BowlerThese1572 Archive

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1	She doesn’t want to leave and still loves me. Its making me question things. How do I stick to my guns? As my therapist said, people don't initiate divorce because they plan on being celibate. They do it to get with other people. Your post is no different. Thats fine, but you need to be honest about that. Statistically it doesn't get better. Subsequent marriages have higher divorce rates than 1st ones. If you're doing this because you won't get a 'dead bedroom' with the next one...idk man, you might be in for a surprise. if you're doing this because the thought of being single indefinitely is bett…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/05/25 01:26 PM
1	A new guy Them: Guys are so weak, they can barely handle being alone. Also them: Download tinder 18 seconds after the seperation.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/05/25 12:55 AM
1	A new guy I didn't fall for that "I'm GonnA Be SiNgle" bullshit. And by your comment sounds like you didn't either. I do wonder though. Some say it as a ruse for sure. But I do think some genuinely seem to think they're gonna pull it off. And then 3 weeks later reality crashes down on them and they're downloading 7 different dating apps.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/05/25 12:50 AM
6	How do you get over the unfairness of a 50/50 financial split when you spent your entire marriage supporting her medical career? I don't know if this helps or not but...your ex has joined a looong list with other women. I had a neighbor that met his wife in Nicaragua. Became friends on Instagram after he got back from his work trip, he goes down a bunch of times, they get married bla bla bla....a month after she gets her greencard he comes home from work and she's gone. As far as I know he never saw her again. Your wife knew for....God knows how many years of your marriage, she was going to divorce you. Maybe the entire t…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/05/25 06:54 PM
1	I’m in a dark place gents First off, if she wants the divorce give it to her. Don't beg, plead, none of that. No, you also won't be her "friend", or confidante, fuck that. No kids, which means you'll never reach out to her again once it's finalized. Yes, she could drop hints for months...years even that reconciliation "could maybe happen". That's called breadcrumbing. Thats to keep you as a plan B and/or stroke her ego. How long this happens is up to you. You're 31, that's super young. And as far as having kids go...you'…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/25 05:03 PM
1	Outside of the gym, what are some healthy habits I could form to get me through this? The greatest healer for me was time. But...you can't "choose' to do that. Here how my breakdown went for the "non-time" things. 10%- gym, other exercise, tinder hookups, dating, therapy. 60%- travel 30% making, hanging out with friends.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/05/25 11:44 PM
19	A different perspective on why women initiate divorce more often and monkeybranch Lesbian marriages have the highest divorce rates. 🤷	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/25 02:34 PM
1	What helped you heal? Yes, it's because you still have to see her everyday.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/25 02:30 PM
26	update # 1: She's upset that I moved on so quickly - and she's the one who left My theory is that to get to the point where they are ok divorcing, women emasculate their partners. And they create this really distorted image of who he is, to justify blowing it all up. I think for a lot of these women, it's not them being disingenous or playing mental games. I think they're genuinely surprised when it happens. That we move-on, we stop chasing them and go on trips and...keep living.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/25 05:28 PM
12	Almost Got Killed Last Night "Was the woman of my dreams and always will be." When i first divorced i felt like this deep in my soul. And i knew that nothing would change that. I'm 5 years divorced. My ex is just another woman. Just like yours. Our experiences and timing with them might have been unique, sure. And, maybe we won't get another one like our exes. But you know what? They won't get another one like us either. Women hate that, but it ends up being true for them too. They only get to be young-in-love once, just li…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/25 03:09 AM
-1	Walk away wife syndrome - an observation Reading these comments makes me glad to be gay. The guilt trips straight dudes have to deal with in marriage seems exhausting.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/04/25 06:08 PM
1	Walk away wife syndrome - an observation Lesbian marriages have the highest divorce rates.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/04/25 05:43 PM
3	Couples Counselor told me after we closed the sessions that my wife couldn't communicate I went to an MFT during the seperation (for me) and she goes "most people want to divorce because they're bored and want to have sex with other people". Was your ex truly incapable of learning and growing? I'd doubt it. She just didn't care enough to try, it's usually the case.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/04/25 05:29 PM
18	Wife filed out of the blue, but continues to act as if nothing has changed? You seem to know this but...yes. the plan was for you to pay for everything. Also, she's known for years she was going to divorce you. Whatever you do, don't let her reconcile. Women like this will test the water, realize they don't make enough/can't get enough, then use the guy for years more before divorcing his ass later. Do not reconcile with her to get used more	/r/Divorce_Men	21/04/25 05:58 PM
1	Divorce is “catching”… Correct. Married women are happier than single women.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/04/25 01:38 AM
2	Two Years Later. "My ex still drags me down, uses me" Yeah, being her lap dog isn't going to get her to come back dude. Time to stand up for yourself. Or not and continue to get used and abused. Tough love but know you're not alone. We all went through the same thing. Thinking if we jumped through their hoops they'd come back. Some only do it for a few weeks. Some do it for two (or more) years. Only you can decide when you're done being used.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/04/25 07:46 PM
9	She wants out Yeah:( Absolutely reads like she's branch swinging.	/r/Divorce_Men	29/03/25 02:31 PM
6	She wants out Knowing for the last 3 years she was going to divorce you is what she'll admit too. I wouldnt be surprised if she's known for even longer than that. It's a long con. I'd imagine if your youngest is 7, she knew when the youngest was one or two. Wait until the kid is full time in school and more self sufficient. In regards to what you're going to do. You're going to let her walk, and quickly. So you can focus on your kids and your life without her. Take it from me and the other million dudes who w…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/03/25 02:26 PM
–	Securing assets in case of divorce "That said, her repeated willingness to hold divorce over my head has left me skittish " Lets focus on this. You getting 6 grand in gold or something, why you wait for your wife to divorce you 2 or 3 or 5 years from now, is not a plan. I would say, you are right in that she is most certainly going to divorce you at some point. What you need to do is call her bluff and do it now.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/03/25 10:45 PM