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BumbleBitny/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 01:00 AM
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I was going to write this almost exactly. This is literally the core to losing weight AND maintaining weight loss. The only slight thing I could add is if you want one/have the money Fitbit versa 3 includes a sleep tracker, food log with calorie counter, period tracker, fitness tracker, and a step tracker, plus some other metrics. So if you're looking for a more high tech tracking it's a great option. But if not pen and paper works just as well.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 03:02 AM
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He sounds unwilling to commit. If he's unwilling to commit to you after you've already embraced femininity, lost a significant amount of weight, and truly changed yourself for the better what makes you think those extra 30lbs is going to change anything? By intimacy I assume you mean you're sleeping together so if he's willing to sleep with you now those 30 pounds are clearly not a hard limit for him to find your physically attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/22 04:08 PM
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They're a popular on social media bakery that make gourmet (giant) cookies.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 03:07 PM
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I've been doing copycat Crumbl cookies and they're really fun to make, and look gorgeous on the counter.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/22 04:11 AM
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Yeah I think people don't realize most parents don't "teach them" these types of things. My mom never sat me down and went "here is how you boil water, this is how you run a dishwasher etc." I just watched her do it and then tried to do it sometimes failing and then learning from those failures. I didn't know how to do laundry until one day I just did it. Sure did I put the fabric softener ball in the dryer confusing dryer balls and with the little fabric softener release ball absolutely. But no…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 03:25 PM
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I'm a very good cook, while not a professional I take great pride in learning new cooking methods and perfecting dishes. My husband is almost always happy with the meal. The meals he's most impressed by? Oh just casseroles made of cream of whatever and lots of cheese. Cause that's what he grew up with. 😞 I've just resigned myself to while I can make an amazing smoked then reverse seared steak with dutchess potatoes he's going to give me the same response as if I fed him tuna noodle casserole. So…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/22 08:57 PM
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What's causing the conflicts? No couple can avoid all conflict but senseless bickering is easily solved by just not baiting it. It's a lot easier to work through arguments together when not everything is an argument.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/22 10:35 PM
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We've been together 9 years, married for 6. At this point I honestly can't tell you our dating anniversary because marriage trumped that one haha. We always celebrate our yearly marriage anniversary and we have a tradition of going to dinner and to see a play.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/22 07:45 PM
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My rule is partner comes first friends come second. Don't ignore your friendships they're super important to have. You can't live a successful RP life without having female friends in my opinion. But you do need an importance hierarchy.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 06:38 PM
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Umm probably like 30% trad I guess? I'm a housewife and let my husband lead. But that's pretty much where that stops. I frequently joke that my outsides don't match my insides I'm a housewife, only wear dresses, and am respectful to my husband at all times. But I'm also pretty confrontational,(when he's not around. When he is he normally will fight the battle for me and I let him) and outspoken, all of my beliefs lean pretty blue.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 04:35 PM
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Ditto, no one looks flattering mid movement which is clearly what's happening.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/22 04:18 PM
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My god this is the first time I've ever had to take any medicine that wasn't like a short term antibiotic type. I really was not prepared for how much they can really impact my day. It's really giving me a great first hand example of what a chronically ill person might experience. I do one or two things then need to take a 10 minute sit down until I have enough energy to do another. I guess the meds are helping me stay humble at least. Lol
/r/RedPillWives02/04/22 12:39 PM
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Maybe try intermittent fasting but adding faith based elements to it. I'm not religious but if I recall from my church going days there's actually quite a few fasting scriptures and the Catholic church talks quite a bit about the holiness of fasting.
/r/RedPillWives02/04/22 12:32 PM
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Not to be rude just want to be blunt but 2-4 is bad vetting. 2 had unresolved trauma, 3 didn't want marriage (I know you said he said he did then changed his mind but 4 years is a long time to stay if marriage isn't a frequent discussion) and 4 was still married.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 03:13 PM
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Honestly in modern arranged marriages they're actually pretty similar to how a lot of people date. You get your support network to do some hunting for you. It's just much more formal. It's really not too much different than "Hey I met my coworkers friend at happy hour and I think you two have a lot in common you should meet up."
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 02:51 PM
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I started a new medicine last week and damn it's kicking my butt. The side effects aren't supposed to last too much longer, just until my body adjusts, but I have no energy and muscle fatigue. My house is a wreck and we're surviving on door dash. But husband is being so wonderful and supportive about it and making me feel so less guilty about my piss poor homemaking over the last two weeks. 🥺
/r/RedPillWives31/03/22 04:55 PM
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Toaster ovens are such an underappreciated appliance. I use ours so much more than I thought I would.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/22 08:08 PM
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It will most likely take YEARS of couples counseling and personal counseling for you both before you can rebuild that trust. There's sadly no advice anyone can give it just takes time and hard work from both parties. Personally 3 years and not being married would not be worth the time and energy it takes to move past cheating for me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/22 12:37 PM
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I don't know maybe you live in the most passive aggressive town but I have never had anyone pay any attention to what I wear good or bad. Once in a blue moon I'll get a "oh I like your dress! Does it have pockets?" But that's pretty much it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 02:04 PM
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Yeah like I'm all for men and women being different, I don't get 90% of the stuff my husband likes, he doesn't get mine. We don't tell each other they're stupid, you can appreciate something just because it makes your spouse happy. That's not a men vs women thing that's a disrespecting your spouse thing.
/r/RedPillWives22/03/22 05:59 PM
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I count anything before you live together is the honeymoon phase personally. Because moving in together is when stuff starts getting difficult.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 05:43 PM
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Relationships are supposed to be hard later on. If it's hard early on when it's in the honeymoon phase it's likely only going to get harder. If you can't act like a team now it's going to be almost impossible when you're on a shoe string budget or the baby won't sleep, or someone in the family is sick and needs care.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 05:39 PM
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When we were dating we used texts like a "hey look at this funny thing" or setting something up. If we were going to have an entire conversation we spoke on the phone.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 05:29 PM
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We've been married for 6 years. He works from home and I'm a housewife so that's why there's a lot of spending time together during the day. Monday-Thursday We have our morning coffee together. We eat lunch together unless he has a meeting. We eat dinner together every night. Then after dinner we spend about 2 hours playing a video game either just us or with a group of friends all together. We always go to bed together and typically chat a bit before lights out. And there's loads of micro sessi…
/r/RedPillWives22/03/22 12:53 PM
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I'm also a ball of rage when renovating and have no children so you're not alone. We're re-doing our bathroom and I feel like the amount of times I have to say. "You never agree with me until it's all finished then you always love it. Why don't you just trust me?!" I try not to be a bitch and let him have some input but my god he's so bad at picturing the room as a whole and not just individual pieces.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/22 12:28 PM
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I gave up my pretty decent career path, I was a restaurant manager and in training for higher management at the age of 24. I was making almost double what everyone else I knew my age was making. I gave it up and went to a part time for an auction company and then moved to full time SAHW. I've been home at least part time for the last 6 years and I haven't regretted it once. I think the question you need to ask yourself is what do you value more having more money or having more time. Once you get…
/r/RedPillWives21/03/22 10:32 PM
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Oh my god you just made me realize the only photos we have in our house are of people who have passed. Apparently my walls are so exclusive you have to die to be allowed on them. 🙈 hahahaha
/r/RedPillWives21/03/22 06:13 PM
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I'd be more concerned about his not getting an ample amount of good sleep from sleeping on the sofa. I had to take a real hard look at how sleep impacts my life and that led me to looking into how sleep affects your body. Poor quality sleep affects literally every aspect of your life. Mentally, physically, even emotionally. I had no idea how many of my problems (particularly emotionally) were from poor sleep.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/22 01:03 PM
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Lol same. I don't even have a single wedding photo up in our house! 🙈 Congratulations OP I'm so glad technology is so good nowadays that the women who are nostalgic have all the options at their disposal now. I remember my childhood neighbor was a wedding videographer. Those tapes are absolutely nothing compared to what we have at our disposal nowadays!
/r/RedPillWives19/03/22 12:49 PM
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I also had a non-traditional wedding. But that literally has nothing to do with the strength of a marriage. All my non-traditional wedding had correlation with was we bought a house and didn't have the funds for a big wedding. Lol But you won't see me raining on someone's parade. "Oh you decided to spend 20k on a wedding. Gosh you know we bought a house instead of having a silly party."
/r/RedPillWives19/03/22 12:41 PM
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We're re-doing the bathroom and I'm losing my mind. The entire house is a dust ball, there's stuff everywhere so cleaning is useless, it's an old house so we constantly have to update the plans because this and this won't fit in the tiny place. I've been having headaches I'm assuming from the constant banging and dust. And I'm nervous about the floor I picked because it's absolutely beautiful but it definitely is bold and I'm so nervous I'm going to hate it. Oh and the bathtub won't be here for …
/r/RedPillWives16/03/22 09:03 PM
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Haha right? The first night we did a date night out of the house I did EVERYTHING. I think I spent 3 hours getting ready, even took a bath with a bath balm so my skin was silky smooth. I was pumped to go out to a nice restaurant.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 08:46 PM
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I can see it now "My husband never agrees to take me to nice restaurants because he refuses to wear a button up shirt instead of a t-shirt" the comments would be a lot different I'm sure.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 08:40 PM
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Exactly I have no problem with him being the AH for letting his resentment get to the point where he yells at his wife. But am shocked at all the people being like "you're an AH for even implying she should dress up for a date".
