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ConversationBudget-Kick822/r/seduction27/05/26 03:18 PM
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You can progressively desensitize yourself by hitting on larger and larger bust sized girls
/r/seduction16/07/26 01:20 PM
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She wanted you to make a move in the moment. Make a move being escalate the flirting. When you didn’t it shows a lack of confidence and/or a lack of social adeptness. Both of which are unattractive. Girls want to have fun. When you ask her out without flirting with her that is not fun for her; that is serious.
/r/seduction29/06/26 01:07 AM
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Redflags in a woman question is a great opportunity to just superficially describe her as a tease though.
/r/seduction29/05/26 07:29 PM
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You've had 57 dates in one year. Do you have any perspective on how that compares to the general population. 57 dates in one year is probably 99th percentile date frequency for single, actively looking guys. Your problems: Conversion rates at every point of the interaction. approach -> phone number, phone number -> date, date -> second date, date -> sex. Your rates are pretty low but not abysmally low for a beginner. Burnout. Obviously you're feeling burnt out. You've put an enormous amount of t…
/r/seduction27/05/26 03:40 PM
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This is called making friends in person.
/r/seduction26/05/26 04:38 PM
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Can a mod please ban this account that is just an OF ad?
/r/seduction26/05/26 03:51 PM
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Just lookup day game guides on youtube/search bar. Your biggest issue is you are not doing any flirting/comfort building/value building inbetween the open and trying to close. Also proposing a date as a statement is better than a question. Open -> convo with flirting, storytelling, teasing, get to know you -> "We should get drinks". Makes it more casual and confident.
/r/seduction20/05/26 08:05 PM
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Rejections happen even with well executed approaches. Don't worry about why you got rejected. Just worry about improving your own skills. "Hi how's it going?" is not the best pre-opener. If you're starting a conversation with a stranger, you want to dictate the frame and vibe of the conversation. Most people don't talk to strangers. When you open with "How's it going", you are effectively asking them to start the conversation, since you haven't set a frame. When she responds poorly/neutrally to …
/r/seduction20/05/26 05:51 PM
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This sub would be far better if people posted more field reports. Field reports are one of the fastest ways to improve.
/r/seduction14/05/26 07:35 PM
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Your feed is elo based too. If you only see fat girls Your elo is low
/r/seduction13/05/26 10:47 PM
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If the vast majority of your matches in a major city are obese then your ego is low.
/r/seduction13/05/26 10:16 PM
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Cooking (well) is an attractive hobby. Raw vegetables is not. If you want to showcase this part of your life, post a pic of a well plated good looking meal that is still obvious that its homemade
/r/seduction13/05/26 12:01 AM
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"Trying hard" is unattractive. Women want you to appear effortless in ability. Candid pic of you cooking is way better than a pic of your macro balanced plare
/r/seduction12/05/26 11:52 PM
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Your mistake was not escalating when things are going well. You live in different countries. Very difficult for her to be invested especially because you didnt have sex.
/r/seduction12/05/26 11:45 PM
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You live in different countries and didnt sleep together. No saving.
/r/seduction12/05/26 09:04 PM
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Assume attraction until proven otherwise.
/r/seduction12/05/26 06:00 PM
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The goal is creating an experience for her that leads to sex between both of you. Going for the number too early before building tension and attraction leads to flaky numbers. Go for the number after screening that she isn't available for an instant date and after building up the interaction to a point where you both agree that you like each other and should keep hanging out.
/r/seduction09/05/26 07:55 PM
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A core concept that has existed in the PUA community for over 15 years is outcome independence. The whole point is to take satisfaction in the process of getting better.
/r/seduction08/05/26 07:41 PM
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Most people arent good at lifting weights so what's the point in lifting weights? Most people arent good at playing an instrument so what's the point of playing an instrument? The point is to get better.
/r/seduction08/05/26 07:09 PM
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Dating is a sales funnel. Your dating success comes down to generating leads, and closing leads. There are lots of ways to generate leads - cold approach, social circle, social media, online dating, fame, hobbies, school, work, etc. Nothing makes you improve faster at closing leads than cold approach because cold approach has the highest volume for practice and improvement. Nothing gets you from guy who is scared to talk to women, to guy who is comfortable and good at flirting with women faster …
/r/seduction08/05/26 07:06 PM
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Cold approach is hard and takes many structured attempts to get better at and will crush your ego and lead you to get rejected countless times. That's why its great. Its not a quick fix. Its a skill that you build up that translates to all other types of game and other aspects of life. If you want instant gratification go jerk off or pay a prostitute.
/r/seduction08/05/26 06:04 PM
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Women 30+ have lower SMV. If youre struggling with under 26 your problems are a combination of low SMV yourself, bad game, or too unc.
/r/seduction07/05/26 02:52 AM
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Fix your anxiety by gradually putting yourself into slightly uncomfortable situations and getting used to it. Improve your social skills by putting yourself in social situations repeatedly. Fix your vibe by doing interesting things. Pick up hobbies centred around improving at a skill. Art/Music/Physical activity/etc. If you become someone working on interesting things, you will feel more comfortable expressing yourself as a multidimensional person with an interesting life. For getting over rejec…
/r/seduction27/04/26 10:15 PM
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If you're not getting matches it's the profile/photos. If you are getting matches but not converting into dates it's your texting game.
/r/seduction24/04/26 04:21 PM
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This is not a huge problem in the US what are you talking about
/r/seduction24/04/26 02:31 AM
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Make more solid plans. Also volleyball is not a date. Volleyball and food and/or drinks afterwards is a date. Plan out an actual date when you're making plans.
/r/seduction20/04/26 09:03 PM
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Most women find the following traits attractive: Physical markers of health and ability to protect her. This includes things like height, being in shape/having muscle at low enough body fat %, facial symmetry, frame (wide shoulders/chest) Status - a man's social standing in both his local social circle and society wide. Local social status is like are you the leader of your friend group? Are you one of the most competent/capable people in your local hobby group if you meet her in the hobby group…
/r/seduction18/04/26 07:58 PM
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You didnt make it to the rejection phase. You have to actually hit on her to potentially get rejected. You just made small talk
/r/seduction18/04/26 07:44 AM
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It doesnt matter how realistic your shitty app is. Its shitty because of what it tries to be. I will never use it. Vibe code a job application next instead
/r/seduction17/04/26 06:27 PM
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You are "in love"with an anonymous person on reddit.
/r/seduction17/04/26 06:13 PM
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Talking to a fake woman does not help you talk to a real woman. Those fake practice reps are actively harmful. Worst of all your users.will use your app as an excuse to avoid doing actually useful practice. You are an unoriginal, self shilling, shitty developer and should delete your app.
/r/seduction17/04/26 06:11 PM
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Club promoter or security at a bar/club. Model photographer. Male dancer in a co ed dance team. Personal trainer.
/r/seduction17/04/26 06:08 PM
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You feel great because you are severely undersocialized and desperate for validation. You find in person interactions difficult because those are real social dynamics. Not the dopamine spiking attention game of chatting with an anonymous stranger on reddit
/r/seduction17/04/26 06:05 PM
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You spent 3 months building a shitty chatbot that will hurt its user's social abilities more than it helps and are advertising it to people too scared to do the real in person practice they need to get better.
/r/seduction17/04/26 06:02 PM
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You are infatuated with an anonymous person on the internet who may not even be a woman. Touch grass. Talk tk women in person.
/r/seduction17/04/26 05:55 PM
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Lookup how to pass shit tests
/r/seduction12/04/26 11:50 PM
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You over react to minor/non-existent slights bc you're stunted socially and romantically/sexually. You give off vibes of neediness while also having undeserved entitlement. These vibes are repulsive to women who interact with you for any extended period of time. You need to reframe your entire mentality around social interaction to fix your vibes. Then you have to learn to not overreact to rejection.
/r/seduction12/04/26 07:27 PM
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You should not wait around for her to give you her number. She could change her mind and then you just wasted your time and it makes you look desperate for her number. But she may not be allowed to give our her number to customers or she doesnt want her colleagues/boss to know her business. You can solve this issue for her by saying something like "I dont want to get you in trouble taking your number. Just say it out loud and ill write it down and text you".
/r/seduction10/04/26 05:34 AM
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Hot women have thousands of likes on tinder. You are not competing against thousands of guys when you approach in person. Once you reach the hook point she is invested in the conversation happening with you in front of her. the fact that your real life approach conveys attractive qualities like charisma, risk taking, humour, personality, etc that your tinder profile does not. Men look better in person than in photos often as well.
/r/seduction08/04/26 03:58 AM
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On the apps you competing with hundreds of people for her attention. In person you are not. On the apps all she has is your photos and your profile. If your profile and photos are bad you are being filtered out. If your text game is bad youre not getting her attention. In person you have the ability to hold a girls attention. Men often look better in person than in photos even good photos. You have the ability to demonstrate your charisma. But if you dont know how to talk to women IRL you need t…
/r/seduction07/04/26 10:38 PM
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You need to have a prolonged conversation before going for the number in order to solidify the number. If you just ask for numbers right away the numbers you get are extremely likely to flake/not respond. The point of asking for the number is to sort out logistics after you soft close a date. "We should grab a drink sometime" "Sure that sounds fun" "Give me your number and I'll text you" You should just ask her to get a drink or a coffee.
/r/seduction07/04/26 08:45 PM
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idk what your algorithm is doing but flirting should not be overly complementary. Try this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZVG-wBNZeu8
/r/seduction07/04/26 05:49 PM
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Lookup flirting guide in searchbar or youtube. Consume content. Take notes. Go practice. Reflect on your practice attempt. Repeat practice.
/r/seduction07/04/26 05:18 PM
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Just lookup performance anxiety ED solutions. Surely you aren't the first person on the internet to have this problem
/r/seduction07/04/26 04:36 PM
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Dont worry about appearing too confident. Get structured practice in at high volume. Structured means youre focused on improving a few parts of your game during each approach. Reflecting on what you did well and what you can improve. Pushing yourself and challenging yourself every approach. Treating failure as an opportunity to move.
/r/seduction07/04/26 04:35 AM
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Obv depends on the setup. Basement you can access through a side door is a lot better than bedroom where you have to pass your parents every time to get there.
/r/seduction06/04/26 09:09 PM
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Frankly it doesn't matter why she likes the attention. Move on.
/r/seduction06/04/26 08:54 PM
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What do you mean good old fashioned practice isn't working? Nothing about this post indicates that you've practiced at all. You have poor social skills so go lookup a guide on how to build better social skills and go out and practice. Once you have a baseline of social skills you can start learning to flirt.
/r/seduction06/04/26 08:52 PM
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People like attention. You are giving her little dopamine spikes by reaching out to her. Move on.
/r/seduction06/04/26 08:48 PM
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You might have a particular look that is a bit polarizing. Possible your dating app profile is too polarizing accidentay. Your energy/aura doesnt match your look in person. Your game is probably not good. When you are attractive/have a particular look but your verbal/physical behaviour doesnt align with your look, this feels incongruent to women. Stop relying on women to approach you. You miss out on so many opportunities if you only wait for women to approach you.
/r/seduction05/04/26 03:50 PM
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You can get women to ask for your number if you have an extended conversation where you flirt a lot and she's attracted to you. In these cases you've built up enough value and shes just getting impatient waiting for you to number close. You will not get any women chasing you down to give you their numbers with your approach unless you are male model level attractive
/r/seduction04/04/26 11:53 PM
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You live in NYC there are people 20 years older than you dating 20 year olds. Go read some cold approach/dating app/social circle guides and then follow the guides. Practice and get better.
/r/seduction31/03/26 11:29 PM
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STDs are pretty rare. STD rate highly differs between races. You can do your own research to figure out the exact statistics. Furthermore, std risk is highly affected by whether the person uses intravenous drugs. Very few monogamous couples use condoms. Most do not get tested before agreeing to go monogamous
/r/seduction31/03/26 10:48 PM
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You should ask girls out in person over text whenever possible because not being willing to ask in person indicates that you are not willing to take risks and socially inept, both of which are unattractive traits. Asking in person also lets you build up the vibe and flirt before asking, which increases the chances she says yes.
/r/seduction31/03/26 05:06 PM
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I actually typed this out and was like fuck this sounds like ai but was too lazy to change it lol
/r/seduction30/03/26 12:18 AM
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If you treat them like friends they are going to treat you as a friend. Invite them for a drink. Flirt more in the conversation. They should have no doubt that youre asking them on a date even if you dont explicitly say the word date.
/r/seduction29/03/26 10:28 AM
