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| 1 | There is no easy option, it will be uncomfortableIf you have nervous energy while you're talking to a woman it can be good, if you're not ashamed or guilty of the fact you're nervous it would better be described as excitement. Women like it when they can tell you're excited to talk to them, so as long as you're a good person with honest intentions then they will often enjoy speaking to you. | /r/seduction | 26/04/21 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Don't be a peasant looking for a princess to be your wife, be a king looking for a lucky girl to be your queen.This is very true. I was always a little uncomfortable pretending I had my shit together when I knew I didn't. Once you've worked on yourself for a while and you know you're capable of improvement and you're confident, it's a lot easier to be relaxed and act naturally around women. | /r/seduction | 27/03/21 09:34 AM |
| 1 | How do you connect in conversation with someone who has a boring life?Sounds like you've got more life experience than most 18-20 year old and are more interesting. The older you get the more attractive this is so keep going. | /r/seduction | 23/03/21 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Most common mistakes men make on datesThey are more powerless in affecting their value. A man's sexual attraction to a woman is strongly dependent upon the woman's looks - hence why women use make up and are more bothered about their looks. If a man is ugly he can still improve his attractiveness in many other ways, Women don't have as much agency. | /r/seduction | 23/03/21 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Most common mistakes men make on datesThey want to bang an attractive man, men want to bang everything. | /r/seduction | 23/03/21 02:38 PM |
| 18 | Stop falling in love with people you're not datingIf you start working out why you're fucked then you can begin to fix it, therapy would help. | /r/seduction | 23/03/21 11:29 AM |
| 1 | Simple girl speaking from heart why how we suck at attraction (video)Yep I'm the same, hence why I know a lot about it. I had a system in my head to work out what to say when, which did work at times but its exhausting and doesn't work long term. I always avoided anything that would make me seem weak or vulnerable and I read things on forums like this that reinforced that tactic. It took me a long time to realise that is not a solution to life, playing a character in order to make friends and sleep with women isn't sustainable. Eventually I saw a Ted talk about v… | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Sometimes pain is nature's way of incentivizing you to develop and grow into a better person.Well you're lucky to be blessed with very high self esteem if you've never questioned if you're good enough - most people will at some point. It's not always as simple as just changing what you think about yourself, you might need to unpack why you feel that way. If you haven't struggled with this then you may not understand now, but at some point in the future you might. If you're at rock bottom, having little experience and little confidence then saying 'I'm great enough to develop relationshi… | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 12:46 PM |
| 1 | Simple girl speaking from heart why how we suck at attraction (video)Women want a man who is vulnerable at the right time. If you had a family member die in a tragic accident then it's normal to be fucked up emotionally from that, and women like to use their femininity to comfort men. The trick is to act confident most of the time AND vulnerable when it's reasonable. If you manage to act confident even when a tragic accident happens - then it's clear your playing a character, are manipulative and possibly a psychopath. Women who cheat are fucked up themselves emo… | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 11:24 AM |
| 1 | Sometimes pain is nature's way of incentivizing you to develop and grow into a better person.Yes but sometimes you have emotional suffering because it's your mind and body's way of telling you that all of your needs aren't getting met. This can be useful to pick apart so you fully understand what the need is, then you can use the rational side of your mind to create a plan to fulfill it. Not everyone innately knows what their emotional needs are, this is especially confusing in modern life when it's so easy to be distracted by external forces. If you just focus on the suffering being a … | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 10:14 AM |
| 3 | She mentions a strip clubShe sounds like trouble tbh, I'd find someone else | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 08:50 AM |
| 0 | Simple girl speaking from heart why how we suck at attraction (video)It’s sad that women can ask for validation but when a man does it, it’s a turn off to be used against us. This isn't true, it entirely depends on the situation. If a woman you found unattractive asked you for validation, it's not going to attract you more is it? Normal relationships should have a certain amount of validation for each other. For example if a man went through something extremely difficult and it was damaging his confidence, he asked his girlfriend for validation she should be more… | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 08:47 AM |
| 4 | Becoming more physically attractive has made me realize I’m def gonna be single foreverThis along with Feeling Good: A New Mood Therapy and How to be Yourself: Quiet your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety were the 3 books that most helped me improve my confidence, mentality and really understand myself on an emotional level. Your mentality is very important for living a happy life and will obviously help your game too. | /r/seduction | 21/03/21 08:36 AM |
| 24 | Sometimes pain is nature's way of incentivizing you to develop and grow into a better person.True but if you're really in mental anguish it is little comfort to say this is for your own good, often the suffering is pointless and lowering your self esteem - making your problems worse. I used CBT to analyse my thoughts and feelings and worked out which were rational and which were irrational. This takes time and sustained effort. | /r/seduction | 20/03/21 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Going to a party and have a teeny, tiny chance of getting laidPremeditating how to act doesn't work for me, it's better to try an act in the moment | /r/seduction | 14/03/21 03:01 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Imagine how you tease a younger sister or relative | /r/seduction | 14/03/21 07:33 AM |
| 3 | “Obsessed” by getting in a relationshipComparison is the thief of joy. Everyone is behind in some way, there is plenty of way older people who have never had a girlfriend at all. | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Fellas: how would you have taken this if you were me?No point thinking about it, you'll never know. It could be that they thought you were attractive, or it could be that they were laughing at you being self conscious. Women are naturally better at judging body language so they were probably teasing you as they saw you were reacting a little embarrassed. Chalk it up as a learning experience, try not to let other people's actions influence you, you'll never know what a stranger really thinks of you so it's pointless wondering. | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 06:06 PM |