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 08:38 PM
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I love the comments saying he should love her no matter what because as you age people change and he can't possibly expect a woman to be the same one you married. Acting like this was a gradual transition and wasn't a hard stop at "oh I don't have to see anyone but my husband? Guess I never need to look nice again! And forget my husband's opinion about it."
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 02:21 AM
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I'm sure the AITA for "I want my husband to take me to a nice restaurant but refuses because he doesn't want to put on a button up." would get loads of sympathy.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 02:17 AM
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I know it shouldn't but it actually surprised me how many people thought he was not just the ass hole for how he handled it. (Which I agree he was aggressive and rude and should have had a conversation not just blew up at her.) But for wanting his wife to look nice for a date night.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 01:02 AM
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Yeeeep I feel like 80% of red pill women are either religious so the enjoyment of submission comes from their religious text or kinky ladies where the submissive comes from the kink.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 12:29 AM
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I normally agree that it's a good idea to let grandparents have different rules and expectations at their house because it helps teach flexibility and situational expectations. But one child 12 popsicles and in 2 hours that's not spoiling that's encouraging children to binge.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 12:10 AM
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Yeah I agree it's sadly the curse of free childcare, it's never actually free. In OPs situation she's paying with her children's view on food.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 12:05 AM
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I use ocedar spin mop with the microfiber heads.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/22 03:44 PM
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Dry mop for dusting wet mop for wiping. No need to bend over. Haha
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/22 01:16 PM
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So I'm not a man but I'm slowly grieving my father. He has a terminal disease that's deteriorated so it's a long step grieving process. While I do believe me and women tend to be different I think grief is absolutely individual so any specifics from any side aren't going to help. My best advice is to follow his lead. Some days he'll want to talk about it some days he won't. Always give the space to talk, like if you ask him how he feels and he says alright I guess. Wait a little bit to change th…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/22 03:17 PM
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It really depends what does savings mean and how much is left. Our rule is to always have 3 months of bills in the account as an emergency fund, anything more than that we use for house updates, new appliances, vacations etc. I'd be fine taking money from that fund assuming it leaves behind the 3 months of bills. Retirement contribution also depends on how old we are. How much would be left, etc. If we're relatively young don't plan to retire for a bit and it's not a significant chunk of our ret…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/22 02:59 PM
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That's good. Head trauma can have terrible long term hidden side effects. My husband's mother had a terrible car accident that resulted in her having very severe bi polar disorder. Not a single person in the family has ever been diagnosed with mental health issues before her or since. I'd say focus on yourself and work with the neurologist and perhaps find a therapist that specializes in patients who suffered brain injury. At least from what I know about my husband's mother diagnosis things are …
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 09:31 PM
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The fact that you're here looking for advice and reading means you see the problems. It'll take time and determination but I'm sure you got this. Changing dynamics are hard on their own and then on top of that throwing in the sleep deprivation and hormone fluctuations it's gonna be tough. For right now I'd stick with just talking about the insecurity issues and not so much how you wish he'd take better care of himself. Empowered Wife has a section on why you shouldn't tell your husband how he's …
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 01:16 AM
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I highly suggest reading the Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle. Something she really emphasizes is that while we think our lashing out at our husbands is because of our husbands actions it often is actually because we're not fulfilling our needs. And I imagine especially with a new baby you're probably at the bottom of your priority list so your needs aren't being met. When our needs aren't met our husbands often become our emotional outlet which then in turn makes them lash out at us. Then we feel …
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 01:01 AM
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I would just talk to him about it. I don't think it's stalking to just be aware of your husband's social media follows it's literally public. You were curious who he was following so you looked. It's not like you took his phone and went through his private text messages. You don't need to give him the answer to the problem. (I want you to stop following women on SM) you can just give him the problem (I saw who you're following on SM and it made me feel bad about myself. I realized I'm feeling ex…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 12:42 AM
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Have you talked to him about this?
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 12:30 AM
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Sex for men a lot of the times is a connection thing. You saying no to sex probably hurts as much if he said no to cuddling. It might help to change thinking about sex as oh he's asking for sex again to he's asking for physical closeness. As to help with your lack of sex drive it's gonna sound weird but just hear me out. Embrace dirty romance novels. Get audible and listen to them while you clean. It's really really really weird at first and feels honestly kind of gross. I remember the first tim…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/22 04:46 PM
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More context is definitely needed OP. If you just make more money than him then that's not bad. If you get married it would then be our money not his and my money. So where the money comes from isn't important. Now if he has less money because he's bad at budgeting that's I'd say a yellow flag. My husband is not good at budgeting so it just became my job. A captain doesn't need to be great at everything. He just needs to be mature enough to acknowledge where he's falling short and either improve…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/22 04:28 PM
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I updated my cleaning routine to include daily light floor mopping. Well I have an old Bissell crosswave that I haven't used in forever because it's not good enough for once a week big mop like I use to do. It's literally perfect for this. I've been vacuuming my kitchen then Swiffer wet mopping evey day but this has been amazing to be able to vacuum and mop at the same time. Now I want to save for the cordless one. 🙈
/r/RedPillWives04/03/22 02:12 PM
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My housekeeping is being affected because of this. Not the doom scrolling because I limit that to twice a day but I guess just the silence during mundane tasks. I'll just be vacuuming and think how many women right now would give almost anything to just be in her home vacuuming her floors right now. It really gives perspective that while boring the mundane is it's all most people really truly want. When the most bothersome thing you experienced today was that you forgot to thaw the chicken that'…
/r/RedPillWives01/03/22 05:51 PM
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Yeah dating apps are how I met my husband. One suggestion I would have would be to put photos of you doing stuff that aligns with your values as the photos not just words in the description. Men are super visual so loads only skim the description but scroll through every photo.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 02:52 PM
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I totally get what you mean. For some reason I was a terrible part time housewife but I'm a really good full time housewife. It was so hard for me to mentally switch between work at work, then work at home, then relax at home. I sadly have no advice to give you because I went full time housewife before I found a solution. But just know it absolutely sounds crazy to someone who hasn't experienced it but I absolutely get what you mean. Haha
/r/RedPillWives25/02/22 08:19 PM
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Husband and I are monogamous. But there's nothing wrong with someone wanting an open relationship. I know this is gonna upset a lot of pearl clutchers here but RPW often have conservative women and really sex positive women side by side. And less in the middle ground it seems. So it's not surprising to see either fuck no or fuck yeah as the two responses here. Haha
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 08:06 PM
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Check out r/preppers There's definitely some doomsday stuff but most is basic information to prepare your household for emergencies. Ranging anywhere from "my powers out for a few hours how do I make a hot dinner" all the way to "how to prepare in case I ever need to evacuate."
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 11:14 PM
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I actually found a system and it's not that bad. It used to be my least favorite chore to hand wash dishes but that was broken out of me on week 2 lolol. It's the fact that it was given and then taken away that makes me feel particularly sad. I was so excited to get more time back into my mornings. But hey now I don't hate hand washing dishes. It's actually weirdly a little relaxing to just stand in one place and be able to wash a YouTube video. I'd still prefer the time savings but the actual a…
/r/RedPillWives24/02/22 04:11 PM
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The dishwasher that has been broken for 2 months that was repaired yesterday wasn't actually repaired. So now I have to wait for the repair man to come back a 3rd time and figure out what's wrong now. 😭 Back to hand washing dishes again.
/r/RedPillWives23/02/22 11:13 PM
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Ours happened pretty naturally. But in both of our families Christmas, the big one for both sides, is not on Christmas day. Both families decided when we were kids that Christmas day is for your household and you do a bigger family Christmas another day. As for every other holiday we just sort of played it by ear every year. And without meaning we have slowly just started taking over hosting every holiday haha. So now both sides of the family just come to us. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 04:31 PM
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Oh my god what doesn't he do? Haha literally just down to the start of my day. I'm a deep sleeper and so I need a loud obnoxious alarm to wake me up in a timely manner. Well he actually changed his morning routine where he wakes up with an alarm that is too quiet to wake me up. And he lays in bed for about 30 minutes watching YouTube videos which he sets to progressively get louder so instead of a quick jarring alarm I get a slow gentle alarm. Anytime he can tell I'm not having a great mental he…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 02:08 AM
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I just have a small question. What have you done for yourself since you've started noticing feel irritated most days?
