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| 23 | Believing a 50/50 man will step up later isn’t just naive - it’s riskyRelationship is about partnership. It means you are a team and both are willing to invest time, money and effort for making other one happy. And when it comes to forming a family, it means sacrifices. People who are seeing relationship more like a business-partners, and calculating all the time how to get maximum gain with minumum invest, won't make a good team. They are not interested about "us", they are only interested about themselves. Signs are often there in very beginning. If other one is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/26 11:08 AM |
| 42 | Many women say that if a woman rejects a man, he should accept it and move on, never trying again.Do you know how shit it feels to be the woman who tells a man "I'm sorry, I'm not that into you" and then said man reads this kind of bulsshit and thinks he just needs to keep approaching? Do you know how terrifying it might get, when woman realizes her polite "no" is ignored and heard as an invitation to push more? Only way will be saying it harshly and that's exactly the situation what can be dangerous for woman. Really, women has been murdered because polite no didn't work and man took harsh … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/26 09:15 AM |
| 1 | how frequently you turned on about men you see in public ?Never. I can admire for a moment when I see very attractive person, but then I just continue with my day. I have never lusted after a man based on his looks and I have literally never thought sex or anything sexual just by seeing something I find attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 08:13 AM |
| – | Do most women take the marriage and kids revelation as positive or negative realistically?I have always wanted stability in my relationships and dated for finding a serious partner for life. My first relationship was ten years (ages 19-29) and ended because while in our early twenties our goals and dreams matched, 30's getting closer we started to want very different things for life and there was no compromises without other (or both) ending bitter. And when I dated again in my 30's I was pickier than ever and my standards were much higher than decde ago. Settling has never been an o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/26 05:05 AM |
| 7 | A lot of men do not believe women as a whole should have bodily autonomy, which can be proven by a simply hypothetical.This doesn't need any theoretical situation. We have very brutal real life examples everywhere. Everytime and everywhere when some catastrophe hits (war, natural disaster, anything) what destroys the law-based order in society, women get immediately raped. All humanitarian aid organizations have protocols for it because it always happens immediately, without exception. When there is no organized police or government executing laws, raping starts. Women are forced to pay for food and shelter by h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/26 01:18 PM |
| 5 | Do young women (under 25) get attracted to old men in good shape?Most women are attracted to men in about their own age. That's a truth many men have struggles to accept. Yes, there is women who genuinely like older men but 99% it's not about that but more of a mindset "they want to use me, so I use them back". Most of the time old men trying to appeal younger women are seen pathetic and sad, even laughable. Old men trying to buffer their muscles in hope to attract 20-something are only humiliating themselves. Men being "in shape" is honestly for other men. W… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/26 03:07 PM |
| 3 | Some women or some feminists only say that MGTOW men should actually go their own way, because they think only losers are MGTOW.What the hell :D That was an example, but all reasons to not be interested are as valid. I've been rejected by men I was interested and I never asked them to explain reasons for it, I just accepted it. Maybe they are just not that into me and that's okay. Maybe I'm just not their type, that's okay as well. Or maybe they just wanted to focus on other areas in their life or if they had someone who they were more interested. That's not my business and they don't owe me any explanation and I don't n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/26 01:42 PM |
| 32 | Some women or some feminists only say that MGTOW men should actually go their own way, because they think only losers are MGTOW.No. We just understand consent and we don't feel like we should push men who clearly doesn't even like women to be with us sexually. You'll never see a woman trying to "turn" gay men to straight because we have no problem if we are not the cup of tea for every man. But you do see lot of men trying to "turn" lesbian women ("you just haven't had a good dick before, give me a try!") because men has problem with not been desired all women they see. You are free to go your own way, just please do it … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/26 01:56 PM |
| 23 | Men need to take charge and make most of the decisions in a relationshipOP is a prime example why society seriously needs to put more effort teaching social skills and team work to young boys starting in very early childhood. If you see all relationships in your life as a hierarchy and can't see any other ways to work than either being the one in power who others follow or one of the followers, you'll miss a big chunk of healthy social life. Romantic partnership is exactly something where you should be able to walk side by side to same direction and make big lofe de… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/26 09:24 AM |