| 1 | How to text girls during this pandemic?It's hard at the moment because there isn't much to talk about and chances to meet up are limited. Don't stress out if a conversation dies out, start it again later when something interesting happens. | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Fellas: how would you have taken this if you were me?You can't control other people's thoughts or actions, don't let it bother you. If I sit here shaking my head calling you an idiot you wouldn't let that bother you would you? You need to try and do the same, even if it is an attractive girl. | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 04:57 PM |
| 3 | Is seducing women for sex morally wrong?Why is that wrong? | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 04:55 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Learn to love just talking to women. I used to approach interactions with women like a scientist, trying to work out the exact correct thing to say. As many people have said, it's more about how you say things - less of a science and more an art. Women want you to see how they affect you, and they want you to be intrigued by them. They want to feel desired, nervously excited, comfortable and supported. They want to be in the moment when they're around you, they have their own worries and insecur… | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 12:24 PM |
| 1 | Warning For Guys Approaching In The UKI personally wouldn't approach a women on the street in the UK, the culture is different to the US. When I was in the US it's much more normal to talk to strangers on the street, in the UK it often makes people uncomfortable. If I think of how my female friends, colleagues or acquaintances would react/think to someone approaching them in the street and trying to chat them up - I doubt they'd be attracted, they'd be creeped out. If you do it when you're on a night out, in the pub or a bar it can … | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 12:04 PM |
| 2 | “Obsessed” by getting in a relationshipYou're very young and still have a lot of life to learn about, just focus on learning and having fun! You only want a girlfriend because it gives you validation that you're attractive/fun/good, if you want true confidence you need to believe that you are this without having a girl confirm it for you. | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 11:51 AM |
| 2 | NOT ALL DATING ADVICE FROM ONLINE IS HELPFUL (including from me)For me it helped to spend time away from my family and even friends to some extent. I used to see what everyone else was doing and then copy them, I wasn't following what I actually wanted to do. My family have good intentions but they used to fill my head with useless advice that just put doubt in my mind because on some level I knew it wasn't what I wanted, but I didn't want to let them down. By spending time away from them it forced me to analyse what I was doing and what I actually wanted fo… | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 11:46 AM |
| 1 | How to get do you get good banter with anybody?Develop your emotional intelligence and empathy - so you're better at judging the mood of people and what sort of jokes will work at what times. It also means you can notice when someone is a little uncomfortable with something and tease them about it if appropriate. This releases the tension is the situation and makes people comfortable around you as they know you're switched on and are less likely to say something dumb. It will also help to read a lot, develop your vocabulary and hang around f… | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 11:33 AM |
| 6 | Why are so many guys in denial or don’t want to learn these skills?If you don't know how to be 'normal' then you do have to learn it. Some people's 'normal' is not attractive to women. If that's the case you have to slowly change your habits, life style, mindset to be become more conventionally attractive - 'normal'. | /r/seduction | 13/03/21 11:30 AM |
| 2 | Anyone from the UK? What's your success rate now during lockdown?Slim pickings on tinder etc but there is girls who will meet you - they're as desperate for social contact and intimacy as men are I've managed a couple of meet ups though - go for a walk is the best you can manage at the moment. After that initial date you can go for another one or try to get them round yours but it's not easy | /r/seduction | 22/02/21 07:07 PM |
| 21 | Stop overthinking and start actingOverthinking definitely fucks you up. If you think about a relationship too much it will mean the relationship has more significance in your mind than it does in reality, meaning you're likely to act weird or needy instead of normal. Sometimes the reason you're overthinking is because you have an emotional need that is not getting fulfilled. If you're consistently overthinking things then you need to start soul searching, therapy, improving your mental health. | /r/seduction | 20/02/21 08:07 PM |
| 2 | Getting Over Approach Anxiety: Part 1Your thoughts shape your feelings so if you're feeling anxious consistently it might be worth doing some soul searching. | /r/seduction | 17/02/21 08:03 PM |
| 5 | What do you say if you get a text from a girl & you already deleted her number?Just say you smashed it and got a new one the exact same model. Then tease her for being a creep and ask her what else she's written in her file about you | /r/seduction | 15/02/21 07:24 PM |
| 5 | What do you say if you get a text from a girl & you already deleted her number?Why not new phone who dis | /r/seduction | 15/02/21 07:04 PM |
| 1 | 30/m - 1st world problems. Seduction, sex addiction, and fragile egos.Should you really be doing this with your own employees? Bit creepy | /r/seduction | 15/02/21 06:57 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Women like to feel comfortable, safe. Buying flowers for a girl can definitely be needy but if it's in the right context and the right moment then it might make her feel desired, which women find sexy | /r/seduction | 14/02/21 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Dating when you can’t seem to connect with people?I've got this problem too, literally everyone likes me cos I'm just a nice person but that can make you a doormat, unassertive and unattractive. The way out for me so far has been to start challenging the thoughts in my head that got me to act like this. For example if I doubt myself and have an internal thought like 'I'm useless and I will never find a relationship' I give it a bit of backchat thinking things like 'no that's not right, I'm a valuable person who is trying his best to improve, I … | /r/seduction | 09/02/21 05:10 PM |
| 1 | The insecurity shown when trying to hide a fault often comes off as being way less attractive than the actual fault itself.I'd disagree about being depressed, you can own it well. One of my friends arrived at a party once and while everyone was asking how he was as you do, he said he'd been off work through stress/depression lately, this was almost as soon as he'd arrived at the party. We all knew him very well, there was no strangers there so he actually confidently told everyone this was the case. He was being vulnerable to the 10+ people at the party and letting them make their own minds up about how to react. I … | /r/seduction | 26/12/20 10:08 AM |
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