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| 12 | The spotlight effect is in your head | Fundamentals | Bullbythehorns25 | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 04:55 AM |
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| -5 | Make her laugh guys, and you’ve already done half the workYou’re not funny | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 11:22 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys stay positive?If that’s the case, then we would see most humans fight for their dreams, not living in fear. So it’s a motivator for some | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 09:29 PM |
| 8 | How do you guys stay positive?Death isn’t a motivator until it hits you or you’re in a hospital. | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 08:34 PM |
| 1 | How do you guys stay positive?You don’t, life is inherently suffering. But be grateful if you’re neurotypical. | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 05:47 PM |
| 2 | When the scarcity mindset is justifiedIt depends, you’re acting as if it’s a one size fits all. | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 05:46 PM |
| 2 | When the scarcity mindset is justifiedYeah tell that to someone working 2 jobs. | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that posts from women struggling with dating tend to receive supportive advice, while similar posts from men often receive more negative responses?That’s true! I agree. | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Spent so many years by myself I've become a loner/quiet guyGet out of your comfort zone, there’s no other way. You know what to do. | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 01:25 PM |
| -6 | Spent so many years by myself I've become a loner/quiet guyGo out and talk to people. | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 12:36 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that posts from women struggling with dating tend to receive supportive advice, while similar posts from men often receive more negative responses?Why( | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 11:20 AM |
| 7 | Power structures and the Generalised Shit TestYou’re overcomplicating something that’s incredibly simple. | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 10:37 AM |
| 5 | Power structures and the Generalised Shit TestAbsolute hogwash. | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 10:32 AM |
| 3 | Train your pickup musclesEasier said than done | /r/seduction | 15/11/25 09:49 AM |
| 3 | Approach Journey: Logging Every Interaction - Day 2I think it depends on the metro system, some are totally not places for communication for. It’s highly circumstantial. I don’t think saying ‘you fucked up’ is the best thing to say here | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Why is it that posts from women struggling with dating tend to receive supportive advice, while similar posts from men often receive more negative responses?The mind is the most important thing. | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Why is it that posts from women struggling with dating tend to receive supportive advice, while similar posts from men often receive more negative responses?None lol. Women are way more supportive to other men than men are to men | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 06:40 PM |
| 3 | Why is it that posts from women struggling with dating tend to receive supportive advice, while similar posts from men often receive more negative responses?You can put in the work and still not get results, it how it is. | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Risks of approaching in conservative countries?That’s fair, we all start somewhere; I won’t criticize someone for putting themselves out there. | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Risks of approaching in conservative countries?He would get way worse reactions in the west with that but I still respect him for trying; it does seem like he’s starting out. | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Risks of approaching in conservative countries?A direct opener always displays confidence and you don’t waste her time. And you’re calling this spam approaching? No one men don’t approach they get hounded by other men for trying ironically. | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 04:03 PM |
| 1 | When the scarcity mindset is justifiedIf you have ADHD, it’s much harder to take action, I can attest to his struggle. Particularly the inattentive type. | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 10:05 AM |
