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Sorry you went through this! Feeling unsure about where you were headed is a slippery slope to “what ifs” that usually don’t bring anything good. And feeling guilty for not being aware is not your fault, i think it’s a point where we all were in our early 20s, a bit more naive and easy to trust. Be kind to yourself! You realised you were not on track with what you wanted, you listened to what your body and mind told you was wrong and stopped someone from profiting off of you any longer. I’m prou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:41 PM
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But the beginning sets the tone. So don’t expect him to suddenly text regularly after a while then, if at first you don’t even talk between dates. The avoidant type will stick around for sure as long as things are easy, and you will be stuck playing the “cool girl” even if after 3mos you kinda don’t feel like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 01:00 PM
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Same tbh, and it was such a confusing (short) time for me to wrap my head around this way of thinking. Cause i’ve always been a 100% in or 100% out kind of person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:43 PM
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Did I catch right the ZVM references from “Love is Blind” ?? 😂 regardless, those are such professional gaslighters but they also don’t leave cause they have it so good. They always love a “fill in gf” until the one they’re mad abt comes along
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:40 PM
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I want it to finally be announced that the whole Bible is a fanfic made for men to cater for men. Like I’m really into the idea of a higher power and the dynamics of creation, but I swear most religions are bed time stories to keep women in check. Hold your horses. Why is God male though? When every species that creates life is female? Including mother nature. Why is God a father and not a mother? Oh right, because men got there first and decided to write a story to enslave women and spread fear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 06:31 AM
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It’s code for “i was too much of a coward to actually end the relationship when things no longer worked out”. The no1 reason for leaving a relationship or marriage for men usually is when they already have a mistress / matress to fall on. And they still don t leave, just get caught.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 03:25 PM
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This 💯 I was on a date once and the guy basically admitted he cheated on his ex. But hey, it was ok because “he checked out of the relationship a long time ago”? Piece of shit. In his logic he did nothing wrong 🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:57 AM
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I’m happy for you ✨💃🥂and good job on standing your ground in front of his stingy manipulative ass. I just hope this awareness spreads as far as one can see, so that these shitheads won’t get a freeride on another women’s naivity and youth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:33 PM
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My impression was always that when marriage gets to a bumpy patch (as it usually does in time) few lack the awareness to adress the issues head on. Most just hit ignore or minimize it and it grows into contempt. Cheating looks like a safety net. They look up a new partner w qualities the other lacks. Or just paints it as the cheater being the absolut victim and the other partner (who is being cheated) is the bad one. I think it’s important to look how one deals w conflict and adversity. Does it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:25 PM
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Aah yes, you’re right. I thought she was giving birth lol. But still a shitty thing to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:42 AM
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Formula 1, yea basically. Car races. He missed the most important day of his life to watch a freaking car race irl and not on tv.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 01:14 PM
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Doesn’t sound like he is HV AT ALL. Like, he doesn’t even take care of himself… Is settling with a guy you don’t actually like better than being alone though? You know deep in your bones the answer to this. That’s why you never wanted to be married to him. And the fact that sex w him repulses you is just sad because you deserve a guy who can give you multiples o’s!! Who can light that fire up AND be a great partner too. And not being honest about this will only hurt him and yourself. I think tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:07 PM
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Greatly worded piece of advice 👌✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:51 AM
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This 💯 while i agree that most men see texting as logistics / a way to set up a meet IRL, it ain’t an excuse. If you stated that it means a lot to you and they can’t be bothered, it’s a them problem, not a you problem. And it’s best to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:35 AM
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Sis are you me? 😂 went through the exact same thing a while back, although i stayed maybe 1-2 months more than i should have lol. Glad you got out quick! 🙌✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:26 AM
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I died 💀 absolutely love this ❤️ ✨ sis nailed it 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 09:07 AM
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Wow there is hope on reddit after all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 04:38 PM
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Great analogy ✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 06:04 PM
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The level of GASLIGHTING is insaneee ⚠️ pls tell me the comms on that confirmed how fucked up this is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 06:11 AM
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Love this spin! ALSO, Ben had an image PR crisis aa well after he was outed as basically a pedo on OLD so it is probably a mutual damage control scheme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 03:34 AM
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Congraats! I am happy for you! Also, will you crosspost it to Female Level Up Strategy as well? I feel it fits even more with the vibe there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 03:26 AM
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Yess! I love this initiative! Would have missed these posts otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:49 AM
