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Spousal Support / AlimonyBusiness-Hope-5414/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 05:06 PM
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CustodyBusiness-Hope-5414/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 06:48 PM
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Just be glad you don’t have children… other than that… yeah… you shouldn’t give a shit what she tells people or what others think about you. Get over that and you will be living a better life
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 02:26 AM
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What ever you do… don’t resort to alcohol. You will get lots of anxiety so find things to do to focus on yourself.. try mindfulness meditation, yoga etc… I could give a rats ass if I never see my ex wife… the only problem is sharing our child.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/24 07:30 AM
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Do not mention divorce… get a lawyer FIRST
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 05:37 AM
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Sounds like you are trying to get your wife to believe in “god” when she doesn’t want to…
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/24 05:25 AM
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Yes
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 06:55 PM
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Your STBX has one fucked up moral compass…. She is not a good mother and is selfish of her own sexual passion to be a whore…. Don’t expose your children to that…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 04:53 AM
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You file for the divorce… ASAP… because it will be to your advantage to present your case and it scheduling.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 04:49 AM
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Bro… you have all the evidence you need … marital infidelity, lack of trust etc… get proof of those texts and Reddit post…. Screenshot it… This is not setting a good example of family structure for your children’s wellbeing. Get a lawyer, get full custody of your children… they don’t need to be around her if she is looking to fuck around… this will only confuse them. You gave her one too many chances… the marriage is done. Focus on your kids. If you find love down the road with someone who appre…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 04:47 AM
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Depending on what state you live in, you should get 50/50 custody. Did she have a previous job? Have her income imputed. Alimony is typically the amount of years you were married.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 12:29 AM
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An 18 month old and you want to divorce? You should have just stayed a bachelor. Learn how to communicate with your wife and try to compromise your time.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/24 11:14 AM
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To be honest…. I haven’t got a clue… she has lied many times and as soon as I said divorce, she took our son out of school and went to a battered women shelter… the burden of proof she showed was a cut on her finger that she did to herself. I can’t even remember the last time we held hands together.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/24 02:31 AM
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Already did file for divorce
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 09:56 PM
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You do not realize the freedom you have just acquired… but at least you recognized your own faults. Work on yourself. Be confident and take some anger management courses. Try doing the things on your bucket list… one of mine is to see the Aurora Borealis (Northern Lights). We only have just this one life. Most people pray and suffer and wait for an afterlife… but ask yourself this…. Do you remember anything before you were born? If not, how will you remember anything after death? This is coming …
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 06:50 PM
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NJ … typically the alimony is the amount of years you were married
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 06:41 PM
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I get told this all the time… you aren’t ready… just focus on being a better you.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 04:57 PM
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Let me add on here…. It is ok to be single for the rest of your life…. You made a commitment to your children. Focus on your on wellbeing as it will only help you put your mind in a good place. Confidence is a thing that women can smell. Love comes when you least expect it or when you aren’t even looking for it. Focus on being the good father and take them to places that their mother can’t afford to take them to. When they get older, they will know who the responsible parent is. I’m going throug…
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/24 04:51 PM
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You need to immediately file an emergent hearing at the family court division for child custody due to child abuse.. also call chile protective services… I value children over marriage… my wife puts our autistic child in the bathroom with the lights off and sets a timer through Alexa for 5 minutes… my kid is afraid of the dark.. I’m fighting for custody and it’s been two months since I haven’t seen him… they always believe the women
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/24 05:12 AM
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She is hiding something… a weapon to use against you in the court of law. For example… I am a NJ resident where we have 50/50 custody…. The court is biased against combat veterans… especially the marines… there is a double standard in the legal system. I have not seen my son because she filed a TRO against me for false allegations of assault…. It is very easy to do… just make yourself bleed and that is all the burden of proof they need. The court doesn’t know she has 92k in her personal bank acc…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 04:28 AM
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My wife is very manipulative.. and the counselor we had was young and unprofessional… while she agreed that I told my wife that the GI bill I’m giving her is 36 months… my wife wanted to fulfill her dream as an art teacher for elementary students… she wanted to do college part time to get a 4 year degree that would take about 10 years… I told her how are you going to not use the full potential of the benefit for 36 months? Why part time for 10 years because they won’t cover tuition after 4 years…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 03:37 PM
