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It was never outdated. It was just not particularly great. The Core of it was correct, but a lot of the other things weren't optimal and were added so he could have his own style which he could pitch. Which worked cause the core works. Pick up and social dynamics hasn't changed. It is a solved problem with depends on skill, application and outside factors aligning. There is nothing new anyone can teach you about it there hasn't been out in the public for the last 10 years. The only thing that is…
/r/seduction04/11/24 04:20 AM
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This depends. Something you usually have to do is set a time restriction on yourself when on campus (during day hours). So it is kind of hard to do that and hang out. It can be done if you think the set is going REALLY well. If you ask for a number (particularly on campus) then a good idea is to set a plan. "I'll call you back and we can go have coffee at such and such a place". That is better than just a number. I don't like to hang out during day game much. It makes you too available but that …
/r/seduction15/12/18 09:53 AM
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Most likely give up at this point. You should have been more direct. She doesn't want to talk about literature or answer 50 questions. She said she was going out to a club. She doesn't want a pen pal. If she is on Tinder she wants to get down. You're only hope at this point IF you want to keep going is be the fun one. Post stuf on your own insta about being at a club. Upload pics of it. Show yourself out with friends/dancing with girls. Be fun and have an awesome time. Send her a message while y…
/r/seduction15/12/18 09:47 AM
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Most approaches end in rejection. Just how it is. The best people at game in the world can't do anything about it. All you can do is hang in there and keep approaching and learn to approach and game better. In the end the problem isn't as big as you think. You just need to learn to be better socially and gain confidence. You can do it. I suggest you stay on this board as well as watch youtube vids on pick up. Then you need to apply it. Don't just watch it. Actually do it. You need to have in you…
/r/seduction15/12/18 09:42 AM
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Thanks for the feedback. Good point on the sexual vibe thing. I have trouble with showing that too without going a bit too far (particularly during day interactions). Night interactions are super easy though. About the touch barrier I suppose that is debatable on how to do it in a 4 minute day game number pull. All I will say is the fist pound was good but I can't help but think there could have been more. Considering the girl was seated that probably makes it harder to find a reason to be fair.…
/r/seduction27/11/18 06:44 PM
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i noticed a few potential minor issues you could fix. Don't apologize for talking to her. It is a small thing but when you do so much well this is what you nitpick. You broke the touch barrier only once. In a 4 minute convo it would be better to break it 2 or maybe even 3 times even in day game. The conversational flow started REALLY well but I think you got too into TV shows as a subject. I felt like you lost a bit of momentum there. The biggest issue is you teased and flirted well but i don't …
/r/seduction27/11/18 05:20 AM
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Here is the thing. It doesn't really matter what you say but how you say it. When you talk to her ask yourself this question: Willing this trigger a positive emotional response in her? If not then why ask it? Interview questions are useless. No one ever wanted to have sex with anyone else because they want to such and such a high school or liked graphic design. When you talk to her come into he conversation with good energy and make sure the conversation isn't dependent on her responses or givin…
/r/seduction25/11/18 03:00 AM
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Here is what you need to do. Study. Seriously. Look online and learn about female anatomy and what kinds of sensations tend to feel good. Also learn about erogenous zones. A lot comes down to your mental approach in bed. Generally girls like guys who dominate them in the bedroom. It doesn't need to be whips and chains (though that can be nice). But even things like telling her to position herself a certain way can be good. Of course ask her, but ask before and after sex. Don't ask during if you …
/r/seduction24/11/18 01:08 AM
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Well I would ask her why they aren't married. That is a fair question after 10 years. Depending on the answer you may or may not have a chance to do something. I tend to believe that you are free to do what you like. If she is willing to jump ship with him than that is on her and not you. No one forces anyone to do something they don't want. As far as advice. Just run your game. Simple as that. I doubt it will work though even if you have the best game in the world if she really loves him.
/r/seduction24/11/18 01:05 AM
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If you are determined to go after her (and you shouldn't fixate on one girl... lots of fish in the seas) then the best thing to do is to take it slow. The work place is one of the only places where a slow game is better. What you need to do first is be social with other people at work and let people see you are the leader of your social group. After that you should talk in general about dates and experiences you had that are interesting. Story telling is one of the best tools to gain attraction …
/r/seduction23/11/18 09:44 AM
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Here's what happened. She likes you but not as a boyfriend. You didn't give off that kind of vibe to her. That is the reason she doesn't want to see you again. Simple as that. So what she is doing is going back on OKC to look for other guys. Here is how i know this. You mentioned you picked 2 unique places she liked. Who cares? Not her clearly. That obviously didn't help you or matter in the least. The truth is it pretty much wouldn't have mattered where you took her. You said you had a lot of c…
/r/seduction23/11/18 09:26 AM
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Honestly a lot of this comes with experience. When is a girl hitting on you? When she bites her lip, gives you a big long smile, makes eye contact for a beat too long, looks at you then quickly looks away, plays with her hair or rubs her arm around you, ect... Look up 'indicators of interest' As for making a move the main issues newbies have i 'what do i say?' 'How do I start the conversation?' This is the LEAST important thing about picking up a girl as long as you don't use horrible generic pi…
/r/seduction22/11/18 04:13 AM
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Everyone has fear. It is stupid but natural. You will never get rid of it. You only get use to it and lessen it. I've known very very few people who have absolutely no approach anxiety. If you already have a girlfriend and you really like her you don't need to approach other women due to fear of losing your gains. The skill set you have now will not be lost. Here is an idea though. IF you want to keep working on pickup while being in a relationship go out as a wing man for one of your single fri…
/r/seduction22/11/18 04:03 AM
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Yes that is the ideal thing kind of pick up in the middle of the day where people are busy. The reason you don't want to leave the second after getting a number is cause it shows a lack of confidence and it tells her you see her number as a big deal to you. Messages you don't want to send.
