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Tbf I've been to NZ a lot more and my family even has property there Some of the greatest moments of my life (seeing the southern lights, swimming with a pod of wild orcas, skydiving at Fox Glacier) happened there Also if we are talking about living somewhere I just like the lack of people more and am a big nature/scenery person (not that Australia lacks nature but still) I'll concede that Australia>North Island but not the South
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:42 PM
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US (Costa Rica runner up) Brazil (Colombia runner up) Indonesia (Japan runner up) Tanzania (Botswana/Morocco runner up) Italy (Croatia/Norway runner up) New Zealand (Palau runner up) I don't like to hate any countries I have been to really. Every single one I've been to has some incredible things to see/do and some very nice people so regardless of my experiences there (racism, crime, general lack of safety) or their political leaders I don't want to hate
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 07:26 PM
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I get what you mean although I disagree on your third paragraph At a certain point you just have to realize time is slipping away and shooting your shot is worth it regardless of what some may think I suspect that you (like me) read between the lines in ways that reduce your self worth. Nothing inherently wrong with it but I think if you don't approach the "numbers game" advice applies here
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:44 AM
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To hype me up for his bachelor party my friend sent me videos from Hvar in Croatia and yeah--I don't see any gender roles whatsoever It looks like any US Spring Break destination except the women are prettier
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:46 AM
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I don’t think I’m perfect I was ridiculously skinny a year ago (118 lbs at 5’9-10”—the height thing might be a factor but IDK) and have basically lived in the gym whenever in town since The compliments now that I’ve bulked (cutting now to get to abs and shave the BF I put on) have come…from other guys. Hell I had half the gym cheering me on last week when I hit 200 on the bench I still get nervous around girls and I guess that makes my approaches awkward. Little neurotic in that I play out a hyp…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 11:17 PM
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So my entire life it boiled down to “attending things”? Or did you just read sentence 1 and go with it? I wouldn’t even say that’s my main life experience. This would be becoming more fearless and getting into adventure sports like skydiving, scuba diving, paragliding, etc and doing them at some of the most thrilling sites in the world Well that and studying my ass off to get into an Ivy and then again to get into med school I’m not any kind of pilled. That said Redpill doesn’t say money over al…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:32 PM
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It’s not to credit of my own but my parents are rich as hell Like enough to support three generations I have been to 75 countries, 7 continents, speak five languages, have loose friends in quite a few different countries around the world, have been to 6 Super Bowls, 4 world cups, etc, etc Hell this very year since graduating from an Ivy last Spring in my gap year before medical school I have: been to the French Open, climbed a fairly famous mountain in the Alps, visited a wildlife conservany in …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 10:02 PM
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This is my issue more than anything with “certain” women (certainly not all). I don’t care that someone isn’t attracted to me. I mean it hurts in the moment but we cant really control that so whatever…hopefully be nice about it but it is what it is The gaslighting about how easy it is and how you must be some outcast weirdo to not have a date/kiss by your 20s is fucking weird and shows their own lack of experience Just because you have lived a life where just being remotely unique is enough does…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:25 PM
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Finished college last year and in my gap year before med school I’ve pretty much been an academic ace my whole life (if I wasn’t I’d get beaten so I kind of had to and my parents gave me S tier intelligence genetics which made it easier) Over the last couple of years I’ve become way more well rounded though. Play two instruments (harmonica and bongos though so not sexy ones), speak Spanish and French and could probably learn more since it comes naturally to me Big into traveling with 75 countrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 11:02 PM
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LTR ideally But not really in a position to say no without considering if casual or marriage is on the table
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 10:01 PM
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I mean neither. They bragged to establish their place in society and to give themselves some kind of status/importance that they didn’t earn Most all of them got laid just fine though—especially if white
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:47 PM
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I find it funny how most Ivy kids I remember couldn’t go a day without mentioning who they were connected to but me talking about my life experiences (places, sporting events, famous people met, adventure sports, etc) is “weird” and an obsession with my parents
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:30 PM
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Well I’m going to actually get some experience in a big city for the first time in my life 3 weeks this summer in Miami and 3 in Minneapolis Kind of scared I don’t lose the kissless/dateless label there and end up having to passport bro my 20s away between med school semesters Not super optimistic either considering both are pretty overwhelmingly Hispanic/White cities and well…I’m not, but regardless of dating I suppose it’s a worthwhile experience Really hope some of the posters here are right …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:10 PM
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This comes up time to time The bottom line is we have lived in the American Midwest for like 25 years. My parents have just about no connections to India save for a few living family members. I have not been to India in 9 years. My Hindi I’ve been told sounds like a British actor in a Bollywood movie trying to speak Hindi All this before considering that my parents actively mock and look down on the Indian Americans they know who get arranged marriages as losers. My mom has also explicitly said …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 08:53 PM
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That's a really nice story. Did you ever see her again?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:35 PM
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I have had therapy though I'm on a break now It helped a lot with getting over academic stress. I remember when I'd cry at the thought of getting an A- Also helped me get off my underweight ass and into the gym and with taking more risks (whether socially or literally like jumping off planes, etc) But no therapy does not make you magically attractive to women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:29 PM
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Anyone had any success with unprejudicing someone? The Moroccan friend I made in Qatar during the WC told me straight up that if I converted to Islam it wouldn't be difficult at all to find some rich Arab willing to marry off his daughter to rich westerner. Said the name of my university, being a future doctor, showing up in an 8000 dollar suit/rolex, taking five+ extravagant vacations a year and net worth of my parents would have any Arab father going crazy and and that the Indian ethnicity par…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:22 PM
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Let’s assume that people are way better off as a whole (I think I agree but it’s not as cut and dry as it seems once adjusting for inflation) You don’t think wealth has a point of diminishing returns as far its effect on happiness? I’m going to sound spoiled but try going to 10 countries in extravagant style (5 star resort, first class flight, etc) and see if the 11th one still feels all that special or life changing Better than fighting against the Japanese in crocodile/tiger infested Burmese s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 03:13 AM
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Eventually you can be lean with muscle. I’m not saying to be bulky forever
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:23 AM
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Not that yoga isn’t an excellent activity. It is and it gives you a chance to interact with women ideally. Hell my grandpa did yoga every day and lived into his early 90s (which is fantastic for an Indian man) However you need to pack on mass if you’re a skinny guy. Lift weights and eat lots of protein. Don’t be that scared to get less lean because if you (like me) are naturally skinny losing that fat will be easier than gaining the muscle and you’ll look great Also self esteem wise for a man th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:16 AM
