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Is this not the truth tho? He probably will die alone once they finally separate. He loves alcohol more than his wife based on his own post.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 02:44 PM
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So he's a liar, a drunk, and not very into his wife. He is siphoning money from his marital home and doesn't want to be bothered with this woman, but also jealous bc she's finally taken the hint that he doesn't like or want her and she's exploring her options? Did I get it all?
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 02:38 PM
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Girl, I'm reading this so confused. The first half of his post speaks on his disdain of this woman...now he wants to act jealous?
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 02:36 PM
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The page is hostile towards feminists in general. I see we're considered a hate group in here.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/06/26 04:47 AM
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I don't think the post was aimed at me. But I am honestly curious about the thinking here. This is obviously hostile territory for women like me, so I did attempt to speak respectfully. Regardless, no way that I speak will go over well. Anywho, this page is definitely interesting...
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/26 08:06 PM
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👍🏾
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/26 06:25 PM
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I'll let him answer what hurt his feelings, not you. I believe in matching energy with men, as a woman. I'm a BW feminist and deal with sexism and racism online a lot. I believe in dealing with ppl on a basis of how they have treated me. So my answer to that, give what you get. Some ppl get respectful responses, some get maliciousness. This is where discernment comes in. Accountability isn't a team sport. Each individual is accountable for their own behaviors based on what they want out of a sit…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/26 05:59 PM
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I asked what hurt his feelings. I didn't deny his feelings. I don't ask men in general to open up to me. I do believe that men need to have emotional intelligence and it helps men become well rounded humans. I believe all of us need some sensitivity and understanding of how to emote depending on the situation. Recognize though, random women who have never interacted with this dude won't know what hurt his feelings. So if he behaves by "reinforcing" patriarchy, that'll just make some women turn a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/26 05:49 PM
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What hurt your feelings? And do you believe that venting into the void will fix something? I will say I am a feminist for full disclosure, but reading this and not understanding the specific issue and who you're mad at, saying..."by reinforcing patriarchal ideas about masculinity and feelings", you'd be right!! This won't hurt us feminists. You can continue having ideas about patriarchy and masculinity, but you can't "reinforce" anything over ppl if you have no leverage or power over. If you jus…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/26 05:36 PM
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Clearly everything. Anywho, this has been amazing. Thanks
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/06/26 09:24 PM
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In my first comment, this is there at the end? "If y'all want relationships with women, why does it seem like you have no urge to hear what women are saying?"
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/06/26 09:13 PM
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Sooo, still no addressing what I actually asked? Her post was about relationships, so I'm asking questions about men who still want to be in relationships. If you're only looking to engage on random things I haven't asked, I'm not biting.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/06/26 08:43 PM
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My question isn't about the men who don't want relationships, it's about the ones who do.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/06/26 08:14 PM
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Thanks for these links. I enjoyed the essays and posts.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/06/26 01:27 PM
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I've just recently come across this sub as a feminist and I just kinda read and see what y'all are saying. As I'm reading this article, I honestly don't see what the real problem is. Relationships today, if ppl aren't completely checked out, have to have 2 ppl who actively choose each other. When I talk to women, I talk about getting your education and career together FIRST. I want women to be self sufficient and be able to thrive regardless of relationships. To say y'all aren't needed isn't rea…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/06/26 01:26 PM
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All of these tactics take so much more energy than simply being a decent human who cares about mutual respect, cares about the person, practices proper hygiene and keeps his space clean. Most men would do consistently better if they did these simple things, yet they learn these tactics and have a hive mind. And as more of us see these tactics repeated, these dudes get blocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 02:15 PM
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Great comment and I agree. I have a whole network dedicated to women. We talk about manipulation tactics and red flags. I speak on not giving your 20s to a man and getting our education and career foundation set. And we speak on solutions and learning from mistakes. So I'm already there. I believe we women have to tackle our sh** and I would hope men do the same with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/26 04:18 PM
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I have ZERO expectations of men to help solve women's problems. When men are usually the root of women's problems. And yes, it's the Patriarchy. The patriarchy told y'all that having emotions and feelings was in the realm of women. That's why so many of y'all are emotionally stunted. And the patriarchy is the reason for social norms and traditions. But v you'd have to be willing to do what women have done for ourselves...and many of you aren't ready...you have to step outside of those norms your…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:38 PM
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Y'all would have to at some point confront the real root of your issues. You say "society", but it's really the Patriarchy that paints y'all in these boxes. You're not really ready to break free. And no, at this point, I don't have sympathy. Bc women are still dealing with our own sh. Femicide, r*pe, violence...all that sh. Y'all need to be the leaders many in your ilk claim, out on your big boy pants, and find some solutions to your own problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 03:23 PM
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So then there's nothing to say. If y'all refuse to focus on your mental health, it's purposeful and it's your business. I have no fcks to give. You're grown. You deal with your own sh**.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:11 PM
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Do you ever talk to a professional?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 01:28 PM
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Going back and forth with them....do you think they care about the lot of women? Unless you just like debating, then that's a whole nother thing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 02:42 AM
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Thanks for the tag
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 02:40 AM
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Men kill themselves. Why won't men focus on their mental health?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 02:37 AM
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The way you just handled my comment shows me why you'll continue to be lonely. And I love that for you.
