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I'm saying make a commitment to how you're communicating with her. You have this conversation that's communicating back and forth with sarcasm but at the end of it you said "i sound like a total douche". Make a commitment to your way of communication, and stay congruent. If it doesn't work consistently start tweaking small details in your method of communication, and you will find your style.
/r/seduction19/04/12 08:41 AM
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I like it bro. My favourite parts being about Take Risks and the Mindsets. I think that most people get so caught up with the scenarios happening in their mind that they forget about the scenarios happening right in front of them. The scenarios in your mind never match the scenarios in reality, which is why you have to take a "Risk" to go after what you want.
/r/seduction18/04/12 05:48 AM
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She's mirroring the game you're playing. You're playing "Coy, Childish, You-Cant-Catch-Me" and she's doing the same thing. Be congruent. If you're going to be a dick, be a dick. If you're going to be nice, be nice. It doesn't matter what you're going to do as long as you're congruent. This conversation is fine. Stay congruent though.
/r/seduction18/04/12 05:43 AM
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Hahaha. Awesome that you got the number immediately after being friend-zoned. One thing that I would say though: your field report is awesome but you should figure out the reason you got friendzoned. That way you can avoid that same action moving into future relationships
/r/seduction18/04/12 05:40 AM
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That movie was nuts. For real.
/r/seduction08/02/12 09:00 PM
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You've got to go out there and take real risks. Chatroullette is money for sure. My roommate uses it all the time and he's 18 years old. He uses it for fun though when he has an extra half an hour to mess around. He's out at the club 4 nights a week working on his social skills otherwise. You should do the same homie. It's much easier to take a risk in an environment where rejection doesn't really mean anything (the club where there's 500 other people) than on chatroullette where you have to lea…
/r/seduction08/02/12 08:52 PM
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i wish they had "like" buttons on reddit
/r/seduction08/02/12 04:56 PM
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hahaha
/r/seduction08/02/12 04:51 PM
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I study Social Dynamics mang. I love meeting new people but my intention is different now. I develop skill sets and use my social skills to push me further in the skill by making friends who are better than me. As an example I'm a writer and I've used Social Dynamics to meet some of the Editors of local newspapers and now I'm working on an article. I also need my blog re - designed so I used Social Dynamics to build a relationship with a graphic designer. I gave him value and made him feel good …
/r/seduction08/02/12 06:34 AM
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Anytime homie thanks for the feedback
/r/seduction08/02/12 06:31 AM
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I think you need to be attracted to them but not attached to the outcome of you being with them. Attraction isn't a choice. Your choice is to pursue the attraction. Once you make that choice you have a choice whether or not you're going to be attached to the outcome or not. If it goes well awesome, that's the way it was supposed to go. If it doesn't go well that's cool too. Learn your lesson and move on. People can't shrug off attraction but they can make the choice to live in the present moment…
/r/seduction07/02/12 08:06 PM
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I think connecting with her on a deep level is the smart move for sure. Especially if you actually like her. Anytime bro! I know you'll be all good.
/r/seduction07/02/12 08:00 PM
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I think that if she has the most fun with you, she'll be the most attracted to you. Mix that with understanding social dynamics and connecting with her on a deep level and you'll be money in the bank bro. Focus on making sure you guys have alot of fun and everything else will fall into place
/r/seduction07/02/12 07:54 PM
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Approach Apathy is a stage of serious growth. I found myself falling into "Approach Apathy" about a year ago. I found that the short term external connections I was making wasn't worth my time or energy anymore. I realized that I had the skillset to go out and make strangers into acquaintances and take them home, but I never developed any long term, long lasting connections. I wasted a year of my time and all I had was social skills that I had no use for. My recommendation is to find a purpose f…
/r/seduction07/02/12 07:42 PM
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"would you rather try and fail or fail to try?"
/r/seduction07/02/12 03:38 AM
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Hmm. I think you don't have to make sure it's a date. I think if you're kino'ing on the date and connecting on a deeper level she'll like you either way. I think you should proceed for sure. I don't think you should have an outcome in mind though. If you're SET on dating this girl and she isn't ready for a boyfriend you could ruin a potential connection. You should ask her to chill I think bro. I think you shouldn't "mask" it either, just invite her out to chill and make sure she has the funnest…
/r/seduction07/02/12 03:28 AM
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dude. this should be a youtube video. tell me cindy was a fat ginger!!
