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MALE DEPRAVITYBordersz/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:08 AM
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What in the self-fulfilling prophecy is this?? She was recently literally pictured dating a guy 10+ years older than her who would be considered an ugly guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 04:21 PM
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I've always told my friends this and they think I'm crazy like I've me ppl who were from diverse places like NYC, LA, etc and their whole friend group is white...and I'm like HOW do you do that? Or on my college campus the majority group is asian and I've met people where their friend group is exclusively white like you had to go out of your way to do that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 08:23 PM
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😭 my heart hurts for you but don’t beat yourself up too much. You weren’t in the best headspace
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:55 PM
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WHO would pass up Carnegie Mellon for CS?!??? That is insane like wow! That is crazy I mean UC Berkeley is still fabulous choice but terrible reasoning. It reminds me of a girl who transferred from UC San Francisco medical school (like ranked #1 or 2 medical school pretty much) to go to Yale Medical School which set her back like 2 years to be with her fiancé. They’re both top ranked universities but she set herself back time(he started residency earlier...), gain more college debt, and went to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:54 PM
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I remember trying to watch some of his videos bc he dated the 5H girl and I was curious why she would waste her youth and beauty on a dude like that. I was only a teen then but I could tell it was some old guy using his manipulative dating techniques to swoon her. I couldn't get through his videos bc I thought it was weird he was talking to me (a woman) like I was the problem and nothing about how men view dating. Being a credit card scammer is not surprising, and also I remember seeing him on T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 07:54 PM
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Not enough Ari fans praise You Don’t Know Me (it is one of my ultimate favorites) because that song is a SERVE. And yeah her being a pickme on positions title track should be called out but I don’t think she is that terrible and I feel bad for her more than bash her. On her positions album she has better songs like Off the Table, Safety Net and pov where a lot of people on here would relate to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 10:46 AM
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Without You by the Kid Laroi. The song is really good outside of that line which is terrible (I mean clean version exists)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 03:19 AM
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I know exactly what song you're talking about! The song caught me off guard and I couldn't get into the song even though I like the melodies. It is even sadder it is a 17 yr old boy singing that mess and is being pushed as the next big artist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 11:06 PM
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I think I shook the room with my laughing 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 08:50 PM
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Not promoting being a side chick but they also get showered with money (lots of gifts) and attention while it seems like the husband totally neglects his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 06:20 PM
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I loved watching Chowder because I thought the jokes/scenes were absolutely ridiculous growing up because I didn’t think people actually thought like this. But boy was I naive as a child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:37 AM
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Boyshit by Madison Beer, On My Own by Miley Cyrus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:29 AM
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First mention of this, and of course she wins an Emmy for her performance. The show is garbage and I was surprised/stunned everyone is praising it for its "progressive representation and storywriting"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 12:30 PM
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Get mental health better (it has improved since quarantine) Lose rest of “health” weight (I actually had a thyroid problem and lost like 30 lbs already from last year) Secure a post-back opportunity in healthcare and study for MCAT (planned gap years before applying for med school) Make at least one song since I do songwriting but has always been insecure about my voice. I’ve done karaoke with friends and they actually complimented my voice so I always wanted to try music making out as therapy G…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 01:48 AM
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Not interested in dating yet, but outside pressure can pull you down at times. I hate how peers can't understand this idea. My friends have even offered to make me an OLD profile and I'm like hell no. Like I don't get the pressure from my peers to date like why should they care about my personal love/sex life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:36 AM
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I think it’s really weird that teens date and have sex. I'm in early 20s and I have thought of that while watching tv/movies like the hypersexualization of teens (and TWEENS) in pop culture/media needs to stop. When I was HS I thought I was the odd one out/outcast bc I didn't date/have sex like everyone else but after going to college I met a lot of ppl who didn't do that either and it's like something that is promoted and push by society. Like teen/young 20s is meant to have reckless sex as fun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 09:34 AM
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I wonder how asking "what do you think about using porn in the bedroom?" would go, since it's kind of baiting them into thinking you're a kinkmeisha. This is such a great question w/o showing ur hand. I remember someone on here asking me about how to word questions on a first date and I wonder if we can make a private compilation of questions for women on here to pull from while vetting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:04 AM
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why are you depressed? You're so pretty. Cheer up 🤮🤮🤮 they need their licenses revoked expeditiously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:08 AM
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I had a white woman therapist before and she pretty much tricked me into thinking that 1) I should be "grateful" that I was "allowed" in uni bc I "took a spot from other people" (implying affirmative action) and 2) I should be a "strong [black] woman" instead of being homesick and sad during my 1st semester of college. I stopped seeing her. The microaggressions were too much for me to handle ontop of adjusting to college b.s. I only go to black women for therapy...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:04 AM
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It was natural since he wanted to talk about trending topics and at the time abortion rights was popular so It was naturally brought it up, his major was in STEM like me so I asked future career ideas and life after undergrad (that’s when he mentioned his ridiculous idea of a home life with a girl who “pulls her weight in finances and home life” like OK and he wanted like 4 kids.) Questions were phrased like: “So in Texas they’re arguing over abortion rights, and I never really understood the ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:53 PM
