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I re-read my original comment. It wasn't terribly clear what I actually meant. Anyway.. Is there a good online resource for dating/pickup in scandinavia? I don't mind google translating the shit out of some forums or blogs, even if google doesn't know all the terminology. :)
/r/seduction20/05/14 03:02 PM
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Thanks, I'm all about doing date-like (fun) things on a non-date. I'm sorry that this has gone way off topic and into serious newbie territory, but some of the cultural norms here I have VERY little resources I can ask questions to. It's hard to take control of a situation you don't feel you really understand.
/r/seduction20/05/14 02:57 PM
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I'm very familiar with the term in a non-romantic context. My confusion was due to an experience I had. In this case, I was meeting for the first time with a girl I met on a dating website. It was also after work (but neither of us had had dinner), which again seems more like the set up for a dinner date than the kind of fika I have with friends all the time. None of the usual things I do with friends over fika applied. But if a fika is a fika is a fika, then I was trying to apply my experiences…
/r/seduction20/05/14 02:19 PM
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Since I'm here.... What should my expectations for meeting a new girl for fika? I used to think that fika was just another term for "first date" but it seems like that's just done differently here. Maybe it is the same, it is a small sample size I'm pulling from.
/r/seduction20/05/14 01:25 PM
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I gotta say... I'm probably a pretty typical of the worst kind of sedditor (I read, and read, and read, and then stop just short of acting). I'm also in my mid-30's. But I've been living in Stockholm for almost 5 years now, coming from north america. Everything you've said seems absolutely correct to me, but I'm fairly confused by the whole dating scene here anyway. The obvious answer is to just jump in and learn by doing, which I haven't really done so far. Thank you very much for putting this …
/r/seduction20/05/14 11:09 AM
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I have a huge fear of breaking up with a girl that likes me. My fear of hurting a girl probably comes from a couple of horrible experiences of my own from when I was younger. Anyway, I was wondering if anyone can share some personal experiences breaking it off, or going from a sexual to a non-sexual relationship - not even bad ones, but normal ones. Good breakups even.
/r/seduction09/11/13 03:04 PM
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I've gotten this a few times recently, latest from a women that I've slept with. (She only made the comment afterwards). The thing is, I don't apologize for whatever it was that made them think that. I also don't chase them for a "Why would you think I'm gay?!?!" explanation. I'm confident that despite this impression I apparently give, women are more likely to be curious about me than to write me off as "he's gay, so I'm not interested." I think you have to flirt as well, which prevents being d…
/r/seduction30/09/13 03:45 PM
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It definitely exists. It also definitely hurts. For me, it's not excruciating pain, but it is very uncomfortable.
/r/seduction27/07/13 07:37 AM
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Really interesting to read your experiences as a beginner. Also because I have no idea how dating, let alone game, works in Stockholm. Are you Swedish? Speak swedish? Are you White? Sorry to be so direct, but I'm not a swede and I've observed a ton of interesting interactions with immigrants vs locals.. I'm definitely going to try to keep tabs on your journals and progress. Thanks for posting.
/r/seduction23/06/13 06:31 PM
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I'm a North American in Stockholm.. I'm at whatever the step is that comes before noob, but I'll throw my name out there. I'm honestly completely confused by dating here, you mind if I throw a pm or two of new-to-swedish-dating-culture questions your way?
/r/seduction02/06/13 01:42 AM
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Definitely not a tactic... More, I'm trying to understand how the mentality works. I have a few female acquaintances, some have shown interest. They know each other. I'm a long term relationship guy trying to learn to have a bit of fun instead of going full boyfriend mode right away.
/r/seduction30/04/13 10:11 PM
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What's the deal with girls hooking up with you, knowing you hooked up with their friends? Is it just unspoken? Is it best to address it?
/r/seduction30/04/13 08:55 PM
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What's the situation like in the cab? With 4, someone is gonna be split up. Assuming its one of the guys in front, it's hard to stay engaged sometimes. Is it up to the backseat dude to keep a good energy about things? Also, with just 4, in my experience you have to be really subtle with any touching in the cab or it's pretty uncool. Is that your experience as well?
/r/seduction28/04/13 03:51 PM
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What's the best way to learn to be sexual with people? I've never been comfortable enough to move conversations from buddy buddy type chat. I have a hard time seeing how I can do that without permanently altering the relationship. I don't know how to make the jump from "this is a fun conversation, and I like this girl" to "maybe she wants to hook up, I should find out"
/r/seduction12/04/13 11:27 PM
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What's a good resource for social circle game? Specifically, best way to not kill off my chances with others in a group after the first time I hook up with someone.
/r/seduction18/03/13 09:51 PM
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I was googling how to do this. Unfortunately the doctors where I live are pretty useless, so I may have to do a long distance test-from-home to at least see whether it's worth pushing the issue with a doctor. I'm not on any medication, but I've had a questionable diet off and on for ages. Thanks for the suggestion.
/r/seduction06/02/13 09:46 AM
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To elaborate, I won't initiate anything physical because she doesn't see me that way. "she" being every woman ever. Hm, spelled out, I guess it's just AA and low self esteem. Neat. I guess that's what I need to work on.
/r/seduction05/02/13 11:34 PM
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I'm borderline asexual with women. Any tips for getting beyond that?
/r/seduction05/02/13 09:36 PM
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I'm just curious how many of you have had to ditch your friends to have better experiences while at the bar/club. I have a good friend but he's super soft spoken and married. I don't have any friends who are single either. Trying to decide what to do on a Friday night, and who to head out with. I kind of know the answer, but I feel guilty about it.
/r/seduction01/02/13 11:49 PM
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It was mostly my folks, and it was good natured. I just took myself really really seriously as a kid. I had a ton of female friends when I was 12 or so, and this got me jealous male friends. My entire social circle kicked me out for spending time with the girls at the park (yay for playing "truth or dare" with no other dudes around) and then on top I got girlfriend jokes at home. I hated all of it. I was just friendly and it caused so much drama. You're right of course. I got really good at bein…
/r/seduction21/01/13 10:07 PM
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For some reason, the idea of celebrating failure takes a lot of the pressure off. Hah, I'm using that. Thanks.
/r/seduction21/01/13 09:39 PM
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I have a really hard time trying to meet women, but my biggest anxiety comes from the thought of having to either meet them when my friends are there, or the inevitable interrogation if I do hook up. My friends aren't judgmental people either, they take me out and try to get me to talk to women. To be more sociable. One also happens to be my flat mate. In my mind, it would be perfect if my dating life and my friends never met, until I was in an actual relationship, should I get to that point. Is…
/r/seduction21/01/13 08:51 PM
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I have a similar friend... the guy is a social tornado, he just lives for small talk and chatting with men/women/inanimate objects. What makes him similar to your pal Kato is that he's about 5'0" (maybe shorter) and has no fear. The stuff that he is able to get away with because he's both charming, and not physically intimidating is astounding. It's definitely more than just his stature, but within moments of meeting women, he's getting kisses, photos taken with pairs of girls on either side whe…
/r/seduction27/07/12 08:32 AM
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I quit also, for .... I dunno, around 2 months. I definitely felt better for it. It's kind of an intangible benefit, but when you don't have a "go to" outlet for disarming whatever motivates you sexually, especially when it becomes a general way of killing time, I was better for stopping it. Stopping completely also made me realize how much of a part of my life it was. Now I'm ok with it, but I don't do it just to distract myself from things. I think it was unhealthy before. Not the act, but the…
/r/seduction25/06/12 11:48 PM
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