind of self-defense I´d say. I´m talking of the extreme form of violence(to the point of eliminating others) as a form of offensive weapon to create your own circumstances in the face of unexpected dangers.	/r/TheRedPill	20/03/16 04:59 PM
4	Woman with high partner count admits the "3X Rule" is true. Is horrified by her own daughter's partner count in the same time frame. This is a very important topic. Let´s say you´re consider a lifetime investment, or parental invenstment, with a partner. Then you certainly will need a way to gauge whether or not she is suitable for that job or not. You cannot just ask a woman how many partners she´s had in her life and expect her to answer honestly. What she can consciously control shouldn't be trusted when it comes to such matters. What I believe we have to do is to gauge their everyday behavior and most importantly the unco…	/r/TheRedPill	19/03/16 05:21 AM
2	Ever Have Girls Come to You? To make her approach you through a bait is all about giving her space, and not about applying pressure to show your interest in her. There are several ways to do this. One is to get yourself noticed at different places without approaching her. You'll get her attention this way, and if she wants to bridge the gap, she will have to come to you. Another one is to infiltrate her social circle; Befriend her friends, class mates etc. You can use them to reach out to her through a third party by planti…	/r/TheRedPill	17/03/16 08:22 PM
2	Ever Have Girls Come to You? Absolutely, but not the way most would imagine. The most effective form of approach IMO is through a passive aggressive form of bait, to make her believe that she is the one approaching you. It is much more effective since there won't be any resistance and defensiveness from her, meanwhile your intentions are disguised. She is essentially in control, or so she believes. It´s not hard: just let her notice you, infiltrate her social network, draw attention, without approaching.	/r/TheRedPill	17/03/16 07:44 PM
3	[Front Page Reddit] Men should have the right to ‘abort’ responsibility for an unborn child, Swedish political group says There is absolutely no way anything like Vasalgel will be handed out just like that, without any resistance, or new laws to counter it, or anything. When women really realizes what a threat it really represents they´ll be whirling around like chicken on a lost island and find some way to demonize and forbid that thing.	/r/TheRedPill	12/03/16 11:14 AM
1	[Redpill Theory] Artificially lowering your SMV to Prevent False Rape Accusations use with caution The strategy is certainly good but I think you missed one important thing and that is to tailor your self-deprection act without letting it rub off on your reputation too much. Lying about a family death and being on antidep might do it short term, but what if it spreads out in your social circle? What if she comes to realize you were lying? There's an art to how to sacrifice a plate swiftly in messy or difficult situations: suffocating her with love and attention: be clinging and possessive you…	/r/TheRedPill	20/02/16 11:30 PM
1	What are the books that really had an impact on your life and changed your worldview? So many ancient Greek classics, then Seneca, Marcus Aurelius, Tacitus, all of the works of Machiavelli, perhaps Musashi, many books by Nietzsche, Dangerous Liaisons, and plenty of contemporary books too numerous to mention.	/r/TheRedPill	14/02/16 09:45 PM
-3	RedPillReadingGroup is reading Models for the month of February. Join challenges, ask questions, discuss, and more. Join us as we put theory into practice. Models is absolutely not Red Pill material. Absolutely not.	/r/TheRedPill	31/01/16 09:33 PM
2	Why YOU should give olympic weightlifting a shot, if you want to be the most masculine, rock hard version of yourself. (AKA why olympic weightlifting is the greatest sport on earth) Olympic weightlifting is likely the best training method to enhance your strength, explosiveness, coordination etc. If you want to achieve a high level of athleticism, then olympic lifting should be a staple in your fitness program. They´re also increasingly pleasurable to perform on your own since you´ll start to notice the importance of timing, flexibility issues you have that needs to be corrected, how fast the different pulls needs to be. You become pleasantly lost and consumed by it. But if…	/r/TheRedPill	09/01/16 01:51 PM
4	Two reminders for newbies: 1) money won't get you the sex you want. 2) Identify your buffers and slay them. Money might help you get pussy, but will it help you get a wet or dry one?	/r/TheRedPill	16/12/15 07:38 PM
1	Why I'm Done With LTRs. If it benefits you to be in a relationship with a women, presumably you'll want to end up in a relationship i.e a desirable outcome. If you want a pump and dump kind of relationship then you'll engineer yourself to end up there. Once again: a dependence to the outcome. Outcome independence is just a flawed concept because it does not exist.	/r/TheRedPill	12/12/15 11:58 PM