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Hit the gym and eat Now despite that I still haven’t had any success with women but it gives you some kind of purpose and gets you the respect of other men Also see if you can find some kind of hobby that interests you and allows you to progress and feel accomplished. For me it was adventure sports (skydiving, scuba diving, paragliding) and learning languages Again not gonna pretend like women really care unless you’re already attractive to them but you feel less depressed Also if you’re an anim…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:58 AM
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Where do you find milfs that aren’t married? I’ve found plenty of older women at gyms attractive but my area is fairly conservative and hitting on married women isn’t likely to get good results
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:46 AM
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I'm in a gap year and start med school next year Been hitting the gym for a year now to bulk from a toothpick 118 lbs (at 5'9'' to 5'10'') to 170 (starting my cut now but that'll be easy--bulking was way harder) Have had some fun in the gap year and all (climbed a mountain in the Alps, went diving in the Red Sea in Egypt, Qatar for the WC, Super Bowl, etc) and increased approaches but no date or kiss even let alone sex Really wanted to get something to hang my hat on in this year of freedom befo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 09:38 PM
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A guy with the harmonica would get all the pussy in the Balkans lol Even if Indian (Indian American with no accent and rich but still brown)? Been to Montenegro, Croatia, Greece and Romania--but all were pre puberty except Greece/Croatia and never approached there Actually going to Croatia for the third time in my life for a guy I know's (guess you could call him a friend) bachelor party in a month
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 09:29 PM
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Also the country music started as an effort to fit in to my town until I realized I actually liked it And I could go up to 1000 people in India and would be shocked if 3 knew what bongos were It's Cuban. There are probably more Bongos players in Miami than all of India
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 09:26 PM
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Well I'd rather play something that has meaning to me than put in months of work in the hopes some Justin Bieber fangirl will be willing to overlook my race The look on my terminally ill grandpa's face when he saw me play a harmonica was worth more to me than that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 09:23 PM
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That’s fair. I guess I thought the draw of an instrument was having some talent or skill and an artistic mindset rather than the exact music itself
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 08:23 PM
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Fair enough. Didn’t mean to sound upset. But again I grew up in an all white town and basically never interacted with other Indian Americans until college I haven’t been to a temple in a decade. My dad has no real connections to India at this point. I think he legit knows (as in has fundraiser for/met/donated to) more National Republican politicians in the US than anyone in India outside of his own family I’ve been to the last 6 Super Bowls but don’t even know the full rules of cricket Not oppos…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 08:21 PM
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Lol wut. I grew up in the American Midwest where my sister and aunt were the only Indian American kids in the whole town What about any of that led you to believe I’m Indian? I grew up watching the Kansas City Chiefs, Nebraska football, Disney movies and putting up Christmas trees Country songs on my Spotify playlist out number Indian songs like 27:1 I haven’t set foot in India in 9 years and have been to like 15 countries more often than I’ve been to India (twice) I don’t even think I own a pai…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 08:13 PM
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Some advice women give is definitely disingenuous (and they know it) but I’m convinced a lot (especially here) just reveals their age Don’t think I’ve ran into a better example of this than “be musical/learn an instrument” I play the harmonica and the bongos Not the sexiest instruments but I have ties to both that go beyond just the instrument--whether it was by grandfather in India saving up for a harmonica based on the blues he heard on the radio when he went to the city and dreaming of Americ…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 07:43 PM
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Dude this is so me I got complimented walking outside a gay bar in Scottsdale last Saturday when I was in AZ for the Super Bowl and shook the guy's hand and almost wanted to hug him
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 09:45 PM
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As a fan of Hamza please don’t compare him to Andrew Tate lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 04:02 AM
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Watching some of his older videos about his experiences getting into fitness, as a teenager being an outsider in friend groups, family pressure, in my case insecurity on race, etc--I couldn't believe how relatable he (and the exact experiences he talked about) was and anyone who I've met who watches him says the same regardless of what finer points they found relatable He might have made a lot of money but the content he put out for free is incredible. No hate, no cringe, just old school ideas o…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 01:47 AM
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Started hitting the gym little less than a year ago. My parents were thrilled and cut me blank checks for whatever powders, supplements, bars, shakes I wanted (I'm vegetarian so I needed this) Bulked from 118 to 165 without going up a pant size (though they do fit tighter) Probably starting a cut in a couple weeks to get down to 12% BF but yeah: not unhappy with the results Went from never having done a pull up or dip in my life to doing them with weights tied to me, barely dumbbell pressing 20s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:48 PM
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I love the channel and the guy is very nice/beginner friendly That's probably the type of art I'd strive to be good at anyways (painting is nice and all but just being able to draw something nice when I see it like a scene from nature, an animal, a landmark, etc is probably more applicable to my life). It's just that he's a little too good--like way better than I can see myself ever being. Still though I'll looking into it for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 07:12 AM
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You think rock climbing>combat sports? I’d like either and both fit into the fun cardio to get shredded in a cut category
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 04:36 AM
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Hey that’s me! Yeah I roll my eyes every time someone talks about how being rich helps That said I’m also an Indian American in a 90%+ white (was 95%+ when growing up) town in the Midwest and I was skinny as hell until hitting the gym hard starting little less than a year ago Then again I was at an Ivy with people from all over the world and still got nothing (was skinny then though) and I’ve been to like 75 countries without a hint of interest from women and quite a few rejections abroad so who…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:32 AM
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Hiking probably Snorkeling/any kind of scuba too though it’d have to be a really ritsy camp to have that Horse back riding too I actually know a childhood friend (girl) who probably could help me find a place like that (also from New York and a daughter of former colleagues of my parents so pretty rich herself) I just saw her for the first time since I got into shape last week and I am going to Buffalo next weekend for the Bills Bengals playoff game with her so I could ask then Thing is she has …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 03:28 AM
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I honestly like the summer camp idea. Most of my June is free and I actually enjoy the outdoors. Just not real great with kids lol Ideally would you recommend to do that at some place far from home? (Like three states away) I know a camp that in high school was a popular summer time thing (though I’d kind of stick out like a sore thumb as a college grad)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:55 AM
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My parents are rich (like rich enough that my grandkids assuming I have kids to begin with are taken care of barring a disaster) and have zero issue cutting me blank checks as long as they don’t find the reason stupid And I’ve been doing what I wanted to and I’m a kissless dateless virgin. There’s nothing I’d throw out simply because a woman tells me to but I don’t see the harm of adding something specific that could help me and help with attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:52 AM
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What do you mean by Lord help me lol I assume it’s a reference to what a time draining grind med school is and how hard it will be? I’d agree with that and there’s a reason I’m dreading it As far as specialty I haven’t thought that far ahead yet because my undergrad was pretty draining itself but I’d lean towards something like ophthalmology, plastic surgery or dermatology My dad started in a high earning specialty that was also extremely time intensive (as in I’d barely see him in a week when y…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:48 AM