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I agree… the marriage counselor is a female… she had bias against be having stereotypical combat PTSD… so she assumed I was a controlling and would disagree to everything my STBX would say… all I can say to her is… well played
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 02:23 PM
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I’ve been married for 7 years and we share a 6 year old autistic child. After being so jaded and having enough of my failing marriage… I told my STBX that I would like to have a divorce with shared custody due to coparenting disagreements over coparenting. My wife threatened me with using my PTSD issues and “other mental health issues”… I am a combat vet and served 8 years in the marine corps. I have one of those jobs that requires a clean record, otherwise I get fired …13 years of building a ca…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 12:11 PM
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I feel your frustration… I am in the same situation.. I asked my STBX to be more financially independent and her excuse is that her friends don’t work because their husbands provide… that is not my ideal in the current situation we live in… nowadays, both parents need to work to make ends meet…. Also… while I’m in debt for $30 in credit card bills… I found her recent bank statement that was mailed to my address … she has $100k in her checking account and I’ve paid for EVERYTHING
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 04:05 AM
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My STBX is like that… telling everyone she is the victim of domestic violence when she was the one that would provoke me into arguments about our disagreements in coparenting. She still sleeps with our son since infancy to which where I was concerned about the dangers of rolling over. I got kicked out of sharing a bed with my wife to living and sleeping in the basement. I’m nonconfrontational and do not like to argue in front of our child. He is 6 and still cosleeps with his mother. Not good for…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 04:01 AM
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I haven’t seen my son in almost two months now due to my STBX putting a restraining order on me over completely false allegations of assault. I never laid a hand on her and have never done so with any woman I’ve been with. My mother taught me better…she did it to use as leverage over sole custody when I said I want a divorce with shared custody… she threatened me with using my ptsd issues against me which has nothing to do with me being a good father and husband…. I wanted a divorce because she …
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 03:40 AM
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Big girls need lovin too… don’t try and look… the right person will come when you least expect it. Try going grocery shopping at 9 pm-10 pm at night…. Lonely women tend to do that.z so I’ve noticed…. I’m going through a tough divorce right now but all I care about is getting shared custody of my son. I will be contempt with being single for the rest of my life. Be confident in yourself…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 03:33 AM
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That was the first time we had an argument… which wasn’t secretly recorded… I’ve expressed to her about breaking and disrespecting marital boundaries… I’ve wanted a divorce for years… was saving up money for a divorce lawyer and ended up paying for a criminal defense lawyer because she claimed false allegations of assault and harassment which never even happened… I work one of those jobs that requires a clearance… now my job is in jeopardy and I have so far paid $12k in lawyers… I haven’t even s…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 02:23 PM
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Semper fi
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 02:12 PM
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Be grateful you don’t have kids…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 05:18 AM
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Fuck no… fuck legal separation.. all that means is she is benefiting off of your benefits…. Like Health insurance, car insurance, cell phone etc… while she can sit there and fuck other guys on your dime… get the full divorce and suck it up on alimony but make sure you fight to minimize that because she needs to eventually be gainfully employed… my STBX is a fucking bum and refuses to work…. In the end… she will eventually have to find some sort of job as alimony doesn’t last forever… typically i…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 05:15 AM
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You need to just accept it and take the step to make YOURSELF happy… be selfish… your own selfishness is the key to your own happiness… we as men have always tried to make other people happy… but never make ourselves happy… I am guilty of it as well… and I’m just starting to realize that
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 05:09 AM
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This is honestly an insecurity issue… don’t take offense to it… I know how you feel… however… be confident and love yourself… sounds selfish but to be honest… your wife is probably checking out jacked dudes at the gym and sees you as a beta…. Fuck them… be comfortable with how you are… and be grateful that you didn’t have children… I’m battling custody… I wanted to be fair and get shared custody but my STBX is doing everything to get sole custody… haven’t seen my boy in almost two months and it …
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 05:04 AM
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Vindictiveness is a natural characteristic of all women…. In my opinion and experience… they don’t give a flying fuck what happens… as long as they win
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 04:55 AM
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You can’t drive a car without gas… get yourself protein shakes and force it down… it’s easier to do than trying to cook for yourself
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 04:53 AM
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Stay focused on your responsibilities of your children. That is what keeps us going…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 04:52 AM
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I’ve been through the same.. save yourself the headache and serve her the divorce papers without her knowing…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 04:49 AM
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My STBX talks to her ex husband on a daily basis. I’m a combat vet with PTSD and she uses it against me to play as a victim to make her ex feel sorry for her. When I mentioned divorce… she threatened me with using the PTSD issues against me which has nothing to do with the last of our communication and trust. I transferred my GI bill to her to encourage her to be financially independent and she gets tutored by her ex every week for English…. I told her why didn’t you ask me? I’m a god damn tech …
