BucketOfSunshins Archive

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2	Wife has begun apologizing. Give me some of your good responses If that's taken to extreme and reversed, then doing nice things for a woman (doing her chores, etc) should be rewarded in her dropping her panties. That doesn't work. That's getting into Nice Guy territory. Yes, I'm a much better person when my wife's laid me. Yes, her not doing her responsibilities turns me off. The problem is when it becomes too much in the "vending machine" territory. "Insert chores to receive sex." The situation above, "I'll fuck you if you listen to me" rings of that. Being…	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/11/15 07:17 PM
2	CMV: There is more of a "vilify men and yell rape culture" than there is a "rape culture" Consent cannot be withdrawn after an act. It's already occurred.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/15 07:13 PM
5	CMV: There is more of a "vilify men and yell rape culture" than there is a "rape culture" Yep. She sent the guy texts saying how much she wanted him. That attitude changed when he rebuffed her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/15 03:26 PM
5	Wife has begun apologizing. Give me some of your good responses It's not so much covert (it's explicitly stated) as it is transactional. Sex is NEVER transactional. Sex is something that couples do. That's the norm. There's no "trading" of sex for non sex things.	/r/MarriedRedPill	13/11/15 03:14 PM
1	Referring back to TRP? Don't have the time to filter for the good stuff? Worry no more Modetators are half moderator, half potato.	/r/MarriedRedPill	09/11/15 10:30 PM
1	Free Speech Dying due to Political Correctness You're conflating the suppression of speech with the consequences. You're also conflating the public reaction with the governmental restriction. http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/free_speech.png	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/15 10:27 PM
2	Is intelligence a sexually attractive quality in men? I think that speaks to women liking men better than they are in what they're good at. A smart woman isn't going to date a dumb ass. If you're in a smart girls school, then that population is probably going to have higher standards for intelligence.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/15 08:05 PM
2	All you want me for is sex Sex is not something to be exchanged like chores.	/r/askMRP	03/11/15 10:20 PM
1	Is intelligence a sexually attractive quality in men? How among your friends is your opinion of attractions shared? How among your wider circuit, not just friends, but people your age at work/school/life/whatever is your opinion of attractions shared?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/15 04:07 PM
1	Is intelligence a sexually attractive quality in men? How old are you? Also, I can anecdotally agree in singular (I met my wife while playing RPGs) but not in general. My wife is a bit unusual. She didn't prioritize physical traits.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/15 11:40 PM
2	If men "peak" at 40 or so, why do all the young women on this sub complain about men that age hitting on them? It's like guys who like heavier women- there are tons of them but there are still far more men who prefer thin women. Sir Mix A Lot is my patron saint.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/15 11:11 PM
1	Is intelligence a sexually attractive quality in men? Disagree with this. Such an elaborate rebuttal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/15 11:10 PM
1	[FR] Shutting down a girls weekend and being totally OI about it. Isnt the fact she wanted to go at all a sign of something much deeper? Not necessarily. Hamster rationalization could just be telling her "Oh, I'm just going out with my sister!" while her uterus is screaming for strange, new sperm. People can convince themselves of all KINDS of things.	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/11/15 10:04 PM
2	Is intelligence a sexually attractive quality in men? Yes, but it's not nearly as obvious or as strong as six pack abs. It also pulls women more past high school than in high school. Once women/girls realize that the captain of the football team might deliver pizzas for the rest of his life while his beer belly grows, suddenly that nerd with ambition to be the next Elon Musk is quite attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/15 09:51 PM
2	"You don't care about anyone but yourself" - Comments from males "They hate us 'cause the ain't us" - the Interview They're just jealous and trying to tear you down.	/r/askTRP	02/11/15 09:50 PM
1	If men "peak" at 40 or so, why do all the young women on this sub complain about men that age hitting on them? Men may be better candidates for the "provider" role at that age, but they aren't more sexually attractive to young women than the 20 something guys. I disagree with your conclusion. I think that men may, MAY, be more physically attractive in their 20's (huge grain of salt, but for argument's sake, we'll go with it) but that the increase in providership brings their SMV up many notches, given that alpha levels are close. Example: A 20 year old man is an 8 on a 10 point scale of body. A 30 year o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/15 09:47 PM