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Sometimes you just have cold streaks by variance. Sometimes your energy is a little off from something else in your life. This is why focusing on the process is better than focusing on pure results. "Cool" is a little generic but can still work. If you have a more specific comment about their outfit/vibe/situation its builds a lot more investment. Going for the hand of God right off every open is a little miscalibrated you can do it if you get a strong positive response to the open but forcing i…
/r/seduction29/03/26 09:42 AM
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You need to increase how much you display intent and flirt. Are the dates you setup from day game obvious dates? "I see you more as a friend" is a common response women give when you did not flirt enough to move the vibe beyond platonic.
/r/seduction29/03/26 09:08 AM
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Move
/r/seduction29/03/26 03:06 AM
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Good for you. Its always cool to see a guy post asking for help, listen to the advice, actually take repeared action, and continue posting for advice and improving. Regarding approach anxiety and escalation, it might be useful to reframe why approaching and escalating are necessary. Approaching is necessary because most girls will not approach you, and the ones that do are usually below your standard. Escalating is necessary because not escalating leads to a flat line of energy, the interaction …
/r/seduction27/03/26 08:07 PM
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You need to not take rejection personally and view it as an opportunity to improve/have a new experience. The consequences of rejection are so minor. Your ego gets a bit bruised which hurts but you learn to not be affected by it. The upside is a fun interaction with a girl that might lead to a date, a hookup, fwb, gf, or your wife.
/r/seduction26/03/26 08:39 PM
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Step one is to be able to express yourself without asking chat gpt to make dogshit Spiderman analogy posts
/r/seduction25/03/26 03:38 PM
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Did you sleep with the other 5? Giving women orgasms is going to create pair bonding chemicals for her. Otherwise just be non needy.
/r/seduction25/03/26 03:14 PM
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This is not a field report. A field report is a detailed report on how one or more approaches went.
/r/seduction25/03/26 01:50 PM
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You dont need choosing signals or IOIs to approach. Yes the sets that you do get IOIs or choosing signals are easier but that doesnt stop mean you shouldnt do the other approaches.
/r/seduction24/03/26 04:59 AM
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Confused on why you are unable to do something at a house party or gathering? Those are ideal situations to do something. Having a good insta profile and posting stories that are status displaying without bragging can help you hold interest but you still want to act quickly bc how many other things in her life could pull interest away over time.
/r/seduction24/03/26 04:22 AM
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Go lookup approach anxiety guides. Your problem is not unique, its the most common problem. The solutions are not unique either and have been posted thousands of times. If you dont have any friends you probably have poor social skills. Improve your social skills. Meet women through social hobbies where approaches are less difficult/intimidating than cold approach. Making friends also gives you access to social events like parties where you can meet women. You can get a fake ID to go to bars/club…
/r/seduction24/03/26 02:16 AM
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HIV is not a thing straight men have to worry about
/r/seduction23/03/26 11:09 PM
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Absolutely do not do your plan. If you've already caught her eye you just need to smoothly move things along while showing her that youre not some serial killer. On the plus side older women tend to be more likely to take the lead in moving things along if youre younger and they already like you. If shes hard-core staring at you, you can walk up and say "I noticed you looking so i came to give you a closer view." If its not hard core staring, just walk up and say "Hey i see you here all the time…
/r/seduction23/03/26 03:30 AM
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Just lookup day game guides
/r/seduction22/03/26 01:31 PM
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Your problem isn't your age or your inexperience. Your problem is you refuse to take agency of your situation and make actionable steps to improve. You post the same post every few weeks whining instead of listening to advice, coming up with a plan to gradually improve, and then having the self discipline to execute the plan.
/r/seduction15/03/26 03:17 AM
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They all have mostly the same info. Pick one with a decent amount of views. Have some agency in your life.
/r/seduction14/03/26 03:55 AM
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Kino escalation is gradually increasing physical touch during an interaction.
/r/seduction13/03/26 09:03 PM
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Kino escalation and humour are both flirting.
/r/seduction13/03/26 09:03 PM
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Just use the searchbar/youtube.
/r/seduction13/03/26 09:02 PM
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God there's some terrible advice in this thread. Get over being afraid to express your sexuality as a man. Make no apologies for being interested in women. You need to learn how to flirt with women. Lookup flirting guides. When you're flirting with a women to express interest and she's flirting back or giving indicators of interest, you need to escalate. Look up escalation guides.
/r/seduction13/03/26 08:13 PM
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Retarded advice. Guy goes his entire life without success and you tell him to just keep doing what hes doing
/r/seduction13/03/26 08:02 PM
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Don't wait 2 days to call. Women have too many attention sinks nowadays. Have to carry the momentum. If you're already at a park bench/second location, try for an insta-date. Don't default to a number. Don't expect to setup a same day date as your text without checking for availability first.
/r/seduction13/03/26 06:46 PM
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Copied from another comment. The way to get over your fear is to do incrementally more difficult approaches. Practicing each difficulty until youre comfortable and confident and then increasing the difficulty. Directions (pretend youre a tourist) Next level: Recommendations for restaurants, bars, clubs, activities, cool attractions (again pretend you're a tourist) Next level: compliments. Don't limit yourself to women/women you find attractive. Non physical compliments for women. For men it does…
/r/seduction13/03/26 06:36 AM
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Directions (pretend youre a tourist) Next level: Recommendations for restaurants, bars, clubs, activities, cool attractions (again pretend you're a tourist) Next level: compliments. Don't limit yourself to women/women you find attractive. Non physical compliments for women. For men it doesn't matter. Opinion opener: just ask for their opinion on an interesting but not political topic. Next level: transition to actual cold approach with intention. Observational opener/compliment opener/opinion op…
/r/seduction13/03/26 02:32 AM
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The answer is to move to a bigger city. If youre too nervous to go to a coffee shop bc you cant even talk to a female barista then you need serious practice reps socializing with women. The fastest way to get better at this is to intentionally practice cold approach. If you're in a small town and your social skills are lacking enough where you could burn the few social groups in your town, you just dont have the consequence free practice opportunities to get better.
/r/seduction13/03/26 02:27 AM
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Ok so push yourself out of your comfort zone, go do a bunch of things you've never done before, and you'll be less boring.
/r/seduction12/03/26 08:08 PM
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The way to not be boring is to have unique and interesting life experiences that shape you into a unique and interesting person. If all you do is work and go to the gym and you aren't passionate about your work/exercise, then you're just going to be a boring person.
/r/seduction12/03/26 06:57 PM
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You should just flirt. If she flirts back, she's interested.
/r/seduction12/03/26 04:04 AM
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There are girls who would agree to go to a drinks date with you that, if your game is good, you can hookup after the date. A smaller % of those girls will go on house dates. If you only do house dates, you miss out on the opportunity to hookup with the other girls. Similarly there are girls who will hookup with you if you approach them and run good solid game on them. But a large % of those girls will screen you out open with "I want to take you home tonight". Generally the girls who respond pos…
/r/seduction12/03/26 02:00 AM
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You can go up to girls and be like you look good I want to bring you home want to leave And you'll still pull girls home. Yes you can but you'll instantly flame out of a bunch of approaches that you could have done well with by not being so upfront. More non sense. This can and does work for people of all types. Again anyone can schedule house dates but for most men, the % of girls they will instantly drop is too high when they could've just done a drinks date.
/r/seduction11/03/26 10:28 PM
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Lookup night game guide. Follow guide. Don't expect instant success
/r/seduction11/03/26 10:22 PM
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One more way to bring it up i like is a cold read (sometimes with a contrast in how she changed). Something like "there's something about you that makes me think youre the type of person who was raised super strict so now you feel like you need to be free and adventurous" "I bet you were the kid who always got into trouble in high school" "What happened to the adventure loving kid that turned you into someone who stares at spreadsheets all day? Is it still in there somewhere?" The one you want t…
/r/seduction11/03/26 07:58 AM
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You lost the momentum when you left. The other guys stepped in. Ofc she's going to find the people she's talking to most recently more interesting because she isn't heavily invested in you yet. When you didnt reignite the interest by re-entering the group and being unfazed & high value, she now directly contrasts you as lower value vs the other guys. Hence the unfollow.
/r/seduction11/03/26 06:21 AM
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Sexual tension is supposed to be implicit not explicit. Sexual tension is about "Will we/wont we fuck". Being explicit releases sexual tension. Inviting a girl on a date at your place implicitly puts sex on the table, because two people who like each other and have privacy often fuck. If a girl accepts the date at your she has already implicitly agreed sex is on the table. It doesnt mean its a done deal; you still have to be chill, be high value, build comfort, and escalate properly. Its not pre…
/r/seduction11/03/26 06:15 AM
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Have your own stories about those things. Find natural ways to bring up those stories. You want to offer her the opportunity to branch off your stories to tell stories of her own. While telling the stories, you can be like "sometimes I feel like most people are just too afraid to step out of their comfort zone." Or "I feel like people are missing out of so many cool opportunities if they just stay home and watch Netflix". Telling stories is good because you can show off your fun, interesting lif…
/r/seduction11/03/26 06:01 AM
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Work your way up. Common starting point is asking for directions. You can even start with men or women you dont find attractive. Then once youre super comfortable doing that you can progress to asking for a recommendation like youre a tourist looking for something to do or a restaurant/bar. Then progress to giving random compliments. Then progress to opinion openers. Work your way up to how you actually want to open whether its direct/semi direct/indirect. During the process of working your way …
/r/seduction11/03/26 02:21 AM
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Being clear with your intent is terrible advice. Not because you should lie and state you want a relationship because that is clearly immoral. The reason why its bad is because explicitly stating you are looking for hookups makes girls feel judged/shamed for agreeing to the hookup. If youre very attractive you can just invite girls to a date at your place. Wine, cooking, smoking, etc. Otherwise just invite them to drinks and keep the frame casual. Keep the conversation focused on qualifying the …
/r/seduction11/03/26 12:53 AM
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If youre going to biohack you should do extensive research on which compounds actually affect things and the dosages +side effects of them. You should not take a marked up bag of random ingredients in an unknown ratio. Most of the compounds that have large effect sizes are illegal to market in this way for human consumption so its likely the product is low effect/placebo
/r/seduction10/03/26 06:37 PM
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Disagree. Most beginners dont escalate enough at all. Going for a kiss/makeout is at the very least, clear escalation. Managing tension is more of an intermediate skill
/r/seduction10/03/26 06:32 PM
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Just escalate if she's into you. Don't overthink. If the approach is going well, just progress the approach
/r/seduction10/03/26 03:24 AM
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Yes moving to a big city is one of the best things you can do to improve your dating life, with the caveat that it is better to live in the nightlife or trendy district of a medium city than on the edges of a big city. Depends on your finances ofc.
/r/seduction09/03/26 12:03 AM
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No its not too late. You dont need a man whore phase if you want to find a wife. However, abundance and optionality is valuable in terms of generating enough leads where you find someone youre compatible and happy with, and increasing the overall quality of your leads. Late 20s women can be found through your social circle, at "classier" night life venues like cocktail lounges/wine bars etc, the gym, farmers markets, hobbies, grocery stores, parks, rec sports leagues.
/r/seduction08/03/26 11:36 PM
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You post the same thing every few weeks. Have you tried taking any of the advice from previous posts?
/r/seduction08/03/26 07:00 PM
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The single women in your village are going to be on the dating apps bc they don't have other options. Local watering hole and dating apps are your best shot
/r/seduction08/03/26 07:08 AM
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Listen up. Confidence is earned by achieving things. Confidence manifests itself in sub conscious behaviour. Other people will innately understand this behaviour as evidence of competence. Back when "game" was first being discussed on the internet, when a bunch of random people would gather on anonymous forums to talk about how to succeed with women, theory was developed by copying the behaviour of people who were naturally good with women. A bunch of guys who were bad with women copied the beha…
/r/seduction08/03/26 04:43 AM
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Yes youre largely cooked. Your only options are likely going to the local bar every weekend and dating apps.
/r/seduction07/03/26 09:48 PM
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Just lookup a night game guide(s). You likely aren't building enough comfort or not building enough value. Or not escalating smoothly. Or not dealing with logistics properly. Or a combination. Stop caring about why someone rejects you and just focus on running your own game well. If you run good game and get rejected, we'll thats just life.
/r/seduction07/03/26 01:59 AM
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You may be going too direct. "Im looking for someone to date" as an opening line is problematic. "I'm looking" implies scarcity. "Someone" implies you dont have standards, that anyone will do, which again implies scarcity. "To date" forces her to make an instant judgement call on whether she'd date you based on your appearance without knowing anything else about you. Its important to show interest without giving all your power away. This is also why being overly complimentary makes her feel like…
/r/seduction03/03/26 06:39 AM
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Women are less risk adverse than men due to lower testosterone. They are more sensitive to actions that lower or raise their social status. There are also some animal species where females compete for male attention sexually. Those species are usually species where sexual dimorphism is reversed and/or the male takes a larger childrearing role.
/r/seduction03/03/26 12:24 AM
2