| 2 | When the scarcity mindset is justifiedI got it too, it has impacted my chances with women; it’s made it much harder for me to progress. | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 09:45 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with the waiting?Try it, I mean approaching women is tough it would me a long time to get to a point where cold approaches was doable. But warm approaches through hobbies or relationships through friends suggestions is a much more socially acceptable way. Honestly just give it a try. Why do you not have confidence? | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 09:18 AM |
| 2 | When the scarcity mindset is justifiedI got ADHD, it does make it hard especially the inattentive type. | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 04:36 AM |
| 1 | How do you deal with the waiting?Have you tried just shared activities in general? Like any fitness classes, music etc. It’s not cold approach then but warm approach | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 04:32 AM |
| 2 | When the scarcity mindset is justifiedNot you, I’m just talking about someone in this position in general | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 04:30 AM |
| 1 | When the scarcity mindset is justifiedAs if someone is suddenly going to wake up and take action after making excuses for years. Otherwise we wouldn’t have this sub. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 10:58 PM |
| 2 | Entering the Game. Approach Journey: Logging Every Interaction From Day 1This is false, there’s no one size fits all. Some women with headphones do not mind being approached. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 07:57 PM |
| 3 | How do I build a rotation of women at the gym without giving away my power?You won’t build a rotation because you can’t even act on a warm signal, which are the quick glances. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 07:33 PM |
| 6 | WHY GAME WORKSGame by definition is facade, you’re thinking about what to say and not being authentic, and it’s really hard to try to be something you’re not. Women can smell it. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 06:20 PM |
| 2 | When the scarcity mindset is justifiedYou’re saying as if one day someone can wake up and suddenly talk to women. If they haven’t at this point, they’re never going to without real life help. A person who’s being debating to approach for years or never had an experiences with women mostly likely needs coaching or therapy. 9/10 they’ll never do it alone; they’ve already found every excuse under the sun, which in turn creates a defeatist mindset. I’ve seen the smoothest talk who for 23 years of life never approached, he did get relati… | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 05:48 PM |
| 2 | How to become a good talkerPractice, get out there and take raw action. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 05:14 PM |
| 8 | WHY GAME WORKSGaming is killing your chances, you’re not supposed to put on a facade! If you frame it as game you’ll overwhelm so many beginners, and they’ll be stuck in analysis paralysis. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 02:43 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal with the waiting?I read through your comment history and this is clearly a big deal for you, my advice would be to throw yourself in the deep end; you got nothing to lose or you risk this doom spiral of regret and negativity. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 01:48 PM |
| 2 | How do you deal with the waiting?That’s fine but remember you said you have no agency. And you finished with some self pity spiel about how you’re trapped in the ‘attic of dormancy’, which is complete nonsense because you could be taking action. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 10:03 AM |
| 2 | PSA: Whiny Men Are RepulsiveThis is a nuanced topic, but in my case I have inattentive ADHD, this makes rejection much worse in my mind, it’s much harder to initiate tasks, my working memory means words don’t come to my mind fast enough. It goes without saying this is a constant struggle. Of course, I don’t complain, but I can see why people do depending on their circumstances but only do it to vent healthy and then go back to working. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 09:03 AM |
| 3 | How do you deal with the waiting?You have agency, starting approaching. | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 07:39 AM |
| 2 | How many approaches?Possibly that makes sense, but I’ve seen guys who have done so many approaches who are still at scratch. But generally you’ll improve after 2k-4k approaches, that it becomes a subconscious thing. | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 08:14 PM |
| 8 | People don't have to give you a valid reason for rejecting you, not even out of courtesyHow’s this even under question? | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 06:45 PM |
| 2 | PSA: Whiny Men Are RepulsiveIt is a very brutal life for men that’s why they complain, but you got to keep it to yourself. | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 06:07 PM |