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Yeah I’m 22 (will be 23 by then) I didn’t care about having a zero in the romantic experience column and ever growing double digits in the rejection column for many years but I don’t see a better chance than right now with my I’ll just say unique financial advantages and ample time on hand The time is flying away though :(
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:36 AM
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Maybe it’s the fact that I’m a midwestern town where most have never left the country but I can count on one hand how many times anyone has been interested by me talking about diving in the Red Sea in Egypt or skydiving from Swiss glaciers The Super Bowl thing holds a little more interest but I tried offering a girl a Super Bowl ticket (it was my first Super bowl the Falcons Patriots one) in high school and it didn’t work I respect the Niners and actually think they win it all this year but I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:24 AM
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Really wish I could do art My mom and dad growing up in India literally had their art sold for money and my sister is really damn good too but I straight up suck lol Like no one even lets me take pictures because my pictures stink Maybe pottery or something of the sort? I agree to me being passionate about some things is fine but I won’t have time like this again to improve myself
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 02:16 AM
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I have more time on my hands currently than ever really before in life (and probably more than I ever will have) and want to maximize that What hobbies are attractive? So far I've got gym 6 days a week on PPL, traveling mostly to sporting events (Super Bowl, World Cup, Final 4, college football games, golf/tennis majors) or for adventure sports (paragliding, skydiving, scuba diving, climbed one mountain in the Alps), any kind of wildlife viewing (before I die I have a list of species I have to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:51 AM
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Got to say I don't know too many Asians who travel the world, do adventure sports, play two instruments and go to Super Bowls and World Cup finals If that doesn't count as fun I can't even imagine what does But yeah I am realizing that certain things are only appealing when it's the right person doing them. You do realize I wasn't taking a picture of my degree and putting it on my profile right?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 01:04 AM
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Is sex the only acceptance? Idk it’s important for sure but my parents are accepted I would say. Almost all their friends are rich white people. They have respect in our town and from their time as doctors pretty much as close to perfect as a doctor can get and even their political connections are trustworthy as far as nothing happens in their industry in the state without them knowing about it I don’t know if they could get sex and that’s a little weird for me to think about but I don’t think a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 08:44 PM
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Not sure exactly what you mean Talk with who? Online yeah To my parents maybe but I wouldn’t. They’d consider me even more pathetic of a loser My sister and I aren’t close but she pretty much always maintained that she’d never date anyone of our ethnicity/culture (even though my culture is basically American at this point—and so is hers) and can’t imagine how desperate a girl would have to me to. Kind of nasty but I almost respect the directness To my therapist yeah in recent times that’s most o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:43 AM
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I understand that to some extent but he’d just met me. How would he know about me not being accepted Is it that obvious?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 11:12 PM
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Well I stopped helping with homework More just used them as motivation in school and to hit the gym (I was very skinny and probably had a little bit of acne at the time of this--still have light scars from acne but bulked from 118 lbs to 164 without going up a pant size on 6 days a week in the gym since I don't really know what I could have done. They had more social clout and brutal rejections aren't really considered out of bounds. Maybe if she'd kicked me in the balls or something I could hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:45 PM
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"Eww you're going to make me throw up" "Come back when you hit puberty" (I was 20) "No--our arrangement is just you help me with homework. I could never actually date you" "There isn't enough money in the world. I'm no prostitute" (the date idea I'd asked was a little unique and expensive)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:39 PM
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My sister is at best someone in need of help and at worst a legitimate monster. She has hit my mom more times than I can count (not little slaps either), talked about how she wants my parents to die so she can collect the inheritance, pushed my 4'10'' 84 year old grandmother (who can admittedly be a bit much to handle at times personality wise but still) to the ground during an argument and told her to get out of "her" house, pulled pranks on my deaf grandfather at the expense of his hearing ina…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:35 PM
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That's fair. They aren't traditional enough to force grandkids (ie cut me off or write me out of inheritance for lack of them) but they are traditional enough to want them (ie complain loudly for not having them) The thing is that every other part of their "American dream" has worked out well. My mom in particular grew up without a functioning toilet and now they own like 8 houses and she drives a car that costs more than many peoples' houses. My sister isn't as academically successful as me but…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 08:27 PM
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Honestly plastic surgery is one of the few things I don't think my parents would approve of--like it would actually be disgusting to their moral sensibilities (I know because I've heard them talk about people their age who get it). They'd come at me with the standard "you look fine the way you are/you don't want a woman who only wants you for changing your face/etc" If I did that I'd probably have to pay with my own money (which I have but still--it's not quite as ample and won't be for a while)…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:21 AM
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Ngl I just wanted to see how it would look for me in a different country and I set my location filter to Kyiv from Rapid City, SD (not my home town but very similar to it) with the same profile (American soon to be medical student, same responses, same pictures showing an exorbitant lifestyle) My inbox was flooded with matches and DMs within a day and they just kept coming and coming. Questions about the details in the picture (animals, places, the activities), compliments and even some sexually…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:16 AM
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Working on it Have hit the gym for 8 months now on push pull legs 6 days a week when in town and bulked from 118 lbs (at 5 foot 9-10 so really skinny) to 160 while keeping a pant size of 29 Some of it has been fat (belly and chest mainly but not much) and planning to start a cut soon for the summer Being vegetarian it has been a little expensive spending on bars, shakes, powders, supplements, etc but my parents really have no issues writing a blank check for stuff like that Even have a personal …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:47 AM
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This past month was the first time I had tried OLD. Before that was only approaches. I set my location to Rapid City, South Dakota--not my hometown but similar to it (it was more experimental for me than a genuine attempt). As you can imagine not all that diverse (though there were a few Latinas I swiped right on) I have approached too. A few Brazilians (one of them probably counted as black even perhaps) last month in Qatar with my friend even telling me what to say in Portuguese. Did like one …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:37 PM
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So you are saying that acting like a totally average generic American with absolutely nothing special going for him (because frankly most peoples' lives are pretty boring) or any kind of exciting moments in life would do better than being a wealthy Ivy grad, multilingual, medical student sports fan/adrenaline junky with 5 exotic vacations a year? I'll have to suggest that to my therapist. That doesn't seem consistent with her ideas. She didn't make the profile but basically drilled home highligh…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:03 PM
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You need to work out how to very quickly establish the fact you are self sustaining and here to stay dependent child of a rich Indian family who will be heading back home Where would I go? Where do you mean by "home"? My "home" is closer to South Dakota than it is to India. My parents are US Citizens who are even minor political donors. I am as American as anyone--I have been to like 15 countries more than I have been to India. I have never really known any of the Indians you're describing (thou…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 11:33 AM