/r/seduction02/02/12 06:02 AM
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In her stomache
/r/seduction02/02/12 05:58 AM
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I will have your children if you approach the child of a hot mother and get the kid to tell the mom that you want to plant your seed.
/r/seduction02/02/12 05:57 AM
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I agree for sure. Superior game tends to win. In a situation where two guys are evenly matched though it's usually the man who pulls the trigger faster
/r/seduction27/01/12 12:08 AM
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So ninja. Love it
/r/seduction26/01/12 08:41 PM
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"Why are YOU so pretty?" :)
/r/seduction26/01/12 07:10 PM
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The man who hangs out with her first will win. If you've established a relationship with her think of what she would perceive as valuable and invite her out to it with you with no other intention than to hang out. Try something fun that she couldn't say no to. Laser Tag, Go Karts, Roller Skating, Sports Bar... anything where you guys can chill but have that "attraction" vibe going with the fun things you're doing
/r/seduction26/01/12 07:09 PM
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Thanks for the feedback dude! You're right that quote is by Eleanor Roosevelt. Discussing ideas and developing ideas is an efficient way to create long lasting conversation.
/r/seduction26/01/12 05:31 AM
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I love it.
/r/seduction26/01/12 04:21 AM
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I have the solution for your situation. I want to tell you a bit about my story. I started Picking Up when I was 16 years old. Reading the Game at that age left me hungry but I couldn't go to the clubs. I went to the mall alot to meet girls. I wanted to expand my dating life past anything I had ever imagined it to be. I was overweight when I was younger and this gave me such a sweet power! I was getting more confident, more girls and I was happier in general. After dating a girl that I met at th…
/r/seduction26/01/12 04:18 AM
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"Small minds talk about people, mediocre minds talk about ideas, great minds talk about ideas and brilliant minds develop ideas." What level are your conversations at? If you're talking about people (gossip, drama) then the connection is going to be limited. If you're talking about events (the weather, dj shows) then your connection is going to only be "average". The deeper connections come with higher level conversation. Talking about what inspires people, what they love to do, their dreams, am…
/r/seduction26/01/12 04:00 AM
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How are your topics of conversations? "What do you do for fun" is a question I'll usually drop within the first couple minutes that gets us talking about the things that interest us. Once you've found one thing that you guys can relate on conversation eases on. There are times where you'll have to speak up and be assertive to push the interaction a bit further (when they're shy) but when communicated correctly most people open up to talk about the things that interest them. Then you just have to…
/r/seduction26/01/12 03:57 AM
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I'm extremely excited that you responded. This is going to be a good discussion. If we give a good positive vibe, chances are, people will be more drawn towards seeing us again. The same goes for a bad vibe. Because people aren't objects, though, it goes beyond those two dimensions; giving off a boring vibe will make us come off, to others, as a boring person. Likewise with being attractive and being friendly. This is where the friendzone exists - people learn to associate us with carrying a cer…
/r/seduction25/01/12 08:15 AM
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Oh well man you always loose numbers in the process. I've lost soooo many numbers because of texting. As long as you learn from it
/r/seduction25/01/12 07:58 AM
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I agree. Even having another friend of yours look it over makes it really easy not to send stupid texts
/r/seduction25/01/12 07:57 AM
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I agree for sure. I think you should always leave a voicemail. Something simple "Hey Sarah, it's Brian Mark. Give me a shout back at **********". Something my best friend does is he'll be like "Hey Jenny it's Dan. I just had something craaazy happe.." and he'll hang up the phone. They usually respond with "What happened?!!?"