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Just curious, they can make a claim THAT EASILY? Wtf. Where I live even if you are married you are not entitled to the property. Documents must be drafted and the spouse has to approve the signing of the other spouse on the house papers to be able to have claim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 07:26 AM
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He is in jail though. I feel like jail isn’t necessarily justice for all those horrible things he did to all those women, but i hope he will stay locked up for a loong time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:42 PM
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Glad she calls this shit out! So unsetteling how big this trend is though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:56 AM
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It’s like they fished the answers in a pool of audacity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 05:48 AM
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June knows what’s up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:22 AM
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I am tired of women beeing socially conditioned to dress for the male gaze, cause they might seem a certain way or “provoke”? It’s stupid. Men can get aroused by an ANKLE ffs it’s exhausting predicting outfits based on that. Wear them for you not them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:59 PM
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Love this energy 👑 i’m happy you found your inner peace
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:28 AM
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Lmaoo 😂 true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:09 AM
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A LVM answered me “it’s no biggie, after 2 they practically raise themselves”. Another one agreed 🤦🏻‍♀️ nuff said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 05:49 PM
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Thank you for this. Totally resonated looking back on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 07:52 AM
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Dafuq did i just read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 08:15 PM
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Love the lyrics on this ✨🙌❤️ thanks for this recommandation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 06:13 PM
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This tbh 💯✨🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:32 PM
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💯 agree. I watched the Friends Reunion special and put on a clip with the part when Monica proposed to Chandler and then SHOWED short clips from ALL over the world w lib fems saying they were “empowered” by that to do the same. i cringed so hard and also wept a tear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:29 AM
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Also the grip. I heard this straight from the horse’s mouth, but i am not sure how to take it. Besides the psychological factor, it is more pleasurable for them because it’s “tighter” (idk why, because it is not properly lubricated / used for that?) and it may somehow imitate their death grip. Another tell for the porn sick. Ofc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:19 AM
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That last line just had me 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 11:34 AM
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These are facts. Periodt. 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:06 PM
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Yess ❤️✨ This 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:38 PM
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Lmaoo lost me at that adjective convention he had there just before throwing in kink&bdsm last💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 02:28 PM
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Phahahah I’m dead 💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:28 PM
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“Entitled pushy ass hats” gave me flashback. The PERSISTENT method. Being pushy and insistent thinking the multiple no’s can turn somehow into a yes? FFS. And they’re the ones being mad? Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 08:35 PM
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I second this, the hypocrisy is real. Corporate media adapts its narrative according to trends, don’t stand for shit, have no values, ethics or consistency. Attention seeking $$ money making machine. Pertinent arguments like women’s exploatation/ trafficking/ violence/ safety concerns and so on were silenced and overlooked for so long but we start to see a sudden shift when they realise the trend has changed and they have to be woke to protect their $? That’s some BS Smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:37 AM
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Haha yes. She says they are like dessert. And i think the interviewer asks why doesn’t she like men or somth and she responds with “i like dessert”. Subtle point that they are to be enjoyed but not treated as a main course, not everything revolves around them. It’s ok to have a meal without dessert imo 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:43 PM
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Yeah, and it’s why he thinks Elon Musk is Planet’s greatest genius inovator 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 05:36 AM
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Yeah, but at the same time he is a very disturbed individual with a primal side. Agree w the sexist shit and more. I sometimes listen to an ep of his when he invites very interesting guests, and i wanna listen to them (but JR is being annoying and monopolizing sometimes most of the “interview” thinking he has important shit to say). Anyhoo, i got a glimpse of how fucked up he is when he let it slip that he got his start in fighting, long story short he KO’d someone who did not fully recover and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 08:22 PM
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Thank you for all the information and resources! 🙌✨❤️I am sure it took some time for that documentation. May I ask the reason behind the Marcus Aurelius book? I quite enjoy his writings on stoicism and consider them insightful as to find inner peace / clarity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 08:04 PM
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It is if you’re not upfront and lying abt it. That’s all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 07:57 AM
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There are SO few women that are upfront abt wanting something casual (because most don’t), that the only way for this shit show to work is to trick the naive girl that it can be something more if only she slept w them. And they get mad if they buy a dinner and the woman sees right through them lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 06:35 AM
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Oh but where was this reaction when Anderson Cooper chose surrogacy and decided to be a single dad at 53? AND HE IS 3 yrs OLDER THAN HER. This is some bullshit y’all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:22 PM
