| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 40 | Stbxw found out I was out this weekend with another woman. She was mad and I asked why, and she said I was hers... | Business_Owl_69 | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 04:47 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 5 | Do most women not love like men or just not capable of loving anyone but themselves?Modern law is fucked | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/24 04:28 PM |
| 9 | Need advice - Wife wants a divorceOmg. Get 50% of everything. The only shit show is alimony. Cunts want your money forever. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/09/24 03:36 PM |
| 5 | Ex-wife wants me to not dateJust check state laws. Most are no fault now. Which is actually complete bullshit. Some bitch can violate the basic tenet of marriage and then still expect financial support. Alimony is indentured servitude. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/09/24 03:53 AM |
| 2 | Dating is a nightmareDoesn't help to chat somewhere else. Gotta move to in person or move on. Make sure you have good pics on your profile. Natural environments, good smile, good clothes, clear focus, etc. If you don't have many good single pics, go take some! I was on vacation at a national park this summer and had my daughter take a few good different shots to add to the slim pickings I had before. Then you have to actively send lot of likes to get a reasonable number back. Best of luck to you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/24 06:38 PM |
| 3 | Dating is a nightmareExactly. Just text enough to build a little anticipation, and then figure out the rest in person. Even if you crash and burn in person you're actually learning and hopefully building skills for the next one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/24 03:42 PM |
| 6 | Dating is a nightmareTalking for two weeks on an app is a waste of time. By day 2 you should ask if they want to meet for coffee or a drink. If you can't get that set up, then move on. I've had several dates tell me they get tired of talking on the stupid apps too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/24 03:03 PM |
| 2 | Lease vs Finance car while divorcingThose formulas are based on your gross income. Your expenses generally don't matter. They tell you to pay up and figure out your costs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/24 05:42 AM |
| 3 | Arbitrary custody decisions by stbxw - how to respond?You have no temporary parenting plan? Follow whatever that says or get your lawyer to work and fight for 50/50. That's all you can reasonably do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/08/24 11:34 PM |
| 4 | Have you considered celibacy?I'm not planning to marry anyone anytime soon. Or even commit to a long-term relationship. If I ever do marry again (unlikely) it would only be with a strong prenup and clear separation of assets and liabilities. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 11:05 PM |
| 4 | Have you considered celibacy?Exactly. I've been up front and no issues so far. I've talked to women on dating apps that disappear when I'm up front, which is fine. If they don't, then we can go from there. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 11:04 PM |
| 5 | Have you considered celibacy?Who's down voting this? What's wrong with some semi casual sex? As long as everyone is getting something from the arrangement. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 10:32 PM |
| 3 | Have you considered celibacy?Why not try for something? You can do more than a hookup and less than full blown commitment. Just be up front. Plenty of single women want regular action but are also not looking to get married. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 10:31 PM |
| 4 | All a woman has to do is marry an engineer in college, wait 10 years and she’s retiredWhat world is that? The whole setup these days is fucking stupid. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/07/24 09:19 PM |
| 4 | What red flags did you see at the very beginning?Parlay that into a threesome at least? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 07:24 PM |
| 2 | In your experiences - Is an inheritance usually divided? Does it matter whether it’s straight money or assets?Ouch | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/24 02:12 AM |
| 6 | In your experiences - Is an inheritance usually divided? Does it matter whether it’s straight money or assets?Generally, inheritances are separate property, as long as the assets are never commingled. Check your state laws though, should be pretty easy to Google. Could ask your dad to create a trust specific for you... | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/24 06:28 PM |
| 1 | How much did it really cost you?That's still a crazy law, but understand the perspective if you're stuck. I'm pissed that I'm likely paying a lot for up to 10 years, but if she moves in with someone or remarries I'll likely be able to cut it to zero. No reason I should have to fund some other douchbags lifestyle. Bad enough I have to fund hers for so long just due to a shitty contract I entered into when I was early 20s. Alimony laws are fucked up and from a bygone era. 1-2 years should be the max for transition if the other s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 09:20 PM |
| 1 | How much did it really cost you?That's messed up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 06:13 PM |
| 4 | What Net Present Value to use for lump sum payment of alimony?Those are basically risk free rates. Try to argue for a higher discount rate! | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/24 12:37 AM |