/r/seduction25/01/12 07:56 AM
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I always call man. Calling increases my chances of getting a date exponentially. I found that about half of my dates flaked if I just made them over text. I rarely ever get flakes since I've called. Its important to just talk on the first call though. She has to get comfortable talking to you on the phone. She won't meet up with you if she isn't comfortable talking to you on the phone. Check the articles. I think you'll get what you're looking for when it comes to what to say when you text and w…
/r/seduction25/01/12 07:54 AM
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I think that texting is an area that every guy should have a base level of understanding. Even if you don't want to text all the time you should focus on the process of texting to have a base level of understanding at the least. In this process you're going to lose a few of your numbers but that's okay. Calling is always the most efficient route to get more dates anyways. If when you meet someone you're confident, it's extremely likely that you'll be confident on the phone too. Conversation is c…
/r/seduction25/01/12 02:57 AM
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Hey Petie, Getting back into the swing of things is always difficult when it comes to phone and text game. I know personally it took me 5 or 6 months to get my text swag with the girls that I was talking to. I figured out an efficient system that works for me and all of my students when it comes to text game. Post where you seem to be running into issues and I'll help you out... but until then check out our article series on phone and text game :) http://kingpinlifestyle.com/resources/phone-and-…
/r/seduction25/01/12 02:42 AM
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Thanks for taking the time to give feedback! Much appreciated. There are a couple of points I want to touch on here. You're telling us that there is no friendzone before you admit that there are different categories that we put our relationships into I strongly stand by the idea that there is no such thing as the "friend zone" that guys put themselves into. Lovers are friends, and friends are lovers. The only "friend zone" that exists is the state of mind inside of the man that he puts himself i…
/r/seduction25/01/12 02:24 AM
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Focus on how you can compete with yourself and be better than you were yesterday.
/r/seduction19/01/12 09:23 PM
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By comparing yourself to others you're setting yourself up for failure. Let's say that you do happen to get better than your friends. It doesn't matter. When you get better than your friends, what's next? You'll slack off because you're competing with them. Competition sets you up for failure. Your current mentality limits your growth because you believe yourself to be less worthy than your friends. What you think about becomes your reality. Focus on the process of growth. For yourself. "I don't…
/r/seduction19/01/12 09:22 PM
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I remember the turning point for me when I decided that I was going to face my fears and have success be the only option. Check it. http://kingpinlifestyle.com/believing-in-becoming-fearless/
/r/seduction19/01/12 09:17 PM
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Truth, truth. You have to take the risk the first time and put yourself on the line. Truth is it's always taking the risk. It never gets "easy" to approach girls there's no tactics to overcome the emotion you feel when you're about to approach. You just get comfortable with the feeling of uncomfortability you experience. The more you overcome that feeling, the more you grow. You'll never know how to overcome it by mentally masturbating; reading forums over and over again to look for an easy way …
/r/seduction19/01/12 09:13 PM
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^ Good man. If it was that easy why would you be on the seddit forums :P
/r/seduction16/01/12 10:18 PM
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I agree with you Sicarus. I think the idea of a freeze out can be used to a certain degree (i.e. pulling a step back before she does) but I think getting up and leaving isn't the most efficient move. "I hope I'm not exciting your morals too much" haha love it. Agreed. The less you seek sex, the more you get it. Ironically, being outcome independent is a sick way to increase the amount of outcomes you get
/r/seduction16/01/12 10:16 PM
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Yeah I agree with you. Dealing with girls validating their identity by being bitchy right away and when you talk to them you can't even hear them... daygame and lounge game for the win
/r/seduction16/01/12 09:06 PM
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Love this comment. I completely agree. "7% verbal, 38% tonality, 55% body language" is a well known fact. Let's dig deeper to the grassroots of these happenings though. Your mindsets are landing you in the friend zone. It has nothing to do with the things you're saying and everything to do with the things you're thinking. You've already predetermined that "the things I study are boring, and I always end up lecturing girls" so everytime you try to open up you deliver your information in a way tha…
/r/seduction16/01/12 08:54 PM
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Yeah dude! Love the report. It's funny how simple it is to meet people; and how over - complicated some theories and concepts make it seem. It as if the more evolved the social dynamics community becomes, the simpler the theories become. "You mean this whole time I didn't have to come up with a routine, DHV, neg her 4 times while getting past the bitch shield and destroying the AMOG!? Omg!"
/r/seduction16/01/12 08:41 PM
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Dude the freeze out is the stupidest concept that pick up has ever taught. The freeze out is an adult version of a temper tantrum. You've got to be completely comfortable with toying with a woman's emotions for the freeze out to work. It's like being 14 years old and crying to your mom until she buys you a skateboard. I'm a firm dis - believer in the idea of a freeze out. I also think that you made the right move by showing vulnerability. This showed her that you're not a robot, you're a human b…
/r/seduction16/01/12 08:39 PM
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The club is an extremely high energy environment. Escalating verbally in the club isn't the best move.... especially in the middle of the dance floor. The club is extremely physical. The dancefloor even moreso. Learn to spin the girls you're dancing with, get comfortable touching them more and pulling them in close. When you're grinding with her close grab her hand, spin her around and get her to grind her ass against you. Escalating in the middle of the dancefloor has to come non-verbally. Take…
/r/seduction16/01/12 08:27 PM
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It makes sense. Apply the lesson here!