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/22 01:38 AM
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I would suggest getting off any hormonal contraceptives within 6 months of the wedding date and using condoms until after the wedding. Personally wouldnt go no contraceptive cause you never actually know if you'll get pregnant a month before the wedding and have morning sickness at your own wedding. I'd also speak with your doctor about taking prenatal vitamins around the time you get off the birth control. A lot of women report it taking about 6 months for everything to go back to regular after…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/22 01:55 PM
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I'm a housewife so there's not a lot that feels like extra support that's just outside of this is literally my job except for one thing. He works from home and has a meeting everyday at the same time in the afternoon. So most days I bring him a latte so he can sip on it during his meeting. I know he appreciates it because he always says something like. "Oh my coffee delivery is here, hold on let me get you your tip." And then a butt smack. Or some similar very guy way to say thanks. Lololol
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/22 02:19 PM
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I agree with the not doing wifey level if you're girlfriend mode. My husband and I did love together before we were engaged because I lived an hour and a half away and wasn't able to afford a place by myself. But we had more of a roommate with sex arrangement you could say. We didn't mix finances, we split chores evenly, did errands together, etc. And I would have never ever considered doing it had we not had I'd like to get married within x amount of years already spoken about. So I do think it…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/22 04:15 PM
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I mean I guess everyone is different but for us sex is a really big part of our relationship. If we weren't sexually compatible in the type of sex we enjoy, the frequency of sex, and the length of sex we would be missing out on a huge part of our relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/22 04:07 PM
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I absolutely agree with you. Personally I don't think it has anything to do with sex before marriage, moving in together, etc And everything to do with people aren't having these important conversations early enough on. Sure having a timeline and open and candid discussions about getting married you could argue is less romantic because you're never going to be surprised when he proposes. But honestly in my mind a huge life event like marriage shouldn't be left to one party to decide when it happ…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/22 03:19 PM
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If your goal is to help him then I suggest, even if it's not your favorite, doing things with him that make him happy. My husband also games and so I became a gamer wife. Am I good? Absolutely not. Do I love doing it, no. But I started doing it once a week to make him happy and help us feel connected. Now I've actually started to enjoy it more and we do it more frequently. I would still much rather read then play video games but I do it because it makes him happy. I'm not saying you have to I kn…
/r/RedPillWives17/02/22 10:56 PM
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What does he like to do for fun?
/r/RedPillWives17/02/22 09:26 PM
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From what you're describing it's probably above reddits pay grade. You're trying to undue years of a coping mechanism put in place to survive trauma. I can't imagine any actionable advice is going to help until you work with a professional to help. It's really hard to break unhealthy coping mechanisms even with the help of a therapist I can't imagine anything a stranger on the internet is going to give you is going to be useful.
/r/RedPillWives15/02/22 06:22 PM
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I'm left leaning so you're not alone here! I was actually thinking about this the other day how people view this sub as being really bad and hateful. I've heard there's subreddits that will ban you if you're a contributor to this one. When in reality all the advice I've seen here has pretty much been "you can't change people but you can change yourself" "no one else is in charge of your happiness you need to make yourself happy." "Be nicer to your spouse and they'll likely be nicer to you. Peopl…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 02:42 AM
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There's a lot that goes into something like building a successful company and not all contributions are tangible. And so I believe if a wife has helped contribute to the success of the company she does deserve a portion. I'm in no way saying that every wife deserves a portion of their husband's company. I'm saying, just like with most things, it depends on every individual couples lives. Which makes an equitable prenup a good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/22 02:06 PM
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I think it just depends on the situation and how that prenup is written. Like for example a company where the man started it before he met his wife but blew up when they were married I think she deserves a portion of that, a much smaller portion than him but still some. She most likely helped contribute to its success while married. Whether that's stepping up to the plate for their kids more often because dad has to work later. Bouncing ideas around with him, and her taking on much more work in …
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 02:25 PM
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Me too! Had I not realized I messed up we would have had a strange argument where we're both completely agreeing with each other. My husband's family often agrees with each other yet in an argumentative tone. It would be like the reddit version of that hahaha.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 03:56 AM
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I was absolutely confused until I realized I missed a comma. "At the end of the day it's not even true, most men don't want to date sex workers." Meaning that his hot take that every woman should be a sex worker is false because then men wouldn't have any women to date.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 03:48 AM
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You're allowed to have strong opinions. It's just extreme that one guy could make you cry because he has a shitty take. His opinion literally doesn't affect you and letting someone affect you this much isn't normal. At the end of the day it's not even true most men don't want to date sex workers so if every woman became one no man would ever marry again.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 03:34 AM
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It's sadly a trap a lot of women fall in. I absolutely used to too. But there's hope I'm pretty sure a good portion of the women here are recovered "I wear the pants in the relationship" type women. Lolol
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 07:42 PM
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Someone else mentioned it but I really second reading Laura Doyle's empowered wife and she even has a weekly podcast. It's given out all the time as a suggestion here but it's for a great reason! She talks a lot about how wives often are the cause of the changes our husbands make good or bad. A man that pursued you doesn't sound like he was always submissive. Perhaps your masculine energy slowly chipped away at his until he became the submissive one. It's probably going to take lots of submissio…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 07:11 PM
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Exactly saying "I need a minute to leave the room and calm down" is anger control. Giving silent treatment for 2 days is a punishment. OP I'm a little concerned you've spent so long in a relationship you found unfulfilling (seeing that you went to the literal other end of the spectrum of men) that the first "alpha appearing" man you're confusing with a HVM. I can't say for sure because obviously we're only getting one side of the story. But to me giving my spouse a punishment because I didn't li…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 01:45 PM
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If he's not open to it it's not going to be successful. And at this point if you use it as an ultimatum it won't be successful. Working on yourself takes a lot of discomfort, hard work, and introspection. If he already thinks step 1 is a waste of money and time he's definitely going to check out around step 3 when stuff gets unpleasant.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 01:31 PM
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Ditto. I have plenty of guy freinds they're either gay, married or have no interest in me what so ever. Personally I would feel weird being friends with someone who was interested in me. I feel like I would never be able to tell if they actually wanted me or the idea of me as their girlfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/22 02:26 AM
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One of my favorite quotes from Game of Thrones is "Any man who must say 'I am the king' is no true king." If you need to remind your partner you're a HVM you are not one.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/22 11:51 PM
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I'm so glad you're talking about this. My husband is 8 years older than me. When he was approaching 35 we had to have the conversation of it's now or never. He didn't want to be a dad to a new born dad at 40 and there was a decent chance with his age already being a little up there it was probably going to be a few years and likely some assistance. Thankfully his doctor prepared him for that unlike your husbands. We decided we were going child free. I wasn't anywhere near close to being ready an…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/22 08:49 PM
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Hey there's absolutely nothing wrong with deciding your Valentine's day is celebrated on the 18th not the 14th. That's what we always did when I worked at the restaurant because obviously that was an all hands on deck day for us lol
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 05:40 PM
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I bought something special to wear later on in the evening. 😉 And those personalized m&ms where you can write your own words on them/put your pictures on them. He'll probably make steaks because we never go out on Valentine's day and it's always special when he cooks. And I'll probably make us Valentine's themed cocktails.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 05:36 PM
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You absolutely can argue with his subjective views on things. If you don't enjoy being critiqued on how you sit (for example) you shouldn't be. Just like if he deems any criticism not valid he doesn't take it you reserve that right as well. And yes I understand that the topic is your need for praise but what I'm trying to get at is if he was not so readily willing to give criticism you wouldn't need to seek more validation than you already have. You're getting a completely appropriate amount of …
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 04:13 PM
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Okay now how would he respond do you think if you said his criticism was unreasonable? Personally I find critiquing how someone is sitting , assuming they're not flashing you their parts, to be unreasonable. If you took that stance with him would he respect that?
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 03:51 PM
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If you were to give unsolicited criticism to him about something he cared a lot about. Maybe his appearance, maybe his work ethic, etc.. how do you think he would respond?