/r/seduction01/01/26 07:41 PM
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Would it ever be possible to consider women "women" and not "girls"? Maybe start with imagining us as equal adults and not children.
/r/seduction01/01/26 06:56 PM
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So you think this will actually work? I mean long term... you'll be able to mask if you even connect to a human woman?
/r/seduction31/12/25 08:57 PM
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Have you ever considered dealing with women on a human level and stop trying to create or use a manual? Are you incapable of normal socializing? This just seems so contrived and doesn't speak to women as individuals?
/r/seduction31/12/25 08:33 PM
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It doesn't sound like you were open to any answers. You could have asked Google this. What were you hoping to garner? You don't have to get therapy if you don't want it. But attempting to negate each answer when you asked the question shows you were unserious to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 04:28 AM
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You totally got it! 👍🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 05:38 PM
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Power imbalances aren't gonna always have issues. The piece that I speak on with women is making sure you have the capacity to escape if issues arise. This is why I speak on women NOT giving their 20s to men and taking that time to get an education, build a career, get a financial footing, and really know what they want in life. Power reversal isn't the solution. Having the financial independence is important and recognizing that dependence is risky are the keys.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 05:37 PM
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Yes. I did read. And boundaries aren't about other ppl, they're about you. But yes, you absolutely are supposed to leave when someone doesn't do what you want. You're not an adult woman's dad. You're not in control. And adult women who have their lives together do not want controlling men. This is why red pill is an absolute repellent and at its core it's anti feminist. I will repeat what I want. As I am an adult. This is that boundary thing. You only control yourself. You choose how you respond…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:51 PM
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If you have to uphold a persona, you're not a genuine person. And you need to reflect of that. Ima be honest, the Blue pill part isn't that important. Red pill is a repellent. Men, as a baseline, have to treat women with respect. Basic respect that they'd give to others. There's no "put in Nice Guy™️ coin, get the woman" vending machine though. You still have to find a match. And no one has to be a pushover. One thing I've noticed about men talking about boundaries though. Boundaries make it so …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:14 PM
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Why do you even have purple pill in your flair? Acknowledge you're red and own it. It sounds line you've gotten some sex, but no success in relationships. Being blue pilled, probably means you see women more equally and as individuals. That is baseline to not repel women. That doesn't mean you won't still have rocky relationships. You still have to attract a woman and sustain the relationship based on mutual effort. Also sounds like if you're insecure, you need some confidence moreso than a woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 01:21 PM
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This is just to get women to keep their eyes open. It's not to act like each of these things means terrible stuff will happen. It's important to be aware of imbalances of any kind. Anyways. Understanding that there could be risks factors is a way for us women to recognize why being financially independent is so clutch. It's also important for us to have a sense of survival. And since you're not my audience for these things, I won't go further than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 07:30 AM
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The thing is, sugar babies are a thing. Absolutely. Doesn't mean there isn't imbalances. There are still ppl who use money to control others and there can be financial abuse in relationships. Whenever we talk about relationships, we can examine the particulars.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 07:14 AM
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Ok. Do you think one example changes the general statement that in making?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 07:11 AM
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Do red pilled men even get fulfilling relationships? Do they even have friends. They seem miserable. Like everything seems tainted in misogyny. Their relationship advice to other men makes those men stay in relationship hell. Bc women like me highlight the toxicity of RP men. So many women in my networks avoid these types.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:30 AM
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It'll depend on the relationship. Bc I have certainly spoken about income gaps. Bc sometimes there's financial abuse or control issues. Obviously the older person has had more time to be in the workforce, so they'll have more time to make more money. I totally speak on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:27 AM