| 7 | How many approaches?You can’t be kind of good if you approach 2000-4000; that’s irrelevant, your success is determined by relationships and dates. | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 05:53 PM |
| 3 | Approach!Approach!!Approach!!!Don’t do one, do 20! | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 03:42 PM |
| 8 | How a Woman Feels the Field of a Contained Man (Energetically Explained)AI driven slop, get outta here! | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 02:16 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with the spotlight effect when talking to women?This is the hardest hurdle of approaching women but the answer is just to do it. No other way. | /r/seduction | 11/11/25 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Clean your damn space (seriously)This won’t make a difference in the grand scheme of things, we men get this analytic this is when they lost the woman. | /r/seduction | 11/11/25 09:28 AM |
| 1 | How often do you guys get approached by womenNot exactly the norm though is it. | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 07:23 PM |
| 1 | How often do you guys get approached by womenEven hot guys never get approached | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 09:26 AM |
| 3 | How often do you guys get approached by womenNever | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 09:26 AM |
| 1 | How stupid is this statement:"Stop Thinking About it, Focus on yourself, and it will happen".That’s overthinking, it doesn’t matter what you say. It’s how you say it. | /r/seduction | 09/11/25 06:19 PM |
| 1 | How approach effect your reputationIt depends on your social skills. That’s the number one determinant. | /r/seduction | 07/11/25 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Approach anxietyI mean no matter what you do, you’ll like a creep to the segment of the population but what you’re doing is not creepy. No one cares about what you do, approach that hottie. | /r/seduction | 06/11/25 04:06 PM |
| 28 | Best ways to spend money to improve your seductionBest way is to stay super social, so 1 and 4 are the best bang for your buck. You can look like the Quasimodo, but if you’re energy and emotional intelligence are on point you’ll always be a winner. | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 05:21 PM |
| 5 | That moment when you try to control everything… and ruin it allThis is one of the best posts on this subreddit. Just pin it. | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 09:28 AM |
| 2 | My first time approachingI mean if it’s his first approach I don’t think going indirect is bad and different things can work depending on the situation. The whole masculine be direct shit doesn’t have to be the established order of things. | /r/seduction | 04/11/25 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Cold approach beginnerExactly, people expect a positive response. No you’ll get dirty looks and cold sheets; it’s part of the game. | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 06:00 PM |
| 1 | I am deeply frustratedThen you are special, even with high volume most men won’t be that successful | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 02:21 PM |
| 1 | I am deeply frustratedYou’re saying that you’re not special lol? | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 07:59 AM |
| 1 | I am deeply frustratedExcuses | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 07:48 AM |
| 1 | Does the Fear Of Rejection Ever Completely Go Away?Should take 100 | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 11:04 PM |
| 3 | Does the Fear Of Rejection Ever Completely Go Away?It’s more that you got an audience and people do watch. Obviously you gotta tell your mind they are strangers who are irrelevant but still it’s paralyzing. | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 09:12 PM |
| 1 | I am deeply frustratedBut people in big cities still make excuses that’s my point. It’s a huge cope because when these men get to big cities they’ll make the excuses list even longer! | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 07:21 PM |
| 3 | I am deeply frustratedYou say that but someone in a big city will still have trouble meeting women or come with reasons why. Do we just conclude men just love making excuses, so big city or not is irrelevant for most men when fundamentally it’s the inner work that lacks. The small city thing is just convenient for men. | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 06:37 PM |
| 1 | I am deeply frustratedLess than 3% on average | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 06:34 PM |
| 1 | I am deeply frustratedNo one approaches 200 per week. Even in high volume cities; this is way too unrealistic and maybe 0.01% of men can do that. 20-40 per week is plenty. | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 05:48 PM |
| 2 | I am deeply frustratedNo you don’t have to do 200 per week. | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 05:25 PM |