You're a digital pen pal. Match -> flirt & build some comfort -> make plans for a date. Look up some text game guides or online dating guides.
/r/seduction28/02/26 05:11 PM
1

No shit you'll face more rejection cold approaching than warm approaching but getting rejected in non social cirlce game has no consequences except your ego. Stop being so scared and just make a move. No one cares about your rejection rate. If your rejection rate is super low youre missing out on a ton of opportunities.
/r/seduction28/02/26 12:11 AM
1

What are you talking about? Its like day one of pickup when you learn not to be overly complimentary. Most guys dont have game. When you have game you are already different from the average guy approaching.
/r/seduction27/02/26 10:26 PM
1

Lookup text game guides
/r/seduction26/02/26 09:59 PM
70

It's just the results of intrasexual competition.
/r/seduction26/02/26 09:58 PM
19

Approaching over instagram first is a bitch move and unlikely to work unless you have a very, very good profile. Even then you have to explain how you found her instagram without talking to her. Approach her in person.
/r/seduction26/02/26 05:28 PM
5

Again youre focused on the outcome. You need to be outcome independent. Focus on practicing specific aspects of approaching and take satisfaction in getting better.
/r/seduction26/02/26 04:52 AM
7

You go to places where a lot of women frequent and then you approach them there. Lookup best day game spots and best night game spots.
/r/seduction26/02/26 04:50 AM
60

Your volume is way too low. Focus on improving your process not on results to help your morale.
/r/seduction25/02/26 11:19 PM
6

You should've just called her out on it in a playful way, and then you can take the conversation in a direction you want to go.
/r/seduction25/02/26 06:09 PM
1

Searchbar. "How to flirt" "how to escalte" "flirting guide" "escalation guide". Repeat search on youtube
/r/seduction21/02/26 08:18 PM
1

Look up escalation guides
/r/seduction21/02/26 01:05 PM
2

Lookup flirting guides and escalation guides
/r/seduction21/02/26 01:03 PM
1

No. Loss aversion is more powerful of a motivating factor.
/r/seduction21/02/26 12:59 PM
1

If you want your number/instagram closes to be solid and not flaky, you have to spend longer in the interaction and flirt more.
/r/seduction20/02/26 10:19 PM
1

Why didn't you flirt with her in person?
/r/seduction20/02/26 10:09 PM
1

They're not mutually exclusive. Put in the work and stop asking to be spoonfed.
/r/seduction20/02/26 08:25 PM
1

Practice approaching progressively more difficult approaches to desensitize yourself. Give your friend X amount of money at the start of the night and tell him to give one portion of it back every time you do an approach. 3 second rule where you go approach within the first 3 seconds without giving yourself time to psych yourself out. There are thousands of approach anxiety guides. Go look them up.
/r/seduction20/02/26 08:01 PM
2

You tell stories that hint at your wealth/lifestyle without bragging about it. It has to be subtle because the second it sounds tryhard, it's massively unattractive
/r/seduction18/02/26 06:52 PM
5

You will most certainly not get laid every time if you don't escalate at all or flirt. This girl wanted to have sex and you spent enough time together where she was comfortable enough to have sex with you. You should not expect future dates to go like this. The vast majority will not. Your takeaways should be that having a date with multiple locations builds comfort faster. And that you need to slow down and do foreplay so you perform better next time.
/r/seduction17/02/26 10:15 PM
1

Being a doomer, low agency loser is a bigger mental disability in dating.
/r/seduction17/02/26 04:38 AM
1

Getting in shape will benefit you but fixing your game will just help you more. You likely aren't building enough comfort, tension or both, and you likely aren't solving logistical issues. Lookup night game guides.
/r/seduction17/02/26 01:45 AM
1

Break down your process and focus on parts of your process instead of results. Take a minute to reflect on what went well and what went poorly after each approach.
/r/seduction16/02/26 05:31 AM
5

It's one of the best nights to go out when valentines lands on a weekend. Every girl not with a guy is single and looking. Easy icebreakers too
/r/seduction14/02/26 09:11 PM
1

It is your job to hook the girl on the open. You have to carry the conversation until she's invested. Here's your problem. You start the conversation with some boring platonic shit. But she can tell youre not there to talk about whatever non platonic topic from your body language, the fact that youre talking to her at all, other non verbal cues. So when you dont make the conversation non platonic, she feels this massive incongruency between your actions and your underlying intent that girls find…
/r/seduction14/02/26 08:07 AM
1

This is probably your issue. There are different levels of flirting, and the lowest level is plausibly deniable as even being flirting. If you aren't flirting, then youre likely having boring platonic conversations. And when you ask the girl out its a huge sudden shift that she's not ready for. You need to learn how to flirt and how to be a better conversationist. The idea that you have to wait for indicators of interest to flirt is wrong. Flirt with anyone you're interested in, and then increas…
/r/seduction13/02/26 11:58 PM
11

You're 27. Get over yourself that youre too old.
/r/seduction13/02/26 09:09 PM
6

You're not very self reflective. Why are the interactions not going anywhere? You've "tried everything" but dont actually mention what you've tried and how it goes for you.
/r/seduction13/02/26 08:09 PM
3

If you have to ask, you aren't calibrated enough to not make a mistake and potentially make things awkward. The answer would be to very gradually increase the level of flirting with her.
/r/seduction13/02/26 12:23 PM
1

If you conversation is going well you need to transition to planning a date. The purpose of texting is to move things along towards a date
/r/seduction13/02/26 08:33 AM
2

Optimize your dating app profile and photos. Learn cold approach, both day game and night game. Learn social circle game.
/r/seduction13/02/26 04:34 AM
5

Imagine telling a 20 year old kid who hasn't even cold approached before to become a passport bro.
/r/seduction13/02/26 04:33 AM
1

1/6 hookup/number ratio isn't bad. Increase your conversion rate from numbers by having better game during the approach. Stay longer in the interaction. Soft close a date before going for the number. Texting is mostly to set up the logistics for the date.
/r/seduction12/02/26 07:11 PM
1

Just treat it like any other date. Flirt, connect, escalate
/r/seduction12/02/26 02:00 PM
11

It's not a situationship if you just went on a few dates and made out lol.
/r/seduction11/02/26 07:41 PM
11

If you want a social life as a participant of multiple social circles: Find ways you can add value to people's lives. People want to be friends with people who make their lives better/more interesting. Identify your strengths in making people's lives better and gratuitously apply these to as many people you encounter socially as you can, even if you aren't friends yet. Say yes to every invite you dont have a conflicting commitment to. Go to places where you have a shared interest with the people…
/r/seduction11/02/26 02:37 AM
2

Your problem is that you keep looking for excuses instead of solutions. Your entire post is excuses. Looks: go to the gym, build muscle, get lean. Dress well. Get a good haircut. Fix your skin if you have skin issues. Fix your posture. Apps: optimize your profile, take better photos, learn how to message. Clubs: Go to a club. Look at how many guys are actually approaching girls. Most of them are just standing around with their drink. You don't have to be the most attractive guy. You have to be a…
/r/seduction10/02/26 09:43 PM
8

At 26 you basically have 0 age gap issues with women at bars/clubs except for a few mid-late 30s women who might think you're too young.
/r/seduction10/02/26 01:12 AM
2

Optimize your profile to get more likes. Learn how to flirt so you can convert the dates you get. Stop being demotivated by rejection. Everyone gets rejected. Focus on improving your game.
/r/seduction09/02/26 09:15 PM
2

There are multiple steps of escalating before "do you want to date/fuck" Flirt with her. If she responds positively escalate the flirting.
/r/seduction07/02/26 06:22 PM
3

Go with a friend/wingman. Or stop being a baby and just learn to find ways to make talking to people enjoyable. Self amuse, be genuinely curious. If you go to a venue and think none of these people could possibly be interesting to talk to except the hot women, you're going to shitty venues and/or you have some false sense of superiority. If you can't happily talk to other people you're going to be so much worse in 2 sets and group sets. Talking to other people also warms you up socially.
/r/seduction04/02/26 12:18 AM
1

Time consuming in the sense that it literally consumes time sure. Socializing daily is extremely healthy for you, not to mention the non health benefits of having a robust social life.
/r/seduction04/02/26 12:13 AM
9

Learn how to message properly on dating apps/optimize your profile to get more matches. Learn day game Go to hobbies and activities that have women and approach them there
/r/seduction03/02/26 07:10 AM
1

She already declined. Move on. There are other girls.
/r/seduction03/02/26 12:39 AM
4