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I rail against age gap relationships. I have seen the power imbalances and how old men target young women who aren't versed on red flags. And I make sure to highlight red flags and power imbalances all the time. I'm also married and have no skin in the dating game. I want women to have the tools to navigate manipulation tactics and red flags. And most times old men don't wanna date within their own age cohort bc older ladies can clock manipulation tactics a bit better and will pushback on contro…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:24 AM
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If consent to sex within certain parameters were agreed upon, and the person lied to get sex, there's no consent. Just like stealthing. The problem that a man would have is proving this. Outside of a confession, she could've forgotten or the BC failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 04:17 AM
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This is hilarious 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 03:01 PM
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Women work. Women pay into the marital assets. Ifv there comes a time for divorce, obviously assets will be split. Y'all whine about losing everything when it's really a division which makes sense. Why shouldn't the women get part of their labor and investment out of it? Yes, we push women and girls to be financially independent. We have seen how disastrous it is for women to be completely dependent on a man and he just discards her. This is why I will continue to say women need to have an educa…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 04:10 PM
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You men make height a big deal. And since you repeat it over and over, you refuse to listen to anything else women say. This is why many of y'all will stay single. And that's fine by me. You may think women miss a mark, but obviously if women are voluntarily opting out, they're ok. Men have to start actively participating in these relationships and with their kids. So many women are speaking on how they have to beg and plead for men to do their part and it's honestly turning off a whole lot of w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 04:21 AM
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I made a comment on the main thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 01:45 AM
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At some point men will have to recognize and adapt to want women want in a partner. At this juncture, women are opting out of dating and dealing with men for many different reasons. Some of which, men haven't grasp the notion that simply being the "protector and provider" isn't enough. Especially as women can financially provide for ourselves. Men used to paint women as the ball and chain. Women used to be seen as desperate. Now women are saying you have to actually participate more in the home,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 01:43 AM
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Men have always devalued women. That's why I continue to say we need to disregard men. All of this acting like we are invisible after 35 or hit the wall or only valued bc of beauty and youth speaks to the point that men can't stand our humanity. And in that case, women are better off leaving those men alone anyways. Bc we all obviously age and change. I talk to women daily. Even the younger ones aren't pressed about men. They aren't concerned about men's opinions. And they aren't desperate and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 07:29 PM
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And then you have a person like me specifically telling women not to give their 20s to men, to make sure they get their education and career foundation together, and not to move in with men. Bc I see how men will suck a woman's life force in a relationship otherwise. I also encourage women to really learn themselves, what they want, and how to have boundaries before dealing with men. As women, we're usually socialized to give and give and give. I'm trying to fix that. That is a drain to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 07:07 AM
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You don't like me speaking frankly. I get that. No matter how I say it, you all don't like hearing no from a woman. Stilll won't change the sentiment. You attempting to compare rights being stripped from women vs wanting women to help y'all get a backbone and pushback against gender roles is silly. Lol. Bc what rights are at risk from you men? And regardless, I have no urge to ask men to help us. I'm not naive in that. I don't think I'm superior. I just recognize that we women have our own thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 02:38 PM
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I'm unsure what you're thinking is neglect. Women opting out of taking up men's issues isn't neglect. We have no obligation to take these things on. Y'all aren't even oppressed. Some of y'all just don't have the courage to push back against these gender roles of patriarchy. And it isn't up to women to give you a back bone. MGTOW has been around for a very long time. And men have still failed to create community and real mentorship with young men. Y'all continue to fail bc too many of y'all are i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 02:07 PM
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This isn't the role for feminist. This is where men need to understand that the patriarchy harms them. But most men don't want to do the labor associated with dismantling that system and just want women to take over and handle men's issues as well. As well a feminist, I feel absolutely no urge to pick up men's issues. Men barely listen to women anyways. I do believe men need to break away from some of the inherent roles that they've been put in, but it's up to men to be big boys and lead the cha…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 08:34 AM
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Where were the dates?