| 5 | I am deeply frustratedThe basket ball metaphor is not a great way too look at it. Approaching women is way more complex than that. | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 05:25 PM |
| 4 | There Are Guys In This Sub Who Don’t Know The Difference Between “Sexual Attraction” and “Physical Attraction “😳Most women won’t get that vibe from men because they wouldn’t try to come across like that. | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 11:45 AM |
| 4 | There Are Guys In This Sub Who Don’t Know The Difference Between “Sexual Attraction” and “Physical Attraction “😳Become a charismatic and funny guy | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 11:44 AM |
| 2 | Taking a break from thisNo one cares about your past or excuses, become a winner; that’s all that matters. Start with fitness and hygiene and do approaches in the daytime. | /r/seduction | 02/11/25 11:09 AM |
| 14 | How can I get girls without going to bar or pub?Don’t be a dick about it, we all have these doubts when we first started. | /r/seduction | 01/11/25 07:53 PM |
| 11 | How can I get girls without going to bar or pub?Approach women on your campus! | /r/seduction | 01/11/25 06:38 PM |
| 1 | 25M need help approach?? | /r/seduction | 01/11/25 04:07 PM |
| 8 | I kinda understand know why this subreddit exist.There’s a lot to unpack here. Firstly, this inner+outer+talk game is just gonna over complicate everything and lead you to analysis paralysis. That is why you feel like shit after your first Halloween party. | /r/seduction | 01/11/25 12:57 PM |
| 8 | while you wait, other men are sleeping with your dream girlYou won’t help with titles like this, just saying. | /r/seduction | 31/10/25 01:39 PM |
| 1 | while you wait, other men are sleeping with your dream girlOn the street, grocery store, parks, book stores. | /r/seduction | 31/10/25 12:13 PM |
| 244 | while you wait, other men are sleeping with your dream girlGus makes a living fear mongering, he’s trying to get clients with this. Not saying he’s wrong, but be careful with his Chat GPT posts! | /r/seduction | 31/10/25 10:47 AM |
| 1 | Why it is hard for short guys in datingHeight doesn’t matter; it’s your social skills! | /r/seduction | 30/10/25 05:53 PM |
| -2 | Why it is hard for short guys in datingIt’s not. Short guys with confidence will always prevail over a tall guy with no confidence and energy. | /r/seduction | 30/10/25 01:31 PM |
| -3 | I’m giving up on flirting and being seductiveCrying and anger is not ok lol. You might as well quit then. | /r/seduction | 29/10/25 10:01 AM |
| 5 | I’m giving up on flirting and being seductiveLife as a man is brutal lol but it’s not impossible | /r/seduction | 29/10/25 09:27 AM |
| -1 | why your dating life feels like a prisonHe’s not hot, look at his videos. Average guy but has no excuses. Beats that hot guy who constantly makes excuses. | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 05:59 PM |
| 1 | a way to establish quick familiarity and comfortSmile, and make sure your tone is confident. You gotta be in a good mood too, which the tone and smile will convey. Otherwise the stranger danger alarm bells ring. | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 05:29 PM |
| 1 | What’s yearning?She’s saying you are desperate | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 02:34 PM |
| 1 | why your dating life feels like a prisonLife is tough wear a helmet | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 01:04 PM |
| 3 | why your dating life feels like a prisonWhat do you mean? A man has to get rejected tons to find someone on average, it’s how it is | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 12:52 PM |
| 1 | why your dating life feels like a prisonTrue, but a man has to endure it | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 12:25 PM |
| 4 | 20M Need Cold Approach advicePeople don’t care about you remember. | /r/seduction | 28/10/25 07:31 AM |
| 1 | I Think Cold Approaching is A Win-Win SituationAlways better but most men fear looking stupid, or getting embarrassed; it’s always better to try and fail in life then wonder what if. | /r/seduction | 27/10/25 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Do I look too much like a bear?Nah rock that look! It’s unique. | /r/seduction | 27/10/25 11:29 AM |
| 2 | 21 and still a virgin.Start approaching women in college, it’s totally normal to do that on college! The setting itself is conducive towards it. | /r/seduction | 26/10/25 09:17 PM |
| 2 | How to Deal with Stares or Negative experiencesI mean people are going stare no matter what, they are strangers and NPCs in your mind. | /r/seduction | 26/10/25 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Why looks matter but not as much as you may thinkLooks don’t matter in my opinion, the guys with the hottest women were very socially savvy. Women are social creatures and attracted to very charismatic, social beings. A woman does not get turned on by someone’s appearance; it’s a non factor. If guys went out and failed instead of cloaking themselves under the guise of working on themselves they would see more success. | /r/seduction | 25/10/25 11:12 AM |