1	A gentleman's guide to Rape Culture Refuse to read. Harry Potter and Rape Culture (in America) are both fantasies. (Quote credit to /u/yiannopolous_m)	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/15 04:58 PM
1	Why isn't Married Man's Sex Life Primer the first book we recommend? I suggest them all at the same time.	/r/askMRP	30/10/15 08:07 PM
1	What would be a good book for me to read next? You're a month in. It's common to think that when you're a month in. "What the fuck, why the fuck am I still in a marriage?!"	/r/askMRP	30/10/15 07:36 PM
1	How do you take the pussy off the pedestal when you've never had any? Why do you even put it on a pedestal. You don't even know what it's like.	/r/askTRP	30/10/15 07:31 PM
2	CMV: BP-style feminist thinking can actually be damaging to young men, making them feel lonely, depressed and full of self-doubt Why was it deleted? Weird. Here was his link: http://slatestarcodex.com/2015/01/01/untitled/	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/15 07:27 PM
2	I'm that rare career beta that has arrived at the red pill... If you literally want someone to advise you, the author of MMSL, Athol Kay, does coaching sessions. You probably don't need him, yet, though. You need to read all the stuff that everyone else has told you to read. Once you've done your homework, if you STILL need someone to guide you, try him.	/r/askMRP	30/10/15 04:38 PM
3	CMV: BP-style feminist thinking can actually be damaging to young men, making them feel lonely, depressed and full of self-doubt That article is amazing. Holy crap. Thanks for the link.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/15 02:21 PM
3	Ever feel like you married the wrong person? Who she is now is not who she was and not who she will be. You probably don't like her that much right now because she was responding to the drunk captain you were. Becoming a better man has made my wife a better woman. How long have you been at this? She'll time lag a bit.	/r/askMRP	29/10/15 10:01 PM
6	Last 24 hours She's not attracted to him and is upset at herself for not feeling attracted. Not that she can help it, because OP is a bundle of sticks.	/r/MarriedRedPill	29/10/15 07:20 PM
11	The Covert Reason That Feminists Loathe Gay Men Interesting timing. Milo Yiannopolous wrote about this just recently. /u/yiannopoulos_m But I can glimpse something on the horizon that might just make it interesting again to be a fag: feminists are about to declare war on us. Specifically, the unfuckable feminist fag hags who have for so long ridden on our tastefully embroidered coat-tails. They’re going to lose. http://www.breitbart.com/big-government/2015/10/14/dear-fag-hags-i-want-a-divorce/	/r/TheRedPill	28/10/15 06:00 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2015 Thanks! Glad to have your blessing :)	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/10/15 05:56 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2015 I disagree with your philosophy on learning. What's the point of the apprentice model, if not to have an example and then ask questions of the master? I can understand the criticism saying that I don't even know enough to ask the right questions. That's valid.	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/10/15 02:00 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2015 U mad, bro?	/r/MarriedRedPill	28/10/15 01:58 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2015 Less posting, MORE lifting, more reading. Why would I post less, asking for help? I'm trying to get answers in a language I understand. I fully admit I'm pretty dense in a lot of respects, so how would asking less help me? I really appreciate your posts, btw. Thank you.	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/10/15 08:17 PM
4	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2015 any meaningful consequences What consequences? You speak of plural, but all I've heard today is effectively "pick up shirts or divorce" from the vocal segment. That's 1 consequence and it's ludicrous. Stop posting your frivolous, useless, and time wasting bullshit. I asked for help because I'm not good at this, you give me "divorce her over the shirts" and I'm considered time wasting?	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/10/15 08:15 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2015 You are thinking this way to much. I always do. Edit: Last thing, until you are willing to next your wife. You won't see many good results. I'm not, unless she cheats. I'm not threatening divorce over a pile of shirts on the floor.	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/10/15 06:12 PM