/r/seduction24/11/25 05:21 PM
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That's what's best. I'm vague. But each woman can speak for themselves. This man asked a question. I answered. So many of y'all think me answering this means it's coming from me personally. But I'll hit 12 years of marriage next month. I'm good. I'm unsure why y'all even bother asking questions when most of y'all don't wanna hear our answers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 07:20 PM
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So there's no need to even ask. Your lady could answer if you're truly curious
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:23 PM
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You already believe what you believe. I will not do anymore than this. Things are too unfair. So just stay the same. That should help.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:04 PM
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No. It's more than that. My 5 point list should speak to that. It's not just finances. It's also the emotional, domestic, and relational reciprocity. Hope this helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:49 PM
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Y'all got it handled it seems. Women didn't even need to participate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:05 AM
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So you have wasted everyone's time with this exercise. Listen to men. Bc why would women have insights into what women think? Y'all got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:01 AM
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No. But I didn't actually expect them to. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:01 AM
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Lol 🫶🏾👍🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 11:32 PM
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Why would you remotely believe that you as a man actually knows more about women than a woman? Like, sit with that question. Y'all spout that stupid ass "women only want 6-6-6"...women only want the top 20%. Women will all just take your stuff. Y'all say like 5 different regurgitated talking points and most women aren't saying that. And instead of examining this very basic ass list, you keep asking questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 11:19 PM
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Ima married woman. I just happen to have a large following of women. This is common. And I'm speaking from women's shared stories.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 11:07 PM
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I had time today. I was interested to see if they'd listen or pushback.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 11:06 PM
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Y'all don't wanna hear women and it's ok. One thing I tell men, the smart ones will adapt to what women are asking for. The rest will keep taking advice from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 11:03 PM
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You asked this original question. I answered. I have a fairly large network of women who speak on these topics daily. If y'all genuinely wanted a connection, you'd listen. Most of y'all wanna argue. And #1 is precisely how women are treated daily. It's easy to see when men are CONSTANTLY talking about sex and a woman cooking and cleaning. I won't type anymore, bc I don't think you actually care to listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 11:02 PM
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I kept it pretty short though. I was feeling charitable. 🫶🏾☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:44 PM
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That women are more than a utility to cook, clean, and provide an orgasm. Reciprocity Being truthful without things like lying by omission and dumb manipulation tactics Proper hygiene Being an adult that can see things in the home that needs to be cleaned and not use weaponized incompetence as a way to make women perform labor
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 10:27 PM
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Yup. That's why I just laugh at them.
/r/seduction18/11/25 04:20 PM
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Women are starting to avoid them. And these types of behaviors will repel women that much more.
/r/seduction18/11/25 04:08 PM
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Lol ok. This is great. I'm enjoying reading all this.
/r/seduction18/11/25 08:50 AM
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As a woman reading the things y'all say to each other about women, I just laugh heartily. Whew. Men are gonna keep being the reason other men stay lonely and women keep opting out of messing with y'all. This was great.
/r/seduction18/11/25 08:25 AM
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Nothing that this man said showed that he was into women outside of using her for a mastubatory tool. Me recognizing that women are used for an orgasm doesn't make me angry, I'm observant. And I see what y'all say in these groups. This whole group is about getting your wankers wet.
/r/seduction17/11/25 01:56 AM
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Lol we vote OUR interests. I love having rights and freedoms. And y'all have no idea what truths are. You believe your opinions are truths. Most feminists I know are in relationships. Bc thinking women deserve equality and to be healthy and safe in our country isn't the same as hating men. Anywho. Thanks for playing the guessing game and thinking you know stuff. Tata
/r/seduction14/11/25 02:16 AM
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So you want a woman's body with no effort. Cool, got it. It doesn't sound like you've actually read any of the authors you name dropped. Just using the word "fact" doesn't make it one. And honestly call me what you like. I get called stuff all the time. I got what I needed from the thread though.
/r/seduction13/11/25 09:21 AM
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Y'all are so boring with the cat lady label. I would hope by now y'all could come up with something more creative. But this man, and many in here don't regard women as anything more than a hole. Just own it and pay a pro.
/r/seduction12/11/25 11:30 PM
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Exactly. You don't GAF about equality, so why the pretense? Just be upfront or pay a pro. You men wanna act like you aren't Johns. But you are. You are just cheap and want a hole without paying like a John. Just pay and stop acting like you're interested in talking to these holes.
/r/seduction12/11/25 08:51 PM
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Then, just leave these women alone like I don't even get what the problem is dating is to exclude people.And if they don't really understand the tenets of feminism and equality, why are you messing with them?Or is it basically because you want to stuff a hole?