Cold approach is the fastest way to practice learning game, translates well to all other types of game, gives you the ability to start conversations with strangers anywhere, and improves your life in other ways (confidence, social skills, sales, psychological game theory). Consistent results come from consistent progress. If you are focused on results, you are not optimally improving. If you are not optimally improving, you need a lot of approaches to get results with the average beginner's abil…
/r/seduction02/02/26 07:04 PM
2

You are not flirting and/or showing romantic/sexual intent after approaching. The frame of the interaction is around whatever platonic reason you came up with to talk to her.
/r/seduction02/02/26 06:52 PM
3

Sorry, I mean if you open indirectly, you should still rapidly show intent. 10-15 min is far too long.
/r/seduction02/02/26 06:50 PM
2

You should show intent far faster than 10-15 minutes if opening direct. I would say within the first 1-2 minutes.
/r/seduction02/02/26 06:44 PM
1

Get in shape, fix your grooming, wear fashionable clothes. Optimize your dating profile and messaging. Look up guides on how to do this. Socialize with women outside your friend circle when you go to social gatherings. Or go to social events like bars by yourself and approach women. Find hobby groups in your small town that women also attend and meet women there. Learn to cold approach. If you do all this and still dont have enough access to women, youre just going to have to move to a bigger ci…
/r/seduction02/02/26 04:31 AM
1

Practicing video chats will make you more comfortable video chatting with strangers. It will not make you more comfortable talking to strangers in person. The way to get better at talking to strangers in person is to practice talking to strangers in person. Start low stakes and gradually increase the difficulty
/r/seduction01/02/26 11:04 PM
54

Women like assertiveness. They dont like pushovers. You can be assertive without being cruel. You can be dominant while still being respectful. No downsides except your soul.
/r/seduction31/01/26 11:08 AM
1

You could approach 4 women in half an hour
/r/seduction31/01/26 03:41 AM
4

Don't get fixated on one girl for a year and a half. Don't flirt online/over texts/over work software when you can flirt in person. It signals you're a pussy. Suggestion is to move on. You can flirt with her if you run into her, but continuing to plot out a way to seduce her is just going to re-enforce why she lost any interest she had in the first place.
/r/seduction30/01/26 06:39 PM
2

How do you know a girl isn't into you? What if she didnt see you? What if she doesnt smile at strangers? What if she could be into you but doesn't know anything about you because you are a complete stranger? It'd be more honest to say you want to minimize your chances of being rejected. With the right mindset, rejections dont bother you. They can make you improve faster. You spent 6 hours doing 12 approaches. You could easily do more than double if you didnt wait around for IOIs It's not enough …
/r/seduction30/01/26 04:35 PM
6

Your approach is bland. Asking what a girl is studying is bad, boring conversation. You need to create a narrative about why you're interested in her and why she should be interested in you. And why you should keep spending time together. You ask for a number to sort out the logistics. If you do this properly, often the girl will be the one offering you her number/socials without you asking. Think about how much less flaky a number is if you do this. Why are you only approaching girls that give …
/r/seduction30/01/26 02:10 AM
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They're not uploading the boring interactions/rejections. Also getting numbers doesn't really matter. Getting solid interactions that lead to dates matters. Most of the viral tiktok clips aren't interactions that will actually lead to a solid number that doesn't flake. You need longer interactions to solidify numbers
/r/seduction30/01/26 02:01 AM
6

Just flirt with her. If shes interested she'll flirt back
/r/seduction29/01/26 11:20 PM
13

Have you tried verbally expressing your boundaries and inexperience? "I dont have much experience dating. I like you but I need you to know that Im not interested in casual flings."
/r/seduction29/01/26 08:43 AM
1

Have you tried talking with her in person, flirting, and then asking her out?
/r/seduction29/01/26 07:05 AM
19

What youre describing is called polarization. Some girls who are very into you and into forwardness will progress the interaction rapidly. Some girls will not appreciate the forwardness and you wont get dates with them. Some of the girls who drop off would probably have hooked up with you if you had good game on the date. Polarization is good in game in some cases, but imo this is not one of them. You simply filter out too many potential leads. If you are crass about it, you can get reported and…
/r/seduction29/01/26 02:43 AM
2

Your mindset is wrong. Making social and sexual connections is normal and healthy. You can express interest and flirt with women without sexually harassing them. You have to put yourself in situations where you can meet women, and express your interest in them. Look up guides on how to approach and flirt, and structure your life in a way where you meet lots of women, through a combination of hobbies, cold approach, work, school, online dating, social circle, bars/clubs/parties, etc.
/r/seduction28/01/26 10:28 PM
14

Why dont you ask him? Sounds like he's charismatic, shoots his shot extremely frequently, without fear of rejection, and likely has some preselection.
/r/seduction27/01/26 10:56 PM
0

There are thousands of guides/posts on this topic. Google it/look on youtube/use the searchbar.
/r/seduction27/01/26 09:20 PM
1

Kino escalation, touching her hands, forearm, shoulder, etc. Moving the hair out of her face. Verbal escalation with heavier flirting/teasing.
/r/seduction27/01/26 05:12 PM
19

You practice progressively more difficult approaches until you get better.
/r/seduction27/01/26 01:09 AM
2

Flirt more. Then close. She's not going to make small talk with you for 10 minutes.
/r/seduction26/01/26 11:49 PM
8

It's your job to carry the conversation until you reach the hook point. If you open indirect, you need to move the conversation topic to being about her. Make an observation about her, do a cold read. If you want to transition more directly, make a non-physical attribute compliment. Then do some basic get to know you conversation without making it feel like a job interview. Insert some flirting and teasing. Then go for the close, either a number close or an instant date. Do not go straight for t…
/r/seduction26/01/26 10:32 PM
1

You really should look into how SSRI's work more thoroughly. They also have a ton of side effects. Ok addressing the date you posted in the edit: "you’ll be back in my room” is at best too serious, and at worst, slightly threatening. Why try and stop her from grabbing her stuff? If your game is good you should be able to transition back upstairs. Have a non-sexual reason to go back up that is fun and a way to continue the night. "I'm not planning on sleeping with you tonight". Don't add "plan" i…
/r/seduction26/01/26 09:07 PM
2

Jesus don't do SSRI's to try and fix your bad first dates. Where are you sourcing your first dates? What does your typical first date plan look like? What is your go-to first date outfit? Give an example of how a date usually goes. What types of things do you say?
/r/seduction26/01/26 07:42 PM
7

A lot of venues for a first date. Especially one of them being dinner. Dinner + ice cream is a risk of making the girl feel bloated/unsexy. It sounds like you skipped some physical escalation steps before going for the massage and going for the kiss. Probably could have escalated more verbally before going for the kiss too. I dont like verbalizing the kiss unless its clear the girl is extremely shy but im not sure verbalizing would have saved you. Imo most likely mistake was skipping intermediar…
/r/seduction26/01/26 05:30 PM
5

You know dates are supposed to be fun right? You took a hinge first date and turned it into a logical and serious discussion about long term relationship values. Stop taking things so literally and be more playful and this girl would have seen you again.
/r/seduction24/01/26 09:08 PM
2

What are you getting angry at?
/r/seduction23/01/26 07:58 PM
7

You should see a mental health professional about being this worried about herpes. Somewhere between 50-66% if all adults worldwide have herpes. For a sizable group of people it stays dormant or they get rare outbreaks. Outbreaks can be last just 4-8 days with antivirals. This is an unreasonable screening question and will severely limit your dating pool. If you filter out low class women and drug users your chances of getting std's are very low in general, and virtually nil if you additionally …
/r/seduction21/01/26 05:57 AM
0

Approaching can be broken down into multiple steps/phases, with some of the steps/phases overlapping and not necessarily in the same order. Open (direct, indirect, somewhere inbetween) Achieving the hook point: saying or doing enough where the girl is invested in continuing the conversation Then there's the middle part of the approach: Displaying intent/flirting/teasing. Building comfort and familiarity. Solving any shit tests thrown at you. Escalating smoothly and appropriately. Screening and s…
/r/seduction21/01/26 12:41 AM
1

You never escalated the flirting or asked her out.
/r/seduction19/01/26 11:52 PM
12

Just flirt with her. If she flirts back, escalate. Worry about sorting out the the friends with benefits situation after you've already hooked up. You sound wildly uncalibrated telling her your cleavage turns you on and asking for fwb.
/r/seduction19/01/26 08:06 PM
1

You should definitely not follow up your open with "Who are you here with?" However, it is useful to ask in a more playful/casual way a little bit further into the interaction. "Who dragged you out tonight?" is a much better way to ask this.
/r/seduction19/01/26 08:03 PM
1

Escalate gradually until you sense indications of discomfort, then pull back. Escalating gradually means you'll run into less resistance than if you escalate suddenly, and if you pull back at the first sign of discomfort, you'll rarely blow the approach right there. Spend some more time, get the vibe going again, and then escalate again.
/r/seduction19/01/26 07:22 PM
12

Its a numbers game like sales also in the sense that as your ability improves your response rate increases.
/r/seduction18/01/26 08:19 PM
1

Don't ask for the number right away, even if you get a good first impression. Spend some time in the interaction getting to know her and continue to flirt. Then ask for the number.
/r/seduction18/01/26 08:17 PM
63

The current era is dominated by situationships. Most younger guys dont approach, and a lot are black pilled. If you put in the work to be better than them, you can easily stand out. Women aren't going to stop liking sex
/r/seduction17/01/26 09:39 PM
1

Maybe she was interested and then lost interest because of something out of your control. Ex got back into contact, found someone she likes better.
/r/seduction17/01/26 09:36 PM
1

Would recommend watching infield/guides over fan fiction. Problems with using fan fiction to learn flirting: Real people dont talk like that If your personality/appearance differ from the line youre stealing you get exposed as a phony and its really unattractive. Doesnt teach you delivery details: tonality, volume, pace, inflections. Reading regular fiction can improve your flirting, because it improves your verbal wit, and having a larger vocabulary lets you get more creative flirting verbally.…
/r/seduction17/01/26 12:56 AM
21

You usually need money to get into the social events these types of girls will be at.
/r/seduction14/01/26 03:25 PM
1

Being hot helps. Looking like youre trying hard to show off that youre hot is unattractive. Candid photos showing off your physique are best.
/r/seduction14/01/26 04:48 AM
8

You should move on
/r/seduction13/01/26 03:24 PM
1

Action plan: Look up a beginner day game guide on youtube/google/search bar and follow it
/r/seduction10/01/26 10:35 PM
1

As a beginner you should just focus on getting better every approach. Being focused on lays is going to lead to burnout.
/r/seduction09/01/26 09:55 PM
46

Not a woman but not making a move indicates a lack of confidence and insecurity, both of which are turnoffs. It can also result in the woman feeling unattractive.
/r/seduction09/01/26 04:42 PM
3

I disagree. Men being less likely to compete for a woman who is already next to another men is behaviour resulting from the threat of violence. It's not because of "common sense". It's specifically because male intrasexual competition includes the threat and execution of violence. Preselection makes men more attractive to women but preselection has neutral or even negative effects on making women more attractive to men. These are not traits that belong to all human beings. Men and women behave d…
/r/seduction08/01/26 05:58 PM
7

Intrasexual competition refers to behaviour within one sex in competition for the opposite sex. You said reverse the roles. That doesn't make any sense because male behaviour and female behaviour are different. Analyzing how men would behave in a reversed role situation is not applicable to how women would behave.
/r/seduction08/01/26 04:11 PM
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Reversing the roles make no sense because male and female intrasexual competition is different.
/r/seduction08/01/26 02:31 PM
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Texting is for logistics. This goes for women too. Chemistry and tension are built in person. Confirm the time and place and show up on time.
/r/seduction08/01/26 02:16 AM
2