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1) Build muscle and lose fat to have an attractive, masculine physique. Have ways to go still but on a good track. Need one good cut to really see clearer abs. Don't know if it even matters though with how brutal my back acne is--look big in clothes but can't actually take my shirt off with that How’s your social life? Are you in university or have graduated already? Graduated last year and start med school next year. Maybe like 4 close friends who are unfortunately scattered across the country.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:51 AM
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Without dating or socializing on my mind, I'll be able to put a lot more focus on my education and career as well. Dating sure. Maybe putting it on the back burner it is fine. Socialization though has major career implications. Part of the benefit of going to a top college is networking and part of that is likability. Sadly doesn't work for me because I'm not white Neither am I but you know this is actually not a total deal breaker in Eastern Europe? Unless maybe if you are super short because t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:38 AM
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So here's what I'd say to my younger self It might not apply to you at all honestly but parts might But if I could go back, I'd try a lot less hard. It took therapy for me to understand this but there was no need for me to go to an Ivy. It's fucking medicine--no one gives a shit where you went. Many of the Indian American doctors I've come across went to med school at Indian colleges that I can't even pronounce let alone know anything about. I just wanted validation after working too hard in hig…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 10:08 AM
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I AM an American though. I have no "home" to go back to. There's like 15 countries I have been to more than I have India Where is there for me to "go home" as opposed to "stay"? My parents have lived here for like 30 years, my sister and I were born here and I couldn't even speak in a proper Indian accent if I tried Hell my parents have literally met and donated to some very well known US politicians (I have met a couple too). Why am I having to prove that I want to "stay" in a country that's mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 09:53 AM
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If your parents were traditional enough to help with matchmaking Well they aren't--that's problem one. Their networks are healthcare executives, doctors, politicians, pharmaceutical industry reps, etc--there are some Indian Americans in there. But their connections to India are pretty thin at this point. But I'm not really unaware of how hard dating outside of race is for me just fundamentally. It's just that my town was like 95+% white (today maybe down to like 90+%). My sister and I were liter…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 08:01 AM
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I was literally born in a small midwestern town in the US and have lived my entire life outside of college in a mid sized midwestern town. I have been to 75 countries but have not set foot in India in 9 years. Besides knowing the language (and even then I speak better Spanish than any Indian language) I have nothing save for it being my parents' place of birth and the two grandparents who are still alive connecting me to India (unless you count academic focus and vegetarianism as "Indian" traits…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 05:14 AM
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I honestly don't even care that much about women not being into me. I think I'm better than some people in relationships but at the same time I get it. You can't force attraction It's the lying and saying I must be a loser for being kissless and dateless--and acting like it's so easy. I really like my therapist and she is a very nice and empathetic person who has helped me come a long ways But she's a white woman who's more attractive at 40 than 70-80% of women I see in their 20s. Her talking to…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 02:11 AM
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Did you get your idea of what an Asian guy is from some sitcom? Serious question The gyms at my university were full of Asians and Indians lmfao. And Asian women are far far more white worshipping than Asian men are. Not going to pretend it didn't require some change--yeah academics are big in Indian (and Asian) families. Don't really see that as a bad thing considering it leads to the highest median incomes of any race or a permanent thing that can't be adjusted (therapy helped with this) I sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:55 AM
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I've thought about it a lot honestly It's just a difficult choice. I remember going to college and regretting it within 2 years and feeling cold and depressed so far from home--even wishing I went to a state school thinking I could have sailed easily to a 4 and gone to medical school just the same. It's weird. I travel plenty including to places that aren't even "safe" and I'm just fine. But the thought of actually living far from my parents and being a lonely nobody in a (cold) big city just sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:11 AM
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It has literally done zero for dating if that helps/makes you feel better Still kissless dateless virgin And as genuinely nice and empathetic of a person as my therapist is (hard to imagine I do all this without her involvement), nothing can change that she is a 40 year old white woman who is more attractive than 70-80% of girls in their 20s I have known and I'm a mediocre looking Indian American--one who lives in a 90%+ white town in the midwest. Yeah I have strengths--but they aren't really th…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:26 PM
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I would personally recommend starting with tandem If you want to skip that part you do you but it definitely helped me lose the fear of heights (which wasn't excessive ever tbh but still) and get comfortable with positionining
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 10:24 PM
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Unfortunately I do agree that many therapists have no investment in their clients beyond ensuring they come back. Was lucky to find a good one If going paragliding in the states I'd look at Sedona or Hawaii's volcanoes. They were my favorites of the four sites I've done
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:46 PM
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I don't agree with that. There are limits I've run into but I wouldn't say therapy hasn't helped at all I started as 118 pound high school senior stressed by college admissions and pushed even further my freshman year of college by the fact I was now at an Ivy where everyone was smart. I was the type who wouldn't be able to sleep or even function after getting a B on a test or an A- in a class. I had asked out a few girls in high school but only warm approach and really shyly/indirectly Since th…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:33 PM
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Not 10 years but 5 And there has been progress. I started as 118 pound high school senior stressed by college admissions and pushed even further my freshman year of college by the fact I was now at an Ivy where everyone was smart. I was the type who wouldn't be able to sleep or even function after getting a B on a test or an A- in a class. I had asked out a few girls in high school but only warm approach and really shyly/indirectly Since then I've gone to the gym for almost a year now, from 0 pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:17 PM
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I don’t really deny that. I’ve never really had an easy time making friends either. Nowadays I have friends but not a ton. Many acquaintances though—kind of sign of failing in personal connection. Some of the time I wanted to be closer friends and tried to make plans outside of just school and they kept cancelling until I got annoyed and just gave up. Most of the time I do feel that if I got my “foot in the door” so to speak I did alright as long as there was something in common—sports, area of …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:25 AM
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I'm 22. Live in the American midwest but travel a ton (like 75 countries) Finished college last year and start med school next year--just scribing now for experience. Center right but kind of a pariah in the modern GOP--still registered but would never vote for Trump I am Hindu but I really keep it to myself here. Already feel different and see no need to underline that My parents are rich as hell--hence why I really feel like I got to enjoy this year. Went to Michigan OSU in November, the World…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:04 AM
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Sorry. My dad was always nonchalant about patient deaths after he was off work but they absolutely crippled my mom Did he have family with him at least? Regardless it always sucks especially around the holidays
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 04:04 AM
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I’ve asked out 32 women in my life. Most were warm in that I knew them somewhat before but some were cold too. Never used OLD except for my friend just this week while I was out of town using his Tinder Gold to play around with the location filter 0/32 All rejections save for a few have been polite and recently when last week in Qatar for the WC especially flirty and playful to the point it didn’t even feel like a rejection but still 32 rejections nonetheless. And my approaches aren’t exactly sm…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 03:47 AM
