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The biggest one that stuck out to me when I first found out about TRP was the whole “dread game” concept. Most secure people - men and women - wouldn’t have such a deep rooted need for validation that they’d stay in a relationship where their partner periodically withholds affection from them and flirts with others in front of you as a way to “maintain the spark” or whatever. That to me screams “appealing to attachment issues.”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:47 PM
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I mean I’m a woman and I think they’re the best equivalents we have for this specific debate. Both imply infidelity and willingness to obfuscate potential harm to a partner, and both involve some sort of medical test to prove the above false. And, I suspect, a hard need for either indicates a severe lack of trust in the person you’re currently spending your life with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 06:22 PM
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I think requesting a regular STD panel from him would be more analogous.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 05:44 PM
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There is literally no difference between telling her he wants a paternity test for peace of mind before, during or after birth. The difference is, in fact, that you don’t risk breaking up with a child by telling her before. Your point overlooked that possibility by focusing only on the cheating implication itself and not the effect of that implication.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:03 PM
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No, there’s definitely a difference between telling your partner you don’t fully trust her to be faithful before babymaking/pregnancy occur and telling her when or after she’s locked into being pregnant and giving birth. If you find out she’s not cool with it before pregnancy, y’all have a clean break with no kid in the middle. No child support, custody battles, or other related bs. If you find out she’s not cool with it during or after, we’ll, now you’re contending with all of the above if y’al…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 05:57 PM
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So how does knowing it’s coming change it? Simple; bringing it up before babymaking gives the woman the chance to back out pre-pregnancy if she doesn’t agree with his request for testing. If this reveals itself to be a fundamental incompatibility between the two and they break up, at least there’s no child in the middle of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 06:07 PM
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Ok, then what gender does “spouse” correspond to?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 10:39 PM
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Sorry, but aren’t the words “spouse” and “significant other” equally as gender neutral as “partner”?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 02:36 PM
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a partner is someone you work with. Not someone you’re romantically involved with. I mean, growing up, I remember it being hammered home ad nauseum by older generations/traditional minded folks that marriage was, first and foremost, WORK. You’re not gonna always have the same warm fuzzies you had in the beginning, you’re going to need to work together even when you two don’t “like” each other at that very moment, so on and so forth. Always focusing on the workload and struggle of marriage and ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 07:39 PM
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Cohabitation actually kick-started the marriage conversation between my husband and I. He told me it was about six months into moving in together (and dating for about 3-4 years at that point) that he decided to start planning for proposal/talking to our families about it. Specifically because he knew at that point, we could continue to live under the same roof without any major fundamental incompatibilities. Can’t imagine either of us blindly betting on being compatible to live together. His fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 05:38 PM
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Source on those “crazy” divorce rates from use of the word “partner”?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 04:11 PM
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Hmm, so all of the ones you listed appear to be the potential risks of the combo bc pill specifically. I can confirm as a current combo pill user myself that those specific heart and blood clot risks were conveyed to me by my gyno when I first started it about two years ago. This also seems to be the case for that docu you recommended, as all descriptions of it I’ve seen online say it looks into the effects of “the birth control pill” , and when most things don’t specify WHICH birth control pill…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 03:24 PM
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How exactly is it slowly killing women?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 10:39 PM
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Ditto to that. First met my husband prior to having ever taken bc, then got on and off around 3-4 different types over the course of our 6 years together. Among the (thankfully few) side effects I’ve experienced, a change in my level of attraction to him has not been one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 10:26 PM
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Do any of the studies that point to this theory actually specify WHICH KIND of birth control is causing this? Because the few I’ve read and the discussions surrounding them only seem to talk about “the pill” without ever specifying WHICH of the 3 or 4 different contraceptive pills we’re actually talking about and at what dosage. Not only that, but “the pill” isn’t even the only hormonal birth control. IUDs, the arm implant, Depo shots, patches, rings - these are also commonly used “hormonal birt…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 07:29 PM
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Lol, right? I’d asked out a high school crush years ago because I figured rejection would be better than just waiting around pining and hoping. The guy saw it as no big deal, but my dad? Literally told me to my face that I was going down the path to whoredom for acting so desperate. I’d never so much as kissed another person at that point in my life. Shit’s wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 03:57 PM
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Hey man, whey to go on that accomplishment!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 09:28 PM
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But the kid is not my son.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 09:38 PM