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This tbh, you answered your question. They legit ask out every woman they match because the endgame is sleeping w them (on the principle knock on many doors, maybe one responds), not actually looking for a relationship and inquiring before a date lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 06:50 PM
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Love this. Thanks for recommending this podcast! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:54 PM
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YASS 🙌 Thirst Trap Thursday sounds good to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 10:11 AM
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I was thinking the exact thing. She was so against it for now to turn around suddenly. Def some pressure from her marketing/PR team
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:09 PM
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Sis is out there doing the Lord’s work ❤️✨🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 12:54 PM
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Such a good post. I needed this insight rn✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:55 AM
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Nobody gonna say how this was totally preventable if police had done their job? And they act so surprised that people take the law into their own hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:21 PM
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Ofc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 10:08 AM
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Always a good mentality ✨✨ what shifted in me is that it rings true with other life aspects as well, not just the personal one. I see being assertive as a life skill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 06:03 PM
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Beyonce rang truth 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:59 PM
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I always see that line as a result of the persistent gaslighting we have been accustomed to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:56 PM
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“I don’t wanna seem toxic”, girl, do you wanna seem dumb? 🤡 cuz he’s playing you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:05 PM
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So i see everyone can be a therapist nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:29 AM
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I was looking for this!! Gave me major Britney-esque vibes 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:26 AM
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I’m curious as well. But i dis find a more recent post about HOW to decenter men from our lives that was inspired by this i think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:08 AM
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They really should be banned from spreading this toxic advice to young minds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:05 AM
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Love this ❤️ such a good post. I realize I need to work more on #3 and #4 but it gives another dimension to it when you make a plan and try to stick to it. Here’s to us queens leveling up 👑🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:02 AM
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Haha i love this. I actually liked a post earlier that said that dating profiles would be better if we could leave reviews 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:17 PM
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This may seem like harmless humour but it’s in fact just a bit of gender sabotaging through questionable humour 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 06:01 PM
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I honestly don’t get it why those movies were a thing at all. Subpar af. The fact that he has a successful production company (that launches simmilar movies as well) speaks volumes about where we are at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:11 PM
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This! Yes! 🙌👑✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:42 PM
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Like all Seth Rogen movies. Hollywood desperately wants the “beautiful accomplished woman falls in love with loser fat dude” and the programming was a success if you look at all the pickmes nowadays. A more recent movie of his is with Charlize Theron who plays the PRESIDENT of the U.S. who somehow falls in love with a loser journalist (S.Rogan) who is also her old highschool pal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:40 PM
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Yess. I do this as well ✨i make sure i have flowers in my vase each week. It gives me such a good feeling gazing at them during the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 11:41 AM
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Love this ❤️✨ But it should be a thing everyone aspires to really
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:04 PM
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Sir, first of all get rid of that bugger in your nose. Second, get rid of that shit in your mouth. U nasty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:58 PM
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Imagine being SO entitled that you feel it is your right to post this shit and ACTUALLY expect a positive result ☠️☠️☠️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:52 PM
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Ikr? aaaaaand that WAP music video is basically softcore porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:09 PM
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OMG yes. Take a look at Janelle Monae. I see her as the best example. She made at first awesome songs about empowerment, activism, some had quirky unique dystopian sci-fi vibes but she wasn’t on the big radar for years. But hey, she makes an album about p*sy and finally she gets her “big break”. Yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:06 PM
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This 👏👏👏 it’s weird how this wave of female rappers are singing about “female independence” and pimping themselves with the assurance that they are the ones exploiting the sugar daddies so it does not count? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:40 PM
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I feel this is a joke, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:06 PM
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I’ve always looked younger than my age. I still do. And i was always a creep magnet. A guy friend enlightened me on the problem: because I seem young, petite, maybe naive and by default not intimidating at all, I attract the predator type because they actively look for those specific characteristics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 09:40 AM