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I’ve honestly never used Tinder or any OLD I probably should have at least tried but pretty much everything I’ve heard about it is shallowness, hook ups only, you’ll do shit unless ridiculously attractive so paying for Tinder Gold never really seemed like a good idea. Now if I see these Kyiv results and they are what he makes them seem I might change my mind Unfortunately the puppy is so close to my face that I can’t reasonably crop me out at least in my phone (computer when I get home probably …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 02:10 AM
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Yeah I'm South Asian and start med school in a year. I'm kind of outgoing today but it's still something I have to push myself to be. Same for being in shape. I was chubby as a pre teen/early teen and skinny through high school and most of college. I remember when I was able to do pull ups and dips for the first time in my life early this summer it felt surreal (now I do them with weights tied to me) Honestly I wish really bad I could have my high school years back and study less and go in state…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 01:32 AM
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I'm not back in the US yet. Spent the last 5 days in a Red Sea resort town in Egypt diving in the Red Sea after leaving Qatar Hard to match the excitement of that final but it was totally worth it. Basically 4 hour boat ride from the coast to the dive site but the SS Thistlegorm (British freighter sunk by the Luftwaffe in WW2) was the best preserved wreck I have ever seen. You can see every anti aircraft gun and the cargo holds with trucks and clearly discernible equipment though the current is …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 12:55 AM
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I've tried to find some optimism about medical school but you definitely did a better job presenting the bright side For most of the past few months I've been dreading it I can live with studying and all but after I leave Qatar tomorrow following the final, I go to Egypt to dive in the Red Sea, then to the Super Bowl in February, the Galapagos for a cruise in May and to Spain for running with the Bulls/France to paraglide in the Dune of Pilat before school starts Not saying this to flex but rath…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 05:01 AM
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I have thought this for a long time. Then I came to Qatar last week Copied from an earlier comment After the Brazil Croatia match on my way out, I saw a Brazilian dude around my age (20) basically bawling his eyes out and stopped (I really had to get to the other match and ended up a little late to that) to give him a handkerchief/consoled him in very basic Portuguese that was close enough to Spanish. Started talking about soccer, our backgrounds (in some mix of Spanish/Portuguese/English) and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 04:03 AM
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My sister and I were literally the only Indian children in my town growing up I’d see other Indians my age when my dad took us out of town and when I went to state/national academic competitions but my focus wasn’t really on dating then (I didn’t hit on any girl at an academic competition lmao) When I was in high school there were a couple Indian families that moved to my town but one was an old (not old old but relatively speaking) couple with adult children and the other was a young FOB couple…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 03:47 AM
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Very possible I have seen one Indian male-non Indian female couple in my life before and definitely some Anericanized Indian male-Americanized Indian female ones http://home.uchicago.edu/%7Ehortacsu/onlinedating.pdf Basically comes down to finding where Americanized Indian women are and where the 10-20% of non Indian women (not just white but Hispanic/Asian/black too) willing to date an Indian are
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 03:13 AM
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For me the thing is I’ve basically internalized a lot of it I haven’t directly lied But for example I have not spoken any Indian language in 6 years except to my grandparents, not watched a Bollywood movie in 7, been to a Hindu temple in 11, even my social media leaves out my last name since my first is ethnically ambiguous I don’t deny it or claim to be from elsewhere but the whitewashing goes back quite a bit
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:53 AM
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Not the first suggestion I’ve gotten for that. While I’m not unwilling to spend it just seems like a profession laden with scammers When I get back to the states I’ll look into it more I think
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:24 AM
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I don’t know if it’s the reason is the thing That said it’s a little different getting mistaken for one by an Argentine who has never seen an Indian in his life versus everyone in my town knowing my parents or most people at my college knowing exactly what an Indian looks like (most universities are full of them after all)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:20 AM
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It'd be funny if it wasn't my life that happens to be the counter example to everything you say lol I was born to absolutely loaded parents--the kind who know all the politicians in my state, executives of major companies, meet billionaires, etc. My lifestyle is pretty money positive too (have driven a luxury car since I could drive, been to 70+ countries/all 7 continents, go to Super Bowls, golf/tennis majors and such regularly, etc) They are the kind of high achieving Indian immigrants that ga…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:35 PM
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This is where I do think location hurts me In my small/mid sized midwestern town the only comments I've had about vegetarianism are people making fun of it lol (not like in a brutally mean way but poking fun at it) I travel a lot though too so maybe it's not just location? I do think eventually I have to get into OLD but then I see people say that it's hopeless online for a man unless you look great (especially if a minority) Not unwanted at all I think people giving actual advice is always more…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 11:19 PM
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It's hard to explain in words but I guess I've always wanted LTRs more than hook ups (though I would hardly say no if someone wanted to hook up--I'm literally kissless and dateless not exactly in a position to dictate terms) and the thought of living a life with a woman who may just want me because I remade my face and tried to suppress my ethnicity just seems disconcerting
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 10:38 PM
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I have basically overhauled my wardrobe the last couple years and accessorized (Ray ban's, a Rolex, etc). I've hit the gym 5-6 times a week for 8-9 months or so now and splurged on supplements, shakes, powders, bars, etc (very important because I'm vegetarian). I don't have my dream body, 6 pack abs or a perfect V taper but have made some nice progress (broader shoulders, definition on arms, gone from 0 pull ups to 12, added 25 pounds without going up a pant size) I leave for Qatar for in like t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 10:23 PM
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It's not just a tournament though I said this in another comment but if you could see some of the things I saw in Rio 8 years ago you'd get what I'm talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 08:20 PM
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You clearly haven't ever been to a World Cup. The things I saw in Rio 8 years ago...(in public too)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 08:18 PM
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Leaving for Qatar in a few hours to see the rest of the World Cup Effectively in the best shape of my life with the most expensive wardrobe I've ever had with accessories too (400 dollar Ray bans, a Rolex, etc) Setting a goal to double my number of approaches to date (20 currently) but really wish one of my friends could afford to come with me to give some kind of boost in confidence (I realize this is a first world problem to a T but still) I realize Qatar and the lack of alcohol changes things…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 08:07 PM
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Also Seneca mainly (if I had to pick one) Did read some of Zeno's Republic lately and though it is less of a layperson's work than anything from Seneca if you are really into philosophy you would enjoy it I think Meditations from Marcus Aurelius could be counted as stoic belief--parts of it at least Haven't read beyond those. Would like to finish Republic in the next day or two
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 08:25 AM
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I'm rich and still can't even get a date if it makes you feel better
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 08:01 AM
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Lol I wish this were true (the rooms part). It'd leave some ambiguity about my desirability if I was just never out of the house If anything I spend way too much time (and money I guess but my parents have plenty of it) traveling--this year at least to make the most out of a gap year before medical school I mean hell in the last month I went to Michigan Ohio State, I leave for Qatar in two days for the rest of the World Cup, go to Egypt from there to dive in the Red Sea and have like three other…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 07:48 AM