| 1 | Which seduction method programs or systems have you followed and gotten laid with?Kristian Kasanova is the best | /r/seduction | 23/10/25 10:15 AM |
| 2 | Help me find some optimal cities to move to for day game.This is ridiculous over analysis lol | /r/seduction | 23/10/25 09:50 AM |
| 1 | I don't think race that matters when it comes to seductionI guess it’s not a one size fits all. I suppose if you’re a smart neurodivergent person, you’ll generate lot of interest. | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Which dating coach programs or systems have you gotten laid with?The whole pick up artistry nonsense | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 07:46 PM |
| 1 | I don't think race that matters when it comes to seductionNot in my experience, because the traits are contrary to what women are attracted to. | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 07:06 PM |
| 1 | I don't think race that matters when it comes to seductionWhy would women be interested in neurodivergents? | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Which dating coach programs or systems have you gotten laid with?Kristian Kasanova is very good, he’s anti game. This sub could do with him. | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 06:54 PM |
| 1 | What has been the best places to create an opportunity to meet women and date them ?Doesn’t matter, combine that with a neurodivergent condition it’s hell | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Reflections on trying to do cold approaches in Japan as an introvertCold approach is definitely socially unorthodox, more of a difficult place to demonstrate this skill set. | /r/seduction | 22/10/25 06:39 AM |
| 4 | I don't think race that matters when it comes to seductionTry being neurodivergent, way harder. Race is just depends on the women’s taste. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 05:50 PM |
| 3 | do women ever take iniative and lead?Mostly no | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 05:40 PM |
| 1 | I don't think race that matters when it comes to seductionWell you’re doing something right | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 05:09 PM |
| 1 | I don't think race that matters when it comes to seductionI’m 26 and the same. Women are interested in me though. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 05:07 PM |
| -3 | I don't think race that matters when it comes to seductionYes, I can’t believe people say race places a big factor! I’m a 7.5/10, get checked out by women but I’m neurodivergent with ADHD; it’s an absolute death sentence! I’d trade that with being a funny, charismatic guy any day. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 04:31 PM |
| -2 | I don't think race that matters when it comes to seductionThis is just bad advice, you’re labeling Asians with specific stereotypes which will only perpetuate those. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 04:30 PM |
| 1 | I don't think race that matters when it comes to seductionYeah but it’s a delicate balance, no point expending so much energy for suboptimal results; you have to be strategic. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 04:29 PM |
| -1 | I have a good lifestyle and look, but zero romantic experience with the opposite sex. Is the society so bad or it’s also me?It’s really fucking hard to be socially deficient and have exceptional finances, the bar is really low. I doubt OP has been trying. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 09:15 AM |
| 1 | Can Asians be good at game?Exactly lol, complete nonsensical post. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 09:13 AM |
| 1 | Can Asians be good at game?Stop using words like ‘game’ and ‘SMV’; this is going to poison your mindset. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 09:12 AM |
| -2 | I have a good lifestyle and look, but zero romantic experience with the opposite sex. Is the society so bad or it’s also me?Money talks and makes the world go around; they will be with someone who has money even if his social skills are average. | /r/seduction | 21/10/25 09:10 AM |
| 1 | Guys who went from anxious to players, what book/course helped you the most?There’s no course or book; you have walk through the flames of adversity. | /r/seduction | 19/10/25 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Women don’t trust me?Possible, most guys don’t try of course. | /r/seduction | 19/10/25 10:30 AM |
| -1 | Women don’t trust me?Ethnic guys have a tougher time, I don’t get how this is a pity party. Look at the racism online, it’s at unbelievable levels, couple that with stereotypes. | /r/seduction | 19/10/25 10:18 AM |
