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4

Dirty talk is great, but I’ll never understand this one. It would make me laugh because it sounds so ridiculous. The pussy belongs to me, sir. That’s why it’s a part of my body. Lmfaooo
/r/seduction23/07/26 02:49 AM
36

Why are you wasting your time with a guy in his early 20s
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/26 05:11 AM
2

How’s your DHEAS and testosterone? Spiro is an aldosterone blocker which balances the hormones that are responsible for a lot of the unwanted physical symptoms of the disorder. That being said, I’m not a doctor so I don’t know if this is something that would be recommended to you, but you should definitely ask before spending thousands of dollars on other individual treatments that don’t address the root cause.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/26 06:21 AM
7

Are you against medication? Spironolactone alone addresses the hair, acne, body fat distribution, and body hair all at once rather than you spend a bunch of money on random procedures.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/26 12:28 AM
5

That’s excellent. Where so many women fail is either not vetting a man properly and choosing a guy who will never be worthy of that type of admiration, or they train a good competent man to be useless through punishing him or controlling him so that he doesn’t want to step up anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/26 10:19 PM
12

Show admiration for the work he does, even if it’s just fixing something around the house. Be receptive to learning from him, as men like to feel useful and knowledgeable. Trust his decisions and don’t micromanage everything he does or question/remind him constantly. Save face for him; if there’s something he is admitting that might feel shameful you should buffer it (e.g. “that could happen to anyone, etc”). Don’t laugh or tease if he does something wrong. That being said, you need to vet a man…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/26 08:45 PM
1

I’m not doing it for others. It’s almost never that I see an attractive man, and when I do they are usually minding their own business and me mine. It would be a huge waste of my own time to do my hair, makeup, and outfit choice for the chance of a guy seeing me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/26 05:57 AM
10

Nah, you’re just another man who feels like he is entitled to a virgin/non promiscuous woman while not seeing the double standard of having a hoe past himself. Pretty much all of us here hold men to the same standard we hold ourselves. If you’re slinging dick left and right, there’s no reason for me to believe you have any self control or sexual restraint, and that reflects poorly on you and my ability to trust that you’ll want to settle down with one woman for life. No “rules for thee but not f…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/26 07:44 PM
25

Yep, I read the entire thing like WTF. Never heard of a woman reducing a man down to his penis size like that unless it’s literally only about casual. Weird
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/26 04:04 AM
2

He’s a troll. It’s bizarre that a man expected to carpool in your car on date 1 and didn’t even cover your coffee. Hell no he would never see me again lmao
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/26 01:28 AM
10

Yep, he has a good woman by his side but he’s bitter and angry about “women” in the dating market… he wants something he doesn’t have and his girlfriend is collateral damage in all of his anger.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 03:15 PM
4

The entire male red pill agenda is to screen for doormat women. Reading their techniques, it’s clear their only goal is to weed out anyone with a backbone who won’t sacrifice everything for their needs. It’s definitely the polar opposite of what we’re seeking here
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/26 07:51 PM
3

This doesn’t even make any sense… an ugly or undesirable woman would be left with zero options back in the day. If no man wanted her, she’d be seen as a spinster and have to be supported by her family for life, a very shameful thing. At least the modern world allows for different paths and opportunities without the expectation that your main role is to be a mother and wife.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/26 04:43 AM
5

I agree. People will coddle you like a victim your whole life if you invite that type of energy in, but it gets you absolutely nowhere
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/26 11:28 PM
7

I’m glad this is a space where we can say stuff like this and not be accused of victim blaming.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/26 06:43 PM
3

Any man that says he has an erection on a first date needs to be gone. That’s so yuck, it’s clear he never saw a future between you when he’s bringing up sexual topics right away. The kind of man who is truly serious about wanting to make a good impression and sees potential in you is not going to say those things off the bat.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/26 06:43 PM
4

She comes from an extremely wealthy family — it’s more about her lack of male attention and desperation to be noticed by men. She thinks aligning with alpha male podcast bros will gain her some male favour, and it’s pathetic.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/26 04:24 PM
10

You’re speaking to an abusive guy looking to take advantage. None of that is normal
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/26 10:36 PM
5

Age is a non-factor if you take care of yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/26 06:52 AM
1

When I worked for a video game company I thought gamer guys were attractive, but now that I’ve moved on from that era of my life I find it a turn off. I’d rather date a guy who does more outdoor or productive hobbies, because I’m big into nature and getting outside when possible.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/26 11:28 PM
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Wanting a man to consider my safety isn’t a game. No, you’re right that he doesn’t have to offer to drive me in his car. But at 11 pm he should offer a cab or uber for me, especially if I have to travel across a city.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/26 03:39 PM
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Troll be gone.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/26 05:44 AM
-1

I wouldn’t allow a man from a dating app to drive me home on a first date, but I do agree that he should have offered (or at least not made that comment about how driving would inconvenience him). A guy that really sees potential isn’t thinking about the convenience of getting home, he’s prioritizing you and your safety. For future first dates, keep it short and cute, and ideally not past 8-9 pm at the very very latest.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/26 05:18 AM
7

I respect a man more if he practices visual modesty. I wouldn’t date a man or even consider it if his eyes wander. It’s such a lecherous trait.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/26 04:48 PM
1

You know that meme “what I look like walking past the hottest guy I’ve ever seen” and it’s a video of a woman who doesn’t even give the guy a glance? Yeah, it’s like that. Sorry it’s not helpful though
/r/seduction24/05/26 06:11 AM
1

I was gonna say this also sounds like me and I’m AuDHD with a very low social battery. I try to show I care about others, but most of the time I’m just conserving energy and trying not to burn out. Having a normal dating and social life where I have to keep up with all the pressures and expectations of maintaining relationships is just overwhelming. Can’t do it right.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/26 05:38 AM
4

That’s not true at all. I don’t date random loser men with no options and I still always wait to have sex no matter what. The ones who didn’t stick around were only looking for quick and easy sex to begin with.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/26 02:23 AM
3

You post this a lot in different subreddits and you get the same answers every time…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/26 06:22 AM
8

I can’t speak for everyone, but it definitely is more common in Western Europe for the bill to be split
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/26 11:30 PM
15

Yeah, this is just objectively rude etiquette, even for women who like 50/50 relationships. It’s the second date, and he invited her to an expensive restaurant. If this was the first date, I would assume OP must have been a catfish or something for how rude this guy was.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/26 11:29 PM
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It’s scary to know a guy can like you and then after sex realize he actually doesn’t. That makes no sense as a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/26 10:31 PM
3

“Red Pill women” is completely different from a red pilled man. Using terms like HVM is an Andrew Tate/manosphere thing. Avoid.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/26 07:46 AM
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It’s because they talk to women like people and do not attach any romantic outcome whatsoever to their interactions. Women can smell desperation on a guy and it’s very unappealing
/r/seduction30/04/26 07:07 AM
11

No one here is delusional about that, and this also isn’t a subreddit for women who are looking for millionaires. There is a huge difference between wanting a man with a provider-mindset vs wanting to attain as much money as possible. Night and day.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 10:08 PM
8

Exactly. I struck up a conversation with a guy in the checkout line the other day because he was buying multiple kilograms of oranges and I wanted to be nosy about that. I didn’t want to hop on his dick
/r/seduction19/04/26 04:20 AM
15

So he messaged a woman behind your back and then became friends with her? That’s a man looking for his foot out of the door
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/26 12:08 AM
10

In the scenario of a man being confronted for complimenting other women, it’s very strange that his response was that he understands whatever decision you choose to make. That sounds like a guy who would rather be the bad guy and get dumped than boss up and do it himself. Very odd choice on his part if he’s invested in this relationship at all.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/26 12:07 AM
2

Fair enough. Intimacy is very much a cerebral thing for me so maybe that’s why I don’t understand
/r/seduction30/03/26 12:50 AM
1

I just don’t understand the logic that the hotter the person, the better the kiss or sex is. I recently went on 3 dates each with 2 different guys, and both were super physically attractive, but when we kissed I just felt meh. There’s something more to chemistry than just finding someone attractive.
/r/seduction29/03/26 11:34 PM
1

lol I actually do not date women at all I was just sincerely curious if you could expand on your experience!
/r/seduction29/03/26 11:25 PM
4

That seems pretty superficial to me
/r/seduction29/03/26 09:57 PM
3

The most beautiful and popular girl in my school was super sweet to everyone. I sat next to her in band and even though others picked on me sometimes she never did. And in the real adult world the only bullying I receive is from people who are not attractive. I feel like I’m living in an alternate timeline from everyone who says attractive women are awful
/r/seduction29/03/26 09:55 PM
9

How is that awesome? Just because you gained more status? the experience of actually being with her sounds awful, you make it sound like she doesn’t understand basic empathy
/r/seduction29/03/26 09:49 PM
1

What happened in your situation?
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/26 10:16 PM
1

Never ever let a guy fly you out. That’s escort-adjacent behaviour and he’s doing the same to other women. If a man is intentional about you, he will take the time off to come visit you. Regardless, what kind of man asks you to fly to meet him but doesn’t buy the tickets? That’s even more tactless. Don’t waste another minute on this guy; stick to dating locally.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/26 10:15 PM
2

This is why I seek out low body count dudes, because high body count guys think about women in the exact ways OP listed
/r/seduction07/02/26 05:11 AM
3

5 women that are sleeping with you casually and are ok with the back burner arrangement are almost certainly sleeping with others too. This sounds like a plan to become a disease vector.
/r/seduction02/01/26 06:56 PM
2

Personally, no. Never been into older guys whatsoever
/r/seduction13/12/25 01:48 AM
4

What makes it better? As a tall woman who doesn’t have tons of experience, I’m just curious
/r/seduction24/11/25 01:44 AM
3

I would actually argue it’s psychologically normal to react with withdrawal when your partner wants to physically and emotionally degrade you when that was never part of the original dynamic. We’ve really normalized extremely hateful sex in society.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/25 10:12 PM
5

Personally I’d just be turned off of a guy for asking me questions that put me in a qualifying position. If he needs to ask what value I have as a woman, he clearly doesn’t see it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/25 09:46 PM
6

Stay away from women.
/r/seduction18/11/25 05:43 AM
3

Ladies and gentlemen, here we have it: The Worst Type of Man
/r/seduction18/11/25 02:50 AM
2

It sounds like he really does like you and doesn’t want to risk losing you by pushing to escalate intimacy. I’m waaaay more bothered by men who try to get handsy early on. If anything, this seems like a green flag.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/25 02:35 AM
2

This post is awesome. Saving it for future consideration
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/25 08:21 PM
8

Just be feminine and go on dates. Let him pay. If he’s looking for traditional, he’s not going to show any type of resentment ever when the bill comes. That’s what I did with my man, and after we got to know each other better we talked about our values and future goals. I let him know my life plan to work from home part time and be a homemaker, and he was completely on board. I also mentioned that I’m dating to marry, and I need to know the person I’m with is capable of supporting my dream and v…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/25 01:33 AM
7

One thing we don’t realize as women is that men are in competition with us. It sounds absolutely crazy, because we’d never think to compare and contrast our achievements or physical strength with our man — it literally means nothing and we think nothing of it, but they do. It means something to their psyche to be weaker or “less” than a woman in any way, hence his reaction to your arm wrestling proposal. Maybe cool off with the competitiveness for a while, even if it’s in a playful way. Make him…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/25 12:35 AM
1

That’s absolutely ridiculous and only filters for women who are down with casual sex. You can’t seriously expect most good women to be cool with fucking a guy who’s still essentially a stranger (meeting someone only 5-6 times is still stranger territory).
/r/seduction05/08/25 05:40 PM
1

I’m not gonna sit here and say I’m a 10, because I’m no Adriana Lima, but I’m an attractive woman and if my man isn’t simping for me, he’s not my man. There’s a difference between simping and straight up desperation. If I get the feeling he’s just looking for anyone, that’s when I get turned off.
/r/seduction24/07/25 11:57 PM
0

Nope
/r/seduction12/07/25 07:22 AM
0

That’s actually ridiculous. I’m not dating a man who is not putting in effort, period. If you have the mindset that you only need to do as little as possible for a woman to be attracted to you, you are screening for those who are desperate.
/r/seduction12/07/25 02:33 AM
2

Absolutely NOT. If I see that in a man’s profile it’s a huge turn off. It’s negative and bitter when that space could be used for information about yourself instead and leave a much better impression. The apps allow you to choose people based on your standards, so all you’re doing with this is signaling disrespect to everyone who isn’t your preference.
/r/seduction12/07/25 02:16 AM
10

That book is amazing for so many men who confuse politeness for kindness.
/r/seduction09/07/25 09:51 PM
13

It’s impossible for you to get an appropriate answer here with SO much context missing. We need to know the actual argument to be able to say who’s right and wrong or what to do in this situation. Sometimes it is okay to smear an entire group. For example, I wouldn’t date someone who tried to play devil’s advocate about the KKK. There are no redeeming qualities to people who have those beliefs, and I’m perfectly comfortable using a blanket judgement. Obviously there are far more scenarios where …
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 05:58 AM
1

No, the male red pill is completely different and we avoid those guys
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/25 06:01 AM
2

This has nothing to do with trauma. When I was younger I’d also pretend not to understand the perv jokes boys would make because they were doing it to get reactions. It was easier to pretend not to understand the joke.
/r/seduction25/06/25 01:34 PM
2

Why do hairstylists have a crazy reputation?
/r/TheRedPill24/06/25 06:05 AM
2

This actually did happen to me a few times when I dated a smaller guy. Men would literally ask for my number while I was out with him. It was extremely bizarre
/r/seduction24/06/25 05:20 AM
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They’re not filler questions at all. If anything, they’re filter questions. I don’t want to start seeing a man who just got out of a long term relationship a month ago, so I want to know that up front. I’ve found out many times on first dates that the guys are still married and haven’t even started the divorce process yet, or are still clearly hung up on their ex. Asking these questions at the start is better for everyone before feelings get involved.
/r/seduction22/06/25 10:50 PM
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Yeah, I’m a woman and I ain’t reading allat, but if a woman is saying things like this to you she doesn’t respect you and isn’t worth any of your time.
/r/seduction22/06/25 05:36 PM
2

From a woman’s perspective — date 2, nothing too extravagant like roses. Think wildflowers or grocery store cheapies
/r/seduction17/05/25 10:18 PM
5

I’m not going to meet a guy at his house before our second date. To me that would scream he wants to try and get me inside rather than actually go on a date. I don’t see why we wouldn’t just meet at the location.
/r/seduction13/05/25 03:40 AM
1

There seems to be a seemingly unlimited number of damn near perfect, drop dead gorgeous and incredibly sexy women every time I open instagram, yet not every 10 is some kind of influencer/model/striper/of/porn girl, etc, so the real number should be way bigger than the what you see. However, I hardly ever come across women of that caliber in the wild, met VERY few of those through the apps and zero in real life. And I’ve met plenty of women who in real life are completely average, but when I find…
/r/seduction11/05/25 02:46 AM
3

If my man needs “sexual variety”, I can put on a different coloured wig or wear lingerie. It doesn’t make a woman a “jealous bitch” to not want her husband having sex with someone else. That’s ridiculous.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/25 01:24 AM
8

That still doesn’t get to the meat of how the topic of a threesome came up. That’s suspicious to me
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/25 12:45 AM
16

My opinion might go against the grain here, but personally if my man asked for a threesome I would assume he didn’t think I was wife material. That just screams fuckboy who doesn’t mind risking his relationship over other women.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/25 12:44 AM
1

Pickup artists aren’t in it for the same reasons as the common man. They don’t desire a long term connection because they thrive off the continual validation from strangers. It’s actually quite dysfunctional and sad.
/r/seduction05/05/25 01:28 AM
15

Yeah, it seems like she is confusing a man’s attraction to her with masculinity and dominance, as if the two are mutually exclusive. If she thinks a man is weak because he texts back quickly and “simps” for her, she’s self-selecting for men who aren’t that interested in her and only allowing those who don’t care that much to pursue, which… they won’t, because they don’t care enough to. The problem is when you’re an attractive and intelligent woman, the pool of men who feel confident pursuing you…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/25 03:39 AM
2

Yep. I would get the ick if the man I was with got flustered around other women when we go out together. That’s so embarrassing — letting other women think they have an effect on my man’s composure. That being said, it doesn’t mean she should go back to the first guy who sounds infinitely worse. There are definitely guys to choose from who don’t do either of those things.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/25 09:16 PM
17

That’s so sweet! I like posts like this and I think more people should be sharing their marriage wins.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/25 12:29 AM
3