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Dating podcasts however are pretty good representations cause it shows women in their natural environment with no script and no preparation. Podcast hosts/producers can carefully cultivate the types of guests they give platform to in the same way that SM cultivates the types of content an individual will watch. In either instance, you’re only getting a tiny sliver of the whole picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 09:33 PM
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Even when young men talk tough and dirty about women being "cum dupsters" or something undignified like that I believe their actions tend to be enlivening for women who do not have penis envy/male envy and are happy with the polarity of the sexes. Um…what? I’m perfectly happy as a woman, no desire to identify otherwise or magically gain a penis, but being called dehumanizing shit like “cum dumpster” is in no way “enlivening” for me or most women. Nor does it ever confer any appreciation for “fem…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 06:24 PM
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Because you can usually tell the difference between genuine happiness and misery behind a mask of happiness when you interact with people. They radiate very differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 03:05 PM
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I kind of succeeded at this on accident 6ish years ago (dating someone in my younger years that I ended up marrying), only difference is that we’d met just before our twenties (18 and 19), we’d each had one prior high school relationship, and neither of us started the relationship with the intention of being married - it was more of a “best case scenario” consideration that just happened to work out. We’d met after joining the same comedy performance troupe. We ended up in the same circle of fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 06:16 PM
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Zero experience with the criminals and addicts part, both in my dating history and that of the people I hang with, so I can’t really speak on that part. Video games though? My husband and I both game - together and on our own - and before him I briefly dated someone who gamed even harder than either of us ever do, so I can speak on that side. I’ll definitely echo what most others have said - it’s normally not a huge deal to most women so long as gaming doesn’t consume the majority of your waking…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 01:41 PM
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I’m only interested in dating to marry so i guess my standards are a little high there. but i wouldn’t say i believe i deserve any kind of man. Do you normally latch onto minute details while ignoring the greater context surrounding them?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:35 PM
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You realize most miscarriages require some level of medical aftercare, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:22 PM
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I’ve seen far too many folks reason that they don’t want to have kids BECAUSE they were tasked with providing extra childcare to their many younger siblings as children themselves. Basically, they’ve been there, done that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:12 PM
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I think this is a definite “Your Mileage May Vary” thing. Moving in with my husband while we were still dating about 3 years ago helped us grow closer and stronger as a couple. I could if the need arose somehow, but I’d definitely see a major drop in my day to day happiness if we lived apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:52 PM
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You care enough to have replied again :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:20 AM
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It’s okay champ, using your brain can be tough. Good on you for trying though :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:17 AM
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I don’t want to have kids for a whole litany of different reasons. As I said, PART of the full picture of us committing to no kids is that we’d like to offer support to our siblings if or when they should need it, if or when they have kids of their own. I also think you misunderstand what I mean by “support”. I’m not looking to do the parenting for them - I trust both my brother and SIL to have kids only if they feel they’re capable of the responsibility. That being said, life happens. Emergenci…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 10:35 PM
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Hi, childfree woman who thinks kids are overall pretty neat. Part of the reason my husband and I decided to not have kids was that we decided we’d be better off as a strong support network for our siblings who are actually interested in being parents. Seems like nowadays, even parents who 100% wanted their kids are still struggling without the help of the proverbial “village”. Perhaps it would be best not to paint others with the widest brush at your disposal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:31 PM
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meanwhile I am starting a family and having children as a narcissistic way to get revenge on all of the women who are too good for me. My deepest condolences to your children.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 06:05 PM
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Seems you’ve never heard of the “cake eater” phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 04:26 AM
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Is there actually a “why” other than “if it perpetuates the species, then the species will continue to perpetuate?” I’ve never actually found any compelling reason to believe evolution is anything more than the shit that just happened to stick after eons of incredibly slow change. Also, the thing I actually rub to orgasm doesn’t perpetuate my genes either. You’d think there’d be far more women who’d get off directly to penetration alone if there was any “design” by nature or whatever to reward t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 02:36 PM
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Having children doesn’t necessarily protect you from emptiness later in life though. It’s a foreseeable outcome for anyone who fails to “fill their glass” with the things they find meaningful.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:14 AM
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Inversely, that view gives far more power and weight to the choice to end one’s lineage. Thousands upon thousands of years of one’s ancestors making the exact same mundane choice to submit to their base instincts, only for one to say “fuck it” and end it all with the equally mundane, opposite choice. Destruction, after all, is a pretty impactful outcome. Or, you know, it’s probably not that serious. Honestly, how many of our ancestors were really thinking about these nebulous ideas of carrying o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:00 AM
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I don’t think I’ve ever been part of a campaign that didn’t have at least one other (than myself) lady player. It’s not the 80s anymore; D&D and Tabletop gaming in general are more universally enjoyed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 10:23 PM