| 6 | What needs to change to stop “radiating” insecurity?Be confident in your skin, values, and your life. Don’t project any sort of victim mentality, and have a positive mindset. | /r/seduction | 18/10/25 05:43 PM |
| 7 | your childhood trauma isn’t an excuseI think childhood makes a HUGE difference, your younger years give you positive feedback loops that are self reinforcing. However, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try if you have not had that, it’s still very much possible. | /r/seduction | 18/10/25 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Free in-person coaching in NYCIt’s true. | /r/seduction | 17/10/25 04:13 PM |
| 3 | Wearing dress clothes approaching on college campus got weird reactionsWear whatever you want | /r/seduction | 17/10/25 03:54 AM |
| 1 | Free in-person coaching in NYCYou looks good man! | /r/seduction | 16/10/25 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Free in-person coaching in NYCNo they won’t, physical attractiveness means nothing for a guy. It’s used for initial attraction that’s it. | /r/seduction | 16/10/25 09:10 PM |
| 4 | Be more assertive and directYou should be loud too. Don’t approach half hearted or with a low voice or it will look creepy, always own your desires. | /r/seduction | 15/10/25 10:28 PM |
| 3 | Stop looking for excusesThis is hardly a significant problem though, most men aren’t putting in the work and approaching; they are clinging on to convenient excuses to justify their echo chambers! | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 09:30 PM |
| 6 | Stop looking for excusesWe are men, we have to fight for our dreams. This is insignificant compared to what our ancestors faced. | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 05:30 PM |
| 5 | Stop looking for excusesLife isn’t fair deal with it; you’re epitomizing the message of this post. | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 05:04 PM |
| 0 | What are your guys’ go to openers for when doing day game?Some will, some won’t. | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 09:39 AM |
| 1 | What are your guys’ go to openers for when doing day game?I do a variation of this and then tell them they’re absolutely gorgeous, then a beaming smile from them follows. It never fails. | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 08:45 AM |
| 2 | What are your guys’ go to openers for when doing day game?You’re over analyzing this way too much | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 08:42 AM |
| 2 | Looking for Wingman DubaiCut the bullshit | /r/seduction | 14/10/25 08:25 AM |
| 1 | How to start a conversation with random girls.I’ve approached lots of attractive women and they appreciate me approaching them and give me a beaming smile. And they love the compliment. Is this maybe because when a hotter guy does, it hold more value or is it because they aren’t approached as much and they love the compliment. I guess it’s not one size fits all. | /r/seduction | 13/10/25 05:27 PM |
| 1 | How to start a conversation with random girls.But attractive women are hardly approached ( at least in the daytime), you set yourself apart even if it’s an appearance compliment. | /r/seduction | 13/10/25 01:51 PM |
| 1 | Do you think “confidence” is overrated in seduction?You just have to be socially competent | /r/seduction | 13/10/25 01:49 PM |
| 1 | Can an average/short guy really get consistent results in cold approach?I know guys who have shot their shoot thousands of times but failed after that. Approaching women in the easiest part, but after that is where the real skill lies. | /r/seduction | 13/10/25 08:31 AM |
| 1 | Can an average/short guy really get consistent results in cold approach?You’re just making excuses, women don’t care about your looks much, it’s maybe 10% of the entire equation. | /r/seduction | 13/10/25 08:29 AM |
| -2 | Women are not capable of geniune loveHow is this incel vibes? | /r/seduction | 12/10/25 03:22 PM |
| 3 | She’s out of your league (for now)Complete nonsense, looks are periphery to a men’s value. They’ll make you pass first stage, but then become irrelevant. Your social intelligence is FAR more important. | /r/seduction | 11/10/25 04:13 PM |
| 3 | Hesitation and shynessHave no expectations, just be outcome independent. | /r/seduction | 11/10/25 09:22 AM |
| 1 | Hesitation and shynessYou’ll fuck up the first few times, it’s normal. You can’t become a master without looking like a fool. To destroy hesitation, implement the 3 second rule. | /r/seduction | 11/10/25 04:19 AM |
