Bulkyboiii Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
32	The biggest sign I found to see if a girl is interested in me is how easily I can make her laugh.	Escalation & Calibration	Bulkyboiii	/r/seduction	08/02/20 08:59 PM
2	Hey seddit, how did you get rid of the feeling that she's out of your league?		Bulkyboiii	/r/seduction	16/12/19 11:20 AM

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3	I had one of the best dates I've ever had after months of self-improvement. I'm getting the same vibe from her comments lmao	/r/seduction	31/03/20 10:42 AM
2	What might be some good questions to ask yourself if you cannot tell if a text you will send or sentence you say is too needy/too pushy/weak? So some good mental tests to check whether your sentence is needy? Might sound like a silly question but guys say needy things by accident ALL the time This is a great question. You're absolutely correct that ideally your mindset should be in the right place so that you're naturally not needy. Otherwise you'll have to keep checking yourself and eventually neediness will slip. But I've definitely gotten into a needy mindset unconsciously where I've blurted out needy things without realizing it. I cringe when I think about the needy things I've said. Ask yourself, "Is this text driven by fear or fun?" Typically needy behavior is driven by fear, a…	/r/seduction	05/03/20 09:07 AM
5	Giving up? Lol damn dude your head is not in a good place right now. You have to get your headspace right before you can even worry about girls. Otherwise you'll just give off bad vibes when you approach, which will lead to rejection, which will spiral you even further down. The issue here is that your "self-improvement" is revolving around your belief that you are not good enough. You're lifting and dieting not for your own fulfillment, but to fulfill what you think others want from you. You have to refra…	/r/seduction	03/03/20 09:33 AM
1	How TINDER (and TRP) fixed my Approach anxiety, made me more social and basically improved my life Gotcha, so not shirtless pics, but pics that obviously say, "Damn this guy's got a sick body."	/r/TheRedPill	29/02/20 04:28 AM
1	How TINDER (and TRP) fixed my Approach anxiety, made me more social and basically improved my life Thanks! And thanks for the quality post, this is very inspiring. How much did you weigh before you started cutting? I'm trying to decide when to start my cut.	/r/TheRedPill	29/02/20 04:27 AM
1	How TINDER (and TRP) fixed my Approach anxiety, made me more social and basically improved my life Did you post a shirtless pic too? Just wondering how your tinder profile was set up. I'm inspired to follow this path after reading all this.	/r/TheRedPill	29/02/20 04:06 AM
2	How TINDER (and TRP) fixed my Approach anxiety, made me more social and basically improved my life What were your experiences with taller girls? Did they know about your height before meeting up with you? I'm also 5'6" and I tend to shy away from taller girls on tinder.	/r/TheRedPill	29/02/20 12:39 AM
14	when most girls are taller than you how do you even date? 5'6" dude here. I have had some success with women, but some of my shorter friends have had a lot more success than me. I definitely empathize with you because being short is a clear disadvantage for dating. That being said, here are my dating tips for you based on my experience as well as what I've noticed with my shorter friends: Accept your height. It won't change, and focusing on something that won't change is not only ineffective, but also unhealthy. Additionally, your insecurities will hur…	/r/seduction	27/02/20 02:59 AM
6	How to be more interesting I've noticed the exact same thing. I connect better with people and have better conversations when I have the energy and emotion behind it. When I try to be interesting, I've had a harder time connecting with people since I'm in my head and watching what I say.	/r/seduction	27/02/20 12:12 AM
7	How to be more interesting Hahaha it means pickup artist	/r/seduction	27/02/20 12:08 AM
2	His First Ever Attempt At Approaching Women (Daygame Infield) Very insightful to see a newbie approach. Thanks for posting!	/r/seduction	20/02/20 07:02 AM
2	Lost my virginity at 33yo!! Congrats dude! Another 5'6" dude checking in. Love the detail you put into this. Out of curiosity, what makes you think posture made a bigger difference than muscles? In my experience, I did best with women when I was muscular. I definitely get what you mean by being more relaxed because she's not super attractive. Keep working on yourself so that you can behave the same way with more attractive women. I've definitely fucked up a couple of opportunities with attractive women because I got needy …	/r/seduction	19/02/20 06:16 AM
3	How to stop being seen as a friend and become more attractive? Then the multitude of books and articles I've read by dating experts are also "absolutely wrong". Not saying guys don't care about personality. I'm saying looks are guys' primary trigger for attraction. For women, that primary trigger is dominant, assertive, and confident behavior. I've read about tall handsome dudes that attract women initially, but that attractiveness faded because of their low confidence.	/r/seduction	16/02/20 01:40 AM
15	How to stop being seen as a friend and become more attractive? The less hard truth is that looks matter less to women compared to guys. Behavior is #1, so if you can pull off confidence and playfulness, it makes up for anything you lack in the looks department. But ideally you'd also dress well, groom yourself, and stay fit to give yourself the best chances.	/r/seduction	15/02/20 03:29 PM