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 03:42 PM
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Are you asking for his opinion on the "negative" photos or is he giving unsolicited criticism? I'm more concerned about this part than that he gives short compliments.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 03:28 PM
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Relationships do take work when you're married and you need to choose your partner every day when you're married. Relationships are traditionally at their simplest early on. Also I will say relationships are far less work when you find someone who is very compatible with you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 01:45 PM
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Traditionally we go out to dinner most Fridays as our date night. Ever since coivd we've had an on an off of whether we're choosing to go out to restaurants or we're just ordered door dash in.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 03:52 AM
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I'd be pretty concerned about someone who has talked about either them moving or me moving to a new location so we can live together in roughly 6 months. But also isn't feeling emotionally connected enough with me to have sex. Not saying relationships need to have sex before you move in or anything. But the reasoning for him not having sex has me worried.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/22 03:46 AM
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I'm a lover of gift giving and a gift receiving as well, my husband hates everything to do with it. I have a fun story about our anniversary last year. We celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary last August and my gift was a 2 foot tall orchid in a pot that cost about $100. Backstory here I absolutely hate gardening or maintaining plants of any kind. In the 8 years we've lived together there has never been a single living plant in our household. I've killed the few I've tried to keep alive before…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 08:23 PM
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If you choose not to invite your parents you need to be prepared your mother may want to go no contact. Are you prepared to never speak to your parents again? Do you want your children to only have one set of grandparents? If the answer is yes then don't invite them. You don't owe them anything so you need to do what makes you happy. If you decide you don't want no contact. Hire a wedding planner. Hire a damn good one, tell her everything about your mother. Wedding planners are normally really g…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 03:02 PM
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I became a housewife at 25. We didn't tell anyone that was the plan or that were thinking about it we just one day did it. Eventually when people asked how my job was going I then said oh I quit I'm a housewife now. People are a lot less likely to question choices you've already made. I didn't have any trouble with outward questioning I assume partly because by the time they even thought to question it I had already been a housewife for months. Lol I still get the subtle comments about how my ac…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/22 02:41 PM
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I don't know why I hadn't thought of this before but buy yourself the pretty version of the practical. I'm a housewife so my day to day hair style is one of practicality not beauty. My go to has been the hair claw. It's less tight on my hair than a ballerina bun, looks nicer than a messy bun, and gets all the hair off my shoulders. My hair claws have always been plastic and black. I've pretty much resigned myself to the fact that my day to day hairstyle will just be utilitarian because it's the …
/r/RedPillWives26/01/22 07:13 PM
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Lol maybe we're the softies but I really think it's this. Let's take mom's for example they're constantly being bombarded with influencers that are able to wake up before the kids hit the gym get their hair and makeup done before the kids even wake up (because her and her spouse both work social media so they have a flexible schedule) have a cleaning lady (that they don't mention having) so her massive house is perfectly clean, they do gentle parenting and their kids are always so behaved (becau…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 02:58 PM
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That was my husband and I. We always said "I don't know maybe?" He's 8 years older than me so when he hit 35 we had to sit down and have a very serious talk about the fact we need to start now or we don't try at all because he didn't want to be a father of a new born at 40. We decided since we were on the fence no was the answer. The main reason we didn't want to be those parents that loved their kids but hated being parents. I have friends on both sides, parents that clearly loved being parents…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/22 03:56 AM
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As a fellow "dumb" (in quotes cause I don't actually think I'm dumb lolol) wife to a super intelligent husband I just learned to stop arguing when it's something not subjective. Like if I made assumptions about how water tanks work for example and he goes no that's not right, I go okay explain. The reason I do this is because I also want to be smart. My husband learned all of the vast amount of information he knows because he was never afraid to ask why in fear of looking dumb. Plus I realized i…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 09:10 PM
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Work on your own self esteem. An actress's job is literally to be attractive. The amount of time, energy and money that goes into celebrities to maintain their looks is insane. The fact that just knowing that men find her attractive makes you feel bad is not how someone with good self worth reacts. Just because someone else's star shines brighter doesn't mean yours doesn't shine. Good self esteem is learning how to appreciate and rely on your own light even if you're not the brightest star in th…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/22 03:57 PM
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Weirdly enough software engineering is probably a great option for finding trad men. That's what my husband does and literally every single guy (including him) on his team has a housewife and or stay at home mom. Engineering guys love fixing problems which is a super trad man trait. Sure they're all nerds as well but I joke with him that being a nerd has trained him to be more trad. He's been practicing being the hero and saving the princess since he was 8. Lolol
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 09:27 PM
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My take is I often hear the "he's not entitled to sex" from women who have man children husbands. It's hard to view your partner as sexy when an hour earlier you texted your friend that you have a 3rd child and it's your husband. You see it all the time on TikTok about "how to turn your wife on, do the dishes, take out the trash, bathe the kids tonight" and then the wives are jumping into bed because today they viewed their husband's as strong capable men. I would imagine a lot (not all but a lo…
/r/RedPillWives22/01/22 08:26 PM
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If you wanna be snarky then my favorite response is "oh we just value our limited time on earth more than money. So we choose to live a simple life and have more time to dedicate to things we love instead of having more money to buy things we want" Thankfully I don't have to do it often. I'm really lucky that most people in my life aren't that rude. Haha But don't worry I still get the subtle jabs. You know when I make a Pinterest worthy cake for someone's birthday someone normally slips in a "i…
/r/RedPillWives21/01/22 05:46 PM
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I've never paid for a date. I didn't particularly look for guys who would pay it just always happened. I'm really only into take charge kind of men though so maybe that comes with the territory. Mind you I've only dated two men and both were older than me. One by a few years and one that became my husband is 8 years. Now when my husband and I moved in together I split bills and stuff. And then we just had a date fund that we both contributed to. So I guess technically you can say I paid for date…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/22 06:19 PM
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I would suggest you read the welcome, about, and faq of this subreddit. Between them will pretty much answer all your questions.
/r/RedPillWives15/01/22 01:20 AM
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I'm 100% sure you're right. Thankfully everyone on my husband's team also has housewives/stay at home moms with school aged children. So normally he doesn't have to worry about his words being taken out of context. This was a larger group with another team so who knows. So far we haven't heard anything and I hope it stays that way! Lol And thanks. It's been a little shocking to realize just how much of your day can be taken up by hand washing, drying, and putting away dishes after every single m…
/r/RedPillWives14/01/22 08:46 PM
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My dishwasher just broke today which is awful. The repair guy can't come until February so more awful. On top of that at work my husband mentioned the dishwasher was broken and a coworker made a comment about him having a lot of dishes to clean over this month. My husband said no I still have a dishwasher she's just not happy about it. Apparently that coworker sent him a private video call to tell him he shouldn't have said that because HR is super sensitive about comments like that. And some of…
/r/RedPillWives12/01/22 07:30 PM
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I'm normally not a therapy thumper. I do believe a lot of marriage issues can be sorted between the couple however this is a lot of compounding issues. It sounds like you need therapy to help you gain more self esteem and self worth. He needs therapy to help deal with his problems with deflecting his anger at life at you. You both need couples therapy to help bridge the gap between your neuro divergent brain and his neuro typical one.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 07:20 PM
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A cleaner is a hell of a lot cheaper than the couples therapy that will come from not having one. Lol I'm a housewife now because we were getting close to resentment when we both worked full time. We now say if I ever went back to work a cleaner is mandatory to be worked into the budget.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 05:02 PM
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It's awesome! I'm a house wife so I fell into the trap of switching up my cleaning routine frequently to keep things interesting. I couldn't really listen to fiction audio books because I never felt like I was giving it all my attention to let me really visualize. So I stuck to podcasts which are fine but didn't give me the same enjoyment that books do. Well these last few months I just didn't feel like switching things up so I've stuck with this routine. A happy by product I never thought of wa…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/22 04:40 PM
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I've discovered the true joy of audiobooks and cleaning. I had to get into a really good daily cleaning routine first to allow for me to clean purely on mussel memory but once I hit that listening to an audio book and letting my cleaning go on auto pilot has been amazing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/22 07:08 PM
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I have about double the rooms you have and would say it takes me a little more than double the time you quote so that seems perfectly right to me. Maybe we're both just slow! Lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/22 07:00 PM
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I've watched some of her stuff but haven't really connected with her personally. Nothing wrong with her or anything I just haven't felt that pull to watch like I have with other YouTubes. Now Cynthia L she's one of my absolute favorites. She's on a bit of a YouTube hiatus because she just welcomed her first a few months ago but I just love her content.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/22 11:09 PM
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Telling me "hey take today off" randomly. I'm a housewife so I find it weirdly hard to just not do the dishes, or not put away the laundry, etc etc because it's right there. But for some reason if my husband says take the day off it gives me the permission to actually do it. Which is absolutely dumb he does not control how, when, or why I keep the house. But I guess just someone else acknowledging today I need to chill makes it feel more real that today I clearly need to relax. He also always ma…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/21 06:46 PM
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It sounds like you just need more conservative friends. Most of your problems have literally nothing to do with the red pill. I'd suggest religious gatherings, you'll find lots of conservative views there as long as you practice a more conservative branch of that religion.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 05:00 AM
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How are you only engaged and have a dead bedroom already? How do you have a dead bedroom and yet he's mentioned being poly? Girl ignoring the whole interaction that night and just looking at the two sentences above is a red flag. The way he handled himself, then acted like you're the reason he did it because you "pushed him" those aren't red flags. Those are pack your bags tonight and never look back. This is supposed to be your honeymoon phase, he's only going to get worse from here.