| 5 | I want to be a dad. I can see my dream crashing.Go shit on yourself, asshat | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/24 04:38 AM |
| 9 | I want to be a dad. I can see my dream crashing.Then get off this site and stop crying for attention yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/24 04:37 AM |
| 3 | Struggling with the adjustmentFind someone else. Many woman out there that want a good man. Don't fall quickly, but have fun. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 10:53 PM |
| 9 | Stbxw found out I was out this weekend with another woman. She was mad and I asked why, and she said I was hers...Mostly up for me and down for you on this thread. Sounds about right. Piss off dude | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 06:30 AM |
| 9 | Stbxw found out I was out this weekend with another woman. She was mad and I asked why, and she said I was hers...If you enjoy shitting on people you're probably feeling ok. Enjoy that, ha. I'll enjoy new pussy and fun. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 06:20 AM |
| 12 | Stbxw found out I was out this weekend with another woman. She was mad and I asked why, and she said I was hers...Because you're pissing on other people. Telltale sign. I'm out here living life and you hate it. Classic little bitch energy | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 06:07 AM |
| 14 | Stbxw found out I was out this weekend with another woman. She was mad and I asked why, and she said I was hers...Ok dude! Sorry your life sucks! I'm happy and moving on. Some people do that, but you do you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 06:01 AM |
| 15 | Stbxw found out I was out this weekend with another woman. She was mad and I asked why, and she said I was hers...Stay bitter my man. I'm an optimist, I'll be happy with my life no matter what. If you have good things going on, a single set back doesn't matter. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 05:53 AM |
| 21 | Stbxw found out I was out this weekend with another woman. She was mad and I asked why, and she said I was hers...Didn't tell her, bumped into someone we both know at a hotel. Hard to hide that, so she was told. Stuff happens. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 05:51 AM |
| 19 | Stbxw found out I was out this weekend with another woman. She was mad and I asked why, and she said I was hers...Thanks! Didn't know there were so many anti-men dudes on this page. Gees.Post a good thing and get shitty comments. Sorry I'm not wallowing in sorrow for months or years. Yes, I made mistakes in my marriage, but so did she and we've been in a slow burn breakup for a long time since her affair. I was emotionally done a long time ago but trying for my kids. When it became clear that this was the end point I started focusing on myself and here we are. Everyone takes a slightly different path. If mi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 05:49 AM |
| 21 | Stbxw found out I was out this weekend with another woman. She was mad and I asked why, and she said I was hers...I'm not marrying this chick. I'm in shape and make damn good money. So does my stbxw, I mean, I'll be paying her, but whatever. She makes $175k and I'm still paying her. I'll be fine. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 05:39 AM |
| 20 | Stbxw found out I was out this weekend with another woman. She was mad and I asked why, and she said I was hers...We've been separated for months and I know she's been on dates. I have a killer lawyer. It is what it is. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/24 05:37 AM |
| 2 | Precidence for non court order monetary assistance.You could make it a loan where she must refinance in a couple years to pay you back or something like that. Or she has to sell at that point if she can't refinance to pay you back. Just get a lawyer to draft the agreement so you can enforce it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/24 05:27 PM |
| 2 | Tax implications between paying alimony or using QDRO to split pension.If you keep it invested in retirement accounts you should each pay taxes on what you receive during retirement. Nothing now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/24 03:31 AM |
| 3 | Tax implications between paying alimony or using QDRO to split pension.No tax deduction for alimony anymore, so you pay with after tax cash flow. So if cash flow is a concern, splitting the pension can be better. If you can afford the alimony now though, keeping your pension benefits can be better long term. Or you can split the pension now and save more for retirement with your increased cash flow, and those savings are tax deductible. It really depends on your circumstances. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/24 11:00 PM |
| 5 | Alimony & Tax ImplicationsIt used to be tax deductible to the payor and taxable to the recipient. This benefited the divorced couples as the recipient was almost always in a lower tax bracket, so there was more money to split overall. The 2019 change means more money is taxed in a higher bracket since the payor pays it, instead of the recipient. So it's a net loss for divorced couples and a net gain for the government. This partially offset some other tax breaks in the TCJA. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/24 08:52 PM |
| 4 | Trouble in the bedroom with other womenYou mention rubber, are you wearing one? If you didn't with your ex, the different (slightly dulled) sensation might be the issue? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/24 05:39 PM |
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