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I honestly don’t understand what their deal is 🙄 i never heard the opposite though, a girl commenting on a guy that he doesn’t smile enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:42 PM
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You would think that, wouldn’t you? I got the why so mad/sad, try to smile line while on the subway platform. I was like wtf, i have a mask on and all i did was blank stare into my phone. “Excuse me sir” for not entertaining your “advice” of smiling with my eyes, obviously i am a circus monkey accepting requests. Smh...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:44 PM
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Y’all seen 1st season of Dirty Jon? Just saying, this is how it starts, shows up at her house to pick her up for a date and she gets hobo vibes (totally right) but she overlooks it because maybe “she tries to be less picky and give the guy a chance”. It doesn’t end pretty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:21 AM
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I totally agree. But talking abt rap videos - i also feel like rap women present themselves as sex objects and the sexualization / degradation that happens in men’s rap videos also happens in women’s rap videos. Take a look at Meghan Thee Stallion. I love her songs and she is SO talented, but all her videos ar made for the male gaze and are borderline porn. I guess it’s part of the rap culture, but i wish the new ones would flip the status quo. Where are the sexualized men in vids? Lmao 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:37 PM
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Hunter guy seemed wholesome and actually put care and intention into his actions. At times maybe love bombing a bit, but cute overall. But he was used for “character development” and “look what being a nice guy gets you, so you better stop it” kind of image. Pff. God forbid a girl’s love interest in a movie is not an asshole. Sure, go with the one that treats you like a piece of meat. Movie logic 🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:02 PM
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This 🙌 my ex loved it as well 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:42 PM
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That half ass pseudo confession was lukewarm at its best, and you deserve steam level hotness my friend ✨✨✨ really glad you saw your worth ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:04 PM
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We need to make the word sexdiggers a thing and blast them for their entitlement and absurdity just like they use the golddigger term with such audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:47 AM
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Lost me at “female”. Who talks like that lol. And thinks in discovery channel type behaviours..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:33 AM
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Yes. I subscribe to this. This weekend is for celebrating Galentines Day with my gal pals. Gonna treat ourselves, drink some good wine & watch some movies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:53 AM
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Wow. The bar is so low it is literally “he hasnt murdered anyone yet”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:29 AM
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Might be. I suppose it’s better than the emotional con artists I’ve seen. Annoying how most men use the women they’re dating as free therapists / emotional tampons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:29 PM
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Yess 🙌 although maybe it would have been even better if you did not tell him what he did wrong. So the next sis could run as fast as you. When we tell them the reason, we just give them the opportunity to lie better to the next one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 03:07 PM
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“NoT oUr FAuLt” that’s some BS right there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:14 AM
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Lib fem programming lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 11:06 AM
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They used a different font for each line. It should be classified as a visual crime. Along with the content of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:11 PM
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This is so sad. The society looks like it conditions people to treat and be treated like crap. And when you choose not to, you’re the odd one out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 08:43 PM
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The first part is legit my therapist’s quote, her conclusion after being in her profession for so long and seeing it first hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:44 AM
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This! 👏👏👏✨✨✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:40 AM
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This is so disturbing!! Also there was a FDS post w his quote in wich he said something like tastes change when you get married, because he respects his wife too much to pull her hair or do any stuff like that, even if he kinda wants to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 07:16 PM
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He says “e.d.” - stands for erectile dysfunction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:31 PM
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Haha thx^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:43 PM
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Yes. This was the best lesson that I learned in my last relationship lol, If they cared enough they would have. I honestly thought that keeping calm, not getting EmOtIoNaL and giving specific feedback (“this makes me feel xyz”) would guarantee a change, but they still tryna play the dumb card because they can’t be bothered. Like ok, but I wish they quit using the lack of communication as an excuse (OFC he did), makes the hypocrisy bigger. And it is a form of gaslighting when you know you actuall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:14 AM
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This 👏 Underrated because it explains the problem with the narrative these days. It’s also why there is this misconception abt men thinking tinder is this magic free hooker app or something and then being dissappointed to find it is not the case lol. Hollywood perpetuated some toxic stereotypes and shifted focus of the narrative of relationships and now we are dealing with the aftermath. And the delusional scrotes that think that somehow they are wronged by life for not being able to “enjoy” the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 03:52 PM
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It appears it was removed. Is there another link?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:43 AM