/r/RedPillWives20/12/21 01:29 AM
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It's one year of expensive living vs a likely eventual expensive divorce. Even looking at this purely financially it's not actually going to save much money when you consider there's cost to even court house marriages and divorce is costly even when it's perfectly amicable.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/21 12:21 AM
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You know you'd think that but between the dog, the husband being WFH so he's home all day long and that we host almost every weekend, and I don't clean on weekends, I'm always surprised by how somehow everything is never perfectly cleaned at the same time. I will say during lock down when we didn't see anyone for months my house stayed way cleaner! Having frequent company is a major mess maker. But I'll gladly not give that up again and take my messes.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/21 12:16 AM
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I'm a housewife without kids and I spend about 3 hours a day cleaning Monday-Friday. And that's just cleaning not cooking, or running errands, or l anything like that. I will say I have a large home for just 2 people, more rooms more cleaning. And we have 4 cats and a Newfoundland so the cleaning of fur and slobber is a lot.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 09:39 PM
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Yeah, my husband is amazing and I have very few complaints about our relationship. However if I felt disrespected every time he forgot something he told me he'd do I would have left him years ago. He's a pretty forgetful person. His work and how he always lived his life is completely off of a calendar. So if it's not on the Google cal it just doesn't happen unless I remind him. I've had to become a master of gentle reminders without nagging. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/21 04:28 AM
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Yep it's really sad and disheartening. Also sounds super weird but I've read a lot of your posts on here, your name is super recognizable so I remember you lol, and I just want to say I love your posts about your girls. I seriously can feel the love you have for them. I know every woman loves her children more than anything but there's just a way a woman who had problems TTC talks about her children that is beautiful. And I'm super happy you got your miracles.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/21 09:04 PM
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I'm a housewife without kids so I do all the household duties and let me tell you the traditional men ones suck! Making breakfast, lunch and dinner and all the dishes associated with them isn't fun. But damn would I feed a literal army every single day just to avoid yard work in the summer time. I hate the heat and humidity and trying to protect my skin so I'm in long sleeves and jeans with a sun hat which makes the heat even worse. I'm sweating buckets and there's bugs. In August I dream of not…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/21 07:22 PM
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Ugh this is a poor family member of mine and I think she's finally getting a solid reality check how bad it is. She sustained an injury recently that has her sitting all day. She's still able to do her 9-5 job from home thankfully but pretty much anything besides desk work is off the table, she can't even cook because of the standing. Well her husband hasn't lifted a single finger. He won't cook so they're eating food that loved ones brought over to help but he's not doing any of the dishes. She…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/21 07:01 PM
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Right? Like every single hobby has the risk of becoming addicting. Just because some people are addicted to alcohol doesn't mean the guy who orders a bottle at dinner is a red flags. Just because someone is addicted to exercise doesn't mean gym goers need to be avoided. Just because some guys watch football religiously doesn't mean a guy with an NFL jersey is incapable of providing. Literally anything anyone likes can become a problem. And before anyone says yeah but the amount of people who are…
/r/RedPillWives14/12/21 08:46 PM
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It sounds like it's more of a hobby than a chore for him. So honestly even if you wanted to involve yourself in it more he probably wouldn't like it because you're taking away something he does for enjoyment. I get that RPW says keep their bellies filled but I would argue a more important point is let your man be the captain. And if he says he wants to make dinner every night let him.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 08:16 PM
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I don't know why people don't understand that some people just handle different pain very differently. I get a terrible headache, or a cold, or cramps and I manage to go about my day. Those things lay my husband out. He falls and busts his knee, cuts a gash in his finger, gets stung by bees he bandages up and counties on. I'm whining about how I can't possibly move my hand because it makes my cut finger hurt. Neither of us are weak pain tolerant we are just better at tolerating certain things. A…
/r/RedPillWives14/12/21 04:26 AM
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Therapy, advice on the internet is great but at the end of the day you and a therapist will be the only ones who can actually come up with a plan to help your individual problems. Trauma comes in a million different types and even two people with the same exact traumas react very differently.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 03:01 AM
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Also something I don't think young women think about is how this will affect their daughters. (Assuming they want kids) There's a decent chance their daughters will come out with the same "flaws" that they had. It's hard to tell a girl that she's beautiful and perfect just the way she is while the mother saved thousands of dollars, risked complications, and went through uncomfortable recovery time, to "fix" the very thing they're likely telling their teenage daughter she shouldn't be embarrassed…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 02:58 AM
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I wear nightgowns to sleep and use a robe to cover up. As for hair I sleep with my hair down. So when I go to the bathroom as soon as I wake up I also just loosely brush my hair.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/21 10:23 PM
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If the guy is into video games I say 100% video games are the best hobby. I was never into them but husband is. We finally started playing FFXIV and our relationship is better for it. Netflix after dinner where you just zone out next to each other has become engaging voice chat conversations. We have so many more things to talk about because we're participating in a hobby together. And for women you say they don't like video games let me tell you I spend my entire time gathering ingredients, to …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 09:37 PM
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My husband always said he didn't want to get married, that was until we started dating. He unintentionally lead girls on for years with the "I just don't believe in marriage" because he honestly thought he didn't. But what he really meant was "I just don't believe in marrying you" I'm not trying to say this is or is not your boyfriend's thought process. I just want to give you a little bit of food for thought. The girlfriend before me spent 2 years and some change with my husband before they bro…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 09:19 PM
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It's always super hard having a husband with a friend you don't like. You're always torn between "I respect you as a person to be able to choose your own friends and I don't want to control you " but at the same time you probably don't like them for damn good reasons. I had a similar issue only my husband's friend was a total user. Only came around when she needed help. Thank God he finally saw her for what she was because I personally never wanted to be that wife that was like "I don't like the…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 09:42 PM
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Since it's in a group setting he probably enjoys her company as well as the other guys even if he thinks she's strange. Being friends for a long time often makes you just accept them annoyances and all. I wouldn't feel comfortable if she did this one x one with my husband and I wasn't allowed to be included. But in a big group of guys I'd say she's probably just a grown up "I'm just one of the guys!" Girls and at this point doesn't know how to be friends with women.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 09:26 PM
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This might help you feel more human again and make having sex something to look forward to again. When he hints at wanting sex that day say I'd absolutely love to please watch the baby for 45 minutes while I freshen up then I'll feed the baby and put him to bed. Then take that time and do whatever you think will make you feel best. Maybe it's a shower, maybe it's changing out of yoga pants, hell maybe it's putting on a full face of makeup at 7pm that you're just going to wash off before bed. Wha…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/21 03:52 AM
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I decorate for Christmas without children I honestly never considered not decorating. I grew up in a house that had a sitting room and living room. The living room had the family tree and the stockings. The sitting room however was decorated purely for mom. She had a tree with white lights and blown glass ornaments. She decorated the coffee and side tables with proceline figurines. Essentially that room was absolutely no children allowed during the holidays lolol So even people with children don…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 08:30 PM
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Back to normal meals and meal planning this week. In my house the week of, and week after Thanksgiving the meals are all over the place. Lots of frozen meals and pantry cooking the week of because of all the prep and I don't wanna live in the kitchen. Then the week after is lots of leftovers and then freezer & pantry cooking because I don't go grocery shopping that week. So gotta get back into the swing of things.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 04:27 AM
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I love orange peel and clove. It's super simple and unoriginal but it is seriously my absolute favorite.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 04:21 AM
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Yeah and I mean everyone wants their child to be healthy. No one wants to watch their child have a more difficult life. So I get that he is probably super happy and honestly a little relieved to have a healthy baby. And there's nothing wrong with having those feelings. You can love a child with your whole heart, but still wish their circumstances were different. Doesn't make you love them less, doesn't make you resentful, and doesn't mean you'll prefer other healthy children over then. However s…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/21 12:57 PM
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A great quick reference to find if something is a complaint is that the only response you're looking for is "that sucks". Are you sick or absolutely exhausted from work? You probably need a little more support around the house or at least grace today from your spouse. Is a friend in the hospital and it's worrying you? You probably need some extra emotional support from your spouse. Are you having trouble with a coworker at work that you would like an actual resolution for. You probably need anot…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/21 02:02 PM
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We do the same. However we've been together 8 years and that came naturally to us without someone else's influence. I think it's weird as hell that the "friends" are telling another woman she's insecure if she doesn't do this with her not even husband yet. Whether or not a couple chooses to do this is their business. Telling someone they need to is not okay.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 07:07 PM
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Haha sounds like my house but I probably wouldn't word it as aggressively. I balance the short term money (he does all the investments and long term savings) so if I want a freezer I find room in the budget and or save for it. Then just sorta tell him we're getting a freezer. Normally in a "I think I'm going to get a freezer". Just in case he did have a problem with it, like our house couldn't handle a freezer load from the electric or something he could tell me. My husband's favorite joke when …
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/21 06:44 PM
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A lot of women fall into the mental trap of "I'm so mentally overwhelmed I can't stand to even think about what I need help with." Which I absolutely get. But something I had a reality check on when I became a full time house wife and started doing yardwork was "wow while I thought I knew what the yard needed I don't fully understand how everything works and where everything is." It was a very humbling experience to put myself in my husband shoes. I would often complain how do you NOT know where…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/21 03:12 PM
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You should ALWAYS tell your parents about a first date or any date for that matter. Bad things happen and having someone know where you are, who you're with, and when you're coming home is INCREDIBLY important no matter how young you are. I was 21 when I went on my first date with my now husband and my mom knew where I was since I still lived with her.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/21 02:26 AM
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I think it's needing to shift your mindset. You're not improving yourself because of him you're doing it for you. You need to take him out of the equation completely. You do the self improvement because you deserve to be everything you want to be. You also mention so many things on your to do list but few on his which sounds like the issue may be a labor imbalance. Which might be why you're feeling so resentful.
/r/RedPillWives14/11/21 03:15 PM
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I love watching people's "what's for dinner" on YouTube. Oftentimes I get inspiration from them. I like that they're normally just mom's cooking so they're not going to be spend 3 hours in the kitchen type meals.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 01:13 AM
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It's funny because I'm seeing a therapist, not for my marriage I see her for unrelated reasons, but occasionally she'll ask about my marriage. Well one day she asked how we resolve issues and I told her what I wrote here. She was so happy to hear it. Apparently she subscribes to this method and has to tell her married clients about how compromise often leads to hidden resentment. Everyone gets told compromise is the key to marriage but my therapist deeply disagrees.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/21 12:42 AM
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I subscribe to compromise is not a good option. We go with sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. If you compromise neither person is actually truly happy so how is that fair? While if you strive for a fair amount of winning and losing 50% of the time you get exactly what you want. Pretty much we discuss until someone says alright you win. It's normally whoever is the most passionate because clearly they care more about the outcome. For big decisions sometimes it takes many many many discussi…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 09:27 PM
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I do all the finance stuff because I do all the purchasing for the house so it makes more sense.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/21 11:43 PM
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Have you ever heard the phrase "When someone shows you who they are believe them the first time." It's normally used as a warning but I think it fits perfectly here. He's telling you with his actions that he's not like that so I see no problem in believing him.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/21 05:19 AM
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Congratulations! My husband has been WFH for well over a decade and he always said it's either the best thing or absolutely the worst thing depending on how good you are at keeping a strict work boundaries. You get people that put in 4 hours of work because they're screwing around or don't treat work with the same respect they do at the office. And others pulling 12 hours because some people can't just see something that will "only take a minute" and not do it. I'm glad you were able to find a j…
/r/RedPillWives09/09/21 02:21 PM
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I've been a SAHW and husband has been WFH long before Covid. I always loved it so much and I'm glad (in this one sense obviously I'm not glad we had a pandemic) other's got to experience it. There's something so sweet about being able to poke my head into his office and be like "I'm making a latte do you want one?" I really hope companies let those who want to always WFH.