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A very significant chunk of women here and in general (mostly online though) from what I can tell think any man who sucks that bad at dating must be a loser with nothing going for him I’m not trying to shame anyone who is broke and a shut in. But at that point their priority should be improvement rather than resignation/stoicism
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 05:11 AM
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In hindsight I question that I went to anywhere out of state I could have just as easily gotten into med school going to my state school and coasting my way to a 4.0 while feeling way less lonely/isolated/miserable due to being close to home Just felt like all the work, AP classes, SAT score, hours of extracurriculars I spent in high school would be worthless unless I went to a name school Oh well live and learn
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:24 AM
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Those short Chinese and Indians would be be leading the incel movement if they were born in the 21st century west lol You wouldn’t even believe how accomplished and just incredible some of the Asians and Indians I’ve met in the US who struggle hard to date are. Basically as successful as me or more with way less of the family advantage I have. Still comes down to a woman actually wanting them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:08 AM
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Nah didn’t even apply to Cornell As a pre med I heard way too many horror stories of grade deflation killing med school chances and kids committing suicide Visited once though and the campus is quite pretty—but the school is so not for me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:04 AM
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One RP concept that I've come to really appreciate and has helped me lately is stoicism More men need to internalize that actually getting a woman unless you're genetically blessed is one of the hardest things in this world Like seriously getting into an Ivy League school, medical school, speaking five languages, learning an instrument, getting As in upper division science classes at said Ivy League school, climbing one of three highest peaks in the Alps and a bunch of other shit I've done assum…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 03:41 AM
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This I don't particularly love that Qatar is hosting the World Cup for example or how they treat migrant workers (especially being ethnically Indian and even knowing middle/lower class Indians who have gone to the gulf states for work) but I'm sure as shit still going And boycotting watching the matches to date never even crossed my mind That's pretty much most people's level of concern for the majority of moral issues
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:35 AM
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I'm going there so with my luck it'll probably be between two teams I hate: I'll say Brazil over England. Neymar MOTM
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:06 AM
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your sister is a spoiled brat but why compare yourself to her? To wonder what my life would be like as a woman? You can go out there date whoever you want I couldn't get a date in a setting (an American college campus) where it is probably as easy as it gets. I couldn't get a girl to come with me to the Super Bowl in high school when offering her a free ticket (really good seats too). I don't know what men you see around you but pretty much none can "date whoever they want" I've gone to therapy …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 10:37 AM
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Fair enough I get that and obviously my hope would just be that she improves as a person because she is still my sister But at this point our qualities of life have been so different through 22 years that I don't even see the point of it if hers takes a downturn by her mid 30s. She'll still have had a peak of life that most people on Earth will never get close to (and definitely not me) Reminds me of those semi-delusional Red Pillers telling themselves everything will change in their 30s and the…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 10:30 AM
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I have freedom to travel a lot, drive a luxury car, not worry about any real expenses, etc like she does yeah I absolutely do NOT have the freedom to have no career, spend my 20s sipping on cocktails on beach around the world and just marry into wealth--for several reasons. The first being that no matter how rich my parents are wealth doesn't last forever. Someone has to keep earning especially with higher end lifestyles. The second being just how my parents' generation treats gender (it's not a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 10:05 AM
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Of course it's not only due to being a woman. Also the well off family she was born to I have one of those things And she isn't exactly what I'd call "ahead in life." (academically or professionally despite the fact she went to a very good university and could easily have excelled there--I'd take going to an even better university and earning my way to an MD like I have/will any day). She just has the freedom to spend her 20s partying and doing who knows what else knowing she will never have to …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 09:49 AM
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Well I have actual insight into what my life as a woman might look like: My sister is at best someone in need of help and at worst a legitimate monster. She has hit my mom more times than I can count (not little slaps either), talked about how she wants my parents to die so she can collect the inheritance, pushed my 4'10'' 84 year old grandmother (who can admittedly be a bit much to handle at times personality wise but still) to the ground during an argument and told her to get out of "her" hous…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:58 AM
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I'm not earning 1M a year (most of my wealth is parental) but I genuinely struggle to see how it would help if I did Lifestyle wise I kind of live like someone who does: Learned 2 languages (or at least 1 and almost another), an instrument, been to over 70 countries/all 7 continents, taken up adventure sports and done them at some of the most thrilling sites in the world, gone to Super Bowls, World Cups, golf/tennis majors, big college football games, etc Driven a luxury car since I could drive,…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 12:34 AM
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I am genuinely curious what part of anything I have said is anti woman? I don't hate women in the slightest and don't even buy into pill ideologies because their extremes feature hate. Not being able to attract a woman means I can't be a doctor? I don't understand anything you just said
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 03:44 PM
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I get that. I guess I really just thought I had to stand out. Girls on college campuses or who are regulars at gyms probably get asked to coffee or something all the time by better looking guys Girls in foreign countries are less entitled/nicer when approached but the flip side is approaching is even more common and less socially stigmatized outside of the US I've tried to talk about experiences and stuff too (skydiving at a glacier in New Zealand or coming across a leopard while going out for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 01:27 AM
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I don't really agree with that. TRP has a lot of crap in it from what I've seen--just not as dumb as the personality bullshit It's more that violence just isn't a deal breaker like being ugly is For enough women for it to matter at least
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 06:10 AM
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I'm not good looking. I accept that I don't think I'm a gremlin either though. I hit the gym 5-6 times a week and have added 25-30 pounds to my skinny ass frame (now 5'9''-5'10'' at 152-155 lbs) without going up a pant size (still not my goal body with abs, a well formed v taper and veins in my arms but clear results for sure) and try my best to groom/dress/stay clean shaven I won't lie and say approaching women comes easy to me (it doesn't) but I have done it like 15-20 times in my life. Almost…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 05:56 AM
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I might be exaggerating a little on "no social life"--just in comparison to her. I'm not some shut in I have plenty of acquaintances but like 3-4 real friends (like people who'd remember to text Happy Birthday) and they're scattered across the country. I went to a few parties and social events in my time at college, volunteer/have volunteered in the states and abroad in 3rd world countries, go to gyms and farmers markets consistently and travel a ton--whether going to sporting events, safaris/cr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:54 AM
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I mean I feel weird evaluating this but she has money to spend on looking her best and always has spent it--and done so without looking like a clown slathered in makeup I don't think she's really super gifted genetically or anything though. Still got into a pretty good sorority at her university however (though this might have been money/extroversion playing a role)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:35 AM