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The pandemic has been a real purge in the divorce department lol. I think it lifted the veil on the way many view relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:36 AM
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Most annoying is that they masquerade themselves as being empowering women.... smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 08:37 AM
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Yeah. It was awesome ‘cause he was very curious about what I like and what gets me off and remembered to do those things from then on. The foreplay would take an insane amount of time in the beginning, which felt like heaven. But with time he got a bit lazy. If only he put as much effort in the relationship as he put in the bedroom 🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 01:59 PM
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This 👏👏👏 They are legit brainwashed by social media on how the human body evolves during pregnancy. Especially with the celebrity trend of posting the post pregnancy pics that look like they didn’t even had a baby in the first place. Completely ignoring the effort and the team that was behind of that “effortless look”. They really are delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:44 PM
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What is it with them that they think it’s ok to do such a thing? I would be ashamed to give a gift in that to a colleague/aquaintance, but a bf/gf? This isn’t even about caring to buy something that matters, it’s abt manners; clearly missing here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:55 PM
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What's with the apostrophe? And the grammar jeez. This "dude" can't even write right, but he has sexist entitlement views on how women should be treated based on race? 🙄 go back to school sir and learn your language. And while you're at it some common sense & human decency too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 09:26 AM
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The worst is when they royally fuck up BUT one romantic gesture at the end somehow erases it all and all is forgiven....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 06:17 AM
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Wanna tell her "lady! You married a child."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:03 PM
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Love this 👏👏👏❤👑👑👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 10:27 AM
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Absolutely! That just shows their weird perceptions tho. Because they are used to women taking shit until they snap or tolerating too much when they care abt them. He refered to his good friend's fianceé that she puts up with so much from her partner. But thing is, you can care and still walk away knowing that it is in your best interest to do so. We're not massochists here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 10:07 AM
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OH the unconditional love part is such a toxic thing to say to a woman! Never have i heard that been said abt a guy. There is some perversion abt associating the unconditional love for a child (and not expecting returns basically) with the one for a partner and it disgusts me 🤢🤮. Also, I had people call me selfish after I stood up and said that the partner was not reciprocating. What is up with that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:15 PM
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I actually did this with the last guy and he could't handle eeeeet 🤣. After a while it sorta turned into a contest of who cares less (because his ex pickmeisha responded to that), i dumped him & he was shocked. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 05:08 PM
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More positive & informative posts: strategy, behaviour psychology etc. Perhaps a bit more HVM behavior posts so that there are more references of what to expect / keeping the standard high? The baseline being so low and all. The LVM content i feel uses so much space, but maybe there can be a flair for that so new members have a space to vent after taking out the trash / get encouragements? As opposed to each member making a post about it. Although as of recently I haven't seen so much of that. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:08 AM
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Yea but that sub has so few posts 😩 I'd love it if it were as dynamic as this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 05:57 AM
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Camelot on netflix is surprisingly fds, the story is reimagined with strong female characters. Also if you like vampire stories but with a dose of fds i quite liked A Discovery of Witches. The main character is a an acomplished woman academic who gets entangled in the supernatural world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 05:27 AM
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Ikr? My ex already had early wrinkles and sunspots and I was like dude.... SPF? Not to mention i had to convince him to use beard oil (for my sake). Why did I bother? 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:06 PM
2

Dm me too ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:06 AM
8

The HYPOCRISY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 04:38 AM
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He said "chill" . Ding ding ding allert. Go on a walk. Away from him lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:38 AM
5

Ego
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:08 PM
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Shhh ☝️👄👀 better they don't realise this tho. Makes the filtering process easier on our part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:06 AM
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😂 lol yea. They sort of tried with Frozen but they have a long way to go
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:06 PM
2

I know riight? We are seeing things through a different lense now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 04:04 PM
18

There is already... Check the about section of the sub - FDS Spotify playlist :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 03:13 AM
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Umm I sure hope she did none of that for him. That's a no go zone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:09 PM
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I don't get it. What's the deal with these times? Is it a second meaning besides the double digit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 10:26 AM
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Imagine the audacity to make this traumatizing event ALL abt them. It's.... beyond
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:50 AM
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Thought and determjnation. Ar those 7 different hodies (one for each line) made for the tik tok?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:42 AM