/r/seduction22/11/18 03:56 AM
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Oh. LOL. For some reason i took this question to mean an online chat in which a phone number is just an extra unneeded step. In a face to face meeting you should be number closing at about 5 minutes and you do for sure want a number. To answer for a face to face meeting the question becomes where does the chat take place? Are we in a hyper sexualized club environment or talking to a girl on the street in the middle of the day. Keep in mind while this is the general guideline it does depend on th…
/r/seduction21/11/18 03:53 PM
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The first interaction should be in person cause he first thought may be 'why didn't he come to talk me?' It sets you up as not being confident which is instantly unattractive. You may be awkward but everyone in high school is pretty awkward. What you need to do is after class walk up to her (even if she is with friends) and ask if you can talk with her alone about something real quick. Then you take a few step from her friends. No big deal. Here is a way to make yourself relax if you are really …
/r/seduction20/11/18 09:05 PM
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It's okay bud. I don't even speak a 2nd language :P Here are some things I wish someone told me when I was 17 in high school. First off, the girl is into you. From what you are telling me there is no question about it. She just like almost all young people in high school (you included and me included when i went) and is super awkward about the whole thing. She may have a boyfriend and she may not. But why do you care? Act as if she doesn't. Believe me, a high school girlfriend or boyfriend means…
/r/seduction20/11/18 08:49 PM
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escalate but pay close attention to the way she acts and do so in a teasing way. If she comes over the top at you then match her intensity. If she hesitates a bit pull back but act like it isn't a big deal. Remember, if you do something she doesn't like it will only make her feel more weird and uncomfortable if you make a big deal of it. the best way to avoid that is to make slow increases in escalation.
/r/seduction20/11/18 08:30 PM
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You are in the friend zone. Here is how you get out. The first thing that works in your favor is she keeps coming back to you for emotional support. That means she really wants you in her life and likes you. First is to cut the time you talk to her way down. Your time from now on is in demand. You have other things you need to do in life and frankly your focus can't just be about her. No more long conversations! Not for a while. Period. Use a lot of 'I have to go', 'I'm meeting someone' or 'I'm …
/r/seduction20/11/18 06:11 PM
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You are going about this wrong from the start IMO. College is a great place to pick up girls because it's insulated. Be funny, be social, be manly and authoritative without being a dick. You want to focus on getting a large group of friends. Male and female alike. If you can do that a lot of girls will just fall into your lap even with even a B or C level game. As much as girls say they don't like guys who are 'players' they don't hate them either. Also being on the radar as a player is MUCH bet…
/r/seduction20/11/18 05:54 PM
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It depends on the girl. Is she local? Is she shy? It isn't about length of time as much what you say. Just be flirty and fun and it will happen. Also if it is local you are better off setting up a meet than getting her number. If you ask a girl for her number she doesn't know if you will try to call her all the time after she meets you if she doesn't like you. She would probably prefer the option to have a clean break and just not respond to your messages. You're better off not asking for it unl…
/r/seduction20/11/18 05:47 PM
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That doesn't matter a ton. Here is what matters in a dating profile. Photos! Lots and lot of photos. Photos of you looking good, photos of you with friend and photos of you doing fun things. Extra points if you get photos with some female friends who are pretty. That is 95% of a dating profile really. After that you can worry about everything else. After that you need to turn things that are not considering good into upbeat positive things. For instance instead of saying you're shy say something…
/r/seduction20/11/18 05:43 PM
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In that case the safer move is just go to a party and send her a few picks. If she ask why you didn't invite her then tell her you didn't think of it and that you'll invite her to the next one. Also try to pick up one of the girls there just to practice. This gives you 2 pick up shots as opposed to one.
