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Ask her again after finals. She might not have understood you said “after” and not “during”. She sounds like she’s interested, her schedule might be complicated though. If you really like her, you’ll find a way to work around her schedule.
/r/seduction04/06/22 09:04 PM
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I can see why she thought you were looking for a hookup. In the future, you should ask a girl before you kiss her. And make it clear you’re looking for a relationship, not a hookup. Going out somewhere other than a bar would help for that :)
/r/seduction05/02/22 06:46 AM
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Something where you can talk and get to know each other, but where there isn’t the expectation of physical intimacy.
/r/seduction05/02/22 05:32 AM
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She could have just mentioned the clothes for reasons other than she was wanting to stay the night. Her lukewarm response to your kiss implies she wasn’t interested in continuing things at that moment. She is interested in seeing you again though, so when you have your next date, ask her straight up if she’s interested in intimacy with you. Cause you can wonder and second guess and ask random strangers all you want, but the only person who can answer that for you is her.
/r/seduction04/02/22 06:21 AM
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Yes!! That’s exactly what you should say :)
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:53 PM
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Give her a few hours to respond. If she hasn’t after 4-6hrs, then send her a text apologizing for not asking for her consent first.
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:50 PM
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It wouldn’t make you look insecure at all. It would make you look like you’re attuned enough to see her energy change and sensitive enough to know you messed up, while being grown up enough to admit you made a mistake and invested enough to want to fix it. If you’re really into this girl, then show her you’re bf material by owning up to it.
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:49 PM
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Address it, tell her you feel like you should have asked her if she wanted you to kiss her before actually kissing her. Apologize for not asking for consent first and tell her you’d love to see her again if she’s open to it. Then leave the ball in her court and see how she responds. Always ask for consent first, her agreeing to go on dates isn’t the same as her consenting to intimate physical touch.
/r/seduction03/02/22 03:41 PM
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Nononononononononooooo!!! Those are terrible questions. You ask those, she’ll get an “emergency call” and have to leave a few mins later. You’ll never hear from her again. Ask these questions instead.
/r/seduction03/12/21 11:00 PM
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*lose
/r/seduction04/11/21 09:59 AM
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Depends on how it’s served
/r/seduction12/09/21 05:16 PM
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If you don’t want to put in the investment, then hire a sex worker. Stop lovebombing girls just to fuck them and walk away. All you’re doing is making them feel bitter and unlovable.
/r/seduction26/08/21 11:24 PM
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Listen to the vibes!! Pull back, don’t get impatient, let her come to you. Imagine she’s some tiny woodland creature and you’re convincing her she can eat off your hand. Takes hours/days/weeks of building trust, showing patience, and reliability. Eventually you can convince them it’s safe and they won’t regret it, but not if you push too much too fast.
/r/seduction28/07/21 03:21 AM
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I guess if your home or their home isn’t available. Fucking someone you barely know in a hotel feels a lot like being a prostitute to a girl though. Not surprised they didn’t take you up on that.
/r/seduction28/07/21 02:52 AM
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Ohhhhh yeah so those are all “public” places. I’d try holding off on the hot and heavy until you’re in a private space with a bed lol. Make the girls work for it, don’t build it up that fast unless you’re in a place where you can reasonably seal the deal.
/r/seduction28/07/21 02:48 AM
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Yeah I meant your sexual technique. Almost never have I been to the point of pants off with a dude and then suddenly backed away unless he did something that I wasn’t comfortable with or found repulsive. If this is happening repeatedly, that’s a red flag.
/r/seduction28/07/21 02:42 AM
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If four girls in the last month have backed off rather than go further, then it might be something about your technique throwing them off.