1	Social Status is King Contact the mods or repost it. It was a quality post!	/r/seduction	10/02/20 10:12 PM
1	How to convert? No worries, we live and learn!	/r/seduction	04/02/20 04:54 AM
3	How to convert? I think it's weird to get her number just to text her. But getting her number with the intention of taking her out and having a fun time is more natural. Keep doing what you're doing at the gym. Wait a bit, and then next time you guys get flirty or you guys are vibing, ask her if she wants to grab a coffee, drink, whatever. Something casual on a later date and outside the gym. If she turns you down, don't sweat it, and move on to the next one. There'll always be another one.	/r/seduction	04/02/20 01:40 AM
3	Talking to a woman on the phone is not as bad as you think! Oops lol my bad!	/r/seduction	03/02/20 05:44 AM
7	Talking to a woman on the phone is not as bad as you think! I can vouch for this. Talking on the phone has helped me build rapport before meeting girls, making things much easier when I did meet them. Also for me, it helped me be a better conversationalist since you have to focus in on what they're saying. On the phone, I don't have to worry about eye contact, how I look, etc. so it's helped me become a better listener.	/r/seduction	03/02/20 05:06 AM
3	Shame is keeping me from approaching. How do you overcome this? Become the best-looking and most confident 5'2" dude you can be. I'm 5'6", but my shorter friends are dating some GORGEOUS women. Why? They live a lifestyle they love, and they're confident in who they are. Behavior is the biggest point of attraction for women, so confidence will help you the most, and insecurities will hurt you the most. If you feel you don't deserve to be with an attractive woman, then you need to take a step back and become an attractive man. And you become an attractive man …	/r/seduction	24/01/20 06:13 AM
3	A few questions to the relationship saavy 1) When you vibe with a girl, it just means it's easy to talk to her, easy to make her laugh, and easy to have fun with her. Good vibing is essentially effortless. Vibing makes it easy to escalate and establish a connection. 2) I'd bet that if an attractive dude made an effort, she'd go for it. Unless she really isn't looking for someone. 3) Looks matter. But lucky for us, women are more attracted to behavior than looks. So definitely put in the effort to look good, but even more important is be…	/r/seduction	24/01/20 05:52 AM
2	What to do if girl feels your desperation . The answer is easy, but it's tough to do. Stop being desperate. I was in the exact same situation as you a year ago. Girl was into me, but I was pretty needy, and when she stopped having feelings for me, I got even more desperate. I legit couldn't get her out of my mind. I had a hard time sleeping. I woke up with anxiety attacks at times. It's not a fun place to be. I know that right now you want to do anything you can to get with her. But this is the wrong path. Trust me. I've gone down this pa…	/r/seduction	24/01/20 05:09 AM
2	I am putting a girl on a pedestal right now. Things i'm doing to stop doing that In my experience, talking to other girls of the same quality as my "#1" or of better quality has helped me take her off the pedestal. It's great that you have awareness of your oneitis. But you should also be aware that you can't really control your thoughts. Saying "don't think about her" is gonna ultimately lead you to think about her. For my oneitis, no contact helped me the best. It's more difficult since she works with you, so limiting exposure to her is tougher. Try to have more exposure t…	/r/seduction	24/01/20 04:45 AM
4	how does sex “just happen”? Lol this is preselection at work. I read about it all the time but it's still interesting to see an example of it happening.	/r/seduction	23/01/20 08:12 PM
3	She told me I was boring. What are some tips I can do to change this? Focus more on your fun instead of wondering if she finds you fun. If you're having fun, you'll give off fun vibes without even trying. This takes practice though, especially with women you find attractive since we tend to be more worried about what they think of us. Just remember this: playfulness. Playfulness is the best thing that's helped my game, hands down. And if she doesn't think your fun is fun? Fuck it, you wouldn't have had a good time with her anyway. Last thing, let this shitty feeli…	/r/seduction	23/01/20 05:54 AM
5	* 3 DATE RULE " He's not. From experience, if you build enough rapport and spike enough attraction, you can definitely get past kissing on the first date.	/r/seduction	17/01/20 04:09 AM
2	Can anyone help? Super confused. I got needy vibes from that last paragraph. I wouldn't have called the following day especially since she didn't text back. Calibrating your investment to hers is very important, especially in the early stages of dating. Even if she's interested initially, a needy vibe can turn her off real quick. I hooked up with a girl once, gave off needy vibes as she left, and boom I got ghosted a couple days later. That being said, the more attracted she is to you, the more "mistakes" you can make with your…	/r/seduction	13/01/20 03:30 AM
2	Do you have male friends that should be successful with women but are not? What are they doing wrong? Currently struggle with this. What steps have you taken to accept your insecurities?	/r/seduction	16/12/19 08:22 PM