Have you checked out r/loveafterporn?
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/25 08:53 PM
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You’re making more assumptions than I am here. Even if OP panicked and sent multiple messages, her boyfriend at the very least could have said “You’re freaking me out with your clingy behaviour. I’m going to take a couple steps back for the duration of your trip and we can chat when you’re back.” OP already mentioned she feels like she regularly has to walk on eggshells around this man due to his volatility; this doesn’t sound like the foundation of a healthy relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/25 04:55 AM
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I am always wary of situations where you’re supposed to be having the time of your life and your partner decides to stir up drama to ruin your moment. This seems like one of those times. If I were you, I’d reevaluate whether this man is someone you want to keep in your life. This type of behaviour is manipulative and stonewalling is a form of emotional abuse.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/25 02:36 AM
5

He’s in his mid-40s and the longest relationship he’s had was ONE year??? Yeah, get out. He has serious attachment issues.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/25 04:25 AM
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I think it goes deeper than showing that you’re interesting, not predictable, and can create emotional tension. It’s more that women are looking for a man who stands firm in his own identity, because it signifies stability and safety. The kind of man who agrees with everything his woman says is the same type of coward who doesn’t stand up to his family or friends when they disrespect her, does not appear to have his own moral code, and whose opinions and emotional state is subject to the court o…
/r/seduction17/03/25 08:21 AM
5

I love this! 🥺 This paragraph stood out to me too: My brother didn’t see the quails as an imposition, or a burden, or weak. He just saw them as something that added joy to his life. He recognised that if he wanted the quails to continue to add joy to his life, he must guard them from crows, and he was happy and proud to do so.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/25 11:03 PM
19

Two key traits found in most cheaters across the board: high libido and low self-control
/r/seduction14/03/25 10:17 PM
1

When did I say to rush into cohabitation?
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/25 06:53 PM
1

Didn’t you post that they wanted you to be the side chick? Girlll
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/25 04:17 AM
2

I can’t imagine how utterly devastating it would be to share my body and intimacy with someone just for them to stop texting me or slow fade out of my life. I think some of the ladies who are constantly putting themselves in these situations are self harming. It’s a destructive behaviour to punish themselves. Not in all cases, obviously, but I’ve definitely seen it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/25 04:06 AM
1

No. There are plenty of hot guys in the sea. If I wanted that type of connection I would be able to find it on tinder in a minute. Most of the women in this community are not going to be prioritizing hookup culture or wishing they got to sleep with the hottest guys.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/25 04:03 AM
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Yep, 100%. The book should be called Why Men Marry Women Who Have a Backbone, but that’s less catchy of a title. Men value a woman who exercises her right to say NO. If you say yes to everything and bend over backwards from the start, he didn’t earn it. He wonders how many other men you are this agreeable towards and starts to doubt your ability to shut down situations that happen when he’s not around. A woman who stays firm in her own convictions is someone he knows is solid and he can trust, n…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/25 10:00 PM
2

I would love that! So cute.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/24 07:01 PM
21

No, OP keeps messaging this woman and all she is doing is clicking the heart next to the messages to acknowledge that she’s read them. OP is reading way too much into this and needs to understand that clicking like on his messages doesn’t mean send more.
/r/seduction27/11/24 12:26 AM
1

Damn, I wish I was in your city then. I’m barely attracted to most of these guys lol
/r/seduction22/11/24 03:00 AM
8

The bottom line is that a man who values you and is afraid to lose you isn’t going to risk it by saying he wants to keep making new connections with other women. Any man knows this type of behaviour would be a dealbreaker to a woman who regards themselves highly. It also reeks of his desperation to be constantly validated by other women, especially where you said he can’t help it if these women perceive it as flirting or become attracted to him because of it.
/r/RedPillWives20/11/24 06:18 PM
15

No. Never
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/24 01:24 AM
10

It’s about as sexual as Magic Mike, because as I understand there’s no nudity in that movie. You can’t get much more sexual than walking around in lacy thongs and sheer push-up bras aside from straight up porn.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 10:22 PM
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That’s like wanting to watch Magic Mike with him because you like to see Channing Tatum dance as a stripper. It’s just kinda weird.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 09:21 PM
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He’s a married asshole.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 10:55 PM
2

No man will commit to a woman if she shows signs of being disloyal or unfaithful. You might be entangling yourself with men who are only in it for the short haul and see no long term potential with you anyway, so they don’t really care what you’re doing when they aren’t around because all they want with you is sex. A man who cares about you is going to prioritize his values and if he has self respect he will walk away when you do not meet those standards.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/24 07:32 PM
2

Those are both good things, but you should still get the job situation sorted before looking to date. Priorities and whatnot.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/24 07:05 AM
1

You need to worry about putting yourself first in your personal life before thinking about how to do that in a relationship. While it’s true that most men don’t care too much about what type of job you have, they do want you to have a job. They want to see that you can hold down employment and are capable of stability in that sense, not someone who hops from job to job or is chronically unemployed, as it speaks to your character. They usually don’t care if it’s a low-paying job, though, but they…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 08:13 PM
8

What do you mean her only options are in their 30s and 40s? I’m in my 30s and not having any trouble finding men in their 20s that want to date me seriously. I’m not specifically seeking a younger man out, it’s just not a Herculean effort if I wanted to find one.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/24 10:45 PM
1

I would not continue the relationship; to me that shows a lack of integrity to promise covering the trip and then backpedaling right beforehand by asking you to pay him back. He’s also 11 years older than you and one bill set him back like that? Plus you haven’t even met the guy yet.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/24 11:31 PM
11

Never pumped gas with a man, but it’s also never been my car. My ex would just give me his debit card and let me get us snacks and drinks while he worried about the gas.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 04:43 AM
9

You don’t need to do the same as him. For most women, we want a guy who is doing better than us. It’s hard to trust a man to be a leader in the relationship and defer to his judgement when he’s doing less than you in life. I want a man who I can respect and look up to, or else I will lose the attraction quickly. Besides, most men aren’t looking for a woman to compete with anyway. You aren’t expected to be on his level.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/24 05:43 PM
53

Sorry but that just sounds sexist against men. That’s not what we do here.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 01:30 AM
23

I don’t think it was a wise idea to meet an internet stranger at your house for the first time, and it set a bad precedent. Most guys would love for their woman to cook specialty meals for them, but that’s a privilege for after they’ve earned your trust and shown they’re a good man. Now he expects you to drop your standards because you did wifey level activities for him on a first date.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/24 03:20 PM
6

I’m sorry but does this stink to anyone else? Written like a man pretending to be a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/24 02:52 AM
13

I will add that since he’s from a different culture where women aren’t expected to be enthusiastic sexual beings, he may also carry a lot of negative stereotypes in his mind about “the type” of woman OP is when she shows a lot of desire for him sexually. This may cause him to be turned off due to conflicting feelings, similar to those men with a Madonna-Whore complex.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/24 12:32 AM
1

It’s probably a multitude of factors as well. The cost of living has skyrocketed, and minimum wage jobs haven’t kept up with inflation. This means that most places are constantly hiring and those in minimum wage roles don’t worry about losing their jobs anymore, since they can stroll on over to any other retailer and get a job instantly. There’s also a huge pressure for big companies to keep making more money and impress shareholders, so they keep cutting staff while trying to maintain the same …
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/24 04:54 AM
9

He’s lying right to your face. Maybe he hasn’t had an emotional affair, maybe he hasn’t cheated, but you don’t know that. What you do know is he’s willing to lie straight to your face about his actions, and that is not a man with integrity. Like someone else commented, leave while you don’t have kids and are unmarried. This type of behaviour from a boyfriend is only going to escalate. It’s not like you’ve been married for 15 years with children and it’s a minor problem in the grand scheme of you…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 03:23 PM
3

Men don’t find their dream girl and then tell them they “aren’t in a place to commit”. If they find the one, they lock that down. Find a man who chooses you and is certain about you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 04:21 AM
6

You can’t fall in love with someone’s potential. You have to love them for what they have to offer NOW in their current circumstances, not who they might be later down the road. You are setting yourself up to be disappointed and you’re keeping your heart off the market for the next potential guy who can offer you commitment plus everything else.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/24 03:56 AM
15

You are NOT a downgrade. Remember, he chose you, not her. Maybe you have dated more conventionally attractive men in the past, but that doesn’t mean looks alone would make you feel like your current boyfriend is a downgrade, because he’s a whole person who you love and admire for more than his appearance. Also remember that another woman’s beauty isn’t the absence of your own. You have body dysmorphia so it’s likely you’re not seeing yourself as you truly are. I’m sure others think you are absol…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/24 08:21 PM
3

Sounds like he changed his mind and doesn’t feel that way anymore. If he wants you, you’ll know. If he doesn’t, you’ll be confused.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/24 03:27 AM
5

I would recommend taking the timeline off of your goal here. You’re obviously an ambitious and accomplished woman, so understandably you have a timeline for when you want to achieve something, but love doesn’t really work the same way as how we can structure our professional life. If you stress about doing things by a certain time, you are going to force a square into a round hole. You’re still young and have plenty of fertile years ahead of you. Don’t rush or worry too much about the timing. Ev…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/24 02:22 AM
3

You got surgically enhanced features that you paid money for those parts of you to look better than the average woman’s. It’s not a surprise that they are now “beautiful” features — you didn’t pay all that money for your nose and lips to look plain. You paid for them to be perfect. I would work on the self esteem and take the compliments for what they are.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/24 07:08 AM
5

Are they strange, though? Maybe they just want to be original instead of the same old “you’re gorgeous” that every woman gets a million times. Maybe they want to point out certain features because it shows they’re paying attention. Who knows. I’ve only gotten a compliment on my nose once from a guy, and it was a Brazilian guy I went on a couple dates with. I’m assuming it’s because I have a small ski slope nose and the women from his culture are possibly less likely to have that type of nose, so…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/24 05:47 AM
16

To be honest I think the repeating of “none of your business” comes across as rude and doesn’t foster a healthy connection with someone. If I was dating a man non-exclusively and that was his way of communicating that he was going on a date with someone else, I would find it much more disrespectful than if he just told me straight up he had plans with another woman.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/24 04:21 AM
5

Yes, this behaviour has no place in a healthy relationship. When someone cares more about being the one who’s right (or the victim) rather than thinking about how to solve the problem at hand, the relationship is doomed.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 11:03 PM
1

It’s also triangulation, involving a third party in the private business of the relationship to bolster his side of the argument. I think most relationship problems should remain private unless abuse or something serious is going on. By private I mean not sharing with friends and family, but asking for anonymous advice online is fine. I just think getting those close to you involved in private matters is disrespectful when most things should stay between the couple. In my late teens and early 20…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 08:55 PM
7

Yes, of course it exists. The reason some people grow old and bitter about having a string of relationships where they were treated poorly is because they don’t know how to set boundaries or see red flags. If you have a traumatic upbringing it’s a lot easier to excuse red flags or assume it’s how love is supposed to be, just because the caregivers in your life mistreated you. But if you know what to avoid and cut someone off at the first sign of toxic behaviour, you’ll make room for someone else…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 05:31 PM
35

That’s why I always advocate for living together before marriage. There are so many things you simply can’t know about your partner’s habits until you live together. Someone can be perfect in every way until you’re sharing the same roof and turns out they’re lazy as heck.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/24 05:54 AM
5

How old are your children? At some point, they’re going to see the way he treats you and that is going to be their model for how to treat their future partners, or what they should expect love is when they’re mistreated by their partners. It’s never a good idea to stay together for the kids when your partner lacks empathy for you and gaslights you (emotional abuse). This is the lens they will carry and see through for the rest of their adult lives.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/24 01:23 AM
3

She posts about being a sugar baby and being a mistress to married men. Her whole schtick is calculating her moves. Maybe if she tried an actual genuine relationship without ulterior motives she wouldn’t be running into guys that treat her like a transaction.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 08:01 PM
3

It’s not something I would bring up, but if I suspected it was a problem I likely would. Guys who watch too much porn usually have trouble staying hard and have less desire for intimacy with a partner. It’s something I would prefer to be left out of a relationship. Studies even show that men who consume porn are less happy with their partner’s body and find their partner less sexually desirable. I personally don’t think it’s healthy for a man to watch it, the same way I don’t think it’s healthy …
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 02:38 AM
9

Therapy. At age 20 I also had a snappy attitude and wasn’t able to properly get a handle on it when I would become overstimulated (autism). I started going to therapy to hold myself accountable and be a better person. You will lose your boyfriend if you keep up that behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 11:37 PM
12

Women don’t just up and leave a perfect relationship after 10 years. He’s not being honest, or he genuinely wasn’t listening to her when she told him why she wasn’t happy. Neither of those things are a good sign for his emotional maturity.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 08:43 PM
7

She probably expected a ring before 10 years in and he dangled commitment in her face for that long before she got fed up and left.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 08:42 PM
14

Not always — when I was young I dated a guy who was well endowed and we never got past that no matter how turned on I was. It would always tear me open and I ended up avoiding sex with him because it was horrible. It was one of the reasons our relationship fell apart.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 07:31 PM
3

10 days of chatting with no date offer means he’s not that interested. If he was simply obtuse (which doesn’t make sense at his big age) he would have replied to you asking for a date.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 06:22 AM
1

My sister earns a really good salary and she finds that when she dates men who do less and make less, it literally brings out the worst in them because they don’t feel like they’re worthy or can contribute in the ways they’re used to (or socialized to). It’s really hard for a man to feel dominant or in charge when his woman is the breadwinner. I’m sure there are exceptions where it works, but it isn’t the rule.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 07:37 PM
37

I don’t think it’s appropriate for him to have even mentioned her looks. If he didn’t already make that comment, I would probably be fine with the one on one studying, but the fact he randomly brought up to you that she’s beautiful? Sounds like he’s trying to instigate jealousy in you, and that’s petty. He probably would not be okay with you saying you’re going to spend alone time with a handsome colleague.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 07:04 PM
1

That’s wonderful!! Happy for you!! Also, even if they picked up on your nervousness, that’s a GOOD thing. It shows to them that you care about making an impression, and you want them to like you. By extension, that shows how much you care for their son. :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 05:54 PM
1

That’s amazing!! How did the lunch date go?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 04:40 PM
3

Bring freshly squeezed juice or another type of non-alcoholic drink that’s a little classier than your standard virgin drink. Maybe sparkling cider or pear juice. Or make a dessert (if they aren’t already serving one). Just be yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/24 02:43 AM
10

Why do you need to tell your boyfriend about guys you’ve flirted with or kissed before? I wouldn’t want my man bringing up random women like that either. It’s just unnecessary and makes it sound like you’re still reminiscing, or worse, trying to make him jealous on purpose.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 09:59 PM
2

Yep. OP seems to have gathered from my comment that I’m reducing people down to a subscription service (??), but that makes no sense. My point is that you can’t truly know someone until you’re waking up every day beside them and ending your day together, seeing their regular habits in real time and not the picture perfect house you might walk into every time you come over when you’re not cohabiting. There’s a lot you can hide about your lifestyle and bad habits when you’re just inviting your gir…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 04:44 PM
3

I am a firm believer in cohabiting before marriage. I truly believe you cannot know a person fully until you live with them. You don’t know their annoying habits, how the household workload will be divided, the things they do late at night, etc. If you don’t want to move in before a plan is set in place for your future, get engaged first (with a ring, none of that promise BS). Other people are saying that other cultures are proof that you should get married before living together, but what does …
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 04:15 AM
11

You have been dating for 6 months and he doesn’t know your financial situation? That’s what you need to discuss. You said he’s happy to pay for everything but you pay for dates when you suggest the idea. How about letting him know you can’t actually afford to go out without him paying? I’m in the same boat; life is expensive these days and if I have to pay for dates I literally cannot afford to date anyone. It’s just not feasible and I don’t spend that kind of money on myself anyway. That defini…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 03:40 PM
15

I got one of those pink satin Victoria’s Secret style robes. Also I think the matching royal blue satin pj button up top and shorts are sexy!
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 06:11 AM
3

Yeah. 26 isn’t old, and I’m not shaming him for wanting to party, but a whole day every week of that type of behaviour would get old very quickly. I think you’re just not at the same stage in life and it’s probably best to move on.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 12:21 AM
6

Yuck. Even if a guy didn’t live with me, knowing he spends an entire day every week just getting drunk and high would be too much of a turn off. He sounds immature.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 12:09 AM
5

Most guys will want to have their friends over. Is it the idea of people in your house that’s the problem, or is it specifically his friends that bother you?
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 11:47 PM
6

No, you did the right thing by breaking it off. A man who sees a future with you will actively talk about it, not shy away from discussing it. And at 26 years old and 4 years in, he’s old enough and mature enough to move in with you but is avoiding the topic.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 11:46 PM
2

