Bpgiissues Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Openers on Bumble		Bpgiissues	/r/askTRP	16/06/18 09:44 PM

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4	Growth requires recognizing when we are below average I would say there are a lot of guys from a similar background. I came here after my marriage with my cluster B exploded and I wanted answers. Also see lot of my friends having their marriages explode too. I have always been pretty good at getting dates and girlfriends. What was missing was getting the ones I want and having my life with women go the way I thought it should	/r/TheRedPill	06/11/18 02:40 AM
2	Who here is making 6 figure salary? I need some advice. Understand what you can offer and what it is worth and perfect those skills. I am in tech and had the opportunity to review a sales contract. I spent an hour on it and changed some wordings so we ended up committing the same work but made 500k more for the deal. That one hour of my time and my ability to do that was worth as much as a couple people for a year writing code for the company. Find a skill that isn't easy for the companies to find or replace and understand your value. And understand …	/r/askTRP	31/10/18 07:43 PM
5	Women Are Like Children, With Examples I think you are generally underestimating children in this post. They are more aware than you think although the point that their planning horizon and impulse control is not yet fully developed is fully valid. The other point that is interesting to see from my daughters is watching them learning the manipulation tactics and skills. They really do use the same pattern however they aren't as practiced and so are less subtle and more obvious. However, they are in fact aware of what they are doing i…	/r/TheRedPill	26/10/18 06:19 PM
3	Recently found out that men don't really care about a woman's accomplishments or careers for attraction, mind is blown. There was a whole lot more complicated mess than that. However, as mentioned in some of the earlier replies I was attracted to her in spite of her career. Not because of it. When we first got together it didn't get in the way. When we had kids (which at the time was something she was pushing for more than me) it massively got in the way. You are correct that had I maintained more frame the outcome would likely have been different. That still would not have changed the fact that the career focus …	/r/RedPillWomen	13/09/18 03:36 PM
6	Recently found out that men don't really care about a woman's accomplishments or careers for attraction, mind is blown. Having married the professional career minded woman and then divorced her, i can say that I originally thought her career was important for me in my 20s and with blue pill conditioning. Now, with my kids where they are and me in a high power job, I can say I am not at all attracted to the career side. What I want is a nurturing woman that can provide what I am not bringing to the relationship. The career of my ex was massively in conflict with that.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/09/18 01:25 PM
3	A word of hope for you who may feel hopeless I think this is a good reminder of how important attitude and demeanor are. Obviously it shouldn't be used as an excuse to not try to be the best you can in other areas. I recently was at an event and a friend brought a date. Initially i was questioning what my friend was thinking based on looks alone. After conversation with her though changed my opinion. She was a classic tomboy but made up for it with a very pleasant feminine demeanor. That said by appearance she would not have attracted my a…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/09/18 01:37 PM
1	Girl with a bf in other state. Current girl had a boyfriend when we met that was long distance. Couple points: 1) as everyone said she's thinking about her options. Be the best one 2) I had to dial back a bit and escalate the kino more gradually. 3) give her the plausible deniability. Keep her guessing a bit on your intent but keep pushing it forward. In my case she was holding back her reactions (but not leaving when I excalated) when I got my hand in her pussy she was dripping wet and completely melted. 4) they want the lea…	/r/askTRP	27/08/18 08:17 PM
4	Anyone else get fucking irritated by listening to girls just so you can fuck them? Neither.	/r/askTRP	11/07/18 08:31 PM
7	Anyone else get fucking irritated by listening to girls just so you can fuck them? Totally disagree on the bj has no face. Men are visual the sight of that gorgeous innocent face looking up at me gagging on my cock focusing on pleasing me, and ass and tits wiggling away way hotter than not. My last ltr got fat and I had to work too damn hard to enjoy her sucking me off.	/r/askTRP	11/07/18 07:13 PM
