Bonki_ Archive

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2	"Parroting": A really simple technique to help make a deeper connection and drive conversations forward I tried this with a guy once. I exasperated him. You need to know who you use it with.	/r/seduction	28/11/12 04:16 AM
-6	3 Steps to Quickly Getting Over Your Ex 4) Break the hearts of the new girls you meet Play with their feelings, this is very helpful to make you feel better. Extra points if you break the new girls' hearts. Be puzzled when they throw tantrums because you act hot and cold. 5) Write a post on reddit titled "Don't stick your dick in crazy." Edit: Haha! Downvotes 'cause truth hurts.	/r/seduction	06/10/12 07:58 PM
2	What is your greatest fear that is preventing you from becoming who you want to be? Can I tell you a secret? It might be just me, I don't know, but the times I have been with my boyfriend and he didn't stay hard... I thought it was my fault or my doing something wrong. If this happened and I was in the mood, I felt challenged and came up with something, like kissing his penis or becoming flirty. If I was not in the mood for sex, (tired or whatever,) I actually felt relieved and eventually began just kissing, maybe playing something or watching videos or sleeping. Seriously, it'…	/r/seduction	17/08/12 09:59 PM
3	WTF is this ? Makes me angry ... Interesting idea, possibly helpful for the guy. Badly executed, IMO: It's a blatant ad -- which is annoying. The front of it is condescending and I think hurtful. Instead of that silly picture, I would have only placed text, saying something nice, like "It was nice meeting you." Then, on the back, I would have written things more positively, for instance: Instead of "Why did you reject this stud muffin?" (UGH;) I would have written: "You'll be hotter when you..." Instead of "Really really boring…	/r/seduction	15/08/12 09:05 PM
3	What's the best alpha way to handle a girl cancelling a date with you? This is great advice but only if she hasn't responded, as that thread you mention indicates (she is taking too long to reply to your invitation, so YOU cancel on her.) If the girl is the one who cancels, DON'T give her any explanations. It will sound forced, like you are trying too hard to sound busy.	/r/seduction	29/07/12 07:30 PM
2	Anyone else have trouble trusting in relationships now? People without these traits also cheat under a number of circumstances. You can't pigeonhole human behavior that much. Yes, it's more complex than what I posted, but that's a good hint. Also, all those traits are warning signs of abusive, overly dependent, or immature personalities. They should be general red flags in a relationship! Way too many people confuse "abusive" with "assertive / alpha," "codependent" with "caring," and "immature" with "fun / free-spirited / relaxed." You may already be…	/r/seduction	21/05/12 07:10 PM
5	Anyone else have trouble trusting in relationships now? No. A person can be selfless and empathic and still cheat. (Doormats can cheat.) This is from Dr. Paul Dobransky: TO Spot a CHEATER, all you need to know is the maturity of their personal boundary. A person with poor boundaries is scientifically incapable of commitment and loyalty in mature relationships. Here's what to look for in dating boundaries, a quick checklist: They are VERY controlling, or VERY easily "controllable" (overagreeable) Look for people who give you an intuition of feeling bo…	/r/seduction	21/05/12 05:26 PM
4	Anyone else have trouble trusting in relationships now? By "lighthearted" I meant that I wasn't preachy or nasty about it. Some people cheat when they feel trapped. One needs to set the boundaries, then relax about it. It's a fine balance. He didn't take it as "don't get caught" because he is a man of high character. That's why I mentioned the two components: I had to learn how to read people's character AND I had to learn how to make it clear (but not preachy) that I want to be monogamous.	/r/seduction	21/05/12 03:01 PM
7	Anyone else have trouble trusting in relationships now? In 2008 I got cheated on for the first time. With 3 other women. After that, it was hard to imagine trusting anyone again. From a relationship coach I learned to differentiate the cheaters from the non-cheaters and found my current boyfriend. In a lighthearted manner I let him know that the reason I broke up with that other guy was because he cheated on me. I've made myself clear, I have the tools to know who to trust. Thanks to this I am able to trust him and the relationship.	/r/seduction	21/05/12 02:15 PM
1	My Relationship Manifesto: What To Do After You Get the Girl Ok, I see what you mean. Maybe you are right and mystery is not a requirement for a LTR for every single person. Or maybe these guys you mention are very open in most ways while still keeping some of themselves out of sight. I wouldn't be able to tell without knowing a great deal about them, their GFs and their relationships. I think the most important thing is that the man doesn't feel obligated to cater to the woman's every whim, but that he -- as karmicmoondreams so wisely said it -- has a se…	/r/seduction	14/05/12 09:49 PM
1	My Relationship Manifesto: What To Do After You Get the Girl Those guys you mention, are they in long term relationships or just dating?	/r/seduction	14/05/12 06:43 PM
2	My Relationship Manifesto: What To Do After You Get the Girl This is a great point. There is a difference between being secretive and being mysterious. I understand being "secretive" as either putting up an act, or withholding information to either gain something or hide something or cheat. Being "mysterious" is simply to keep a "sacred" part of your mind off-bounds. It's kind of like the girl never completely figures out what makes you click. I wrote more here: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/tlorg/my_relationship_manifesto_what_to_do_after_yo…	/r/seduction	14/05/12 06:21 PM
2	My Relationship Manifesto: What To Do After You Get the Girl I completely agree with you. What got lost in translation is that "mysteriousness" does NOT mean "secretiveness." (Note: I apologize for using my own experience in the following example.) I've been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. We are able to talk about anything. He talks about his feelings all the time. I can ask him any question, and he will answer me. We are not at all secretive. He even narrates to me his wet dreams, the porn he watched the other night, and the…	/r/seduction	14/05/12 06:08 PM
1	My Relationship Manifesto: What To Do After You Get the Girl You must still be mysterious as a married man, even if she nags you. You need to set your boundaries. This is from Dr. Paul Dobransky: Did you ever wonder why you were broken up with, divorced, ignored, cheated on – after all the excuses and explanations were thrown your way? It wasn’t that you were “too good for her” or “too bad,” or because you “didn’t work hard enough.” It was because you simply let go of your masculine right, power and skill at being mysterious. The woman lost all sense of c…	/r/seduction	14/05/12 06:59 AM
9	My Relationship Manifesto: What To Do After You Get the Girl I love it. Great post. I would add: "Women want mystery in a relationship," which means that the man never shares every single aspect of himself with the woman; he always keep part of himself inaccessible to her. Because if he shares everything, she'll lose interest.	/r/seduction	14/05/12 05:23 AM
15	How to turn the conversation sexual. Here are my tips and I would like to hear yours. Yes, we like to impress guys. So if I did my hair a certain way and the guy told me it would look better some other way, I'd immediately lose interest. There's a difference between challenging a girl and criticizing her.	/r/seduction	12/05/12 05:11 AM