/r/RedPillWives09/09/21 02:15 PM
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Right! I think I'm going to try and make something unique next week. Something I normally wouldn't make, I don't know what yet, but just to break up the routineness of it. Plus we normally try and eat pretty healthy so I'm sure part of the takeout draw is all the fat and salt. So I'm hoping maybe making making it more of an event and making it decadent might help the rut.
/r/RedPillWives09/09/21 02:09 PM
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I can 100% tell you I have control issues as a coping mechanism to quiet my anxiety. My therapist and I are working on it. Like you said since women are more prone to anxiety I imagine that's what causes a lot of control issues. Even for women who don't have an anxiety disorder still feel the emotion of anxiety far more than men tend to. I mean how many women would park next to a white van with tinted windows in a parking garage? While for a man they probably wouldn't think twice about it. That …
/r/RedPillWives08/09/21 08:55 PM
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For me before husband I did once and it was no better than solo work so I didn't again until husband and I were in a committed relationship. I never got it personally, it was awkward and it wasn't even that good so why would I go through that awkwardness just to be like eh it's alright? Who knows maybe if the guy had been mind-blowing at it my opinion would have changed. But considering the fact I've heard lots of women talk about how loads of men know nothing about a woman's body I can't imagin…
/r/RedPillWives08/09/21 08:27 PM
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I'm in such a cooking slump. We had a really rough life patch recently so we were relying heavily on take out and convenience food. Now that things are mostly settled It's so hard to just make dinner. I swear it's like I got in a bad routine for 3 weeks and now my years of cooking nightly has just been erased from my memory. Haha
/r/RedPillWives08/09/21 08:15 PM
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Oh man I feel this greatly. I had the puppy blues so bad with ours. He had giardia so he couldn't be trusted to not potty in the crate or the house for any period of time. I probably spent well over half the day outside with this puppy until we got this under control. And got up about every two hours at night. And then on top of that because I was barley making it through I didn't have any bandwidth to start obedience training until probably 6 months. He's a Newfoundland so I'm sure you can imag…
/r/RedPillWives08/09/21 08:03 PM
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I get that therapy is daunting but it's seriously worth it's weight in gold. Anxiety (lots but not all mind you) can be managed without medication but it takes behavioral therapy. My therapist has taught me to recognize the pre-anxiety and the coping skills to minimize that before it becomes full blown anxiety. On days when I wake up with full blown anxiety how to use coping skills to reduce it to a workable level. It's not a great day but I'm able to get everything I need to done. I'm able to b…
/r/RedPillWives07/09/21 04:03 AM
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It's totally possible just takes intention. The important thing here is going to be trying to keep the quality time together. Some suggestions would be, daily good morning texts, daily evening phone call, weekly video date nights, sexy photos/phone calls/video calls, watching through a TV series "together" like watching the same episode on the same day, playing online video games together, reading the same book.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 08:20 PM
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I use the app plan to eat. It's paid but I think it's worth it. While browsing recipes you can click a button and the plan to eat app pulls the recipe from the website into the app and populates all the areas for you. Then it's a drag and drop calendar meal planning system that then makes the shopping list for you. I suggest looking at YouTube videos on how it all works before you pay for it just so you can be sure it's something you'll actually use. But I think it's super worth the price tag fo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 08:11 PM
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I think it's because a lot of men don't do domestic labor and their wife works 40 hours and still does it. If they are comfortable with the idea that other men think being a housewife is valuable by itself he's admitting that his wife is severely overworked.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/21 01:45 PM
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Good men don't get drunk and then tell their spouse they're embarrassed to be seen with them.
/r/RedPillWives05/07/21 12:49 PM
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Because where I'm from it's illegal for a grown ass adult to be with a minor. And I full hearty agree with that sentiment. They've done plenty of studies on the dangers of this age dynamic and most of them turn at very poorly for the younger person. As for large age gap is different as long as they get married later in mid 20s. You lack true life experience to really learn what you did and do not want in a partner. You just took the first real adult relationship you had and that's all you have f…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 10:20 PM
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I mean I'll be honest I do think you're too young to be with a 28 year old. I think getting together when you were 17 and he was 26 is not ok. There's a huge power dynamic there and this is a completely different scenario than two 18 year olds getting married because they're mentally, and emotionally on the same level. As a older 20s person I can tell you I literally have nothing in common with a teenager so I can't imagine why he would be interested in you for healthy reasons. And if you were m…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 08:47 PM
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Lol it's fair. If my husband read that I'm sure he'd agree and poke fun at it too. Lolol but my point stands poor sentences and all!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/21 08:23 PM
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Ssssshhh having more words in a sentence makes it better obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/21 08:15 PM
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Yup! And those people are probably the same people that expect women to keep home, raise kids, and have careers. No wonder there's a whole generation of new mother's absolutely haggard. Parenting is a full time job, keeping house is a full time job, a full time job is a full time job. And somehow society tells her she's needs to do all three. And instead of society being like hey you clearly need help where is your man? Either your man needs to step up and do actually half of the parenting and h…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/21 08:06 PM
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Pinterest mostly. Also neutral large furniture. The reason I suggest it is from a fellow previous non decorator I changed my opinions about twice a year until living in this house 3 years. Switching out pillows, coffee tables, lamps, rugs etc every year was not a big deal. Switching out a sofa is a huge deal. Decorating and learning your style is a process it seriously takes years. You can look at all the blogs but at the end of the day for me it was just trial and error.
/r/RedPillWives22/11/20 03:17 PM
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One suggestion is to pick a top 5. What are 5 things that NEED to happen to function. Yours might look like this breakfast, lunch, change the babies diaper, dinner, dishes. Just pick 5 things that the house would literally fall apart if you didn't accomplish that way when the worse days happen hey at least you got your top 5 done. Suggestion 2 utilize the TV babysitter. In survival mode there's no room for guilt about ignoring the kiddos and letting them watch 5 disney movies in one day. Go for …
/r/RedPillWives19/11/20 12:59 PM
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Women do like video games. They just often haven't been exposed at a young age to video games that appealed to them. I had no interest in any video game until I played the original Animal Crossing. From there my fondness for video games grew. I'm absolutely not saying there aren't young girls who love fighting games, however I assume since lots of girls don't play videogames a lot do not myself included. If I had not had a friend who had Animal Crossing I bet I wouldn't enjoy playing video games…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 12:14 PM
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I only think about it because one of my husband's friends. He's an elementary school teacher and his friend group is a few guy friends he's had since college and then just women co-workers.
/r/RedPillWives22/10/20 11:09 AM
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I know you said you're in the UK so I have no idea what pricing is over there or if it's an option. But telatherapy has seemed to open up a much wider price difference for therapy in the US.
/r/RedPillWives22/10/20 10:41 AM
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So I hate being a therapy pusher because I know that's the internet's first option ever. However when I got to the part where you said around your period you think about your family dying, girl I've been there. That's hormonal anxiety. That's something most likely you need medication to fix. Eveyone is different but mine actually is manged well by birth control and therapy. Other women might need full anxiety medicine all the time and others might just need BC. But you won't know until you try. …
/r/RedPillWives22/10/20 10:36 AM
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This advice is fantastic. The only time I would maybe, and I mean maybe, consider it ok is if the person worked in an oposite gender dominant fields. A male elementary school teacher, at least in my area, has mostly female co-workers. So I think if he has co-workers that become friends they're obviously going to be women. Same thing for a woman in let's say the engineering field. But even then if the person says something like "I just prefer the company of X because Y" then completely no.
/r/RedPillWives22/10/20 10:20 AM
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I'm 28 husband is 36 and we're not having any. I was 24 when we got married and we both came into marriage saying maybe, neither felt strongly about it one way or another. We realized a medical issue that was going to make TTC difficult while we were still newly weds. Not impossible just was going to take doctor intervention. I then did research on infant adoption and how that's handled in the US and shot that down as an option. As years past neither of us really felt the call to it. When husban…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 02:00 PM
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May I suggest Thredup? I do most of my clothing shopping there now. You can get ok quality for cheap prices.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 01:38 PM
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I'm in this post and I don't like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:20 PM
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You're 100% right. Hobbies and interests change, however core values and personality really shouldn't much. I don't think there's anything wrong with asking someone questions about who they actually are and what they actually value in life. I was just trying to explain that while I think these questions are great no one asks them. At least for me personally no one ever did. We always sort of just found out about them through time. So I'm not surprised that they don't get answered correctly the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:19 AM
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She's a collector.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:47 AM
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Most people don't ask those types of questions. The most common one I was asked while in the dating pool was ,"What are you into" since most people care about quickly finding a shared interest. So I would have assumed that's what you're asking and just worded strangely. The only time I've ever been asked to describe myself with actual adjectives has been a job interview. If you want to get that response I would suggest describing yourself that way and then asking how they would describe themselv…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:38 AM
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I can't find a more tactful way to say this so I'm just gonna lay it out there. Start with a blow job. I like this method for three reasons. 1. No deep eye contact. Keep your eyes on the prize. I find personally prolonged eye contact tends to increase insecurity feelings. 2. You can't say stupid shit with a dick in your mouth. 3 initiation is easy. Just start tugging on the boxers and drop to your knees. There's no verbal communication that needs to happen to get it started. I give you this cand…
/r/RedPillWives19/10/20 02:14 AM
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I assumed that the point of your comment was that someone who actually reads that much should have better grammar. So to make a point I was trying to give a personal example to show that they're not mutually exclusive. I have no other examples to give but personal ones, since mine's the only life I've lived. If that was not the point then you're right that clearly went over my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 12:31 PM
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Ok yes but that has exactly 0% to do with what I read and all to do with childhood education. Also taking the time to re-read what I write before I hit post, but I will also attribute that to childhood education of being taught to never turn in something you haven't proof read. My trash reading has not improved my grammar. I read fifty shades, there's grammatical errors up and down that book.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 12:13 PM
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Just because someone reads a lot does not make them intelligent. I read a book a week, however it's all lightly smutty romance novels. They're not exactly the pinnacle of intellectual reading. They're also normally incredibly short. So my book a week is only 200 pages. What this actually looks like is me reading for 10 minutes before bed every night. Not saying they're reading smutty romance too, just saying context about what you're reading is very important.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 11:58 AM
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How often do you two have date nights?