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I remember I asked a dude first time talking to him over food about religion and BLM, and the convo exposed a LOT about what he expected of a woman (basically a free bangmaid w/no independence) and specifically how he felt about black people. Saved me a lot of time, and I recommend everyone to do the same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 01:03 AM
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You really don't have to like Iggy to see that this whole situation is messed up. The dude chose his album release party and video games over his son, and has been ducking responsibilities as a father this whole year. I stopped paying attention to Iggy years ago for her problematic stuff in the past, but this isn't really tied to that. It's another man being a deadbeat and ofc ppl want to blame the mother/drag her, etc. She has stated that they dated for a while, lived together, planned on getti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:22 PM
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I'm like yeah.. but it got me thinking how you can be a pickme for your own son, and he can still break your heart. smh my mom is like this too. She is now realizing how she sacrificed so much for a man (her son) who wouldn't even cross a puddle to save her. It is sad to say this to your mother
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:58 PM
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Yeah my situation is just shitty imo because I want to go for a grad degree and having family support will be so much better/easier instead of transitioning from working on my own to schooling. I'm already looking for jobs and lots of them are luckily remote (coding/tech jobs) so I hopefully will get one but competition is stiff w/pandemic and their long response times. Yeah they're pressuring me to take out a 90k grad loan for a grad degree at this "prestigious" university (I can't give a shit …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:27 PM
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I still remember asking for a gameboy, for years, so I could play Pokemon. We both got Gameboy Advance SPs w omg I remember I wanted to play video games. I begged for yrs until my parents got me a pink DS Lite to not "make me a boy" and then my mother purposefully dropped it on the floor in an attempt to break it. Luckily only the hinges on the screen got weaker. I only had like 3 games bc any more money was a waste while my brothers at the time had the n64, gameboy, gamecube, ps2, AND wii with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:22 PM
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I was able to attend college on a scholarship. My family had downplayed it and put me down about it and my brother (who is 4 yrs older than me) even called me a "stuck up bitch". My parents killed themselves working 2 jobs each to pay for his college (they ended up shelling out like $30k a YEAR). Mind you I am poor like food stamps POOR. Whereas w/me they don't pay for my college (I do) but they treat me like I'm inferior. Now that they see that I am graduating college and looking for a job (aka…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:15 PM
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It is so deceitful and conniving. If he "forgot" to bring it up, why didn't he just bring it up on the zoom calls like, "oh I know Spanish". Just sneaky to sit there and eavesdrop on their conversation. If your SO's family is shit talking you to your face, you're most likely the problem. My family has never missed w/reading garbage men. They just sense it like it's their 6th sense or something. The bf did this to turn her against her own family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:58 AM
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😮 Thanks for the fun fact! But yeah I didn't know people didn't like emoji's? I consider it as people's style. It also adds pizazz in conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:55 AM
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I've seen that sentiment pushed on dating blogs/youtube channels (run by women!) as if a woman getting an education is a bad thing. Like huh? If the guy you're seeing doesn't care about education the same way you do, then that is a compatibility issue and leave them. Don't be uneducated or dumb yourself down to just "get a man".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 10:12 PM
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I really like the summary and I really like how you underlined/added boxes to highlight things lol it made it so much easier to process the nonsense. #1 is so gross I don't get how you can sleep with someone so dirty. #5 blew me away like wow! Why be in a relationship if you just want casual sex every week. I just don't understand how ppl have the energy to do that and they're doing it as a friend group is just crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:27 AM
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He sent a sloppy text apologizing to her the next day and blamed it on the alcohol. That is the most terrifying part, his aim was bad bc he was drunk blindly shooting at her as her back was turned. It really could have hit her anywhere, and she is extremely lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:35 AM
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Fox News spitting facts? That is just wild to me. I am just stunned this was allowed to air. Politics aside, this is a major news network sharing this info and having this conversation. My local news or even basic cable like nbc, cbs, cw, etc. would never do this. They wouldn't even mention it. I don't like Fox News, but a major network is still a major network. Ppl look at me crazy when I talk about this/bring this up. It is gross ppl wear ph merch as a personality like it is band merch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 09:04 AM
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This guy I knew who was a vocal major at my school sung me one of my favorite songs at the time and I swoon (no did not date him or anything but it was great). It has to be a song you like for it to work. He sounded like he could be in NSYNC no lie lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:53 AM
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Terrible he is singing that Jesse McCartney song ruining it. Thinking of Jesse, his "Leavin'" song is something that just plays in my head. Just leave and never go back. Should have never tried to befriend a guy who tried to get with you. They are just TROUBLE. When a guy (co-worker, acquaintance, classmate) shows a hint that they like you cut them out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:45 AM
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No I don't think it's that direct. I think OP meant he hate when the girl's father is vetting him and has a healthy, loving relationship with his daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:39 AM
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Very surprised to see a Chrissie video on here! Cool. I think it is very telling that "average BW" can't have needs/wants or standards. We just gotta accept whatever and deal with it. It started this whole argument that average looking BW need to accept trash, and it's like NO. Average women of every race get what they want, and it is very telling the "coach" thinks earning 100k is the ceiling career wise (I'm not trying to be pompous since I know of classmates who get 90-100k salaries straight …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:36 AM