3	Oral sex and me... need some advice I have had women use the "I dreamed about x last night it was so hot" method before. That way you are describing your thoughts and fantasies without implying that he should be doing it.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/18 09:50 PM
3	Was it right? I think you just need to put yourself out there and be open and most important end it. There are a lot of people out there. Maybe you need to open up what you are looking for but be equally clear what won't work. For perspective I am late 40s m and have just started something with a 34f. I have a lot of experience and am blown away by what we have so far. I believe a large part of this is finding someone that is more compatible . Part of where i needed to go was to open myself out more and just …	/r/RedPillWomen	29/06/18 03:55 AM
16	You will only get one opportunity to ask her out. So quit feeling sorry for yourself, and don’t blow your shot. Late 40s here, I can honestly say I don't remember my first rejection. I do remember most of my successes.	/r/TheRedPill	27/06/18 03:11 PM
5	Fucking girls I dont like/find attractive? I have been with a decent number of women over the last 30 years ranging from meh to moderately attracted. Recently started hitting easily the woman that i have the most attraction and chemistry for ever. Banging little body submissive. Loves sucking my cock. The difference is night and day. Yeah use them for slump busting maybe, but have standards.	/r/askTRP	21/06/18 02:03 PM
1	Openers on Bumble Ah that's where I am going. I think I need to up my pictures cause I have to work harder than that. And I don't seem to have problems once I get to real life meeting.	/r/askTRP	18/06/18 10:07 PM
1	Openers on Bumble My experience so far on meetups I have setup I have had 100% show rate from probably about 20 dates. It was a mix. Probably about 2-3 from that were in the 7 range or so in person. Although that was 3 years go.	/r/askTRP	18/06/18 08:17 PM
1	Openers on Bumble Around 5 or so back before my last LTR. Multiple good evenings with others that got varying degrees of there. For reference I'm 6'4 older and have had my share in life. Just getting back into things this time around.	/r/askTRP	18/06/18 08:11 PM
1	Openers on Bumble Some good ideas see edits to post I'm more focused on what they are doing and whether I need to up my initial profile game. I'm not struggling to respond or close.	/r/askTRP	18/06/18 07:53 PM
2	Openers on Bumble Actually just got two this weekend that did a much better job. One gave me a quite clever line vs the small amount I had in bio. And she is way more invested already. I suspect would have easily closed if I was going there. (I had my kids for the weekend and have a hotter night or two planned with girl #1 for my kid free time this week)	/r/askTRP	18/06/18 07:52 PM
1	Openers on Bumble Agreeing on Tinder lately. Hence my post above. I tried different pics on Bumble and my success rate is actually reasonably good and I'm getting a lot higher quality matches. That is why im posting. Im trying to figure out if some more work on the pictures would make it more efficient.	/r/askTRP	18/06/18 07:49 PM
1	When your N count isn’t that simple? I have had the pleasure of being with two women who were virgins at the time we started dating. One was late 20s the other was 30. I know both had interactions with men before but not piv. I was very much not a virgin in both cases. Like others have said tell the man the truth. For me it allowed me to gauge my expectations and set the pace accordingly. It framed the experience for more patience on my part. It also let me help build the stage that sex is like any other skill. Don't expect to be b…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/06/18 12:38 PM
2	My least favorite way to utilize red pill knowledge. In my divorce in the US the attorney was explicit to call out the fact that divorced parents are legally responsible for college for their children where married parents are not. There have also been several cases where college aged children have sued for college expenses for b.s. degrees at ridiculously expensive schools and won.	/r/TheRedPill	28/03/18 01:31 PM
4	Do NOT date or marry women with mental health issues [Repost] Have an upvote. I'm in a similar boat. I married it my mother modeled it my brother married it. Still sorting my crap out. Also figuring out how to break the cycle with my kids and my brothers kids. It's amazing how seeing the world through a cluster b lens changes your perspective on interactions entirely.	/r/TheRedPill	13/03/18 06:08 PM
4	Baby Fever You can easily do one post birth. Swab on the inside of the cheek is all it takes.	/r/TheRedPill	19/02/18 02:31 AM