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Ikr? It feels like the motivation is for views / public image mostly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:26 AM
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Haha, hadn't seen it 😂😂😂 the article is 🔥🔥🔥 Thx!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:12 AM
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I swear even the world chill kinda annoys me lately. The go to code word for i don't wanna put effort but i also want u to be easy. Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:43 PM
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OMG YES. They are on every female sub i swear! And mansplain their way. The other day a girl made a post on 2xchromosomes of the creepy suspicious behaviour of her neighbour, while freaking out abt probably overreacting & overpoliteness when he crossed boundaries & not complaining of risking angering him / retaliation. I mention that as females we are primed this way, although this behaviour does not save from a potential attacker but endagers most of the time. And some guy made sure to tell eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:22 PM
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Because of the women that put up w it & normalize it. Thus, sabotaging their entire gender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:20 PM
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Wholesome ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:04 PM
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The red flags she describes are explicit. Just shows how vigilent we must be in reading the subtext and even then it's not enough 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 11:54 AM
12

Hollywood movies. (Especially the Woody Allen ones barf)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 10:01 PM
3

Acceptance. Depression. Bargaining. Anger. Denial. This mf got through all the grief stages backwards in just few texts lol 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 02:36 PM
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This just shows who they are and what they're after, as if it wasn't obvious before. While women actually check compatibility and careful filter suitors for a genuine relationship they are after what gives them a fast easy lay w little or no money. And we're the gold diggers? 😂😂 pfff smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:06 PM
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Soccer metaphor: Own goal much? Instead of defending her team, she slides the ball into the goal of her own team, the opposition scores and she expects accolades. Mind you, it wasn't like they needed help anyways, outscorring us throughout history & opression in a humiliating way. But yes, they are the victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:17 AM
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Verbal diarrhea 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 07:46 AM
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This is gold 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 09:34 AM
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"Working in the mental health field". Gurl, by the looks of it, you dating a patient?? 👀👀😂🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:07 AM
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"how do you think men in the past have become such good persons, they had wives" UMMMM? History knowledge gap much??? Also, having a wife / gf "helps a ton" 😂😂😂 omg that is just like those conservative men that say that sure they respect women. They have daughters. AS IF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 02:58 PM
1

😲👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 11:16 AM
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Wait 😂 tell me more abt this kween. How did you present him with this initiative? Was he avoidant at first?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 08:53 AM
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I figured I was on track to be that after 3 months. I convinced myself I was a cyinic and stayed 2 more "just to make sure". My tells were: did not put in the effort he did after a few months (lvm showing colors quickly) 🚩 was being vague about future (did not know where "life would bring him", and best to "go with the flow" 🚩) hot & cold attitude masked by breadcrumbing 🚩 words did not match actions 🚩 best one: GUT. I felt it wasn't it. There was a lukewarm feeling abt it all. You just know it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:15 AM
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Why did they remove the comm tho? It was not foul language, or aggressive. It was a valid opinion. "We value different view points". No they don't. They prefer a biased bubble. Also what is the deal with the overused expression sex positive as a slut substitute? Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 12:31 PM
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If you have any comms about this subject please look up the thread bellow. I think the mods who added this flair explained beautifully. Tx https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/gbcju3/lets_talk_about_how_to_discuss_high_value_men_on/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 12:37 PM
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Dear, it is benefitting women by incorporating positive examples that this kind of behaviour exists even if you haven't had the chance to encounter it, as a reason why one must never lower the standards. When women are subjected only to negative examples and negative rethoric that "all men are shit/scrotes" it balances the narrative and gives hopefulness to show HV behaviour as a reminder that this kind of actions/behaviours do exist and to expect that kind of actions/behaviours and not settle f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 12:31 PM
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High value action not high value person. There's a difference... I like the initiative of the community to push forward SOME examples of hv behaviour. It balances the content overall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 11:03 AM
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"When they're in love they get creative"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:39 PM
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I'd go with the man privilege & entitlement since the beginning of fucking time. Very consolidated by religion that stated everything in this world serves for their pleasure (including women).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:01 PM
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Girl, do you realise how many women TRY to become more avoidant? Somebody said on a thread somth like vulnerability & men? No, that's only for your therapist to hear. Don't give them free ammo to use against u.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:44 PM
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My heart breaks because she probably doesn't have the strength right now to see / go through with that. Can you imagine being so exhausted, wounded and vulnerable and the one person who should be your support decides to kick you while you're down? And not realising all this? :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 09:58 AM
