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Nope, do not give her a pass to go test drive other men for a while, because that’s what she will likely do. And why would you move out? Do not leave the house under any circumstance, at least until you speak with a lawyer. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 09:21 PM
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She is a serial cheater. Move on with your life, concentrate on being the best coparent you can be. You will never trust her again, so this is for the best. Let her have her internet fantasy man and go live your best life.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 09:18 PM
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This is possible. But don’t get too fancy, make it clear you want a fair, inexpensive, collaborative divorce and then you will consider the future. Has she completely come clean about the affair? Make that clear as well, no more lying - if she wants a chance she needs to stop sticking to the “nothing physical” BS. They went out on dates, you don’t believe it there was nothing physical. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 09:15 PM
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Oh, that must have pissed l her off…. lol
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 09:02 PM
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Just because she won’t admit it out loud doesn’t mean that she isn’t aware of exactly what she has done. You can be sure of that.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 10:33 PM
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Time to stop the friendly conversation. Work the 180. Don’t be mean or rude, just treat her like you would any other acquaintance. If she isn’t going to act like a good wife, why would you act like a good husband?
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/26 10:19 PM
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Your lawyer is likely trying to build a case to shield your daughters against this person, OP. Talk with him about strategy, this might just be a way to get other accommodations in the final decree, like background checks on future romantic partners, no cohabitation while the children are present for X years after the divorce is final, etc. Or he might just be going for the jugular if you are in an at-fault state. Or all of the above. Talk with your lawyer and make sure you know the plan and are…
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 02:02 PM
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OP, if there is ANY chance you might need to be around her you must get a VAR to protect yourself. Just keep it on and in your pocket at all times. Hang in there.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 01:52 PM
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“No” is a complete sentence, OP. Stay the course.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 01:47 PM
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You need to see a family law lawyer right now, OP. You are just winging this for some reason and are making mistakes that could cost you dearly in the divorce. Stop doing that. See a lawyer NOW and follow their instructions exactly.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 03:52 PM
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Blow it up in your town and do it quick, OP. Her father/family are way ahead of you on creating a false narrative about what happened.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/25 04:54 PM
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Subtle? Nope.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 02:52 AM
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Your lawyer will likely tell you to not leave the house. Do not move out, even temporarily, until you speak with a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 02:50 AM
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Time to be done OP. Boundaries are worthless without follow-through. You can do it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 08:00 PM
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In Texas it could be a lot farther than that…. OP needs to pay for an hour of a lawyers time to at least review the agreement with him.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 04:47 PM
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Open individual accounts. Route your pay to that account. You pay all the bills. Stop giving her “fun” money. You can either put money in the joint account for groceries, or just do the shopping yourself. Listen, she needs to experience what living on her own feels like. Start the 180. Go gray rock. Be polite, but don’t do things for her. Talk only about bills, the kids and the divorce. She chose this, give her a preview of life without you. Honestly, if you want her to try again for some reason…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 06:42 PM
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Did she give him money yet? Check into that if you aren’t sure. That’s the goal of these online romance scammers.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 01:41 AM
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This OP. X1000. You can move into your mom’s house to get away from your cheating wife while you divorce her. What your mom chooses to do with the ownership of that house after the divorce is none of your STBX’s business. Hang in there.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 01:30 AM
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Make sure you keep a good record of all repairs and improvements you paid for to get the home ready to sell, and take half that amount from her half of the proceeds when the house is sold. But you must keep very detailed records, receipts, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 01:48 AM
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You would have to do a cash out refinance of the mortgage and pay her out of the proceeds.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 01:46 AM
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Finally. Too bad she didn’t care enough to do that when you repeatedly asked her in recent years…. You are not the bad guy here OP. Don’t let a counselor convince you otherwise.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 03:38 AM
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Stop spending money on someone who is determined to leave you. Come on man, you are just prolonging the pain and the desperation is not a good look. Sometimes the best last chance to save your marriage is to pull back completely except for convos about the divorce and the kids, stop offering help and pay only what you owe. Let her experience what being on her own will truly be like. What do you have to lose? But you must be all-in on that, if she doesn’t come around then it’s full-speed ahead on…