| 1 | What's the point and what's actually happening in this caseThey accidentally looked at you? Have you ever not done that to someone? | /r/seduction | 09/10/25 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Don’t find myself attractive, but keep getting “looks” in publicHaha nice, I already daygame, I just never go for those super crazy approaches. It took me a lot of effort to even do basic approaches. | /r/seduction | 08/10/25 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Attempting Game on CampusCampus is pretty straightforward no? You’re literally supposed to hit on the ladies, the environment is created in such a way that you would be stupid not to cold approach | /r/seduction | 08/10/25 07:34 AM |
| 1 | How did you stop blaming yourself for approaching women?I don’t care about rejection, but the potential embarrassing scenarios and onlookers; I know it’s pathetic to care about what others think. But people are still curious. | /r/seduction | 07/10/25 04:36 PM |
| 0 | Approch anxiety, should Ihit directly, ask for somthing, or blank hello , and when while walking or she sitting , I'm finding it really difficult to approch when she is sitting or when I'm engaging in Convo I'm ending it too quickly like a pressure of I will make it awkward or she will think Im hitnIf she is sitting the approach should be easy, just say I thought you looked nice | /r/seduction | 07/10/25 04:33 PM |
| 2 | Don’t find myself attractive, but keep getting “looks” in publicYou can’t call them an inadequate coward for not doing 99% of men cannot do; it’s unhelpful. I am all for tough love. | /r/seduction | 07/10/25 08:22 AM |
| 2 | How did you stop blaming yourself for approaching women?Introverts can approach though. | /r/seduction | 06/10/25 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Don’t find myself attractive, but keep getting “looks” in publicNo one is willing to embarrass themselves in public much. | /r/seduction | 06/10/25 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Don’t find myself attractive, but keep getting “looks” in publicThat’s a powerful way of looking at, but only a small percentage will heed this advice because it’s such a huge change someone to go through. | /r/seduction | 06/10/25 07:02 AM |
| 1 | 18(M) How do I get a gf? Need Help As I Am Struggling To Find OneWay too negative | /r/seduction | 02/10/25 09:57 PM |
| 1 | For beginners: 15 points to become better at approachingThis is what’s wrong with society, that we have 15 rules for this. Obviously what you’re saying is helpful but it’s mind boggling we are this point. | /r/seduction | 02/10/25 06:05 AM |
| 39 | For beginners: 15 points to become better at approachingWe shouldn’t over complicate basic human interaction; that is essentially what approaching is. | /r/seduction | 01/10/25 05:21 AM |
| 2 | Being physically attractive makes life easier but it’s not the only advantageYes I do, I stand by it. Your attitude, career, social intelligence, effort matter way more. It’s all about how you make her feel. | /r/seduction | 01/10/25 05:21 AM |
| -9 | Being physically attractive makes life easier but it’s not the only advantageLooks is like maybe 10% of what makes a guy. It’s utterly not important at all for a man. | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever approached or been approached by a woman while wearing a suit? What was the outcomeFair enough, that’s good. | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever approached or been approached by a woman while wearing a suit? What was the outcomeThey’ll orbit around you, that’s essentially the signal they wanna be approached. A woman will never approach a guy. | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 02:08 PM |
| 1 | The spotlight effect is in your headThe guy here is not harassing women. | /r/seduction | 30/09/25 05:23 AM |
| 1 | I Got My Gym Membership Suspended and Banned from the Shopping Mall for cold approaching women IRL. muh "just try offline bro, online is not real life is huge cope. online is real life."Yeah there’s always a risk to cold approach, especially in this day and age | /r/seduction | 25/09/25 05:59 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with brutal experiences 25Never cold approach if your energy or vibe is off. It’s all about mindset, it’s a losing game if those are not on point. | /r/seduction | 22/09/25 12:42 PM |
| 5 | Cold approaches in shopping malls are hard as fuckYeah I’m 26 and care way less! But approaching women is another story lol | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Cold approaches in shopping malls are hard as fuckThat’s pretty hard to start with though | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 10:15 AM |
| 21 | Cold approaches in shopping malls are hard as fuck3 is the hardest! We know we shouldn’t care what people think, but people are watching and hearing you do an uncommon thing! Well approaching someone you like isn’t unusual in the grand scheme of things but it’s will definitely generate attention to yourself. | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 10:13 AM |
| 6 | Girls are being approached less than you might thinkIn the bar, yes. Daytime, very little chance. | /r/seduction | 11/09/25 08:00 AM |