When I first lived with a partner at 19, that’s what we did. 70/30 for rent and he paid all the bills and food. I did the cooking and cleaning. It was an amazing setup that worked for both of us. He would rather have home cooked meals ready for him and a clean apartment and pay the bills rather than take the time to do domestic labour. It just depends on your situation and it sounds like your boyfriend is happy to make it work.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 09:59 PM
9

Yeah, no, I still disagree. No one who’s married needs to be texting their exes out of the blue, but especially to say “I’m not over you”. If he chose to get married while not resolving his feelings about an ex, that’s his problem he should have dealt with either alone or in therapy with a professional. There’s absolutely no need for him to step outside the boundaries of his marriage to talk about lingering feelings for his ex. I feel like I’m in the twilight zone reading this advice. 😵‍💫
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 07:33 PM
3

Please do NOT send this to him. Just block him. It says more about you (I don’t mean this in a rude way) that he has this hold over you when he treats women this poorly. He is stepping out of his marriage and betraying another woman just to get attention. A man of this character is not “the one who got away”. You are drawn to toxic traits and that’s something you have to work on. Again, do NOT entertain him and help him participate in what he is hoping will be an extramarital emotional affair.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 05:37 PM
14

It’s not a gender exclusive thing. If you’re very attractive, a lot of married scum will act single around you and try to cheat on their partners. There are scummy cheaters out there who will take the first opportunity to do so. The women who are happily married and not scum aren’t the ones going up to you to chat at parties, so of course those ones aren’t on your radar anyway.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/24 02:16 AM
1

3 months max
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 05:37 AM
26

Guys who are younger than middle aged and can’t sustain an erection are usually jerking off too much. Maybe he should worry about his erectile dysfunction rather than blame you.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 09:29 PM
6

Exactly. The craziest part is, his mother and aunt are telling her to leave and telling her he’s not treating her right!! Parents have an instinctual “obligation” to defend their children, and oftentimes create mental gymnastics in their own minds as to why their child’s behaviour is acceptable. They can’t even do that because they see how abusive he is.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 07:52 PM
9

I disagree. It would be one thing if he didn’t already say he was going to take her out, but it’s a weird bait and switch to tell her he’s taking her to dinner and then all of a sudden he “doesn’t buy dinner for people he doesn’t know”.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 01:10 AM
3

She’s doing way too much and being too aggressive. He’s taking 10 hours to reply and being dry as hell. In my experience when people do this it’s because they’re trying to phase you out but can’t use their words. Save your pride and walk away.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/24 04:10 PM
19

Yes, this is central to our desire. It is very hard to feel safe with a man who is unpredictable and emotionally absent. When we are with a man who is a good leader has a track record of continually making positive decisions for himself and the relationship, and that allows us to relax and completely trust our man to fill that role.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/24 09:59 PM
10

Exactly. It sounds like she needs to do the work to untangle the attraction to men who are like that. It honestly sounds like the female version of the Madonna-whore complex. Nice guy = sexually uninteresting Aggressive guy = sexually attractive. I know a lot of women like this and it makes me feel lucky that I only get turned on by super sweetheart softy types.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/24 11:45 PM
9

No, that’s totally different. It’s one thing to date a man who’s out of school or didn’t go to school and hops between minimum wage jobs, but he’s not that. He’s a student, and it’s expected that he will be broke. Working and going to school is tough. The original post made him kinda sound like a bum, but he’s a super hard working guy. That says a lot about his character (in a good way).
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 09:15 PM
3

Agree to disagree, but I’m not the person who is deciding on whether to take that offer. But whatever makes people happy..
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/24 05:53 PM
5

Yes, and? There are plenty of men who have money and live in nice homes… but don’t get disillusioned thinking they’re all good people. I’d rather have a man with much less but is selfless and doesn’t nickel and dime me.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/24 02:30 PM
19

No it’s not; she was getting a way better deal only worrying about her own food and rent and cleaning a small apartment. Now she pays $500 less but with stipulations that she has to “take care of him”, cook, clean a huge mansion, take care of his kids… that labour alone is worth more than $500 and he knows it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/24 02:46 AM
39

Even worse. He has the means to buy a million dollar home in cash but insists she do all this free labour and pay him rent… greedy as hell.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/24 02:44 AM
61

You’re paying $1k “rent” (aka paying off his mortgage), cleaning the mansion, cooking for him, and taking care of his kids mostly by yourself… and you think you’re the one getting a deal? He’s completely taking advantage.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/24 01:50 AM
1

In the nicest way possible, you don’t seem to have a lot of respect for yourself. If you did, you’d be appalled at a man treating you this way and it would not feel like love. You won’t gain a single thing but more misery if you go back to him. Focus on you, your hobbies, friendships, and the cliched therapy suggestion. You do have to get to the bottom of why you are looking back so fondly on an abusive man so that you don’t fall for the same things in the next guy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/24 12:30 AM
41

How does he check all your boxes when he can’t even do the bare minimum which is commit to one woman? It’s not like you’re 3 months in and pressuring him to propose. He can’t even commit to being your boyfriend, which is basically no sacrifice on his part aside from the fact he can’t sleep with other women. There is a reason the 40 year old man with commitment issues is seeking out 25 year old women. Women his age don’t spend a long time playing those types of games and leave quickly once they r…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/24 03:27 AM
10

I don’t mean this to sound rude, but your husband has absolutely zero incentive to not sleep with other women when seemingly there are no consequences for that behaviour. You keep taking him back…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/24 02:00 AM
3

Seriously. This post is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read. Cowardly af
/r/TheRedPill08/03/24 07:36 AM
2

I completely agree but was scared to say it. The last time I said something like that on a post it got removed for being critical
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/24 12:22 AM
2

Aside from the 1% of sociopathic people, it’s hard to imagine a man would go about his life looking for ways to personally destroy women by “pumping and dumping” them. Immature men with low self-control exist, and they probably try to have sex with every woman, but that doesn’t mean they’re doing it out of maliciousness. They just don’t care about who they hurt by sleeping around. It does us no favours to mischaracterize that behaviour as if they are doing it as an act of misogyny.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/24 10:22 PM
6

You’re right, I totally misread it. She started to see issues at 4 months in when she was already pregnant. Same situation, just now years down the line with a baby in the picture. OP is in a really tough spot.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/24 11:31 PM
1

A relationship without sex is a friendship. You can’t marry a man you aren’t sexually compatible with — that’s just going to lead to a friendship with extra steps that leads to resentment. And if you stay in a relationship with a man who makes you feel less than desired, you’re probably going to collect emotional baggage along the way that impacts your self-esteem. I’m not saying you should start anything with your coworker, because that would be unwise, but that doesn’t mean your current partne…
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/24 11:09 PM
7

They have been together for 4 months and she’s already pregnant, yet knows he’s a hardworking father with so many good qualities. Like what? You have to walk before you run, and there’s no way she can know much about a guy she’s only been with for 4 months. I think this is well above our pay grade.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/24 10:53 PM
5

Your ex got back with his ex before he dated you, meaning he had unresolved feelings for her that didn’t go away during your relationship. I think that’s a sign in itself that it was never meant to be between you two. You were together for 4 years and lived together for 3 — and yet now just a couple years later he’s already married to someone else. My point is that when a man knows a woman is the one, he knows. He had plenty of time to decide during those years with you to marry you, yet he did …
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 07:42 PM
3

I don’t believe in the ridiculousness of the term “Alpha Widow”. There is no such thing as a man who is so “alpha” that he permanently changes a woman’s psychology and she can never be attracted to anyone less “alpha” again. The reality of the situation is that we’re probably discussing a type of woman with abandonment issues or attachment issues who clings onto the past in an unhealthy manner. Well-adjusted women don’t spend months, years, or a lifetime in that mindset; it’s downright pathetic …
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 01:14 AM
7

I would let it go, personally. It doesn’t sound like he’s all that interested in anything more than sex anyway. Your first deep conversation was sex related, he tried to jump your leg before you guys even kissed (WTF? Learn some self control dude)… it’s ridiculous that he’s 40 and wouldn’t even make the first move properly. Plus, it also sounds like you are both too busy to make the time for each other. When both parties have high powered careers it’s hard to carve out quality time.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 10:29 PM
1

It’s a common joke amongst young women for a reason, but yeah, the 40 year old guy at the club filled with 19-25 year olds is usually considered creepy. There’s always that one guy or one group of older creeps that hit on women half their age who are just trying to dance. It’s not a good look.
/r/seduction18/02/24 05:37 AM
16

I’d say neither. It sounds like you’re lukewarm about guy #1 at best, and #2 is just obviously a no because he told you straight up he won’t give you what you need.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 03:39 AM
3

Omissions about what?
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 03:06 AM
4

I think you should give examples then, because it’s not immediately clear how your type A personality is getting in the way of things in the early stages, and most of the people trying to give advice are talking about more serious situations.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/24 02:56 AM
20

You’re probably just a pushover more than anything. People will walk all over you if you let them. Doing a 180 and being a bitch is a bad move too, and usually women that default to that route to get their needs met haven’t learned diplomacy. When all else is equal, the woman who is personable is going to attain whatever “privilege” there is to be gained from said interaction. Some of the plainest looking women have the most charisma and that gets them pretty far in life, especially socially and…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 10:46 PM
3

I agree with your point and want to add the sentiment that not only will your man not see you as intelligent if you commandeer everything, but he will feel a lack of respect for his own intelligence. I’m not going to date a man I need to speak down to, correct, monitor every action, or double check that he’s doing what he’s supposed to. I’m going to choose a capable man who I can trust knows what he hell he’s doing. And NO man wants to be made to feel like he’s stupid.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 08:45 PM
22

I don’t really have any advice, but I’m just chiming in to echo the sentiment that I wouldn’t be relaxed about this either. A man with a partner should know to automatically shut down sex gossip with a colleague, but especially a female colleague that he mentions is attractive. That’s far beyond any boundary he should be having with another female friend, let alone a coworker. The fact that he allowed it to continue for that long and only started walking away (or saying he did) once you brought …
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 02:32 AM
14

Exactly. She’s paying off a property that isn’t hers and has been brainwashed into being grateful for it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 08:33 PM
43

WHAT? It’s not even a joint property and he’s talking about how he takes care of you fully? He’s making you pay off his house… even most 50/50 boyfriends wouldn’t make you do that.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 06:35 PM
28

Yep, he’s treating her like a paid employee, not a wife.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 06:25 PM
1

I think you’re burying the lede here a bit. Unless you got together when you were 15, why is a man who has been with you for 7 years not making any moves to live together or get married? You’re not the one?
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 10:57 PM
4

What? You’re going into dating with the assumption that a man will betray you. This mindset is guaranteed to cause fights at the very least. You’re going to be exhausting to a good, honest man. A man who doesn’t cheat isn’t going to put up with a woman who constantly harasses him about it. You know which type of men love that negative attention? Scummy cheating guys who need multiple women fighting over them. That’s the type of guy you’ll attract.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 12:22 AM
9

All you’re going to accomplish is driving away sane and stable men because you’re the crazy one, punishing them with loyalty tests because you have trust issues. I can assure you that no one feels good when they do everything right and their partner still treats them like they’re suspicious. You need to let your guard down or you’ll self-sabotage your future relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 12:19 AM
6

If he isn’t watching alarming content, doesn’t display other behaviours that show he objectifies women, and still has the same healthy libido as usual, STFU. It’s already embarrassing enough for a guy to have his porn history seen, so if it isn’t causing relationship problems, he doesn’t need the grief. I would recommend checking out r/loveafterporn and see if you identify with any of the stories on that subreddit. If nothing is striking a chord with you, you just have a regular dude with a high…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 06:03 AM
24

I think you are trying to rank and categorize these men based on certain attributes and that’s less helpful than just looking for someone with a good heart. Especially as an autistic woman, you need to be careful not to let someone into your life that will take advantage of you in any way. Men who are partying, doing drugs, wild past, anger issues, racist jokes, etc. are not ones you should spend time around. Unless you are struggling financially, you really shouldn’t focus on the salary. There …
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 03:53 AM
4

You can’t inspire leadership in a man who, at his core, thinks he doesn’t deserve you. He looks at you and all he sees are the ways in which he doesn’t stack up to the other guys you’ve dated in the past or the type of man he thinks you actually should be with. It won’t feel like pulling teeth to get the right man to show up for you in the ways you need him to.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 11:13 PM
5

I’m not speaking of how adults should behave. Yes, he had sex and he was responsible for any outcome that came of that. That being said, he’s made it very clear he doesn’t want any part of this. Instead of continuing the pregnancy with the hopes of him turning around the moment her son/daughter is born, she needs to set herself up for the reality of the situation, and that being she has herself a man who she thought was calm and sweet and turned out to be nasty as soon as she got pregnant. It’s …
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 05:02 AM
6

I bet he’s feeling babytrapped as hell right now.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 04:11 AM
15

You should also prepare to raise a child with zero involvement whatsoever from him. Start accepting the idea of a narrative you will tell your child that includes not having a father (without villainizing him and distorting your child’s development and view of relationships). It’s fine to want to keep this baby, you just need to drop the expectations that this man will stick around. He’s already saying he won’t.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 04:10 AM
3

If that girl is really that attractive then you shouldn’t be embarrassed. Men fumble all over their words all the time when they talk to beautiful women; I’m sure she is used to seeing guys fall apart in front of her. She might even find it cute or endearing that you were awkward around her. You’re only human, man
/r/TheRedPill26/01/24 06:30 AM
2

I would start by asking yourself why you don’t feel comfortable being compensated for the time, money, and wear spent on your car for the 4 hours (both ways) you’re driving to see him. If you always had to travel to see a platonic friend, wouldn’t you hope they did something similar for you because they’re a friend? Maybe not specifically gas money, but some kind of favour to compensate the fact that you are spending 4 hours on the drive alone just to be with them. Your boyfriend gave you money …
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/24 05:57 AM
2

You know those guys that are almost annoying because of how much they like you? To the point where you’re questioning if you even like them? You gotta get over that feeling of the guy being “too much” for you, especially if you are insecure. Insecure people can easily be turned off by a guy who is 100% all-in, because it makes them question why a great guy would be so invested in them in the first place. My mom is like this and she has blocked her own blessings many times by amazing men who trea…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 01:17 AM
20

That was a beautiful story, and you shouldn’t feel like you disrespected her or her body at all. It was equally her choice to share her intimacy with you and both of you grew together and learned a lot. Maybe she wouldn’t be in the amazing marriage she is now if she didn’t go through her training wheels with you. You are a good man.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/24 09:42 AM
12

I agree. A man who makes 400k a year can “afford” a lot of optionality when it comes to women, but it doesn’t necessarily mean better quality. Men who earn that much have to vet for authenticity because there are a lot of women who don’t want anything but their money. If they want to date a woman who is extremely attractive, they’re also dealing with a separate set of issues such as filtering out women who spend their lives on social media, are extremely vain and one-dimensional, validation-seek…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 05:13 AM
10

You’re a 99% woman who found a 1% man. You need to find a man that is bringing all of his energy to you the way you are currently doing for your boyfriend. It feels wrong because it is wrong; you’re being taken advantage of.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 02:11 AM
15

Exactly. It’s not at all fair to her husband that she holds up a ghost on a pedestal. It’s too easy to look back in the light of nostalgia and only see the good, especially if it was a young love and no serious betrayals occurred. She is romanticizing the past when there’s a reason that boyfriend didn’t make it to the next chapter of her life. If I were in OPs shoes I’d be imagining my husband having these longing thoughts about a past lover, and hopefully that should immediately quash those day…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 05:18 AM
2

That’s awesome! I’ve noticed I’ve become much less of a pessimist over the years by just reminding myself of the things in life I should be grateful for, of which there are many. It never helps to dwell on what you don’t have or wallow in self pity about the hardships you’re facing. And yeah, I love getting stats about relationships because they are an objective look on what the right action to take is when faced with a relationship/interpersonal conflict. Plus, for some reason they stick in my …
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/24 12:45 AM
3

What about a gratitude journal? It sounds cliche, but it helps tremendously to keep a reminder of what you should cherish. Negativity always outweighs positivity, and I believe the official statistic is that for every one negative interaction with your partner you need at least seven positive ones. You have to keep your outlook towards your partner positive at all times unless they seriously deserve to be treated otherwise, and it sounds like you have been lucky for years that your man has not b…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 09:17 PM
54

I’m the same way. There is nothing more disgusting than a man with a high body count who is shaming women for the same behaviour. Most women who value intimacy are looking for men who place the same value on it, not a man who goes wherever his lust takes him. That is not a strong man.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 08:23 PM
10

It sounds like some of the relationship advice posts I read where the guy ends up being closeted transgender or gay (but I really doubt he’s gay considering all of his affection towards OP).
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 06:43 PM
2