4	Why do we stay with our wives? With all the FRs every day, I keep reading about all of us struggling husbands. Don't take reddit as a picture of the world and everything in it. MRP is not an accurate representation of The State Of Marriage. We're all here because our marriage is fucked up in some manner. This is the opposite of survivor bias.	/r/askMRP	27/10/15 05:43 PM
3	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2015 There's some middle ground between FULL COMPLIANCE and DIVORCE. People have more motivations than carrot and nuclear bomb. I need some smaller weapons than ending a marriage over some shirts on the floor.	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/10/15 05:32 PM
0	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2015 Civil but sparse? Not silent, just taciturn.	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/10/15 05:30 PM
1	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2015 You and Ron Burgundy know about some escalation, son! You're implying that her only options, in a marriage, are compliance or divorce. That's rather stark! Nothing else in between, there? And would you please point out on the doll where the whining touched you? 'Cause, last I checked, an honest question in a forum dedicated to helping people improve their marriages is the whole point of this sub. Lol, you are pissed about something.	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/10/15 05:29 PM
2	Q4RP: Why do you fear equal relationships so much? I'm 30 in a few years. That means you're not 30. We'll assume "few" to mean 3+. You're 27. Wait until you're 30~35 and get back to us. Shit changes REALLY fast.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/15 04:18 PM
2	Friends wife rejects at night, texts in morning I named mine Penisula, too!	/r/askMRP	27/10/15 04:11 PM
0	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2015 Silent treatment method, eh?	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/10/15 04:10 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2015 I can't think of consequences that don't make me come across a brat. "Since you didn't do the dishes, I'm not gonna play with you today!" Divorce is rather improbable. She'd have to cheat, and I don't see that happening.	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/10/15 04:09 PM
1	Friends wife rejects at night, texts in morning I'm with you. I've got a couple friends in this situation. You have to tread carefully. I've not found the right path, yet, nor am I sure there's a One Size Fits All strategy.	/r/askMRP	27/10/15 02:50 PM
2	Friends wife rejects at night, texts in morning Ahoy Red Knight! What is in it for you, Morpheus? No man is an island.	/r/askMRP	27/10/15 02:49 PM
7	Is there ONE straight, kind, solvent single man in his 40s left in your country? If so, then why aren't you seeking a romantic commitment with a broad in her 40s? As long as you're female, 20-something and not too shabby looking, guys will flock to you. After 30 this stops. This is the best wrapping of that concept I've come across, so far. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H-gfxjAaZg0 the truth is hilariously harsh.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/15 02:08 PM
4	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2015 Saw a post in AskMRP about getting the wife to do chores, and u/[deleted] asked the pointed question, "What if she says no?" I'd like my wife to get our house in shape, stop borrowing money from her parents, and quit complaining about everything -- but what if she says no? This. I'm not nexting my wife. What to do if she says no?	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/10/15 02:05 PM
3	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 27, 2015 No one gives a fuck about you. Not necessarily true. Just not to the level of caring you would hope from someone on the internet. No one will ever care about you the way you want to be cared about. (They can't. They're not psychic. Not their fault.)	/r/MarriedRedPill	27/10/15 02:03 PM
2	When you stop putting women on a pedestal, not only will your life improve, you also quickly realize how boring they really are. Eh, I think you're too specific in your title. Women don't have a monopoly on being boring. People, in general, are boring.	/r/TheRedPill	27/10/15 02:00 PM
1	Serious question for everyone: Do you lift? don't scream, dammit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/15 01:58 PM
1	Serious question for everyone: Do you lift? /r/fitness30plus for us old dudes. Things don't heal as fast as they used to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/15 01:57 PM
1	Serious question for everyone: Do you lift? If you're not in your 20's, play with the reps/sets/progression until your joints don't scream after you've added 5 lbs. Edit: Derp. "don't scream"	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/15 10:13 PM
3	You don't get to judge another man. If reddit is likened to opinion rape, then the front page is opinion bukkake.	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/10/15 07:37 PM
10	You don't get to judge another man. Is it ironic, then, that I come here for the judgment? I find that people are too fucking nice and you don't get anything done efficiently by being nice. Harsh judgment gets things done.	/r/MarriedRedPill	26/10/15 06:25 PM