2	You guys have helped me lose weight, dress nicer, and start getting laid! BUT I have one big problem that keeps me from keeping the chicks around. I get to affectionate after a f*#k and I drive them away. Exactly!! The cliche in movies and TV definitely contributes to the confusion in this situation. Glad I'm not the only one who went through this. Oh well, live and learn. I'll make sure to calibrate my affection next time.	/r/seduction	15/12/19 06:05 PM
4	You guys have helped me lose weight, dress nicer, and start getting laid! BUT I have one big problem that keeps me from keeping the chicks around. I get to affectionate after a f*#k and I drive them away. Also curious about this because it just happened to me too. Got too affectionate after hooking up and then got ghosted shortly after	/r/seduction	15/12/19 03:41 AM
4	Anyone else had their heart ripped out of their chest? Yeah, it happened to me about a year ago. It's going to take time before it gets better. I won't lie, it's gonna hurt. No matter how much you try to just suck it up, it's gonna hurt. I remember seeing the "it's just gonna take time" advice before and not believing it at first. But day by day, I promise you, it will get better.. under one condition: you have to keep moving forward. Don't contact her and block her on social media. Whenever you catch yourself dwelling on it, take a deep breath and …	/r/seduction	12/12/19 04:34 PM
8	Essentials of Seduction & Pickup: Boyfriend Vibe vs. The Player Vibe It's difficult to think and guess if a girl is actually showing signals or if she's just being friendly. Honestly, the only way to figure out if she's into you is to make a move and see how she reacts. Escalate and then calibrate every step of the way based on her reaction. As for the boyfriend thing, it's up to you if you still want to make a move or not if she seems interested. For me personally, if it looks like a serious relationship, then I don't care if she's attracted to me. I'm not makin…	/r/seduction	12/12/19 04:09 PM
3	Essentials of Seduction & Pickup: Boyfriend Vibe vs. The Player Vibe Are you referring to figuring out if a girl is into you or not?	/r/seduction	12/12/19 12:47 PM
5	I finally beat it- the hardest journey of my life What mindset did you need to get over premature ejaculation?	/r/TheRedPill	12/09/19 09:06 PM
3	alright boys , where did i screw up ? Always escalate and calibrate. Dial it back since she left you on read. She might have gotten bored at the lake, or she just doesn't think you're attractive enough, who knows. I've vibed with girls before and ended up getting ghosted the next time I reached out to them. It happens. With more experience, you'll find girls that will put in the effort to hang out with you. And then you'll realize you don't wanna bother with the flakey ones.	/r/seduction	09/09/19 08:32 PM
15	She left me on READ but we've been dating for 4 months? She left me on read even though I'm not needy You made a whole post about why she left you on read. Even if you don't show neediness through text, whatever's on the inside is going to show eventually. You have to nip neediness in the bud before it takes a toll on your emotional well-being and before it repels her. Speaking from experience here. She's busy, she's enjoying life. You should do the same. Go focus on other things for a while. Things are out of balance right now since your well-being …	/r/seduction	09/09/19 08:12 PM
1	Abundance mindset for noobs Well put, but I'd also add that it means being secure enough in your value and not just your game. It's knowing that who you are is awesome, so you can attract awesome girls as a result.	/r/seduction	31/07/19 03:54 AM
2	How to Prevent Nice Guy/Low Energy Vibes Definitely agree with this comment. If you talk as if whatever you're saying is super interesting, the energy you give off will lure people in. Try to consciously become interested in whatever you're saying, and you'll naturally give off more energy. On the flip side, becoming interested in whatever the other person is saying will allow you to both actively listen and give more enthusiastic responses in return.	/r/seduction	10/07/19 08:44 PM
2	Self-help notes Awesome summary! The doubling down on yourself and volume knob bullet points make so much sense to me.	/r/seduction	10/07/19 08:33 PM
2	I found what works for me, finally. This speaks to me a lot since by default, I'm a cautious guy. What do you tell yourself when you're feeling like that shy introverted kid again?	/r/seduction	03/07/19 09:35 PM
2	Can two people like each other equally Thanks for the reminder that once you get the girl, continue to improve and work towards the best version of yourself.	/r/seduction	20/06/19 01:30 AM
2	Dealing with rejection in a healthy way: comparing rejections between applying for jobs and pursuing romantic interests Very insightful, thanks for sharing!!	/r/seduction	08/06/19 07:50 PM
9	A sincere thank you. Inspirational transformation! What are the most helpful things you've read or watched on your journey?	/r/TheRedPill	06/06/19 08:35 PM
2	3 months of no contact. Time to hit her up again? Similar story to me. Also got a case of oneitis. If you're confident that the new and improved you isn't wimpy or clingy, I would hit her up again. However, neediness will always shine through so if your oneitis is bad, it's not going to work out. If you don't think you can have outcome independence with this girl, I wouldn't go for it. But if you can honestly say you won't mind getting rejected and you can easily move on if she does reject you, then go for it.	/r/seduction	31/05/19 08:48 PM