/r/seduction12/11/25 06:12 PM
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Oh my bad. You equate feminism to hating men. I typed all this and just saw that at the end. You speak like you know feminism, then just reduce it down to hating men. Lol 😫
/r/seduction12/11/25 03:48 PM
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45 year old feminist who has studied and read tons of feminist authors globally and thru the years. Just saying that as a foundation. If you don't believe that most women are impacted by a lack of equality, why is this even something you're concerned with? If you're just looking to stuff a hole and most of the women don't care, what is the issue. I would like to know which rights or tenets of feminism you take exception to. Now, I do know that ppl tend to attribute anything a woman does that the…
/r/seduction12/11/25 03:45 PM
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He could see women as equal humans and find a partner in his similar income bracket. Then if he gets to marriage and kids and both parties are both building marital assets, then be ok with splitting them. Asking for a paternity test is dumb. A woman will know you don't trust her. Just do the paternity test. Why y'all insist on asking the woman tells me you refuse to get smarter. There are some women ok with a coffee date, find one and stop badgering the women that don't. Some women prefer to go …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 08:33 PM
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I say go for it. Skip the pretense and find a person who's to make an exchange
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 08:17 PM
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Lolsob 😭😭😭 thanks. Let me read
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/25 12:28 AM
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These dudes are scrambling to get women back to accepting breadcrumbs who act like it's a whole feast. Lol like IMAGINE!! This comment section smells of desperate dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 11:31 PM
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No. I didn't see you have a full grasp on mine and his conversation enough to acknowledge more than that. That's all. You can call me whatever. I'll just say Ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 05:36 PM
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Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 05:31 PM
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Why are you telling me about women's motivations? Are you a woman? Y'all have issues listening to women. And you think you're experts on both the men's and women's side. I listen to women's voices daily and your butt gives me one example of a man you know. Lol ok. Regardless, I hear daily why women are walking away and opting out. And a lot of it is just exhaustion from men not doing their part. Believe or don't. I honestly don't care at this point. But the numbers will continue to drop
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 04:37 AM
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Women overwhelmingly take on the brunt of the physical, mental, and financial caretaking for kids. Dads can opt in or opt out. Men def aren't pulling their weight with chores either. Women are opting out and will continue to until men start doing their part. I talk to soooo many daily. The moms are tired and childfree women see it and want no parts of it. The birth rate will continue to plummet to hell until men listen to what women are asking for. Bc we work, so we can provide for ourselves. An…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 01:10 AM
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Yayyyy you're back to giving me the goodies
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/25 01:03 AM
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And my original comment....way way way up...was talking about how y'all tend to just attribute things you don't like about women to feminism. When most times it has nothing to do with anything about feminism. Everything involving women =/= feminism or feminists. We have gone completely off the rails of my main point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:42 PM
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That has nothing to do with femininity, toxic or otherwise. It certainly has nothing to do with feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 02:05 PM
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Sorry. No. I am sure you believe this. But this isn't a gender thing. This is certainly your opinion. It definitely speaks to how you see women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 12:57 PM
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I'm not shaming you for wanting sex. I'm wondering why you're on a DATING app when all you want is an orgasm and a warm hole. You're not trying to date.
/r/seduction16/09/25 01:16 AM
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Are you being up front and saying you need a cheap orgasm and warn hole or purposely lying by omission
/r/seduction16/09/25 01:02 AM
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I hope you get off of DATING apps and find a hook up app. Bc women on DATING apps are probably looking for DATING. This type of crap is why I keep telling women to get off the apps. Too many of y'all just want a cheap orgasm and a warm hole.
/r/seduction16/09/25 12:57 AM
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Why do y'all use the apps vs just paying a pro? Why do you even put on a pretense? If all you need is a body to cum, just pay for it.
/r/seduction16/09/25 12:46 AM
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Well, ok. Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:39 PM
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What areas have you, as a man, been discriminated in? What are these "various areas"? You're not speaking with any clarity. Toxic masculinity is not a tenet. Feminism had specific things they were wanting. If anyone is toxic, stay away from them. Toxic masculinity isn't a comparison that remotely makes sense. And this back and forth without you addressing something specific is a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:20 PM
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There is so much in between what I said and you reducing it to women want to be free of struggle. But this is honestly why I don't think most of y'all should have kids. If me saying men need to participate more in the home and with parenting and it gets interpreted as women don't want struggle, we're clearly not capable of communication. And this is a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:13 PM
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That doesn't answer my question at all
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 02:54 PM
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Look at how other men responded under my comment. Those types of comments from other men are why women will continue to just opt out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 02:47 PM
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Complaining? I mean, this is why things won't change. I'm a mom with a large social media presence. My network has moms and CF women. Women speak on things that are impacting them daily. It gets interpreted by y'all as complaining. There will not be a meeting of the minds between men and women. Bc y'all don't wanna listen. And that's fine
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 02:45 PM
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Honestly, I don't think things will change. Y'all very rarely listen to women anyway. It shows that most of y'all will never even attempt to hear us. So I'll continue to say LET THE BIRTH RATE PLUMMET TO HELL
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 02:42 PM
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What are the tenets of toxic femininity? I mean, if a woman is toxic, you stay away. But what are y'all attributing to feminism? Bc it seems that whatever you dislike in a woman gets labeled as feminism in some capacity. But everything you dislike about women isn't feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 02:40 PM