1	Getting a divorce after 17 years of marriage, feel a bit down, but I know it’s for the best. I feel worst for the kids (15 and 13). Not sure if I can ever really trust a woman again. So polling the audience what should be first on my list as a free man? Concentrate on figuring yourself out and do you. You will find that men don't have a support network by default. Don't make much in permanent plans for the next couple of years as who you will be 3 years from now will look a lot different than who you are now. I also made a deal with myself that I would make sure I would keep my brand new car perfectly. I followed the theory that choosing one thing that is easily in your sphere of influence that you can control helps.	/r/askTRP	16/02/18 03:15 AM
1	Swallowing the pill with kids? RP aware already but never had it done? Get a genetic test today! Actually I dealt just fine with that not being the case. Point being that taking the test put certainty to the issue and allowed me to let it rest.	/r/TheRedPill	20/01/18 10:58 PM
34	Swallowing the pill with kids? RP aware already but never had it done? Get a genetic test today! I had a DNA test done for my children about 2 years after i had already separated after discovering my ex cheating on me for a long period of time. Even though they looked like me I learned the hard way how easily she could lie and not knowing was gnawing at me. I even was starting to speculate on who could have knocked her up for them and when. I also did it as if it had confirmed she had been cheating on me then it would help put a certainty to just how far I couldn't trust her in our co paren…	/r/TheRedPill	19/01/18 04:36 AM
4	Survey: a majority of women will refuse to date men who earn less than them I experimented with this back in my Tinder days and tried splitting vs picking up the check to see where it would go. I had a 100% ghost me response from those that I paid for on the first meet vs about 75% follow on meetups for those that I had split the bill.	/r/TheRedPill	30/11/17 01:57 PM
0	Why Marriage - Part 1 - Finances Good response it makes sense to target the majority. My point was to be aware that for people that are working on a relationship with a financially successful partner that marriage is likely in fact a financial short term penalty and thus not a compelling reason to actually be married. My current LTR brought up the point that being married would be better financially and I had to point out that in fact it would not. I used the head of household vs married comparison assuming that a large portion…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/11/17 06:17 AM
0	Why Marriage - Part 1 - Finances Not all situations result in financial benefit for marriage. If one or both have good incomes you will actually pay more taxes. Lifestyle changes will also potentially cost more. For example when I divorced I ended up with the same house and same child expenses (No alimony or child support) but ended up having way more disposable income. If you look at the 33% tax bracket as a single head of household it starts at 212k married starts at 232k. If one person is making 200k the add of a second inco…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/11/17 01:39 PM
5	Spoiled tinder bitches I think it's even worse than that. I have a coworker that is at best a 3. She is definitely over 200 lbs and upwards of 6 ft and the face doesn't make up for it, probably 30 or so. She does have a decent personality though... We were at an event for work and I was sitting beside her. She asked me if I could "help her tinder" the amount of messaging and matching she got from decent dudes was insane. Can't imagine what it does to a woman that actually is attractive.	/r/askTRP	13/11/17 01:03 AM
5	Women taking lie detector tests on TV (Jeremy Kyle Show). Pure gold! I learned a lot about this with my cluster B ex. The reason they can do this is they have their own reality in their heads. I had a bit when we were separating when the councilor asked us to do an active listening exercise and she was unable to repeat a single bit of what I said when specifically even asked to be actively listening. Light bulb moment when I became aware that all that time I thought I was a crap communicator she actually just was making shit up in her head.	/r/TheRedPill	24/06/17 02:25 PM
1	my unidentified family member needs TRP, should I help? Like below. My dad my brother and I may as well have all married the same woman. The behaviors we exhibit and the patterns are there plain as day to me now that I can see them. I have tried to reach them but as stated below unless someone genuinely wants to make their own change or has something sprung upon them that opens their mind you won't get anywhere. Only way to do it is to show examples.	/r/askTRP	11/05/17 09:47 PM