Yes, if I were a man dating OP I would consider this to be a big red flag. 28 isn’t running out of time, and no one wants to worry about getting baby trapped.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 05:38 PM
3

You’re afraid of men telling you that being a SAHM is anti-feminist? Why would you listen to a man trying to tell you the proper way to be a woman? Feminism is about having the right to choose the path you take in life, even if it means relying on a man.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/24 08:22 PM
1

Yeah, that’s weird. I’d question if he was even interested
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 05:13 AM
7

Yeah, it seems like everyone is brushing OP off and saying he comes home to her, so it doesn’t matter who he confides in. Strongly disagree. Depending on who he’s actually confiding in, another woman being his shoulder to lean on when he’s fighting with OP just leaves the door wide open for an emotional affair to begin. Not cool for him to be secretive about it like that, even if he’s angry and wants her to hurt.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 12:01 AM
13

I think this should be one of those letters you write out to yourself for cathartic purposes and just burn. Let the past go. The letter still has a lot of bitterness and resentment (as you are perfectly within your right to feel for however long you wish), and it’s just not going to get any result that won’t make you feel worse. She’s probably going to see this letter as actively hostile and possibly respond in kind, and that will not do you any good. I know it really eats at you that you can’t …
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 05:00 AM
1

Just talk to other women until you decide you want her to be your girlfriend. Or if you’re catching feelings then tell her you want exclusivity before you get your knickers in a knot seeing her text other guys.
/r/TheRedPill17/12/23 02:52 AM
4

It sounds like you don’t actually like him that much, otherwise you wouldn’t keep looking around for a different guy every time he pops back into your life. You can’t convince yourself to like someone just because it sounds good on paper.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/23 04:38 AM
7

I don’t take everything as gospel, I’m just here as a reminder to stay in my feminine in my future relationships. I have a tendency to be more dominant in relationships and it just doesn’t work out because it’s just not conducive to keeping a man attracted to me and happy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 04:35 AM
7

A man’s value has nothing to do with how many women he sleeps with. A man with strong sexual discipline is considered high value to me, not one who slings his dick at any hole.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 05:29 PM
26

I don’t really see how a 29 year old man reaches a body count of 100 unless he’s treating women like sexual conquests or addicted to sexual novelty. I would take it as a huge red flag that he’s either going to get bored or cheat. 100 is an absurd number at any age, but especially 29!
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 01:37 AM
21

Except a nervous, shaking, crying person isn’t going to be safer even if they’re lighter. The more calm and collected one should be doing the roof work, and I’m not sure why he was content to just putter about seeing how much anxiety she had about it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 09:22 PM
1

Not really. Would you really want a man stringing you along because he felt bad he didn’t like you as much as he thought he would? Best to exit the moment you know there’s no connection.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 07:23 PM
30

I have a hard time giving advice to you because it doesn’t even sound like your man cares about you or your baby. I am sorry, I don’t think there’s a happy ending when it comes to such a blatant lack of respect. A good man wouldn’t treat his woman or family like that.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/23 08:28 PM
33

This should really be its own post, because I see this all the time on here too — really young women (usually) getting stuck in borderline abusive situations because they were under the impression that their only role was to find a man who is “dominant” and led the relationship. There are way too many men out there who have no desire to give back and are more than happy to have a submissive woman to control, and it’s going to cause a lot of trauma to those women if they aren’t vetting properly.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 10:41 PM
30

He’s 26 and he still can’t handle the idea of being with a woman who isn’t a virgin? The only excuse for this is if he is also a virgin. It’s not like you got ran through by a train of men, you even said yourself you have a low body count. He’s immature. That being said, stop telling guys you date about your sexual history. Do you really want your man to have that mental imagery in his mind?
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/23 12:46 AM
3

Let him be the one to make that move. Don’t take that special moment away from him. Men do not like to feel like the woman is the one setting the pace of the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/23 12:02 AM
9

You didn’t really explain what your issues are or give examples of problems that have arisen in your marriage, so it’s hard to give advice.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/23 06:00 AM
22

I love this comment. We should think more highly of men rather than coddle them.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/23 03:12 AM
8

It was. A normal man with good intentions doesn’t say things such as that he sees a serious future with you after just 1.5 weeks. However, a man who is love bombing you in order to speed up the pace of intimacy would absolutely say and do whatever it takes to gain access to your body. Don’t get swept up in big emotions when you first meet someone. Anyone can promise anything when you barely know them and they haven’t put in the time and effort to prove they are worth your intimacy.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/23 02:38 AM
7

Exactly. He needs to dump her so she can find a man who’s not thinking about fucking other women.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/23 07:36 PM
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She’s out here commenting sexual things about every man’s penis on Reddit but can’t even compliment her own man. 🙄🙄🙄
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 03:46 AM
3

Literally wondering why OP is even here considering she doesn’t share any of the RPW values
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 02:23 AM
3

Foul as hell. Her bf should leave asap.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/23 02:22 AM
2

If you are dating a man who is pursuing you with intent, you should not be feeling anxiety as he will make his feelings clear. It should be a sign to yourself that something isn’t right if you’re feeling anxious all the time with a man.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 02:16 AM
47

Good men are hard to find, so be patient. Good women are also hard to find, so focus on being a good one and the right man will find you. Don’t settle in the meantime and collect baggage from fuckboys, or their bad influences will impact your chances to stay emotionally healthy for when the right person comes along.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/23 12:06 AM
1

Wait, what? Why would you be upset that other women want him but he chose you? That should make you feel special, not worthless. It’d be different if he was actively disrespecting you by entertaining the flirtatious attempts other women solicit, but it doesn’t sound like he’s doing that. Go show off your man and be proud.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 09:07 PM
3

I would say this list is probably pretty universal and not just exclusive to women. These are traits everyone hopes to find in a partner. Perhaps women don’t prioritize finding a nurturing, homemaking man as much as a man would in a woman, though. And I’m sure men do not place as much priority on career status or finding a woman who out-earns them.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/23 03:11 AM
2

I was scrolling for this comment. Of course there can be many healthy reasons a guy would get into serious weightlifting, but OP should also evaluate whether she’s said or done anything to make her husband feel insecure about his body. Even if it’s a simple thing like following hot male fitness models or something, he will take notice and possible feel inadequate.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/23 02:23 AM
9

Exactly. If we’re going to pretend a very large subset of men don’t have sadistic fantasies, we may as well be burying our heads in the sand. It doesn’t take long on the front page of a porn site seeing words like “teen girl violated”, “punished”, “destroyed”, etc. used to describe sex. It’s very popular. It’s doubly concerning if a man could actually get hard in real life from his partner crying, not just an acted out porn fantasy…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 12:35 AM
5

I would be extremely worried if I was dating a man who became sexually aroused at me CRYING. That’s not normal no matter what anyone says.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 12:32 AM
2

He pays for escorts yet never even bought you gifts? That shows where his priorities are. Besides, even if he bought you everything you ever wanted, you don’t want a man who pays for sex. Huge mistake!
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 02:33 AM
33

Any man saying “I don’t want to date you because you only have a bachelors degree” is making up an excuse because he doesn’t find you attractive. What utter bullshit that he made you think it was your education level.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/23 07:22 PM
2

In a previous relationship of mine, my boyfriend purchased the groceries and I did the cooking. It worked beautifully.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/23 12:09 AM
4

Bad, honestly not someone I think is worth keeping. A woman of that age shouldn’t be acting so childish and trying to get a rise out of you. She doesn’t respect you.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/23 03:33 AM
2

Be honest with yourself. You’re worried she will hang with a group of guys around her own age and develop a deeper connection. If you act immature and jealous over petty things, she might as well date someone younger at the same maturity level. Be an adult and let her be one too, she’ll respect you way more.
/r/TheRedPill03/11/23 03:11 AM
1

I don’t really see how asking your man if he needs or wants anything is considered mothering. Your man should be going out of his way to meet your needs, yet no one considers that “fathering”.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 01:22 AM
1

You deserve it. Is your wife neurotypical? Do you feel like your autism holds you back in any ways with your emotional relationship?
/r/TheRedPill25/10/23 05:43 AM
39

It’s probably that plus these guys have an underlying issue that premeditated the obsessive pickup artistry, such as sex addiction. Most mentally normal men don’t find endless satisfaction in the hunt if they are successful, and by that I mean going to clubs every weekend, cold approaching women on the street, etc. That is an intense amount of work, and the only men who feel the need to do it have an underlying drive that one consistent sexual partner cannot validate.
/r/seduction25/10/23 02:35 AM
4

Wow, amazing write up. I’m so sick and tired of seeing defeatist posts on Reddit about guys who try a couple times at life and just give up, expecting everyone else to throw them a pity party in the comments. You really STEPPED UP. I don’t know many people in this life that would keep trying after failing so many times. And all those new environment changes for an autistic man? That’s a level of dedication I can’t begin to comprehend. Hats off to you!!!
/r/TheRedPill25/10/23 02:24 AM
1

Well obviously this would be a discussion they would have to have. It would be strange to operate without communication when an issue arises.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 06:59 PM
8

Is he financially very comfortable? Why not outsource the labour if that’s the case? Everyone is only ever going to get 80% of what they need from their soulmate; no one can meet 100% of your needs. If he’s perfect in every area except this, you should do a portion of the cleaning and let him “take care of” the rest with his money. Some men just really do not want to clean, but work hard to make their woman happy in every other way they can.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 08:06 AM
10

This should be a dealbreaker unless there’s a lot he’s doing for you that you didn’t mention in your post. For example, being the sole provider, never asking you to lift a finger when it comes to the bill, chauffeuring you when you need it, emotional support, getting up at a moments notice to help you, etc. If he’s only lazy in this one regard, use his money to pay for a maid. If he’s lazy in multiple areas of the relationship, exit immediately.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 05:18 AM
3

Fucking with women’s mental state for fun? You sound like you’re the one with the personality disorder. Like attracts like
/r/TheRedPill14/10/23 03:24 PM
5

If he can’t even make simple plans when he’s long distance and should be aching to be with you, where will his initiative be when you’re married, living together, and he takes your presence for granted? He’s just going to be that same man who sits back and lets you do all of the heavy lifting in the relationship. Think about what that means when shared household duties are necessary, or even when a kid enters the picture. A man should be busting his ass before marriage in order to show he is hus…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/23 03:58 PM
2

It sounds like you just have a terrible radar for vetting mentally unstable women, so you keep ending up in insane situations. Wow dude
/r/TheRedPill11/10/23 07:03 PM
4

Rapist vibes from this post. You clearly twist scenarios where women do NOT want anything to do with you and pretend these women secretly want you to have sex with them. You even mentioned wanting to do it but not wanting to “catch a rape charge”. Get therapy
/r/TheRedPill11/10/23 06:09 PM
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The best solution is to start finding personality traits attractive in men, not just their appearance. Looks will always fade — how would you feel if your husband divorced you in the future because the simple aging process caused him to find you ugly? Humans are wired to find those similar in attractiveness level also attractive (enough). The other solution which is less easy is to put in hot girl effort. Wake up an hour earlier every day, do your hair and makeup consistently, get your shape rig…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/23 02:36 AM
5

The type of man to beg and pressure you into allowing him to sleep with other women is also the type to do it anyway behind your back if you don’t allow it. He just doesn’t want the pressure of needing to be sneaky about it, and doesn’t respect you whatsoever, which is why he feels bold enough to verbalize these desires. Don’t you think it would be disrespectful to him if you were begging him to have sex with other men?
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/23 12:48 AM
90

He doesn’t like you, never will. A man that values you will never do anything to jeopardize the connection, yet he’s willfully been ignoring you for years. The only thing he cares to see is that you still swipe on him despite his poor treatment every time you match. Let this one go.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 10:30 PM
11

This answer is the best. The women who are saying men need to open up to other men instead of women are talking about non-SOs. The entire purpose of being a girlfriend or wife is to be that emotional support pillar for your man. That’s our greatest strength in a relationship. It doesn’t mean we need to lend that out to any man that asks for it, and the problem is that many do. There are plenty of men who have little to no capacity to be there when a woman they know is having a tough time emotion…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 09:18 PM
10

How long between the last date you had with her and your next text asking about Sunday? If she had a great time with you and went above and beyond expressing her attraction to you like it sounds like she did, she expects a text as soon as she gets home. If you wait a day or two to text after a great date she’s going to be pissed and assume you are on different pages.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/23 01:55 PM
6

Is it really healthy to be spending 7 days a week with a guy you’ve only been dating 2 months? This is screaming codependency.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 08:09 PM
2

It’s not (necessarily) magical thinking — when you post your SO on social media or start sharing about them with friends, it has the potential of shifting the relationship dynamic. Suddenly this public announcement makes things “official”, and that can scare the other person even if they thought they were ready.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/23 02:08 AM
14

He told you straight to your face that he’s directly testing how much disrespect you’ll tolerate from him. It’s up to you to decide that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 01:38 AM
3

This is the only way to look at it, otherwise go date an average man that you don’t have to worry about being desirable to the competition. It’s lame how people will go for someone attractive but use their insecurities as an excuse to be controlling or jealous. I’m not saying OP is being these things specifically, but it’s pretty common. Can’t have your cake and eat it too.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 06:16 AM
6

I don’t see how it makes sense to listen to a woman who complains and argues all the time when we’re here to learn how to be more feminine and soft. You are what you consume
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 12:29 AM
46

Only a few dates in and you were already telling him your trauma and having talks about consistency in communication? I’m not surprised he didn’t see a future. It should be a breeze in this stage of dating, and tbh you sound like a difficult person.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 02:20 PM
5

I think OP just can’t stand to look at himself through her eyes because he knows he’s the loser, so he resents her for it. It’s pretty hard to feel masculine (or sexually attractive) when you’re unemployed and forced to move in with a girlfriend who’s the more stable one. The roles are reversed and it’s probably too late for OP to change his view on this particular woman. He needs to just get his shit together and spare her further misery.
/r/TheRedPill13/09/23 12:13 AM
3

This is exactly what I feel too. The movie was all over the place. The plot was a mess. It made some points, and then rolled back over them, muddling the narrative. It was really hard to find a point or meaning to the entire thing. That being said, I did enjoy it as a fun movie. It just didn’t have any emotional impact imo.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 01:00 AM
3

This is sensible. The engagement is a trial period to see if cohabitation can really work long-term. I personally don’t think you can truly know someone until you live with them.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 04:55 AM
17

I don’t have a bachelor’s degree but have never had an issue attracting intelligent and successful men because I can carry on a decent conversation about a lot of topics. Most men just do not want to date dumb; they want an interesting woman who can keep up with them, live a respectable life, and manage her share of relational duties.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 07:09 AM
8

And that’s the exact mindset to have. Trust someone until they have given you a reason not to.
/r/seduction06/09/23 05:22 AM
3

I think you’re going to find that these statements are only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the red flags this man exhibits if you continue to date him. There is nothing good that comes out of a man who needs constant reassurance that he’s good enough. He needs to get that within.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 11:43 PM
33

As a conventionally attractive woman, this is true. Men who are insecure wear us down like nothing else. A confident man doesn’t feel the need to be controlling, because he trusts that he’s got his woman. An insecure man needs to know where we are at all times, who we’re with, why we looked at a guy for 0.2 seconds on the street, etc. Its an extremely big turn-off.
/r/seduction05/09/23 10:57 PM
1

Are you sure your photos truly represent what you would look like if a stranger approached you? The fact that all 4 immediately lost interest tells me it has something to do with your appearance, including clothing, hair, hygiene, etc. There are too many men with photos of them all dressed up and then show up to a date looking way too different.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/23 03:29 AM
8

I find with these men it’s an entire personality issue, and the video game addiction is a mere symptom. A lot of these obsessed gamers don’t put effort into other things and people in their lives. You only need to browse r/relationship_advice for a couple minutes to see examples of women at their wits end because their partner is addicted to gaming/phone/porn
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 01:08 AM
1

Gaming for a small amount of time when there’s nothing else to do is one thing, and it would make you unreasonable for not letting him play a few hours a week. But when he’s not spending time with you, friends, other hobbies, or taking care of the house, that’s a problem. There are far too many men who rely on video games a cheap dopamine source — the “rewards” they earn in the game are a poor facsimile of the feeling of accomplishment they should be getting from working on things that enrich th…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/23 01:05 AM
14

Why did you divorce?
/r/seduction15/08/23 03:26 AM
4

Agreed. Sounds ridiculous tbh. And if he is actually sleeping with a bunch of women, why does he trust them at their word when they say they aren’t sleeping with anyone else? Obviously they’re morally okay with a polyamorous/open lifestyle, so OP shouldn’t be too sure they’re traditional enough to only want to sleep with him. Otherwise he’s bringing the risk of disease into his relationship
/r/TheRedPill14/08/23 07:16 PM
49