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My Gawd yea, it's like kindergarden all over again with the whole toxic mindset "he is mean to you/ that means he likes you" WTF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 07:14 PM
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Projecting much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 06:56 PM
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Do onto them what you would like to be done onto you. Find someone to match your energy. You can also mirror their behaviour to get a vibe of things. Healthy boundaries are awesome. And not getting into emotional stuff when dating is really smart - allows you to asses possible partners and not show your cards. Honestly I think having your guard up at the beginning of relationships is really underrated and should be spoken more abt. This is how proper vetting is done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 08:25 PM
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It has to come from her too, to be able to meet halfway. If you are recently married (up to 5 yrs) and she is obvs still a kid, she might see you as a family intruder. That's how my mom explained my attitude towards her. She did not try to be my friend by force when she saw that i did not like her that much. But when I happened to have a bad time she would casually offer support / advise me from her own experience. What most changed in our dynamic is that she made my brother a better brother. Sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 06:12 PM
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That is so true! I never thought of myself as needy w other people in my life. It was a shock to me to suddenly become like that in my last relationship after months of what I now realise were breadcrumbing and hot & cold splashes of water. It messed w my head a bit. & self esteem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:59 PM
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That creates bigger broblems usually, cause it feels forced. Let it come naturally, maybe hitting that pause button on your relationship w her will bring some reflection on the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:48 PM
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It doesn't have to feel like making a choice, just respecting the house rules/hospitality. But if he is not making this proactively you can bow out and avoid interraction w her as much as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:41 PM
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Yourpersonality.net/attachment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:38 PM
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Your HVM did not put proper boundaries in place in order to prevent this dynamic. I have the same relationship with my brother, he practically raised me. When I stayed at his house for a couple of weeks when visiting (lives in another state) he would CALL ME OUT if I wasn't cleaning up after myself / contribute to the house (participate in weekend house cleaning chores) or if I disrespected his wife or him even with a comment. My brother would not DARE to permit me be even the slightest bit rude…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:30 PM
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So glad you brought this up. I've been concentrating on this subject the past week. A few days ago I took a test that confirmed I am the "anxious-preoccupied" type. It really saddened me, because the description of this type highlighted my worst personality aspects. Things that I always hated about myself. In hindsight, i appreciated this discovery: it showed me why I always needed constant attention (needy) & was prone to unconcious emotional manipulation. It's overwhelming because it showed me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:10 PM
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"You can appreciate them as an individual, just not as your partner". This reminds me of he was not a bad person, just a bad relationship realisation. This truly is something to meditate on, especially for the ones who entertain the fantasy that their ex will drastically change for the better for them (because life is so pointless without them - i think 2000's hollywood rom coms had part to play in this mentality).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:51 AM
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Really digging your attitude. It inspires me to do the same. Those articles are probably click bait writers trying to "be relevant".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 07:48 AM
10

Smells like desperation to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:41 AM
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Someone put an interesting video on r/femalelevelupstrategy that basically says how we as women are taught by society to minimize our anger "be rational" and "calm" otherwise we are perceived as unstable and over emotional. So yea, this is a woman downplaying her shock/distress basically saying "am i crazy for being outraged by this? Pls tell me it's not normal".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:17 AM
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Yes, I think that a separate subreddit for this book club sounds like a great idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 09:20 AM
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While this is true for many cases, i think it may have more to do with emotional immaturity and their pride. As they usually want to be the first one to move to someone else. Also they do not process their feelings the same way we do. So they are not "hiding away" feelings becase they are not aware of them in the first place or are in deep denial. But if there really was something, it will have an echo through his behaviour & it will affect the next person who will probably be Bob the Builder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 08:39 AM
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Thank you for this. After a while on this sub I started to get a distorted image that to be a HVW you must be successful/ have lots of accomplishments/money/beauty etc (aka external power). And feelings of inadequacy were rising up (not measuring up to those standards). This shines a light that HVW comes from internal power, so thank you 👑❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:42 AM
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"Never put anyone above you" that's an empowering way to look at things in a society that loves to criticize self love as being selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:18 PM
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I'm in my mid 20's. Thanks I am planning on doing just this. Thankfully this whole isolating situation offers more time to work on perfecting skills and improving mental health ❤ If you don't mind my asking, just curious - when you started dating your current partner did you approach the situation differently vs the start of your previous relationships? Like did you hold your guard up emotionally until he proved himself to be a hvm?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 06:24 PM