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I had to do a double take bc I thought they were talking about the husband, and I was like wow that is terrible he is flirting w/the nurses and then I'm like? they're talking about an infant doing that WTF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 04:44 AM
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I remember in HS my best friend's bf had a FOLDER on his phone full of porn video/pics tagged with name/movie name/position/etc., I was young and didn't know much but I told her "that it was disgusting and degrading" and she was so insecure because she didn't look like any of them. And I tried to tell her he has an unhealthy obsession and can't be in a healthy relationship until he goes to therapy because that is not normal. I was quickly dragged and labelled for being "too judgmental". Thankful…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:19 AM
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But when you say you're busy he's on you like white on rice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:12 AM
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You're not stupid, you were only 12 and I think we were all taught to be friendly to everyone growing up. Something similar happen to a classmate of mine back in elementary like when we were 7/8? I remember I got in trouble because I was one of the girls who yanked the boy off of the girl. I was "supposed to keep my hands to myself". I was too young so the words "sexual assault" wasn't in my vocabulary but I remember telling the teacher, "he was hurting her and I wasn't just gonna stand there an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 08:54 PM
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Yeah I clocked that too and I think this whole interaction is made up. I knew it was esp. w/the "you don't gotta" and "hunny". Like lmao how obvious can the tweeter be? And she could have just said "another woman behind me"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 10:34 AM
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I would have written that in my diary while listening to paramore but not actually say it to another person (except therapist) esp. a love interest like wtf is wrong w/ppl. Just cruel to dump that stuff on a stranger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:47 AM
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Who the hell does a AMA w/that as a badge of honor? Usually AMA ppl have pride in whatever they do/accomplish for ppl to ask questions about how they got their job or whatever. There is no way in Hell a woman wrote this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 08:13 PM
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I really hate that is pushed in society. Like why is it desperate with having honest intentions and trying to initiate esp if it just shooting a text? How is that desperate in this digital age? Also I'm not advocating to text first, I just hate how it's perceived.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 09:45 AM
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He looks 1000X better with his mouse head on. This is his "best" on their wedding day. They deserve each other if they're both miserable ppl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 09:33 AM
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omg I'm getting flashbacks to when guys (legit platonic acquaintances) would drop obscure sexual terms like "queening" to get a reaction and then get angry if you are clueless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:04 AM
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I hate when they try to pass this off as "minimalistic"-styled living room. Minimalism doesn't mean bare minimum; it means to be "uncluttered", monochromatic colors and has an emphasis on making a space being clean/neat and "relaxing" (bring peace). Nothing in this picture brings peace with 1 seating option and a TV on the floor. Minimalistic living rooms would include something like: 1, 2, 3. Note TV is usually mounted (it is less cluttered than TV stand) and if a TV stand is involved it is min…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:38 PM
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Same! I was really curious to see how "females incels" think and stuff like that, and found the complete opposite. I was expecting violence, misery, and ppl complaining about sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 08:13 PM
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Yeah you should tell her. She is already hurting herself bc 1) she shouldn't be hooking up with her ex and 2) it is possible he is sleeping around w/other girls if his active on Tinder so that's a possible STD too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 06:06 AM
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I don't get why being "non-traditional" is sometimes synonymous with being ok w/disrespect. I saw this comment under a post about "not wanting to give wife a ring after proposing with a video game relic (old dusty thing)". And like the wife wanted a ring and OP didn't want to budge and thought it was stupid. He ended up getting her the ring to shut her up and "is now happy everyone online set him straight". I just don't get that comment. That is degrading, and how she's wearing it like a badge. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 11:33 AM
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She can start up a cleaning company and make serious cash because those are crazy transformations. That is a shame she's doing it for men's approval and internet clout. Depressing. Also, I can't believe people can live in filth like that ? Doesn't that take a lot of energy to purposely make a huge mess like? Edit: She get millions of views on her tik toks this has to be because she is sponsored or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 06:49 AM
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I always laugh whenever this song comes up on a playlist because you can tell Future (her ex and baby daddy) is not over her (even 6 years later), and is still a deadbeat. Future hates her husband bc he thought she was gonna just be sad, single and still chasing him. I love her level up story. The Joe Jonas remix slaps too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:22 AM
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She followed a guy she was thirsty for back to his house at 2AM with a bunch of random men and didn't think something could have gone left? That is horrifying she was that thirsty for a random dude she put her life on the line like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 09:45 PM
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I agree and it sucks since I like the sound of Ariana's song too, but the chorus lyrics are so cringey and major pickme vibes doing all that (switching "positions" and jumping through hoops) for a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 09:37 PM
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If I was her I would have ghosted for a couple hours, and come back in the middle of the dinner all confused, make 0 conversation and then go to bed. Like what the hell? There is no obligation to clean up the home and cook for strangers you don't know. Also OP in the picture is a mensright user/poster lmao, and is happily replying to comments who call her a "team player" and "picking up the slack". Tf, she shouldn't be expected to do all of that extra labor and work on short notice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 09:09 PM