2	Why I'm Done With LTRs. If you are in a committed relationship presumably the reason for that is a way to control the outcome. So what the hell is this outcome independence you are talking about? Why the hell would I bother talking with a girl, putting effort, time and an emotional entanglement in a relationship, if the outcome is completely irrelevant?	/r/TheRedPill	12/12/15 11:11 PM
2	Life After 30: How to Be an Old Guy How important have friends and school/college buddies been to you guys? Or the idea of networking in college and early on in life? I tend to focus very much on myself and by myself. Somewhat of a loner, but I don't feel bad about it. It´s just a compromise that works well for me career wise, but I haven't really considered if I´ll one day regret it.	/r/TheRedPill	09/12/15 09:55 PM
2	Best book to buy Best in my opinion by a long shot: Greene's "Art of Seduction". Beware though that his operative isn't one in "how to get laid" but one in how to make someone fall in love deeply with you and how to influence people but it can surely be used to your interactions with women. You'll get a fantastic understanding on the social dynamic and different seductive strategies. It's quite a long read that requires good amount of experimentation, patient, strategic thinking but the effort will pay off in th…	/r/seduction	08/12/15 12:28 AM
3	How do you stop being anxious and shy around women? Come on, who are we kidding? Obviously he has a favorable outcome here and that is to make a good impression and seduce her. You'll have to tug it out. It is not something you can learn by reading or equip yourself with more knowledge, but through practice, experience and dare I say, some suffering.	/r/seduction	06/12/15 09:24 PM
1	Mark Manson: my or the highway? Best is going to depend on your goal. My personal favorite is Greene's Art of Seduction. Are you a youngster aiming for hooking up with plenty women or are you a career man seeking to learn seduction for a more long term influence over people? Personally I am not a fan of Mark Manson's book Models and his overall philosophy. Not that it doesn't have good tips here n there but it's not really geared toward seductive tactics per se as he puts more emphasize on his opinionated self improvement guid…	/r/seduction	06/12/15 09:13 PM
11	Always Default to Game I believe Robert Greene succinctly adressess this in the preface of The Art of Seduction: ”A seducer does not turn the power off and on—every social and personal interaction is seen as a potential seduction. There is never a moment to waste. This is so for several reasons. The power seducers have over a man or woman works in social environments because they have learned how to tone down the sexual element without getting rid of it. We may think we see through them, but they are so pleasant to be…	/r/TheRedPill	07/11/15 09:20 AM
5	Why, "Just be yourself" is a bunch of bullshit. (A video for your High School Mentees.) What it really means is "be predictable. Don't confuse us. We need to able to make a good judgement of you so if you're just 'being yourself' its going to much easier for us". I despise it. I adhere to a less static and more fluid concept of being. Of course we cannot just be ourselves. We are always trying to make a good impression on women and molding our characters etc. even if it is in many ways unconscious. And it doesn't just apply to relationships with women, but life in general. Are you …	/r/TheRedPill	23/09/15 10:33 PM
1	Well fuck. Welcome on board. The prevalent advice is to lift, socialize , get pussy but I'm of the opinion that your no.1 priority should be to think clearly about your passion and interests in life and craft a plan to achieve these. This is very urgent and supercedes everything else. To do this you will need to become realistic to the core; a modern day courtier that knows how to get his things in life. There is no one way street here to get here, you will need to find your path. To arm yourself through t…	/r/TheRedPill	16/09/15 07:10 PM
3	Keep Your Goddamn Mouth Shut! I believe we have all done this kind of mistake. I certainly have. Realize that people are defensive and hence are resistive to logical arguments. Not just women but men too. Tell people what they want to hear to get them to like you and lower their resistances. Now it becomes easier to operate. In general you should preach through actions, insuinations and let other connect the dots and see the truth.	/r/TheRedPill	16/09/15 12:45 PM
6	Escape from Compulsive Escapism "All of man's troubles come from not knowing how to sit still, alone in a room" —Blaise Pascal	/r/TheRedPill	15/09/15 03:59 PM
27	Marriage through the eyes of an attorney. I've always found Robert Greene's point of view about Exit strategy(Chapter 22 in 33 Strategies Of War) to be perfectly applied to the constitution of marriage: ”The great German general Erwin Rommel once made a distinction between a gamble and a risk. Both cases involve an action with only a chance of success, a chance that is heightened by acting with boldness. The difference is that with a risk, if you lose, you can recover: your reputation will suffer no long-term damage, your resources will…	/r/TheRedPill	12/09/15 05:46 AM