/r/seduction16/01/12 08:24 PM
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GREAT having guys approach you. Not great in a we-need-an-ego-boost way, but because it means that we don't have to approach anyone. We never set out to pick up guys, we had no plans to approach anyone, so the guys approaching us basically had our undivided attention and beat out all the others just by making that move. And for us, it meant that the night was going to be more interesting as there were more people to talk to and hang out with so we appreciated it - especially as they all introduc…
/r/seduction16/01/12 08:22 PM
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At our first tour stop, I also discover pretty quickly that her parents and brother are three rows behind us. I decide this will be an interesting time to test my assertiveness. haha that's so sick. Where's the happy ending to the story? "Then we had a 3some on the beach with a mexican girl." This would be cool to hear the end of it :)
/r/seduction14/01/12 01:06 AM
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Dude! I love this stuff. It's sweet to see that guys are ballsing up and making the right moves. Badabingbadaboom. Being genuine and speaking from the heart is always the best move. Especially with girls you've been crushing on for awhile. Something that helped me with my highschool crushes is going out and approaching HARD. I found it gave me the confidence and the frame to come back to the girls that I used to like and tell them what was up; the new, reformed me. It's sick to see that you fina…
/r/seduction14/01/12 01:04 AM
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It's a good thought for sure. Reffering to them as bitches is taking away from it, but you're on the right track. I completely agree with you bro. I feel like the more love you give out into the world the more you receive. Kind of like a universal law. The universe responds with more love. I think that love is a form of value that you can give. I do believe that you should always giving value in a way that's perceived as valuable. I think if you're always in the mindset of giving value than the …
/r/seduction12/01/12 09:16 PM
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You shouldn't text her at all. Getting dates over text isn't the most efficient way. You have this girls number, you've gone on dates with her. You should call her. The purpose of the call shouldn't be to set up the date, but to tell her something funny that happened in your day, or to let her know you were thinking about her and wanted to make sure she wasn't diseased. Dude! You've gotta remember what she's saying to you. That was a massive problem I ran into (and am still trying to actively fo…
/r/seduction10/01/12 06:01 PM
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"Excuse me... I know this is random... but I think you are absolutely gorgeous and I wanted to come make your day." ... she'll respond... "My name's Brian." ... she'll introduce herself... "I noticed that you're wearing yoga pants, you look athletic. What do you do?" I use my awareness to look for a reason to talk to her on the third comment, but the first thing I say usually tunes to "you're gorgeous" "I had to come make your day" something along the lines of giving value. Then I always introdu…
/r/seduction10/01/12 02:22 AM
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My personal style is to always go direct. I believe direct openers, if delivered correctly, to hit a home run 80% of the time. 10% of the time they have a boyfriend and 10% of the time I do something wrong. However I always warm up with the content in the article. When I know I'm going to be approaching girls that day I'll start opening by asking basic questions. For example if I'm walking to my bank, even if I know where it is I'll ask somebody along the way "Excuse me, do you know how to get t…
/r/seduction10/01/12 02:04 AM
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The first negative belief that you have is programmed into you as well. You have to start talking to people during the day to realize that it's not actually that strange. In fact it's completely normal. People are people. True that most people walk around in a daze but when you have a purpose to talking to them it always makes it easier. The purpose could be getting directions, asking a question about something they're wearing, or approaching them directly to get to know them. Adding a purpose t…
/r/seduction10/01/12 01:59 AM
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Exactly. It's extremely easy to justify not approaching during the day. Especially when you're alone. You're right when you say at night you know people are expecting to be approached. Also when you're out at night with your friends you're much more likely to approach to hold yourself accountable to your friends. Anytime man, glad you liked it :)
/r/seduction10/01/12 01:50 AM
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I completely agree with them making men spineless. I do agree with MockingDead though; women are insanely receptive to a genuine approach during the day. Great insight 30vanquish Clubs are completely overrated once you begin approaching during the day. Why would you waste time in an externally validated environment when you could approach a smokin hottie at the grocery store?