| 4 | Why do women hate being mommy, to men?I dare to generalize a bit here: Women don't want dynamics in relationship with hierarchy. They want an equal partner. They do not want man to be their servant, they want man to be competent adult, a team mate in life. Not leader and follower but two person walking side by side in common direction. Being partner means you take care of each other but there has to be balance. Immediately when dynamics goes to mothering adult man, it's an instant turn off. The solution is NOT the opposite radical: … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/26 04:06 PM |
| 11 | Would the semi egalitarian relationship model be something that would appeal to women?Well, I have in my friend circle all of those three (especially engineers, I sometimes feel like I'm surrounded by engineers....) and also many PhDs, researchers, scientists... I'm not from USA so I can't say anything about quality of US education system but in my circles when I say highly educated I don't mean they just rolled through some degree and use it as a decoration on their wall. They are very skilled for what they do and have been working hard for their knowledge and experience on thei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/25 09:29 AM |
| 7 | Would the semi egalitarian relationship model be something that would appeal to women?I cannot talk about women in general, since there is so much variety. I know some couples where other one's career is heavily prioritized since it demands lot of traveling and/or living in abroad (for example when spouse is professional athlete or work in diplomatic field), but in these cases what I know in my life they have been together from very young age so it's not that other one (who's not automatically woman btw) would have to really give up anything for it, rather their life just kind of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/25 08:48 AM |
| 13 | Would the semi egalitarian relationship model be something that would appeal to women?Not at least in my circles. Women in my friend circles are highly educated, very intelligent and successful, ambitious and they know what they want in life. They would roll their eyes for "man being primary earner" and laugh at "man's career would prioritized". Of course in long relationship there will definitely be compromises, but you can't say in advance it would be man who's career what's more important. Relationship is teamwork, neither should have to make themselves smaller for other feeli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/25 08:28 AM |
| – | Is it true European women are more interested in dating in spite of feminism?Well, as a Nordic European let's say videos I see about typical American dynamics in relationship and marriage, it seems quite terrible deal for women. Especially when there is pregnancy and baby in picture. In here women are not sacrificing their career and income for motherhood. Husbands and fathers are not "helping" but being full partners in household and parenting. Usually women are home with baby first 6 months or so and then go back to work while father is at home with baby next half of t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/25 05:31 AM |
| – | Have you ever been rejected for sleeping with too many men?No. But I also refuse to share any details about my intimate life. When I was single I took it as a huge red flag if guy was too interested about details of my past sex life. I always just said "it's private" and if he couldn't accept that as an answer, it was a deal breaker. I think it's trashy behaviour to share those things. Only thing they need to know is I have enough experience to separate good and bad sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 04:41 PM |
| 1 | What do u like the most about your significant otherThe mental support he gives to me when I'm stressed out, anxious or otherways feeling shit about something. He's always there for me. I feel like even if literally everything in world would fall apart, he would be the one thing I can trust to be there. He's seen me as my weakest and my ugliest sides but accepts and loves me as I am. But also at the same time he brings out the best of me. He gives me strength and motivation to become best version of myself. He definitely deserves to get the best … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/25 12:07 PM |
| 46 | Q4W: Would you rather be the king's mistress or a peasant's wife?Neither. I'll be the witch living in forest hut, selling poison for women in miserable relationships. I'd never choose between two differently shitty relationships. If there's no perfect relationships for me, then I'll choose myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 05:11 AM |
| 3 | I don’t think a women needs a expensive wedding ring even for $500If you are in loving relationship, you want to listen and respect things other person values and dreams about. As some people have said before, ring is symbol. My personal opinion is that if you love your partner price should not be the most important thing but rather than thinking how cheap or expensive you'd go you should think about quality and how does it match to the personality and style of the one wearing it. For example for me quality is the most important thing and second important thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/25 06:00 AM |