I don’t understand how that’s an L. You sound respectful and played it off well. It’s weird when a guy is pushy or tries to keep chatting after a woman says she has a boyfriend. Like you said, if her relationship is already on the rocks and she may be single in the near future, she’ll have your number.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/23 05:40 AM
16

You are ungrateful.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 03:24 AM
7

Really? Is this a troll post? I hope you don’t make a point to mention every time you’ve picked up after him. He’s being kind, and you are instigating an argument over him doing a good deed and not rubbing it in your face…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 03:24 AM
2

Also, I think the reason the trope of the “nagging wife” exists because women go into relationships thinking everything should be 50/50 tit for tat, so they start off by paying half of everything and doing half of all that needs to be done in the relationship and around the house. Then they get married, have kids and realize their husband can’t take on half the burden of pregnancy, childbirth, and men rarely care about housework to the quality of cleanliness women expect. So the wife gets resent…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 02:51 AM
3

And once you start offering to pay for dates, expect it to be the norm.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 02:42 AM
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I don’t understand. Are you saying women who are expecting a man to pay are living in a fantasy land and not within the realm of modern dating? I don’t see why we would have to sacrifice our values just because some women like paying for their dates. There are still plenty of men who will pay every time.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 02:09 AM
3

Mans wrote out the plotline to the movie Ghosts of Girlfriends Past
/r/TheRedPill03/08/23 07:48 PM
1

Why would a woman you’ve only been talking to for 2 weeks (have you even met?) want to go on vacation with a total stranger? That’s very unsafe for women. I wouldn’t reply to that either.
/r/seduction03/08/23 07:37 PM
7

Does he smoke a lot of weed? I go heavy on cannabis on a regular basis (usually edibles) and my entire memory blurs together and big chunks of time can disappear entirely. I know I can hurt peoples feelings when I don’t remember details or events that happened even recently. Not to the extent that I would mix up a sex partner, but I am not sexually active anyway so it would be impossible to do. Are you worried he’s cheating on you, or just that he thought an old encounter was one of yours? It co…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 09:12 PM
2

Poor take. There is a huge subset of creeps who “creep” for the sole purpose of making a woman uncomfortable. They get off on the power of making a woman scared or angry.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/23 11:11 PM
-1

Agreed, it’s nice when a man has a good balance of feminine and masculine
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 01:44 AM
13

He’s asking you to move in yet he hasn’t even mentioned that you will or won’t be paying rent, and you’re too afraid to bring it up? Why? I think he probably hasn’t brought it up because it’s understood that you won’t be paying anything.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/23 02:18 AM
2

Because they’re presumably sharing a life together, and have to budget accordingly. Why would anyone NOT share this? Weird af.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 03:22 AM
28

7 years and he doesn’t even tell you his income? How have you even made it this far with your shared budgeting? That’s insane. He should have trusted you ages ago with this knowledge, and it doesn’t sound like he even wants to step up to the plate to help you. Never assume a man will change because you get married to him. You will lose every time.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 08:35 AM
5

I think I adhere to a different type of scale because I don’t put a lot of stock into classic attractiveness, but moreso the whole package a guy is and has to offer. Meaning he prioritizes his mental and physical health, focuses on his career goals, is kind and loving, and is overall an interesting person with hobbies and values that align with my own. A man can’t be a 10 or even an 8 to me if he’s drop dead gorgeous but doesn’t have the right qualities that I want in someone. I also don’t have …
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 07:22 AM
5

Yes, I would argue that in this day and age, unless you’re totally broke, feminine beauty is 85% controllable, so long as you have no severe deformities. It gets annoying to hear women whine about not getting the type of man they want when they look slobbish and put zero effort into their hair, makeup, skincare, style, etc. Men do this too, so I’m not saying it’s purely a female issue.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 03:01 AM
1

Yes, it’s sooo hard to shake off the values you were raised with. My mother also instilled in me the notion that I shouldn’t depend on a man for anything and that accepting help or financial support/gifts is taking advantage of their kindness. She completely believed that and that’s why she married a selfish loser like my dad. A few years after they divorced, she started dating a multimillionaire who just wanted to help her and she pushed him away HARD. She said he was way too generous and givin…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 02:03 AM
25

You’re just going to get taken advantage of by going after men closer to twice your age. Why are you choosing that instead of men at your stage of life who will also be less experienced and less likely to push you towards sex right away?
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/23 08:00 PM
6

I read this post but I think it lacks a lot of perspective, especially considering it’s written from the lens of a man imagining what it’s like to be an adult virgin woman. He seems to assume that the reason a woman would be hesitant to share her virginity status is due to shame, as is the case with a lot of men, but I think that emotion plays a far lesser role in a woman’s concerns.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/23 05:12 AM
16

Simple — allow him to outsource the labour using his savings. He doesn’t want to see you struggling, he wants to feel like he’s got you just like you’ve got him. He might not be able to physically contribute the way he used to, but he’s still providing for you by spending money on these services and he will feel less guilty about how much work you have had to pick up.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/23 01:27 AM
8

I’m not a redpiller, but I find this sub to be completely different than the men’s idea of being red pilled. I like it here because there isn’t all the BS you see elsewhere on Reddit about how women should be the ones stepping up and taking charge of relationships, asking men out, babying and coddling poor behaviours, etc. It just seems like a lot of people on Reddit and in real life expect that just because we live in a modern society, women should be taking on every role in a relationship. The…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/23 11:08 PM
3

So hire a photographer to take shots at a park or something. Anything other than using ancient photos. You’ll disappoint a woman EVERY time.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 01:02 AM
8

Meh, im fine with this. If they know how to shape their beard to complement their facial flaws, it’s a bonus to me
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 06:38 PM
4

That’s not catfishing; that’s just cheating
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 06:19 PM
9

I hate wasting my time going on dates with guys who are using decade-old photos, and show up fatter and balder. It’s a huge amount of them.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 06:13 PM
1

Completely agree. I actually find it a huge turn off when a man is pretending to be all macho and strong 100% of the time. It’s just not an authentic human being, and sometimes it just makes me cringe. I’d rather have a real man who doesn’t need to prove how manly he is and can be open and vulnerable.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 01:15 PM
100

Honestly, this sounds like a classic case of a guy with way more years and experience using what he’s learned to manipulate a young woman he knows is crazy about him.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 01:45 AM
10

Agreed. Some of us like nerdy, mild-mannered men. Just because some other women think I’m faking my attraction doesn’t mean I don’t know my type and what I find sexy. I don’t want a man who cares about bench pressing.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/23 04:20 AM
3

Well yeah, it doesn’t logically make sense for a woman 30 years younger to bear your child.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 01:47 AM
11

Yeah, why would you want to be with a man who has already lived a whole life before you? You want to find someone at the same stage of life as you, not someone who has been there, done that, and you’re part of the mid-life crisis because he realizes he’s getting older and wants to cling to his youth.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 01:46 AM
9

Have you actually given oral sex to women (plural) and had the experience that these women demeaned you for it? I’ve never once heard of a woman talking about a man giving oral sex as if it’s a BAD thing. If anything, it’s worthy of bragging about. Also, do you think a woman demeans herself if she performs oral sex on a man?
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/23 11:05 PM
1

If you state upfront “I’m looking for a guy who’s not going to sabotage my goals, etc.” it comes across kinda aggressive. You should always trust that someone is going to be a good partner up until they show you they are not. Think about how much of a turn off it is if a man says “I’m looking for a woman who isn’t a bitch and texts me back regularly”, or anything like that. It comes across as bitter and almost like they assume negative qualities about you off the bat. Just let him show his true …
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 03:48 AM
10

That’s awesome. Nothing wrong with letting the man decide when you know he is selfless and will always make the best decision for the both of you.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/23 10:18 PM
1

That’s still a whole lot of words for going off of assumptions in a relationship. I prefer clear and direct communication. I’m also not one who is too fussed whether a man is exclusive with me or not, so if he wishes to make that step and I feel the same, we’ll cross that bridge. Otherwise, I’m not going to get jealous or start thinking crazy thoughts. But I also don’t want kids and am not dying to have sex with anyone, so I feel no rush.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 07:28 AM
1

10 months into dating and finding out you’re not exclusive is crazy, but also — never assume you are exclusive with a man until he brings it up. Doing all the boyfriend/girlfriend things together for a year without having that talk doesn’t mean you’re boyfriend and girlfriend. And you should never get emotionally invested for 10 months anyway if a man isn’t making commitment moves. 10 months is more than enough time for someone to know if they want to be your boyfriend or not. You should continu…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 06:05 AM
4

No man who is looking for a wife and mother to his kids expects her to be a workaholic. True, there are “HVM” who want a woman who is making good money so they can build an empire together, but you’re probably more likely to see that from childfree men. A man who wants a wife and family while he makes enough money to support you doesn’t want a wife who’s always working. It’s far easier to spend quality time together when one person doesn’t have a demanding job. Nursing is demanding, but as long …
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 10:45 PM
1

Fair enough. There are a lot of ‘em that will talk down to people less educated than them like idiots though
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 04:48 AM
-1

That’s so weird how he would want someone who is nowhere near his intelligence level just because she has big boobs. High IQ but still dumb as shit
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 04:57 AM
8

There’s already a huge age gap and power imbalance here, plus you disagree on foundational relationship values like religion and abortion. He has a PhD, and you have no desire to continue being an academic after university and want to become a stay at home wife/mom. I feel like most academic types are not looking for that. He’s a grown man who has his adult life figured out and you’re just beginning yours. There are so many incompatibilities here it’s bound to break sooner than later. Physical a…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 05:21 AM
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I think it’s great that your man encourages you to have a solid self-esteem and wants you to be confident about yourself. You got a good one!
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 08:53 PM
1

Well, sounds like you made the right call. You can’t let someone hold you back like that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 09:19 PM
2

Can you explain more what you mean by ambition? She just didn’t want to work?
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 06:35 AM
5

Exactly. I don’t let bad behaviour slide in the early stages just because I like a guy or think he’s cute. If he doesn’t treat me right, it doesn’t matter how he looks or what he has to offer. It is very obvious when someone makes you their priority, and if they do not do it from the start, it’s not going to suddenly happen ever.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 06:29 AM
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There are plenty of times where a man takes zero initiative due to the woman being a bad partner, but it’s very true that many men will be content dating a woman they know they don’t want to marry just because things are “good enough” and they don’t want to miss out on the regular sex they’re getting. It’s more common for a man to hang around in an unfulfilling relationship than the other way around, and it’s our job as ladies to notice if this is the case. If a man is lazy and not thoughtful in…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 08:03 PM
11

If you’re really passionate about working out and expect the same of your partner, you just need to find someone who already enjoys going to the gym. It’s pretty easy to see that people who don’t want to work out aren’t generally the type to turn into a gym rat. You’re fighting a losing battle there, and something that big of a commitment is not sustainable. I don’t like fat guys; I would not date one and then make him feel like he has to keep up with me. That would make him feel shitty about hi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 07:59 PM
-4

Gender has nothing to do with it. Feminized? Don’t be so reductionist.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 03:51 AM
4

Did you ask him why he decided to stop waxing? What did he say? Were you ever making him feel ugly or gross when his hair was growing in, so he started to feel insecure? As a woman, I would not want to be constantly reminded by my partner to do my hair and makeup or I wouldn’t be fuckable. That being said, if you never acted like that and you both simply have the expectation to wax, there’s definitely something else going on. You’re only asking him to wax his back, chest, and underarms, and the …
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/23 08:21 PM
1

I don’t think a normal human is meant to function alone like that. My parents have been kicking it solo (individually) for the last 20+ years with zero partners in that span of time and neither of them look very happy with their lives. I’m naturally like this too and it’s never going to not be lonely. Humans have social inclusion needs, and you can’t just push that down and pretend to be fine. Unfortunately, women have to conform to more beauty standards and ugly women have to try even harder. L…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/23 03:37 AM
1

That’s emotional abuse. Comparing you to other women and saying you won’t make it because there are prettier women? He’s tearing you down and doesn’t like that you get attention. He should not have chosen a model if he didn’t like what comes with dating a model. The same with when Kanye was with Kim and all of a sudden she was forced to cover up.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 03:34 AM
4

Do you mean your illness is causing you to be unable to do basic feminine upkeep like makeup/hair/style? If that’s the case, yeah I really feel for you but I’m not sure of the advice you’re seeking. The truth of the matter is that men notice physical beauty before they care to learn inner beauty. It’s a tough pill to swallow, but if your illness is keeping you from being out and about looking feminine, you are unfortunately missing any chance encounter that could change things. Even a beautiful …
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 01:03 AM
2

His brother excommunicated his parents too? That changes everything. Your husband can see the problem is his parents and the only thing that might change his mind is if he talks to his brother about this. Maybe his brother can really hammer the point home that he’s going to lose his wife if he can’t stand up for himself. And it’s just going to happen to his next wife if he gets divorced, since his parents seem to pick on everyone. Personally I would be out of there if my husband said he would ra…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/23 09:26 PM
2

Well, if you only seriously talked to him for one month on the internet, it should be easy to move on. That’s good at least. But that makes it even more confusing how you got “alpha widowed”, (which isn’t even a thing), since that would mean you’d actually have to have a traditional man who checked all those boxes, which he didn’t do any of. Our biology doesn’t work that way, either. 5 or 10 years down the road, you’re not going to be thinking of this internet vacation grifter when you’re marryi…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 06:15 PM
15

I’m sorry, WHAT? You talked to this guy online for a whole year before meeting? Why wait that long? Because he’s unemployed? 🥴 I don’t understand why you changed your values and belief systems for a man who you didn’t even really know. There are plenty of men online that spout redpill rhetoric; what exactly made him a “high value man” to you? No high value man would be jobless at home with an online girlfriend who buys him a vacation. Please, you’re love-blinded. You’ll find someone IRL who has …
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 08:42 PM
1

Lol. You’re reading into a tiny post and ascribing the worst qualities to a stranger you don’t even know. If anything, you’re going on a tangent with your assumptions. Look up “stay at home girlfriend” on Google or on tiktok and you’ll see plenty of men are ok with this tradeoff
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 06:29 PM
-10

Lol, what? The guys with your mindset are the Steven Crowder type, who don’t want their wives to have any spending cash or financial freedom. The kind of guy who doesn’t care about the principles behind the relationship dynamic, but just wants to uphold the most control over his woman. If your woman is staying home and caring for the house and for you, those are multiple services you would need to outsource and pay money for. Your girlfriend would be taking a financial hit by working part-time a…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 06:31 AM
15

I think it’s more of a warning that there are PLENTY of men who would love to have a live-in girlfriend to do their cooking, cleaning, and to fetch them a beer when they’re on the couch, with absolutely no desire to marry her. Women will bend over backwards proving she’s wife material before he even shows he can take on the equivalent “husband” duties to provide for his woman. It’s just a recipe for getting taken advantage of. It’s not that every woman should purposely withhold their caring pers…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 07:40 PM
5

You’re in a stable point in your life or headed down that path. School and career are in order. You’re emotionally stable in your relationships with family and friends, and are able to handle conflicts without extreme volatility in your emotions. If you don’t know if you’re the crazy one before you get into a relationship, you’ll have no way to gauge who’s being toxic in your relationship arguments. You are at a point in your life where you can give back to another person as much as you take. If…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 07:25 PM
3

Well, first you need to determine if you are marriageable, and if not, develop those qualities so that you can be the best version of yourself when looking for someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 03:17 AM
2

My sister felt like that her whole life — she always wanted a baby and to be a mom more than anything. She had a baby at age 22 and she says she regrets it because the rest of her entire twenties she had girlfriends who wanted to go out and have fun and talk about boys, and she’s just there stuck at home being a mom. I know it’s hard to wait, but you should be selfish for a bit longer, because once you’re a mom there’s no shirking responsibility anymore. Maybe in the meantime do some nannying or…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 08:41 PM
1

I think that’s an overly pessimistic outlook. Men who came from nothing are less likely to see a woman who doesn’t have generational wealth as inferior, whereas old money types are more focused on image and if you don’t fit into the mold you will be treated with snobbery.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 06:18 PM
1

As someone without a high education but who is just generally smart I would agree with this. Most educated men care more about not having a dumb girlfriend that will embarrass them around their family and friends more so than needing a woman with a specific background. The dating pool would shrink exponentially if you’re looking for smart + sensible + sexy.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 05:50 PM
3

It is reasonable to assume, the same way men assume it of women who have a wild sexual history
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 05:31 PM
1

Meh, the douchebag fellow law student told her she was too dumb to amount to anything and didn’t even see her as a whole human being, just a doll. The junior lawyer was a good dude.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 05:28 PM
2