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 03:35 AM
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Hang in there man. We’re pulling for you…. This whole thing sucks but you WILL be okay in the end. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 11:11 PM
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You need to tell his spouse about the affair OP, it’s the right thing to do. Also, cheaters lie a lot - you don’t really know how long the affair went on for, why they stopped (or if they have hooked up since then), etc. I wouldn’t believe a thing she says at this point… Also, post her responses to your questions when you have time. Stay strong, you are doing great given the circumstances.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 10:10 PM
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I’d love to hear what her answers were…. Especially what her AP was trying to accomplish. Do you know of he is married? Stay strong OP. You are doing great.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 02:25 AM
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Interview two more Divorce lawyers OP. I bet your experience with them is very different. Is this guy not a family lawyer specialist? You do t want to use the guy who specializes in traffic tickets and DUI cases.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 06:32 PM
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Quick question - did your parents find this lawyer for you? If so do not go back to him. I just can’t get past the feeling like this lawyer is trying to drive you back to your WW.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 05:59 PM
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Okay. It will get better, just stay the course. And you are right, the trust is gone and that is enough. The rest doesn’t matter. You will be okay! Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 05:18 AM
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So did she manage to mostly convince you that she didn’t have an EA or PA a few months back? You were pretty sure she did not too long ago…. I hope you are hanging in there OP.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/23 04:58 AM
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Individual counseling.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 05:32 PM
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Get a better lawyer. I’m sorry you are here…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 03:55 AM
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No kidding, if your lawyer is not working for you then get a new one. Some want to just drag things out to maximize their billings…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 03:54 AM
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Listen, it’s not the “negativity of your divorce” it’s the “negativity of YOU during your divorce”…. So, get yourself into IC, or if you are in IC then work with your counselor about that in particular. There are strategies you can use…. Work with the IC on how to compartmentalize all the BS around your D. Keep in mind, your WW would probably LOVE to know that you are having a hard time due to the way she is prosecuting the D. Don’t give her that! It will be over soon enough, your job in the mea…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 03:53 AM
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If you are more concerned about protecting your assets, then she is not the right woman for you. And, I mean if somehow your jurisdiction does not allow prenups at all, then that’s the reality and you need to decide whether the woman you are dating is the right one under those circumstances. And, it sounds like she doesn’t meet that test. Best of luck to you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 03:46 AM
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I believe you have to convince the court that a special master is necessary (or that there are concerns that need to be investigated) and you have to pay for it. Exact requirements vary from state to state, your lawyer will know for sure. Hang in there.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 04:33 PM
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Talk with your lawyer about getting a special master to represent your kids…. The special master makes an end around all the he said / she said stuff that the courts don’t want to deal with, and usually has a lot of weight with the court. That person will interview them and recommend to the court what he/she feels is best for the kids. If what you are saying is true so it the last few years, you could end up getting full custody of them. Plus, since your boys are teens now the court might very w…
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/22 03:59 PM
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Yep. OP, check this out with your lawyer asap.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/22 12:29 AM
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Listen, you need to find a way to get these thoughts that you love her out of your head. Men don’t love women who treat them the way she treated you - she was waiving her affairs in your face, because she got an extra kick out of being cruel. You don’t have to hate her, but you do need to get yourself to where you feel indifferent about her. The opposite of love is indifference. Get there and you will be able to move on. Keep working with your IC on that. Make lists of all the awful things she d…
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/22 08:43 PM
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Excellent! Now just keep a low profile and let your lawyer do his job… do you think she has seen a lawyer yet? Or did she just assume that she can steamroll you into just signing whatever agreement she has drawn up? It’s just so odd that she doesn’t realize she is at risk of getting destroyed like any woman in your situation…. I’m really glad you got your feet under you, you deserve better and it sounds like your lawyer thinks you’ll get it. Hang in there!
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/22 03:12 AM
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Namronk, how did your appointment go?
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/22 02:58 AM
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