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My mother always instilled in me to NEVER eat food from potlucks (unless it is store bought) while growing up. I used to think she was paranoid (but I still listened to her) and she was right because there would almost always be some sort of stomach bug/illness making rounds after a potluck. I just can't understand how people are not clean with food/cooking because getting sick from food is no joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:46 PM
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So true! I've met so many guys who think Rick & Morty is the best cartoon show ever because the think they are Albert Einstein by "getting its dEeP humor". And then proceed to insult your intelligence for never watching it/hearing about it. It is such a crazy trend I've experienced/witnessed. Fans of the show even talked about this issue on the show's sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:05 AM
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I find it hilarious that the OP in the picture looks down on a woman's humor if they "reference from a show" and he ends his post referencing a MEME in an attempt to be funny. So referencing a Friends scene is a no, but it is a-ok to reference a tired, stale internet meme? What a loser. The jokes write themselves, sheesh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:56 AM
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That is terrible, but at least he was upfront and didn't string you along to be in a relationship with a xenophobe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:11 PM
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I always felt like "vetting" is an ongoing process (doesn't end) to always keep you on alert for red flags to avoid getting a rose-tinted point of view in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 01:29 AM
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Nope, I know this post focuses on kpop idols but men have been extremely jealous of male heartthrobs from the beginning of time. Let's throwback to when grown men fantasize about going to justin bieber concerts to assault him with throwing water bottles, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 01:03 AM
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They hate male heartthrobs, that's why they relentlessly spread homophobic rumors about them to dissuade girls from being attracted to them. Literally every male heartthrob from every era has the whole "they're gay" rumor still following them to this day. On top of that instead of leaning into their gf's interest, they try to prevent their girlfriend from enjoying their hobby? It's so insecure and ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 12:58 AM
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I want him to teach me math, I would actually like it/major in it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 10:42 AM
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The handbook needs advice on "interracial dating, differences in cultures and feticization". It could include quotes/stories about women with their experiences with IR and dealing with ppl w/different cultures/societal norms/traditions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 12:40 AM
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I rolled my eyes so hard on how they ended the comment like that. When a woman is horny/want to have sex we're socially conditioned to just hold it in/control the urges until it it appropriate to act on it. When men are horny and it's like a emergency in an ER that needs to be dealt with ASAP which is ridiculous. Like who cares if he is horny and wants sex, he's a father of a newborn with a spouse recovering from major trauma to her body. His priorities is all f**k'd up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 10:18 PM
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Her song she made after leaving his sorry ass called I Bet is a fantastic song to listen to esp the remix she has with Joe Jonas on it. A great breakup anthem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:06 PM
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He has no intentions of being a father and loves trying to make Ciara a bad mother for "making his kid forget who his real father is" and it's crazy because Future is just a sperm donor who is pissed and extremely sea salty that she not only moved on but found a man that loves her and her child and is an actual dad to his abandoned child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 07:02 PM
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The fitbit app is full of pervs and it is so embarrassing because I see thirsty trash ass men get catfished by fake profiles too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 04:34 AM
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In hindsight I am surprised my mother didn't straight up murder me and my THREE siblings because we were ungrateful BRATS. We expected her to do everything she did. Growing up my mom would wake up crack of dawn and prepare different breakfasts tailored for me and my 3 siblings, prepare our backpacks, make sure we were on track of getting ready, and then she would also get ready for work. Also my mother has never miss w/her cooking, like I would always brag about my mom's cooking to my friends an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 04:15 AM
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I stumbled on this loseit post, and I found it so laughable the guy is 316 lbs, morbidly obese can't even look down to see his peen and he tried to shift some blame to poor girl he was trying to have sex with and called her "overweight". And then towards the end of the post and lied saying "she still had a good time" even though he couldn't perform. And I'm like...no she didn't. Like why are men so clueless when it comes w/sex and a woman's pleasure. And she shoulda ditched him the first time he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 02:17 AM
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He definitely doesn't have any developed skillset or education. A woman 18 years younger than him is making more than him?? How does that happen? That is insane he had a 2 decade lead + male privilege and still did nothing with his life. It's embarrassing she's still with this loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 09:04 PM
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Somewhat related but it is one of the reasons why I have a hate-love relationship with S&M by Rihanna. The song sonically is such a bop, but I always hated the meaning of the song pushing that pain gives her sexual pleasure. It is disturbing. Especially since this song was released after her domestic abuse situation. Her label is garbage for even previewing her this song (she didn't write it but it was "handpicked" for her).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 10:39 PM
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if she was negatively affected by what she tried with him and needed to talk to her friends to help soothe some negative emotions. That's what I was thinking. He mentioned she found him less attractive after doing it, she probably was venting to her friends. I agree not enough information to judge the gf, but I was so taken aback by people pointing out the age gap (she is immature for 30) and getting so upset over kink shaming. I'm just like...? If you don't like the kink you are well within you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 08:32 PM
