Buddy400 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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0	Would men having higher standards actually work? This might result in more women settling more quickly for a relationship with less attractive men, but it doesn't mean that the men aren't going to be sexless after the NRE wears off. And, what's in it for really attractive men? Most of them probably enjoy having sex with lots of women who are below their "relationship league".	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/21 07:21 PM
0	Is It Disrespectful To Make "Boyfriend Material" Men Wait? Sometimes people didn’t realize the damage they were doing to themselves mentally by sleeping around, realizing that it’s not good to jump into bed fast doesn’t mean she’s stuck always having to do jump into bed fast since she’s done it once or twice. Sure, as long as the new rule didn't become a rule 5 minutes before she met me. I'd have to be convinced she changed her ways quite a while before meeting me. My wife swore she'd been enforcing the rule for many months before we met... and then she…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/20 04:03 AM
1	Is It Disrespectful To Make "Boyfriend Material" Men Wait? Search "never marry your best sex"	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/20 03:32 AM
1	Is It Disrespectful To Make "Boyfriend Material" Men Wait? Having to move and leave all your friends behind is a pretty stiff price to pay. There's a movie where twin magicians spend their entire life keeping their twin a secret (including from the one who's married's wife) for the benefit of a magic trick. Seems like a excessive amount of effort but, if it matters that much to you.....	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/20 03:31 AM
5	Is It Disrespectful To Make "Boyfriend Material" Men Wait? The most likely way it would come out is that she'd slip up and say something herself. My wife's done something like this several times (not related to the issue being discussed here). Then again, there are drunk friends. If you spend 10 - 20 years with someone, it's probably 50/50 it comes out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/20 03:27 AM
44	Is It Disrespectful To Make "Boyfriend Material" Men Wait? The problem with this is that women do not think of having sex with a man as a "reward" that they give to men for being a good guy. They may well want to have sex with a man because they'd like to have sex and they are attracted to him. If they see the man as "relationship material" they may want to hold off to make sure that he's not just interested in sex while if the man is not "relationship material", why would she care? After all, she's just interested in sex. I believe that women are also …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/20 08:22 PM
2	CMV: There is nothing wrong with obtaining sex by repeated requests, guilting, threatening break-up, etc. Anything short of ignoring someone's clear refusal or obtaining compliance by threats of violence is fair game. For clarity, let's use 'man' and 'woman' knowing that we could freely substitute other words as needed. Let's say that the woman doesn't really want to have sex, but wants to continue the relationship. The man makes clear that, in order to continue the relationship, sex needs to be a part of it. The woman decides to try and preserve the relationship by having sex with the man and, knowing that he would probably refuse sex with her if she made it clear she didn't want it, she feigns enthusiasm. T…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/20 05:11 PM
4	CMV: There is nothing wrong with obtaining sex by repeated requests, guilting, threatening break-up, etc. Anything short of ignoring someone's clear refusal or obtaining compliance by threats of violence is fair game. It is certainly possible to not want sex and still want to be in a relationship. But why would anyone who does want sex remain in such a relationship?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/20 04:42 PM
1	Women create "nice guys". Shouldn't men "reward" personality by having relationships with fat chicks with great personalities? We don't. So why would we expect women to reward men who they aren't attracted to?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/20 05:56 PM
3	Women create "nice guys". I think it's some kind of defense mechanism from people who go after assholes and are on some level aware of that Well put. I think it's so that they can feel better about rejecting them by claiming that they're only being nice to get pussy. Women shouldn't feel the need to justify who they're attracted to. Men don't. Sure, they've got the wrong idea about what attracts women, but I can't see why some may women seem to be so contemptuous of them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/20 05:32 PM
5	Women create "nice guys". 90% of men can't afford to be picky.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/20 05:23 PM
3	Women create "nice guys". Of course I'm going to be less willing to commit to someone who doesn't eat pussy as well as my ex did. Of course it's going to be a challenge to find someone I deem better than all my exes. But when I do...it'll be so much more worth it than committing to the first guy I was ever with. So, you're less likely to commit to someone. More of a challenge = less chance of reaching the goal. This means that you're more likely not to have a committed life partner. Whether that's good or not depends on …	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/20 05:18 PM