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 04:47 AM
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Women will never be satisfied. It’s in their nature… they seek comfort through religion and try to justify their wrong doings… all I ever did was support our family and have been the only one to contribute financially to the family… she wants no job and just to be lazy.. no cleaning , no house chores… I’ve been doing it all…. She even invited her ex husband over my god damn house… MY HOUSE… while I was working…. Women are vicious creatures… I will never ever get fucking married again
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 04:41 AM
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You are jaded. Only time can solve that. If you feel the way you feel now… stick with the plan… I stopped loving my wife 3 years ago and we’ve been married for 7. She wouldn’t get a job… she is lazy and all she wants is sole custody of our son. She has not let me get my fair share of coparenting and disagrees with me trying to teach our son age appropriate manners as he is autistic. 6 years old and he still drinks out of a baby milk bottle is just one example. I feel less anxiety not being aroun…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 04:36 AM
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I have a child with my STBX … when I told her I wanted a divorce with joint custody… she said no and that she would get full custody using my ptsd issues against me as I was a combat vet… she also used to invite her ex husband and over my own Fucking house while I was at work… you aren’t alone.. don’t be scared and just count this as a blessing… I have to pay alimony for this ho… I don’t mind the child support but the bitch has $100k in her bank account and I’m the one in debt… she has no job so…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 02:43 AM
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Nope. She would sit there and spend all the time with our son and not let be coparent. While he goes to school she would be talking to her mom or ex husband all day. Hence one of many reasons I wanted to divorce
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 08:20 PM
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My STBX does not work.. which is part of the reason I wanted divorce… I have to bend the knee for now… but she doesn’t understand… if I lose my job, no alimony and no child support
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 03:02 PM
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I’m broke… going through right now and haven’t seen my son in over a month because STBX put a restraining order on me over false allegations… who knew it could be that easy to do
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 03:00 PM
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I’m 42 once married. DO NOT GET MARRIED EVER… and don’t live in a state where there is common law. You WILL get screwed. I’m being forced to pay her lawyer fees too
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 03:08 PM
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Don’t ever get remarried … my money is sucked dry from lawyers criminal defense and divorce and I’m about to lose by job because due to a restraining order for harassment… apparently there are many forms of harassment.. like cursing at her more than once… for inviting her ex husband over my house hanging out with our son while I was at work. Women are vicious… the legal system is flawed.. I never want to see her again
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/24 03:52 AM
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YouTube Mindfulness Meditation. It has helped me a lot. Don’t resort to alcohol as many men do in these situations. I am just starting a divorce process and I don’t love my wife as she has been manipulative and over controlling and over bearing with our 6 year old son. All I want is joint custody and she makes it difficult by filing a restraining order against me to gain leverage.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 05:35 AM
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It certainly is… she just made an amendment to the restraining order and now is accusing me of assault due to an incident we had where i accidentally hurt her finger. I had opened a baby gate to the upstairs to get some clothes to bring downstairs to the basement where I have been sleeping separately from my wife. She closed the gate as I came back up to get more clothing and I said to leave it open because I’m doing stuff. She kept closing it as I tried to open it. It was dark because she turne…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 12:39 AM
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Life will get better when you do you… you need to re-wire your brain to focus on you… Try mindfulness meditation. It will help with your anxiety. Find some spirituality to put you at peace… look up Sadhguru on YouTube…. His words are wise
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 04:01 AM
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Just know that you aren’t the only one… I asked to divorce my wife.. she turns it around on me, puts a restraining order to gain leverage for child custody… put my job in risk… and I haven’t seen my son in a month…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 03:54 AM
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You can’t change the things you can’t control. I’m going through a bad divorce right now. The only thing you can do is give her the space. Focus on you. Try doing some mindfulness meditation. The failures in our lives is the success to our future. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/24 03:50 AM
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She filed before I could. So my lawyer is filing for a counter petition because the first lawyer was just a criminal defense attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 08:49 PM
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Ty!
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 08:39 PM
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Whatever you… don’t use alcohol as a means of self medicating… speak to friends.. family… most importantly… see a therapist… it’s all about requiring your brain. What I have been finding helpful is “mindfulness meditation”. You tube it…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 06:56 PM
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Money talks… get a good lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 06:54 PM
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I’m in a similar situation you’re in. The system is not fair for us. Double standards will not go away
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 06:52 PM
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Stay single…. Your child is your purpose…That is all I can say…
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/24 06:23 PM
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