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Women are opting out and loudly speaking on why. I am a feminist content creator and one of the things I say multiple times a week is that the BIRTH RATE NEEDS TO PLUMMET TO HELL. Women say on a day to day basis that men need to participate in the home...do more chores and parenting. Childfree women see how beat down moms get. Women have to carry the majority of the financial burden, the majority of the hands on time like homework and extracurricular, and most appts. CF women are saying nope!! A…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 03:21 AM
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What specific tenets of feminism would you like to turn back? Bc having gossipy women or backstabbing women at your job doesn't mean anything. Are you implying that women have too many rights or that men are oppressed?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 02:56 AM
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If women just stopped spending, our homes wouldn't be functional. Like just yesterday i bought pillows, paper towels, and toilet paper. I buy all the body wash. Just imagine a home without us.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:55 PM
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I see so many ppl talking about spending in this thread, and I just wanted to add a link for consideration. So many women spend money for the home and caretaking. If women are unmarried and single, they get to keep that money for themselves. Women spend so much taking care of others, yet ppl spin it to women spending recklessly. I am a wife and mom. I know for myself and other wives and moms, most of us will buy for our kids and home before we spend for ourselves. That's just life. Single women …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 07:03 PM
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Thanks hun
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 06:51 PM
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When y'all ask these questions, are you ever really interested in what women say? Are women ever allowed to answer? I have 2 fairly decent sized networks of women. We talk amongst other women. Soooo many are opting out on purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 06:51 PM
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I don't need to speak in absolutes. What were you thinking the responses were gonna be when you posed this question
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 09:39 PM
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Ok. Thanks. Regardless, I'll just share what y'all are saying. Get them young and train them. Bc y'all need to train us like a dog. A young one. One that's 8-12 months. I got it. Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 07:34 PM
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I'm not complaining. And I honestly don't need to get on track. Women need to be trained. Women need to be molded within a certain age range. I get it. And then I take y'all's words and tell women, "don't give your 20s to these men. They just wanna suck your youth and use you." Trust me. I hear y'all. Y'all have like 5 main talking points. I've followed this stuff for a while. I got it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 07:32 PM
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I know what an analogy is. And women are always compared to some non human sh**. I get it. We've always been things to obtain, use, then discard. There are enough clichés available to recognize what we're compared to. And I listen to men and share y'all's words with other women. And yes, y'all do throw away women. On top of listening to men, I listen to and share women's stories. And to survive being discarded, it's important to desensitize other women to how y'all dehumanize us. One day y'all m…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 07:16 PM
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I'm not upset by anything y'all say. Lol 🤣 I already have my view on y'all. I was tagged. Anywho, I wasn't trying to go back and forth with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 03:21 PM
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Once I really started listening to these ppl, their view on women was simple to me. We're not human. We're disposable things that they can use and discard. Once you get to that point in understanding, it's a lot easier to clock them. I just tell as many women about these ppl as possible. That way if women want to be treated like a human, they may want to avoid these dudes like Covid
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 03:19 PM
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Yeah, you're using a pet to compare women. Y'all are talking about training women. Dude above you started with the dog analogy and you continued it. It's fine. I can read. And I'm glad that y'all speak this in public so women can know. Women can decide if they need to be trained like a dog, find one of your kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 03:13 PM
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This is why women would do best to disregard them. They don't see us as human. Once I figured out their opinions were worthless, my life changed. Thanks for tagging me in this ridiculousness though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 03:00 PM
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I say something that makes this quite easy. Pour into the ppl who pour into you. This takes gender out of it. And it works no matter the relationship. Stop giving giving giving to ppl or organizations when there's no reciprocity. BAM! Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 03:58 PM
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They stay admitting that dudes are animals, yet if we repeat this and remind women to protect ourselves, we're misandrists. They know women aren't safe. Yet they want us to act like we don't know they're a threat
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 03:39 PM
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This is good. Honestly, this comes down to reciprocity and having all adults participating in the home in a fairly equal way. Women have been opting out of relationships bc they're tired of being the whole brain center for the home or relationship. Dudes will either adapt or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/25 02:49 PM
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Marital assets get divided regardless of who makes what. Women do work and pay bills as well. Women pour into a home and family and deserve the split. If ppl don't want to split marital assets, don't get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 06:13 PM
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Y'all rewarding men with sex...nope. I tell women leave unworthy dudes alone and MAKE THEM LONELIER. OK, good chat. And once again, I found this comment right above. If you're calling men out, cool. This dude is an actual threat. Me sharing with women in women's spaces shouldn't bother a man that supposedly calls out men. You should have ZERO issues with me sharing what these threats are saying about women. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:29 PM
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I'm married still. Sorry, wrong assessment. But I share women's stories bc they share with me. You may not be impacted by the birth rate personally. That's fine. The powers that be know and understand what's happening and how it impacts the wider world. I do not have the time or energy to type to you more, as I have work to do. And men aren't my focus. Gotta go share more stuff with the ladies...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 06:26 PM
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And until ppl like YOU call out other men for being THREATS, y'all are threats too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:48 PM