In terms of relationships, women look for men who have made it or are on the path to making it. Plus your situation is not that uncommon. In terms of hookups, your logistics will be a surmountable obstacle but as long as you're secure about it and know how to navigate the issue you'll be fine. Don't hold back on dating unless you're on the brink of a physical/financial/mental crisis. There will always be a "better" time to start.
/r/seduction07/01/26 08:54 PM
4

Look up IOIs indicators of interest
/r/seduction07/01/26 04:58 AM
0

There are thousands of guides on how to flirt. Try watching/reading them. You start subtle and gradually escalate to avoid making people overly uncomfortable. As long as you know how to take a hint and leave someone alone after they show disinterest in your flirting, youre fine.
/r/seduction07/01/26 04:57 AM
6

Numbers will sometimes flake. It's out of your control. Even if you had a great night. Things you can do to make numbers less flaky: stronger emotional connection, set up a date before you get her number and leave.
/r/seduction06/01/26 09:27 PM
1

You won't get better unless you practice
/r/seduction06/01/26 05:36 PM
1

Do women have no agency? If a woman doesn't want to have sex with a man in a fwb arrangement she can clarify the terms she would agree to sex to beforehand.
/r/seduction05/01/26 09:11 PM
4

In the vast majority of cases, explicitly stating that youre looking for a fwb before establishing any sort of relationship is is going to go poorly. By stating it explicitly beforehand you're going to trigger a lot of girl's anti slut defense. You want to present yourself during the first date in a casual, fun, laid-back frame. After you sleep with the girl the first time. You need to maintain this fun casual frame going forward. That means establishing that future meetups are casual and not re…
/r/seduction05/01/26 05:53 AM
2

I would also say that recording your dates changes your state of mind, possibly causing you to overthink and behave in inauthentic and unattractive ways. I will give you honest feedback on whether or not you are catfishing if you send me a dating profile photo and then one of you dressed up in a date night outfit if you want. You haven't mentioned anything about how youre flirting on these dates. I would guess thats a large part of your issues.
/r/seduction04/01/26 11:03 PM
3

In terms of sex, She's probably into hair pulling, choking, spanking. Learn how to pull hair, youre supposed to grab by the roots near the scalp. Light pressure is enough, although some girls like it rougher. Learn how to choke safely. Putting your finger/fingers in her mouth is pretty reliable as a move too She might like degrading dirty talk but if youre inexperienced its going to sound wrong coming out of your mouth.
/r/seduction04/01/26 09:47 PM
1

It's only partly about getting exposure. The real growth comes from being able to analyze what you did well and what you did poorly, and make improvements going forward. You sound like you've watched enough content/read enough guides to know what youre supposed to do when flirting and escalating with a girl.
/r/seduction04/01/26 04:25 PM
1

As a beginner you can see minor results in the gym after two months if you train and eat consistently. You could work on your flirting/approach skills in person.
/r/seduction04/01/26 04:07 PM
84

You should solve your logistics. Either get an apartment, preferably downtown near nightlife or get hotel rooms. If a girl flakes on you multiple times just move on. You're not a priority for them
/r/seduction04/01/26 08:41 AM
1

Or you could just optimize your profile and learn to message and do both. The notion that every girl on dating apps is only there for attention is ridiculous. More likely that your bad messages are not standing out from the overwhelming number of matches so shes going to focus on someone with a good profile and/or good messaging.
/r/seduction04/01/26 04:37 AM
1

https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.1908630116 Heres one study that says 60%. You can ask any AI model to pull up various studies showing how the origin of relationships has shifted
/r/seduction04/01/26 02:29 AM
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Like 40+% of couples meet online now. The faster you learn how to message properly, the faster you can convert to dates. "I dont have the free time to learn the skills that will increase the odds of finding my life partner/someone to have kids with"
/r/seduction04/01/26 02:09 AM
10

Instead of accepting the reality of market conditions and easily learning how to message/open effectively, you're going to keep sending "Hello" like all the other guys with no idea how to message and get the same shitty results. And then you're going to whine about not getting replies online.
/r/seduction03/01/26 11:02 PM
1

Your opener/messaging is bad.
/r/seduction03/01/26 10:25 PM
1

Don't know why youre asking for advice on why your dates went poorly given you have it all figured out.
/r/seduction03/01/26 02:08 AM
1

There is some implication that approaching during night game is non platonic, which is why if you dont move past platonic topics after the open, the girl thinks youre inexperienced or dont have the balls to make the interaction non platonic.
/r/seduction03/01/26 02:07 AM
1

You would be surprised. Tonality, eye contact, facial expression, approach angle, body language and more all matter when saying your very first words. From your reply, I'd guess you're likely not doing enough flirting, your small talk is likely boring, and you're likely asking too many questions. You need to establish that the interaction is man-to-woman and not platonic. You need to flirt. Asking questions before she's hooked is not good conversation. When you do ask questions, you want to be a…
/r/seduction02/01/26 10:04 PM
2

It could be that you have a deeply repulsive attitude towards life and women and an inability to take responsibility for your own agency including taking the steps to make sure you don't show up to your dates sweaty.
/r/seduction02/01/26 09:11 PM
1

Nightgame/game in general is broken down into several different phases. Each phase requires different techniques, although some techniques apply to multiple phases. Which phases are you getting stuck on?
/r/seduction02/01/26 07:59 PM
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So don't go on dates while sweaty.
/r/seduction02/01/26 07:41 PM
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One woman left your date a few minutes in so the rest of them will? Have you reflected on why she left a few minutes in?
/r/seduction02/01/26 07:39 PM
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Unless you're catfishing why would you ever assume a girl who has agreed to a date with you wouldn't be attracted to you? Especially one that messaged you first and travelled down to you.
/r/seduction02/01/26 06:45 PM
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Your friend has better game than you and didnt even know you had asked the same girl out. Also you guys are in your 30s, the idea that a random girl who you asked out is off limits is immature. Have you considered trying to improve your own game and fixing what leads to conversion rates from your dates? Maybe even asking him for advice?
/r/seduction02/01/26 04:35 PM
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This is a terrible take. His friend asked out the same girl without knowing that he had already asked her out. His friend has better game and was able to navigate around her objections. Having friends who are better than you makes you better. You learn from them, it raises your status. It better unlocks two sets and group sets. There are enough hot women out there that the benefits of having friends who are good wingmen are significantly better than having "competition". If your friends are goin…
/r/seduction02/01/26 04:32 PM
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Off the top of my head id say like "pulling off the next Louvre heist" as one of the choices would be a good answer.
/r/seduction01/01/26 10:35 PM
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The process is fun. And the process makes you better which makes your future results better. What's not to love?
/r/seduction01/01/26 10:25 PM
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When you end up on a date with a girl, she has picked time out of her schedule to do her hair, pick out an outfit, she's messaged her group chat telling them shes going on the date. She picked you out of the other guys messaging her on the app, via DMs, etc. She wants the date to go well. She was attracted and picked you. One of the oldest pieces of advice is to assume attraction. When she has already agreed to a date there is an implicit agreement of attraction. As for escalating, it is better …
/r/seduction01/01/26 09:00 PM
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Think this opener would be much stronger if you narrowed the options to 2-3, and increased the extremenes/absurdity of the options. You want a more playful tone to emphasize the ridiculousness of those options as a first date. Also better if you phrase it as a statement rather than a question. "Im thinking our first date should be x, y, or z"
/r/seduction01/01/26 08:52 PM
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Gifts for a second date is overkill. You say you want a romantic relationship but didnt make a move to kiss her in 3 dates. You should be trying to kiss a girl during a good first date. If you dont escalate, youre going to end up with platonic feelings. She's displaying signs shes no longer interested. So you should move on.
/r/seduction01/01/26 08:41 PM
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Text game/online dating game is not that complex. All the guides say the same thing. Its all good advice.
/r/seduction01/01/26 12:29 AM
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Take it as an ioi.
/r/seduction30/12/25 03:53 PM
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Have you tried using google/youtube/the searchbar
/r/seduction30/12/25 03:49 PM
2

You should pick a few evenings during the week to also focus on this. Once a week is really limiting even if you spend all day on it.
/r/seduction29/12/25 10:31 PM
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If shes getting distracted by her friends you didnt do a good enough job getting her friends on your side. You need to be teasing and flirting verbally to build tension. Night game same night pulls are all about building so much tension that the girl is overwhelmingly turned on. Making out, especially if you make out too much, releases tension. You want the frame to be youre intrigued/interested in her but need to find out more before you actually like her. That's how you get her to be the one c…
/r/seduction29/12/25 09:27 AM
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You need to polarize and intrigue with dating app openers. Instead of compliments do push pulls. Do cold reads.
/r/seduction29/12/25 09:22 AM
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You're avoiding accepting responsibility for improving your game. That's why you post asking for advice on which city to move to every day. Moving cities is not some kind of magic pill (unless youre talking about passport bro-ing which is just putting yourself in an environment where you have an enormous wealth and status advantage). Accept that your game needs work and put a plan together on how to get better. The differential of how much you can improve your game/looks/status is so much more t…
/r/seduction29/12/25 06:23 AM
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You dont understand what you should be practicing beyond "just talk to girls". You dont have a plan on how to get better. The equivalent is to go to the gym a few times, do random exercises and expect to look like a bodybuilder. Learn what the game plan is by watching/reading a few guides. Come up with a way to get repetitive focused practice. Reflect on your mistakes after every attempt. Then you'll actually get better.
/r/seduction29/12/25 02:49 AM
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Treat every day as an opportunity to socialize. Not just sundays
/r/seduction29/12/25 12:26 AM
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Outcome independence. You're focused on whether you pull or not. Focus on getting better at talking to girls and having fun talking to girls. Abundance mindset. Getting rejected is not a personal affront on your value. Don't treat it as one. Treat every rejection as a learning opportunity
/r/seduction29/12/25 12:06 AM
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You're outcome dependent. Focus on having fun interactions, treat rejection as an opportunity to get better, realize that pussying out should feel worse than getting rejected because youre rejecting yourself.
/r/seduction29/12/25 12:02 AM
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You can only play the hand youre dealt. There's no use in whining that white guys have an easier time. Control what you can control. Make sure your grooming, physical fitness, haircut, fashion are dialed in. Work on your opening tone of voice. Focus on getting better. Not on results. Get a little better every time. Stop worrying about numbers. A lot of these social media clips where the guy gets the number aren't even good game. Those numbers aren't solid numbers, are extremely likely to flake, …
/r/seduction28/12/25 11:59 PM
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Being called cute is not a bad thing. If you dont have facial hair/rugged features/a ton of muscle but are attractive you might get called cute more often than hot or sexy. Your other friends who get called cute get more play than you do because they have more experience/know what to do after being called cute. Cute is also a safer compliment than sexy/hot. You can use it to your advantage by framing her as the seductive temptress trying to corrupt the cute innocent guy. This puts you in the fra…
/r/seduction28/12/25 10:44 AM
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Well I'd need to know more about what the disagreements you had were to give you a full answer but when you are telling a girl your "needs", you are not in control. You should have expectations in what youre looking for and the willpower to walk away when those expectations aren't met. When you breakup but stay in contact and go back that is not being in control. Making decisions and sticking to them because you believe in the principles behind them is being in control. And stop doing this half …
/r/seduction28/12/25 10:37 AM
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Your problem is you have an insecurity about not being in control which causes you to overcompensate with a bunch of behavuour to convince yourself that you are the one in control, leading the interaction, setting the frame of the relationship etc. But the overcompensating behaviour reveals your insecurity and lack of control and ends up being very unattractive which is why this girl picked someone else.
/r/seduction28/12/25 10:17 AM
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What happens in-between you making out and the girl losing interest/falling off? You want your approaches to be always progressing forward because if you aren't progressing, the interaction starts getting stale. You can escalate verbally, physically, emotionally, and logistically. Escalating verbally is stuff like building tension verbally, dirty talk, broaching more sexual topics in conversation etc. Escalating emotionally is building comfort/familiarity, showing that you see her as a person, l…
/r/seduction28/12/25 06:25 AM
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You should probably not casually bang your friends sister if you want to maintain the friendship. Dating is one thing.
/r/seduction27/12/25 03:51 AM
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You're not in love with her youre in love with the idea of her.
/r/seduction26/12/25 09:49 PM
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You post a variation of the same question every day. Ive said it before. If you spent the time approaching instead, even in orgeon, you'd have better results
/r/seduction25/12/25 04:36 AM
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Numbers are not useful. When you focus on numbers you're focusing on outcomes and not process. If I only approached mid 5s who made eyes at me I could bat close to 100%. If I only approached 10s with boyfriends next to them I would have terrible results. Focus on controlling on what you can control and being in the moment/having fun.
/r/seduction25/12/25 12:51 AM
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Solve logistics, not just your living situation, but figuring out who she came out with, getting on her friends good side so they approve of you taking her. How bad is the living situation? Parents who won't let you take anyone home is different from roommates? If youre going to try hotel/car, you need to start seeding the idea earlier in the interaction, first playfully and hypothetically, so shes had time to mentally wrap her head around it. Bringing it up when its time to leave is going to be…
/r/seduction24/12/25 08:54 PM
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Flirt and tease. Lookup flirting guide. Lookup physical escalation guide
/r/seduction23/12/25 07:42 PM
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Have the mindset "I make no apologies for my desires as a man".
/r/seduction23/12/25 07:34 PM
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Inviting her to hangout with both you and your friend is weird dude. She clearly likes you. Not only would he be third wheeling, but girls dont want other people knowing theyre sneaking out at night to meet dudes. Have some respect for her privacy. Also the point of fwb is so you can sleep with other people. You really dont need/know how to juggle multiple girls if youre asking this question. You should just date her if you like her.
/r/seduction23/12/25 08:39 AM
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She wants your babies
/r/seduction22/12/25 08:43 PM
1