I don’t know if I agree with it because it’s assuming that someone who looks good and is not a med student or in higher education = a hoe that has been ran through by a hundred men
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 05:26 PM
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You should have a discussion about it when it isn’t a heat of the moment situation. Why does he see these things you say as a problem to solve? Is he framing what you’re saying in a negative way and thinking it needs to be corrected? Or is he just the type to always want to give unsolicited advice?
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 01:20 AM
1

Agreed, dating apps are the same. How can you find a spark with a pixel
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/23 06:26 PM
1

I think it’s great for the lazy, but so unromantic.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/23 03:31 AM
59

Everyone brings up the low failure rate in arranged marriages, but fails to mention the extreme shame divorce beings upon families in many cultures. It’s practically forbidden lest you wish your whole family becomes a social pariah.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 05:05 AM
2

Love it
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 03:05 AM
1

You can do everything? Do you enjoy doing everything? Isn’t it nice to be able to sit back and watch your man do something impressive for your benefit? I thought it was a universal (hetero) female experience to find it sexy when our man does stuff like opening jars, fixing things around the home, handling problems, etc. There’s no need to feel like you have to immediately reciprocate if a guy does something nice for you — it’s strange, but men are prideful beings and they just want our gratitude…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 06:20 AM
2

Red Pill women just seems like “traditional”feminism to me, whereas Red Pill men want complete subservience. Sometimes people want gender equality and traditional ideas at the same time!
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 05:41 AM
42

Whoa, I got to the part about the depression excuses and all I saw were two words: Guilt Trip. Nothing inspires pity like a good ol’ guilt trip. Listen, if he “loved” you, he’d want you to be there for him and keep communication lines open. He’s doing the typical fboy dance, where he keeps you close enough to think there is still a possibility, but distant enough that you can’t find out if he’s seeing anyone else. This behaviour screams married man to me.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 11:56 PM
2

This isn’t really going to be a “traditional” suggestion, but I find I get a lot out of a strong mushroom trip. A few times a year I will eat some and sit for 5 hours straight just forcing myself to ask, write and reflect on any topic that enters my brain. It’s super boring and trying to force complete thoughts while on shrooms is mentally exhausting, but damn if I don’t see the results from it. I feel like I’m my own therapist and I’m looking at my thoughts from a bird’s eye view. It really cha…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 10:08 PM
66

Everyone is going to find some people attractive whether or not they’re in a relationship. But the fact that he is struggling enough with his wandering eye to have a talk about it with his friend makes me think this is more than just simply appreciating beautiful women he sees. And talking about how he’s always wondering if the grass is greener tells me he has already considered cheating. Don’t tell him you overheard him, and don’t act differently with him, just continue as normal and observe if…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 07:10 PM
2

Seriously! There’s really nothing better than being cared for when you’re sick or recovering from surgery. It hits different when it’s a partner who can be there for you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/23 02:53 AM
5

I don’t have a boyfriend or husband but these comments are goals!! Cute!! Glad y’all are in happy relationships:)
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 06:46 PM
5

I don’t really understand this perspective (unless you’re from a more traditional culture). It’s 2023. You don’t have to get married or have children at all. Hell, I’m not having kids, and nobody that doesn’t want them should have them. Who cares what people try to pressure you into doing? It’s your life, and no one else’s. Do not settle for a man, for a child, or for anything. Women who choose the wrong partner to have kids with are miserable, that’s true. But many of those women settled becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 12:35 AM
1

You are very controlling. You should be able to take your boyfriend’s word for it and not need to track when he leaves home or work. Asking for pics to prove he is where he says he is is also abusive. There is nothing a man hates more than feeling like he has lost his freedom in a relationship, and he isn’t stupid to have not noticed your behaviour. If you want to keep him, you need to drop the tracking app and TRUST your man. Otherwise, why have a man?
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 06:34 AM
3

There are men who try to dissuade their girlfriends from having expensive taste, because they do not have a lifestyle compatible with such luxury. I don’t think it has anything to do with vanity.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 03:45 AM
10

He sounds selfish. Other commenters are being way too charitable in my opinion, as this isn’t a communication issue. It should come second nature to a man to tend to his woman’s needs and he should want to see your face light up when he goes out of his way to make your day better, even if it’s just bringing you a coffee. I would assume that this behaviour also impacts your desire in the bedroom too? If that’s the case, he might be resentful that his needs aren’t being met. This is the case with …
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/23 01:31 AM
2

Ages ago the guy I was seeing tried to get me into Don’t Starve, but it was pretty meh for me. Kinda boring.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/23 06:34 AM
2

Do you ever make jabs about his job or about his competence in other areas, even if in the most lighthearted way possible? For some reason he sees you as competition, and he’s being a bully. If you aren’t teasing him about anything and he’s saying all of this, he’s horrible. People need to be cared for 7 days a week — that’s the nature of being human and dealing with people who have medical needs. It’s gross that he is shaming you for it.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/23 07:02 AM
3

Lol, did you go into a games workshop?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 02:44 AM
4

I don’t know about those acronyms and whatnot and I’m sure I wouldn’t care about them. What I would care about is if he was flinging his thing into every Jane and Jackie over town. That’s gross to me.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/23 07:09 AM
1

Why would a man think a woman should reciprocate by showing “wife skills” when he paid for their dates (as he should)? You don’t buy a wife. Men with money are everywhere. Time, love, effort and commitment are not.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 06:48 AM
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How does going to a club and dancing (non-sexually) mean you’re telling a guy you’re sexually available? I agree of course that clubs are not the environment to find a serious boyfriend, but it’s absolutely ridiculous to assume that flirting with a man at a club is an invitation for sex. Clubs are for dancing
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 03:10 AM
-1

Not every guy at 35 wants to casually date around, it’s just that as you get older the prevalence of these types remains the same, while the percentage of those looking for commitment begin to decline. The quality of people on dating apps starts to hit a steep decline starting at around 30.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 06:25 AM
3

Colleagues are generally not your friends, especially your juniors. She sounds jealous of you in multiple areas, like your career success and that you have a boyfriend. My coworker is the same way in complaining about other women and how we are all girly and lame and don’t like doing outdoor activities or “man stuff” like hunting, fishing, etc. She’s always smack talking women she knows at the gym for wearing tight yoga pants and looking sexy while working out. It’s just pure envy. You don’t nee…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 11:17 PM
9

He does not respect you. He’s treating you like you are incompetent in every area of your life, including subjects he knows absolutely nothing about (how to dry your hair). And now you are changing habits and conversational topics to avoid triggering him into a mansplaining tirade, which doesn’t foster connection, it just forces the relationship to be one-sided and surface level deep. He’s acting like the authority on everything, and you’re the dumb child who needs to listen and learn. I cannot …
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 11:50 PM
7

He’s bullshitting you on that front. I’m nearly 30 and this is the age where women who want kids start making active dating decisions where that might lead to a possibility. Even as a childfree woman I find it extremely difficult to find men on the dating apps in my age group that do NOT want kids. I am sure the numbers are similar for women in this demographic too.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 04:14 AM
1

I just read your post about that and to me it sounded like the excessive weed smoking was a result of the depression brought on by losing his job and having nothing to do. It sounds like he blamed his entire emotional state on you, which isn’t fair, and barely did anything around the house, despite being home all day. That’s what happens when people refuse to address their mental health and consistently finds/picks someone else to blame for their problems. Sorry you had to put up with all of tha…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 03:16 AM
1

For the most part, I agree about stoned people being annoying, but for me it was one of the only things that worked for me so I could be more social and talkative to my ex when I was dating him. Our conversations were better and we were laughing more. Without it I’m definitely more quiet and boring, and he hated that.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 03:19 AM
2

Which country are you from where teachers assume students are anti-feminist for dressing traditionally feminine? I would argue that making ideological assumptions about an entire person based on their clothing style is quite one-dimensional thinking for someone so highly educated. It could also just be a case of a frumpier woman taking it out on a “girly” woman out of envy. Ever since my homely coworker’s best friend got Botox, fillers, jaw surgery, and hair extensions, all my coworker talks abo…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 04:36 AM
1

There is no “winning” in this game for OP. If her prof is actually singling her out for not being a feminist, she’s not suddenly going to have a change of heart and start agreeing with the student and give her A’s. You know how you do come back from this, though? Act like the prof was right and that she offered a brand new perspective. Who cares if it’s false? If OP continues to challenge the prof on everything she’s just going to get shitty grades, and the prof has tenure. Might as well pad the…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 02:53 AM
0

What kind of university prof has time to research all of the students’ personal ideologies? What are examples of the questions she’s asking that make you feel embarrassed? Are you one of those devils advocates who has something to argue in every discussion? Perhaps the professor was becoming annoyed with that and started responding in kind, hoping you would settle down. Idk, I know bad profs exist, but I think you must be overexaggerating to think yours is creeping your socials to see what kind …
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 02:47 AM
4

What’s up with the speeding tickets? That’s the real red flag IMO. You have school debt — that’s reasonable. His debt is due to his own reckless actions. It says a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 02:29 AM
14

Would you treat your best friend the way he treats you? I doubt it. You’re too caring for somebody who is taking advantage of your kindness at every opportunity. No wonder you said you’ve aged like crazy in the last 5 years. It’s the husband.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 12:07 AM
10

He’s manifesting it into her subconscious. Lol. Adorable.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 04:39 PM
3

I think there are people who gravitate towards the familiar, and that’s why women who haven’t had great male role models in their lives can fall into the pattern of being attracted to the same toxic traits. Then there is the other subset of people who know exactly what they don’t want in a relationship based on how they were treated growing up. It’s always better to be the latter, and it sounds like you are. Nothing wrong with that at all.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 08:16 PM
10

I think she said her boyfriend is from a Muslim country, not her. It would be pretty unadvisable to dress showing a lot of skin in a conservative country.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/23 02:37 AM
11

What is he saying that makes you feel that way? There’s a huge difference between overreacting and simply being gaslit into believing you’re dramatic for being upset at insults.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/23 02:47 AM
2

That’s where you’re assuming porn is equivalent to sex, and it’s not. There are men who could have sex every day with their wives or girlfriends and still choose porn. Just like most people who try a glass of wine will not become an alcoholic, most men will not become porn addicts. It’s about individual brain chemistry amongst other lifestyle factors that determine how salient any given vice will become.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 11:30 PM
2

Agreed — not every man has this drive, which is why us ladies need to make sure we are getting into relationships with the good ones.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 01:24 AM
1

Gratitude for gifts shows the type of man you’re describing that you appreciate how hard he works for you. But there still are plenty of men who are naturally stingy or not thoughtful regardless of whether a woman treats them right or wrong. The last paragraph is so true. You can certainly turn a generous person into someone who only gives gifts out of spite if you are not grateful.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 01:23 AM
1

That sounds like some BS a man made up to try and pressure women into having sex early. The only thing a man is going to think about if you sleep with him right away is to question if you do that with every man you go on one date with. It’s impossibly easy to show you are attracted to someone without needing to jump their bones, and any man who isn’t creative enough to understand there is more to sexual tension than jumping right to sex is boring. It’s way more fun to start slow. If a man loses …
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 12:53 AM
4

Once you get the ick for someone, you cannot undo it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 09:38 PM
2

His insecurities will only continue to cause you to shrink away further from who you are as a person. He needs therapy to understand that love is not possession and you need to be single asap.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/23 01:12 AM
4

Isn’t peak fertility 22-28? I’ve never heard that teenage years are the safest for pregnancy... besides, you can’t undo having a kid, and most people are NOT grown at 18. Even if a woman is serious about settling down into a traditional lifestyle at that age, she has to make sure her partner is as well, and that happens 1% of the time at that age. It’s far better to wait until your brain has developed more and you truly know this is the life path for you before making such an irreversible decisi…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 01:51 AM
28

A homesteading and homeschooling lifestyle is only going to appeal to a SMALL minority of men. I think he’s at the point where he realizes that sort of life isn’t for him. If I were you, I’d begin to get my ducks in a row in terms of a new living situation, because this is considered a fundamental incompatibility.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 10:29 PM
6

This comes up a ton in the relationship advice subreddits, and the same advice is given every time. Your boyfriend has an insecurity over an immutable part of your history (hell, what part of someone’s past can be changed?). He can’t get over it, and that’s his problem alone to deal with. You can change your entire personality, start dressing exclusively in turtlenecks and baggy pants, and let your boyfriend have all your passwords, but that won’t change a thing. Him pressuring you into behaving…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 09:16 PM
2

Never married, but I dated my ex for 7 years and we never really had “big” conflicts at all during that time. I think if two people mesh together well and have similar values/habits/lifestyle it’s extremely easy to synchronize. We liked doing the same stuff and talking about the same things, so there never needed to be as much compromise as some other relationships where I was less compatible with that person. Sometimes not having a lot of conflict can be bad, though, if you or your partner feel…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 05:46 PM
0

IMO it is far better for the course of your life to break up and not have kids with this man than have a child with someone who is a passive, avoidant parent. If he makes his daughter’s mother handle all of the parenting decisions and shies away from conflict, guess who’s going to be the mean parent? Guess who’s going to be the only one really doing any parenting at all? You. That’s exhausting enough if you’re alone, but if you have an absent partner it’s even worse, because it will build resent…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 07:45 PM
2

The people who shame these men are generally women, true, who are calling out specific men for the aforementioned behaviour. Of course there are men who don’t sleep around and want a partner who doesn’t do that either, and that’s totally valid. It’s just the case that there are a disproportionate amount of men who hold a double standard in this sense.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 02:48 AM
15

I don’t think it’s crazy at all to want a partner who sees sex the same way you do. I certainly do not want a man who has a history of using women for sex and burning through them quickly for this reason. Plus, men with high body counts are men who usually try hard to have a ton of sex with different women, which is usually indicative of low self-esteem and desperation for their peer’s approval, something I personally find very unattractive. More power to those who are less closed-minded than me…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 01:09 AM
33

It’s generally outrageous because the very men who claim they want a virtuous woman are the same ones who wouldn’t turn down an opportunity themselves to have casual sex. They just know it’s harder for them (as hetero men) to find sex partners, so they pretend to espouse views they do not hold in an attempt to shame women into remaining “pure” for them. If a man sexually objectifies women, watches porn, or engages in any type of locker room behaviour, he has no leg to stand on when it comes to d…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/22 12:41 AM
18

He’s already barely feeling it and you haven’t even gotten married yet. He didn’t propose — he gave you a Shut Up ring and it bought him over a year of time and kept you from leaving while he dragged his feet. A man that wants to marry you doesn’t do all of this, and you deserve to have a man that wants you enough to be actively enthusiastic about marrying you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/22 06:00 AM
59

This man has been married since you were in elementary school. He has 5 kids and more baggage than you could ever imagine. Let him go.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/22 09:53 PM
61

Yeah, this goes way beyond just clueless immaturity. Her whole family refuses to speak to the man, and HIS family warned her about him multiple times! That’s extremely bad when his own flesh and blood is trying to protect women from him. There’s no way this man doesn’t know he’s a bully. He boorishly refuses to accept that he’s an asshole when his own family is yelling in his face to stop verbally attacking his nephew — this isn’t a case of a man with social issues. There’s nothing OP is going t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 04:42 AM
23

Never have been asked. Although when I was younger and single I liked a guy and asked him. He said over 20 and I dipped lol
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 10:19 PM
21

How important is it to you that your partner shares your enthusiasm for other things? Is it just the whole wedding he’s exhausted thinking about, or is he dismissive about other things that you are passionate about? Does he plan anything else for you two? Not even necessarily romantic events, but things that need to get done too. Does he get excited about activities he likes and wants to include you in? If he’s overall unenthusiastic when you have plans, and doesn’t seem interested in at aspect …
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/22 07:38 PM
2

It sounds like he is too insecure to be with a beautiful woman. It’s going to chip away at your life piece by piece, because he will start trying to control and monitor you instead, and this behaviour usually escalates. Unless you are feeding into the attention men are giving you, his insecurities are his alone to deal with. It’s just a fact that attractive women are going to be hit on often, and if he can’t trust you to be faithful, he shouldn’t be with you. He should find a homely woman that d…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/22 05:28 PM
25

You are beating around the bush with your communication to help him feel better about his antics. It is disingenuous to approach him from the angle of it smelling bad, when the root of the issue is that he becomes a sloppy drunk and acting in ways that make it hard for you to be attracted to him or in the mood. The behaviour AND smell disgust you, and it would be entitled for him to think you need to push that aside and pretend to enjoy the quality of sex he is trying to offer you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 03:59 AM
1

This male is posting under the most heinous subreddits, and even defends CSAM. Mods, ban OP.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/22 02:35 AM
1

How is this kind of rhetoric allowed on a women’s subreddit?
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/22 09:01 PM
0