| 1 | 5 Rules For Day-game.Say the person who advocates 100 approaches a day?! The most proficient day game coaches say 20 approaches a week is enough. | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 09:51 AM |
| 2 | 5 Rules For Day-game.Daygame is fiction, no one does it. You'll stick out like a sorethumb for something that has a low chance of succeeding. | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 08:48 AM |
| 9 | 5 Rules For Day-game.100 approaches a day? Complete nonsensical slop coming from someone who doesn't know what they are talking about. | /r/seduction | 10/09/25 08:46 AM |
| 2 | Places to meet new womenBest place is technically the street since you'll always see the hottest women on the move | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Places to meet new womenGrocery store works if you're actually there to shop and not pick up chicks, otherwise it becomes obvious. | /r/seduction | 07/09/25 05:15 PM |
| 3 | Cold approach will NOT save youDefine fun. I would go out on a limb and say for most men this is not fun. Except for the ones with insanely good vibe, which is a byproduct of a good childhood, success, money etc. | /r/seduction | 05/09/25 07:48 AM |
| 1 | Cold approach will NOT save youCold approach is all about vibe. If you're vibe is off, it's over. | /r/seduction | 05/09/25 07:47 AM |
| 0 | Shouldn’t we have evolved to be able to naturally do this shit?I think it's more of a mental game. You could be a short, bald man who kills it because he believes in himself. | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 09:21 PM |
| 2 | I’ve been doing daygame for a few monthsNo it doesn't, despite what this sub says, daygame is not normal. Now, that doesn't mean it's wrong but it's not conventional at all. | /r/seduction | 02/09/25 03:15 PM |
| 3 | How to approach women as an introvert?Weird as fuck from the girl's perspective though lol | /r/seduction | 31/08/25 04:55 PM |
| 1 | How many cold approaches do you guys do per week?Well I went out and didn't even put an approach in. | /r/seduction | 31/08/25 04:38 PM |
| 1 | How many cold approaches do you guys do per week?Really hard, tried today and failed. I mean I think the odds of me actually following through what I say is 1%. At this point, I have to admit maybe cold approach isn't for me and there's an underlying issue? Instead of wasting energy and time. | /r/seduction | 31/08/25 12:49 PM |
| 0 | I'm dead afraid of approaching women, how can I get better.It's not even about failure, the stakes are high in the sense you're doing a highly unconventional thing ( by societies standards), with the prospect of getting embarrassed. Not to mention your vibe has to be on point for it to work or she'll feel awkward. Basically, a lot has to go right in your life. | /r/seduction | 31/08/25 12:21 PM |
| 1 | Im an OG PUA (activated in 2007). now in my 30's. had sex 1000 + times. AMAWhy lol? It's true | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 06:03 PM |
| 1 | How many cold approaches do you guys do per week?Sounds good (it can work if your vibe is on point and mental game strong), but most of the approaches I want to do are the street which I feel like is the most panic inducing environment for approaching. | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Field report/ adviceIt's not about women, it's about others around too. Listen, this is why cold approach is so complex because you got to remember you're doing something unconventional by society's standards and you're bound to get some dirty looks and embarrassing moments aka viewed as a creep. | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 10:05 AM |
| 2 | Im an OG PUA (activated in 2007). now in my 30's. had sex 1000 + times. AMALooks are meaningless for a guy, they're just a good base indicator or can be the icing on the cake. | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 09:29 AM |
| 1 | Im an OG PUA (activated in 2007). now in my 30's. had sex 1000 + times. AMAHow do you start? I have paralyzing approach anxiety. | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 08:53 AM |
| 1 | How many cold approaches do you guys do per week?Odds must be way lower than that! Anyway, how do you approach women so effortlessly and without excuses creeping up? I've been hesitating for more than a year, it's just really hard. | /r/seduction | 28/08/25 05:43 AM |
| 1 | Cold Approach Will SAVE YOU.This is complete nonsense, society has conditioned men to be losers, if cold approach was so normal and accepted we wouldn't have a situation where we have people asking how to get started, is it worth it etc. Fact it it's very unconventional. | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 07:59 PM |
| 1 | How many cold approaches do you guys do per week?Lol how? I've never see cold approach in real life and you're doing 50 a day | /r/seduction | 27/08/25 07:49 PM |
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