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What are people's opinions on this relationship_advice post? I understand not telling people everything in your relationship + boundaries. But it sounds like the guy pressured her into doing his own kink, and she ended up not liking it. Then she laughed about the kink to her friends. Now ppl in comments are like "kink shaming is no joke" and he should break up w/her. I do think they should break up because she obviously did not like the kink and thought he was less attractive after doing it (rep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 08:01 AM
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Of course I do feel honored but at the same time it confuses me that he didn't even ask me if I would pose nude for him. Instead of he is working mostly with professional models and some of them are his ex girlfriends. Why would you feel honored to do free work? Did he pay you (a model rate/commission) for your portrait to be in his portfolio. And it's a huge red flag he dated his past models. It sounds like he acts as a "photographer" to get pornographic pictures of his gf's and then label it f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 07:41 AM
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I know what thread they're talking about and it was not 3 months, it was 3 years. The link is here. Long story short, they're talking about how men are not indecisive and they're pretty much know early on whether the girl they're seeing is "wife" material or not. And that a 3 year timeframe is a good rule of thumb for marriage minded ppl.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 09:39 AM
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Yes you can get all of this information by getting to know them. Generic stuff like how the relationship ended, etc is somewhat important IMO. You shouldn't play detective but you can ask pinpointed questions over time to get a picture of who they are. It is better if you offer a personal anecdote to help them open up instead of pressing them for information so it's like an exchange of information. It will be impossible to get someone to admit to paying for a sex worker, so I think it is better …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 06:47 PM
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It is so lazy the person couldn't even say "You have a beautiful smile". Just lazy and he probably sends that short compliment to everyone and ppl swoon over it. Block and delete
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 06:36 PM
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100% agree I'm go to a top 20 non-ivy college but prestigious schools are breeding grounds for LVM because they think "being smart" (they're usually mediocre too) should be bowed down to and worshipped. It is so gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 05:07 AM
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IDK maybe it's because my mom unfortunately got w/a LVM but she pretty much drilled in me a lot of FDS stuff growing up and how I should focus on myself 100% (esp. in my 20s) and my spouse will come along naturally. I've always felt like I've missing out on relationships but I read the relationship subs and see what my friends are going through and realize I'm not missing out on anything but pain and heartbreak
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:53 AM
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I can't believe someone would seriously consider doing this. TLDR, a young woman is thinking about spending $1000 (to fly across the country) to sleep with a random singer she likes online and live with him for a week or so to explore east coast USA
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:29 AM
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I wanna be a spoiled brat like her. I can't wait for my future hv man to do this too 😍 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:02 AM
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I'm not the biggest fan of Cardi, but I don't feel comfortable w/people putting her down and calling her a pickmeisha when it is obvious she is in a shitty and abusive relationship. I hope she wakes up soon instead of thinking gifts = money and thinking she has to go back to Offset to maintain her "family". The fact she is scared to turn down his gift is just sad. I wonder what happened to her the last time she turned down a gift
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 11:59 PM
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I was wondering if we can have like a daily discussion post where people can comment their screenshots/memes because I actually like looking at them even though they're "LQ" because I just find it interesting + it will still allow users to have some discussion w/o cluttering up the feed. I agree w/political memes/posts though, I don't think they align with the purpose of the sub and should be limited to a discussion/check in thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 02:54 AM
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I hate how porn is so normalized for minors to consume it. It is so gross, and I hate how guys in the age group would be so open about what kind of stuff they would watch but it is people would laugh at you if you openly want a relationship like the ones in rom coms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 07:36 PM
20

He leaked "insider information" to the press, aka he was using Demi as a stepping stool to get dirt from her manager/close circles to sell to TMZ, etc. He cannot be trusted. On top of that he has other issues like being in love w/Selena Gomez for a decade and going on ig live with her stans to gush about her. It seems like he settled w/Demi bc he couldn't get to Selena since he leaves thirsty comments on lots of famous women's ig pages
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:27 PM
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A lot of the Script's popular songs are so laughable with their desperate and toxic lyrics esp w/another song of theirs called Breakeven with lyrics like, "She finally met a man that's gonna put her first", and it's like you're mad your ex found someone who can do it better than you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:26 PM
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Even from a practical (cheap) standpoint why would you want to wear a cheap ring for the rest of your life (going to look ugly, nasty, turn finger Shrek green) when you can cough up the money now for a durable, nice ring. I never understood the whole "we're not materialistic!" and then get a cheap ring. Like not being materialistic would mean not dropping like not dropping 20k on a ring when a 2k ring looks the same and is just as durable. Like a $76 ring??? I've had more valuable/durable jewell…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:26 AM
4

I'm currently in college and it is so obvious on campus who cares about their cleanliness (women) and who were only clean because of their moms (men). I've had dudes call me "extra" because I avoid mixing certain fabrics/colors (because of colorbleed) when I do my laundry and they just throw in everything WITH the tide pods folded in (a huge no-no) their raggedy clothes (once a semester) and wonder why they smell like yeast and ass. I blame their parents for not teaching them that cleanliness do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 11:48 PM
7

The show is Criminal Minds (S13e02). And to give a spoiler, the guy was a serial killer. CW: murder, death, and sexualt assult He would use these "pity" stories like "hurting his hand on glass", "family member who passed away" or "being unemployed" to get the girl to feel bad for him to go on a date with (that was his M.O. in the show). He would then rape, strangle and stuff their dead bodies in a suitcase to symbolize his mommy issues since his mother abandoned him when he was younger which cau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:21 PM
7