3	The Secret of a Tender Elam I've lately heard it said that MRAs and Feminists are two sides of the same coin. They are just rule 63 of each other. This further lends credence to that.	/r/TheRedPill	26/10/15 06:22 PM
2	A man in the midst of custody battle is interrogated by CPS over every minute detail of his life in attempt to find evidence of bad parenting. You're dating yourself If I could clone and myself, I totally would. I'm freaking awesome. btw, rap hasn't been about being angry since the 90s, now it's just bragging about your new bling, and getting mad that nike won't sponsor your new shoe It's a movie quote.	/r/askMRP	26/10/15 06:03 PM
3	A man in the midst of custody battle is interrogated by CPS over every minute detail of his life in attempt to find evidence of bad parenting. "So young. So angry. Damn that rap music." Lol, nah. Just trying to be helpful.	/r/askMRP	26/10/15 04:34 PM
1	A man in the midst of custody battle is interrogated by CPS over every minute detail of his life in attempt to find evidence of bad parenting. Still not seeing the question. This should not be in the "ask" version of the sub.	/r/askMRP	26/10/15 04:26 PM
140	Girlfriend had MFM threesome with ex bf and some random he found. Should I be as disgusted as I am? She's told me that she slept with 18 guys but I've only slept with 3. Well, sounds like you need to sleep with 15 more guys.	/r/askTRP	26/10/15 04:24 PM
6	Plates Want Instant Commitment.They go nuclear when I don't offer it back .Thoughts? She tried to off herself with a friends pills that night, and scuttlebutt around the grapevine was because I "rejected" her. You're not responsible for her crazy.	/r/askTRP	23/10/15 07:34 PM
4	Should I stop initiating? I am thinking of stopping initiating and seeing if - maybe after a few days without sex - she might actually initiate. Does my reasoning make sense or am I fooling myself about something? Do you think my suggested approach is a good idea? That's a covert contract. Fuck covert contracts.	/r/askMRP	23/10/15 07:33 PM
4	Wife back to work/ welching on sex promises/ considering monk mode. I am about 6 months from unplugging. Lost 17 lbs so far, been running and lifting religiously. Read much of sidebar and prereqs. Been making steady progress: I smile a lot, getting attention, kino and smiles from random women, singing in the shower, updating wardrobe, and moving with a purpose. Career is going better as I am more confident, taking on projects and leadership roles. I took control of our finances totally. We had a lot of debt that was crushing us, and my wife is a SAHM and homesch…	/r/askMRP	23/10/15 06:56 PM
2	Would you LTR a woman who "took one for the team" and serviced all of the "incel" or "beta" or "omega" men who were interested in her? So you're saying these guys don't deserve sex? No one deserves sex. My point is that RP says to fix your shit so that you're so awesome that women's panties will magically fly off from the torrential downpour between their legs. RP's goal of personal responsibility is not some exclusive club. Would that ALL men were this awesome. The world would be a glorious place. Because I thought the problem was that guys like that used to get sex but then the sexual revolution happened so now only top alpha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/15 06:48 PM
4	Redpill my break up gives a basis for improvement Find someone with whom you don't have a fundamental disagreement. Be more selective.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/15 06:06 PM
6	Would you LTR a woman who "took one for the team" and serviced all of the "incel" or "beta" or "omega" men who were interested in her? I've heard it said many times on manosphere forums that this is exactly what women should do. That's moronic. That would be reinforcing shit heads to stay shitty. I know you said manosphere, but one of the core tenets of TRP is to fix your own shit. If you get sex for being a lazy fuck, why would you change anything?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/15 06:01 PM
1	So I have this dilemma You're fighting an uphill battle. They already think negatively of you. If you want to change that, it will take time and a lot of energy. You also have the inherent desire to conform to others' expectations of you. Fight that. Short cut is to reboot your social circle. You start out at ground zero with new people. I knew a guy who did this. He moved 2 states away because the AMOG wouldn't let him stop being a beta bitch. He found it easier to leave.	/r/askTRP	22/10/15 05:33 PM
9	Is staying married setting a bad example for my sons? However, I have two boys and I would never advise them to get married. In fact, when they come of age, I intend to advise them not to get married. Marriage isn't 100% bad. Some suck. Some don't. Some of us are happy with the risk/reward ratio. I'm happy with my choice. When your sons are old enough, explain that cost/benefit to them and let them make the choice.	/r/askMRP	22/10/15 03:34 PM