Please do not show random internet people what your high school crush looks like.
/r/seduction22/12/25 07:26 PM
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You've been on 0 dates at age 27 and won't listen to people giving you advice. Good luck. Reread my comments. I've already pointed you in the right direction.
/r/seduction21/12/25 06:26 AM
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Look up physical escalation guides/kino escalation guides on google/YouTube/search bar If youre in a club/bar you often have to talk into women's ears for them to hear you. Its not that unnatural of a movement. Flirting is playful. Playful flirting means youre sort of treating her like shes your 13 year old sister. Teasing her, pretend disagreeing, making fun of her, playful physical contact etc
/r/seduction21/12/25 04:26 AM
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Sit down with a piece of paper or a whiteboard. Write down different aspects of game. You said you spent two years studying theory so you should be able to think of these aspects. Break down each aspect into smaller skills. Pick one aspect. Are you good or bad at that one aspect? Which skills are you good at? Which are you bad at? Come up with a small exercise to focus exactly on the skill you are bad at. Go out and practice. After each attempt, take two minutes and reflect on how the attempt we…
/r/seduction20/12/25 08:14 PM
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You dont have to ask if she wants you to flirt with her. Flirting is light and playful. The lightest flirting should be plausibly deniable that it's flirting at all. Flirt > read her reaction > respond based on reaction. Positive reaction > flirt more and escalate intensity of flirting Neutral reaction > keep sprinkling in the flirting, slightly increase intensity. Bad reaction > change her mood/energy until she's having fun in the interaction and try again. Or just politely eject Speak slowly w…
/r/seduction20/12/25 12:04 AM
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I'll let you figure that one out
/r/seduction19/12/25 11:49 PM
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Here? Youre asking for advice here. Screenshot and upload. Cross out names and photos
/r/seduction19/12/25 11:48 PM
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Post examples
/r/seduction19/12/25 11:45 PM
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You need to show intent you tell her you like her and ask her out. Otherwise only girls who are actively crushing on you will say yes. You need to learn how to flirt and tease, how to escalate physical touch, how to use innuendo, how to build tension with your tone of voice, eye contact etc. When you do these things you are expressing your male sexuality, which allows her to express her sexuality by flirting back
/r/seduction19/12/25 11:34 PM
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He needs to redefine success into smaller goals. "I opened 3x with a good tone of voice". "I teased her 3 times". Take the small wins.
/r/seduction19/12/25 11:29 PM
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There are thousands of posts on how to approach. Do the minimum basic amount of research before asking someone to spoonfeed you.
/r/seduction19/12/25 03:16 PM
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By framing yourself as AuDHD, youre mentally boxing yourself in. You're just a guy with poor socialization and seduction skills. That's OK. There's lots of those guys out there. I was one of those guys. Your skill level is not locked in place. It's just a starting point. You improve at things through intentional and consistent practice, by challenging yourself in progressively more difficult increments. Social skills/seduction is largely pattern recognition. What does this body language mean? Wh…
/r/seduction19/12/25 03:14 PM
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Agree. OP likely doesnt express himself as a man with sexual desires, doesnt flirt enough, doesnt build any tension. Probably doesnt have a large enough funnel of meeting new women either.
/r/seduction19/12/25 02:56 PM
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Wow there's some terrible advice in this thread. It's pretty obvious to me with what you wrote and didnt write in this post what your problems are. Youre massively outcome dependent, to the point where you are making your lack of success part of identity. This likely bleeds into the way you present yourself and is needy and unattractive. You dont reflect on what mistakes youre making, because youre focused on the outcome and not the process of getting better. Break down your large goal of gettin…
/r/seduction19/12/25 02:49 PM
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You would get laid more often if you spent less time asking the differences between cities and more time actually doing approaches
/r/seduction18/12/25 11:56 PM
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Work on closing same night. Numbers will always fall off at some rate, even if your game is really good. Solidify your numbers/IGs. This has the highest impact on your conversion rate. Longer conversations. More connection. Only ask for a number after trying same night or if you know same night isn't viable. Soft close dates before you get numbers. After you confirm same night isn't possible for whatever reason dont just ask for a number. My go to line is "Yknow youre not actually that horrible …
/r/seduction18/12/25 11:47 PM
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Girl isn't going to travel that far unless shes super into you. You can do research and find cheap fun dates in NYC. As a broke student in NJ, youre in tough though. The distance and lack of private place to escalate is going to be a major obstacle.
/r/seduction18/12/25 05:11 PM
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As the other guy said you can look up pictures of women and come up with push pulls. Setup your body position on dates and approaches where you block off other people from interrupting.
/r/seduction18/12/25 05:07 PM
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Look up IOIs indicators of interest and IODs indicators of disinterest. Most underrated IOI is when she has the opportunity to leave/exit the conversation but doesnt. Escalate flirting a lot when getting IOIs. When getting neutral responses, flirt subtly while just being normal, if getting IODs you need to get her in a good mood/change the energy. Do not escalate while getting IODs
/r/seduction18/12/25 12:56 AM
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Is it worth sleeping with a hot girl who's crazy/toxic? Sure. If you can silo her off from the rest of your life so she doesn't drag you down. It all depends on how much you can control the situation. Crazy girl where you don't give her your socials & she never meets your friends & you guys only hang out at her place? perfectly manageable.
/r/seduction17/12/25 08:04 PM
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Your friend didn't cock block you. You didn't tell your friends you liked this girl. You didn't do enough to make it obvious you liked her. You didn't do enough where she would ignore others because she liked you. It's not unfair or unjust. You didn't even flirt with her. You gave up instantly. Get over yourself. Take some responsibility.
/r/seduction16/12/25 05:40 PM
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Your personality matters less for picking the environment/groups than your interests. Find things youre interested in that have women present.
/r/seduction16/12/25 03:50 PM
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Np hope it went well
/r/seduction16/12/25 03:47 PM
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Talking to a girl who likes you for 3 weeks before asking her out is way too long. You should ask a girl who you know likes you out after like 1 day. The longer you wait before being 1 on 1 in person with a girl, the more random things can make her lose interest.
/r/seduction15/12/25 06:30 PM
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If you know the theory but don't have experience practicing it, you're not going to be successful. Also, when your ego is hurt like that it's going to bleed through and make your game worse. I've been in similar spots before.
/r/seduction15/12/25 04:23 PM
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She liked you but not enough to get over her ex. You probably waited too long to ask her out. If you had gone out with her in person she could have developed stronger emotions and gotten over her ex, but over the phone it's not going to happen.
/r/seduction15/12/25 04:17 PM
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She asks you why you work so much because she's annoyed you haven't asked her out yet and choose to work extra shifts instead of taking her out. It would not be something she cares about in a relationship unless you just neglect her in the relationship.
/r/seduction15/12/25 03:55 PM
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Flirt before asking them out. When you make the interaction non-platonic before asking them out, asking them out is immediately non-platonic. Flirting well makes her more likely to say yes. When she's not responding to the flirting/responding poorly you can avoid bad rejections. Do not phrase asking a girl out as "hanging out". Be specific in the activity. I don't even frame it as a question. "We should get drinks" "I'm checking out this cool new bar. You should join me"
/r/seduction15/12/25 03:53 PM
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Two numbers out of 7 in a week is pretty good. Don't be discouraged by the girl you took on an instant date falling off in interest. There are all sorts of reasons out of your control why she may not have followed up. Don't let weirdos DMing you put you off approaches too. Field reports used to be super common in the pickup community and are some of the best ways to get feedback and improve.
/r/seduction13/12/25 11:23 PM
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Compliments are very pedestalizing. Adding cold reads to your compliments makes them more unique and less pedestalizing.
/r/seduction13/12/25 02:08 PM
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Asking a girl if she plays basketball is not a good cold read lmao. Reminds me of the time in elementary school when I asked if the really tall kid was Dutch bc I had read Dutch people were the tallest in the world. Cold reads are supposed to be playful, not literal. Guessing wrong about cold reads is almost as good as guessing correctly. Guessing wrong will usually have the girl asking why you guessed that, which is a perfect transition to teases and further conversation where shes invested. Al…
/r/seduction13/12/25 01:54 PM
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My preferred first date is always drinks.
/r/seduction13/12/25 01:46 PM
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You said you tried but also that you gave it two attempts that weren't even good attempts. That doesnt qualify as trying. You worked on yourself but you didnt actually learn any game or practice any game.
/r/seduction13/12/25 01:45 PM
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Move on to the next. Don't make the same mistake next time
/r/seduction13/12/25 01:39 PM
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I dont ask questions about the girl when doing an approach except in response to something we're already talking about. I do a lot of cold reads, look those up in the side bar. If a girl is already talking about work I'll ask her what the most fulfilling part of her job is, or what she would do if she won the lottery and quit. If a girl is talking about where shes from ill ask what she misses about growing up there. You want to find questions that bypass the boring saved answer shes given 100s o…
/r/seduction13/12/25 01:38 PM
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Asking a girl on a date is not rushing things. If you don't ask her out after getting her socials, she will assume youre not interested or you're a pussy. Either will not end well
/r/seduction13/12/25 01:32 PM
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It's a bad question because its easy. She's already had the same boring conversation hundreds of times in her life. She's not even engaging her brain when she answers it. You want to ask questions that cause emotional spikes.
/r/seduction13/12/25 01:47 AM
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If the conversation is going well, you just say there's this cool bar/restaurant and tell her she should come check it out with you.
/r/seduction13/12/25 01:45 AM
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Men are dangerous to women. If a women gives polite interest to a man and the man interprets it as genuine interest, she is putting herself in danger.
/r/seduction13/12/25 01:43 AM
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You picked a really shit first date. Casual restaurant of a cuisine that makes ppl fart with no intimate seating. Your date locations should be dim lighting with intimate seating where ideally you can sit next to her. Change the date. Say you heard that this trendy bar is really good and want to check it out. Get apps there. If its going well consider switching to a different bar. Then invite her back.
/r/seduction13/12/25 01:41 AM
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Yes?
/r/seduction13/12/25 01:37 AM
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>We get along really well, laugh a lot, and there’s clearly a mutual good vibe. If all this is true then asking her on a date is nowhere near too direct.
/r/seduction12/12/25 07:17 PM
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The point of obtaining socials/number is to organize logistics for a date. You should have just asked her on a date in person. If you're going to see her again soon (within 1-2 days max) I'd suggest just talking with her and then asking in person. If longer than that you should just message her, flirt a little bit, and then ask her on a date trhough IG.
/r/seduction12/12/25 06:57 PM
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4 approaches are too few in two weeks. You could comfortably do 4 approaches in one hour. Even someone good at game could only reasonably expect to get one number in 4 approaches. Given that you didn't write about how your 4 approaches went besides the end outcome, Im going to surmise your game is not good. You're the equivalent of the guy who goes to the gym once a month, does a lazy random workout, and wonders why he doesn't look like a bodybuilder. Watch/read some approach guides. Increase yo…
/r/seduction12/12/25 03:50 PM
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Treat girls like bros is really bad normie-slop dating advice. You want to treat women like you'd treat your little sister. Not taking her seriously, constantly teasing/making fun of her, reminding her of how much stronger you are. Obv the one difference is you are not trying to fuck your sister.
/r/seduction10/12/25 11:01 PM
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Most fwb's are from same night pulls or taking a girl on a date but maintaining a casual and fun frame. Beginners are going to struggle to get same night pulls, and they usually don't sexualize enough on dates in a way that results in casual sex. A beginner is much more likely to get a number, set up a date, and then pull after multiple dates after building an emotional connection. Also as a beginner, if youre inexperienced or bad at sex its going to be harder to setup a fwb situation even after…
/r/seduction10/12/25 10:47 PM
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Read beginner guides. Practice. If you are inexperienced it's easier to find a gf than a fwb.
/r/seduction09/12/25 06:19 PM
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You will improve more with intentional practice than you will with spam approaching.
/r/seduction09/12/25 05:58 PM
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Beginners to pickup/dating yeah.
/r/seduction08/12/25 04:35 PM
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Do not continue to spend time and energy on someone who flaked on you multiple times. There are other women out there.
/r/seduction08/12/25 04:34 PM
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Alcohol is fine as a social lubricant especially for beginners. It's been a social lubricant for thousands of years. Don't over do it, and it's good to practice sets when sober/less drunk so you become less reliant
/r/seduction08/12/25 02:10 AM
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You need to be screening for logistics before the set even gets to the makeout point.
/r/seduction07/12/25 09:13 PM
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Just read/watch some basic guides. You dont need someone to regurgitate the info to you that's already available
/r/seduction07/12/25 02:46 AM
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Lol one of my fuck buddies joked about getting me a Christmas present too. Imo its a case of the girl trying to show you shes girlfriend material. How you proceed with that info is up to you
/r/seduction07/12/25 01:19 AM
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There are many universal human traits that present differently due to sexual dimorphism. This is absolutely one of them.
/r/seduction05/12/25 06:35 PM
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Don't be discouraged. Game is very technically deep with a high skill ceiling. Your first step was getting over your approach anxiety. Think about how difficult the idea of doing an approach was back in those days. Your next steps should be learning about the other details of game and applying them. Go watch/read some guides and go practice. Focus on getting better and having fun instead of whether you pull or not. The results will take care of itself if you work on getting better.
/r/seduction04/12/25 11:05 PM
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Mindset in game is about treating failure as an opportunity to learn. It's about putting yourself in uncomfortable situations to facilitate growth. But an average guy who suddenly gets this mindset doesn't become good overnight. The average guy is bad at opening, bad at flirting, doesn't understand solving logistics, and has very limited experience. With a good mindset the average guy can become good by learning the rest of game through studying/trial and error, and then practicing a ton. Your i…
/r/seduction04/12/25 10:58 PM
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Ok first off youre not running out of time lol. You can hookup with women for many, many, many more years. Night game requires you to create attraction/build tension, create comfort/trust, and solve logistical issues. Creating attraction/building tension is done by flirting, telling cool stories, escalating physically, generating emotional spikes, talking about more risqué subjects etc. Building trust/comfort is done by spending more time with the girl, displaying non neediness, connecting emoti…
/r/seduction04/12/25 02:06 AM
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Assume attraction. Go into every interaction assuming they like you until they do or say something that indicates they dont. Flirt with girl. If she gives you IOIs (indicators of interest) or flirts back, she likes you. Increase level of flirting and eventually ask her on a date. If shes neutral but not negative just keep flirting at the same intensity level. If you start to get indicators of disinterest, she doesnt like you. Stop waiting around for girls to tell you they like you and go find ou…
/r/seduction03/12/25 07:34 PM
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Read/watch beginner guides on approaching. Go practice approaching. Change your solo hobbies into whatever the group version of your hobby is (ie meet-up groups etc) and/or find new hobbies that involve other people. Leave the house to study. Go find group study spaces, ask people if you can study with them, go study at cafés. Stop feeling sorry for yourself that you haven't done x yet. Everyone starts somewhere. Treat learning social skills/seduction the way you treat going to the gym. Do so on…
/r/seduction03/12/25 07:02 PM
1