What are you saying by chameleon? A lot of humans base their entire personality and identity around being someone with tattoos — that’s pathetic to me. So who cares if you “blend in” as a chameleon with plain, uninked skin? Tattoos don’t make people unique. Let your personality show that you are your own individual, not plaster it on your body so the entire world knows from the start how different and quirky you are.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/22 03:01 AM
2

Scorekeeping is more about a petty way to enforce tit for tat in a relationship, and it will definitely ruin any marriage if it’s habitual. She wouldn’t be using this in a destructive way here, since it’s purely about checking if she’s actually being reasonable or if she’s just blowing things out of proportion because it’s triggering anger from her childhood. When you are blinded by rage, it’s hard to think rationally, and this might be a more fair situation than she feels it is when she’s upset…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/22 05:02 PM
3

There’s a really big difference between doing your share of the work and being taken advantage of. If he’s doing nothing around the house whatsoever, you’re getting taken advantage of. If he’s asking you to do last minute errands that he could for himself, like picking up dry cleaning after work, or trivial things like making you go get him a snack, I can see how you’d feel insulted. I can also see how you would feel that way if he’s doing any of this in a patronizing manner, or expects you to d…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/22 02:45 AM
1

What do you have to fake? Are you pretending not to be a housewife or hiding it because you are afraid of receiving backlash?
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/22 03:52 AM
3

It’s not manipulative; it’s actual advice that shows appreciation and keeps you from being a nag. A lot of women don’t naturally do this in relationships (show gratitude, express admiration when their man does something impressive). It’s just kinda something that falls by the wayside after you’ve been together for a while if you aren’t naturally inclined to express these thoughts. No one likes feeling like their efforts are not appreciated, or that no matter what they do it’s never enough. These…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 08:49 AM
1

Is this the only time he’s made a disparaging joke about your body? Does he know you’re insecure about this feature, or could it truly be an honest mistake to make that joke and not think it would hurt you? Does your sense of humour involve ribbing him in the same way — maybe poking his stomach or making jokes about weight, or being weak, balding, etc.? It’s not possible for me to give my advice without knowing this information, as in my opinion it is vital to understanding the intention behind …
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 11:59 PM
2

Are you saying you think a woman saw you go into the hotel gym, so she went to change into gym gear and work out for 8 minutes just to give you the chance to ask her out?
/r/seduction25/10/22 07:07 AM
17

Deal with them? Lol. They think you’re a bum. Get your bread up or stick to the Netflix and chill.
/r/seduction06/10/22 08:33 AM
16

Women aren’t a monolith and all have their own preferences. Shocking I know.
/r/seduction30/08/22 04:02 AM
1

Just because men say they want random sexual encounters regularly doesn’t mean it’s enjoyable in practise. Most do it (constantly having new sex partners) for validation of their attractiveness and masculinity, and after a while that gets stale. Like I said, ask the men here who have done it — the quality of sex is poor and the emptiness of not having an emotional bond with the women doesn’t make it a fun lifestyle to keep up with. It’s also expensive and demands a lot of time. And many think th…
/r/seduction20/08/22 05:47 PM
5

I would be very surprised to see the statistics show 20% of single men getting “all the sex”. 1 in 5 single men are having regular casual sex with different people? That kind of lifestyle doesn’t even appeal to 20% of single men. From what I see on this sub, most of the guys who have had a “hoe phase” say it’s meaningless and not enjoyable. The only guys who treat it like the standard they need to meet to feel validated are the guys who will probably never get that. You need to find your worth i…
/r/seduction20/08/22 04:07 AM
1

You have it the other way around, my friend. The male is always in competition amongst other potential mates.
/r/seduction20/08/22 04:02 AM
5

Yes, and the fact that the default mindset of men on here is that getting any kind of sex is good is sad. It should be shameful to set your standards so low that you’ll accept an offer of sex from any woman.
/r/seduction20/08/22 03:55 AM
3

This question shows you have a fundamental misunderstanding about female sexuality. I don’t know a single woman who would take on the offer of a random man saying that to them. Gross.
/r/seduction20/08/22 03:53 AM
2

No, it’s possession.
/r/seduction11/08/22 05:05 AM
0

None of y’all dress right for the occasion.
/r/seduction05/08/22 02:27 AM
-1

Who cares if it isn’t true? Sparing someone’s feelings is the goal here — it isn’t like it matters that he twists the knife and texts them he likes someone better. If your girlfriend dumped you because you had a small dick would you want her to tell you that’s the reason? Or would you prefer her to say it wasn’t working out?
/r/seduction26/07/22 03:29 AM
-6

Which town bicycle rapped that?
/r/seduction26/07/22 03:26 AM
-1

Nah, the dude is right; there’s no pride in using bodies like that. Sleeping with that many women is a pretty huge sign of novelty-seeking, a total disregard for your own health, extreme risk taking, approval-seeking from the boys, or just as a metric to validate your self-worth. And now everyone has HPV and herpes and I’m just trying to find someone who isn’t hoeing around so I don’t catch them too.
/r/seduction11/07/22 04:35 AM
2

Not so much about ease, but comfort and safety. Most women have been burned by the small percentage of psychos that wreak havoc when they get rejected. Women see you as a stranger on the street and have no time to do a thorough risk-analysis. That’s why cold approaching mostly makes them uncomfortable, because 99% of men are “strange until they’re not”. The 1% that put women they don’t know at ease are just extremely smooth at social interactions across all spectrums, because even the average ou…
/r/seduction01/07/22 05:58 PM
9

It’s nature for a man to work to get a woman, so no. Look at any species in the animal kingdom and the males exhaust all efforts to find a mate. The difference is the wide variation in human intelligence and that means some of y’all are stupidly chasing after women who don’t and will never want you. Don’t waste your time on these women or of course you’ll be bitter that you’re “working too hard”.
/r/seduction15/06/22 06:47 PM
7

It’s not unstable — there was something during the second date that came up and she realized she didn’t like you. First dates are pretty fake, and you barely know if you like someone during them. Sometimes you need another date to feel if there is a connection.
/r/seduction07/06/22 04:53 PM
1

This advice is actually good, but I gotta say I don’t expect much when it comes to this sub. This is genuinely the exact things men need to do to be good with women — not any of that bullshit fake macho nonsense every other post goes on about. Women see right through that and find it cringey. It’s far better to work on yourself, and especially #2 — women especially can tell when a man has a chip on his shoulder, and it’s one of the biggest turn-offs. There is nothing worse than talking to someon…
/r/seduction31/05/22 12:38 AM
1

He’s also posting about balding and whatnot yet saying girls at 16 are “in their prime”. Major creep alert.
/r/seduction27/05/22 01:47 AM
7

It’s so unnatural that the first thing you jump to is to tell a 26 year old man he needs viagra. It’s only in the last 15-20 years since porn has become accessible that people start thinking it’s normal to need erection meds when you’re that young. Unless you are obese or middle aged, the answer isn’t “juice on Cialis”.
/r/seduction23/05/22 09:04 PM
5

It’s funny that half the comments from men on here are saying it’s shitty advice and talking smack about it, yet all of the women are agreeing it’s correct...
/r/seduction23/05/22 06:44 AM
7

And that’s one thing they don’t get. Maybe they can desire sex with their partner when she isn’t pulling her weight in the relationship or treating him well in other areas, but that’s not how it works the other way around. You can’t be a shitty husband and make your wife do all the cleaning (or nag you until you do) and expect her to be sexually attracted or in the mood. It’s a deeply unsexy feeling and it destroys intimacy.
/r/seduction23/05/22 04:30 AM
2

You have to practise first; just stand in front of a mirror like this: https://youtu.be/vIQuLENsPJU
/r/seduction23/05/22 04:25 AM
24

Most married men in this position are probably skipping the majority of the post, especially the foreplay, and wondering why their wife always has a headache...
/r/seduction23/05/22 04:23 AM
75

This is one of the only seduction advice posts from a guy here that is actually legit. Most of them are sooo dumb
/r/seduction23/05/22 04:22 AM
11

The key is “flings”. If you don’t go in with the intention of dating or a relationship, they know not to get too deep or emotionally invested in you, so they don’t even try. Once they start knowing all the ins and outs of your life they will probably start seeing you more as a boyfriend than a hookup. Women are more likely to become emotionally attached that way. You are also probably going after women who like to hear the sound of their own voice... and you keep having sex with them, so why wou…
/r/seduction22/05/22 07:03 PM
3

I don’t see why people are getting upset here. It’s gross for guys to be pushy about sex with women they don’t know off dating apps, but this woman is clearly wanting the same things here. The difference is not speaking in a vulgar way to women who aren’t looking for that already. Most don’t want this, so don’t do it to most. She does though; what’s the issue?
/r/seduction18/05/22 05:05 PM
1

Put your dating apps on travel mode at least a few days before you arrive. Start swiping and try to make plans. Explicitly mention in your bio that you’re from X and you’re in Y for Z amount of days. You’ll automatically weed out women who are looking for a relationship or long-term FWB situations without needing to write anything explicitly sexual on your profile (which comes across negatively to most women). Look and act as your profile depicts you. Don’t use unrealistic angles or photos where…
/r/seduction17/05/22 05:20 AM
3

Post the screenshot of the texts and I’ll tell you. Can’t give advice when you don’t even tell us what you said.
/r/seduction17/05/22 05:03 AM
1

No. Do NOT talk about that unless she brings the subject up. Otherwise you’re going to come across as trying waaay too hard to impress her. Women do not want to hear about your weightlifting regimen unless they explicitly ask. My advice is to go bowling or do an actual activity together for the first few dates. There is nothing worse than a coffee date for a first or second date, in my personal opinion. It’s awkward as fuck, and awkwardness doesn’t make you feel attracted to someone.
/r/seduction17/05/22 04:48 AM
1

I’m going to go against the grain and say you should have your shit together first. If this woman is as great as you think she is, you wouldn’t want to mess up your chances. Besides, regardless of gender or things you have to offer someone, I’m a personal believer in being your best self before you date someone. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
/r/seduction17/05/22 04:46 AM
3

Yes! Hasn’t anyone here heard of a crush?
/r/seduction16/05/22 06:34 AM
19

Of course it’s sexual and romantic attraction, but you’ve gotta be a boring lover if the only way you know how to increase sexual tension is by trying to have sex right away. It’s far more exciting to build that slowly, in my opinion. Flirting and teasing are fun, and so is a bit of a slow burn. Otherwise, it’s just jumping straight to sex and you miss out on all that mystery and excitement.
/r/seduction16/05/22 04:10 AM
18

I agree, and I even find it surprising that you consider “waiting” a month to be a long time. That just goes to show how much it’s hammered in here that men should be trying to get sex within a few dates or assume they’re being led on. A lot of women do not feel safe and comfortable having sex with a man who was a stranger a month prior. That’s a big deal.
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:01 AM
97

Including OPs generalization that women will lose interest if you don’t have sex with them by date 3. Or that they don’t see you romantically until you’ve had sex. Wtf......
/r/seduction16/05/22 02:06 AM
3

Yes, this. My ex claimed to have a low sex drive, but he was still masturbating to porn several times a week and directing his sexual energy into time alone rather than together. He did not consider the alone time to be “sexual energy” for some reason.
/r/seduction12/05/22 12:30 AM
3

She probably doesn’t though if she’s going after 22 year olds. She’s probably just looking to chill and not worry about a guy wanting marriage and kids.
/r/seduction09/05/22 01:33 AM
3

Observe the way he looks at women (and men when he fake flirts with them). He is the definition of charming, and it all starts with his smile.
/r/seduction08/05/22 11:33 PM
14

She doesn’t even know who you are and your first message is saying hi I want to meet? 🤣
/r/seduction08/05/22 11:24 PM
2

Agree, why would you say all this stuff over text to someone you don’t know anyway? You just look like an asshole. You can flirt without being a douche. Save the teasing for after you get to know one another IRL.
/r/seduction08/05/22 10:29 PM
2

I don’t think you came to the right conclusion. Yeah, saying that phrase was wrong/stupid, but not because he’s selling her an idea of him being poor. She probably just thought it was weird of him to assume SHE is too poor to afford a phone. It’s rude for no reason at all, especially after she sent a kiss emoji, so she was obviously interested before he acted like a jerk. Prime example of shooting yourself in the foot.
/r/seduction08/05/22 10:28 PM
2

Because it’s not fun to be alone at a bar. And most bars don’t have female-friendly drink menus. Find a fun cocktail bar?
/r/seduction08/05/22 06:18 PM
2

They also think the angelic Puritan is going to settle for Joe Blow’d-a-hundred-women. Fantasy land.
/r/seduction08/05/22 02:11 AM
2

You jumped to an entire conclusion because you believe correlation is causation, one of the most universally recognized scientific fallacies.
/r/seduction08/05/22 02:09 AM
1

And we are supposed to believe you’re a woman... lol
/r/seduction08/05/22 02:07 AM
3

And the irony is that even if she does sleep with a guy on date 3 despite not doing it with anyone else, he’s still going to assume she’s like that with every guy. It’s a catch-22.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:58 PM
8

It’s pointless to even try with those women, because they want a game of chase, not a boyfriend. The second they get the attention of that man that isn’t interested, it’s boring.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:31 PM
1

You would need to be specific about examples where a woman was doing that
/r/seduction07/05/22 07:05 AM
3

Because there is a cause. There’s always a cause. Unless you’re an actual teenager there shouldn’t be a lifelong history of rejection for a normal dude who has a happy life and makes moves when he likes someone. There’s always a reason if NO woman wants you.
/r/seduction07/05/22 05:11 AM
3

Nobody is going to tell you to your face that you’re desperate unless they’re an asshole. The people in your life that care about you are going to want to lift you up and comfort you.
/r/seduction07/05/22 03:07 AM
1

I feel like you probably give off a desperate vibe then. Literally no woman, even below average women, want to feel like they are chosen to fill a void in a man’s life. Once she senses that you’re lonely and have no standards, you’ve let her know she doesn’t need to earn a spot in your life and she wasn’t picked for her own merits. It all boils down to having a great life on your own and with friends, one where you don’t NEED a woman. Women want to feel WANTED. We don’t want to feel NEEDED.
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:54 AM
4

Yep, too many men think “oh she’s not accepting my physical advances even though it’s date 3, she’s obviously just using me for free dates” and then ruin every bit of progress they had by acting pissy and childish with her. Or worse, being even more physically aggressive, thinking there’s no loss in trying to make that move. A lot of these men expect women to sleep with them within a few dates or weeks of dating (non-exclusively), but they are also the type to judge a woman if she normally does …
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:51 AM
2

Disagree. A lot of women think a guy is ugly until she develops attraction, not that it takes a long time to do that. There are hot men who open their mouth and they immediately become unattractive, and then there are others who would never catch a glance until they started chatting and make her laugh or make her comfortable around him.
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:43 AM
1

30 minutes would imply you’ve already got your foot in the door and a first date. It’s crazy to expect that she’s going to be physical on that first date, but you should be able to tell by her body language, if she’s laughing, enthusiastically agreeing to future plans, etc. I don’t think any woman would need more than one date to know if there is an attraction. But sometimes women will agree to a second date with a guy who she’s kinda meh about to see if he’s more relaxed and fun to be around on…
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:40 AM
13

It’s easy to figure it out. If a woman likes you, you’ll KNOW. If she doesn’t, you’ll be confused.
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:35 AM
7

She probably has garbage self-esteem.
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:32 AM
2

And what does that make the man who is self-aware enough to realize this but still chasing the first woman?
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:32 AM
17

It means you don’t value going on a date with a lukewarm woman over your own self worth. Your personal time should be more important to you. If it’s not a fuck yes, it’s a no.
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:30 AM
46

I’d still proceed with caution tbh. I would never in a million years reject a man I was into THREE times before finally agreeing. She might just enjoy the attention or want free drinks/food.
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:28 AM
1

I’m a woman and agree completely! The same is true for the reverse, too. You’re almost never going to make an uninterested woman become attracted to you by trying harder or texting more. It’s a huge waste of time, and way too many guys work themselves up getting angry about this instead of just moving on and leaving the ball in her court if she feels like reaching out again. Unless you’re a teenager, she’s not “playing hard to get”. She just doesn’t want you.
/r/seduction07/05/22 02:27 AM
11

Leave her alone unless she wants to talk to you. She just got this job and you don’t want to make her uncomfortable. She doesn’t sound receptive.
/r/seduction05/05/22 04:51 AM
2

Because being “nice” in this sense probably translates to being perfectly polite all the time, which can come across as fake or boring. If you aren’t comfortable making jokes or being relaxed, no one will feel comfortable doing that with you either.
/r/seduction04/05/22 04:59 PM
2