/r/RedPillWives17/10/20 12:21 AM
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I assume most homes get painted gray when put on the market. That's what our relator told us to do 2 years ago when we sold our home. A fresh coat of paint makes the house look cleaner. And gray for a few different reasons. One so no one has strong opinions on the color, no one feels they HAVE to paint it before they move in. Two it's easy for the next owners to paint over so there's no "oh no this is going to take forever to paint over" feeling people dread when they see a brown wall. Three whi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/20 05:02 PM
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I highly second the depression. The alcoholism is most likely a by product of depression. No happy person chooses to have a drinking problem it always comes from somewhere. It's common for men for get complacent in a long term marriage but these are normally things like his grooming, his weight, putting the dishes in the dishwasher because he knows you'll do it. Letting bills go unpaid and into collections while money's in the bank is not complacency. That's down right neglect and if he never di…
/r/RedPillWives06/10/20 12:42 PM
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I suggest finding a knitting youtube video that has a coordinating pattern with it. Just find a project you like and watch the video and try and follow the instructions. If you don't understand or don't like how this YouTuber is showing you that's what the patterns for. Knitting has everything labeled perfectly and you can find a video detailing every step as long as you know the names.
/r/RedPillWives28/09/20 11:35 AM
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We tried that, it didn't work. Like I mentioned earlier the physical manifestation of the issue was chores. The emotional undertone was neither of us felt the other understood or respected our time. It honestly just lead to more resentment. When person A didn't finish all the tasks and person B did. However person A had to pull two 12 hour days that week and feels perfectly justified for not completing their tasks. Person B doesn't care because two weeks ago they only had 1 day off that week and…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 10:57 AM
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Oh in my opinion 100% that's work. A teacher's job requires them to grade papers off the clock it's still work. It's a requirement of your position that you may not be paid for but is expected that you complete. A model's job is their body, it's considered their job to keep their body in tip top shape. There's no reason it's not your job either.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 04:34 PM
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The gym no that's not free time to me, showering that's not either. Those are things that your partner should also be doing. Getting ready in the morning is also not free time to me but I have a 20 minute hair and makeup routine so it doesn't take long. Everything else is free time to me. However I will be honest and say I spend far less time maintaining myself than you do. I shave in the shower everyday, and since I do it everyday it take less than 10 minutes. I do my own nails at home while wa…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 02:30 PM
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If you want my advice for that would be for you to view your lives like work. Both of you sit down and calculate how much time you both spend doing something that's not free time. Driving to the office that's work, making dinner work, giving baby a bath work. Once you both calculate ALL of the time you both spend doing tasks for the whole week calculate the time. This does two things, allows each of you to see how you compare on free time, and puts into perspective what the other person does all…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 01:25 PM
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If you were to ask my husband in the beginning of our relationship if he would want a housewife he would have laughed in your face and said he's not supporting a lazy gold digger. Then came a time when I was looking for a new job and we were moving to a new house. We decided I'd quit my old job take a few months off to pack the old house, move, and unpack the new house, then I'd go back to working. Well let's just say when he realized that me being home meant that he just had to work his 40 hour…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 01:13 PM
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Our arguments while surfaced as housework were more. "I feel like you are not respecting my time." And honestly that's still normally what we argue about just much, much, much less.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 01:04 PM
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Mostly house work. It was no uncommon for the conversation to go "I just got home from an 8 hour work day why couldn't you have just put a load of laundry in the wash and empty the dishwasher!?" "I just finished my 45 hour work week I want a day to relax is that too much to ask for!?" Rinse and repeat with us switching positions and a rotation of cleaning the bathroom, vacuuming, and making dinner.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 12:57 PM
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Plus it's crazy to think about how much more money they end up spending just to participate in their rat race. "I don't have time to buy a slightly older home and fix it up slowly. So we're buying new for 50% increase on sqft cost." "I don't want to eat garbage but I don't have time to meal plan, grocery shop, and cook from scratch everyday so Hello fresh it is! It only costs about twice as much if I would have just bought everything from a grocery store and planned multiple meals around the ing…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 12:49 PM
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Congrats! There is two things that I can say hands down made my marriage rock solid. Quitting my job to become a house wife. And making a budget that includes an "allowance" for both hubby and myself. With the rules that how the other person spends their allowance is none of your business. Housework and money are the two most fought about things. When you remove the fighting triggers we went from arguing maybe once a month or so, to the last time we had an argument was over 6 months ago.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/20 11:02 AM
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The only reason the 2 years is a concern to me is your age. Obviously I completely understand that life is stressful now and I get waiting. However there is a legitimate timeline to consider. Engagement at 32, 1 year to plan a wedding, it's 1 year of actively trying for kids before they even consider helping you TTC which is fairly likely in a older first time mama. Then 9 months until baby's birth that means you're looking at a very realistic time line of having your first child at 35. Obviousl…
/r/RedPillWives09/09/20 11:44 PM
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I think I'm mostly confused by why two years? Like where did that number come from. If he's "not ready" now why does he think he's going to be in two years? Most people have these timelines for things like "I want to wait until I'm out of college" or "I want to wait until I'm no longer active in the military". What's his reasoning for waiting?
/r/RedPillWives09/09/20 10:59 PM
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Maybe you should try a sex date every week. I know it sounds unromantic and honestly a little unpleasant to force yourself to have sex when you don't want to. But after a few weeks of "every Wednesday we have sex" your body will most likely get into the routine that you have sex on Wednesdays. So on Wednesday it'll start to naturally put you in the mood. It's sort of like if someone has trouble sleeping the first thing suggested is a night time routine. That way their body prepares it self for s…
/r/RedPillWives27/02/20 03:06 PM
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That honestly might be why you're starting to sag at such a small weight loss. If you loose weight slowly, and healthily your skin has a much better time recovering it's elasticity. I'm not a doctor but someone in their 20s, who hasn't had children, and only lost 10lbs is someone who really should have not noticed any sagging. So that's the only thing I can think of really.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/20 05:12 AM
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I'm curious what you mean by date night system. Like this day every week/other week is date night or like a rotating date night activity?