/r/seduction18/11/18 11:39 AM
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A party is fine if you go in with the right attitude and mind set. If you do a party date then you need to be king of the party or damn close to it. If it works you have set yourself as super high value and she will basically fall in your lap. If not you risk losing her to someone else there that night. The key to a party date (if you do it) is to have the most fun you can with a bunch of people. Make the party work around you. If you are fun and getting other people and girls interested in what…
/r/seduction18/11/18 07:50 AM
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That's okay. You don't need to have it all planned out from the beginning. As long as you make the calls quickly and firmly you're fine. For instance a conversation leading to lunch should go like this. You: Are you hungry yet? Her: Yes/No - If no move on to something else quickly. If yes. You: Do you prefer Italian or Mexico or something else? I could go for anything. Her: I don't know. Anything is fine. You: In that case would you give me directions to a close by Italian place? I don't know an…
/r/seduction18/11/18 07:42 AM
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This is a tough one. I would say the best thing to do is to just be very direct. They are not in the best head space to meet someone but if they're at a coffee shop that means they are open to the idea. If they absolutely didn't want to be interrupted they would be at home. I would say a direct announcing of intentions is the best thing to do followed by a standard push pull comment. After that you can build the frame and reverse it to explain why they should chase you but you need to get their …
/r/seduction18/11/18 07:26 AM
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If you want to get with her, you need text her back something completely unrelated. If you can, make it a picture of you out having fun. Don't make it of you hooking up with another girl as that looks needy. Just you out at a bar or club or whatever with friends or something like that. Then say some throw away comment like 'Does my friend seem like he needs to call an Uber? haha' or 'Do you believe this?' Showing her a pic of something you saw. This is a great way to regain her attention and mak…
/r/seduction18/11/18 07:12 AM
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It is possible that 2 things came up on those days and frankly a random online guy shouldn't be a high priority for her. Is she a high priority for you? I hope the answer is no. Here is what you do. Tell her these times work best for you and name only a few options. If she can make one then set it and make it clear without being a dick that you are not willing to reschedule again. '3 strikes and you're out' so to speak. Now it is very important that you set something else up for that day and tel…
/r/seduction16/11/18 12:41 PM
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First off you need to get her out of the classroom environment. If she sees you as only a student it is hard to take the next step even if she finds you easy on the eyes. Your main issues seems to be you need to make a move instead of googly eyes. The longer it takes you to approach in a meaningful way the lower your value will be. While building tension is nice, eventually it needs to be let out. Do this. After class tell her that you want to ask her a few questions. After the first few tell he…
/r/seduction16/11/18 12:27 PM
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Big mistake. That may have actually scared him off. Here is what he heard when you said that: 'This is the way a boyfriend and girlfriend act together in public, and I want you to stop.' You need to pick it up again. Let him know you are cool with it now and that you are happy as long as you are with him. Once you two are together acting as if you are boyfriend and girlfriend it isn't a big leap to make it official. Tell him how so many guys are assholes but you love how he isn't and how he gets…
/r/seduction16/11/18 12:15 PM
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How old are you both? Do you have anything in common besides writing? Is he social? I would say try to find some activities you can do together and be physical in public. See how that feels with both of you. I think you should try to be sexfriends who do a lot of things together first as an in between and see how he likes that.
/r/seduction16/11/18 04:02 AM
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It isn't how much conversation you have as much as how good the conversation is and when it ends. Here are the key tips. 1 When you start a conversation be fun and interesting. Don't just ask 'How is your day?' Start it with 'You'll never believe what happened to me today! I was at blah blah blah and then blah blah blah!' Or you can say 'Hey, I need your advice. IDK if this girl is into me or not and i'm awful at reading the signs' Then get into what happened. Those kind of openers pull people i…
/r/seduction16/11/18 03:58 AM
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No. Unless you the person you are trying to pick up is one you see often (at the office, school or somewhere else) you need to kino escalate. Just don't be creepy or weird about it. Also if she seems unperceptive back off. If you aren't going to touch her to be 'respectful' you may as well just not try to pick up a stranger cause it probably won't work. Especially in a club like atmosphere. As for your hands? IDK. Just try to calm down?
/r/seduction10/11/18 10:12 AM
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No and Not really. It wasn't a bad response but it wasn't good. Then again, not every response to her questions or statements needs to be clever.
/r/seduction10/11/18 10:07 AM
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First off, if a girl says 'thank you' after a compliment, you probably already did it wrong IF your goal is to get her interested in you. Here's how you compliment a woman you are trying to pursue. You need to create a 'push-pull' effect. IE tension, but GOOD tension. Fun lighthearted tension. There are a few ways to do this. One is to give a subtle insult. The pick up community calls it a 'neg'. Generally I don't do it cause it can go wrong and come out as too mean. It has become more obviously…
/r/seduction10/11/18 09:56 AM
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Be social with everyone. Right now you are scared of rejection. Scared that a tight group of friends will reject you. Scared to go out alone to pick up girls. Until you get over those things nothing else will help you. My advice is this. Every day talk to 10 new people. Can be anyone but not just a hello. Strike up a conversation. Don't stop till you have had 10 conversations with people of 3-5 minutes or so. Do that for 2-3 weeks. After that go back to your college and do the same. Do not appro…
/r/seduction31/07/17 05:21 PM
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No WTF to it. For whatever reason you made her bored. Probably your hour talk wasn't as good as you thought. Maybe she wanted a more physical one time (she was in a club) as opposed to a BF. Change your mindset for the social interaction you are in. Conversation yes.... But when at a club you need to assume until she says otherwise she is looking to get a little wild. You were acting like you were on a first date at a restaurant in which such an interaction for an hour be fine. In a club you nee…
/r/seduction31/07/17 05:07 PM
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