Take a public speaking class like toastmasters and/or improv comedy.
/r/seduction03/12/25 05:32 PM
1

One thing that is almost universal is that women find deeper voices attractive. For men with naturally higher pitched voices, speaking slowly and through your diaphragm will deepen your voice. Men who are nervous often speak too quickly, which can make it obvious they are nervous. Speaking too slowly before a hook point can definitely sometimes be detrimental. And speaking more quickly is useful when you want to have high energy in the set. Generally though, once you've past the hook point, imo …
/r/seduction03/12/25 05:31 PM
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Working on your game is working on yourself. Barring conditions where your physical/financial/mental security is at extreme risk there is no excuse to stop learning game. There will always be another level you can reach financially, physically, confidence wise etc before you tell yourself that now youre ready to actually put in the time to improve your game. That's all fake. Your problem is that you are outcome dependent. You're demoralized because your results have stalled but the reason your r…
/r/seduction03/12/25 12:25 AM
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Going to a doctor for ssri's or benzos to address your approach anxiety is insane advice.
/r/seduction02/12/25 06:46 AM
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Learn to flirt, learn to escalate, learn to solve logistics. How to flirt? - there's guides all over the place in the search bar/youtube Same with escalating - learn when to escalate touch, flirtation level, sexual energy/tension, conversation topic, sexual contact Logistics - Where is the approach happening right now, screening for where she can be in the next 1-3 hours? Figuring out whether she lives closer to where you are now or if you do. Who did she come to the location of approach with? W…
/r/seduction01/12/25 08:21 PM
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Your understanding of what choosing signals are is extremely misguided based on your other posts. You do not need choosing signals to approach. Choosing signals do not matter if your game is really bad. Choosing signals simply indicate that you likely have a higher % chance of success than average during an approach. If you do not approach even after being given choosing signals, none of it matters. You still have to run at least competent game approaching a girl that gives you choosing signals …
/r/seduction01/12/25 07:40 PM
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Bringing value - carrying the conversation until at least the hook point, outcome independent in the sense that you are approaching because you find talking to people is fun - whatever happens beyond that is a bonus, being able to drive a fun, interesting conversation that also gives her emotional spikes Taking value - seeking approval, asking too many questions without making interesting comments, outcome dependent If you're not getting girls to stop on the open consistently you need to start t…
/r/seduction28/11/25 09:00 PM
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Introversion and extroversion is a spectrum that you can move through. You are not stuck at a fixed point. Introversion is even useful/better in certain parts of game. Do not let it define and limit you.
/r/seduction28/11/25 08:15 PM
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Sounds like you're not reaching the hook point. If you're out of shape, you're really going to struggle online. Go practice approaching in person and then meet women through cold approach, social circles, hobbies etc.
/r/seduction28/11/25 06:58 PM
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If the percentage of women who find the median man attractive is lower than the percentage of men who find the median woman attractive, then women are on the whole more attractive to the opposite sex. We're not talking about the # of people who fall within however many standard deviations of the median.
/r/seduction28/11/25 06:56 PM
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>How do you stay in that relaxed, present state more consistently? Warm up socially. Talking to strangers, even those you aren't attracted to. Random compliments, comments about any situation, anything to get your brain going socially. And also the discipline to go do the approach anyway even if you're not already "in state". You'll find that by forcing yourself to start the approach, once you open, your brain is now focused on the conversation instead of worrying about the conversation. >Any ti…
/r/seduction28/11/25 06:46 PM
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>Do I really have to be good looking, with bank and athletic body to be attractive? No but it helps. The point of meeting girls online is to setup offline meetings. If you want to get better at the basics, read/watch some basic guides, and then go outside and practice the lessons you learnt with in person approaches. Focus on improving.
/r/seduction28/11/25 06:39 PM
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It does make sense in terms of sexual selection/standards. The bar for what most men finds attractive, especially enough to sleep with, is far lower compared to women's standards. Most men would say the majority of women who aren't fat are at least somewhat attractive.
/r/seduction28/11/25 06:35 PM
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Look up guides on approaching groups. You need to placate the friends, specifically the leader of the friend group and/or her best friend. You need to screen for logistics earlier and you need to get the girl away from the group at some point. If you never get any follow ups from phone numbers you need to create more attraction during the interaction. Phone numbers are never going to convert at a 100% rate but if you never get a follow up you're doing something wrong in the approach.
/r/seduction28/11/25 06:29 PM
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No one except you know how your average cold approach goes. At what point are you getting resistance in the interaction? What ate your strengths?
/r/seduction28/11/25 02:52 PM
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First thing you need to focus on is not being ashamed of your sexuality. People are sexual beings. Meeting sexual/romantic partners through friends is normal and common. Next you need to learn to flirt. There's lots of guides on how to flirt and tease. Watch/read some of them. When flirting with friends (of friends), you should exercise gradual escalation and less polarizing flirting. Where as with strangers you can make bolder moves because it matters less if you get blown out. Start light and …
/r/seduction28/11/25 03:54 AM
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No he's right. Learn seduction. Do you think youre the first awkward guy who doesnt know how to pull a girl? Use the side bar, go on YouTube, learn how to flirt and cold approach by reading/watching the hundreds of guides posted in the last 20 years, and then go out and practice.
/r/seduction27/11/25 02:35 PM
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Malls, parks, bookstores, cafés, farmers markets, intramural sports, gyms, outdoor shopping areas, bars, clubs, organic grocery stores.
/r/seduction27/11/25 12:46 AM
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If you startle someone from behind you need to play it off humourously. Easy thing to start teasing about. Should try to approach front front or side whenever possible and when from behind walk until youre beside them before saying anything. You should practice approaching hot girls and having normal conversations. You can start with asking for directions or recommendations. Next level is making a comment/compliment about their outfit. This is just to get your brain comfortable in these conversa…
/r/seduction27/11/25 12:44 AM
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I dont recommend opening with something crazy for sets except as an exercise. Back in the day, people would do absurd openings as a nightgame exercise, where you self amuse with almost non sensical openings, just to get the feeling of it not being that serious, and emphasize that your energy is more important than the words. This was more of a beginner intermediate exercise. Beginners should just focus on getting into conversations
/r/seduction27/11/25 12:37 AM
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When girls say they want guys who can make them laugh its because being funny comes from having wit and being bold/brash, which are independently attractive qualities. Stuff like agree and exaggerate for passing shit tests, misinterpretation, hypothetical story telling, being able tk gently make fun of her are all good game that relies on comedic principles. Learn basic comedic principles, think of how you can incorporate those into your shit test responses, teases, and story telling. Take an im…
/r/seduction25/11/25 06:52 PM
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Lookup text game and online dating game guides in side bar/youtube
/r/seduction25/11/25 04:39 PM
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Practice speaking slowly and through your diaphragm, even in regular conversation. Have more interactions in general, even with girls youre not interested in, and focus on enjoying yourself in the conversation rather than trying to get something out of it.
/r/seduction25/11/25 04:38 PM
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Your personality is not an immutable characteristic. Fix your personality
/r/seduction25/11/25 04:36 PM
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If you establish a non-platonic premise through tonality, body language, flirting, conversation topic etc, then you can ask girls on a date without using the word date. Not calling it a date is actually often better, because it makes the interaction feel more natural and casual, as long as you have established that the hangout is not necessarily platonic. Flirt with the girl. If she's flirting back, escalate further. Repeat until having sex.
/r/seduction24/11/25 04:03 PM
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What kind of dates are you asking them out for? I wouldn't expect a girl to get extremely dressed up for a coffee date in the middle of the week but if I'm taking them to a cocktail lounge then they should get a little dressed up at least. The vast majority of girls want their dates to go well. If they didn't want it to go well, they would just flake on the date.
/r/seduction24/11/25 03:56 PM
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I dont have insight in going out in these cities except one night in NYC. Factors you want to consider are age range/gender ratio of the population, total population, walkability, whether you can afford a place near nightlife in that city, weather.
/r/seduction24/11/25 04:41 AM
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I dont know which city has more transplants but cities where there are a lot of transplants are better than cities where more people have an established social circle.
/r/seduction24/11/25 04:37 AM