2	What is the RPW approach to being told you should lose weight? This one hits home for me. I am on the opposite side of this. I'm in a relationship with a woman who is likely similar in body outlook. She is the classic apple shape with too much around her hips and thighs . I am very fitness conscious and have been my whole life. She was very inexperienced in bed before we met. She has also put on weight across the duration of our relationship. If I had to guess I would put her in the 180 range at around 5'8 or so. I can pick her up and move her around but it…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/04/17 01:46 PM
1	Likelihood of pregnancy? Like others are saying you are probably fine. That said, my 39 yo ex wife got pregnant with my kids with literally one time one night. We were trying for kids and I know the exact date time as I was out of town for the rest of her cycle. And yes I got a DNA test so I know they are mine. It was timing and her family history is ridiculously fertile so she is an exception as I know plenty of other women who tried with fertility treatments etc at late 30s and couldn't get preggo ever.	/r/askTRP	29/11/16 04:38 PM
1	I'm a lazy undereducated trust fund baby....how can I become a RPW ? I had a dream when I was a teenager to make a bunch of money by the time I was 30 so I could then figure out what to do with my life. I then succeeded. Then the hard work began. What to do with my life. I took some time off from my career at that point as it really wasn't my mission in life. I did a bunch of cool things and self discovery. Any rate I have learned that not having necessity to motivate you requires a new level of self awareness that most people don't make it to. It takes a lot mor…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/11/16 02:59 AM
10	Do Manly Things One caution. Do it for yourself or get something in return. I have always been handy have built furniture rebuilt motorcycle engines repaired cars repaired shit around the house etc. I used to always be willing to help people out when they needed it. No longer. Easy way to get taken advantage of. Make sure if you are doing something for somebody else you get something in return. Show that your time and skills have value even if you make it look easy.	/r/TheRedPill	23/11/16 11:36 PM
1	Female psychology works differently, remember that and it will help you In current LTR she was pushing at about 6 months in for a lot more time and me spending more time in her space. I told her I get it I understand her perspective and why she would feel that way and that more in her space won't work for me. I then suggested we spend some time apart to think about it. She made it about 10 days and came back. Dynamics shifted and pressure changed a whole bunch. First time I've managed that kind of frame in the relationship and it keeps on working. It also helps that…	/r/TheRedPill	21/11/16 05:35 PM
5	My girlfriend got mad at me on a night out - how I handled it A long time back I shared numbers with a couple women I met in a club. One of them calls me and opens with "guess who?" I took a stab at one of the names got it wrong and proceeded to rhyme off the most off the wall names I could. "Zelda" etc. Turned into a very nice short term FWB a couple days later. AA for the win. Last week I was at a friends place and basically used my ex wife's first name for my current girlfriend in front of her and them. I just ignored it and continued. Shit happens. Don…	/r/TheRedPill	13/11/16 07:17 PM
1	How can I best support my partner's performance anxiety? Having on and off experienced Ed with several partners (but not a problem with masturbation or other areas) couple of recommendations. 1 as others have mentioned your weight probably doesn't help. 2 I have discovered cock rings they make a huge difference. It's just a rubber band essentially. 3 I now have my gf constantly stroking me or other things even during foreplay. I've found that the small focus on me while I'm focusing on her helps a lot. 4. I've tried the Ed meds they all have some nast…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/10/16 11:55 AM
6	She has shown her hand. I thought that way once. Then fucked another man's wife because she was out looking. (Met her from online didn't know her or him in real life beforehand) Carried on with her for a while. She ended up getting divorced and being a single mother to her kids. The dude seemed like a good guy actually from what I saw. After having my own kids and having my own wife cheat on me I see things differently now. Sure it's still on her, on the other hand you get to live with your own choices. Plenty of women…	/r/TheRedPill	06/10/16 04:02 AM
2	Spending a life together but not marrying Beware that tax breaks in the us are situation dependent. If the finances as significantly unequal there are tax breaks. If income is pretty similar there is actually a tax penalty to being married. After my divorce from my ex my taxes went down significantly.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/16 01:50 PM