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I don't really know what pill I believe in and am skeptical that one can really explain the vast nature of human interaction But I'll say this: (story time) My sister is at best someone in need of help and at worst a legitimate monster. She has hit my mom more times than I can count (not little slaps either), talked about how she wants my parents to die so she can collect the inheritance, pushed my 4'10'' 84 year old grandmother (who can admittedly be a bit much to handle at times personality wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 12:55 AM
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Do you have any friendships or relationships with any of these people, or was it all just passing conversation ? I see a couple of them semi regularly. Paul Rudd sits at a suite at Chiefs games near where I do. I met Nikki Haley a second time a couple years ago. Little longer conversation but I looked really really different. Maybe if I'd described the first time I met her she might have remembered because I doubt she has met many Indian American 12 year olds trying to talk about the Affordable …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 07:25 AM
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Mind you I'm being very very loose with my definition of "meet"--like just having a conversation Athletes: Patrick Mahomes, Travis Kelce, Aaron Rodgers, Jerry Rice, Kurt Warner, Larry Fitzgerald, Rafael Nadal, Peyton Manning, Eli Manning, Mike Trout, Russell Westbrook, Alex Rodriguez, Dwayne Wade, Charles Barkley, Shaq, Diego Maradonna (RIP), Didier Drogba (after retirement though), Manny Pacquiao, Khabib, Max Verstappen Politicians: I kind of know most of my state's top officeholders. At one ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:11 AM
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I said money in the US doesn't do shit--speaking as someone who has plenty of it and has never had it help with women (as seen in my other comments on the thread--like not even a date or kiss let alone anything more) In response to OP saying to just impress poor and middle class girls here with money instead of travel. It doesn't work. For me personally I haven't had success abroad either but I definitely felt foreign women by and large were nicer and more open to being approached I have been to…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:27 AM
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5' 9.5-10" about I have been tested and I'm not even close to the spectrum actually. Still a moderate introvert with some shyness and below average social skills but I'm not autistic nor am I even the most socially unskilled person I've seen either. I've been on local news for example for winning state academic competitions in middle school and it was fine In plenty of settings I can talk openly and without any fear. It's just places like nightclubs and bars that though I have been (and will sti…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 08:01 PM
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What do you mean by interesting? Like most famous? Celebrities? Or normal people I considered most interesting? And I'm really not high status lol. I have money and academic/professional success but at no point in my life have I been considered high status--not high school and definitely not college where frats and sororities determine your social status
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:53 PM
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I've done volunteering with refugee communities too that nowadays has seen an influx of Ukrainians Kind of led me to reconsider my preconceived notions in the first place. Many are in STEM and the women refugees tend to be more educated than the men (though I guess this is a trend in the west too now) Also this sounds dumb but to most refugees I have to try really hard to show I'm American and not Indian to be taken seriously. Seeing how popular yoga and spirituality was with them and not having…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 06:27 AM
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I get why you think of it as "sex work" but nah If I did this it would 100% be with the intention of wanting a companion, wife, friend, etc. Not a hole. If I wanted that I'd fuck a hooker I get why it's looked down upon but you make every lonely/romantically unsuccessful man sound like some predator seeking a girl half his age to trap
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 06:14 AM
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The dudes that tell you to go after women from a low socioeconomic class don’t care wether you have stuff in common with them or not. It’s more on the transactional side. I'm not inherently opposed. I used to be but at this point beggars can't be choosers If nothing really improves in the next year I'll strongly consider some online "matchmaking service" to get a wife from some Eastern European country Ideally she's able to go into something healthcare related like a PA or nursing and that can b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 12:40 AM
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that can speak English Thought this was a given but yeah. In Eastern Europe from what I've seen English isn't uncommon at all. In SEA it is though older than 23. I'm only 22 fwiw. Or do you mean just to avoid accidentally marrying a child?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 11:59 PM
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I haven't done this yet but if I get through everything I have planned this year--I'll strongly consider the online bride route As for why--same reason anyone wants a SO in the first place: loneliness (and the goal is not to exploit) Might try plastic surgery first because I have the money but if not that's the actual last resort
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:18 PM
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But for me poor would mean someone that lives on welfare for example and would take the opportunity to financially secure their future. I genuinely don't know what I could have in common with a woman in that spot. The ones I've known like that were generally family members of patients of doctors I shadowed/places I volunteered at (they didn't show interest nor did I--kind of unprofessional) or a couple from elementary school. Also inviting a regular girl on a date on a rented yacht sounds very i…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:52 PM
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Almost like flashing wealth is useless unless she actually likes you to begin with (in which she'd say even say yes to Applebee's)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:51 PM
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At my college and high school it was genuinely difficult to find people who didn't fit at least most of the above That said (and copied from above) I did ask out two women who I strongly suspect were below middle class One was a girl who was there on a major scholarship. Thing is she was brilliant so it could have been a merit one (though this university doesn't really give those out easy even to brilliant people). She had never been out of the country either The other was not on scholarship but…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:39 PM
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You weren’t leveraging wealth, you were bragging that your parents are rich, that’s not arousing. If offering a Super Bowl ticket and private plane ride isn't leveraging wealth then what is? A Trip to the moon? I guess I'm not in a place to leverage wealth then FWIW that's all I said to start (the ticket and plane ride--she liked football too). She hesitated and I explained the party part. It was a dumb thing to do but I was in high school and thought I could "win" her over Upper middle class is…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:20 PM
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The thing about this stuff is I don't straight up know her parents' incomes but there are two cases where I suspected a poorer background--both at college One was a girl who was there on a major scholarship. Thing is she was brilliant so it could have been a merit one (though this university doesn't really give those out easy even to brilliant people). She had never been out of the country either The other was not on scholarship but worked like 3 jobs with a schedule busier than almost anyone I …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 07:15 PM
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What part of anything you just said is supposed to be arousing to a woman. That's kind of my point Wealth doesn't matter nearly as much as you think. Idk why you are surprised that women who come from wealth treat wealthy men like they are average. Don't think I've ever hit on a woman of equal wealth (though in some cases I didn't know). I've met them all the time but it it didn't take long to realize they were totally out of reach. Generally just normal upper middle class ones
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:19 PM
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This apex fallacy. You only see the rich guys who do well because the ones who don't are doing anything and everything to cope with it (in terms of lifestyle) I have money. Plenty of it. Mostly parental but still Had my fun with it: Learned 2 languages (or at least 1 and almost another), an instrument, been to over 70 countries/all 7 continents, taken up adventure sports, gone to Super Bowls, World Cups, golf/tennis majors, big college football games, etc Driven a luxury car since I could drive,…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 06:08 PM