Ugh, that's what I picked up too. The cheerleader/support friend trope BW are given in TV shows. Her line was so unnecessary and a decent person would convince you to not go on a beer date and get into stranger's car.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:10 PM
5

The guy doesn't work at the coffee shop. He had a job at a nearby business and goes there to get lunch/coffee regularly. She specifically remembers what timeframes he comes in for it. I personally never worked a food place before but I've been a "regular" at food places and they never made a remark about the time I come in (even if it went from 9AM-5PM) because I just think they're so busy to try to remember when customers come in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:08 PM
3

I actually missed the flag of "asking her out at her workplace". That is rude and a bit creepy since she is trying to do her job. She is a pickme agreeing to go out on a vague beer drink the same night with an unemployed man. I thought even though it is a fictional interaction it was written by real people who think this interaction is normal and okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:05 PM
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I don't like people who make self deprecating jokes. It is insecure and ugly. Have some faith in yourself. You should definitely leave mac and cheese man in the dust
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:16 AM
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Spot on! I was so surprised when I watched the scene. Esp. when he opened up the convo about quitting his job, such a turnoff. I also didn't like how she started the convo with knowing when his job shifts start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:53 AM
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I had this convo w/my brother about how "taboo topics" on a first date should definitely be the topics at the first date. Politics, sex, and religion should be discussed right off the bat. I started to get to know this guy beyond a lecture hall and we had lunch together (not a date), and I asked him straight up about BLM, abortion, current state of affairs and all I got was a guy who thought the government was too much in his business when it comes to drinking but it is ok to dictate a woman's b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:44 AM
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That's even grosser the guy didn't buy a spare toothbrush for that weekend getaway. I have extra toothbrushes incase I run out of toothbrush heads or my electric brush breaks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:16 PM
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BF of 5 MONTHS?! Also wasn't 5 months ago during the pandemic too? How well can you get to know someone when stuff have been closed to the public? That is so radical she let a jobless man she barely know move in w/her. And he is pure garbage for getting his friend to curse her out like WOW. She should leave him after him confronting her about the period trash, but if she doesn't leave him after her bf basically called her a bitch via a surrogate then IDK she is a lost cause at this point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 09:56 AM
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Because a dude is going to take her out to an expensive steakhouse she was ready to risk it all for a rando who uses stock photos on a dating app? That is so wild esp. if this woman is over 30??!?? She can't buy herself her own steak or something. You would think you get wiser w/age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 09:37 AM
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Back in HS I knew people who did the deed at hotels, and they were usually nice hotels. They would even go all out for valentine's doing the hot tub/rose petals of hearts package room. And these were teenagers w/jobs at the mall saving up like 2 paychecks to pull it off. This guy doesn't sound like a teenager, just an entitled broke grown man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:37 PM
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Some of my ex-friends dragged me and called me "pretentious" for being celibate (by the way I don't declare it, I just do it) because they're mad they sleep with garbage men on dating apps. They then try project their issues on me and even tried to make me a dating app profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:23 PM
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Agreed, that girl needs to adopt Glamorous by Fergie as her new anthem. If he doesn't have any money he needs to take his broke ass home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:18 PM
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This is free sex work. And he couldn't afford a sex worker, so he degraded his FWB to do it for free. Disgusting. He showed her 0 respect and treated her like a warm fleshlight, at least sex workers agree to an alley beforehand and get compensated at whatever rate they set. If he has a car and lives w/his mom he really doesn't have a spare $100-200 laying around for a hotel room? That is so pathetic, what does he do just sit around in his room pornsick and expecting women to be hookers for free …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:15 PM
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I stopped paying attention to people who have hurt me in the past platonic or romantic relationships. It is emotionally draining to allow people who hurt you to live in your mind rent-free. I also look to meeting new people who care about me, etc which helps replace whatever memories I had with the "bad people". I think it's weird to want to "flex" on someone who can't care less about you I find that so embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 11:38 PM
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You can PM me if you still need advice on it! I totally get what you're saying I like to joke too and they come off pretty terrible over texts so that's why I try to limit it to my friends or only inside jokes w/the person I text
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:54 AM
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I agree too but I don't think it's a "love language" tho, everyone everywhere likes to recieve gifts/things that enhance their daily life or whatever. I've never met someone in my life who would turn down a gift or speak down on getting a gift. Let me clarify my stand on a LL, I mean to say that all of the love languages has to be used in a relationship and it's not like your spouse only related to 1 language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:28 PM
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Those young girls unfortunately will have to find out the hard way to get here because asking Reddit for love advice as a woman is always answered by dusty ass men. And yes some of those "girls" are grown men behind the screens. What is gross or toxic about this sub? Most of it is just us re-hashing out our past experiences and supporting one another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:25 PM
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I agree with what you're saying, but I still think it is wild to fawn over it in a long-winded post like that. Something like that should be a given in a relationship. Like making someone their favorite dish when they're stressed should be normalized in a relationship and not something extraordinary. Slightly off topic: too but what is everyone's opinions on the "love languages", I always thought it was brainwash garbage to get that love advice book to sell and never believe in a "love language"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:22 PM