| 6 | Women’s vetting does filter out the majority of menI'm always amused how positive guys are about women's filters. They really think it would be the 20% or 10% going through filter. Oh my dudes, you are so damn wrong. If I use myself as an example (I don't think my standards are more strict than average) and I'd need to vet the guy I could consider attractive the vetting process would be about this: - First age, max 5 years older than me, max 5 years younger. Now we have vetted out everyone but the certain age group of 10 years. - Let's vet out e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 02:14 PM |
| -2 | CMV: Consent is sexyAnd again people cry about how they are expected to have a normal social skills and ability to communicate. Yes, it kills a mood if you ask robot-like monotonious voice: "Do I have your permission to proceed kissing you?" Instead you could look at them in the eyes, get closer, read the room, atmosphere and if you want verbal confirmation you can use questions like "how does this feel" or "do you like this?" Etc. I always think people who find consent difficult conception have never experienced t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/25 03:50 PM |
| – | The only metric for your level of attractiveness is the results you’re getting. How you rate yourself, or others, or who you deem your level means absolutely nothing.I have noticed in real life conversations women feel repulsed about talking "levels" and men in other hand love it. Many men I've discussed about this topic are keen to decide their own level as well women around them. Then they get frustrated when reality doesn't bend in their calculating system. I always try to bring out aspect that is impossible to measure and what often happens to be key factor when we talk about popularity in dating pool: charisma. But always I get ignored and told how it d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/25 01:37 PM |
| 25 | It's not offensive to ask for dna testNot only it's offensive, it's also so damn stupid to nuke your relationship like that when you really don't have to. If you feel insecure, accept it as a you problem and solve it without attacking the mother of your child when she is in exceptionally vulnerable and emotional position. After giving birth mother needs a partner who can support her, baby and their relationship, not destroying everything. You could easily get a peace for your mind by just taking a DNA samples and discreetly send the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/25 06:40 AM |
| 2 | Women advise men to be confident, but also get annoyed if a guy has the audacity to think he has a chance with themThere is a line between confident and arrogant, knowing your worth and acting like entitled to something. And it goes for both genders. Sometimes I feel men see social life as an black and white and always sailing from opposite to another without understanding the right thing is in the middle and it's all about balance. "Confident" is used as an excuse to be a dick, arrogant and mean and then they wonder why it doesn't work. And after that they act like the only other option is being complete do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 01:56 PM |
| 4 | The ugly good guy vs the abusive Chad trope is overblown in this subI find these stereotypes amusing because those who argue for them, don't see the irony: They are very sure that handsome men only will use and cheat women but ugly dude's wouldnt. With this they actually only tell about themselves: They would always cheat if they'd had an opportunity so they think all men would do that and genuine loyalty doesn't even exist for them. For them only way "all men" (actually just themselves) would stay loyal would be in situation when there is zero chances to cheat … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 12:16 PM |
| 2 | To all: Have you ever broken up/divorced and then the aftermath it made you feel that "I should have fought harder in that relationship/marriage"?No, it's the opposite. After divorce it felt like a huge stone had lifted off my back. The more time passed, the more I realised how much I put work and effort trying to save doomed relationship. After separating I used that same effort on myself and goddamnit it felt like whole new me! Leaving was hard and difficult choice to make, because he was honestly good man. Just not a good husband for me and our big dreams of life were way too different, there was never a real chance. I don't regret lea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/25 01:29 PM |
| 6 | Cheating should be illegalWhat would be the legal description of cheating? I'm sorry, but I don't think it could be "act that couple together decide being off-limit or when other one feels like being cheated on" because it's way too vague. What if other spouse thinks sexting as cheating but other one only physical sex? In physical intimacy, where goes the line, hugging, kissing, dry-humping or only a clear intercourse? How solid proof should there be for the court? I mean... there is A LOT of situations where you know ot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/25 02:23 PM |
| – | Women, would you find it inappropriate for a man to cold approach you at a nice restaurant?Direct approaching would be heavy no. Little flirting in other hand could have been fun both of you. I guess this is problem with many men, they are so obsessed with getting to their goal as fast as possible, they never enjoy little things, read the room and adapt to the situation. You could've smiled to her, maybe wink an eye playfully. And if she responses it could've lead to the non-verbal flirting from different tables. And after that maybe having a contact while visiting toilet etc but also… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 12:30 PM |