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Unless we are talking celebrity level status money really doesn't do shit At least in the 18-25 range Every rich guy, future doctor or Ivy graduate lawyer (which is a lot of them), etc I've come across who was successful would have been successful regardless unless they were straight homeless or something and the ones who weren't--our money sure isn't saving us Maybe when I'm 30 some single mother with 4 kids will care but being normal "rich" hasn't impressed any American I've come across
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 05:56 PM
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I'm going to Qatar for the World Cup in a month and I've set a goal to double that on the trip I'm ethnic (Indian) living in the American midwest too so I think having girls from all over the world in one place would help that Do you approach directly (I think you're cute, Can I have your number, etc) or indirectly with more success
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 10:27 AM
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Men who come from homes with money are likely to find women who come from homes with money I know lots of men who come from homes with money and while they'll sleep with anyone and sometimes even marry them they aren't becoming house husbands for their middle class wives
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 10:13 AM
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I've been hitting the gym for about 9-10 months (was skinny before)--like 5-6 times a week though disrupted by being out of town often. Still don't have clear abs or massive arms but seen quality results for sure (broader shoulders, definition on arms). Like 25 pounds of weight gain and still fit into the same pant size (albeit tighter). Should have probably started earlier. Still fit enough to hike a few big mountains around the world but couldn't climb anything Himalayan or Andean probably--at…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 10:08 AM
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I have money. Plenty of it. Mostly parental but still Had my fun with it: Learned 2 languages (or at least 1 and almost another), an instrument, been to over 70 countries/all 7 continents, taken up adventure sports, gone to Super Bowls, World Cups, golf/tennis majors, big college football games, etc Driven a luxury car since I could drive, went to a private college prep high school, an exclusive rich people college and start medical school next year (all paid for of course) It's still perplexing…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 09:53 AM
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Standards for looks have increased Standards for money have absolutely not lol Beyond my life basically being evidence of this, there are more couples now where wives make more than husbands than any time in history and it's only going to increase
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 09:32 AM
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I start medical school in a year and am downright miserable at the thought that I missed my "fun" years No I don't "want" a gold digger but I don't see myself in any position to choose considering even showing a little wealth doesn't work for me I've considered plastic surgery but that has its drawbacks too
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 12:51 AM
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I have no idea where guys meet all these materialistic women. It can't be in the 18-25 range In high school I offered girl a Super Bowl ticket and a ride in a plane my family had (they don't anymore) and got rejected In college I'd make sure at whatever party that was first of the year to talk about my summer--whether it was meeting a celebrity at the Kentucky derby, tracking chimps/gorillas in Rwanda/Uganda, going skydiving in the Swiss Alps, a river cruise on the Amazon, etc No one even preten…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 12:36 AM
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http://home.uchicago.edu/~hortacsu/onlinedating.pdf (page 49) https://academic.oup.com/sf/article-abstract/89/3/807/2235576?redirectedFrom=fulltext&login=false https://www.gwern.net/docs/psychology/okcupid/howyourraceaffectsthemessagesyouget.html Not even in the same universe. Women's (not just white women) exclusion criteria for Asians, Indians or Middle Easterners (study 2) (hell even Blacks and Hispanics to some extent) hit levels that men don't even get close to touching--with the possible e…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 03:45 AM
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I'm 22. My town...I'll try my best to describe it. It's probably not one you'd have heard of unless from the surrounding area but nowadays it's a de facto suburb of a bigger city (one of the largest in the state--albeit not a very populous state) that you have definitely heard of if you are American When I was younger my parents (specialized physicians) were the only specialists of their kind in the town and even now they're one of only a few. Two high schools in the district Racially it was rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:37 PM
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It seems like you're the kind of person who finds it hard to get a woman's number in person and show intention. You are 100% right. And considering my friendships follow a similar pattern of rarely getting past the surface level it's probably on me somewhat at least--but at the same time I've seen girls of all ages make this so easy for guys they are actually into. Even as an observer, the asking questions about any and all hobbies (even if it's Netflix and video games believe it or not), hair t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 08:05 AM
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My parents forced a trainer on me in middle school (I was a fat kid lol) but I wasn't really motivated so it didn't work. When I got motivated years later I stuck to it and am pretty happy with the progress. Still not near my dream body but definitely in good enough shape to not feel inadequate--just wish that had happened years earlier I get the stylist part and actually did a wardrobe overhaul a year ago, started getting nicer/more expensive haircuts and all that but why would a photographer h…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 06:09 AM
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5'9.5-10'' Hard to judge my own attractiveness but I've never thought of myself as good looking. In decent shape (wouldn't be able to do some of those things if I wasn't) but I started working out like 4 years later than I should have so still don't (yet) have abs, massive biceps and on the skinnier side--but definitely have seen progress Groomed well most of the time and try my best to smell nice, stay clean shaven, etc but still Indian with a less than ideal facial features and some light acne…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 05:06 AM
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If it makes you feel better some of us have a lot handed to us by our parents and still suck at this part of life I probably fit your description. Let me tell you what money does and does not do for a young man I have never had to worry about money in the slightest, went to a private high school and a really expensive top 10ish university, have driven a luxury car since I was able to drive, etc, etc Got good intelligence genetics from my doctor parents too meaning the SAT, MCAT and GPA every sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 01:47 AM
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Agree on social life (and admittedly it's something I've never been great with) Disagree on hobbies from my experience at least. A girl who likes you will like just about anything you do and make it very obvious (twirling her hair asking questions about them for example)--even if it's video gaming and Netflix (NOT my hobbies but a lot of peoples') I think men (and women for that matter) should pursue hobbies for themselves (and money helps with that) but as much fulfillment as they can give, I'd…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 09:18 PM
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IDK man I've been living a lifestyle that others would describe as interesting for years now (admittedly thanks in large part to family wealth) and you'd be surprised how little women actually care. Not saying this to whine either. Just an observation If she likes you, she'll be interested in just about anything you do even if it's video gaming or watching Netflix
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 09:11 PM
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Kind of agree. Don’t think most people are unhygienic losers though—even if you just take the population that struggles—especially if they are rich. Boring perhaps but that’s pretty subjective
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 07:35 PM
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Careful yeah but money is part of self improvement and being the best man possible (for women but also in general) A woman not wanting to date a broke unemployed bum who can't even afford a meal out doesn't make her a gold digger
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 06:59 PM
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The importance of money (age range 18-25 at least) Almost every rich dude (whether family endowed or self made) or doctor/lawyer I have come across (and that is a lot of them) who did well with women is someone who would have done well regardless of what they were unless they were straight homeless or something--it was just icing on the cake If you're talking celebrity level status and tens of millions of dollars then it matters sure. But normal rich isn't doing much or beating out attractive gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 04:16 PM
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