3	How do you know if a woman is a slut or not? I also want to fill in to tell you that it is also about the impact that a guy/guys makes on here, not just the amount of guys she has been with. It is my belief that it is enough for one guy to sort of mess up with a women for a long time, while a girl who has been with 3-4 'mediocre' guys is still fair game for LTR.	/r/TheRedPill	08/09/15 08:36 PM
1	I repeat: it is unproductive to hate fish (women) for swimming (hypergamy) ”You must allow everyone the right to exist in accordance with the character he has, whatever it turns out to be: and all you should strive to do is to make use of this character in such a way as its kind of nature permits, rather than to hope for any alteration in it, or to condemn it offhand for what it is. This is the true sense of the maxim—Live and let live…. To become indignant at [people’s] conduct is as foolish as to be angry with a stone because it rolls into your path. And with many pe…	/r/TheRedPill	08/09/15 07:53 PM
3	Post-wall women tells the truth, that you become invisible after 50. Sure, losing your physical beauty as a women must be a good reality slap to wake up to. But I mean come on: over time everyone is losing the youthful energy, the physical fitness. There is only so much you can do to conserve that. What you actually must strive to conserve over time is your mind; to keep that openness,to not create rigidity constraints and be heavily stuck in the past way of thinking. That's perhaps what I fear most of all.	/r/TheRedPill	07/09/15 10:10 PM
2	Why money does make you happy I don't think that 'Money doesn't make you happy' boilerplate is wrong per se, it's just that most people don't interpret it as intended. The large problem today with people's happiness is the lack of goals in life, partly because they're easily distracted and seek quick hedonistic pleasure; Instagram, blogs, social media, TV shows, Call of Duty, latest gadget, football etc. and money because a means to achieve this.	/r/TheRedPill	07/09/15 04:39 PM
25	How dressing well can help improve your mood, raise confidence levels, increase your SMV, and get more looks from women. If you're a fit guy with relatively low body fat, nothing courts more attention than well fitted(or should I just say tight?) clothes. The looks I get wearing a tight shirt after a gym session is insane. You guys should try it out. Number two tip: Don't just wear nice clothes. Have a look - a look that is congruent to your persona/character.	/r/TheRedPill	02/09/15 10:14 PM
2	Frame Alright, good example there. I really don't label things as good or evil. I much prefer to see events(and results of these) and then form a moral code that is as fluid as my circumstances allows them to be. Amoral you could say. But is it necessary to establish frame control outwardly or is inwardly enough? Usually I nod and agree with people to whatever they might say. Mostly because their opinion doesn't matter to me in the long run or simply because I find most people to be resistive to argum…	/r/TheRedPill	27/08/15 01:21 PM
3	Frame Is 'frame control' essentialy the same thing as 'presence of mind' ?	/r/TheRedPill	27/08/15 12:47 AM
2	I took notes on each chapter of "The Book of Pook" and want to share here Unless you're well aware of your situation they will definitely make you lose track of your dreams, potential and happiness. I was a football player in my younger days and when I think back of all us young men in their late teen in long distance relationships, wasted effort on chasing money over passion, career goals which has a surplus of chicks...it makes me cringe.	/r/TheRedPill	10/05/15 06:07 PM
17	How many of you tried numerous relationships and found they're just not for you? I'm 30 now and was in long term relationships with beautiful but crazy and emotionally immature chicks for nearly all of my 20's. I viewed women differently than I do now for most of that time and I thought that there was reasoning behind their words and actions. I tried to make those relationships work on a peer or equal partner kind of level, and it kept blowing up in my face. It took me a while to figure out that I have to build my own life and grant girls the privilege of being a part of it …	/r/TheRedPill	18/02/15 07:34 PM
8	[48 Days of Power] Day 20 - "Do not commit to anyone." In essence it is what real power is all about - complete control over the directions of our lives. Commitment to anything will always limit this whether it is educational, relationships etc.	/r/TheRedPill	04/12/14 07:25 PM
1	[48 Days of Power] Day 18 - "Do not build fortresses to protect yourself - isolation is dangerous." How does this translate to Monk Mode?	/r/TheRedPill	02/12/14 05:23 PM
3	Its a catch 22 no women is worth getting married to, don't let yourself be convinced otherwise This is actually one of those concerns I believe we don't have a concrete good solution for. Spinning plates by all means but for many of us there comes a time when children and possibly a close unit family is desirable, yet marriage is a fool's errand. What is the healthiest approach here?	/r/TheRedPill	01/12/14 02:46 PM