/r/seduction10/01/12 01:47 AM
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Approaching during the daytime is SICK!... once you get over the initial anxiety. Most guys don't have the balls to get past the anxiety that the adytime brings. Once you manage to conquer this, you're money. That's awesome bro, nice work. I find the situational openers to be the best for sure. Situational or individual specific question openers based on the appearance of whoever you're approaching. Here's an article that talks about increasing your awareness of good things to say in the daytime…
/r/seduction09/01/12 08:28 PM
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Yeeep, this is definately a sick comment
/r/seduction05/01/12 09:08 PM
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I agree it gets a bit tough when you're at school or working. Use your people meeting skills to develop a relationship with someone in your class, or at work though. What you said in this post was awesome to dude who posted it. Sick. I think that more people should use their relationship development skills to build a social circle of cool, high value people instead of focusing on approaching girls. This post hit home and makes so much sense. I mean, why would you waste your time approaching hot …
/r/seduction05/01/12 09:07 PM
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Interesting video for sure. I don't know if everything he said was relevant beyond people don't want to be bored. Of course people don't want to be bored. That's something that people can't logically argue. My opinion on "assholes" is someone that plays with someone elses emotions for their own enjoyment. That would make sense since females are emotional beings; being able to emotionally stimulate someone for your personal benefit would be a "Win" in the "Asshole Gets Girl" category.
/r/seduction05/01/12 09:03 PM
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I can definately see where you're coming from. I think that being yourself at all times is the only option. You must know who you are and be congruent with that identity at all times. The notion of "be yourself" is often mis-understood because people hear that all the time. That's like the football coach yelling from the sidelines "hit the kid!" The football player knows he needs to hit the kid. He just doesn't know how to do it. The site teaches you not only to hit the kid, but the proper steps…
/r/seduction05/01/12 08:10 AM
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That makes alot of sense. I think you would have to get a nickname that's unique to her. That'd be a good idea
/r/seduction05/01/12 05:07 AM
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Very powerful. Yeah I agree. Hearing someone call someone call me "Brian" every single time they want my attention could get annoying. I haven't found any pet names that work for me consistently though. Agreed. A certain level of connection should be established before "babe" "baby" or any of those girlfriend names.
/r/seduction05/01/12 05:04 AM
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Interesting point. You're completely right. I think that it has to be congruent to your personality though. For me, I'm more of an extrovert and the word "yo" is congruent to my identity. I think in some situations it might sell me short though, I know I've been blown out for using slang.
/r/seduction05/01/12 04:59 AM
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Why would you call them babe when you could just say her name? The most powerful word in the english is someone's name (Dale Carnagie: How to Win Friends and Influence People). Using anything other than their name is selling yourself short of a connection. I don't think that calling someone "Babe" is a bad idea. I think it works. I don't think it's the best move though. I think the most efficient thing to do is to call someone by their name. I use names for sure but they're over the top exaggura…
/r/seduction04/01/12 07:46 AM
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That's awesome man! I love reading that your progress has been so exponential. Super sick. I believe all of the things you've strengthened your perspective on are dope. I think the coolest thing you've done is you've shifted your mindset on everything. The fact that you're able to take the content on the forums and apply it to real life means alot; you've already avoided the issue of becoming an information junkie. "Oneitis" is only an issue if you focus on it. Just like you've done with your ot…
/r/seduction04/01/12 07:32 AM
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You have to create a vision and start talking about it. You should never have lines or routines on hand; these are stories that belong to someone else. You should know what your current interests are, what you love to do with your spare time. If you don't know what you love to do with your spare time; that's fine. Write down 5 things that you love to do with your spare time and have those be your conversation topics. The best part about studying Social Dynamics is that you have the potential to …
/r/seduction31/12/11 06:46 AM
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Coming to this realization is a good thing. Once you realize your flaws, you can take the necessary steps to becoming the person you want to become. How can you fix a problem you're unaware of? Now that you're aware of your issue, take steps to fixing it. The best idea would be to find someone who you look up to in the seduction community and start following his ideas, reading his blogs, talking to your friends about meeting new girls. Welcome to the world of self - development. =)
/r/seduction31/12/11 06:01 AM
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