1	Wife doesn't shit test me You, sir, are good at this. Great examples, thanks.	/r/askMRP	22/10/15 02:46 PM
3	28 year old woman on TwoX gets a cold hard slap of reality - high value men are avoiding her. Commenters furiously rationalize it away and tell her everything will be alright. but the truth is were nothing more than naked apes driven by instinct. I partially disagree. I joke that humans are like a driver on an elephant. The naked ape instinct is the elephant. It's a hell of a lot bigger and stronger than "modern man" would like to admit. Our conscious mind is the driver on top. Yeah, he's got some reins and can do some influence, but he's not really in charge. It's only when the elephant lets him drive. The biggest flaw with the modern conception of "free will" is tha…	/r/TheRedPill	22/10/15 02:38 PM
23	28 year old woman on TwoX gets a cold hard slap of reality - high value men are avoiding her. Commenters furiously rationalize it away and tell her everything will be alright. There are some gems out there. This one is my favorite. "Girls are assholes - at a bar" https://youtu.be/hbeEuYAZFL4	/r/TheRedPill	21/10/15 10:10 PM
1	CMV: Women are the selective gender. I agree. Though, really, this is an economics question. Economics of Sex: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cO1ifNaNABY	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/15 07:35 PM
3	[LTR] Does any of this shit work if she's depressed? I personally think the 'depression' is just a defensive mechanism. Whenever I encourage her to get active or cheer up, she accuses me of not believing her depression is real, says its a disease, she can't help it, and this is the way she is. Symptoms: watching television for hours, being miserable, zero libido, whining self-pity, bitching over nothing. If it's as you describe, then, yeah. She's using it as a scapegoat instead of being a better human being. "Muh condishuns!"	/r/askMRP	21/10/15 06:45 PM
1	Handling disrespect from friends We're on good terms, but in a group his focus is talking to the girls and he doesn't loop me in on plans Then he's not your friend.	/r/askTRP	21/10/15 04:40 PM
4	How to act towards wife after ridiculous argument? I can't tell from what you're saying, not enough data, is your wife shit-test arguing with you or is she full-on crazy? The former is a relationship issue. The latter is a medical issue. If she's bipolar or something, yeah, hold your frame, but she needs help. If she's just testing you, then that's another story.	/r/askMRP	21/10/15 04:30 PM
12	CMV: In a ways, i kinda understand why women are the way they are. Giving women all sexual power at an early age is akin to giving a child a billion dollars. A woman usually has to choose between having a career and having children. You can't get as far as a man when you have to take care of a kid. Do men even get that choice? Women are not taken seriously in business settings. A woman can suggest something and a man can suggest the same exact thing. People will often only remember the man saying it. Not in any business I've ever worked, which isn't many. They've been just as respected.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/10/15 09:31 PM
2	On the brink of divorce, could use some input. I married too young for starters, and to make it worse that I let her manipulate me into marriage. Those may be true, but they don't determine how YOUR marriage goes. You decide the future. Take the reins and make it awesome for your own reasons. I made TONS of mistakes getting married when and how. I'd still do it again (though differently).	/r/askTRP	20/10/15 06:08 PM
0	Ever since I took the Red Pill, music I used to like sounds really petty and kinda pathetic..Anyone else notice this? In high school, I used to love and listen to Stabbing Westward. Spotify randomly pulled them up when I made a 90's station. That is the whiniest, neediest crap I've ever heard in my life. I couldn't stand it.	/r/askTRP	20/10/15 03:46 PM
1	Finding a good therapist goal orientated help seeking vs. generic help seeking. I don't really see where the OP explained he was one or the other. Yeah, sure, a large majority of the people here need to just be told "Stop being a lazy fuck and actually get your shit together." However, there are a nonzero number of people who actually need help and "LIFT AND READ THE SIDEBAR" isn't really useful to those people.	/r/askMRP	20/10/15 03:02 PM
1	On the brink of divorce, could use some input. Do you actually want to be married? Do you like and believe in the concept of marriage for whatever (cultural, religious, etc) reasons? If so, try /r/marriedredpill, marriedmansexlife.com (that's the website of the author of MMSLP) or some of the other marriage related RP stuff. If not, the others here have given you plenty of advice on how to get out.	/r/askTRP	20/10/15 02:33 PM
2	Finding a good therapist Apparently we're permitted to ask for help on these subs, but not a trained professional. /s	/r/askMRP	20/10/15 02:21 PM