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Lol I'm 44. So I have experience and listen to women. I share women's stories daily. I will tell you, we talk about manipulation tactics and red flags daily. We say all the time to MAKE THESE DUDES LONELIER. My automatic wording fills that in for me. I say LET THE BIRTH RATE PLUMMET TO HELL so much that my phone fills it in. Old heads like me know and understand the pitfalls men can create. So we highlight leaving them quicker. And yes, I share from men here. Y'all's conversation fits with every…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 05:46 PM
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We have been aware of men's POV forever. And honestly I share y'all's POVs with my networks. Usually I lurk and let y'all's words speak for themselves. You're clear. We do understand. And I don't need anything from y'all except for you to stay away.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 02:29 PM
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👍🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 03:12 PM
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Honestly, you don't seem like you care either way. Lol you got it, chief...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 03:12 PM
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Except from childhood girls are socialized to cater to men and boys. It's taken a while for us to get to the point of learning how to advocate for ourselves and have boundaries. And too many men don't understand boundaries or consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 02:56 PM
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The way you talk shows that you'll stay angry and keep repelling women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 02:54 PM
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They show how angry they are daily. What do we see in our spaces? Women asking men to participate in the home, have mutual respect and support, have some hygiene. Daily these men show that they will never hear us. It's wild. They'll stay on this cycle and continue to get angrier and angrier. Bc while they stew in the fact that women can opt in or out. Women are simply doing the work, surviving and thriving
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 02:53 PM
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This is precisely why I tell women to leave y'all to your devices. Women need to pull wayyyy back and keep our empathy, time, energy, and resources for ourselves and other women and girls. You men can handle men sh**
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 03:37 AM
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Yoooo
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 09:49 PM
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Girl, I NEVER run out of stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 10:48 PM
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Lol at a Stacy or Becky. Dang. Yeah. Y'all stay giving me things to talk about
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 10:48 PM
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Check your inbox
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:52 AM
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His first point is WOW
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 07:00 PM
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Hello. You know ima lurker 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 06:56 PM
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Lol 😆 I lovehate this. Wow
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 02:27 PM
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Whenever I'm tagged in this sub, it solidifies why these dudes need to be LONELIER
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:24 PM
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Girl!! These manosphere dudes are something. Whew!! I can't deal with them too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 04:39 AM
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Also you seem to not like my answers bc ultimately I don't see these redpillers to be very different than benevolent patriarchs. I sat in redpill spaces for a couple years listening to them and their talking points. I was born and raised in the church. Their vernacular may be slightly different, but they are not that different. All of them are antagonistic towards feminist women for a reason. Maybe understanding where you're coming from can help me understand why you can't accept this answer. Ar…
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 05:43 PM
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Lol at you giving the appropriate answers. Well, that's a good answer. I'll choose that one. I mean, as a feminist I believe all that. So thanks for typing it. You should add the appropriate answers in the body of your text. I know you may post it somewhere else, but give a few choices so folks don't go awry like me.
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 04:46 PM
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Yes. You said why have they shifted. I say it's all the same thing.They still want control. They're just using some slightly different talking points too garner that control. It's just modern messaging, same intent. CONTROL
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 03:38 PM
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That's not making a demand. I haven't demanded shift away from the church or their beliefs.
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 03:37 PM
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Well, I don't make demands of any women. And I do believe that programming from childhood is strong. Anyways. I'm sure there are a lot of other comments to contend with. I was tagged in this post bc my homie knows this would make great content. Not to go back and forth with you. I do push back on these systems hards. I do brand patriarchy, benevolent patriarchy, and toxic masculinity with the same brush. And I believe that men who want to oppress women will grab whichever one best suits his goal…
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 03:24 PM
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I don't know why you think that. The patriarchy is sexist. It upholds gender inequalities. A benevolent sexist is still a sexist. Racism is a system just like sexism, is. I don't think this is too big of a reach. But also, i'm a black woman, so maybe my view of sexism and racism is a little bit different. I see sexism and racism both as an affront to who I am equally. And i'm repelled by any of these systems or talking points that seek to uphold either of these ways of being.
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 03:18 PM
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I was born and raised in the church. The black baptist church in oklahoma. I did have the same type of programming and most of my family does too (still does). In order to break free of this programming, a person has to deprogram themselves and reprogram new thought processes. In doing so, when your whole family or community believes the same thing, a person may face pushback, loss of community and/or vitriol from that community or family. (I certainly did when I left the church.) To push back a…
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 03:15 PM
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But i'm having a discussion based on how I feel that you call me disingenuous. I'm typing my genuine comments, for you to tell me that i'm being disingenuous, takes away the fact that you really don't want good faith discussion. For me to say something, contrary to what you have already believe equates to me being disingenuous. Regardless I have stated my views on this. Patriarchy, benevolent patriarchy, toxic masculinity it all leads to the same and goal. And that is keeping women and girls bel…
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 03:08 PM
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To say i'm being disingenuous, is silly considering you don't know me. So I will just leave that where it stands.