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As far as partner permission for sterilization goes, I believe it shouldn’t be a requirement for either procedure because all people deserve reproductive autonomy. For women, pregnancy bears a hefty cost to health (and is sometimes a legitimate threat to one’s life), and for both men and women, a child can impose significant, life-altering change and burden, most of which is only worth it if you ultimately WANT the child. Does that mean that there might be cases of men and (less likely, but stil…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 03:59 PM
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TIL I reached womanhood at 10 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 09:36 PM
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She only said no to like two of the six or so gestures originally listed. Calm down.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 11:32 PM
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Personally, I got the impression that the gender politics presented were intentionally shallow and “plastic” to serve two purposes: To better establish the fact that Barbieland/Kenland is a facsimile of a society conjured up by children playing out their limited understanding of the complex world around them. The gender politics almost perfectly align with the old childhood adage of “girls rule, boys drool” and vice versa, and every genderpol-laden scene felt like I was watching these doll chara…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 09:04 PM
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And come to the understanding that they too, are in fact Kenough.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 08:03 PM
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I think the only “wrong or bad” thing to want out of a woman is a fear of spiders/insects/etc. Accepting that as a quirk of your partner is one thing, but it’s weird to specifically desire a fear response from a woman to something that appears so commonly. Plus, as a woman with an intense fear of wasps, let me tell you that it doesn’t always manifest in the cute little “eek! I need a big strong man to kill the scary spider” way you’re probably thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 07:33 PM
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I’d say most people have a threshold for what will and won’t kill sexual interest (what I meant by “mood”), and the idea of the entire experience being “data-fied” makes it less desirable to me (and I’m sure others as well). Wouldn’t exactly call that fragile, just a preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 07:18 PM
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Pretty sure they’re being facetious. I chuckled at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 10:17 PM
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Is it wrong? On its own, I’d say no so long as both parties are aware and expressly ok with it. But, putting aside the idea of the data being “weaponized” or whatever, I feel like this would make the relationship feel more sterile, like another day at the office. Tracking chores I can understand somewhat, but the minute you tell me we’re tracking sex and intimacy metrics is the minute it becomes completely undesirable. No way am I going to be focused on anything but the knowledge that my “perfor…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 12:19 AM
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If it means anything at all, this younger woman thinks your current life path sounds pretty rad. I’ve always thought it silly to EXPECT everyone to want and pursue a relationship. Like, sure, it’s great when it works, but it doesn’t necessarily work for everyone. And clearly, you’re doing more than fine on your own. I think the only time I specifically don’t like hearing about dating preference (or lack thereof) it is when it’s followed by a tirade about how “modern women/men are all trash” and …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 08:58 PM
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I did once in high school for a friend I’d developed a crush on. I figured there was no harm in being the one to ask him out - worst that could happen was a “no” and a continuation of being single. So I texted him asking to meet up one morning and there confessed my feelings/asked if he wanted to pursue something romantic. Didn’t really go anywhere and in hindsight, I was probably soft-rejected by him. That, however, wasn’t what threw me off the track of being the one to approach. My dad found o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 06:16 PM
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Tell that to my husband, who insisted we do something more than the quiet elopement I’d originally wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:04 PM
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Lol, gotta make them understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 09:41 PM
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Yep, was actually kind of interested in a perspective on the social issues in the 80s vs today. In the end, I guess OP just wanted to tell us how they’re feeling…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 09:40 PM
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I’m in a committed, long term relationship (officially tied the knot about a week ago, will have been together 6 years in September). For a wide variety of reasons, both of us are pretty staunchly against having kids of our own. I’m currently on hormonal bc, and have been for most of the relationship, but I don’t want to stay on it long term due to some potential health risks. Non hormonal options either present their own issues (copper IUDs and menstrual troubles) or are too susceptible to fail…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 01:11 PM
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I’ve seen this question get asked elsewhere before and it’s a bit baffling even as someone who’d prefer to be free of both. Pets are a responsibility sure, but a very simple one comparatively speaking. Teaching them rarely extends beyond basics like “don’t piss on the carpet”, “don’t scratch up the furniture”, and “don’t hump Aunt Sally’s leg at dinner time”. Socializing them is generally just an extension of the above only with other animals, and even then, it’s not always necessary depending o…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 03:59 PM
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Similar boat. Met my fiancé (husband in a few weeks) before I’d ever tried any birth control method. In the almost 6 years we’ve been together, I’ve been on 3 different hormonal contraceptives (arm implant, combo pill, mini pill, with a few gaps of “nothing” in between) and while I definitely experienced some notable side effects from each, none of them included any sort of change in my attraction towards him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 08:31 PM
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