5	How Doing it The RIGHT Way Can Make Your Results Worse at First - Persistence in the Face of Negative Feedback and The Purpose Behind Self Development Great post. A long while back I started racing motorcycles. I had a moderate amount of natural talent. In novice I did well. Then I graduated to expert. I sucked and was dead last. I kept going out for multiple sessions and thinking I'm just going to go faster. I focused on the negative of I'm not going fast enough in turn 2 so this time I will just go faster there. It didn't work. After sucking for most of a season I read some stuff and picked up a new idea I shifted to focusing on what I was d…	/r/TheRedPill	11/09/16 12:14 PM
2	Recognize that your beta behaviour may come from a domineering mother It has taken some getting used to. Give my current ltr lots of credit for that. Have to admit it's taken time to readjust like not expecting violent blow ups when I go against her wishes or choose something that will be disappointing for her.	/r/TheRedPill	01/09/16 03:17 AM
2	Recognize that your beta behaviour may come from a domineering mother First just a point of clarity. Your beta behavior comes from you not your mother. You seem to be working on owning it but the title especially doesn't look like it. That said it can be learned as a result of the relationship with your mom. It's also very hereditary. My father enables my mom's manipulative crap. My brother married a woman that has the same qualities as my mom and my ex. It took me well over 40 years to change my perspective and see the behavior for what it is and then figure out …	/r/TheRedPill	28/08/16 07:06 PM
2	Am I too old? My advice just be aware that the dynamics have changed. You will likely need to do more to show your value and catch interest than you used to. Attraction is what it is. I'm currently in an LTR with early 30s lady and I'm in my late 40s. When we started I had a late 40s woman very interested. Nice lady with lots of common experience unfortunately I just didn't feel the attraction even though she took pretty good care of herself.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/08/16 04:33 AM
2	Sister doesn't like new LTR; should you ever take a female sibling's advice? My ex wife hated my mom instantly. Turns out she spotted the same cluster B traits in my mom that she herself has from a mile away even though I was blind to them having grown up with them. Maybe your sister sees herself in your gf.	/r/TheRedPill	21/08/16 05:22 AM
4	Why the wage gap persists in STEM fields and why it is righteous I work in a highly stem environment. Managed many people over my career. With the exception of exactly two all of the women were much higher maintenance. Current role has a very smart woman that is right around 30 that has done a great job maximizing her attractiveness. Dresses quite feminine and has taken great care of herself and is in great shape. She is also a total pain in the ass even though she is quite competent when she feels like it.	/r/TheRedPill	20/08/16 07:05 PM
1	What about the woman who doesnt want children? Despises them? Thinks childbirth is horrible? It's what they are saying at the time. It may reflect what they think you want to hear. They may have just gotten out of something that had them thinking it's a bad idea. OR she could be broken. I plated a woman that was just separating from her husband. While AWALT she was actually a good woman. We had great sex and hung out a bunch. She had a young daughter. She was adamant about not being a mommy white picket fence and her career. Fast forward 1.5 years she is married to a new man has his bab…	/r/askTRP	20/08/16 06:23 PM
1	[FR] 80% guys have no chance on Tinder My experience with tinder. I'm now in my late 40s and started using it a little over three years ago when I was 44. At 44 I had a reasonable success rate probably a 1 in 10 to 1 in 20 match rate number of dates that ended up in bed. About 1 to 1.5 years after I started using the app my match rate plummeted to the point that it became a waste of time. I didn't change my pictures at all in that time period. Not sure at this point if it was crossing 45 that did it or just that the average picture q…	/r/TheRedPill	17/08/16 02:59 PM
6	FR: truth leaks out of feminist: "I never knew I could be so happy until I became a mother" Actually may not matter BP or RP. Baby until toddler is pretty much all about the mother. She receives massive amounts of attention.	/r/TheRedPill	08/08/16 08:44 PM
4	Manipulative Mother and the importance of AWALT Exactly. One of the things I've figured out in the last few years is that I have recently attracted cluster B women and that my mother is one. When i combined that with AWALT reading I came to the conclusion that all women are cluster B psychopaths. I've recently realised that all women can exhibit traits along those lines but the actual cluster B psychos are a smaller percentage.	/r/TheRedPill	06/08/16 01:43 PM