/r/seduction28/07/21 02:30 AM
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Someone who can hold a conversation about a wide variety of subjects, who is genuinely curious about the world around them, enjoys trying new things and experiences, likes to “tinker” with stuff, and who is genuinely kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 12:26 PM
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I did choose those men to go on terrible dates with and I did it because I gave nearly everyone who showed interest in me a chance. Even if I wasn’t super attracted to them from their pics, I thought if they liked me then it was worth giving it a chance. What I discovered is that guys swipe right on literally anything that breathes and if there isn’t physical attraction when you meet, then it won’t magically appear later on. I’m sorry your experiences were so painful. You deserved better than ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 02:07 AM
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Finding someone compatible has more to do with location and luck than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 02:14 PM
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Yes, we’re all young once and sooner or later we all die. Doesn’t mean that women don’t struggle to find suitable partners, regardless of what age they are. I’m 42yo and I’ve been trying for decades to find a partner I’m compatible with who is as into me as I’m into them. While I definitely got more attention online dating 10-15yrs ago, that attention didn’t lead to anything meaningful, just a string of disappointing relationships and downright terrible first dates. Dating is hard for everyone, …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 02:13 PM
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I really wish dating for women was as easy as y’all seem to think it is. The kind of experience you’re describing really only happens to young, pretty girls. The rest of us struggle as much—if not more—than you do. Finding someone you’re compatible with who is as attracted to you as you are to them is hard. Online dating makes it nearly impossible. Everyone struggles with it. It’s not magically easier for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 02:02 PM
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About half that, I quit counting after 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 09:39 PM
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Yes, those figures are accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 09:38 PM
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Maybe 6-8% They got off getting me off, they were creative and willing to try new positions, they listened to what I wanted, and they were willing—if not eager—to do things like eat me after sex. There wasn’t any consistent quality in terms of personalities. Only thing they had in common was they didn’t want a relationship (at least not with me), but we did see each other for at least a few months and all of them have tried to hook up after things ended. I have to say that at one point with each…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 06:26 PM
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My guess is the women you’re approaching either genuinely are already coupled or they don’t feel safe giving their number to a stranger. I won’t give my number out unless I’ve been chatting with a guy online for several days. The few times I’ve given my number out earlier than that, the guy always pressures me to send pics and let him come over right then and there. I do think location is crucial in dating. For example, I’m 42yo living in a town of just under 100k people where the average median…
/r/seduction14/06/21 05:40 PM
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Have you tried asking your female friends their opinion? Maybe one of them would be willing to go out and about with you to watch your technique in person and offer advice.
/r/seduction14/06/21 05:19 PM
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I think it’s clear that most people spend as little time as possible thinking. Most girls who say they want “deep conversations” really just want to feel connected to someone and to hear someone agree with them about the things they care about. I absolutely love conversations and debates about all sorts of things. I rarely have them though because either most people don’t know as much about something as they think they do, they’re not interested in really diving into it, or they get upset when y…
/r/seduction09/06/21 02:26 AM
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She’s not playing hard to get, she was into you until some red flag made her feel like she needed to get out of there. I’d expect to get ghosted at some point in the near future after that. Personally, I hate it when a guy asks for a hug and/or kiss on a date. Makes me feel obligated. If I wanted to hug and/or kiss you, then you wouldn’t have to ask.
/r/seduction24/03/21 07:09 AM
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Don’t be a creepy weirdo. Don’t expect a girl to sleep with you just cause you make her “feel safe.”
/r/seduction26/02/21 01:05 PM
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Don’t tell him what it is. Tell him if he wants to do something nice for your bday, he can donate to your favorite charity. He’s trying to manipulate you cause he’s bought into the whole “keep trying until she says yes” nonsense. If you give a millimeter, he’ll take a mile. Edit: also, stop being nice!!! You don’t have to communicate with someone you don’t want to communicate with. Being nice is a trap for women, we’re conditioned from birth that we have to be nice (sometimes our lives depend on…
/r/seduction28/01/21 09:18 PM
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I absolutely love a good dad joke, but I’m a giant weirdo...so...
/r/seduction27/01/21 06:13 PM
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