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Don't ask how are you as an opener. Get to the point Don't frame her as some girl who gets hit on a lot. Don't frame yourself as lucky to be talking to her. You're pedestalizing for no reason Don't ask where shes from. Cold read instead. "I can tell youre not from here. You look like youre from ____" is much better. Asking for recommendations is ok, because pivoting from recommendations to "we should do that together" or "oh you dont have any go to spots, let me show you some of mine?" is good. …
/r/seduction24/11/25 04:35 AM
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NY has a lot of transplants, meaning people are much more open to meeting new people, because they have less established social circles
/r/seduction24/11/25 03:43 AM
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New years is good. Thanksgiving weekend. If your city has a pride week/day/weekend that weekend is unironically pretty good bc straight/bi women love celebrating pride.
/r/seduction23/11/25 06:54 AM
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Angle is important you want to approach from the front or side.
/r/seduction21/11/25 08:47 PM
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Long term doing progressively more difficult approaches starting super easy. Short term, pick a friend, hand him 10 $20 dollar bills. For every approach you do, tell him to give you $20 back.
/r/seduction21/11/25 06:04 PM
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dear diary i had a very mildly embarrassing moment. is it over?
/r/seduction20/11/25 05:07 PM
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Not going to say I've never stooped down before but the girls who've approached me in direct ways are below that even and the ones that do usually also have personalities that instantly put me off.
/r/seduction20/11/25 04:30 PM
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Yes the smooth way women approach is by putting themselves in a situation where they just so happen to talk to you/need your help with something. This is your invitation to approach. Most women aren't actually socially calibrated enough to do this though. More direct approaches do happen sometimes but in my experience the girls who direct approach are always shooting out of their league.
/r/seduction19/11/25 09:50 PM
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Game is best when it doesn't feel like game. When the interaction feels like "it just happened" spontaneously is far appealing to the girl. Not all openers have to involve an overt compliment either.
/r/seduction19/11/25 07:53 PM
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It's far easier to create wit, humour, and sexual tension in person. Online game is a source of leads. It may be the most efficient time wise if you are attractive and have a good profile but that doesn't mean you should ignore other game. Learning cold approach is the fastest way to improve. You can put yourself through multiple sets in one day in a way where you can't with online game.
/r/seduction19/11/25 06:14 PM
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Opening with a cheesy line is not ideal. It'll work on girls who would have responded positively to anything else but you'll lose out on interactions where a more subtle/natural approach would give you a better chance. Still ok for a beginner because it puts you into the interaction right away and makes it immediately clear you're interested in her.
/r/seduction19/11/25 05:41 PM
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Sometimes girls are just in a bad mood. Focus on what you can control. Obv not remembering her is a minor mistake. Her friend was more shocked at her reaction than your approach. Blowouts are going to happen sometimes.
/r/seduction16/11/25 05:53 PM
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You live somewhere with no dateable women except on the apps? Difficult to believe but even if it was true id tell you to move. Pickup a female dominated or co-ed hobby. Why can't you get more matches? Taking better photos and improving your profile would definitely get you more matches. You've never done cold approach? No one who does cold approach had ever done it before their first attempt. You have a pathetic mindset and deserve to wait around like a factory farmed animal being fed on a time…
/r/seduction13/11/25 02:57 PM
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Why do you have no agency with your dating life? Dating is just lead generation and lead conversion. Improve your lead generation. Optimize your dating app profile. Pay for premium after you've optimized your profile. Meet women through other means. Cold approach, night game, hobbies, social media, work. There is no reason to wait at all. Men are the pursuers in dating. So pursue.
/r/seduction13/11/25 01:44 AM
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OP was mostly talking about approaching in shared 3rd spaces. So competence in the commonality hobby. Social proof among other attendees. Physical attractiveness
/r/seduction13/11/25 01:37 AM
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Avoiding the creep label comes down to a few things: being high value, being playful, escalating gradually while reading her reaction and respecting boundaries. High value is obvious. If youre attractive/have status, you can get away with behaviour that less attractive people cannot. This just means you should clean yourself up, haircut, dont hit on women in a stained t-shirt and sweatpants etc. Being playful -flirting is supposed to be fun and light hearted. Self amuse, smile, its not that seri…
/r/seduction12/11/25 03:58 AM
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Hit on girls your own age lol. What's your plan for hitting on an adult woman when you can't take her to get drinks or bring her back to your place?
/r/seduction12/11/25 03:40 AM
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The girl was doing intrasexual competition with her comment subconsciously or not. She gave you a shit test. Look up how to deal with shit tests.
/r/seduction11/11/25 06:42 PM
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No. Your successful cold approach should look like: Open Flirt/get to know you Screen for logistics if instant date is possible. If instant date is unviable, soft close date plans Grab number so you can plan logistics. Going for a number/instagram off the rip is going to get you nowhere. You dont have time to build attraction. You haven't shown her youre not a weirdo. If you do get it, its going to be a flaky number.
/r/seduction07/11/25 01:44 AM
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It's a miracle this girl hasn't blocked your number and is still picking up. Spend more time flirting in person on the initial approach before asking for her number. Numbers are for logistics. Use them to set up dates. Don't go back to her work when she's not answering. Literally stalker behaviour.
/r/seduction30/10/25 07:52 PM
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Like I already said when you've already built the attraction, you need to tone down the polarization. When shes already invested, tone down the gamey stuff. Built more comfort and connection, escalate logistically. You can still tease and flirt but it should be more sprinkled in and less polarizing compared tk early in the conversation.
/r/seduction28/10/25 07:52 AM
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She didn't give you a fine for your mistake because it wasn't a little mistake. Polarization by definition means triggering a strong emotional reaction. So any polarization mistake is going to result in a large negative reaction. It's useful to polarize early on because it makes the conversation non-platonic. A platonic conversation is just going to wither and die anyways so a negative reaction carries less risk early on. Once the conversation is going well, excessive polarization becomes an unn…
/r/seduction28/10/25 07:25 AM
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Polarizing is good when the conversation is dull because it sparks emotion and attraction. Once you have her invested, you tone down the polarization and smoothly escalate with much more infrequent and less intense spikes of teasing/polarizing. You polarized too far when she already liked you and ended up in the asshole/weirdo/un-socially calibrated category, hence the block.
/r/seduction28/10/25 07:02 AM
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Way around what? To sleep with one of these model/influencer type girls is doable if you're at least slightly above average and have great game. To date one of them? You need to be a high value man with decent game.
/r/seduction17/10/25 03:14 PM
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Based on you asking this question, no you don't have a chance.
/r/seduction17/10/25 02:23 PM
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I have literally never seen a PUA/dating coach that doesn't encourage multiple funnels of generating leads.
/r/seduction15/10/25 07:48 PM
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When things are going well, you need to be escalating. Escalating includes screening for logistics. It's a lot easier to take a girl home if you casually mention/hint at it earlier in the interaction. You need to figure out whose place is closer, if you need to placate any of her friends, whether she has work early in the morning etc, if there's a secondary venue you can take her to bridge the gap and increase familiarity. Stagnant energy kills sets. Even sets that are going well. It's hard to b…
/r/seduction15/10/25 02:10 PM
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Go take an improv comedy class.
/r/seduction14/10/25 08:27 PM
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>Lets see how things go between us if you’re up for it Don't say "if you're up for it" makes you seem needy. If the conversation is going well just say "let's keep this conversation going over drinks". Flirt, calibrate, escalate. Once the vibe is good for a few messages in a row, escalate to logistics.
/r/seduction14/10/25 07:43 PM
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You don't need a massive number of followers. You need enough to seem like you have an interesting life in combination with the rest of your profiles. Instagram is totally fine as one source to funnel leads. You need to optimize your profile to have success but that's no different than needing to optimize a dating profile.
/r/seduction14/10/25 07:41 PM
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Just got back from a trip to Thailand/asia. I only stayed in Bangkok/Koh Phangan. Asian guy who goes after mostly white girls. Didn't do any day game while I was there so this will be night game only. Bangkok - Khaosan Road: Super busy tourist nightlife street with bars/clubs. Very tourist heavy, but you don't need to spend more than 1-2 nights there to see all there is to see. RCA Ave area - There are a lot of big clubs in this area but they're very much in the style of tables all over the plac…
/r/seduction14/10/25 06:04 PM
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