| 6 | Prostitution should be legalizedIn Finland, it's legal to buy/sell sex between consenting adults. Illegal is only to buy (or even try to buy) from under-age or victim of human trafficing. Selling is illegal only at public places. Yet men are still complaining all the time. If you suggest them to just visit a professional, they get in full rage for the idea they'd had to PAY for intimacy. So no, it doesn't solve the men's problems. It does give protection for sex workers tho, which is very good thing. I think those who are will… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/25 03:42 PM |
| 0 | The development of technology has resulted in a society in which women oppress menOP is a great example of the classic saying: "When you're accustomed to privilege equality feels like oppression." Men are not oppressed by women. But it's true women often have more social skills than men because women are trained for it from a toddler. And yes, this DOES give women some advance in a world where disagreements are solved by arguments, not by aggression and fist fight. But still, those skills are not manipulation or oppression, but an essential way to navigate in social worlds. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/25 03:28 PM |
| 6 | Women, how old are you and what is your preferred age range when dating?I'm 35 and I've always been interested only men close to my own age. I have once dated a guy 5 years older and that felt weird. My first long relationship (10 years) was with a man 2 months older than me and now my second long relationship (5 years, still going) is with a man 9 months younger than me. I would say five years younger or older is the absolute max age difference I can imagine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/25 10:59 AM |
| 16 | Men are shamed both for failing at sex and for succeeding at it.Shaming men is linked to obsessed and desperate behaviour. No one shames a man who's not having sex unless he himself makes a ridiculous scene about it. It becomes pathetic when there is whining and blaming women included. People feel repulsed by those who are visibly desperate to have sex and are trying to get it in inappropriate, obsessed and socially awkward ways. Also, no one cares if a man is having an active sex life unless he himself makes a ridiculous scene about it. Trying to hit every … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/25 08:21 AM |
| 1 | Men should stop lying about having low standardsWell, with that logic there is no dating pool for women either then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 01:48 PM |
| 5 | Men should stop lying about having low standardsHalf of the population is women. There IS pool. Problem is not that there wouldn't BE single women (well, in China they definitely have this problem). Problem is behaviour which makes women see men dangerous, disrespecting and more possible threat to their happiness than a chance to get happier. Not all men, but so many men that women HAS TO be careful and every man HAS TO prove first he's not like the other men. Getting abused, harassed and exploited is so damn common. Men without any standards… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 01:23 PM |
| 46 | Men should stop lying about having low standardsMen generally having no standards at all is exactly what makes their dating more difficult. Not all men, but SOME men are willing to have sex with animals (seriously, I once read about brothel were an ORANGUTAN was kept as a sex-slave for years) and even dead corpses. We all have encountered men who first try to hit a woman next to us, then when get rejected moves on trying to hit us with exactly same lines and moves to next one when again rejected. There is so much men who are obsessed about qu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/25 01:03 PM |
| 6 | How do women in relationships react when they meet a man significantly more attractive and more successful than their current partner?For me, it's difficult to imagine this kind of situation because I see my current man as perfect. He's without doubt handsome and successful but those are not the main reasons I choose to be with him. I'd be with him even if he suddenly would lost his career (my income can cover us both, if needed) and well... I look forward to age with him and I know for certain he won't be as objectively attractive in his 80's as he is now in his 30's. Looks will fade for both of us. Even if I'd meet a man who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 05:57 AM |
| 32 | Women gripe that "the bar is in hell" for men, but the situation is actually reversedYou just made up in your head demandings and cry how they are too much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/25 05:14 AM |
| – | The Flawed Logic Behind Opposing Standard Paternity TestsI do sympathize men, I honestly do. If they feel uncertain they should definitely have an easy and free (or at least cheap) way to do DNA test. However, it STILL is a statement of questioning the loyalty. No relationship can work if there is always a suspicion and both parties have to prove all the time their faithfulness. Let's say you'll do a DNA-test and kid is yours. Great, but it only tells for sure ONE intercourse with this woman was with you. It means you accept that in your head she migh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/25 01:58 PM |
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