60-70 women at your university in the last month alone? I’m not surprised you’re not having luck. You are probably known as that guy hanging around campus asking everyone out. 😬😬😬
/r/seduction02/05/22 04:19 PM
1

Haha! I love big noses on guys. They look amazing.
/r/seduction01/05/22 06:16 PM
17

This! So many guys spend time writing here saying they’re ugly and that’s the reason women don’t like them. When in reality, it’s a lot easier to chalk it up to being “ugly” when the actual problem is a lot more complex and requires improving yourself in every facet of your life. It’s also annoying to hear guys whine about being ugly if they aren’t properly grooming and styling themselves. Only getting haircuts once every 3 months, not keeping their facial hair in check, wearing bad or old cloth…
/r/seduction30/04/22 01:49 AM
-9

No, any adult woman is going to be even more turned off if you try to convince her to like or date you. That behaviour is gross and a huge red flag. Just go for somebody that is already receptive to your advances.
/r/seduction30/04/22 01:46 AM
15

Err, why would the girl care? If she isn’t swiping on “ugly” guys anyway, it’s not like they would ever interact for her to feel like she’s making people insecure. I’m a woman and so many guys have photos with women in them. I swipe left because I think it’s weird to post pics with exes or pics that look like they’re already in a relationship.
/r/seduction29/04/22 11:47 PM
3

Unmatch that person. There is no reason an adult should be spilling out their childhood trauma to someone they haven’t even met on a dating app. If there are that many red flags before the first date, it’s really not worth finding out what other drama she brings to the table.
/r/seduction28/04/22 03:16 AM
3

Are you trying to get someone with low self-esteem though? Because anyone with a normal amount of confidence would be turned off hearing that it’s “their turn to hear it”. 😬
/r/seduction28/04/22 02:38 AM
1

Have you watched those YouTube videos where men approach women with these lines though? Even when it’s a good looking guy, they look uncomfortable. It just doesn’t come across as a natural way to break the ice. If that works for you, that’s great, but most women find pick up lines to be cheesy and give off the vibe that the guy is out all the time with phrases he memorized from the internet. Just comes off forced and overdone imo.
/r/seduction28/04/22 02:37 AM
3

Sounds like you only put effort into self-improvement with the expectation that a girlfriend will come from it, and you give up when you realize self-improvement isn’t a quick fix. You sound like my whining ass when I complain about wanting to lose weight but cheat on my diet. You have to be grinding for no one but yourself and keep that consistent energy for others to notice your radiance. If you only put effort in yourself a couple days a week, for example, you’re missing out on a lot of oppor…
/r/seduction28/04/22 02:32 AM
1

I personally recommend against these kinds of lines; women know it’s something used with everyone and it only ever works for men who are attractive and charming enough that they could have gotten the same results with a “hi”.
/r/seduction28/04/22 02:12 AM
1

Good on you! It’s hard enough to pull yourself out of depression, I can’t imagine how hard it would be with an expensive addiction to hard drugs. I know I’m not mentally strong enough to get myself out of that. Even the people with the biggest support systems relapse and spend their lives that way.
/r/seduction27/04/22 11:46 PM
2

Don’t lose sleep overthinking it, whatever you do. You’re one of many who are DMing her daily or trying to get her to respond to them. Just treat her like any other cute girl you would shoot your shot with.
/r/seduction27/04/22 10:34 PM
3

Not to mention she is going to trust a man a whole lot more if she knows he isn’t the sleazebag type that comes on strong to everyone. Nothing makes a woman feel less special and desired than a man who casts a wide net.
/r/seduction27/04/22 09:55 PM
5

Yeah, literally the worst thing you can do when a woman is giving pushback regarding touch or sex is to try and convince her to do it anyway. There’s never a recovery from that
/r/seduction27/04/22 09:53 PM
3

Lmao. Are you my ex? He raved about that shit
/r/seduction27/04/22 09:36 PM
3

That’s why I will never touch any drug with the capability of creating physical dependence. Or anything stimulating dopamine (aside from my prescribed ADHD meds). You blow out your dopamine receptors and everything else you ever do will pale in comparison to that feeling. I credit the show Intervention when I was a kid — all of the heroin and meth addicts would say in interviews that nothing they ever do will compare to the first time they did their drug of choice. I never want to know what that…
/r/seduction27/04/22 09:34 PM
2

Along with OPs problem, that’s the trifecta of dopamine chasing lol The key is to getting away from a high-risk, high-reward lifestyle where everything else seems mundane in comparison.
/r/seduction27/04/22 09:31 PM
2

There are a lot of fake “21 year old women” on tinder who are waiting to scam you. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.
/r/seduction27/04/22 09:17 PM
2

Well, it’s not a dating strategy sub anyway. The name is extremely misleading. It’s not a place where they tell each other the best ways to get quality guys, it’s more of a place where they air out info about the worst men they’ve ever dealt with and how to avoid those types. It should be called female vetting strategy. This sub’s goal isn’t on how to weed out the trash women, because a lot of men don’t care about whether a woman is trash or not, they just want to get laid. That is obviously not…
/r/seduction27/04/22 09:06 PM
1

This isn’t your only opportunity to have sex. But if you’re with a woman who you just met and she’s trying to pull out your Johnson in the middle of a club, she has no discretion in who she messes with. You should probably not fiddle with someone like that, and that’s not me slut-shaming. I say the same thing when a man has little selectivity as to where he gets around too. Imagine meeting your future wife and finding out you have one of the HPV strains that can give her cancer. Feelsbadman
/r/seduction27/04/22 04:06 PM
2

HPV and herpes are transmitted skin-to-skin, and the risk is even higher if she shaves downstairs. That means condoms are not gonna stop it.
/r/seduction27/04/22 08:56 AM
1

Have fun with the herp and HPV that you won’t be able to check on an STI test but you can DEFINITELY pass on to another woman. Don’t be dumb dude.
/r/seduction27/04/22 08:37 AM
2

Strong disagree. You’ll only ever “pull” a woman who is okay with hooking up when they first meet someone. Any woman who isn’t into that is going to perceive you as pushing for sex and there is no coming back from that, so of course she’s never going to see you again once you leave that kind of impression on her.
/r/seduction24/04/22 04:29 PM
11

Yikes, I feel bad for her husband. That’s disgusting for her to go behind his back talking to some guy from TWELVE years ago.
/r/seduction24/04/22 02:49 AM
22

Settle down Adam Levine
/r/seduction24/04/22 02:46 AM
1

You mentioned you’re black — are you going after racist dudes? I have a hard time believing a beautiful 25 year old woman can’t find a sex partner because of race unless they live in a racist town or they’re not looking for people that actually like them back.
/r/seduction23/04/22 04:35 AM
1

Oh please. You are not going to sit here and tell me Pete Davison’s looks are the ticket to winning Ariana and Kim’s hearts. That’s utterly ridiculous when they could pick any better looking man and it wouldn’t be hard. He looks like a dead chain smoker and he sounds like he should be painting his face and putting on a clown nose with that voice. It’s part of what makes him unique as a comedian, but it’s not like those are the reasons he’s doing well in that arena.
/r/seduction21/04/22 08:30 AM
1

Wait, is this sarcasm? If not, can you tell me what he’s got? He’s ugly as sin lol
/r/seduction21/04/22 06:34 AM
69

Smelling those things you mentioned is not being ”highly sensitive to smells”. If a person’s house is dirty or they don’t put AND throw their garbage away, it’s gonna smell. If they have pets and cover everything up with Febreeze or a Glade, it’s gonna smell. People are noseblind to their own living spaces, and there’s a reason the meme about men never having clean bedsheets is a thing.
/r/seduction21/04/22 05:53 AM
9

Is this a troll? That phrase doesn’t mean that at all. You are way overreacting here. I agree that if she stopped texting it means she’s probably just not into it anymore and texting again doesn’t help whatsoever, but it doesn’t do all that dramatic shit you just mentioned. She’s literally just going to go “omg he’s annoying”, not be like “bEtA iNsEcUrE lOSeR!” I swear, no one is harder on themselves in this way like men are. I hear the most toxic criticism about every little detail of what guys…
/r/seduction21/04/22 05:40 AM
12

You don’t have to block them because they’re a lame who can’t say they aren’t into it... they’re probably chilling on Snapchat with 50 people, girls and guys checking them out and talking to them. Not getting a reply is no reason to be salty, and if she actually was down to hang but not right at that moment she could have texted back later. Blocking her is just gonna make her think “huh, that’s weird...” if she checked and went to chat you.
/r/seduction21/04/22 05:35 AM
8

Can we not say “having sex with their object of desire”? Just not a good phrase to use in that way man.
/r/seduction21/04/22 05:32 AM
33

You have to change your mindset. The healthy way to approach it mentally is that hard to get = hard to want. It should be a turn-off to you that a woman isn’t digging your vibe, and that it’s a sign to keep it moving. Besides, if a woman isn’t being receptive, it’s because she wants you to talk less, not more. More texts make you more annoying to her, and it’s just going to make her dislike you. And if she truly was just “playing hard to get” and you follow this advice, she’s going to go “whoa, …
/r/seduction21/04/22 05:32 AM
1

It’s bad advice and it starts off with assuming every woman is so uninterested in intellectual topics that it goes above our heads. That’s an insulting view.
/r/seduction21/04/22 03:07 AM
2

Uhhh Pete Davison and Ariana Grande? Kim K? The guy’s nickname is Skete and he sounds like he lives in a trailer park. The attraction is all in the funny bone.
/r/seduction21/04/22 02:37 AM
2

I don’t want strangers trying to approach me in a way that makes it clear they “want more” from me. They are a stranger and have zero from me, so literally any interaction with me is considered “more” than what they already get. Women know that if a man is hitting on them or complimenting them that he wants a date or more. You really don’t need to drive that point home because it’s just going to come off way too forward. There’s nothing wrong with complimenting a dress, but I wouldn’t compliment…
/r/seduction21/04/22 01:26 AM
1

That’s a bit ahead of the game. Good advice, but better for the first date. I would feel really creeped out if a man approached me and started trying to get info about me by asking me questions. If I don’t know a man or his intentions, it’s not his right to ask my name and questions about my life. That’s how you get told a fake name and avoided.
/r/seduction20/04/22 11:19 PM
2

You shouldn’t even worry about ANY of that “game” until you can confidently strike up a casual conversation with anyone in public. Talking to women should be as easy and as normal as talking to any man, and that’s exactly how women appreciate conversation from strangers. We don’t want to feel like a pickup artist is encroaching our space. It’s not genuine whatsoever and it makes us uncomfortable.
/r/seduction20/04/22 11:17 PM
1

Honestly Not saying this to sound mean but You need a long break from this website
/r/seduction19/04/22 09:40 AM
1

You’ve gotten lauced in the sauce my dude
/r/seduction18/04/22 07:22 PM
6

Tell her she’s gotta earn the high five
/r/seduction18/04/22 09:27 AM
45

No way. Take a girl out bowling, high five her when she gets a strike. You broke the touch barrier on the first date and you aren’t a weirdo. There’s nothing friendzoney about that at all.
/r/seduction18/04/22 06:22 AM
2

I mean... it’s really tacky to brag about your sex life, dude. They’re probably uncomfortable and don’t want to engage in “locker room talk” because it’s disrespectful. You know the women you hook up with don’t want their bodies or the sexual experiences you’ve had discussed with the boys. That’s messed up.
/r/seduction17/04/22 06:16 AM
3

As a woman I can say I put zero thought into all of these things you so carefully paid attention to re: their behaviour. You are way, WAY overthinking this.
/r/seduction16/04/22 08:50 AM
4

What does it mean that you think of women your own age as ‘old hags’? Because no one said anything about how men need to date older...
/r/seduction16/04/22 08:15 AM
34

It’s because the arbitrary age of 18 set by the law doesn’t mean children suddenly develop adult brains. The brain doesn’t stop developing until at least 25 years old, so rightfully people will call out someone in their mid-30s who is dating 20 year olds because the maturity difference is extremely apparent. People are right to question an older man’s intentions when he is looking for young women, shouldn’t that be fairly obvious and reasonable?
/r/seduction16/04/22 08:14 AM
3

Try to get some inside jokes going, build rapport with people in your social groups, men and women. Just try to limit the flirtiness with everyone if you like one girl. Trying to make a woman jealous is a tactic that only works on the kind of girls you don’t want to date anyway. For mature people this is a turn-off. So be friendly with everyone, and practise talking to people the same way, both male and female.
/r/seduction16/04/22 06:48 AM
14

It’s pretty disgusting that you’d sleep with most women, even despite finding them ugly. Maybe it is your low standards that are repelling women.
/r/seduction16/04/22 06:42 AM
41

You’re getting worked up about ONE shallow woman to the point where it seems like you’ve memorized her entire life and fantasize about her having a shitty future. Spend that time working on yourself and not talking to shallow people...
/r/seduction16/04/22 06:41 AM
18

Why would you assume women who are mature are all hurt and carrying baggage because every single female must like abusive men, just that the older ones learned a lesson from it?
/r/seduction16/04/22 06:39 AM
25

Yeah, this is the gender-reversal of “where have all the good men gone?”. Don’t go through the dumpster and you’re less likely to stumble across trash.
/r/seduction16/04/22 06:38 AM
9

Yes it does. And if you really look at what the guys are wearing who are getting girls, it’s quite unlikely they are wearing ugly clothes.
/r/seduction16/04/22 05:03 AM
4

It’s hard to believe you landed a marriage when you divide women who are dancing into two categories. Because oooobviously the ones dancing with their friends and not paying attention to the lone man at the bar are just seeking attention. Do you ever stop to consider for a moment that they are out dancing because it’s fun and has nothing to do with men at all? Not everything women do is some kind of act put on for men.
/r/seduction16/04/22 04:26 AM
9

If you like her as a person and physically then why are you cutting off your emotions and sleeping with randos? Surely that can’t be more fulfilling.
/r/seduction16/04/22 04:23 AM
3

As a woman, I’d really respect a guy for saying this. It makes me feel more comfortable with someone knowing they are the type to be cool in the face of rejection. And when you like a guy, you aren’t going to reject him anyway.
/r/seduction16/04/22 02:29 AM
-3

Let the man do the chasing. Seriously. If you chase him, he is going to think you are easy. Doesn’t matter if you’re hot
/r/seduction15/04/22 10:54 PM
13

Out of curiosity, how old are you? You’d think that in the last 10~ years it’d be easier for kids because they can just text their crush.
/r/seduction15/04/22 09:43 PM
3

It would be pretty counterproductive if you become bitter and resentful, and I think it can only come from a place of mild entitlement. None of are entitled to the attraction of the opposite sex, even when we are at our personal best. You probably didn’t spend your ugly duckling phase feeling bad for fat and hideous women either, you just didn’t consider them attractive. It’s not your fault you wouldn’t date somebody you think is ugly, just like it’s not a woman’s fault she isn’t attracted to a …
/r/seduction15/04/22 07:52 PM
1

Honestly just don’t bother. The juice is not worth the squeeze if they’re already acting disinterested off the bat. I could never imagine seriously wanting to date and impress someone and then being that uninteresting on a dating app. I’d say she’s just looking for compliments or is bored and feels like going out/no one else to hang with. I’ll admit that ages ago on a dating site before tinder, I’d sometimes agree to go out with guys because I was bored, not because their profile seemed that int…
/r/seduction14/04/22 05:50 AM
1

But it still has nothing to do with showing emotions. That doesn’t factor into it at all. The woman would be immediately turned off by the man seeking a relationship without having a job based on that fact alone. The only exception is for students. Any grown man who is unemployed has far bigger priorities than finding a girlfriend. They can’t even go out and spend money on themselves, let alone expect to take their lady out. It’s crazy that y’all will twist any situation into claiming women are …
/r/seduction14/04/22 02:10 AM
1

Or maybe just find a job instead of expecting women to be attracted to guys who can’t even support themselves. Cry more
/r/seduction13/04/22 11:18 PM
0

When females say it’s hot to see men with emotion, they’re not picturing a guy who lost his job, self worth and is suicidal needing a pick me up. Because a man who is in that position shouldn’t be looking for dates and using this sob story to make women pity him. That’s a problem tackled by therapy and job-hunting. Men don’t care when women are in this position, because they know it’s easier to pick them up when they are suicidal or desperately broke. It doesn’t work that way when the genders ar…
/r/seduction13/04/22 10:29 PM
1

You’re 29, and a lot of the guys on here are 18-23, with a maturity mindset similar to the women they are dating in that age range. Sure, maybe this is a thing that happens to college-age people, but once you’re a mature adult around 30 you have to go out of your way to date bitches if you are seeing women using men’s natural emotions as a way to cut them down.
/r/seduction13/04/22 10:26 PM
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