18	Reasonably attrattive men in their early 30s with their sh*t together are better off casual dating than being in a LTR? More importantly, men need to get out of a toxic LTR quickly even if the chances of getting a new woman with relative ease isn't likely.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/20 07:26 PM
1	Why shouldn’t women choose attractive men if they can get them? If it's just a fuck and the opportunity is there, sure women will fuck Chad and men will fuck Stacy. If one is looking to fuck someone in a long term, meaningful relationship, then they're probably better off with someone closer to their league.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/20 08:30 PM
1	What goes on in women who are 30+ that decide to settle down? One would imagine that they lower their standards or they change their standards. If they think that they lowered their standards, they may feel "humbled". This could make them resent the guy they "settled" for. Probably not good for the marriage. If they changed their standards, they may think that they've "wised up". In this case, everything may work out for the best. Either way, they need to understand that it will only work out well if they actually have sex with the guy they "settled" for	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/20 08:06 PM
1	Is it easy for an average man if he just tries and puts effort ? 6'4"?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/20 10:19 PM
3	Is it easy for an average man if he just tries and puts effort ? Well, there's Relationship Market Value and Sexual Market Value. It's hard to increase SMV enough to get a lot of casual sex. It's easy to increase RMV enough to get a relationship. The problem with having a good RMV with a lower SMV is that guys think they're going to get relationships with women who had great sex with the SMV guys in the past, deprioritize sex in LTRs, marry the guy with the good RMV, low SMV and stop having sex with him when the NRE wears off. I'm sure this doesn't happen as …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/20 06:51 PM
7	Is it easy for an average man if he just tries and puts effort ? As far as attracting women, being 5'6" is a significant disadvantage. I imagine for women, being 6'2" is about an equal disadvantage. So is having a low IQ if you want to go to college, having bad eyesight if you want to be a pilot (I think that's still the case) being a woman and wanting to play in the NFL or having a micro penis. What sucks is that these are things one can't do anything to improve. All one can do is make the best of what one has. What I don't like is people pretending that non…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/20 06:44 PM
1	Q4Men How much do you care about your partners sexual history? As long as it's the past (not three ONSs the week before we met) and she's bringing her A game with me, it doesn't really matter to me. Some exorbitant number like 100+ would be a problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/02/20 05:22 PM
1	Q4 Men who independently decided on these deal breakers: (1) If they have to wait longer for sex than any of her exes, or (2) She has stopped performing a sex act Let's get rid of the criminality aspect. How about being pressured in to betraying a friend? Or being pressured into helping someone cheat on a test? You didn't want to do it. Someone pressured you into doing it and you did it anyway. Now, if there was a gun to her head, that's understandable. I wouldn't hold a threesome against anyone anyway. But, I certainly would never hold anything against someone that was a result of abuse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/20 03:13 AM
2	Q4 Men who independently decided on these deal breakers: (1) If they have to wait longer for sex than any of her exes, or (2) She has stopped performing a sex act 1) A woman being pressured into participating in a threesome that she didn't want and giving in is (doing it) is the same as a kid being pressured into joining a gang when he didn't want to and being pressured into robbing a corner store are the same thing. Both allowed themselves to be pressured into doing something they didn't want to do. 2) If a woman gets no physical pleasure personally from giving oral sex (is indifferent) but does it gladly anyway because she wants to please the man, I'd h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/20 07:49 PM
1	Do you believe that there is "someone out there for everyone"? Yes. As long as there's enough mutual attraction to want to have sex and you both put a great deal of work into the relationship because you genuinely care about your partner's happiness. There probably isn't a person with whom you can be happy if you are not willing to compromise, insist on doing whatever you want and do not care about your partner's happiness. There are some high demand people of each gender who will attract partner's willing to live like this, but not that many.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/20 05:57 AM
3	Q4 Men who independently decided on these deal breakers: (1) If they have to wait longer for sex than any of her exes, or (2) She has stopped performing a sex act If her sexual history left her unfulfilled and she changed her ways well before meeting me, I have no problem with that. If she was pressured into it, that's no better an excuse for her than it is for someone who joined a gang and "got pressured" into doing something illegal. If she performed some sexual act for another guy that she either enjoyed or felt indifferent about and won't do the same with me, I would figure that she was more attracted to the other guy than me or she was more intereste…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/20 05:25 AM