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Random comment: I'm confused over the whole chicken cutlet post w/some ppl calling others for "being too negative" for not being impressed. I thought we were all here looking for more/having higher expectations of our spouses. And I found it weird the amount of people defending the complexity of making a chicken cutlet, like dude it's not a beef wellington. You can buy fancy ingredients or increase whatever unnecessary add-ons (different breadcrumbs, different spices, brine/marinade it for days,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:33 AM
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Yeah I think it's the bare minimum if you are going to cook for someone you would make it to their liking. And like everyone else on this thread, stop trying to bring yourself into it and read the post for what it is. She said it herself: No fancy sauce necessary. Just a really thin, crispy cutlet fried in olive oil. She doesn't even feel like the meal deserves a fancy sauce, just some basic thin cutlet. She wasn't picky and didn't want to give him too many special requirements. That is unfortun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:51 PM
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Lots of people on here getting WAP because a man made some kid cuisine over salted chicken cutlets for them. I don't get impressed by nonsense like this anymore esp. when she said she is overwhelmed w/the kids, don't go to the kitchen. Be there for your wife you love so much and help her out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:41 PM
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Making chicken cutlets is kid cuisine, he's not doing your family recipe for fried chicken (where it probably requires buttermilk, marinating overnight, and a 13 spice rub, etc). Chicken cutlets is different from traditional fried chicken. By looking at the picture it's not like he is whipping up KFC/Popeyes wannabe fried chicken. It's literally like in this video, it's not taking more than 1.5 hour (inc. clean up) esp. if you've done it before and "perfected your technique". It's fine if you do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 05:37 PM
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Is it really a parade with celebrating your husband making kid cuisine chicken cutlets while you're overwhelmed with the kids. That parade was already rained on, trashed, and cleaned up by city cleaners before I rolled up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:45 AM
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If you are impressed with kid cuisine chicken cutlets then just say it with your chest out EDIT: The person edited their comment to add more than "Good for you", and also this is a forum where I can freely express my opinion and I don't think making kid cuisine chicken cutlets is showing "appreciation" take care of your damn kids instead of having the mom being on the edge of r/breakingmom. This is not love to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:38 AM
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Probably not. Probably left flour and egg everywhere so she will have to clean up after eating those groundbreaking chicken strips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:36 AM
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Chicken cutlets are not that hard to make. My sister and I have been making chicken cutlets since we were children. It's chicken, seasoning, flouring and breadcrumb (homemade). I think it is hilarious she says he "painstakingly trims" the chicken when it's basic cooking 101 when handling meats to trim fat, etc. I also think it would be 1000X more useful (and more representative of "love") if he helped her w/the kids when she gets overwhelmed with them instead of hiding in the kitchen making kid …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:23 AM
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Yup. The audio leak was a conversation he had with his ex-girlfriend, Kiyomi Leslie. and the convo was hard to listen to. Here is a YT video of an abridged version (4 min) of the leak. He is holding her hostage, told her she has to fist fight him to leave and threatens to burn her. She also said, "you promised you wouldn't hit me again". And the way he talks to her is like he is trying to fight a grown man on a street. Just despicable. I never paid attention to him but I was honestly stunned whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:05 AM
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@gaming_foodie Every ig post is her giving him his food while he is gaming and there is even a post where she is giving food to her child and the child looks like dad but on a tablet instead of a PC. IDK if it is a joke/gag or show for the internet but that is sad the family doesn't eat together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:19 AM
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I know not many people follow Bow-wow because he's washed up and a has been. But recently there was a leak of audio of him indirectly admitting to physically abusing his ex-gf (he punched her in the stomach while she was pregnant) and he cheated on her. He is scum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:08 AM
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He is a gross monster for doing that. He had no respect or decency for anyone else in the house. He purposefully had his back turned to the hallway, headphones on, and his thing-y out in full view (couldn't even have the decency to do it under a sheet). On top of that he was watching porn. Like the guy couldn't hold off until he got in the bathroom. And the comments on the original post are so stupid saying he should demand an apology from them? What a bunch are psychopaths
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:48 AM
2

The fourth one made me a bit dizzy...so SHE flew out to see him to talk over the mistakes/problems HE did? Nah, that is pretty terrible for someone to leave you to sleep with other people and then you would have to fly out to "fix things"? If someone cheats on you and it's a deal breaker then leave them. Like there are people out there who will value not cheating in a relationship to be with you. I also didn't like the stories of the women "fixing up the man" so his confidence is improved to the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:11 PM
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Yup I have a friend just like your cousin. At first I was concerned and thought I could get through to her but as soon as she tried to tell me "I'm single for a reason" that's when I mentally/emotionally checked out of the friendship and told her to have fun with her sexual predator boyfriend. I did tell her if she did need my help to escape or leave my line is open, but other than that I don't care and I don't want to hear about how he is treating you like garbage. That is your man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:39 PM
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Before stumbling on this sub I would always troll them and say, "A man who is like [insert my favorite male celebrity]". I could gauge their reactions accordingly like 1) are they going to get really upset and curse out this celebrity (HUGE red flag) 2) compliment the celebrity's work or 3) reply back w/looking for a celebrity too (yellow flag, could either be funny or really bitter). Now I discovered this sub, I would just leave the conversation than even entertain them. Like I never asked a gu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:37 PM
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Yup, that is a great indicator. Even my friends stand up when I run into them in a LIBRARY lol. They stand up to either embrace me or just be at eye level to start a convo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 02:21 AM