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 03:04 PM
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Because messages consistently change. The messages meet people where they are and in a language that they can use. It's still the exact same. Like I said, in another comment, a covert racist is the same as an overt racist. A covert Racist just knows how to mask better, but their ideologies are the same.
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 02:50 PM
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They don't really choose to be in these types of power structures. They are socialized into them and trained from the time that they are children. They are literally programmed. That's not a free choice if you've been socialized and programmed since the time you were a child. And then have religion or the holy book reinforce that programming.
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 02:49 PM
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Because they want power it's quite simple. They just find the brand of power that suits them best. I really don't think that is hard to see. Religious leaders and the manosphere spout the same talking points. With just slightly different vernacular.
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 02:47 PM
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Even the last sentence is patronizing. It implies that she's like a toy to entertain you. Ewww
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 02:44 PM
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The phrase "benevolent patriarchy" is irritating bc it tries to frame a fundamentally unequal and oppressive system as beneficial. Trying to reframe oppression is like adding some potpourri to a jail cell. There is still inequality, male hierarchies, and systemic oppression rooted in patriarchy and often reinforced by religion. And that ain't wiped away with a gentle smile, despite having the same ideology. To me, this is also like the difference between a covert racist and an overt racist. I pr…
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 02:42 PM
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This is aggravating. And thanks for the tag. I gotta formulate why I'm so irritated. I don't get why they think we want any kind of patriarchy. Like it's a benevolent slaveholder better than a regular one? Probably. But they all still enslave ppl. Same with patriarchy.
/r/ExRedPill18/04/25 02:18 PM
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I'm not remotely ready 😭
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/02/25 12:51 AM
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It's wild that that's what you think. But got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 09:56 PM
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Oh ok. Lol, see this is why I usually don't talk to men like this. Yes water is wet. The birth rates are plummeting. And hopefully we'll continue to see the plunge. Toodles
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 08:35 PM
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I'm ok with men not getting married though. I honestly don't think most of y'all deserve a wife. So a win is a win.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 08:31 PM
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I didn't say that what has happened in NK was caused by SK. You are typing but didn't really read to comprehend.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 07:40 PM
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No. I don't. Bc you're talking marriage rates from ten years ago and the conversation is about dating trends. Now really thinking about how data is gathered, I'm not sure how we'd quantify this on a large scale. And yes, we'd have to talk about things right now, bc current politics has caused the hard shift in women. Now, I won't even act like I have done research outside of talking to women in my networks. I have a YT comment close to 70k subs, mostly women. I have a TT community that's fairly …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 07:38 PM
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Okay. I think that you could do better with your research. The same place that you asked about data, you can ask how long that is relevant. "The relevance of data depends heavily on the type of data and its purpose, but generally, research data should be kept for at least a few years after a project is completed, with a common timeframe being between 3 and 5 years; however, specific regulations, funding agencies, and the nature of the research may require longer retention periods, sometimes up t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:50 PM
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The birth rate for North Korea is quite low. (Around 1.7 births per woman, replacement is 2.1) It is higher than South Korea (0.7 births per woman )but is still low. It's lower than replacement rate. I think it was just last year that Kim Jong-Un was on national TV crying trying to ask women to have more babies. It's not working. Now there are various reasons why women globally are opting out of having babies. But the majority of countries worldwide have global birth rates that are below the rep…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:49 PM
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They won't admit it, but the women are having our own conversations. They choose to not listen and retool? Shrug. That's on them. I can't talk to them too much bc they know too much. They know the men's side of things and apparently the women's perspectives as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:39 PM
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You believe that data points that are more than 10 yrs old are relevant to today's dating scene?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 06:33 PM
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At some point you have to understand and reinforce that we all get older every single day. That programming that you are less than, simply bc you dared to live another day or another year has to change. You lived. Do you wanna stay alive? Part of the human experience is getting older. You have got to stop worrying about the opinions and validation of men. Have you seen how they are aging?? The normal ones, not the rich ones or celebrities?? Stop worrying about what they have to say.
/r/ExRedPill06/09/24 12:45 PM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 04:04 PM
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THANKS
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 12:56 PM
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Thanks
/r/ExRedPill23/02/24 03:43 PM
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