Bob_miller Archive

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2	She doesn't care about you. You care about you. They do. I'm absolutely shit with game/talking/reading social queues. You know what I've got? Confidence and humility. I'm overweight, didn't have a real date until after I was in my 30s. I married the first woman I had a real relationship with and she cheated on me. In the process of unfucking my mind from that situation I had a great therapist that helped me. There are a couple lessons I learned, but the important one that pertains to your question is this: Don't be ashamed of what you aren't,…	/r/TheRedPill	17/04/16 02:31 PM
1	Why you become her Enemy during divorce and ever after. I'm not sure if it counts as holding frame, but I'll call that what I did. Those people who counted (my friends and family) were blasted with what a horrible person I was and the atrocities I committed (supposedly photo shopping myself over photos of my brother and his wife was one). I said fuck it and just continued to be me. I never went scandalous or anything when I talked about what she did, said why I was separating from her, and later why I was divorcing her. Made sure to not speculate or …	/r/TheRedPill	15/01/15 10:31 PM
0	Never date a woman who won't do sexual things with you that she did with her other partners. I'm in your same situation. In my opinion, who cares if she's done crazy stuff and we haven't? Be who you are, be proud of who you are. If her actions are a deal breaker than break it off. If they aren't go with it if that's what you want. If they think your boring oh well, be who you are and do what you want. There is always a time to go non-vanilla if that is what you want, someone who has been there before and is willing to go there with you can be a pretty good way to break your vanilla stre…	/r/TheRedPill	18/12/14 06:07 PM
2	TRP and Therapy Find one that works for you. Call them up, email them and ask them questions. If you know the basics of TRP you should be able to find one that works for you and I'd think that if they weren't what you'd needed you would know quick. A good therapist should mesh up nicely with MGTOW sort of ideals. They should basically empower you to make the decisions yourself. They should challenge you to be self-reflective, to investigate what your coping strategies and distortions are, guide you through figu…	/r/TheRedPill	14/12/14 05:46 PM
1	The Conceptual Box: Get rid of it NOW I have a question, is it worth it though to you if your wife pays attention to you now that you have improved yourself when she didn't before. Is it an almost positive reinforcement for her behavior of ignoring you. She ignores you, you improve yourself (which hey we should all do anyways) and now she rewards you by giving you attention. Is you making this change then acting like everything is okay now reinforcing her behavior. My background and my views that color this question. I am in the pro…	/r/TheRedPill	20/10/14 06:11 PM
1	4chan user gets a taste of female hypergamy I disagree with you. Yes Revenge can be a great thing, but I like the idea of me empowerment. If I were to try to live my life to get back at an ex (gf/wife/whatever) then I'm giving them power over my actions. I'm going to live my life according to my rules and my morals. I've been cheated on, I'm putting her out of my life as much as I can, shared bills/divorce/kid is the only contact she gets from me. And even then two of those are only because I need to do them to get her out of my life.	/r/TheRedPill	03/10/14 11:45 AM
2	Woman cheats on fiancé by drunkenly kissing her player co-worker at a party. Doesn't seem realize that actions have consequences. My soon to be ex wife tried that after I discovered her cheating. She said it was in the past and why couldn't we get past it. In my head the scene from the Lion King with Rafiki hitting Simba in the head popped up. It really is a scene with a lot of RL truth in it.	/r/TheRedPill	02/10/14 11:41 AM
5	A prisoner impregnated 4 guards and got 2 of them having his name tattooed, all while incarcerated From my experience no, especially now that PREA is such a large focus in prisons. Some of the rules are a bit strong, but it's made that way in an effort to drive rape down to as close to zero as we can. I have to explain that I am not an officer in the prison and PREA related info (if an offender has been molested/raped any time in their life is very very confidential (as should all health info)). My experience and what I hear from officers/former officers and from reading reports is that a lot…	/r/TheRedPill	01/10/14 08:58 PM
23	A prisoner impregnated 4 guards and got 2 of them having his name tattooed, all while incarcerated Do you work in a prison? I do. He was raped, the people who raped him (female guards/personnel) will go on trial for rape and will get incarcerated. One of the first things they teach us in academy (EVERYONE who works at a prison not just officers) is what your boundaries are while working in a prison. They explain how offenders are stuck there 24 hours a day and one of their favorite games is to turn guards/other prison workers.	/r/TheRedPill	01/10/14 05:08 PM
2	Beta's wife "falls in love" with someone else over facebook, but doesn't want a divorce. Arranges to meet lover for fuckfest while he's in town tonight. Beta husband blames himself, refuses to leave her. Thanks for the welcome. I've been sort of lurking in this subreddit for awhile. This is sort of a throw away for me. To discuss some more personal things that I don't want broadcast to the world on my normal login. That one is a bit easier to track down to me in RL and I don't want future employers/family/friends to be able to see all that goes on in my head.	/r/TheRedPill	26/09/14 02:30 AM
2	Beta's wife "falls in love" with someone else over facebook, but doesn't want a divorce. Arranges to meet lover for fuckfest while he's in town tonight. Beta husband blames himself, refuses to leave her. Hopefully he will eventually see it as a wakeup call. My wife's affairs have been the fire that burned me down to ashes for me to be reborn into what I am now. I was like this guy, I was a 'nice guy'. Got my wife flowers all the time, tended to her every needs, gave her tons of attention,etc. Totally beta. I believed her when she downplayed her first emotional affair, the second was a bit of a wakeup but I still didn't assert myself. It took me a few years, building up anger, discovering more in…	/r/TheRedPill	26/09/14 01:52 AM
1	Beta's wife "falls in love" with someone else over facebook, but doesn't want a divorce. Arranges to meet lover for fuckfest while he's in town tonight. Beta husband blames himself, refuses to leave her. I guess I don't get the whole laughing at emotional cheating. Are you laughing because he doesn't view it as full cheating? In my experience it's a real thing. It's the reason my soon to be ex-wife (finalizing papers for filing now) is my soon to be ex-wife and not my wife. It's infidelity as much as physical infidelity is. Should be treated and punished the same. Divorce.	/r/TheRedPill	26/09/14 12:48 AM