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 12:27 AM
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I think you're missing the important part of my statements. I'm trying to explain why I think lots of men BELIEVE monogamy is natural. Not that it actually is natural.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 04:12 PM
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I know, I'm agreeing with you. I'm trying to explain why I think a lot of men now believe monogamy was always the way even if they're RPd like the person you responded to which I'm responding to your response. They confuse personal views as their natural views. Since they would assume if it was natural they would be fighting the instinct to sleep around. Not realizing that the instinct is gone because everyone has had a drastic shift in how we view children.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 04:00 PM
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Sadly societal ideas do matter in this scenario even if people like to pretend it doesn't. Let's take a couple who gets divorced it's mutual so no bad blood. They have two children. They owned a 4 bedroom home wih a yard, in a nice school district, with the paternal granparents living in that same town. After selling the house father downsizes to a smaller home. It's 3 bedrooms, still has a yard just smaller, in the same school district and town as before. Mother on the other hand makes less tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/20 03:47 PM
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I actually have a theory on this and I think it's mostly societal and finical. Now that men need to be invested in every single child they have they need to make the children count. With child support and social stigmas most men don't father 20 children they father 2 or 3. When you have such smaller numbers you need to make sure you pick an appropriate mother to help raise them vs just relaying on the numbers like before. So I think some men confuse their feelings with natural monogamy. Most men…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 03:07 PM
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If he doesn't trust you enough to marry you, you shouldn't trust him enough to stay with him. If he's expecting you to screw him over married or not it's already a failing relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/20 04:41 AM
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I have nothing to really add here but I just wanted to say I love your analogy of splitting the male and female roles. I've been trying to find a way to explain when a woman takes on half the financial burden the man must take on half the domestic burden but never found a great way into putting it down so understandably. Your phasing is wonderful!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/20 09:53 PM
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If that's not the most accurate representation of me and my husband. Sometimes I just want to complain and vent. He always tries to give advice no matter the situation. Understanding each other's languages is pretty hard in the beginning but once you do it makes life so much easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/20 02:52 PM
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Call the therapist office before you schedule an appointment and say you'd love for the therapist to call you back you have a few questions to ask before you decide if they'll be a fit for you. The questions should be something along the lines of. "My husband cheated on me, I have no intention to leave him. Do you believe you would be able to provide me therapy to work on rebuilding my trust, self-esteem, and to help me become the woman I'm looking to be without making the goal be to leave my hu…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 12:48 AM
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One bad therapist does not mean therapy doesn't work. That's like saying you don't like Picasso so all art is ugly. You're not spending "his" money your spending the families money to try and save the family. I'm going to be candid here, I've only seen two couples survive a cheating. Both of those couples involved therapy. Breaking trust is one of the hardest things for a relationship to recover from. When trust is broken it leads to spiral thoughts. "If he was willing to lie about X he'd be wil…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/20 12:22 AM
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That's really nice and I'm sure you'll guys have a super fun time at 50! And your kids are sure going so grateful having both of you free to help with those grandbabies I'm sure. Husband's job is his passion and while obviously we are planning for retirement he actually hopes to work long after retirement age if he can do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 06:01 PM
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Haha yeah it's definitely not for everyone!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:34 PM
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Eveyone thinks their way of life is the best way. Someone else succeeding using ideals that directly contradict their own makes them feel like their way of life is being threatened and may not be the best. People who are confident in their life choices don't typically go on Reddit to pick apart someone else's choices. Now obviously legitimate questions about trying to understand someone else's life is completely different I have tried to answer every one of those. However there are many comments…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:27 PM
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Before I left the workforce I worked in the restaurant business and I did every job through the years. The restaurant industry is very great for situations like mine. It has a very high amount of people leaving the industry for years to try other carrers or have children that pop back in eventually. So if you put a gun to my head and said what's your plan B if all falls apart I suppose it's that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:03 PM
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I understand the point you're trying to make, but in our scenario it doesn't work. My husband's career started as a hobby when he was a kid. He loves his job and always has. He does what he's passionate about and he wouldn't trade it for more money even if you offered. Which he gets messages from recruiters frequently trying to head hunt him. For years I worked a job I did not like to help support us when he was not making great money, he has always been the one who has worked his passion job no…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 02:45 PM
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We actually have pretty active social life. I host book club evey month as well as board game night. Every other Thursday we do a big group dinner with friends. I also try and host at least one party a month. We're the ones who always host since I'm home and can easily make all the food. And for freinds who work I actually don't know a single person who doesn't work. We have similar interests so I don't have a hard time connecting with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 02:30 PM
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I can't even imagine! Stay at home moms are seriously my heros. I spend almost 40 hours a week doing all of our home matinance. The fact that they do half the things they manage to get done in a day is amazing and they deserve the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:11 AM
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I personally wouldn't say it's harder it's just different. But I don't have children and I love being a homemaker so I'm most likely a minority there. However it is definitely more mentally taxing for me than a normal job. I never really leave my work place and I don't get a day off. If I'm sick the work just piles up and piles up and there's no one to help off load any of it to. That really nice deep sigh people do when they walk out of their work on a Friday I don't get that. I never really ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:03 AM
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No kids I just try to make as much food from scratch as possible. Trying to avoid all the added sugar and sodium. I'm not offended or anything by your comment. I'm just trying to dispell the myth that housewives without kids sit on their butts all day. But I do 100% understand the concept that a task will take however long you allow it to take. Believe me when I'm sick it can take me 20 minutes to unload the dishwasher. One obnoxiously slow dish at a time while I long for bed. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:22 AM
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I spend 3 hours a day cleaning. A morning, afternoon, and evening cleaning routine and 2 hours making food 20 for breakfast, 30 for lunch, and an hour and some change for dinner. My morning routine for example starts with unloading the dishwasher, scooping the cat litter boxes, and doing the hot tubs chemicals. That takes me roughly 10 minutes between the 3 of those things. Then I add laundry to the wash which takes about 5 minutes to sort through the laundry, take the basket downstairs, check a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:08 AM
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Not necessary true. I have calculated the time in which I have spent doing "work" cleaning, cooking, errand running, yard work etc. I come in around 40 hours a week average. It depends on a lot of things. How large your home is, how throughly you like to deep clean your home, do you value making food from scratch or are you just as happy opening a jar. I don't "work" 8 hours a day I work 5 and have about 4 extra hours divided between Sundays and Mondays for errand running, budgeting, meal planni…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 02:36 AM
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Congrats! I've gotten the most amount of satisfaction in my life doing this for the last 2 years and I hope she'll feel the same. It's an amazing feeling. I assume it just stems from the fear of putting 100% of your trust in your spouse. Me putting trust into my husband to always provide and my husband that I don't take advantage of his financial situation. It's really scary to blindly trust that someone has your best interests in mind. At the same time I think that's what's so beautiful about a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 02:08 AM
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I totally understand how some people don't see what I do as work and so it's not valuable to them and that's ok. As for me and my husband what I do is valuable to us. We value having the most amount of free time possible over the amount we could be earning. For you and your wife/husband you will most likely just value different things than us.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 01:49 AM
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My husband does yes and I stay home. He makes good money and we live very comfortablely. It's not that I refuse to work, I actually use to be a restaurant manager in the beginning of our relationship when he made far less money. When he moved up in his career he and I had a discussion. He knew I had always said I'd like to be a housewife and he honestly was tired of having to split the chores 50/50 so we decided to try me being a housewife. I find that lots of people focus on how nice it is for …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 09:09 PM
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Yeah it's stupid expensive, like annoyed I pay this much for skincare expensive. But most things last me about a year (I also don't do normal skincare on Sundays I use just water, their facial mask, then I use their hydration leave on mask) so that helps extend my time too. Plus twice a year Sephora has a big sale that's 10% or 15% off your order so I just stock up then.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 04:04 PM
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I just use the drunk elephant skincare line. I also have super sensitive skin so I found drunk elephant moisturizer in a sample at Sephora once, realized it didn't turn my face on fire, and stuck with it ever since. It's really pricey but at this point in my life my skin hates so much that I can't be bothered to try and find an alternative. I also make it stretch longer by only doing half pumps of everything. I find that doing a full pump is not necessary so I get about double the amount of time…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 03:56 PM
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To piggy back off this tactic in a less awkward manner is a night time drive. Anytime I want to talk about something that feels weird/embarrassing face to face we stop at a fast food place grab two drinks, turn on music to a medium volume and just drive. Watching the road instead of looking at each other and having the darkness sheild any awkwardness really helps give you confidence to lay everything out. Plus the added benefit of drinks gives you something to mess with and take breaks from talk…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 03:40 PM
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Thank you. My weekday morning routine is first alarm goes off I then lay in bed and read until second alarm goes off which is 15 minutes after the first. Then I hop in the shower. I wash my hair every weekday, but I give it a rest on the weekends. Plus I use bumble and bumble everyday shampoo so it's super gentle. Having clean fresh hair is one of those things that makes me feel super good. I love the smell of freshly washed hair. The night before I add YouTube videos to a playlist so I can enjo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 04:18 AM
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I try to incorporate self care into my everyday routine. I find that doing things that you feel are luxurious and unnecessary but still fun is a really great way to take care of yourself. At 9pm every night a make myself a cup of tea and put it in a actual tea cup. No mug an actual delicate beautiful tea cup and I sit down and plan out tomorrow in a beautiful gold monogramed planner. After that's done I go upstairs to do my skincare routine and act like it's a spa. I do it slow and purposefully …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 06:38 PM
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Yes but NFP is a form of birth control. The belief in Catholicim in not using birth control is that you're not putting your faith in the Lord by letting him decide your family. The fact that her husband was ok with NFP means he's already pretty loose with that idea in the first place. If talking through serious marital concerns are problematic in a marriage then the couple needs counseling to work on communication. If someone feels like they can't talk about legitimate concerns then the marriage…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 11:50 AM
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I'm sorry are you actually saying that she should take their mutual family planning into her own hands because being upfront and honest about her feelings would hurt their marriage? Lieing to your spouse about important life decisions is not ok. It takes two people to make a family and he has equal grounds on deciding how, when, and where that family happens.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 11:05 AM
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Is he anti condoms as well? I know that's a person to person belief but technically natural family planning is a form of birth control it self. So maybe he might be willing to change his mind on at least condoms if he's alright with NFP. If you haven't already you should have a deep and direct discussion about how you're just not emotionally ready for another one yet. Maybe he hasn't quite realized how much the birth has effected you. We tend to think we're being direct but if you don't point bl…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 10:00 AM
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Buy a meat thermometer. Undercooked or over cooked meat is what normally ruins food. A meat thermometer fixes all that. Also only cook on medium low or low. Getting distracted while sauteing when you're trying to do 5 things is how you burn food and ruin a recipe. I also suggest measuring out ALL the ingredients and chopping veggies before you even start cooking. Cooking is a multitasking skill. If you're just starting having everything laid out, measured, and ready helps you not over cook one t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/19 02:59 PM
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I can confirm this. I take a hot bath most nights as part of my bedtime routine. Even if I only have a 10 minute soak it really helps. There's something so wonderful about taking a few minutes to decompress and do something most people consider luxurious for yourself on the daily.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/19 10:20 PM
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I find the whole man cold thing so ridiculous. I do believe a lot of women handle discomfort better than man. Lots of women from teenage hood once a month have to deal with headaches, nausea, back pain, cramps etc.. so for 12 weeks out of every year lots of women have to put on a brave face and deal. At a certain point you get use to your type of discomfort. Lets be honest a lot of flu symptoms minic menstrual pain. That's not to say that a man shoud be told to tough it up because he's not use t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 04:33 PM
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