1	The Wife Tests It may not add as much as you think. I'm currently in an LTR with a woman who is looking to get married and she is educated and has found a government job with it. I believe she thinks it adds a lot to what it brings the reality is somewhat the opposite. On the positive side she is able to support herself however it isn't much beyond that. And compared to what I bring in it isn't particularly useful to me. She is however very attached to her career and she has specialized herself so that her gov…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/07/16 03:43 AM
2	Still have some doubt about TRP? Read the raw keylogs from my cheating ex-girlfriend following the moments after we broke up. This is in response to the idea of using a surrogate. I have kids. They are awesome. I'm divorced with 50% custody. To be honest for the most part I'm way happier with the situation than before the split. My relationship with the kids is way better. I spend better quality time with them. Divorced with significant time with the kids beats 100% time in a shitty relationship with a shitty woman. That's the good part. Being a single dad is brutal. You still have a full time job. You don't have the s…	/r/TheRedPill	14/05/16 02:47 AM
8	The Final Exam Quick comment on this. I have learned in my past that I am attracted to and attract women high on the BPD scale. The instant chemistry spark one also happens with people high in that spectrum. It took me a while to realize I was addicted to that instant attraction and to learn to look a little more carefully.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/04/16 08:40 PM
5	How I Became a Millionaire at Age 27... Ah memories. I'm in my late 40s. Teens and college I had a goal of becoming a millionaire by 30 so I could figure out what I want to be when I grow up. I succeeded at it and sounds like you are making good progress in that you are on your way to having a sustained income stream which I missed. Couple of points from my own past. Since I did it the first time basically when I set out from college I developed the misguided impression that it was easy and I had all the skills to do it again. Beware …	/r/TheRedPill	15/04/16 01:54 PM
1	Lessons from a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - Part 2 Actually that lines up well with another part that I'm been going with. Basically learned that actions speak way louder than words with her. So I have made sure that my actions line up with the words and the actions say what I want them to. Eg Saying "that's crap you can't treat me like that" but still helping her out doesn't work. What I've now done instead is refuse to act on any form of request if the delivery isn't done in a reasonable way. I also try to make sure that any actions I do for h…	/r/TheRedPill	09/04/16 10:16 PM
1	Lessons from a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - Part 2 Did you find any good resources on helping raising your kids with the BPD in their lives? I'm finally at the point where I believe I can start looking at the impact of this crap on me and want to help my kids grow up with their mom with the least impact on them possible.	/r/TheRedPill	07/04/16 10:15 PM
2	Lessons from a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - Part 2 15 years with my ex bpd. Some of the highlights mutliple unsocial uncalled for outbursts to random strangers. Including one where I wasnt there and the facilities talked to me later questioning our a ability to bring kids to the facility for lessons. Keep in mind we were divorced then and it was still my issue. Found out she showed a fake drivers license. Uncalled for rage at me if I "messed up." An arrest record where she was nailed for assault at a bar in early twenties. This is a highly profe…	/r/TheRedPill	07/04/16 09:57 PM
1	Lessons from a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - Part 2 \|I'll have to give a lot of thought how to describe how I talk to her \|now. It's more contextual, and it's annoying. Love to hear about different ways about making communication work. I still co parent with her so stuck having to deal with her for a while yet. What I've been doing has been working vastly better than what I did in the marriage but new tips are always welcome.	/r/TheRedPill	07/04/16 09:46 PM
4	Lessons from a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - Part 2 Long time lurker here and at the Rational Male. Thanks TRP and Rollo helped me sort more shit out and I still have a long way to go. Short background, I was with now ex 15 years and discovered an understanding of my BP behavior and BPD continuum as she tried to branch swing and I caught her undeniably with another man. I learned that BPD individuals truly don't listen to what you are saying at all in many cases and truly believe the "facts" in their head as a narrative. I had always rationalized…	/r/TheRedPill	06/04/16 09:59 PM