74

He was really trying to get another date through mentioning his unresolved mommy issues?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:41 AM
81

People always call me crazy saying, "Oh but you wouldn't know what it is like to live with them, what if it is so bad". If I think their living habits are so bad I can't marry them then there were a plethora of red flags I missed beforehand. And you can live w/your fiance during that 1 year period of wedding planning to see what living w/them entails too. Like why do I need to live with my boyfriend? What if things go sour? We're just dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 01:40 AM
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This is the same character where he hid pickles under his slimy ass tongue and the pickme's will gladly line up to pick it off of his tongue to eat it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:48 AM
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Same here the beat is so hypnotic I don't even know what I'm singing lol. It is also such garbage these singers are pushing this message while they were (and are) millionaires. They wear fancy jewellery, own a black card and go to exotic restaurants lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:44 AM
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I always knew the lyrics were garbage but Keri's vocals were top notch on it with Timbaland's perfect production made me overlook the lyrics growing up. And ew "thug it out", I hate the ride or die nonsense pushed on us. I'm not going to do struggle love, it's not romantic or cute at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 02:40 AM
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Long story short: This is all allegedly, but before their 1st major breakup Liam broke up with her during/around 2013/12 because she was "acting wild" in her Bangerz album era. But now Miley broke up with Liam because he supposedly has a substance issue and also she realized she lost herself in trying to change herself for him (said this in a recent interview). The hay that broke the camel's back is Liam wanted to start a family, and she did not want that so she exited out of the relationship. A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:48 AM
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Don't minimize your goals/career, getting a MBA is amazing and a lot of work too. Graduate school is graduate school no matter the field!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:49 PM
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Med school/pre-med culture reeks of elitism. Like pre-med advisors are solely there to put you down and discourage u to apply to protect the college's med school "acceptance rate" to lure freshmen there w/o addressing institutional issues such as institutional hazing, poor advising, indifferent faculty, grade deflation and overall mental health issues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 01:49 PM
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This is SO TRUE. All my friends (who are women) tease me when I like guys w/sense of style, care about their skin/hair because they always think "they're in the closet". And I'm like why is it socially programmed in us to like men who don't gaf about their appearance and that if they do they HAVE to be gay, tf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:51 PM
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Slight tangent: Testerone is one helluva drug. You can scroll through r/loseit, r/CICO, or r/keto or whatever weight loss community and the men on there go through some insane/serious transformations by doing simple things like "oh I actually watch my portions and started walking more". Granted not everyone can get extremely defined/cut abs like Kai but is is very attainable for men IMO to get a body that has abs peeking through at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:48 PM
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Pickmeishas also try to call me "sexist" for not wanting to befriend men. Every single friendship I've had with one of them always turn into them wanting more from me (sex). Granted I've some decent male friends in my life (through classes), but I'm not going to go out of my way to befriend them or make them part of my inner circle when time and time again they go crazy/extremely aggressive with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 01:04 AM
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A guy friend tried to use that on me to go to a formal dance + date me. I clocked it and laughed in his face and told him straight up no, never ever going to happen. 2 weeks later I ran into him in a dining place on campus and he proceeded to walk over to my table and curse me out and told me to die because he's looking forward to skipping my funeral. Major bullet dodged. He was so emotionally unhinged and I remember when people found out they accused me of being a tease or leading him on when i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 04:25 PM
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I had to pick my jaw up from the floor because I was so shocked as I kept reading it. He doesn't want to share his "wealth" with his own wife, and they're basically roommates. The fact the man is so stingy to the point she is considering going to a charity is absolutely insane. She needs to get up outta there asap w/an abortion on the way out the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:34 AM
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Same! To me a big earner is like starting 200k, especially at the big age of 38. I know ppl who made starting 75-80k right out of college (stem majors) and they're 22....It is pitiful she thinks 50k is big earner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:07 AM
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I don't get why she would want to marry him bc he sounded like a crappy bf to begin with anyway. I hope she divorces him bc he is a leach. She needs to read the handbook!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 05:19 AM
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Seriously I was so lost when he said he couldn't keep up bc I've done homework/classwork with him and he's like a math genius so I knew he understood exactly what I meant, he just wanted to belittle me/invalidate my experience so he needed to look up shitty arguments against me. It felt good that I shut him down in real time, he was not worth that phone call at all. I will never do that again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 06:33 PM
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I usually try to open up about racial issues with men fairly early bc it is a great filter. I don't want to be with someone who is low-key racist and extremely inconsiderate/close-minded about my plight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 06:04 AM
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This shit happened to me w/a guy and he had the audacity to ask me for a phone call (we weren't nearby like 2k+ miles apart due to college break) to talk it out because he couldn't keep up with my texts. We get on the phone call and then on the phone call he says he can't keep up with me because I "form arguments too quickly" and he "needs time to research and think". Like gtfo of my line, I still get a little hot that I entertained him when he needed to do rEsEArCh to just do the 4 D's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 05:53 AM
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I'm so glad for you that the trash took itself out. That is absolutely wild that happened, and you dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:20 AM
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