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| 12 | I miss my cat | Bran_Solo | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/25 12:16 AM |
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| 9 | How far along are you and how are you doing?I'm grateful for how great of a relationship I have with my daughters. It wasn't always good. I struggled with depression and my crankiness was a factor in the divorce. Today, I am patient and kind with my kids. I have my moments still but I'm working on it. I've read many parenting books. I listen to my kids and read them books. I snuggle them on the couch. The biggest win I've had lately is that my 8yo has started really opening up to me a ton about the things she has big scary feelings about,… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/02/26 06:18 AM |
| 1 | How to forgiveYou don't have to forgive her. She's not your partner anymore. Right now you're in a "help yourself before you can help others" situation. Take care of yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/26 07:30 AM |
| 6 | As a divorced man, what are the red flags before the marriage?If they cheated on past partners. If they are allegedly not at fault for any of the hardships in their past. If you play a party game where lying is involved and you're shocked at how good at lying they are. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/12/25 06:48 AM |
| 2 | Need some help.What is in your parenting plan from the divorce? I second the idea of getting a camera at your front door so you can record everything. My divorce had many challenges but I am thankful that at least my ex will always collaborate when it comes to the best things for our kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/25 04:34 AM |
| 5 | How to cope after discardI'm really sorry. I don't have a whole lot to say but I understand how you feel. It's really difficult, but you will feel better. dm me if you want to talk. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/25 05:53 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with intense sadness, regret, and self doubt post separation, long postThe main WhatsApp chat has a ton of people so it can be impersonal, but a lot of good opinions and support come in. There are smaller breakout groups where you get to know individuals better. The weekly calls are amazing. I do my best to attend every one that I can. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/12/25 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with intense sadness, regret, and self doubt post separation, long postIt’s just called “the group” on WhatsApp. I’ve found it more helpful than therapy even. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/25 12:39 AM |
| 5 | Dealing with intense sadness, regret, and self doubt post separation, long postI'm really sorry. What you're feeling is pretty normal. Want to join an online support group? I found it very helpful. Dozens of men in there who have experienced what you are describing, and we go a weekly call that I'm still attending and finding helpful. I have been there. When I first moved out I would describe it as 10/10 emotional agony. I had to be put under for a minor surgery and while they were administering the anesthesia I remember silently hoping I'd never wake up. I couldn't do my … | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/25 07:29 PM |
| 3 | Wish Me Luck: Taking Back My Life Post DivorceCongrats, that's awesome. Expect there to still be more up and down. Recovery isn't a straight line. It's been nearly 2 years from d-day for me and while I'm way better than I was a year ago it's still very up and down. Today I am down, but I will be better. I'm jealous of you getting to keep your house. I lost pretty much everything and I was laid off at the same time. It's hard to not feel angry over this unfair outcome but there's just nothing I can do about it. I'm trying to accept and focus… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/25 07:08 PM |
| 11 | Need perspective from men who’ve been through something similarYou are deep into "keep your mouth shut and talk to your lawyer" territory here. The right steps will depend heavily on your circumstance and the laws in your jurisdiction. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/25 06:29 PM |
| 4 | Just simply dreading Christmas alone .Make sure you have plans. Try to be with someone else - whether that's joining another family for Christmas, going out for Chinese with someone who doesn't have family to visit (what I did last year) or volunteering. Early on the alone moments are so hard. Reach out to me if you want to talk, or let me know if you want to join a whatsapp support group I am in. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/11/25 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Do you tell your boss when you were going through divorce?I'm so sorry. I told my boss and I would recommend it. I had probably the worst performance year of my career and they let it slide (albeit with a bad review). You might want to check out this book, it was recommended to me by a counselor that we both saw: https://www.amazon.com/dp/099862134X | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/25 05:13 AM |
| 5 | Everyone Was RightKeep your mouth shut and talk to your lawyer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/25 02:03 AM |
| 8 | Boys, I need a pep talkI'm really sorry you're going through this. I know how you feel. I was... hysterically sad for a very long time. Friends were (rightfully so) doing wellness checks on me. I'm having kind of a bad day today but I keep reminding myself of how the sheer intensity of sadness was so overwhelming that I couldn't function, and how I'm doing relatively ok today. It does get better. I got a lot of relief from long walks in the forest. I went hiking at a local state park a lot. Talking to people who've ac… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/11/25 02:02 AM |
| 4 | Welp.. I was right.I'm really sorry. I know how you feel. I wish I had more comforting words to offer, but know that there's someone out there who does feel the same things you do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/25 05:37 AM |
| 4 | Need advice after divorce and discovery of affairOof. I have a similar story I'm afraid to say. I'm sorry. My best advice would be to go to minimal contact for a while and try to keep your own emotions as cool as possible while you recover. And recovery is going to take a long time. Prepare for your child to come talking to you about the affair partner. It's natural for your kid to want to talk about what's happening in their lives, but it's absolutely soul destroying to have your child accidentally call you by their name, or to have them exci… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/25 03:23 AM |
| 4 | How blindsided were you by the affair?The other guy pressured his pregnant wife into an abortion, and a few weeks later flew across state lines to spend a night in a hotel with my wife, before he asked his wife for a divorce. He now lives in my house and plays stepdad to my kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/25 03:36 AM |
| 28 | How blindsided were you by the affair?I learned during the separation that my ex not only had an affair, but a fairly lengthy one with a "just a friend", who she made me socialize with. We double dated with him and his wife. I welcomed him into my life, for her. I hosted him in my home and cooked him Christmas dinner. I cannot find words to express just how deeply this hurt me. I learned of it over a year ago and every day it still feels like undiscovered dimensions of anguish unfolding before me. 20 years of happy memories with her… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/25 05:30 AM |
| 11 | Ex wife just living it upI feel this very deeply. Accepting, moving on, and trying to rebuild is incredibly hard as it is, but the wildly uneven and IMO unfair outcomes are difficult to cope with. It's so blindingly unfair, it's hard to comprehend how our justice system can somehow allow this. I was laid off a couple months ago, but the arbitrator decided that I should be able to find a high paying job with no problem so a $5k/mo child support payment is fine. I went from fairly wealthy to feeling like I am being crushe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/25 05:26 PM |
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