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This is so wholesome and lovely ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:22 PM
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Your comment abt your dad sort of triggered me cause i had a simmilar experience in my family. To me it was a clear sign of LVM by the fact that i noticed from a very young age that he treated strangers more kindly than his own family (by whom he felt misunderstood). I really like reading about positive experiences with HVM. It gives me hope that they really exist and they are not some kind of myth. Honestly I haven't had any positive male role models in my family nor have I met in my life. Ever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 02:16 PM
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"It's always the woman's fault"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 07:37 PM
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I think they just asses in terms of how "easy going" it looks like it is to approach/talk/court her. That's where we're at folks...Like for the others (gorgeous women, especially the take no bs "exotic" ones) they would feel intimidated, put on the spot - like they ACTUALLY have to make an EFFORT. Which most of them don't want to. They want us to be "light" and "fun" and "happy" and "funny" to make the process easier for them. And blondes are stigmatized as being just that - more easy going gals…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 08:46 AM
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No worries, i saw what you meant. Would love to see those posts when you'll get around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 07:10 AM
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That's a really good point. I see what you mean, as I read more on this subject different correlations appear between the mentality the society raised us with vs us finding our own voice and power. I really appreciate the effort put in this sub to keep it a safe space for us. Thank you! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 06:56 AM
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👏👏👏👏 love this. Insightful post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 10:16 PM
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Glad you've discovered it ❤. It's a really wonderful sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 08:31 PM
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I resonate with this. r/FemaleLevelUpStrategy is kind of my jam right now because I am mentally drained of seeing only posts about LVM here...(also many negative vibes). I feel like here is quantity over quality post wise. So I've been "studying" up on the FDS handbook meanwhile (a lot of impressive resources) and staying on that sister sub. Hopefully through this learning I could contribute in the future with helpful posts. I really like strategy posts and I would like to see more of those. Ins…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 01:31 PM
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didn't text (or hardly said something once every 1-2 days) and told me to initiate convos and not keep "score" did not put effort to go out on dates. He was a netflix & chill kind of person. shitty christmas gift: socks. Nuff said. did not do shit on VDay, went to a colleague's party and said to meet up the next day....... 🤡🤡🤡 I broke up w him right after after but damn, took some time and some obvious clues. The sirens were screaming but i was deaf af. No more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:30 AM
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Apology without change is just manipulation. This was an a-ha moment for me 👁👁 and it shows that you should not accept toxic behaviour just cause they apologize/ say they don't mean to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:57 PM
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Kinda yeah. I am in your shoes (although i have no idea what he is up to / if he is seing someone now) After a long term relationship they don't realize that what they seek is companionship / the feeling of relationship they are acustomed to, but not you in particular. Girl, it was you but it could have been literally anyone else. They do not know how to heal themselves and need another person to do it! And you realize you put in effort that the next woman will reap... And believe you me I have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:46 PM
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Ok, agreed, that is also a mean to transmit it; although the spread of the virus can be made in oh so many ways. Not gonna contradict you on the bio engineering disaster cause it just so happens that in Wuhan is a biolab lvl 4 (highest lvl of biohazard). https://metro.co.uk/2020/01/24/us-warned-virus-escape-lab-near-coronavirus-epicentre-12114591/ On the uk note i wouldn't be surprised, that dude also made a profit on the whole brexit thing. He's just a weirder Nigel Farage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 04:08 PM
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Mind you, are you really corelating the spread of COVID-19 with infidelity? There is no scientific proof to back it up. We can not yet comprehend the complexity of this situation. Let's try to be more mindful and not spread a hypothesis presented as a fact or we are no better than the weird christian lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 02:18 PM
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I'm reading a book that has a passage with an interesting take on this. The archetype of marriage was designed to assist physical survival - so it was seen as an economic partnership ( and was like this for a really long time). The emancipation of women in recent history most likely generated this transition that we are still facing, where we think of marriage as an emotional partnership in the sense of spiritual growth. Most men are anchored in the old archetype which is probably what causes th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 11:13 AM
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Some of them act dumb (manipulators) and some of them really are by being plain ignorant or self centred. Obliviousness is no excuse and is not your duty to tell/correct him. That itself can send you in Bob the Builder mode and we agreed we ain't having that. Both cases are equally toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:28 PM
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Thank you. I want to see more of this kind of posts. Really uplifting vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 09:11 AM
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Christina Aguilera - Fighter
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:52 PM
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I am a bit confused. What does that mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 01:22 PM
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