Huntington Beach has an amazing dog Beach. More than a mile of dog friendly coast. We used to go there until the seals started starving to death. My dog ruby would sit mext to them and kind of comfort them as they died. It was tragic enough that we stopped going. But from what I've heard all the seals are dead and its back to normal.
Also you have in inherent observation bias. How many people that commit suicide come to your sub and tell about how talking was not effective? How many people find talking effective initially, tell you about the positive effect, then kill themselves later. How many people never contact you because they know it won't help?
Replace masculinity with any other group of people. Toxic Jewishness, toxic blackness, toxic gayness. See if people are comfortable talking about toxic Jews.
I say hello to the people I see while walking my dogs. The person I communicate with most is the person that watches the self checkout line at the grocery store. She says " Have a good day" and I say "You too" maybe 3 times a week. It's better this way.